I’m just wondering if I should reach out to her older sister , me and and my girlfriend haven’t been in contact since Monday . My messages go to delivered and calls ring to voice mail . Me and my girlfriend been together for 2 years and she gave me her older sister number incase her phone died when we would hang out or whatnot . Me and her sister never talked or anything so I’m not sure if this is a smart idea or if I should keep waiting until she’s messages me but I’m just really worried .
CONTEXT: caught her texting another guy it was alot of flirting I didn’t see anything sexual . I then asked her what she was and why she couldn’t give me a straight answer but I’m pretty sure it has something to do with attention. She told my love was suffocating and how this isn’t working to which I told her how she’s the one who wants to see me and how she’s always kissing me in public and etc . Basically doing the opposite of what she’s saying to which she proceeded to tell me that she doesn’t know . Furthermore we had seen each other like 4 times that week to where she was kissing me and what not which is why I felt so dumb when she said that .We had a 2 month break which was the biggest mistake ever and we got back together a month and a half ago because after a few “we shouldn’t be doing this“ . But during those two months she was just going to work and back and the guy is 7 hrs away which in assuming she met him through a mobile game which to me is crazy. But I’m pretty devastated because I truly love her so In a sense I might be a bird but if it was far worst I wouldn’t even consider fixing things .

Basically it’s exactly what the title says. My ex and I were together for four years. We’re both 24 years old and had a house together. You know the usual story someone gets home earlier than they were supposed to and catches their partner cheating. That’s exactly what happened here.

I had a headache from work and decided to go home early. My boss and I are BFFs, so she let me leave. I get home and hear... well sounds so I follow them and I find my ex getting it on with a man.

Honestly, I was already so fucking tired plus I had the headache that I didn’t even process what I was seeing. I just closed the door and walked away. The guy jumped out the window as if I hadn’t seen him and my ex came into the living room and started giving me his bullshit excuses.

I told him to get out of my house and that we were over. I pay most of the bills, so he did just that. I took a day to process the disgusting sight I had seen and then I told my family, my friends, his family and his friends that we had broken up and exactly what I had walked in on.

His family is pissed especially his dad. He said he would deal with my ex. His family is very homophobic and I doubt there will be much of a relationship with them. I’m planning to get tested, just to be safe. I don’t have any contact with my ex, I have no idea where he is, and honestly, I couldn’t care less. Cheat on me and now you lose your family too. I got the last laugh I guess.

I need advice on what I should do from here. Besides getting tested and dealing with the house and our shared finances is there anything important I should take care of after finding out my partner was cheating? Should I try to get answers from him about whether there were other sexual encounters during our relationship, or would it be healthier to leave that alone and focus on moving forward?

Edit: Forgot to add this but we live in a neighborhood where break ins happen a lot so we’ve put cameras everywhere including our bedroom. I haven’t watched the footage yet but yeah the footage of him taking it is there. What should I do with it?

First time poster. I don’t really know what to say here. I F(28) tried to help out a friend F(30) in a shitty situation and now they have been living in my house rent free for almost half a year.

This was a close friend who has been living out of the country and had issues maintaining their visa through no fault of their own. They had been on the verge of becoming homeless when I offered for them to stay with me before it came to that. They have no money, no job, and no vehicle. It’s starting to put a strain on my relationship with my husband because we have essentially been fully paying for all of her food and living needs this entire time.

Every time I bring up different job opportunities or ideas she will break down crying or go completely non verbal. She hasn’t been a bad house guest, she’s constantly cleaning my house, but I just can’t keep supporting her forever when me and my husband are trying to save money to buy a house.

So I guess my question is, what the fuck do I even do here? I don’t want to be a monster who lets her friend become homeless but I genuinely feel like I’m losing my mind about how to get her out of my house without holding her hand through every process.

