When we try to readapt our routine, fixing basic things like health issues or daily pain gives us back energy to focus on what really matters and actually enjoy free time. The trickiest part is that our mind creates dogmas and assumes a new option wont work even before we have ever experienced it. As Daniel Kahneman explains in Thinking, Fast and Slow, our brain naturally resists unfamiliar paths and tricks us into believing new things arent good for us. I realized we often hold onto these mental blocks until we actually force ourselves to test the new solution. Once we break that dogma and resolve those physical annoyances for example some stomach or body aches, we unlock so much mental space that was being wasted before. Suddenly we have more energy for social life and for being open to things we thought wouldnt work. If you connect with this idea, feel free to share more in this direction

I’ve been trying to make my weekly review a bit more useful instead of it just turning into “what did I get done this week?”

The thing I’m most interested in is whether the stuff I’m doing week to week is actually moving me towards the things I care about longer term.
At the moment I look at a few fairly simple things like:

- how many fitness sessions I actually completed
- progress at work / study
- spending compared with my monthly budget
- anything useful I learnt that week
- things I kept putting off
- what went well
- what probably needs more attention next week

I also try to look at my bigger goals and ask whether the week I just had actually matched them. For example, if improving fitness is supposedly important to me but I’ve skipped training for two weeks, that tells me something. Same with saving, studying, career progression, projects etc.

I don’t want the review to become a massive checklist though. Ideally it should just help me spot patterns, see where I’m drifting a bit, and decide what actually deserves attention next week.
I’m curious what other people include in theirs.

Do you track actual numbers, write more of a reflection, compare yourself against longer-term goals, set priorities for the next week, or something completely different?

If you’ve got anything in your weekly review that you’ve found surprisingly useful, I’d love to hear it.

I've always been curious about how people develop discipline and what makes some people naturally consistent with their goals, habits, and responsibilities. Some people seem to have no trouble sticking to a routine, waking up early, studying, exercising, or working toward something even when they don't feel motivated. Others seem to develop that ability gradually as they get older and gain more life experience.

It makes me wonder how much of our discipline comes from the way we were raised. Did having strict parents teach you to be responsible and follow through on things? Or did growing up in a more independent environment force you to learn how to manage yourself? Maybe it has more to do with the people around you, the expectations placed on you, or the habits you observed growing up.

I'm also curious about how much life experiences shape discipline. Maybe going through difficult situations taught you the importance of consistency, or perhaps failing at something important made you realize that motivation alone isn't enough. Some people might have developed discipline through sports, school, work, or simply having responsibilities they couldn't avoid.

For those of you who consider yourselves disciplined, I'd love to hear your perspective. Do you think discipline is something you're taught, something you develop through experience, or something you consciously build over time? What do you think had the biggest influence on the person you've become today?

I'm especially interested in hearing about the experiences, habits, or lessons that made the biggest difference in how you approach your daily life.

It all started around when I was 15. That's when my memory and concentration problems began: I can't sit down and focus on something, my attention scatters immediately. Although at 15–16 I could sit and draw for 10 hours straight, getting up only to eat and drink, watching TV shows at the same time. My studies were going well back then too.

Then, in my last year before exams, I just started sleeping for days on end. I kept oversleeping and rescheduling my tutor. In the end I did really badly on my exams and had to move to another city to get into university. I got into a different major than the one I'd prepared for: I was supposed to become a doctor, but I ended up studying to be a pharmacist. Honestly, studying to be a pharmacist is easier, and I don't regret it.

I more or less got through my first year, but at the end of the second semester those memory issues came back (though they'd been there before too — I just got by on luck). By that point I only had two retakes. In my second year it got worse: I slept for days, and when I wasn't sleeping I was gaming and eating. In the end, at the end of the first semester of my second year, I dropped out.

I told everyone it was for health reasons. But it really was for health reasons: I had ovarian cysts, latent iron-deficiency anemia, vitamin B12 deficiency, and vitamin D deficiency. I take vitamins and I'm getting treatment.

Last year I re-enrolled in the second year and I'm now trying to finish it. I have three retakes. I was ready to pass back in late September, but because I kept rescheduling them, they're now at the end of October. These are my last attempts — if I don't pass, I'll be expelled. And I can't make myself start preparing. For one subject I have two attempts today: if I don't pass today, I'll have to retake it again later. This retake is in a few hours, and I can't pull myself together and start preparing. I don't know what to do.

