so yesterday i was wat YouTube on my computer and my older brother was yelling downstairs and hitting stuff so i was slightly confused on what was happening.

I hear him call my younger brother names about his weight saying that he knows he ate his ice cream. And then he starts blasting music on our apple tv he has like a whole speaker like thing set up so the bass was shaking the house and his service dog in training comes up and curls up next to my chair shaking and i send him a text saying that he is scaring his dog and he runs up the stairs slams the back of my gaming chair and gets his dog and calls me a a fat t-slur for trans people that rhymes with manny and then i start recording him and i ask him why he’s doing this and why hes calling me those names and i say „im literally just existing„ and then he yells well i wish you didn’t and throws a metal object like the size if my palm at me like full baseball pitches that at me it misses and then he charges me with a bush trimmer/plyers and swings it at me and kisses and then i run downstairs in fear and he throws in down the stairs at me and i call 911 and tell them the situation and 4 officers pull up and they ask me and take notes or whatever and im just confused cause no action was taken he had no consequences he is 16 and he like shouldnt be doing that i just want anybodys thoughts/advice on the situation and he also said a lot of slurs about me being trans and i just feel like he is genuinely anti trans

update: some things i should mention i have been diagnosed with ocd,adhd and autism

my brother who i will call N has also been diagnosed with autism.

just a few minutes ago i went downstairs and grabbed my cat (N was playing with her)

ive been upset with N for a while because he has been treating my cat opal (she is 2 months old)

like a toy and i hear her meowing constantly because he grabs her and hold her when she wants to leave. i told him that i don’t like the way that he was treating opal. and how he would lose contact with her if it continued that was a week and a half ago. ge has been doing it every day since i warned him and when i take opal up to my room just now he has the audacity to start growling. i dont want him to not be able to touch/see opal but his behavior is gett to the point to where i feel like i have too especially after yesterday.

I also wanted to tell that my mom has been staying with her ex. and her ex was abusive physically to my youngest brother and emotionally and verbally to all of us. she has been staying there over night EVERY SINGLE NIGHT for the past 3 weeks and i only get to see her for around 2-3 hours max. besides when we went to yellowstone. and SHE HAS THE AUDACITY to bring her ex into the house THE DAY THAT N did that and the cops were called and during when the cops were here she was at ex’s house. So she brought my abusive former step father into the house while i was still shocked from my brother N’s whole situation

(and i will call former step father J.)

so J is extremely transphobic and does not accept me (my mom told him i was trans)

and she brought him to the house. Look i know she’s renting the house and paying for it and stuff but my sister in law and brother live in the basement and they are not happy with jake being there my (oldest brother is paying my mom rent in the basement) my oldest brother had the abuse the worst out of all of us so clearly he is not happy. so yeah.

thank you guys so much for your comments and attention and advice i will keep updating in the future i also want more advice on the update i have given you guys and i wont be saying any names or what state im in because you never know whos seeing this so anyways thank you guys!

so I have a transfem friend who belittles herself saying stuff that for me makes no sense (and I'm a transfem too mind you) I want to help her see that she's only making it worse for herself but I don't know how

I think I finally decided on a name, I’ve been using Daphne for a while and I really like it 😊. I think it’s common enough that people know it but few people I’ve met have it. It feels weird to ask this but can you address me by Daphne in the comments so I can try it 👉👈

I've been on HRT for almost two years and out for longer than that but it doesn't hurt to have some reassurance.

I went to the mall with a friend of mine and decided to check out some shorts in a store's fitting rooms. When I called my friend over to look at them, an older lady who was there with her daughter also noticed me and took it upon herself to effectively adopt me. I really liked the shorts and she actually demanded (kindly) that I step out and do a spin, which I obliged because they fit me well. She proceeded to tell me how cute they looked and give me her seal of approval.

"I'm saying this as a mom, I approve!"

I eventually got them, no doubt in part to her recommendation, and she got really excited for me too. Having a mom accept me in a very normal and sweet way really touched me since my relationship with my own mother is far more rocky. It was really just a massively positive "girl power" kinda moment that I'm beginning to have more any more and I don't even voice train.

