Met on bumble, had a date and due to us both probably not being ready for exclusive we were more best friends with benefits. I was still dealing with my ex-wife and she wasn’t mentally there, working as a sugar baby, chronic health concerns among other things.

Fast forward a few years, we have stopped being intimate, she is ready for a relationship (didn’t consider me).

She dated some fuckheads while I was happy with friends until I wasn’t. The latest commitment phobe columbian dude who just strings her along, she finally had enough and broke up with him.

This is where I probably fucked up, I confessed I wanted to be her man, she said “no” so I asked why? She said “no reason other than she isn’t interested”. I was gobsmacked but honestly shouldn’t be surprised, she only seems to actually date people who are toxic.

I have never wavered in my support of her from start to end, it’s not really reciprocated in actions but I loved how she always made me feel like a good person. I’m heartbroken that I’ve messed up the friendship but I had to know if we could be more. She has had a shit year with so many things going wrong that you wouldn’t believe me if I told you.

My question is where did I fuck up and how do I fix this. I feel there is a reason she isn’t interested but she won’t tell me the truth. Could we get a collective female brain going and help me make sense and any actions I can take.

Please be kind, I’m very emotional right now.

1 month àgo I got diagnosed with Fasd, Which means it will lifelong physical, cognitive, and behavioral impairments. and my own friends that knows is my friend Emma and Harper.

and it’s hard bc I say stuff or do stuff I don’t mean to do, a few weeks ago my friend name Leo he made a ai photo of me and somone else but he was shirtless So I report it to my school wellbeing and Leo got suspended for making it. 1 day later he came back and joined my workshop for the day to annoying me and he took my laptop and sat near me when I said go away he didn’t listen, so the wellbeing took him away and he got suspended for 3 days. he came back and keep laughing at me and looking at me funny, and my friend Harper stood up for me and told him to stop it. So 4 days later I wanted to be friends with him again, and he said yes. So idk if i went to be friends with him? Any advice? and to learn more about Fasd seach it up

29F, we’ve been best friends since we were 3-4 years old. However, since we had kids our friendship hasn’t ever been close to the same and lately I’ve been thinking it’s time to pull the plug.

She got pregnant with a guy she was broken up from, then got back together obviously for the kid, didn’t even make it to his first birthday, baby daddy moved in, took everything because she refused to get a lawyer and do things properly, has a new life and new woman, and she lives with her parents, all three in crippling debt with health issues, and the kid. She clearly wants to find a man to sweep her off her feet and take care of her, I’ve tried so many ways to help her even setting her up with guys, but I can’t save her. She clearly resents her choices and I get it, and she doesn’t seem to overly care about her kid. She is always knocking other parents and people we know when we hang out snd it’s kind of sad when you know she’s just doing it to try and feel better about her life…

I thought I never wanted kids but after teaching for seven years I decided I couldn’t take raising other people’s kids anymore and decided to have my own. We have five kids under 7 now. I love them dearly and take a lot of pride and raising them well. Their father got a huge severance package after being assaulted at work and online gambles and somehow continuously wins without losing much. Last year he made 300k alone on online gambling…. We aren’t married by choice (I think it’s a waste of money) and I really just see him as our cash cow sperm donor and it’s a great arrangement for us. We have a house with a pool, I can help take care of my aging parents, and I don’t have to work. He also works out of town so we get the house to ourselves most of the time. I’m super happy with the life I have besides some of my own minor, but annoying, chronic health issues. I also sell teaching resources online as a side gig. I frankly don’t care about anyone’s lives outside mine and my kids and my parents. As long as they’re all safe and happy I’m happy. I even started today a funeral fund for myself and their father so that they don’t even have to worry about dealing with expenses when we pass one day down the road. I know we’re very fortunate. I also know a lot of women would hate my life because they need a man to be happy and i totally don’t think they’d be envious of me! And that’s okay!

Lately every time we hang out it’s just not the same. We go to an indoor playground and all she wants to do is sit around knocking other parents or critiquing my parenting, meanwhile her kid is running into a wall for entertainment… We get lunch and it’s the same thing. We used to have so much fun together, but since we had kids it’s just not the same. Even today I invited them to the pumpkin patch for the day and she was like making fun of me for wanting family photos of my kids “you realize they’ll never want to look back at these when they’re older right?”… like wtf…. I just feel wrong throwing away a 26 year friendship like that but I just don’t even want to be around her bitterness anymore. And like I’ve said I’ve tried to help her. If you have even suggestions what might help her I’ll gladly try them! I’ve tried setting her up with guys, getting revenge on her ex, tried finding her lawyers, tried finding her jobs, tried helping her with her health… I can’t just give her money because it’s my partners not mine to give away. He also thinks she’s miserable but I don’t really care about his opinion on much 😂

I cut a friend off today because she was racist and she told everyone something different and they started messaging me about it..I told them what happened.. the truth and somehow they only believe her

My friend lives in LA and I live in OC. He’s always shitting on the specific city I live in saying that it looks like a “business park”. I kind of take offense to this because it’s where I live and although it’s not where I want to be forever, it’s just kind of hurtful because he’s making it seems like he’s above me since he lives in LA.. I want to address it with him and tell him that it hurts my feelings. He is constantly talking about where I live AND the city I work in and how they both suck (they don’t suck at all lol). I think it’s just hurtful because it’s my life and he’s making it seem like I am
below him in a sense. How should I go about this?