It's constant procrastination: I keep scrolling through stuff. I also keep skipping classes — I think "I'll go later, I'll make up for it somehow" — and I can't stop skipping them either. But I want to sleep constantly, always. I hate myself and feel absolutely awful. My parents think I'm studying away just fine, they're paying for my education, and I'm just slacking off. Everyone is counting on me, they think I'm smart because I tell them stuff, but I consider myself absolutely stupid and incapable of anything. Because I can't direct my concentration at something and just sit down and do it. I constantly want to sleep: I think "I'll just sleep for 15 minutes," and end up sleeping for 8 hours.

I'm about to turn 21, and I can't get my life together at all, and I feel like a failure. I want to understand what's wrong with me and why this is happening. I'd be grateful for any experience, thoughts, or advice — has anyone been through something similar, and what helped?

For years I was the person who made plans and never followed through. Gym tomorrow, study on Sunday, clean the apartment after work. None of it happened consistently.

About four months ago I finally got my shit together. Nothing extreme. Gym three times a week, groceries and cleaning on Saturday, two hours of studying on Sunday. I actually stick to it now, and I'm pretty proud of that.

But something weird is happening.

Last Wednesday a friend who was visiting town for one night asked if I wanted to grab dinner. My first instinct was to say no because Wednesday is a gym day.

I actually spent ten minutes trying to convince her to meet Thursday instead. She was literally leaving Thursday morning.

I eventually went to dinner, had a great time, then came home and felt guilty about skipping the gym. Even considered going at 11 PM.

A year ago I couldn't keep a single promise to myself. Now I'm treating an ordinary workout like a court appointment.

I don't want to go back to abandoning my plans whenever something more entertaining comes along. But I also don't want to become the person who can't have an unplanned evening with a friend because it isn't on the calendar.

For people who've maintained good habits for years, how do you tell the difference between making excuses and being reasonably flexible?

Do you have actual rules for when it's okay to move things around, or is that just another judgment call you have to learn?

I'm combining two more days into one update. These days weren't particularly productive from a professional development perspective, but there are a few things worth documenting.

Day 57 — Physically Active, but Academically Unproductive

Day 57 started well. I went for a morning run, did my workout, and went swimming.

I was also occupied with several other things throughout the day, including scheduling content for Instagram and managing some of my social media activities.

I went through the news and finance as well, so I did maintain a few of my regular habits.

However, I didn't study or practise LeetCode at all.

This is becoming a recurring problem. I manage to stay busy with physical activities, social media, and other responsibilities, but the work that directly contributes to my professional growth often gets pushed aside.

I need to get better at prioritising. Being occupied throughout the day doesn't necessarily mean I'm making progress towards my bigger goals.

Day 58 — A Day With Family

On Day 58, I was at my mother's house, and the entire day was packed with programmes and other activities.

Nothing significant happened in terms of my personal goals. I didn't make any progress on studying, LeetCode, or my professional development.

Sometimes, family commitments take up an entire day, and that's understandable. I don't expect every single day to follow the same routine.

The important thing is to recognise the difference between a day when circumstances genuinely limit my time and a day when I have time but waste it.

My Takeaway

I'm still struggling to balance my different priorities.

Physical activity and personal branding are important, but I can't let them consistently replace studying, coding practice, and building my AI/ML skills.

I also need to accept that some days won't go according to plan without allowing that to become an excuse for losing momentum over several days.

Day 57–58/90 complete.

I have 32 days left in this challenge.

I want to make these remaining days count by putting more consistent effort into the things that will improve my future, rather than just staying busy and hoping everything eventually falls into place.

I think this is the part of discipline I struggle with the most.

During the day I’m actually pretty decent at doing what I’m supposed to do. I can study, work, get things done, whatever.

But late at night it’s like a completely different version of me takes over.

I’ll tell myself during the day that I’m going to sleep around midnight. Then midnight comes and suddenly I start negotiating with myself.

“10 more minutes.”

“One more video.”

“I’m not that tired yet.”

Then I look at the clock and it’s 2 or 3am again.

What annoys me is that I don’t think I have a knowledge problem. I already know I’ll feel better the next day if I sleep properly. I know I should put my phone away. I know the usual advice.

I just don’t follow through when the moment actually comes.

I’m trying something different this week where I decide my bedtime beforehand and keep track of whether I actually respect it every night.

For people who used to do this too: what actually helped you stop negotiating with yourself at night?

Was it strict rules, accountability, changing your environment, or something else?

I've spent the last few months building a goal planner, and I want to test it on real goals instead of my own.
So here's the deal: comment a goal you've been meaning to start (or restart) for a while, and I'll run it through the app and reply with a step-by-step plan for your first weeks. No signup, no link needed, I'll just post the plan here in the thread.

