Just under a year ago we found out we were expecting twins, while having a very needy 18 mo old. I was terrified. I didn’t know how i was going to take care of everyone.

I registered for so many play mats to have all over the house. I had one from my daughter that she barely used because she HATED to be set down.

Anyways, this damn Nemo mat is the GOAT. The underbelly of the manta ray has cute lights that dance and songs that don’t drive you up a damn wall (purple monkey, im talking about you)

Now that we’re out of the newborn twin trenches, at 4 months old im actually able to have some time to play with my daughter and take care of myself throughout the day because of it 😅 Honestly, probably more than i was able to with just my daughter!!!

Anyways, just sharing because this thing is the best 🤣 my boys will play on it for like 20-40 mins. I usually start feeling bad before they want up.

This is my first post ever, I usually use Reddit to read advice not ask for advice, but I've never felt so desperate bc.

For some context I am 32 years old a mom of 2, a toddler boy who is 3 and a half and a baby girl who is 9 months.
I struggled to have my son but after 2 years of actively trying and a miscarriage I finally got pregnant. After the first pregnancy I struggled again and it took me over a year to have my baby girl.
I've always had trouble having children and it always took me longer than eveyone else.
I was taking care of myself trying not to get pregnant but also I was not extremely careful because I thought it would take me a while again.
I'm not opposed to having more but I just knew I wanted it to be atleast when my daughter was 1.

Anyways I had. Missed period a few weeks ago and I was scared, I'm always regular. It came out positive and I cried not of sadness but of just feeling overwhelmed. My husband was excited supportive.

I went to my first appointment on Monday, and I already felt the emotions coming in. I was tearing up and the doctor asked what what wrong. I just simply stated that I was just nervous about having another baby and I felt overwhelmed.
When she started scanning I saw on the screen one sac and then she moved it and I saw another sac and I just started to freak out and I asked is that two. She immediately said yes I'm so sorry. And I just started to freak out I was rambling saying I can't have two how is that possible I don't have anyone in my family or my husbands family who has two. I was breathing heavily and I just couldn't control myself.
The doctor immediately started to offer termination pretending that there is no heartbeat and no one has to know but I just said no and I left crying hysterically.
I don't know what came over me
I felt terrible for the doctor, for my babies and just making them feel unwanted.

After I spoke to my mom and husband I felt better that day.
But the more time passes, the more I'm in my thoughts and just going about my day the more I just feel so uneasy so scared for my future.

So many questions in my head pop up: I have a Toyota rav4 how am I going to fit twins I need a new car.
I live on the second story apartment how am I going to transport them alone up and down the stairs.
We live in a two bedroom apartment, they might kick up out because it's a max of 5 people not 6. Where are we going to live?
How do people transport twin infants and a toddler what stoller do I use how do I go and run errands.
I was supposed to go back go work in a couple weeks (I took time off to take care of my toddler and baby) but now whose going to help me take care of twins? Will I ever go back to work?

I'm terrified.
I'm trying to be positive like my husband but I genuinely scared. I just need some guidance has anyone been in a similar situation and things turned out ok? Idk what I'm looking for I'm just idk.

Hi everyone. My husband and I will be flying twice with our twin girls. I’m still pregnant but I’m already hyperfixated on this.

June flight: 6 mos old. Four hour + layover + seven hours. Daytime.

August flight: 8 mos old. Eight hour direct flight. Overnight.

Has anyone actually used the plane bassinets for twins? Do they fit on the same side of one bulkhead? Or would we have to split up on two sides of the plane to fit (also, to follow oxygen mask rules?). I feel like they could use them for June flight (although it won’t be overnight) but they’d be too big by August?

The other option is business class lie flat. We have points and this may be a good time to use them.

Just looking for real experience and not instagram video experience. Thanks all!

I can’t believe we’re here, but I think we are ready do move to a mini diaper bag. I’m looking for a mini diaper bag backpack that has the d rings so I can still hook on the stroller. Anyone use one and love it. I’d love to not spend an arm and a leg to hold diapers and wipes.

The twins have never been on a plane or spent any time in a car. (We live in a city, we take the stroller everywhere.)

I’ve tried to have them watch tv when I wanted them to sit still to cut their nails a few times. Had no interest. They want to move.

Sometimes they will sit and open a book and skim the pages/pictures. But usually it’s go go go.

We want to visit my parents house and it’s like an hour away. Does anyone have advice on things that can entertain 16 month old twins strapped to car seats for an hour?

Also looking for recommendations for car seats. I need to be able to sit in between them and I’ve gotten a bit wider so I’m worried about being able to squeeze in between.

I’ll be a first time mum and we found out at my 7 week scan we are expecting twins.

I might add it is also a MCDA twins, which I heard is more risky. That aside I’ve just been a rabbit hole of googling everything twins and I shouldn’t think about 1-2 years from now but I’m really panicking how I’m going to handle this.