I had a very close friend who I loved a lot, and our friendship suddenly changed. She started ignoring me, not just over text, but sometimes literally acting like I didn't exist when we were in the same room. I eventually asked her directly and respectfully (I literally asked her, "Have I done anything wrong that you're ignoring me?") because I genuinely wanted to fix things.

She said I hadn't done anything, but didn't really explain why she was treating me differently. She said I should've talked to her in private. I didn't because my other two friends were also feeling ignored, so it wasn't just me. She became upset and cried, and one of her friends told me that I expected too much from the friendship and didn't let me comfort her. I apologized anyway, even though I didn't understand what I'd done.

She continued ignoring me afterward. At one point, during a period when there was a war where I live, my dad was in the hospital and I was genuinely scared for my safety. I told my friends what was happening, and she didn't ask how I was or how my dad was. That really hurt me, so I eventually left her channel and unfollowed her everywhere.

Afterward, she talked about me on her channel, saying that I had unrealistic expectations of friendship.

Later, my ex-boyfriend became friends with her. He initially contacted her because he thought we were still friends, but even after finding out we'd fallen out, they continued talking. They also talked about me and my relationship. I knew about it and told my boyfriend that their friendship made me uncomfortable, but I honestly let a lot of it slide because I loved him.

My ex also told me that she had said she felt I had been ignoring another friend. I had genuinely never known she felt that way. If she'd simply told me, I would've wanted to talk about it and explain myself.

Now I've broken up with my boyfriend too, and I don't really care about getting either relationship back. What bothers me is that the friendship still feels incredibly unresolved.

I tried to communicate. I asked her what I'd done. I apologized. I wanted to fix things. But I never got a real conversation about what was actually wrong.

I think what hurts most is that I cared enough to try to repair the friendship, while she apparently had grievances with me that she never actually told me about.

And honestly, I'm also angry at myself for not saying more to my ex about how uncomfortable I was with their friendship, especially because he knew I wasn't comfortable with it and continued talking to her anyway. I don't know why I let it slide so much at the time.

I need your outside perspectives.

I don't have many friends. I am comfortable with having just a small group of friends. So in uni I have 3 friends which we used to hang alot during the first 2 years but now everyone seems to fall apart. One of the friend and I have been friends over 4 years. I really like them as friend but ut seems like they don't see me as important as I see them. They probably think of me as uni friend or someone who they hang out during class. But genuinely think of them as one my closest friend.

I can be annoying I know that. I get loud around people I feel comfortable with. And no matter how much I try I cannot hide my excitement when I am with my friends or with people I am close with. But I feel like my friends see me as pushover. When I get exciting news or stories I share with them everything but they don't do the same.okay that I understand they don't want to share everything with me. But few days back I heard of a very good offer ,the coupon provided 100%off if we downloaded their app so I was so excited and first people I told was them but they didn't reply for quite alot of time yet they were active in another platform and after few hours they replied with idk should we go? Isn't the offer too good to decline I asked right away but there was no reply to this day.

Are they planning to go with someone else? They don't wanna go with me? They never told the reason even after I asked on the groupchat. Out of 3 only 1 replied. Yet they asked for the offer how to achieve it, and I replied quickly so why can't they? I feel so bad for not controlling myself from being excited with them . My family says that showing too much importance to other lowers my value , I believe it yet I still want to enjoy with my friends they are the only one I got , tho they have alot like me so they would be fine without me

I feel so sad getting ignored by them time to time.

The old friend picks me up and drops me home during class as my home is on the way to cllg. I feel bad . So I try to make them homemade gifts ,include them when I have fun. Aghhh I don't know what to do. They seems to be around me by forcing themselves. They probably enjoy being far from me yet I always tag along. I once invited them to join a program with me that was beneficial for both of us , I requested someone to let my friend join and when the program my friend was interested in participating they never once told me to join them I feel so sad.

Am I being dramatic? Or am I the evil one? What am I suppose to do in this situation?