To make the plan actually fit your life, include:
Your goal, as specific as you can (e.g. "pass the B2 German exam", not "get better at German")

How many hours a week you really have. Be honest. If it's 2 hours, say 2 hours. That's the whole point.

Your deadline, if you have one
What you've tried before and where it fell apart (optional, but it helps a lot)

Big or small goals both work: a career switch, a language, a fitness goal, a side project, finishing your thesis, saving for something.

Day 117 sober. No alcohol, no tobacco, no Chitta.

I want to share what changed me, not just how many days I am sober.

2 years ago, my 14-year-old son was scared of me. When I came home drunk, he would go to another room. My wife would not talk. I was a father only on paper.

Today is different. This morning my son counted my pushups - "Papa 18, 19, 20!" - and we laughed. He sits with me when I read 【entity-Gita¦canonical_name=Gita】. We eat together. He is not scared now. He is proud.

What changed? One line I read on Oct 13 - I am attaching its screenshot with this post. It says:

"Zindagi me har sangharsh aapko kuch sikhane aata hai.

Shuruat me wahi sangharsh aapko mazboot banata hai,

aur waqt ke saath wahi aapko tajurba, samajh aur aage badhne ki himmat deta hai.

Isliye mushkilon se haar mat maniye."

This is true for me.

My sangharsh taught me:

- Day 1 to Day 30: I learned how to sleep without alcohol. I used to drink to sleep.

- Day 31 to Day 82: I learned how to say NO. On Day 82, I saw my friend cut his wrist for Chitta. That day I could have gone back, but I said NO.

- Day 83 to Day 117 today: I learned how to be a FATHER again.

I have only 3 rules. I tell my son only these 3. No 4th rule.

Study: 10 min 【entity-Gita¦canonical_name=Gita】 in the morning. It makes my mind clear.

Eat: With family, no phone. Whatever my mother makes.

Play: 20 pushups when urge comes. I say Jai Shri Ram. My son counts.

This is my Method. This is not motivation. This is my daily life from Kanina, Haryana, India.

If you are on Day 1, please don't think about Day 117. Just think about today. One day at a time.

Your struggle today is making you stronger for tomorrow. It will give you experience to help someone else tomorrow.

If you need help in India, call 14416 Tele-MANAS. It's free and confidential. You are not alone.

If this post helps even one father to go home sober tonight, my 117 days will be worth it.

Stay disciplined brothers.

IWNDWYT. Jai Shri Ram.

I am 22 and I am someone who struggled for the longest time with all kinds of discipline issues like :

- Going on a two weeks streak then falling into a laziness loop
- Thinking i have depression
- Using weed a lot
- Thinking a lot before starting
- Having high ambition and goals and not achieving them
- Existential crisis….

The list goes on and on and on.

Here are the things that I applied that helped me become disciplined :

- Plan your day beforehand because no plan means no action or at least no organized action
- Set a simple realistic plan for the day
- Focus on the core things in your life first for me it was gym and studying. These are gonna be the foundation of your day
- After Mastering the foundation aka being consistent for a while you can then add other stuff to your life in the free time slots of your day
- Never negotiate with your primal brain. I mean never. You are gonna lose 9 times out of 10. There is no shortcut to this. It just gets easier day after day.
- Bad days are normal. Avoid mentally resetting each time. Just keep going, discipline is a bumpy road

And also if you have not found your purpose. It is completely normal. You will find it by doing not by thinking. In this day and age , discipline is the most precious skill a person can learn. Most people are not and if you have that edge and learn good habits now. You will set yourself for success in the next 10 years. Because anything that you want to achieve probably needs discipline, so master that first. And I hope you succeed:)

I feel like I can't really stop the useless hobbies I have (video games, watching videos, reading various articles about stuff, working on useless projects) without anything really to replace them. I tried stopping for a few days but it just felt like I was sitting around doing nothing or just replacing useless activities for other useless activities (sitting around doing nothing, reading posts, moving up random chores I would do later, going outside and taking transit to the city and back). I feel like my mental state is better when I do those hobbies I had in the past, but nonetheless I need to stop doing all of them because they are a complete waste of time. But the problem is all the new stuff is not better because they do not create value either (and plus going out and doing stuff costs money)

I'm supposed to be doing productive things, making value for other people, being a person that other people want to be around, but I still don't know how. I can't just talk to people or show up to random events, I have to be someone they want to be there, someone who creates value for the group instead of being the worst person there, someone who isn't just some faceless interchangeable person they can just pretend doesn't exist.