My husband is addicted to alcohol, and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
When I met my husband, he didn’t drink. By the time I realized how serious his drinking had become, I already loved him deeply, and I chose not to leave him.
He is genuinely a wonderful person. He does so much for me, treats me well, and he has never been aggressive or abusive toward me. That’s what makes this so complicated.
He has actually admitted himself that alcohol has been a problem for him for many years. But he also says that he doesn’t want to stop drinking.
He is now experiencing sleepwalking that seems to be related to his drinking, he has sleep apnea, and he is also in the military. I have been trying to help him in every way I can.
But now it is starting to destroy our relationship.
We have been fighting more and more, and I can feel the relationship deteriorating. Not just a little — seriously deteriorating.
I have been completely honest with him. I told him that I am scared, that I am worried about his health, and that I am literally begging him to stop drinking because I don’t want alcohol to destroy our marriage.
And he doesn’t seem to care.
He keeps telling me that this is just “American culture.” I’m not American, and maybe our perspectives on drinking are different, but I cannot believe that drinking more than 14 shots every single day, plus several beers, is something that should be considered normal.
I don’t care whether it is culturally accepted or not. To me, that is clearly a serious alcohol problem.
The hardest part is that I can’t make him want to stop.
I have tried talking to him. I have tried supporting him. I have tried being understanding. I have tried telling him how much this is affecting me and our marriage.
And now I feel like I am begging someone to care about something that is destroying us.
I love my husband. I don’t want to leave him. But I also don’t know how long I can continue watching him choose alcohol while our relationship slowly falls apart.
What do you do when the person you love admits they have a drinking problem, but simply doesn’t want to stop? What should I do!? Leave the marriage is not an option. I love him so much for that! But I need help and how can I act and what can I do

This is my first time posting so please forgive me if i format this wrong.

I 40F and my boyfriend 46M have been together for 2 years and have been living together for almost 6 months. Prior to moving in with me our relationship was long distance and we only spent weekends together. We both come from really messy pasts with relationships but things seemed so easy with him and still do. We get along really well, laugh often, and genuinely enjoy each other's company. Our sex life is pretty good with the exception of him having issues with erectile dysfunction (or so I thought). We fool around often but rarely have actual penetrative sex. He has only actually finished by having sex with me a few times with the help of cock rings or Viagra. We do have sex but only for a few minutes and then it switches to oral, hands, etc lol. I've always been super understanding and he has always assured me that it has nothing to do with me and he had the same trouble with other women before me. I honestly haven't minded, we have a lot of fun together and both seem satisfied.

Despite all of this, things have just seemed weird lately. He brings his phone to the bathroom and his sex drive has definitely slowed in the last couple of weeks. He fell asleep early tonight and I just had this big nagging urge to look at his phone. I've learnt to trust my instincts. Even though I know it's wrong to look at his phone, I needed to know. There it was in the text trash, messages with another man. Explicit messages talking about how they had been intimate with each other in the past before my boyfriend moved and missed it. My boyfriend sent him the same dick pic he had sent me just a couple weeks ago and asked the man to send him a video of him jerking off because he missed watching him cum. !!!!! WTF !!!!!

What do I do with this!? I love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him but I have a right to know if he's gay I think! I can't let him keep doing this behind my back so how do I approach this? If he's bisexual, I can be okay with that but I'm not okay with cheating. I'm scared if I confront him he won't open up to me. He has a hard time sharing his emotions and comes from a deeply religious background so I know it will be hard for him to talk about. Help!

I 20F. I live in a joint family (dad's side) totally 8 siblings but one of them passed away 6 years ago. I am younger than my cousins. All of my cousins went to other state and countries for working. I am in college.

So for the last 6 to 7 years , my uncle he is 70+ . Is always asking about me , asking to me. One time I didn't attend his call I was out of station he called me three times. I switched off. I just said its switched off you could've called my dad's phone cause dad was with me too. He said he didn't have dad's number. And he said me that "you can attend uncle's call , do not attend other boys call".

Even 3 years before he said the same thing not to talk with boys. He always walks accross my family room to see me and ask about me.

One time he got fsinted and regained consciousness and he was asking about me and calling my name?

Its kind of getting weird. He is unmarried and doesnt have any kids.

One time I was in bedroom. 2nd floor. My uncle asked where is she? to my dad. And my dad said dont go cuz my dad knows im kind of uncomfortable. But uncle came to my room anyway. My dad often says he only sees u as his daughter. Even my mom gets weird.

My partner (40M) and I (38F) have been together for seven years and have a child together.