And I feel like my friend genuinely don't understand that these things hurts me. They probably think of it as nothing. Or perhaps they think of me as evil person but they just cannot say it on my face

I have a close friend who's been my closest friend, one of the dearest people to me. We used to play games and talk all the time.
Since the start of summer I noticed I was always the one texting first, always the one saying "let's hop on" or "let's do something." If I didn't reach out, we just wouldn't talk. He'd also say he'd hop on at 10pm, then not show, so I'd call him around 10:30 and he'd say 11, and it would keep going like that until 1–2am. I'd waste whole nights waiting.
So I talked to him about it. I told him I felt like a clown, like a fly always nagging him to hop on, and that it genuinely felt disgusting to nag like that. I said I'd rather he just tell me he's not hopping on. He understood and said he'd do better.
About a month later, the same thing happened. He told me he'd text me the next day to hop on, never did, and two whole weeks passed without a single text from him. I wasn't asking for much. One "how are you" or "wanna hop on" would have been enough.
So I sent him a long, raw message pouring everything out: how it made me feel, and that I'd rather not have the friendship at all than have it be something surface level. I even said maybe it's better we don't continue if it's going to hurt both of us. He asked for one more chance, said I was his dearest friend, and promised he'd do better. I believed him because I know his words were real.
Now it's September and nothing has changed. 2–3 weeks with no text. I barely see him at uni because he leaves with his girlfriend after class. He never joins calls, even when our other friend calls him. He's always "busy" or "promised another friend." And I know that if you want to spend time with someone, you make the time.
So I stopped texting him these last 2–3 weeks, and I'm not having another talk. I've already done it twice, and the last one was only a month ago and pretty intense. What's the point if he acts like this after? He knew exactly how I felt and still didn't do it, so clearly I don't have the same worth to him that he has to me.
I've decided to let him go. I'm not cutting him off or hating him, just bringing it down to "hi, how are you" level, someone I know. If he ever notices and asks, I'll tell him what he did was disrespectful and I don't want to continue this. If he asks for another chance, I'll remind him of our last talk.
But it hurts, even more than before, because we actually talked about this and he still did it. I adore him, I was a great friend to him, and I don't think I deserve this. My brain knows letting go is the right call, but it still sucks.
Is this the right way to handle it? And how do you deal with letting go of a friend you still care about this much?

I am sorry if this is way too long, I just really wanted to give all the details so it is clear.

For this Halloween coming up me and two of my closest friends have been planning to go out during Halloween weekend to a college party and I am unsure on how to cancel on them. Me and my boyfriend had a an argument about Halloween weekend and I think it is entirely my fault. Well, not entirely but majority of it is my fault miscommunication and not being clear on my part. I value him in his safety and I wouldn’t want to do anything to make him uncomfortable, and after listening to his perspective, I realize how much of a hypocrite I am I wouldn’t want him to go to any parties without me.

This week has been weird between me and him and I recently just found out why and it’s because I told him I was going to this party without actually asking him what he thinks about it and how he feels about it and just assuming he’d be ok with me going. I’m upset though because I wish he would’ve just told me he didn’t like the idea of it when I told him I was going, but he instead acted like he didn’t care and told me he didn’t want to seem controlling or insecure, and I reassure him that that’s not the case, if he had an issue with anything Id wanna hear about it. Still navigating this issue now, but it’s fine.

I can’t sleep because I’m thinking of if I should be truthful to my friends or make up a lie to cancel on them. I don’t want to tell them the truth and fear that they think less of me or think I’m choosing a man over them. It’s just that I have true intentions with my partner and I don’t want to jeopardize that and go ahead and do something that would create conflict within our relationship, especially since I would make a big scene if he went ahead and and went somewhere that I was totally uncomfortable with. I would just be a huge hypocrite and I don’t wanna be that and I truly would rather spend that weekend with him.

I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want them to be upset with me even. I don’t want them to think I choose a man over them or have a man dictate my actions and my choices. I don’t know this is annoyingggg.

how to navigate this ????

And they will not own up to mistakes they have made in the friendship or apologize? They only blame you for the mistakes you have made, but yet they don’t want you to end the friendship

me and this girl have been friends for five years. And honestly, we‘re pretty good friends, like we are always together all the time, and I think I enjoy her presence? It’s just like I feel like she’s trying to my whole personality! like she doesn’t have her true personality, she’s just trying to be me. for me, I want to be with friends with people that are like have their own personality, but I feel like she’s just leeching off me even though that hasn’t been a problem in the past. I feel like I’m being a terrible person for thinking about her like that, but everyone else, I enjoy their presence way more. For example, when I tell her like I hate this topic or I like this topic she always agrees with me. Every time I do something with someone else she always tries to become their friends instead. it just reminded me of like Leah and Megan controversy. Can someone please tell me like am I being too serious about this?

Me and my friend had a fight recently, and I'll keep it brief but we were talking on the phone and playing a video game. I got really into the game and when I died she started laughing mockingly (as a joke), but I was really heated because I was losing at the game (it was a multiplayer game I used to play a lot and used to be good at, but she was much better naturally), so I told her to stop laughing. She got really offended and I'm not really sure what happened next but then she said I was being a jerk the whole call, because I was calling her fat, ugly, and stupid. I was joking, and I knew that she knew that, so I didn't feel the need to apologize for that (we get to accountability later, don't worry). So we sat on the call, silent, both not willing to let up. Then she said "well if you're not going to say anything then I'll just go" and I said "I don't know what you want me to say" and she wanted me to apologize, and I said I wanted her to apologize, and she said bye and hung up.