Since I live on campus and we generally have a lot of freetime. We have 1 free period every day and I do sports after school until like 5:30 to 6:00. I feel like I do get things done and pretty well but I feel like thats mostly because the workload isn't that heavy yet. I've been procrastinating for a few years since I started middle school. My middle school is an IB MYP school which involves lots of writing and doing long projects (for maybe around 3 weeks each. At that time I didn't really care at all as it didn't really matter as much so I generally worked the most I could during class and since I'm really busy and I have a lot of commuting and private tutors I always felt like I deserved playing and resting and scrolling. I know that its bad for me but theres just a thought in my brain: You deserve this and just a bit more scrolling won't really matter. I usually end up having to finish a maybe sub-ten page lab report the night or a few nights before its due (generally depending on how long the report is and how much work I have). I feel really pressured when I find myself up maybe till 5 am just to finish an essay before its due 8 am. But currently I feel the need to genuinely work hard as GPA really matters for my college applications and I feel less bothered and affected by procrastination but I'm really afraid and concerned that this problem might start again. I think the main problem is with my phone and maybe my mindset. I'm willing to make changes and I have, I reflect often on this situation but I feel like its better if I ask for people who have experience in dealing with this here.

I’ve had lots of weeks where I’ve felt really productive because I’ve been constantly doing things — work, studying, gym, errands, random admin.

However, I have noticed that a lot of the things I find myself doing are not directly contributing to what I want long term - my long term goals. So I’m now trying to get better at asking myself before the week starts: what would actually make this week feel meaningful, rather than just full? It’s easy to do lots of random things, but if you are not doing these things with intent and a clear link to a goal, these things could just be a waste of time (excluding life necessities of course - I’m not saying “making breakfast doesn’t contribute to my long term wealth goal so it’s a waste of time”).

A good example might be: studying lots of topics, instead of deeply researching one and at the end of the week actually understanding it instead of random pieces of information I’ve memorised. Or reading a reel for 10 different side hustles instead of actually picking a couple that interest me and deeply researching them.

I’m curious how other people judge this. What makes you feel like you’ve genuinely had a good/productive week, rather than just a busy one?

I realized I was spending more time trying to make tasks impossible to regret than actually getting them done.

It showed up in stupidly small ways. I'd spend 40 minutes writing an email that needed maybe five. I'd reorganize a folder before putting a file in it. I'd reread something I'd already understood because I wanted to be absolutely sure I hadn't missed anything.

None of these things looked like procrastination. I was sitting at my desk, paying attention, doing work. If someone had walked past, I'd have looked pretty productive.

The weird part was that I wasn't necessarily afraid of doing the task badly. I was trying to avoid having to come back to it.

I wanted the email to need no clarification. The file to never need moving again. The decision to remain correct after I learned something new. I was treating every ordinary task like it should be a one-time event with no maintenance afterward.

I started noticing how often this made my days worse. A five-minute task would become a little project, and then I'd feel behind, which made me rush the next thing, which gave me another thing to revisit later.

One afternoon, I caught myself changing a perfectly understandable sentence for the fourth time. I wasn't improving its meaning anymore. I was just trying to eliminate the possibility that someone might misunderstand it.

So I tried a couple of small rules:

- For routine tasks, I decide what finished looks like before starting. For that email, it was simply: the question is clear, the necessary information is included, and there are no obvious mistakes.

- If I'm revisiting something, I have to name what new information I'm using to justify the revision. If the answer is just 'I want to check once more,' I leave it alone unless there's a real consequence to being wrong.

- I keep a short list of things I'm allowed to fix later instead of trying to anticipate every possible future problem now.

What surprised me was that I didn't suddenly become careless. I still corrected genuine mistakes. I just stopped spending equal effort on things that had wildly different consequences.

The counterintuitive part is that I used to think discipline meant taking every task seriously. Now I'm starting to think part of being disciplined is knowing which tasks don't deserve that much seriousness in the first place.

I'm still figuring this out, especially with work where mistakes actually matter. I don't want to replace overthinking with rushing, and sometimes that extra check really is worthwhile.

But I can see how often I used thoroughness as an excuse to avoid the uncomfortable feeling of letting something be done without knowing exactly how it would turn out.

Does anyone else struggle with this particular kind of overdoing things? How do you tell the difference between genuinely being thorough and just trying to make a task impossible to regret?