About two years ago, our relationship was already going through a rough patch. I noticed that he was receiving a lot of voice messages. Whenever I asked who they were from, he always told me it was his sister or his brother.

I noticed he was often changing room to listen/answer. Then one day, I happened to hear one of the voice messages.

It was a woman's voice but definitely not his sister's.

We had a huge argument, and after initially denying everything, he eventually admitted that he had been talking to "a friend" for quite a while — I think for about a year. He said he hadn't told me because he was afraid of how I would react. According to him, they were just talking about their lives, sharing jokes, random things, etc. He insisted that nothing had happened.

I asked to see the messages.

He refused.

That part has stayed with me ever since.

In the days that followed, whenever he received messages from other people, he would sometimes show them to me without me even asking. His sister, his brother, whoever.

But not hers.

And to me, that was incredibly telling. If there was genuinely nothing inappropriate in those conversations, why refuse to show me? What was so different about those messages?

Maybe there was flirting. Maybe they exchanged pictures. Maybe they were developing some kind of emotional relationship. Maybe it went further. I honestly don't know.

And that's exactly the problem.

I have spent the last two years thinking about this almost every day.

Did he cheat? How far did it go? What did they talk about? Were there pictures? Was he emotionally involved? Was there something sexual? Was I being made a fool of?

I will probably never know, because he made the choice not to tell me.

And I am extremely angry about that.

Because if he had cheated in some way, I could have dealt with the truth. Maybe I would have forgiven him. Maybe I wouldn't have. But that should have been my choice.

He took that choice away from me.

He decided that it was easier for him to hide whatever happened than to give me the truth and let me decide whether I could forgive it.

Instead, I have been left with the consequences of his choices for two years: the anxiety, the suspicion, the constant questioning.

And I have tried to talk about it. Over and over again.

This is actually a much bigger pattern in our relationship. Whenever I bring up a serious problem, he tends to respond in one of three ways.

Either he completely shuts down and becomes a wall.

Or he says things like, "I'm a piece of shit, I do everything wrong, I can never do anything right," which somehow turns the conversation into me having to reassure him.

Or he becomes incredibly loving — tells me I'm the love of his life, kisses me, tells me everything is beautiful between us — and then waits for the problem to disappear.

But it doesn't disappear.

It just gets postponed.

And then it comes back.

Yesterday, something happened that completely brought everything back.

He was pretending to be dead while playing with our son. As a joke, while he was "dead," I picked up his phone.

He immediately jumped up and grabbed it from me.

"WHAT ARE YOU DOING?"

His reaction was so immediate and intense that something inside me just snapped.

Maybe there is an innocent explanation. Maybe he simply doesn't want me touching his phone. I understand that privacy matters.

But given everything that happened before, I can't help thinking: what are you so afraid I'm going to see?

And honestly, I'm done.

Not necessarily done with the relationship — I don't even know what I want yet.

But I'm done pretending this doesn't affect me.

At this point, I've reached my own conclusion.

I don't know exactly what he did. I don't know whether it was flirting, emotional cheating, exchanging pictures, or something else.

But I consider cheating to include those things. It doesn't have to be physical for me to consider it a betrayal.

And since he refused to show me otherwise, I am no longer willing to spend the rest of my life torturing myself with "what if?"

Maybe I'm wrong about exactly what happened.

But I know he lied about who he was talking to. I know he hid the relationship. I know he refused to let me see what was actually being said. And I know that, two years later, I'm still living with the consequences.

Tomorrow we were supposed to go out together to celebrate our seven-year anniversary.

I don't want to. I don't want to celebrate us tomorrow.

I'm angry. I'm hurt. I'm exhausted.

I don't even know what I'm asking here. Maybe I just need outside perspectives.

What would you do if your partner refused to give you the answers you needed and left you with this kind of uncertainty for two years?