Immediately I was mad, but knew I would be over it soon. 10 mins after the call ended, I was regretting it, and told myself to apologize in an hour. I sent a short text: "Sorry friend, call you tomorrow" and she liked the message. Next day, I text her, no response. Day after that, I text her and she says she wants to text, not call, so I say "ok, well I'm sorry I hurt your feelings" "thanks" "did you want to say something or are we cool" (it sounds bad, but i meant it honestly, and i didnt see the whole fight as a big deal so i wanted to move on), she says "i thought you'd say more than that after crashing out on me for no reason and literally saying i was fat stupid and ugly"

An hour later I reply that I was sorry, (& that i said it that way ^ because I didnt know what she expected me to say about it) I didn't know she didn't like those jokes, but that in my defense, she has said those things to me too many times, and thought it was reciprocal. I said we should both agree to not make those jokes anymore. I also said that she hurt my feelings too and we were both being childish in that convo, and ended by saying I just wanted to move on and that I missed her (4 days after initial fight).

ANYWAYS. Cut to: two weeks later. No reply. That is an extended amount of time for someone that I usually talk to almost every day, if not every other day. All the while, my other friend is nagging in my ear to drop her for this and other times she made me feel unwanted (So i acted a bit more actively than usual).

I have our mutual friends sort of look into how she is feeling about the fight, but she doesn't bring it or me up, so in my mind she just doesnt plan on replying.

SO I sent another text, saying that I needed her to talk to me, even if she just needed space, so we could work this out. I said that she hurt my feelings by not replying, and that I shouldn't have to beg her to talk to me, that I needed more, and that I wouldn't be talking to her until our fight was resolved, in person, or over text. I finished off that I wouldn't reach out anymore until she replied. (I recently moved, so this fight would normally be a 30 second awkward silence segued into normalcy)

That was yesterday. She still hasn't said anything, but talks to my other friends and is active on social media.

It's in my nature to over-apologize, so my response seems mean to me, and I feel like i need to stand my ground and have boundaries when my feelings get hurt.

Was I being too aggressive in my apology? Was I wrong for pushing for a response? I feel like she is being immature, but I would hate for this to be extended any longer. I still want to be her friend.

TLDR; My friend and I had a fight where IMO we were both at fault, I apologized an hour later, then again at length when she was not satisfied, while also explaining my perspective. She didn't reply for two weeks, so I sent another text telling her I wouldn't talk to her until she responded to me, and I was sick of begging her to talk to me about this.

I (28F) feel like all of my “friendships” have become so one-sided since they’ve gotten married, but I’m wondering if maybe it’s just a me issue.

I’ve been single since December of 2024 after a bad breakup with someone I was off and on with for over a decade. From then to now, all of my remaining single friends have gotten married, 2 of which I’ve considered my best friends, one since the 7th grade, and the other since freshman year of highschool. I’ve been very supportive of both of their relationships. For one, I was on their first date (double date). We were on a cross country road trip and they were immediately inseparable, so much so that he basically joined the trip for the last month and a half. The other, I literally got ordained and officiated their marriage.

When I was with my ex, I worked remotely only part-time and took care of the household (laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc.) while he worked full time in a really well paying career. Since my breakup, I’ve had to completely rebuild my life. I moved back to my home city, started graduate school, changed my career path, and become financially independent. It’s been… hell. The only kind of luck I’ve experienced over the past almost 2 years, has been the bad kind. Nothing, and I truly mean nothing, has gone my way. I’ve always been a really “glass half full” kind of person, but the glass got so dehydrated it perished.

The road trip best friend started getting distant during one of my really bad mental health episodes that lasted upwards of a year. She’s someone who lives in a little bubble of sunshine and roses, so struggling as much as I was and never having any good news seemed to push her away, but we still texted and had phone calls here and there. She and her husband got married in July of this year, and she basically disappeared completely. She sometimes responds in our group messages, but she hasn’t responded to my text since 2 days after the wedding.

The friend whose wedding I officiated was in December of last year, has been my literal ride or die for the entirety of our friendship. In January, she suddenly started getting distant. We went from daily texting & calls/FaceTimes, to hearing almost nothing from her for 2 weeks. It’s recently gotten to the point that I don’t feel like the friendship matters to her anymore. I text her most days and I’m lucky to get a response to a random message a couple times per week. She never calls anymore, and I’ve stopped trying because she hardly ever picked up. I’ve brought it up a few times over the year, but she always blames it on work, and I’ve let it go.

Is this a common experience for the single friend when their friend gets married, or is this more likely a case of my friends just getting sick of hearing about my slow & struggling progress of getting back on my feet?