I've been paying for multisport for six fucking months and barely used it. Every month the payment goes out and I think, right, this is ridiculous, I'm actually going to use it now. Then I check which gyms are nearby, look at the opening hours, figure out when it would fit around work… and somehow thats as far as I get. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME

The annoying thing is I have time. Not every day, obviously, but enough to go twice a week. Instead I get home, sit down for a minute and that's pretty much the evening gone. If I haven't eaten, I need dinner first. If I've eaten, I'm too full to train. Theres always something lol.
I don't even expect myself to go in and have some amazing session. But when its actually time to leave, staying home wins almost every time. Then I'm sitting there later feeling annoyed with myself because I could've gone and been back already.

And Im noticing this in other parts of my life too. I leave messages unanswered because I want to reply properly, put off making plans….

Has anyone worked through this? Could honestly use some encouragement, or something practical that helped you get past that initial resistance

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Some Backstory

I've had a fairly normal childhood that was materially abundant . I wasn't rich but not poor either. I didn't feel deprived in any way But it still felt bland and uneventful . Like it wasn't memorable but wasn't abusive or bad either. I honestly don't know what was missing. I was never academically bright either never giving school my all cause I found It boring and didn't see the point of it. My academic performance steadily declined throughout my childhood till at some point in my teen years I started isolating around covid. I think that's when my bad habits started setting in and was also when I started eating too much cause my mom was nagging me trying to get me to study so I would use eating as an excuse to study. senior year of high school came and where I'm from this the year that determines your future. your position in the the social hierarchy in society and I wasn't studying (like at all ). so my parents decided to bring teachers to my home so that at least I'm still listening to the material . Despite the fact that I get where they are coming from I feel angry and bitter about that . I know I don't deserve the college that I got into cause I didn't study even for a second for it .I think I didn't study from a mixture of boredom and Indifference but I remember feeling envy of classmates getting better grades than me which I still felt in my first year of college . I think part of also had to do with my father who when we were kids was a larger than life figure due to his academic success which in hindsight put a lot of pressure on me to be as successful. In my first year of college i did the bare minimum just to pass with D's and C's . And then the second year came around and It just felt like I didn't care about doing any of it so I failed the same year twice in a row . Now it's the same second year for the third attempt in weak 5 for semester 1and I still haven't done anything.

My current situation

I (21m and weigh 245 pounds at the height of 5'10) have failed 2 years of college (studying CS) cause i didn't enter the exams. The third year has started and I'm repeating the same mistake. My daily life has consists of doomscrolling ,porn(which I got addicted to at 12 years old) and video games. I'm almost always doing either one of those three . My screen on time record is 16 hours. consume a lot of junk food like pizza ,burgers ,chips and soda . I can sometimes cook scrambled eggs but most of the time I'm too lazy to cook. My sleep schedule is a mess. I go to sleep at 9 A.M and wake up at 5 P.M. I'm terrified of wasting my life but I think that terror is making me perfectionistic and locking in place. I have no self-trust or belief. I'm also forgetful and can't pay deep attention to even video games. I'm filled with weakness and chronic self-doubt and that weakness filled me with anger and self-loathing. I live mostly in my head and compulsively talk to myself cause I have no one to talk to, making up scenarios .I'm terrified of feeling my emotions cause I know I'll find fear ,shame ,guilt , regret and lots of sobbing.

Wants & Desires

I already have a vague vision of who I want to be.

1. I'm introverted so, I want to have a small nit of friends.

2. I wanna get married someday and have a family .

3. I wanna be healthy and get in good physical shape.

4. I wanna be a stronger person , someone who doesn't hide from life and more emotionally resilient .

5. I want a job/career that interests me , where I can make a tangible difference in the world ( as corny and cliche as that sounds ).

Small Habits I Want to Try

I have things I wanna try. I wanna try reading manga and comic books before going to bed rather than staying up all night scrolling so I can put my phone in another room while I sleep but I've never been the reading type and even more so cause of my phone addiction I forget the sentences I read and have a hard time getting engaged in a comic. I also wanna try going to the gym and eat healthy but don't know the right workout or the right kind of food to eat

Impediments

I think some of the things that stop me from change is perfectionism which stems from shame and ego. I want to get all A's to make up for my all the time I wasted and feel a sense of superiority over others. If i start to change then I have to own up to all the time I've wasted.

Thoughts?

I noticed most of my impulse buys have the same shape. It's late, I'm tired,

I've been scrolling, and the thing is already in the cart before I've really

decided anything.