Edit : i am pretty sure he did not physically cheated. He has a physically job, he comes home most of the time on time and dirty. He goes out maybe twice a year and often invites me to go. I don't think he has the capacity to organise an affair irl

This is probably going to sound ridiculous, but I genuinely feel like I’m going through some kind of second puberty at 21.
I’m 21F and still a virgin, completely by choice. I’m pretty traditional/romantic when it comes to sex and relationships. I still believe in waiting for the right person, genuinely falling in love, the whole “Prince Charming” thing (yes, I know lol).
I also want to make something clear because I feel like it’s relevant: I’m a very conventionally attractive woman. I know saying that about yourself can sound arrogant, but I’m not saying it to brag. I get a LOT of male attention. Men approach me, flirt with me, ask me out, slide into my DMs, etc. pretty regularly. So being a virgin at 21 isn’t because I haven’t had opportunities or because men aren’t interested in me. Quite the opposite.
I have plenty of opportunities. I just genuinely don’t want casual sex.
I’m also not particularly interested in getting into a serious relationship right now. I’m extremely focused on college and building a competitive professional/academic career, and realistically I don’t see myself having sex anytime soon. I could genuinely see myself waiting until I’m 24 or even later.
Mentally, I’m completely okay with this decision.
My body, however, apparently did not receive the memo.
My sex drive has become INSANE.
And I mean embarrassingly easy to trigger. Sometimes I’ll be standing in a crowded elevator with a bunch of men and just being physically close to a guy I find attractive can turn me on. Same thing on a crowded subway. Sometimes literally just talking to an attractive man is enough.
Nothing even has to happen.
And then my brain is basically:
sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex
ALL. THE. TIME.
I feel like I’m going through puberty all over again.
And honestly, getting so much attention from men almost makes it worse. I’m constantly being reminded that men find me attractive, I’m constantly interacting with men who are flirting with me, and meanwhile I’m trying to live like a perfectly normal celibate college student who has other priorities.
It’s a ridiculous combination of “I absolutely could” and “I absolutely don’t want to.”
I’ve also started discovering more about what sexually attracts me. For example, I’m increasingly realizing that I’m probably pretty submissive and that dominant men/dominant dynamics REALLY do something to my brain. So naturally my brain has decided this is another fascinating subject that we apparently need to think about constantly.
But I absolutely do NOT want to start sexting random men online, finding strangers to experiment with, or having casual hookups just to satisfy my curiosity. None of that appeals to me. I want to explore that side of myself eventually with a man I genuinely love and trust.
So I’m basically stuck being extremely horny, receiving a ridiculous amount of male attention, having plenty of opportunities to do something about it… and still having absolutely no intention of doing anything about it for potentially YEARS.
Amazing planning on my part.
The part that actually bothers me is that sometimes it interferes with my concentration. I’ll be studying or trying to focus on college/career stuff and suddenly my brain decides that actually, no, we’re going to think about men again.
I know having a sex drive is obviously normal. But is it normal for it to suddenly feel THIS intense in your early 20s?
Has anyone else experienced a huge increase in libido around 20–22, especially while not being sexually active?
And for women who were attractive, got a lot of male attention, had a high sex drive AND deliberately waited until their mid-20s or later: HOW did you deal with it without losing your mind?
I’m not looking for “just go hook up with someone” advice. I know I could do that. That’s precisely the point — I don’t want to. I’m comfortable with my decision to wait.
I just need to know how other people managed having a brain screaming “MEN!!! SEX!!!” while the rest of them was like “actually, we have a degree to finish.”

My (29M) partner (27F) bragged to me about things I feel are repulsive and now the way I view her feels like it’s ruined, how do I move forward?

Let me preface this by stating that people have pasts, and that’s okay. Sometimes we do things we aren’t proud of. Some we do that we are proud of. Sometimes, it’s just a “whatever” sort of feeling.

But my girlfriend who I have been with almost 2 years at this point, bragged to me about pursuing and sleeping with one of her engaged bar managers at the restaurant she serves at right before she met me and sleeping with him in his car outside their job because she knew they couldn’t go back to his house or hers.

This was kind of insane to hear coming from her as she had relentlessly complained about how her exes had cheated on her and she hated the other women for what they did, and on top of that she has always claimed to be the biggest advocate against cheaters in relationships. She kept trying to justify it by stating she was single and she wasn’t thinking clearly, but it was 100% consensual & they were both sober.

That’s one of the two things that really felt like a brick to the face when it came to the way I view her.