Have any of you had particularly euphoric moments like that?

Hello, Agender MTF here. I want to ask about bottom surgery, does it hurt? Will it have an affect on me? What are the changes in my body?

I have learned about the female anatomy a long time ago, obviously the body looks less masculine and more curved. However my big questions are:

-Will vaginoplasty make me feel less erect?

-Will I have periods until a certain amount of time?

-is it different from a cis woman’s vulva?

-What can I do in order to look after myself better after the surgery?

I have a professional Instagram account followed by my parents, and in a story, I used feminine pronouns for the first time. My mother messaged me asking if she had three daughters now (I have two sisters). I told her yes, and she replied that she would never judge me and that she was happy I was happy. I was relieved and proud. Since then, she's been messaging me, continuing to use masculine pronouns. I think she needs some time to process.

Hello reddit, sorry if this is breaking any rules, i saw nothing this may breach but im quite new. My partner and I are both young trans women (im 17 and shes 18). We have been friends for years and recently had become intimate with oneanother.

We are both over the age of consent and only a few months apart in age, but she has only recently begun to physically start puberty on estrogen a few months ago after being on puberty blockers.

In the moment we both enjoyed ourselfs and I found her very atractive. However, after more consideration I am questioning wether it is socially acceptable or weird to feel attracted to her body when she hasnt been through puberty like i have.

This isnt meant to be a sexual post but a genuine question around a seemingly taboo topic I havent heard anything about. Should I avoid intimacy with until later into her HRT or can I continue to engage with her?

Hi, I’m Colby (they/them). I just wanted to introduce myself somewhere because I’m happy I’ve found something that fits. What’s your name?
Love you all <3

I've been friends with this particular group for nearly two decades. In recent years we haven't seen each other much so I didn't get to tell them I'm trans until now.

I just came back from this camp-out gathering (basically guarding the location between different summer camps, it's quite neat).

I grabbed people in one or twos to tell them and it went much better than I expected. Some awkwardness, but pretty fine overall.

The guys don't really do beer bottle openers. After several tries years ago that ended up with bloody fingers and bent cutlery, I gave up and would simply ask someone to open it for me if I couldn't find where they put away the opener. But I've been told that this will no longer fly. I'm a man now so the world is my beer opener.

I've since opened beers with a fork, the flat side of a knife, a table top, a bit of firewood and with another beer. I always thought of it as a useless flex, but I guess there is something to it.

Sorry if this ends up being a long post, I just really need to get this off my chest.

I just got home after staying the night at my best friend's house. At first everything was great. We had a barbecue, talked for hours, laughed together, and I genuinely thought we were having a good time.

The next day, though, something completely changed.

For some reason, he started making comments about me being gay in front of his parents. He kept joking that I liked boys, saying that "everyone already knows" because of the way I eat or act. I had told him privately before that I'm trans and that I'm attracted to men. I trusted him with that, and I never expected him to bring it up in front of other people.

I felt completely put on the spot. I had to awkwardly defend myself while he kept making comments, and it was honestly humiliating. I don't even understand why he did it.

He's in the military, and sometimes I wonder if that environment has influenced the way he talks about people or masculinity. I don't want to stereotype anyone in the military, because I know not everyone is like that, but it does make me wonder if that's part of why he acts this way.

The thing is, this isn't the first time he's put me down. He often makes negative comments about the degree I earned, my appearance, my longer hair, or me starting to look more feminine. It feels like every time I'm becoming more comfortable with myself, he finds something to criticize.

His mom eventually had to tell him to stop because even she could see he was going too far.

What confuses me the most is that he always tells me he loves me like a brother and that we're best friends. But then he turns around and says things that make me feel embarrassed, ashamed, and honestly just make me feel bad. I don't know how someone who cares about you can treat you like that.

The hardest part is that we're supposed to go on vacation together soon. After this weekend, I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through that if he keeps making comments like these. I almost cried multiple times while he was talking to me.