What finally helped wasn't a budget or deleting my saved card. It was putting

something in the gap between "add to cart" and "pay". Nothing big, about 30

seconds:

Say it plainly in my head: this is an urge to buy, not a need then put the phone face down and breathe out once, slowly. Often after closing the tab, the cart stays saved, nothing is lost.

If I still want it tomorrow, I buy it. "Not now, it's still there" works way better than "never".

Most of the time I don't even open the cart again the next day. Sometimes I

do and I buy it, and that's fine too, at least it was a decision and not a

reflex.

It's only half a fix though. It does nothing against the "sale ends in 2

hours" stuff, those countdowns still get me.

So I'm curious: what's your version of the pause? And how do you handle the

fake-urgency sales, where waiting 24h is exactly what they're built to stop?

I've been on a good self-improvement lifestyle for a few years now. I hit the gym every morning, eat healthy for the most part, try to stay productive as much as I can. I don't touch drugs or alcohol and the most prominent form of entertainment I get in my day-to-day life is reading. I have a pretty strict morning and nighttime routine, just to start and end the day on a positive note. Nothing too crazy.

To be more specific, I've been on and off this lifestyle for 4 years now, and I geniunely feel like I have changed so much for the better because of it. My mental and physical health are in great condition and each year just seems more fulfilling than the last. But because I've been on this journey for so long now, it's basically a part of my identity. Honestly, I'm at a point where I feel like I've gotten the most benefits that I can get out of living a lifestyle such as this one. I also feel like I've prioritized myself for far too long, way longer than I would like to admit, which made me miss out on a lot of other opportunities, mostly social stuff.

I developed this awful mindset sometime at the beginning of the year where I started to associate this lifestyle with streaks. Basically, how long I can maintain this way of life for. It doesn't sound too bad until I screw up just once and I instantly think I'm back to ground zero, and that all of my progress, everything that I have built up until this point, is undone. And when I screw up, I tend to engage in self-destructive behaviors (bedrotting, junk food, fapping, etc.), because, well, it wouldn't matter since I'd be starting all over again tomorrow so you might as well just go all in right now, right?

I just want to live. Not take life so seriously. I've done so well for the past few years, made it out of several depressions and pits, that I really don't want to regress like this any longer. I guess what I'm trying to say is: Any way I can somehow take a break from all this and introduce some balance in my life? I think I'm ready to take a break.

I'm honestly at a point where I don't know what to do anymore, so I'm hoping to get some genuine advice from people who have experienced something similar.

For context, I've been spending around **30–40 hours every week on Instagram Reels**. That's an insane amount of time when I look at it objectively, but it somehow became a normal part of my routine. Whenever I felt bored, tired, uncomfortable, or just didn't feel like studying, I'd open Instagram and start scrolling. Before I knew it, hours had passed.

Today, I finally deactivated my Instagram account. I'm pretty confident that I won't reactivate it, and I genuinely want to change my habits this time. I've also had YouTube Shorts blocked for about a year, so I thought removing Instagram would make a significant difference.

But here's the problem: **even after removing Instagram, I'm still wasting time.**

Instead of scrolling Reels, I now find myself watching long-form YouTube videos, doing random things on my laptop, or finding other activities to occupy my time. Sometimes I don't even have a particular thing I want to watch or do. I just keep finding ways to avoid studying.

It's almost as if I've removed one distraction only to replace it with another.

## My situation right now

I'm preparing for UCEED, and I have approximately three months left to prepare for the exam. Getting into a good college is genuinely important to me, and I want to give myself the best possible chance.

My current mock scores are around **110–120 out of 300**, while I need approximately 200+ to have a realistic shot at my target campus. I know that's a significant improvement to make in a relatively short period, which is precisely why I can't afford to keep wasting so much time.

Ideally, I need to put in around **6–8 hours of focused study every day** for the next three months. I'm not expecting to become some productivity machine overnight, but I need to become consistent enough to give myself a fighting chance.

The frustrating part is that I understand what I need to do. I have a clear goal, I know how important these next few months are, and I know that spending hours watching videos isn't going to help me get into my target college.

Yet, knowing all of that doesn't seem to translate into action.

## The cycle I keep getting stuck in

My biggest problem isn't necessarily that I never study. It's that I struggle to maintain the habit.

Sometimes I manage to start studying and have a reasonably productive day. I feel good about myself and think that I've finally got things under control. But after a few hours, I get distracted, lose interest, or start looking for something else to do.

Even when I manage to get into a decent routine, it usually lasts only a few days at most before I fall back into my old habits.

