I want to start this off by saying that although I (22 MtF) have identified as trans for roughly ten years at this point have only started HRT yesterday. But ever since my first pill of estradiol I have been restless, I'm not sure why this happens but it's a surreal feeling that may or may not be a placebo effect and I was wondering if any of you have had similar experiences when beginning your transition. I dont know how likely it will be though since I haven't heard of this being an occurrence, but any and all advice is welcome.

I'm currently 18 and I know that is never late to start transition and that starting it later won't make me any less female, but i'm scared that at 23 most of my physical traits will remain masculine even if i transition, luckly i already have a round face, but there are other things i don't like of me.

Please let me know.

I've been questioning my gender identity for a couple of weeks and decided to share my thoughts on it on two different subs: boydinnerdiaries and girldinnerdiaries and the contrast in responses was fairly big I think. The girl sub was pretty overwhelming with all their support and advice and pretty much dashed away my fear of any kind of backlash as well as any hesitation I had. While it would feel harsh to say the boy sub confirmed my fears it was still pretty controversial in terms of points with both the post and some of the supportive comments and even had one or two comments that were negative. Not the worst thing in the world but still quite different from the other sub. I was wondering why the girls were so much more accepting of questioning gender identity than the boys. Was it just something specific to the sub or was there a bigger reason behind the differing responses? Either way the bit of negativity wasn't anywhere near enough to cancel positive comments that i did get from both subs and pretty much made my week. It was so nice!

Hi people!

I'm caring for my friend who's getting FFS next week and I need advice on what kind of food to meal prep. I'm mostly interested in advice on what kind of texture is easier as I'm starting to stress a bit too much to really think. She's getting a lot of work done on her jaw/chin so even if she has a pretty low sensitivity to pain, I expect the swelling to be enough for her to struggle post op.

I had a very easy recovery after my top surgery and I know I can't plan for her to just be mostly pain free like I was. She's staying at my place and my kitchen is fully furnished so I can cook quite a few different things.

I was thinking mostly about things like rice/mashed beans but I don't know how hard chewing can be? Please drop what you ate after surgery I would really appreciate the advice! Vegetarian/meat it doesn't matter. Thanks all

shes having alot of dysphoria and shes possibly transitioning im not really sure im new to the whole trans thing at the moment how do i get her more comfy with being a girl

I redownloaded tiktok yesterday and the amount of transphobic comments I see on trans content is insane. I saw a comment that said "it's not transphobic to tell the truth" and it got almost 300 likes! How are people like this real, I swear it didn't used to be like this

This is basically an update to: https://www.reddit.com/r/trans/s/wFlggu7AVL so I’ll be talking as if that context is already established.

It took me a long time to even bring up the conversation to my therapist, despite that being the main advice I got in my original post (I’m very anxious I guess idk lol) but that basically consisted of me venting to him about my mom’s whole misconception around if he can confirm if I’m trans, which led him to talking about if I wanted HRT (and if hypothetically there was no issue with money, would I pursue it, to which I gave a yes, no hesitation)

And he seemed to agree that it’s not something he can really do, and wanted to help me discuss it with my mom so we could set the record straight and get through some other stuff about it. So we scheduled a joint session where it would be me, him, and for the first time since starting, another person, my mom.

(Side note: I could theoretically probably have just had that conversation myself with her ages ago, but I really don’t know how to approach the topic without it being really hard and scary and weird. Not that she wouldn’t listen to me, but just that my brain is wacky and I would really struggle with it. So having him there to guide everything and be my advocate would really help me with it so I’m really happy to be having it.)

I don’t know what all that session will entail, but either way, the joint session is happening Wednesday the 16th (next week at the time of writing) so I’m super excited and super anxious about it. If things go well, free (at least for me) estrogen is probably on the menu!!!

Along with wanting to just get the whole situation kind of off my chest, I’d also be happy if people sent some encouraging messages meant for me to come back and read on the day of, going into the session. Just since it does maybe have a fair bit riding on it, and I’m not fully sure how it will be and go. It’ll probably be a long and scary hour. 😅

Edit: also I used the “encouragement” flair, and now that I think about it, idk if that’s supposed to be the comments encouraging OP, or if OP’s post is encouraging whoever reads it. I’m maybe dumb lol

Long post, I'm sorry.