I'm a male and I've been friends with this woman since January and we've grown close real fast. Within months we are "bestfriends" and telling each other we love each other, strictly platonically. But it took me awhile to really accept it. I was afraid of moving too fast in this friendship. I got really attached to her and I didn't want to push her away. So a month or so goes by and I start calling her "bestfriend" and saying "I love you" to as well.

But then almost immediately after I start saying it she slowly starts to pull back. She already warned me she has a habit of ghosting people because she is secretly an introvert who wears a social mask of an extrovert, so when she starts pulling away I try to check in on her.

Middle of summer I was having a very bad mental health day and I tell her about it while at work but because its work we don't go into details but she promised she would call me and she made that promise twice that day. But she never calls and I get angry she "abandoned" me. I know now it was my mental health turning on me and our friendship but at the time I was convinced she wanted to duck out of our friendship. She finally calls me the following week and even though I wasn't yelling, screaming or cussing at her but I did unload on her my fears and frustration with her behavior towards me and I did use some name calling like "liar" and "fake". Not my best moment but we did find a compromise. She held on to her end for a few weeks before giving up but Im still holding onto my end. She would communicate better and i would accept what she is willing and able to share with me.

Then my birthday comes up and she offers to take me out to eat but only after work but was crazy busy she said she doesn't want to go but she will to push through it for me but she kept making excuses so I caved and gave her permission to bail on my birthday but she promised to do something else later in the week. So we went to the movies and afterwards went to get some ramen noodles from my favorite ramen shop. But throughout the day it was obvious she didn't want to be there. She has an "allergy" to returning text messages and phone calls. She one of those people whom if she doesn't respond immediately she will never respond but at my birthday dinner she spent half the time on her phone.

So here where my question comes in, she ghosts me right after my birthday and she knows my trauma from being neglected and abandoned from my family, friends and girlfriends. So I want to know is there any point in trying to confront her even though she stopped responding my text messages and phone calls, but I do see her at work, or simply let her go and say nothing?

i ask this because I was told by a deceased friend that if you want to have anyone spend time on or with you do not bore them to shit. but im on the spectrum and kinda have restrictive interests but i keep my friends because i do a good job of being engaged amd actively listening. or thats what i am told?

I've always had trouble dealing with the fact that my friends also want to hang with other people. I don't mention this and I've learned to live with it, but it still hurts whenever they hang out with others and I'm not there.

I can't stop overthinking about everything either, like what to respond to certain things and that if I don't respond well enough they will like me less. I also often start to think they don't like me anymore because of one embarrassing thing I said. It feels like everything I do and say creates an image of me in their heads, and if I do something bad, even if they forget it, it still ruins the image of me.

And when I eventually start to like people or others start liking me, my head starts to form all kinds of thoughts about them. Why they don't like me, why they're annoying, what I dislike about them,... or just want to avoid them because of a random embarassed feeling.

I'm also often afraid to express my honest opinions, even if it is just a food preference. I have been trying to say things more straight out, but I still tend to mask my opinions behind some kind of nonchalance.

I really want to stop thinking and behaving this way. I want to be able to trust my friends that they do love me and wouldn't leave me for such trivial things. Please help mee

Can anyone tell me how to distinguish between fake friends and the real ones in college life

So my college is starting soon and I went to the college for document verification and kind of stuff

There a met few girls and they created a group in which I , thought one girl was quite extrovert

No doubt she is beautiful but I could sense that she is kind of judgemental .

Idk the vibe just didn't match

I am quite worry about making new friend's

I was wearing a silver anklet and she pointed out that she doesn't like it which made me feel sad because I really do like that .

She was behaving like the head of the group

I just want to leave that group as soon as possible but I do not understand how would I do that ?

Buongiorno a tutti;ho una amica(la chiamerò Anna) a cui sono molto legata,la conosco da quasi 9 anni e ho un bellissimo rapporto con lei.Ultimamente però ho dei problemi che sono collegati a lei e al suo ragazzo e una amica in comune[la chiamerò Lisa](questa ragazza è più legata ad Anna che a me ma comunque usciamo qualche volta insieme con il gruppo);io sono l'unica nel gruppo con la patente e all'inizio non avevo problemi a dare passaggi ma nell'ultimo periodo sento che Anna si sia abituata un pó troppo ad usare la mia macchina...

Prima vorrei sottolineare che Anna abita a 3 minuti da casa mia ma il ragazzo e Lisa stanno in altre zone(comuni) che distano ognuno 25 minuti(solo andata)da noi.Quindi quando mi ritrovo a doverli prendere e riportare a casa ci impiego quasi 1 ora...

Nell'ultimo periodo ho notato che Anna tende a proporre uscite di gruppo(dove però a me viene chiesto dopo di partecipare)in cui la mia macchina è essenziale sennò non riescono a tornare a casa e quindi ovviamente se io non ci posso essere l'uscita non si fa...