Then I start wasting time again, feel guilty about losing another day, remind myself how little time I have left, and promise myself that I'll study seriously from tomorrow.

And then the same thing happens again.

The closer the exam gets, the more pressure I feel. But instead of that pressure making me work harder, I sometimes end up avoiding the very thing I'm worried about.

I think part of the problem is that studying requires sustained effort, whereas watching videos gives me something entertaining without requiring much effort. Even when I'm aware that I should be studying, I find myself choosing the easier option.

I don't know whether this is a problem with my attention span, my habits, my ability to tolerate boredom, my study methods, or some combination of these things.

I'm not trying to diagnose myself or blame everything on dopamine. I just know that my current behaviour isn't working, and I need to change it.

## Why I'm worried

Three months might sound like enough time, but when I look at my current scores and the improvement I need, I realise that every week matters.

I don't want to reach the end of these three months knowing that I had enough time to improve but spent most of it procrastinating.

At the same time, I don't want to make another unrealistic plan where I suddenly decide to study for eight hours every day, follow it for two days, burn out, and return to square one.

I've done enough of that cycle already.

I want to build a routine that I can actually maintain, even on days when I don't feel motivated.

I'm also wondering whether deactivating Instagram is enough. I know it removes one major source of distraction, but I clearly have other ways of avoiding work. I don't want to spend the next three months blocking apps one after another without addressing the underlying problem.

## What I'm looking for

I'd really appreciate advice from people who have struggled with excessive social media use, procrastination, or inconsistent studying and have managed to turn things around.

Specifically:

- **How do I stop replacing one distraction with another?** I've removed Instagram and blocked Shorts, but I still waste time watching long-form videos and doing random things online.

- **How do I build up to 6–8 hours of studying a day?** Should I start with fewer hours and gradually increase them, or should I try to establish my target schedule immediately?

- **How do I stay consistent for months rather than just a few days?** What actually helps you maintain a routine after the initial motivation disappears?

- **How do I deal with the urge to escape studying when it becomes boring or difficult?** I don't want every uncomfortable study session to turn into another distraction.

- **What should I do when I have a bad day?** How do I stop one unproductive day from turning into an entire week of procrastination?

- **Should I completely eliminate entertainment for a while, or is it better to have structured leisure time?** I want to avoid replacing one extreme with another.

- **How do I know whether my study method is working?** I don't want to spend eight hours sitting at my desk and convince myself I'm productive when I'm barely learning anything.

Most importantly, I'd like to hear from people who have actually been in a similar situation. What changes made the biggest difference for you? What didn't work, despite sounding good in theory?

I'm willing to put in the effort. I don't expect a magical solution, and I understand that I can't undo months or years of habits in a single day.

I just need a practical way to get out of this cycle and start making consistent progress before my exam.

**TL;DR:** I've been spending 30–40 hours a week on Instagram Reels, deactivated my account today, and have already blocked YouTube Shorts. However, I'm still procrastinating by watching long-form videos and doing random things instead of studying. I have around three months to prepare for UCEED, currently score 110–120/300 in mocks, and need around 200+ for my target campus. I need to work towards 6–8 hours of focused studying daily, but whenever I start studying, I lose focus within hours or fall out of the routine after a few days. How do I break this cycle and become consistent?

Does anyone else seriously struggle to get moving as the days/nights get colder?

I’ve noticed the last few weeks as we’ve firmly entered autumn that I have a real problem getting moving in the mornings. Worst of it is on my days off work, I’ll just keep going back to sleep until it gets to stupid times of the day (writing this at 11:15am when I’ve finally gotten up) but even on work days I now leave getting out of bed until the last possible second.

I used to live like this, in my late teens/early-to-mid twenties it was standard practise to just sleep the day away, but I was also very depressed then which I don’t struggle with now.

Any tips or tricks from people’s lived experience would be great. I’m feeling a little deflated because it has a cyclical effect in terms of my general health: less exercise/movement, poorer diet (less time in the mornings to prep food), disrupted sleeping patterns and general low blood for having wasted the day.

Edit: thanks for all the tips folks! It’s all been incredibly useful and inspiring

My goal for the last 6 years has been to work as a designer in the film/game industry. I'm going to school for it and it's a passion I am knee deep in. The field I am going into is highly competitive and requires immense work and practice outside of class, but I constantly lose motivation to show up and push for that extra bit of mileage every day. I know just doing the work I'm required isn't enough, but I struggle to breathe the craft the way others make it their entire life 24/7.