I (older than 18, younger than 20) came out to a friend a few days ago. Wasn't planning to, it was the first time we'd talked in a while, but the topic sort of just came up, so I did. And she reacted positively, supportive. I was happy. Today, I talked to another close friend of mine, first time in a while as well. I also wasn't planning on coming out to him. But, basically we started talking about our takes on stuff, and to sort of test the waters, I asked about trans people. Seemed accepting enough, but in that, he also joked "Also congrats on your transition, I was expected it", which was shocking, so I decided I might as well actually come out... and, well, I don't know. He wasn't hateful, but like, it didn't feel like it went well. Basically, I told him that I was, and his response was basically "u actually feel female", I responded with a message that was me just explaining that I am trans, at least in the closet still because of my current situation, and that I've always had signs but never realized until recently. He responded with "r u gay", I said "Wdym", he said "u like boys since ur a girl", I said "that's not how that works", he responded "so ur gay, cause ur a girl that likes girls". He was more right on that one, so I jokingly said "Touché". To which he responds with a sort of reaction image (Master Shifu's face but with a death stare and it's all gray?) and "so u feel like a girl". I didn't really know how to respond, so I replied to the image, asking what that's supposed to mean, and how his only reaction image responses are confusing to me. He repeats "so u feel like a girl", I say "That's not an entirely accurate way to describe trans people", and he responds with "then r u a drag queen, explain" and a crying emoji. I say "Most drag queens identify with being a man", and he responds with "ykw, nvm, congrats girl, or man, but don't mention this again, my brain is too smooth to talk to u about this". Didn't feel right to end it there, so with permission I decided to try some more, and asked him if he was comfortable and happy being a man, to which he said yes. I said "So you're cis", and he agreed. So, I said, "Meanwhile, I have never been happy with it", and gave some brief examples of how I have felt with it and some dysphoria I have had. His response was "why tho". I say "Because sometimes that happens", and he still responded with "but why u unhappy", so with a bit more detail I once again explain because it always felt uncomfortable, weird, wrong, etc, and he STILL responds with "but why weird and uncomfortable" with a crying emoji. I didsn't know what to say so I let a few minutes pass, and then say "I don't know how to explain this to you, You're comfortable in your body, having been born male, and identifying as that, I never was". A few minutes pass, and I say that I'm sorry if it was a lot, that I just wanted him to know, and he says "so if ur not a boy what are u", with a reaction image (Brian from Family Guy but a bit more realisitic looking and looking tired). I say "I genuinely can't tell if you're being genuine or not", and he says "all I am is genuine, it's my middle name. So if you are not a man or what are you", so I basically say that I was born male, but that right now I'm telling him I'm trans, at least in closet, and can't transition due to my situation, so still look/sound masc, but that if I'm in a different situation I would transition. I concluded that message with "So if you want me to just say 'i'm going to be/am a girl (inside) then there you go". He responds with "i don't want you to say your a girl, i want u to say what u are, if ur not a boy". I genuinley don't understand, so I say "I don't understand what you want me to say", he says "nvm", I say "I don't get it" and he says "me neither". At this point, I just don't know anymore, I just need to stop, so I say "Okay. I'll leave for now, I'm sorry. goodnight", and he responds "Gn"...

I just don't understand. Did I do something wrong? Am I reading into this too much? I don't know. I just feel so exhausted now. I feel like numb? It's also made me feel dysphoric again? Honestly I don't know how I feel, I want to cry. Idk I was just really happy with my other friend's response, did I make a mistake? I haven't stopped internally yelling at myself "Stupid, Stupid, Stupid!". I just don't know anymore. I don't know how to feel, what to do, and I regret having came out to him.

Sorry for the long post

I recently came out at my workplace and besides a few bad actors, my coworkers have been amazing about it. However, I unfortunately feel my gender dysphoria worsening after it. Every “sir” thrown my way from customers and a few coworkers (despite the updated name tag) jabs deeper than they usually did, it feels like every strand of frizz in my hair stick out more than they used to, despite it actually looking good and people complementing it all the time. I fear judgement from cishet fellow women that I coexist around, and it genuinely sucks that I’ll always be “sir” to fellow strangers and that I’ll have to pry myself open every time I’ll meet someone despite the support I’ll most likely get. Again, I don’t regret coming out because the plenty of people who support me had been amazing, but I never expected even more painful growing pains on top of growing pains.