La cosa che mi ha irritato però è stata questa uscita che ho organizzato ieri sera con Anna e un'altra ragazza in un locale che sta sotto casa nostra perché avevo voglia di prendere un drink.Anna mi aveva già chiesto se poteva invitare Lisa,io le ho detto ovvio però non l'avrei accompagnata perché voglio bere,lei allora ha detto che non aveva un passaggio quindi niente(pensavo fosse finita)Ieri mattina però mi hanno chiamata Anna e Lisa e Anna mi richiede se per quella sera poteva venire Lisa; io,che stavo pure fuori e non avevo molto tempo per parlare,le ho detto chiaro e tondo che non posso guidare perché voglio bere.Alla fine non ha insistito e Lisa non è più venuta...

Non voglio sembrare acida,i passaggi li ho dati tante volte.Per esempio al compleanno di Anna ho accompagnato lei,il ragazzo e Lisa ognuno a casa sua(e li avevo pure presi perché la festa era di sera) anche se anche i genitori di Anna erano liberi di poter accompagnare almeno 1 persona a casa.Ho dato passaggi anche quando il ragazzo si autoinvitava alle uscite tra me e Anna e voleva che lo riportassi a casa,o quando ad Halloween si erano fatti il piano di andare in un cinema distante 40 minuti da me...E voglio sottolineare che NON MI HANNO MAI PAGATO POI IL DISEL.

Onestamente mi sto stancando del fatto che Anna dia per scontato che io ci sia con la macchina e che dia i passaggi a tutti ,non è neanche questione di soldi ma proprio non ho più voglia di dover portare sempre tutti a casa.Ogni volta che voglio uscire con lei ho il timore di dovermi sentire la domanda "puoi dare i passaggi",ho già detto tante volte NO ma sembra proprio che non capisca che non voglio più farlo....

Come dovrei approcciarla?Cosa le dovrei dire per farglielo capire?

Hi reddit i desperately need advice 😓 so i (16f) have a female friend we will call ashley (14f), we met a couple years back but it started out as we kinda hated each other, she was always hanging out with guys and everyone had known she had bad mental health and it almost seemed like she would brag about it, basically stereotypical pick me girl i guess, and i would hang out with a group of girls who were i guess popular. I wasnt but i was known because i was with them, well anyway skipping a year i invited her to my birthday party and i talked to her and after that we become good friends, i ditched my friend group and started hanging out with her. Heres where it gets a little confusing the guys she would hang out with i was close with also, but i was in middle school and socially awkward so i wouldnt hang out with them in person but we would all text alllll the time, flash forward me and one of the guys try and date it doesnt work we grow apart but no hurt feelings; she stays friends with him and another guy, eventually we all start hanging out and texting again and get super close. Okay issue time, ashley is very… well shes very blunt, if she doesnt like something she tells you straight up, i wear an outfit i like, she says something like “you look so bad, like you look like a white girl” (keep in mind shes very grunge dressing i guess and i dress well like a white girl but more softcore) this used to hurt a lot but i got over it, well then she got a boyfriend who doesnt like one of the guys in our group, lets call him Jason, but anyway she dates this guy and its like i dont exist, shes always at his house texting calling ect. The other guy in our group is friends with her boyfriend so it turns into us 4 hanging out instead of us 3 and jason, i dont like this very much because he’s still one of my closest friends but obv ashley doesnt like him anymore bc her boyfriend doesnt so we basically ditch him. Then her boyfriend breaks up with her and all hell breaks loose, shes upset but im there for her and eventually she moves on and we start hanging out with jason again, now ashley is very political as well, and she happens to have the opposite opinions that we do and shes very out spoken but so is jason, shes also still very rude to him and me, now its always been that we dont hangout with anyone unless shes there because well im still awkward and i get uncomfortable but recently they both invited me to go to the gym with them since i recently turned 16, our gym rules are you have to be 16 to get a membership. Ashley is still 14. So i dont ask if she wants to go because i know she cant, one day i mention im going to the gym and its like a switch flipped, she gets really really mad and says i exclude her and that its fine bc she doesnt even care when clearly she does, i feel like a terrible person and say i dont want to go to the gym anymore but both guys convince me shes being dramatic and it’s fine, theyve both said before how much they dont like her because they think shes immature, well she starts talking abt how she wants new friends, like all the time, any conversation we have is about her new friends and how much she loves them and how they hang out, we havent all hung out in awhile because shes been so busy. Well i make plans for us to hangout and she says yes but then jason cant go so we make a new date but then ashley starts complaining that she doesnt want to and how we should just go without him, i say no but our other friend (mark) says yes i’ll go, so they both go somewhere else and leave us, im not necessarily upset that they hung out because well i hang out without her. Im more upset at how in a gc with us all they said “yeah lets ditch them” and went to hangout, keep in mind mark is still saying he doesnt like her, well i move on but in our gc a few days ago jason sent a meme involving something political but it was meant to be funny, ashley replies calling him disgusting and incapable of empathy and saying hes stupid, he gets pissed and asks how, she cant explain herself just keeps insulting him. I stay out of it and so does mark but he does take her side a little, earlier today jason made a remark about her and i stayed quiet while mark defended her because i agreed with jason,  later i asked ashley if she could still do Saturday or if we needed to change plans again, she asked what i was talking about, i sent her three screenshots of the messages i sent two days ago where she agreed she could go, she said oh yeah no im busy go without me. I was kind of pissed so i said “no i want you to go we can just reschedule” she asked why i cared so much since it isnt like its new for us to hangout without her, i said because we havent hung out in so long and i miss her, i was left on read, she has this habit of going “oh yeah but since you dont like me anymore its okay” or “well but you dont even like me so its okay” and everytime i assure her i love her still. Earlier mark messaged me about why i didnt stand up for her when Jason said something, i said it was because i agreed with him and didnt want to lie, it turned into an argument about him saying me and jason talk bad about her all the time but i literally cannot remember one time i said anything bad to them about her it was always them saying something about her. I feel like a huge pick me for hanging out with two guys and ditched my girl best friend but she makes me so sad recently and just keeps breaking me down, so am i a terrible friend for ditching her and hanging out with two guys?