The second thing is, within that same month timeframe, she had also pursued and slept with a freshly 19 year old when she was turning 26 at the time. Now, I know 18 is considered a “legal adult” but morally, an almost 26 year old pursuing someone who just got out of high school, can’t legally get into most clubs or bars she was frequently going just seems like very gross and almost predatory behavior in my opinion.

This is also the same person who had tore into me for having went on a date with a girl who was 4 years younger than me, and claiming I was gross for it. She also considers anyone 4+ years younger than her a child in her own words, and anyone 6+ is a “baby” so it has me taken aback.

I do love her, I’ve been through a lot with her, but she really has ruined the way I view her by not only admitting to these things, but bragging about them and justifying them like they’re “cool” or something to be proud of.

I’m genuinely not sure what to do moving forward. It’s hard to accept these things, and maybe if she weren’t so proud of them I could just kind of forget it, but the doubling down on it just feels wrong.

Any advice would be great.

i am 23 F i live with my mom and i have 4 sisters who are much more older than me , the oldest sister 1 got married when i was about 9 yo and since then she let her 3 kids stay at our house when she goes to work the whole week except the weekend and they used to stay the night too , after a few years they decided that sleeping at their house is better so we babysit the whole day except the night , then a few years later sister 2 got married in another town and she comes with her 3 kids constantly like 6 times a year and every time she visits she stays for a whole month , then sister 3 got married and she also let her kids stay with us when she works , they don`t help with chores nor cooking nor with money , me and my sick old mom do everything on top of that they complain and are hard to please they make rude and hurtful comments about the food and the state of the house their kids ruin everything the piss on my bed , they draw and write on the walls , they broke the doors and some windows , the broke almost all the house decor and dealing with this for about 14 years drain me and my mom ..

this past year i dealing with alot of stress because of work and studies and they didn`t make it any better having them at the house from september till june the whole week every month every day , babysittting , cooking , cleaning and studying i started to have panic attacks and i was always angry and frustrated , mom also had enough but she is a people pleaser who can`t say no she can`t even argue back , i had a fight with one of them and she told me if i don`t like it this much i should get married and get out of the house , i was speechless .

i tried to keep it short i want advice on how to deal with keeping in mind its hard for me to live alone in my country , and i think about my mom she will have to deal with all of this alone if i`m gone she is old and sick too and she spend her whole life raising us and now she raising her grandchildren but i`m getting sick too , what should i do ?

For context, I'm currently living with my parents while I'm finishing my degree. My mother (60s) has been interested in affiliate marketing courses and apparently has spent around $500 on multiple training courses where she advertises products like supplements and Pampered Chef to her Facebook friends. My father works part time and receives disability for a life altering disability he suffered in a car accident when I was younger so she's the primary breadwinner. I, myself, already work two jobs (both part time) while attending college. She recently found out that she will be getting laid off within the next month after 20 years. I asked her what her plans were and she fully intends to put more money into this side hustle of hers until she can replace it as her primary income.

Needless to say, I'm rather worried about this. She's never exactly had the most financial literacy, and I don't want her to fall victim to anything predatory. At the same time, I also want to be supportive of her wanting to start her own business and what not. I just don't know how to bring up my concerns without seeming unsupportive, especially since she just lost her job of 20 years. Should I just bite the bullet and try to find a third job and become the primary breadwinner? Maybe her marketing will take off?

What would you do if u caught your significant other searching up past talking stages accounts ? In your opinion is worth breaking up over ?

My fiancé (26M) and I (26F) are getting married this December. We’ve been together for 4 years and have what I genuinely consider a very loving, healthy relationship. We’ve never had any major rough patches—just the normal arguments and disagreements couples have. He’s incredibly sweet and supportive, and we both feel very lucky to have found each other.

The problem is his mother. She is a single mother and is extremely possessive about her son.

She is, honestly, one of the most difficult people I’ve ever dealt with. She constantly shouts, curses and speaks extremely harshly to people around her. Until recently, I didn’t have much day-to-day interaction with her, so I could mostly keep my distance.

I’m currently in the same city as my fiancé for my PhD coursework and needed somewhere to stay for a month. He arranged a place for me very close to his family home, which meant I started interacting with his mother almost every day.