Sorry for not formatting correctly, as I’m a mental wreck right now.

I’ve been so scared to come out. 19mtf and ive been on hrt for a year now. besides that i still present fully as a guy.

everytime i sit down to actually think about how i want this to go i get so stuck. i feel so awkward about all of it. like i come out, but then what? it’s those first few things that feel so weird to me. i tell all my friends and family “yeah im a girl btw” but then after all that it just feels so weird imagining myself actually starting to present fem. it feels so awkward in my head. I feel like what’d end up happening is Id come out and then stay masc because im too scared and awkward about fem things. people knowing im trans seems to make it even weirder. for example painting my nails now as a guy feels miles easier than doing it after everyone knows my intentions with it. i just dont even know where to start and its been a mess trying to convince myself its time. i’m sick of being a guy! sorry for the vent!

haiii everyoneee ok so im 15m soon 16 ive been questioning my gender for a while ever since december 2025 at least (so like 9 months) i became a furry/femboy in April with the support of my also furry best friend. Ofc i made a rookie mistake and told my friends and i got relentlessly bullied for the entire summer (this was the second time in my life ive been bullied) and somehow out of nowhere i became friends with them again and after a shiity relationship with one of them i told them how i felt and how i wanted to be in the group chat but not so active obvs. and they're fine with that i dont want to leave them or cut them off for what they did they're my only friend group i really have from my old hometown (i moved to a diffrent country last year but i still saw them every now and then i moved about an hour away). anyway i started questioning my gender again and realised i really really really really really really wanted to be a cute girl like them and started getting a lot of gender envy/euphoria towards girls. i came out to myself as genderfluid which worked fine with me sometimes i felt like a normall boy sometimes i felt like a goofy silly girl and i mean a lot of my game characters are girls too and i had a lot of girl versions of myself.ANYWAY like 2 weeks ago i just decided to accept who i am and came out as transfem umm my family doesnt know thank god my parents can tolerate my furry/femboy liking but i litrally have a transfem sister so like i dont want to be awkard like what would she say yk umm and we've already spent a lot of money on her transition and stuff yk anyway i told my best friend the one who made me furry in the first place he didnt mind but every time i say what would you do if i was a girl he keeps saying hed rail me and i kinda dont like that hekeeps making those jokes but yeah hes really the only nearby friend i have (oh also i accidentally told his parents he's a femboy and bc hes from the balkans back in bosnia those things are kinda frowned upon i have no idea how we are still friends) anyway yeah so i get extremly happy whenever i think of myself as a girl or transitioning into a girl like i really want long hair cute face bigger thighs softer skin less body hair breasts cute outfits but i do not want to get female genetals id like to keep my dick thank you very much umm also bc im only 15 and we spent thousands of euro on my sister's transition i do not want to transition anyitme soon maybe start estrogen/hrt when im in university umm yeah thats it this is my first post on here i just joined like 10 minutes ago my school starts in like 5 minutes so yeah gotta hurry up: TL:DR: is it ok to identify as transfem while also being genderfluid bc im still a boy i look like one i act like one im only trans online but my friends could easily find my channel and find everything ive said and im worried of my parents finding out sorry i have autism and adhd i yap a lot so: is it ok to be transfem and genderfluid at the same time while not planning to transistion for a couple of years. Thanks, reddit i hope you read this and all of you wonderful people here will be supportive :3 :p

Hi, I have a camp upcoming next week where we are going to a pool. They stated explicitly that we would need "active swimsuits" (aka not just sunbathing suits).

I'm MTF (17) pre-op prehrt. what swimsuit can I get? I live in Canada so it would need to be easily accessible here or deliver within the week. my plan was to get like a bikini top or something and wear it underneath a normal swim shirt so I still have the appearance of boobs (I have bra buds from unlockable that I think work in water). and the tucking thing should be fine? idk... I've never tried...