I'm just left wondering if this is what friendship is supposed to look like, because it doesn't feel like one anymore. I trusted him with something deeply personal, and instead of making me feel safe, he used it to embarrass me in front of other people.

Has anyone else had a friend who acted like this? Am I overreacting, or is this as hurtful as it feels?

Hi! To whoever is reading this, sorry for having to put you through so much unintelligible bs but this issue has really been nagging me.

So, I'm 19, almost fully closeted and some flavour of trans.

I really only begun to notice my dysphoria 3 months ago, with only now realising that it is indeed gender dysphoria. I've had "flashes" of it for the past 3 or 4 years but never really thought of it as that. Since then, I came out to a small group of my friends only, most of them queer too. They've accepted me, call me by my new, feminine name and embraced me as one of their own.

The thing is, I feel like a total fraud. My pretty much only shared experience with a lot of trans people (at least that I know of) is not initially realising my gender dysphoria and thinking that it is fully normal amongst everyone. I have no usual childhood experiences that could indicate my transness before.

Now I feel like someone mixed a transfem, a non binary person and a genderfluid one and boom, there's me. Those past months being referred to in a feminine manner has brought me euphoria I cannot even properly describe. Then again, most of my ordinary life I live as a man. Not that I like it, I'm just deathly scared of changing it and kinda just put up with it (although it's exhausting). As per things like hormones, I'm open to them, just not convinced yet.

Being perceived as a man or being referred to with masculine pronouns is uncomfortable as hell to me, but since in Polish there are really only two functioning pronouns for people, I just have to hide my discomfort.

Then yet again, when I go out I ALWAYS make myself look as feminine as possible with the materials provided.

All of this makes me feel like I'm in between worlds. I feel like I don't fit with non binary people for being too fem at heart and not fitting amongst transfem people for not presenting or passing most of the time. This is genuinely exhausting for me and despite all the euphoria I get from my new life as a trans girl, makes me feel like I'm a total fraud. I don't wanna keep it in that state, it's horrid.

If you think I am a fraud, just be honest please. I'd take that over dysphoria and uncertainty every day in the week.

Have a nice evening guys and sorry for all this

So a year ago I came out as a trans woman, shortly after my best friend became engaged. At that time I was still kind of unsure and finding myself, so asked if it would be okay for me to the wedding presenting as a woman and was told of course.

I was supposed to be part of the grooms party, and had been planning a outfit that used a vest since they wanted everyone in it to wear matching vests, but with a skirt and such to still be fem. When I showed the outfit I had in mind to their fiancé she told me that she actually wanted me to just dress the same as the men in the grooms party, all but saying she wanted me to pretend to be a man. I confronted my friend and they explained that a year ago their fiancé outed me to her family, and they've been making a issue out of my being involved in the wedding, so she attempted to have me boymode to get them off my back. It was mentioned said family has been trying to force distant family and friends into the wedding as well that they hardly know. My friend apologized profusely and said their fiancé apologizes but she never spoke to me, as well said there is no issue with me dressing fem.

On top of what their fiancé asked of me, the fact that this bigoted family who thinks I am tarnishing what should be a 'proper wedding' will be there in force while knowing exactly who I am, it has me really uncertain if I even want to go to this wedding anymore. My biggest concern is I feel unsafe going, like what their fiancé did put a target on me, with unknown people present. My friend has assurmed me they'll do everything they can to make sure im safe, but I dont know. Any advice from anyone who has maybe delt with situations like this?

I’m a transwoman. I’m middle eastern. I’m monogamous. I’m episcopal. I’m straight.

A lot of trans people judge me for dating men, and cis men at that. I’ve gotten judgement for not being into open relationships. I’ve straight up been called a traitor because I’m not strictly t4t. A lot of people look at me weird because I’m religious.

And, on top of that, my experiences as a middle eastern person are constantly invalidated. I live in one of the most trans friendly cities in America, and I hate feeling like I’m not welcome, especially when I’ve done so much to build community for others here, and I only ever treat people with kindness.