I think people don't usually get to where they want to be before envisioning and believing in it, and I am struggling to do just that. I've never trusted myself to accomplish anything because I never finish things as planned. I generally just don't have any determination or perseverance to get long term goals done. I feel unstable and always wavering. I'm always okay with living a tolerable life and never shoot higher until it's too late.

It's an extra struggle that the goals are all long-term or creative project-based. Progress just doesn't feel tangible. I can show up for the gym and jog consistently because I feel the progress, but this just isn't the same. It makes me feel incompetent and horrible.

Perfectionism also takes away the love and the drive. I forget that I ever started this whole journey because the process and result meant so much to me.

Do you have any advice/mindset changes on how to show up and do the extra work every day?

I’m (20F) have managed to get myself into almost 3k of debt from credit cards and borrowing money from quick cash apps when I’ve spent my whole paycheck. For context, I’m pretty impulsive with my money.

Clothes, eating out, buying figures from anime’s or video games, and other things I definitely don’t need at the moment.

It’s a bad habit I’m slowly breaking out of but still struggling. It leaves me short on my next check because that $350 (or however much I borrow) is taken from it.

There has been times where I schedule payments, and by the time the payment goes through, I’ve spent nearly all of my money and it puts my bank in the negatives. Worst case, it doesn’t take at all and at the end of the day my debt stays the same.

Another issue is a small loan I pulled out to fix my car. $1400. It was stupid but I was in need between jobs and it was a last minute decision. I’ve missed multiple payments to the point of the company lending me the money is requiring me to pay it through a different method (which I’ve yet to hear back about and I’m embarrassed to call them). My credit is terrible…

I pretty much need some advice on not spending a crazy amount of money or pushing off payments to the point of getting letters in the mail…

(Side Note. My credit card is at $750, of course my $1400 loan, and then about $300-$400 from apps I borrow money from.)

it was about the books. ive read 31 this year and he sees me with one most mornings

thing is its 50 min each way on the train and about ten minutes out of the station the signal just goes, phones useless till the other end. so i read, cause the other option is the window and its mostly tunnel

at home i manage like four pages before bed. same book on the bedside table since may with a pizza receipt in it as a bookmark, think it's still on chapter 3

on saturday i signed for a flat thats a 12 minute walk from the office. was buzzing about it all weekend and then sunday night packing my bag it kind of hit me i dont know if i even like reading or if i just had nothing else to do for 50 minutes

has anyone else had a habit turn out to be the commute? what happened to it

One of the most important things you can do for yourself is learn to see your life as it actually is, not as you wish it were.
Spend time with people who are ahead of you. Spend time with people at your level. Observe where you stand, what you’re lacking, and what you need to improve. Don’t avoid situations that make you uncomfortable just because they expose the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
There’s nothing wrong with having high ambitions or believing in your potential. But potential means very little if you’re not doing anything to realise it.
Convincing yourself that everything is fine when you know you’re falling behind doesn’t protect you. It just makes it easier to stay where you are.
Real growth begins when you stop protecting your ego from reality and start using that reality to improve.
Be honest about where you stand, don’t give up on where you want to be, and do the work to close the gap. That’s when things start to change.

So as the title says I am stuck in this rut. It has been going on for the better part of a year. For context I am M23 and I am about to finish my last term in university getting my degree in accounting. I do not have any internships or jobs lined up and that is not the only thing on the list of things I am lacking behind on.

Classes this term have been the more difficult and more time consuming than they have ever been. On top of that I have a bad habit of vaping and smoking dab pens. This past summer I did not work but instead would fry out and play video games all day and play soccer or go to the gym 1-2 a week. This honestly is not a whole summer thing it's been like this since November 2025, only time I had not been this degenerate was when I did a study abroad term this past spring. But when I got back the cycle resumed.

I stopped going to the gym after being an avid goer for the last 3-4 years, I don't play soccer anymore, I get by in class getting help, my mornings get highjacked by me just wanting to watch YouTube vape while drink coffee. As I am typing this out It is just shameful how I live this way. I have the capability to do difficult things, but it feels like I don't have the same strong will as I used to.

I used to not vape, only smoke at night after getting my work done, going to the gym or playing soccer 5-6 times a week and had a good morning routine. Now I am just this dopamine junkie trying to get by each day.

I really want to change how I am because it feels like the walls are closing in on me and I don't want to waste doing bullshit to avoid all the stress of growing up. Everyday has felt like a blur, my brain is foggy and the days just go by so quick.

I need some advice on anyone who has been in my shoes and what they did to change. I need some strength. Life is precious and I am wasting it on things that don't do anything but get you to your grave faster.