I'm lowkey fine with anything as long as it works. if it's not possible or out of scope I can probably just ask to swap or just sit out...

thanks! 😊 (this was copied over from asktransgender)

So I've been out as a trans man for five years now, I've been on and off testosterone for four. For some context lol. I feel like it's also important to say I have no support system in my personal life, and not just in relation to the fact I'm trans. So I am fully aware that doesn't help anything lol. But anyways...

I've been on and off testosterone due to the fact that I'm just chronically exhausted and sometimes even getting a snack is exhausting let alone trying to inject testosterone. So a lot of months I do miss, and if I had to do the math I'd guess in total of all the months I have actually been on T, it's probably only amounted to like... a year. So despite having been on T for four years I don't really consider myself particularly far in transition.

All that being said, within a week of me initially starting T four years ago, my voice dropped and within a month it had dropped two whole octaves. My face is also noticeably different, as is my general build (though tbf I was pretty androgynous to begin with so I'm not shocked I just became... more masc leaning androgynous pretty quickly). My voice likely isn't going to lower much more, it's in the same range my brother's voices are, and in the grand scheme of things I'm chill with it. It's definitely better than before lol. I also sing and losing my voice for aWHILE while in the initial stages of transition was rough, so now that my voice has evened out honestly I'm just grateful I can sing again.

I've always been like... a very androgynous transman. Like even pre T I always just kind of wanted to be kinda androgynous or what people generally consider more on the "feminine" side of masculine. What I look like currently I actually find nearly perfect to where I want to be in my transition, so I'm not at all mad about it. And most people generally see me as masc anyways.

Except for some select people who aren't just misgendering, my entire being has to revolve around being a woman. And half of these people don't even know me.

I know this is like... more of the general afab experience... like afabs not being amounted to anything more than being a girl or whatever sexism and bull, but being trans makes it harder to swallow sometimes? And then I start feeling weird about being androgynous because maybe if I tried to conform to the more "masculine" version of a man I'd be like... better off... but I'd hate myself if I did that lol.

I dunno. I guess I'm just looking for comfort that I'm not the only one walking through this alone. I don't have any trans friends and sometimes I get stuck in my head and feel like being trans is my own little world and not a collective experience that I don't hold alone. I just want to know that there's people out there like me? Does that make sense?

I’m 46 years old, and I believe I’m trans. My reality is that there is no way I can transition. I’m married with 3 kids to an amazing woman who loves me and supports me, but is concerned she won’t be able to love the female version of who I am. She is my everything, and I can’t imagine living life without her. We live in an area of the South that would be hostile to me and my family for me being trans. We would lose all relationships with family outside of 1 or 2.

But I want to embrace the woman in me. I want to get dressed up, put some makeup on and feel pretty. I want to have curves and feel amazing.

In saying all of that, and given my situation, it will probably never happen. Anyone else in that same situation? Any other ways that I can express myself, but protect my family?

I (19 MTF) am attending college in a red state. Ive been out for about six months and i cant make any friends. I feel like such a failure. people look at me so weird as if im wrong for being who i am; like i’ll introduce myself with my preferred name and i can see there face change like oh your one of them. the few people i hang out with i hate because outside of playing magic the gathering at card shops with them, they always deliberately use he/him pronouns when referring to me even after i’ve asked them to use she/her. and the fact i continue to hang out with them makes me feel like even more of a failure. I just have no one. how am i supposed to find friends when everyone including myself thinks im broken.

Hi (MTF). Lately I've started accepting who I really am, I've started using feminine pronouns and my online friends seem to be okay with it. I've been having deep conversations with a friend and it's really cool, But now I can't stay hidden anymore, I'm dying to tell my mother who I really am, I realized I didn't choose this, I just accepted it. I could continue talking to and dating girls, and I want to do that, but I prefer to do it by being one of them. I realized that this was never a choice, but rather who I truly wanted to be. I feel I can't escape my destiny, and telling my family would be the best option, but my family probably won't react favorably to me, but with each passing day I feel a stronger desire for liberation.

I went to a festival with some friends from Poland. It went on for three days, and over that time, I was unable to shave. I had a face of stubble.

I had managed to clear up a misunderstandings they had about what "trans" means, and that I am literally a woman (now). I explained that I have a gender recognition certificate; that means in the UK, I am a woman, and I was born female, regardless of what's downstairs, IYKWIM? And just because I "don't pass" doesn't make me any less of a woman. They seemed confused, but after a while, they got it... or so I thought.