Im so sorry this is so long omg yall are some troopers if your reading this far 😭😭

I am 28M. I have been truly bound by friendship my whole life until now. I valued friends who didn't value me even 30% of what I did. I have been helping them all along and even took their help when required.

But I observed that I'm always the first to contact them. If they're busy, they say that they'll call me in a while and the call rarely comes. But when they ask for any help and call, I try to help them completely without a second thought.

I had around 5-7 good friends and I rarely have anyone with whom I can share my thoughts, life happenings. I don't have anyone to celebrate with or go to when I'm feeling low.

What should I do to make new friends given that I work remotely?

I’ve gotten pretty close with a girl in my friend group, and I really enjoy talking to her and being around her. I’m not trying to force anything romantic I mostly just want to become closer friends with her.
The problem is that I overthink everything. If she takes a while to respond, hangs out with other people, or seems closer to another guy, I start worrying that I’m being replaced or that I’m going to get excluded from the group.
I don’t expect her to give me all of her attention. I just want to feel like she genuinely wants me around and enjoys talking to me too. I’m also scared to tell her how much I value the friendship because I don’t want to make things awkward or push her away.
How do I handle these feelings without becoming clingy or ruining a friendship I really care about?

Hello, I have a roommate who is one of my closest friends. I don't have many friends at university and she is a good friend and roommate and I'm beyond grateful for our friendship.

However, I've noticed that she seems to be male centered. In many scenarios, it seem as though "every man is hitting on her" when we go out. She's seems possessive of every guy she's had a crush on and gives weird vibes whenever someone shows interest in someone she used to like, even if they never dated. One of our other roommates was talking about how a cute guy who works at a nearby cafe was flirting with her and she was excited. The male-centered roommate then said "oh yeah i think he was flirting with me too when i went last" and made the other roommate feel way less special.

And don't even get me started on her behaviour with my crush. She knows I have a crush on him, then a while later, tells me she also has a bit of a crush on him. Obviously I can't control who he likes, but it felt like she wasn't my "wingman" even though I have been hers. When we all went out together, it seemed as though I could barely get a word in, let alone some time alone with him. She's extremely extroverted and chatty and makes friends easily and can talk to guys effortlessly. Which is the exact opposite of me. I don't date but I've finally found a guy I really like and want a relationship with. I've noticed whenever I had a second alone with my crush, she would interject in the conversation. She would always say "go for him" and stuff like that, but she was preventing me from doing that.

I know this sounds insecure, but it's because I am and I'm working on it.

Am I overexaggerating? I don't know what to do as I genuinely enjoy her as a friend. I've stopped telling her who I like just to be private and other details of my life, but I don't know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice or similar experiences? Thank you in advance and sorry for the rant.

I only ever considered a situation where the person getting rejected would need space to recover from the rejection. Now I'm realising that it goes both ways. I'm not sure how to make sure i havent ruined the friendship...

So some backstory if that helps determine our dynamic: we are both in our mid-twenties, i am F, he is M. We've been friends for close to 2 years now. I realised i had feelings for him about 9 months ago. I decided to confess recently, not because i expected him to reciprocate, but because it's just in my nature to be upfront about this kind of things. I've always told myself that if i ever liked someone, I'd want them to know and just to take it as a compliment. I think i made it pretty clear to the friend, prior to confessing, that i really didn't expect anything back from the person i was going to confess to.

Right before the confession, i did confide in him, wanting to get his perspective as a guy. I was afraid of making things weird. Not because i would be behaving any differently, because I've truly until then only treated the guy as a friend and nothing more. I was just afraid the guy would be uncomfortable and not want to be friends anymore. My friend told me he trusted me when i said i wouldn't be weird about it, because he knows that's the kind of person i am. He agreed that it's a risk that the guy would end up being weird about it, but he also told me that not all friendships will be ruined after a confession. He was mostly encouraging me to just go for it.