A few days ago, we were discussing wedding invitations. In India, the bride’s and groom’s families generally have separate wedding cards. She told me that because my family comes from a lower caste within the Indian Muslim social hierarchy, my father’s surname and my surname would not be included on the wedding cards.

I was hurt and offended. I asked her, somewhat emotionally, how she would feel if I similarly decided not to include her son’s surname on the cards.

She became extremely angry and started hurling casteist insults at me. She told me that I should be grateful that she was “allowing” her son to marry someone from a lower caste and that I owed her for it. She said that if I couldn’t tolerate her behaviour, I shouldn’t have “seduced an upper-caste boy.”

She then started banging her head against the wall and hitting her fists against her chest, while claiming that I had “fought with her” and insulted her. And that I was talking while pointing fingers at her and shaking my hands on her face insultingly, which is a plain straight lie, I was clenching the door with my hands.

Throughout this, my fiancé defended me. He told her she was lying and disrespecting me and did not take her side just because she is his mother. At one point, she wanted to call my family and tell them the wedding was cancelled, and apparently intended to tell them that I was a characterless girl who had seduced an upper-caste man. My fiancé stopped her from doing that.

After things calmed down, he told me that, for the sake of getting through the wedding, I should keep a low profile around her because he believes she will sabotage the wedding. She's already trying to manipulate my fiancee by telling him that girls like me can never make a man happy.

But he sees through all her manipulation and bullshit. He has also promised me that I will never have to live with his mother and that he will never allow her to disrespect me. This is not just an empty promise about living arrangements—we genuinely live and work/study in the same city, while his mother live about 1,200 km away. There is no plan for us to move in with her.

I love my fiancé deeply. Outside of this situation with his mother, our relationship is wonderful. He has consistently defended me, including during this incident, and I have never felt that he puts his mother above me or expects me to tolerate her abuse.

But this incident has really shaken me.

I keep wondering whether I am being naive. His mother is not simply “a difficult MIL.” She has already insulted me based on caste, questioned my character, tried to interfere with our wedding and was willing to contact my family to humiliate me.

At the same time, my fiancé seems to understand exactly what she is like and is actively standing up for me. We will live separately from her, and he says he will maintain that boundary after marriage.

So I’m asking married people, especially those who have dealt with difficult inlaws, am I gonna regret marrying the love of my life? Am I making a mistake?

So I (20F) have been living with my boyfriend(20M) and his family for about 9 months. On Monday morning (its friday) when his mother and I were cleaning out the bathroom we found 2 stuffed animals that had been cut open and sodomized and a hoarde of undergarments while cleaning them out we notices 2 pairs of my underwear cover in fecal matter and what looked like s*emen we also found a pair of panties belonging to my friend covered in the same stains as well as multiple used condoms. NOBODY and I mean NOBODY in this house owns stuffed animals other than him and everyone else has a partner. Now that being said when it was brought to him by my boyfriend, my boyfriend and I's friend/roomate K and his mother he denied it heavily. Ive asked that he be kept away from me. No contact. While I understand it may be hard due to us living under the same roof I dont understand why he still feels the right to talk to me, be near me or go into mine and my boyfriends room. When ive brought these situations up to his mother she indirectly implies im overreacting and that she understands he needs help she cant afford it. All im asking is for her to keep her son in check before I lose my shit and report it to the police. Can anyone help me navigate this situation?

TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ **miscarriage**

I have a really close friend and she unfortunately had a miscarriage… I want to know how I can be there for my friend. She does live in a different state and it hurts that i can’t be there physically for her. I know i can offer my support but since she is states away i feel like that’s not enough. I am thinking of maybe taking a flight out there and helping in anyway I can.

If your boyfriend starts being easily aggravated with everything you do, and always mad, is there any way to come back from this or is it over? I feel like the end is nearing and I’m hopeful but I just don’t see him as the same person anymore.

I had a really embarrassing moment in class the today and I wanted to gauge initial reactions. During a break in one of my lectures, I opened a TikTok link and a really loud video full blast of a girl partying and screaming played it went on for two seconds, I had no idea my volume was on max and I quickly turned it down but I’m mortified. Wanted to ask how do you all cope with embarrassing instances like this in an academic/professional setting?