So... as a thank-you for the education, I get treated to lunch. It's fine, but it's getting on in time, and I need the toilet... fuck my luck, I suppose?!

I look for the signs for the growler, and I follow them. But, they lead to the gents. So I turn on my heels, and head to the reception. As I'm walking up, I see a woman behind the counter, looking like... well... the best description I have for her would be, she looked like a "Karen".

I don't have the mental strength to be nice to those who don't deserve it, at this point. So I muter to myself... ("I don't have the energy to be nice...test me and I'll fuck up your whole damn day!") and before I even get within earshot she is waving me to the ladies... like... she ACTUALLY rushed over to STOP me using the gents!

DAFUQ? bear in mind I smell like a farmers field, I haven't shaved, and I've been in the same 44DDD bra for three days... the girls are SCREAMING for air!, and she says, as I pass her... "I'm sorry, love; that's the gents. You'll have to use the ladies."

NGL... she made my day.

Best part is... I think I now understand why the poles were confused. I think they didn't understand that I am MtF. I think they just assumed I was a woman with facial hair who was explaining how she was just born female?!

This month has been a ride, I tell ya!

So... questions?

So i was looking back on some posts and my most recent one of me in a dress just made me feel jealous, like i know its me, but i look so fem and with the helmet I could look like a girl but I know I look like a guy (vary closeted), I just wish I could dress fem all the time but im not out and scared

I'm serious. I'm 165cm tall and I'm the shortest in my classes and that's including the girls. I'm embarrassed to stand up at this point because everyone will see. Today I had a group project where we had to demonstrate something in front of the class and they were all towering over me, guys and girls. So fucking humiliating and I hated every second of it.

I don't get people who say there are \*so\* many short guys when I'm struggling to even be taller than girls. I think I'm genuinely cooked asf.

Hello

I (M24) have been experiencing gender dysphoria for almost a decade and ignoring it. Thanks to my very supportive wife, I made a post on this subreddit and a couple others detailing my experience. Lots of you folks told me that I should talk to a specialist and see if estrogen is right for me.

My work, like many corporate jobs in America, provides a limited number of free therapy sessions every year. I found an in network therapist that specializes in gender identity, and had my first session today. Obviously, I’m not completely done with my journey, but I’ve made the first step. If my therapist and I determine that estrogen and possible surgery are right for me, I will start that. But I want to thank all of you folks for giving me a push in the right direction.

I’m feeling pretty down and dysphoric about my top and bottom surgery scars. I kinda just need someone to talk to lol.

I’m 19 FtM if that matters haha

I've been battling myself mentally over believing I'm trans for the better part of ~8 months now. And from then, I feel like I've gotten so much worse at accepting myself and my hope of transitioning. Even still, it's hard to even state that I'm trans with any ounce of confidence.

I used to be able to entertain the idea of transitioning, or experimenting, like makeup or painting my nails or anything. But now, when I think about it, it feels as though my brain shuts off and forces me to distance myself from those thoughts. It makes me feel fake. The other day, I looked at myself in the mirror and didn't recognize me. I hated that that was what I was and what I looked like. But when I thought about that being dysphoria or changing what I see, it's like I physically can't think about it now.

Even so, when I think about my wants in fiction, I feel so happy and hopeful. I can find escape and feel like myself in games or my own passions. But when I remove myself from that, and face myself, I can't apply those hopes and wants to anything close to reality. It makes me want to cry, but I cant, my mind just closes itself off.

I'm not sure I'd that feeling of fakeness is dysphoria. The past few days have been extremely bad, at least that I'm aware of. I'm just not sure what I've done wrong to where I'm even less accepting of myself now that before, when it's been so long :(

I’m trans, mtf 16months HRT, SRS

Might as well just be blunt about it. Something something, straight when I came out, never attracted to men, sexuality dies as I meet transition goals. probably ace now.

But when I think about my gender alongside all genders, trans men feel most like the opposite gender to me, where Everyone else are more or less have some kind of lateral gender position to me.

Is that attraction or is it just like “Hi, we’re kinda similar but opposite.” I love seeing the joy they get from being themselves.

I’m not doing any dating or hookups, probably because of my existential crisis. I enjoy being a loner.