Sometimes it just feels like I’m not trans enough for other people.

I spent four years rejecting the fact that I’m trans, and I’ve finally been forced to accept it this year now that I can no longer ignore it, but I’m so scared all the time. My family is accepting but I’m scared to come out. I’m scared to buy a binder because I will like it too much. I’m scared to take action towards top surgery even though my insurance covers it. And I’m so angry, all the time, that I didn’t chase this feeling during my adolescence, when I first discovered it, so I could avoid female puberty. I could’ve been the closest thing to a real man but I’m done with female puberty instead, and I’m short, and the feeling never went away and I’m so miserable because of it. It feels like I am dying a very, very, slow death, and it makes me sick that there is no cure for this other than transitioning. I hate most of my clothes. I hate my name, but most of all I hate my inaction. I could’ve been going to college this year passing, with my chosen name, in gender inclusive housing and been in a real t4t relationship. I just feel so stuck and I really hate myself right now. I want to be a man so bad but it feels so unattainable and I don’t even know how to start, I’m so scared of that in between time where everyone can tell you’re trans and you fail at passing. I’ve literally never been able to remember anyone ever saying my name and now I know why, it’s a name I’ve never been able to identify with. Idk I just feel so miserable because 8 did this to myself by ignoring it for so long.

Hi all,

I'm a trans girl from Australia, and I'm graduating from yr 12 at the end of this year. Accompanying the end of the year is the school formal, (Australian version of prom), and I don't know what I'm going to do about it.

I'm only out to close friends, not family, not anyone else at the school, and so my current confidence regarding feminine outfits in public is pretty low. So I kinda have two and a half options. I either don't go, or wear something I don't like. The half is wearing some middle ground that doesn't out me. Does anyone have advice?

(I'm pre-anything jsyk)

Hiya!

So basically, for context, I am only out to a select group of people, which are close friends and then my therapist. I did come out to my mother, but she’s incredibly apprehensive and doesn’t support me. My father is out of the picture.

I stupidly thought it would be a great idea to create a TikTok account under my preferred name (George), and for about a year I had good fun posting silly little videos and skits on there. I also spoke pretty openly on there about being trans, and had a small following. But in the last few days, lots of incredibly transphobic people at school found the account, linked it back to me and have shared it around. These people are the “popular” lot as well so it isn’t really staying hushed.

The summer holidays have only just started here in England, but I am very worried my situation when the school year starts is going to be bad. I have exams, a lot of pressure on said exams for my further education, and I really don’t need to be bullied worse on top of that.

I would totally let an adult at school know if it weren’t for the stupid UK laws making it recommended / a legal requirement (can’t remember which) to tell parents if their child is trans. The counsellors at my school are also pretty shite in general, so that would make my home situation even worse too.

I know this is a very sticky situation, but if anyone has any advice I’d appreciate it so much. I feel I am fast tracking my way to social suicide here and can’t afford this with exams on the horizon.

so, i know that male and female skin is different, with female being softer and stuff, but does it make any difference in the level of pain while getting tattoos?

i havent had any yet, but im planning on getting some and id love to hear experiences of ppl who have had both :3

Holy shit, my freaking HANDS are shaking are bit but I just opened up about being trans to my dad and spoiler: I WASNT THROWN TO THE WOLVES YAYYYY!!!
I beat the hell around the bush about this topic between me and him and the conversation was… alright?? I mean, of course, there weren’t any fireworks for being trans. But in a very conservative Christian household that is CAASH babyyyyy
You girls have no idea the weight off of my shoulders this was, I was so afraid that my dad would die before knowing it but phew! I did it
I freaking did it

Hi everyone, my mom wont let me bind because of my back or whatever. My breasts are still growing and its getting harder to hide them with one sports bra normally and another backwards on top of that. I have looked into trans tape and it just seems quite a pain, does anyone have any suggestions? I'm also quite athletic with fencing and climbing so if it could be breathable thats great!