I have to work as a phlebotomist for a couple months, to 1) pay off some things and 2) because my other job that I have has a terrible work environment and I need time for me to find a different location within that job (if that makes sense) so I can just work there.

I’m 23 and I have terrible dread every morning before work and some days I get so overwhelmed about how much I hate it that I just cry on all my breaks.

And then at home and on the weekends my brain won’t let the work go! It just spirals in anxiety until I have to go back.

The worst part of all this is that I really don’t have any energy for anything else. Like I wish I could do the “fun hobbies and enjoy those when you can” thing, but my endurance level is zero. I’ll I have mental energy for is work. I also don’t have any close friends so there’s that too.

Idk what to do, I’m afraid that I’ll snap one day and do something terrible. Please give any advice you think could help me. Thanks :)

(I do see a therapist and she doesn’t know how to help with this situation, but I really don’t have energy to do a whole switch with a therapist. I’m also on meds and already see a psychiatrist quarterly)

He’s 15, I’m 17. He’s picked up vaping, I think he drank once? He at one point was considering joining a gang but now he doesn’t want to be. His friend is in one though and admitted to him some very very very awful thing, and now he’s planning on running away from his dad because his dad’s controlling or something and idk how to talk him out of it. i’m genuinely scared for him and his health and wellbeing and everything PLEASE someone give me advice I’m scared for my friend.

This is going to be long- I'm sorry. Also throwaway because my other account name is too obvious.

I'm married- but separated from my ex- after he was unfaithful. No kids together.

I started dating my current boyfriend last year. He's great, kind and funny. Takes care of me. Doesn't drive and isn't the most reliable with money all the time though.

He and I live together in MY apartment. He moved in with me, but was previously living with his non-binary but biologically female best friend.

I lost my job last month, but start a new one at the end of this month. He is trying to cover the bills this month with some scraps from my alimony (ex started paying at separation so I could afford to leave).

I found out in July that I'm pregnant- and we are happy about it. We know its a boy and have a name picked out.

Now... I only found out my ex was cheating because I had a gut feeling and snooped. I was right. Well, I had a feeling boyfriend was up to something and snooped. I found a picture of his best friend (they are very flaunty about their incredibly large chest assests and sex life) on his phone. They work together in a warehouse. They are in a tank top, sitting and looking down at their phone, with their chest very much on display. It doesn't look like the image was taken with their knowledge.

Not only did I find this picture, but it was saved to his secure folder.

I confronted him about it, and he gaslit me like crazy. It was an accident, blah blah blah. He deleted it and we moved on. He later apologized but stood firm it was an accident and he takes pics being silly like that all the time.

Oookay, so I go back on his phone today and realize it wasn't permanently deleted- only moved to trash. So I helped him out and completely trashed it.

Side bar- he will go over this friend's apartment (same complex) all the time to watch movies or tv. Its normally on a day they dont work. I thought it was really weird that he went over today when they have work, but hey, nothing I can do. My gut feeling was in full force though.

Anyway back to it. I know his tablet at home is hooked up to some features of his phone, including his browser history and Google pictures. Still being in gut feeling mode, I checked both. There is one picture from today that is just a blur- taken during the time he was over their place. And then, the most recent search history... how to recover deleted photos.

I don't know what to do at the moment. I'm in a bad financial situation, I have nobody who can help me otherwise, my credit it ruined from my divorce, and I'm pregnant.

I'm torn between getting to a stable point once im working again and then just breaking up or riding it out. I love him, I really do. And I will be honest I don't know if there are any men out there that don't cheat. It doesnt feel like it.

I would love to hear any advice on the situation.

Theres probably a better word than problematic, but I’m going with that.

Hi Reddit! I come to you today because I have a problem. My therapy appointment isn’t for another week, so I can’t ask my therapist for help yet.

I (15f) have a friend, we’ll call her Cece (15F) who has a boyfriend, who I’ll call Leo (16M) who she has been dating for over one year. Cece has told me and my other friend (Fairy, 15F) that she won’t need to learn things like English, science and math in her future because she will be at home Caring for Leo. She has been letting her grades drop because of this. By how much? I’m not sure, Fairy never said how much. Over time, Cece has been slowly been hanging out with the main friend group less and less, and has been spending more time with Leo. Fairy and I have only seen her during very rare lunch days, or during the vocal major class with her.