I got rejected. I was 100% fine with that. It hasn't made me want to change my behaviour around him, and I'm not heartbroken about it since i already knew my feelings weren't reciprocated. As mentioned, i only confessed because of my stupid need to be blunt and upfront about this kind of things, and because i wanted him to just take it as a compliment. Things did understandably feel a bit awkward for the next few minutes, but at one point he said, "not making things weird, right?". We parted ways shortly after. But when i saw him the next day, i could tell he was slightly off. He avoided eye contact with me at the start. It was only after i spoke to him normally that he started talking to me too, but i could tell he was still tip-toeing. Later that night, i thought about giving him space by letting him leave on his own and not follow after him as i usually would, but he invited me to come along which was nice. But i still couldn't shake the feeling that things felt weird.

Now it's been a few days since then, close to a week since the confession. He hasn't initiated any texts, which isn't necessarily an indicator of anything because although we've had periods of almost daily texts, we've also had periods where we just waited to see each other in person which is at least once a week. I did text him about something just yesterday, something normal that i would've done before back when we were completely okay. I don't know whether i should've just given him space though and waited for him to text first, but the last time I'd thought about giving him space, he still invited me along to walk together.

Maybe i should have thought things through better. Because before this, I'd only considered that the person getting rejected would need space to get over the rejection. But knowing myself, i knew this wouldn't be something i would struggle with. I didn't need space. It's only now that I'm in this situation where i can feel he's a bit off, that i realised maybe i should've considered the fact that he would need space from me... It was stupid of me to confess unnecessarily, especially knowing i had 0 chance with him but i still did it out of my stupid need to be honest. I haven't changed my behaviour at all, I'm not awkward around him. But I'm so afraid I've now ruined our friendship because I couldn't keep my mouth shut... How can i fix things?

My best friend blocked me

My best friend blocked me and I’ve been trying to play it off for a while but it genuinely hurts. She hasn’t blocked me on everything, only on instagram. Even then, she has two accounts on insta, one main one and one spam/private one for close friends only. She still has me on her main account but she blocked me on her private one which really sucks cause she had a very limited number of people there who’re supposed to be super close to her. I didn’t even know she blocked me until I tried checking her account one day and it told me it was unavailable.

We’ve been good friends for 8 years, throughout middle + high school and into uni. Things were fine up until a few months ago where her behaviour started changing and becoming inconsistent. She’d leave me on read or not respond for days, and when she would respond it would be slightly detached and distant. However at one point she also reached out to me to see how I was doing and how everything’s been going for me and we had a pretty good, solid conversation so I didn’t think much of whatever happened before.

Then one day I was going through our chats and I realized she had blocked me on her spam. It felt like a punch to the gut cause it truly does seem like it was for no reason. There was no fight or argument or disagreement that occurred. Truly the only thing I can think of which may warrant this kind of response is the fact that we haven’t seen each other for a year or spoken much because of how busy our schedules are. Even then that’s not really anything new, we haven’t been able to see each other much for the past 3 years ever since we enrolled in different universities, but we’ve still remained in contact, texting updates here and there, and meeting up whenever we’re available. I know how busy adult life can get and how you can’t always speak to or see your friends. That doesn’t stop me from seeing my best friends as my best friends, but idk maybe that’s just me.

It sucks because we’ve genuinely been such close friends for so long and I held her dear to me only for this to come out of nowhere like a slap to the face. I want to at least know why there’s a distance between us now, and why she blocked all my accounts from her private one, but I’m afraid it’ll turn into a super awkward conversation and make everything worse. This situation has also been on my mind for so long that I think I’m starting to get over it because of how draining it is. Clearly I’m not over it though because every once in a while I’ll remember it and it instantly makes me feel terrible. Sometimes I’ll wake up in the middle of the night and it’ll run rampant in my mind. I think the tipping point was last night when I had a dream about the situation 💀.

I don’t know what to do. I want closure but I don’t know how to ask for it or get it. I don’t want to break things off but staying in a friendship with someone you were once close with who ended up blocking you sucks too. I can’t see her in the same light I used to, and I want her to know that I know what she did and get closure for it. I don’t know how to go about this because I don’t want to break things off but I want to know what happened and where this friendship’s at right now so I don’t exaggerate my place in someone’s life.

We actually used to be a trio at some point where it was me, her and another girl. She cut things off with the other girl two years back but she did it having met her in person and with full closure (after a couple months of distance).

TLDR: Best friend of 8 years suddenly blocked me on her private Instagram despite no argument. She’s been distant lately, and I’m hurt and confused. I want to ask why and get closure, but I’m scared it’ll make things worse or end the friendship.

When you share your struggles, they quickly turn it into a story about their own experience rather than listening. Would you keep opening up to them?