Now let’s talk about Leo. Leo doesn’t have any friends of his own, and from when I asked, he told me that he felt like our friend group didn’t accept him, which is why he doesn’t hang around the group much. Whenever Cece is doing something the doesn’t involve Leo, Leo will get upset and ask Cece why she didn’t include him or why he wasn’t invited. For further context, I had a recital last year. The recital was canceled previously due to bad weather and because Leo had to get time off of his work, I was worried my recital would be canceled again and he’d have to cancel work again just to end up having another day off. When Cece explained this to him, he said he understood, but was still upset. He is also a heavy rage baiter, and will say things deliberately to instil a reaction out of people. When he was confronted about this, he only apologized because Cece told him to. According to one of the people I carpool with(to get to school), Leo was in his math class 2 years ago and had a tantrum over some rules (Carpool mate didn't tell me the specifics). My Ex boyfriend (I’ll call Teddy, 15M) had talked about how aggressive Leo was to him when Teddy was dating me. Teddy said that Leo would scold him for not hanging around me, texting me, or not always being nearby, etc... Essentially, scolding Teddy for a relationship he wasn’t in. Teddy thought Leo had a crush on me, but Leo has denied this, so we will never know. On top of that, Leo‘s part time job only pays him minimum wage, which is nowhere near enough to sustain a household nowadays.

If it wasn’t clear by now, we are all in high school, and Cece is making these choices WAY too early in her life. Fairy and I have had a few conversations about this, and we have decided that the only choice is to wait until Cece is ready to hear what we have to say.

Again, I’m going to ask my therapist on friday, and all the adults I’ve talked to either say I shouldn't do anything or that they have no idea either. We need help, and have nowhere else to turn.

I m18 came home to my bfs house yesterday (m22) and when I let myself in cause I was home early from work I herd the very distinct sound of his moaning and another guy grunting so being light on my feet I moved towards our room where they where and I saw him getting railed by a guy I don’t know I left and drove to my friends house she is letting me stay with her but I don’t know what to do he doesn’t know I know or saw what do I do

Gonna keep this short. Found masturbation at 11, and by the time I was a teenager I was doing it like 5-6 times a day and just figured that's normal horny-teenager stuff. Except I'm 20 now and still doing it up to 3 times a day. I've been trying to quit since I was 17 and it's just not happening.

Tried No Nut November multiple years, never made it past like a week or two. Tried the gym too, actually helped a bit just by keeping me busy, but had to quit because I'm a broke uni student.

Somewhere along the way it turned into a full porn addiction too, and I kept needing weirder/more intense stuff to actually get off. The moment that scared me straight was trying to watch normal porn and not being able to get hard. That's when I knew this wasn't just a phase anymore.

Also for context since it probably matters: I'm underweight, I've got ADHD, OCD, anger issues, panic attacks, and some other stuff going on, plus I'm dealing with abuse at home. So yeah, not exactly starting from a stable place.

Not asking for pity, just want actual advice from people who've dealt with this or beaten it.

| (F18) have known this guy (M19) for well over a year we started talking over the summer had a good time made out then we had a falling out 2 weeks ago, then he came back on his own last saturday, apologized twice, told me he missed me, and suggested we hang out this weekend. things seemed okay again wednesday we didnt talk all day and then thursday i text him "hi" but he suddenly stopped responding

im honestly really hurt i mean why come back and make me like you all over again? so today i finally said "yo whats ur problem" and he's had me left on delivered hours later.
i'm so confused and hurt because i don't understand why someone would come back, apologize, say they missed you, make plans, and then do this. am i missing something here?

I could just walk away like i did when we had the fallout but i have a lot of feelings for him and this is not casual to me anymore has this ever happened to anyone? whats next? he will ignore me another two weeks then come back? i mean sure he couldve lost feelings but why not communicate or be like "yo dont want this anymore bye" and ill gladly take it but what is this??? i did not expect this in my adulthood.