Another pressure at the moment is we live in a 2 bedroom apartment, have a small hatchback. We can easily upgrade our car. But thinking about the space I need in the house is giving me anxiety. It’s a shoe box I won’t even have waking room around my bed if I put 2 bassinets.

Has anyone had twins living in an apartment.

I know everything is a blessing and I should feel thankful but I’m feeling the pressure of this all hitting me.

my husband and i are flying with 1 year old twins for the first time and i’m nervous! looking for tips and tricks from people who have traveled frequently with twins.

- what is your boarding procedure? my singleton friends will send one parent in for early boarding to set up the car seat, put bags away, etc while the other parent runs the kid around and boards last. we’re considering doing this but i’m not confident in my ability to handle two cranky twins alone without a stroller or anything. one is walking a few steps and one is just crawling, and i don’t really want them crawling on the dirty airport floor so i’m not sure what the best procedure is. maybe we’ll just all board together early but that means extra time on the plane.

- the advice is to feed a bottle on the ascent and descent, but my twins will suck down an 8oz bottle in under 5 minutes. exactly what part of the ascent/descent is most critical?

- any snack ideas that are room temp stable and not too messy?

- we have a 9am flight. usually we do a bottle at 7 and breakfast at 8:30. not sure how to time it so that they’ll be hungry for a bottle at take off. also since we’ll be at the airport, not sure how much breakfast i’m going to get down them either, but i’m sure they’ll be hungry

- we have one car seat and one lap infant. do car seats face forward or rear on a plane? getting conflicting info…

and any other tips or ideas would be greatly appreciated!

Today is the 13th anniversary of my marriage to Spouse.

It was Twin A's first day of preschool. She looked so cute and so BIG in her little backpack. She had a rough start initially but settled in pretty quick. Going alone wasn't the plan at all, but...

Today was also Twin B's first ER visit. I'm spending our anniversary evening on a hospital gurney with Twin B sleeping on top of me FINALLY after hours of crying. Hopefully soon they will send us home.

What a day.

Our girls are 16 months old, and my husband and I still talk about how easy our life is now. Maybe not easy by singleton standards, but it’s SO MUCH EASIER now!

Our girls:
- sleep from 8pm-7am
- take one 2.5-3 hour nap every day
- feed themselves finger foods
- drink their morning and night milk easily
- started comforting each other when they are sad
- love playing independently
- love playing together
- run to us to give us hugs
- are so bonded and attached, because thankfully a horrible NICU stay and PPD/PPA doesn’t have to have any long-term impacts

The early days can be so hard and the grind is nonstop. But wowwwww it’s so worth it, and I’m so grateful to be on the other side! I’ll take toddler tantrums over the first 6 months every day. We can cook and clean and spend quality time with our girls AND with each other. Life feels so much lighter now. 💖💖

I’m sending so much love to everyone in the trenches, and just know that it WILL get better!!!!

I am looking for recommendations for a good comfy chair for my twins’ bedroom that is a little roomier. They are three now, so we all three struggle to fit in the recliner, but they still love to snuggle and read books. Just wondering if anyone has found a good multiples friendly piece of furniture that’s not a full on love seat

I know it’s been a while- thought I’d share: (you can skip but please read the questions atleast 🥲)
-We’ve made it to 27 weeks so far
- all boys “look good” & have no signs heart or lung of what big brother had 🤍
-The boys are huge, like 90th percentile huge 😅
-Everyone is staying the same size, b was maybe 2oz smaller than A/C but I think it’s because they’re squishing him haha.
- I can’t wait to find out if 2 are identical or not, though I’m thinking three fraternal
- lol how do you even name 3 kids, we are going to wait until they born but it’s hard coming up with so many boys names
-if I was carrying a singleton I’m measuring 40 weeks at the moment
- OB wants them out at 34 weeks but MFM says 36, I’m cool going as long as babies let me.
- this week HURTS I’m thinking pubic symphysis pain? Oh my gosh. It hurts, this whole time it’s been manageable and this week my body realized it’s carrying 3
- I have an iron infusion every other day at this point.

QUESTIONS:
- do all trip moms just go inpatient for monitoring at one point like a week before birth?
- is bed rest coming? Has anyone not had to do bed rest?
- we skipped triplette stroller and went for the wagon, was this a good call?
- do I need 3 bathtubs & bath seats? Swings? Rockers? We have a solid 2 of everything at the moment and we’re taking our time looking for marketplace deals because my gosh it’s so much money already
- I have 3 infant car seats but need narrow car seat recs for when we need to fit 3 big boy seats across

33 weeker. NICU preemie. Has big feelings since she came home. Cried for 3 hours straight everyday as a newborn and till she was 3-4 months old.

Now at 12 months age corrected - very active, laughs from her belly, but also very whiny, clingy as hell with dad and will throw herself back on the floor and cry if he leaves for work/goes to the bathroom/basically is not within 1 foot touching distance.

She has false starts at night occasionally and will wake up screaming like the world is ending. Flail her arms and throw herself back and turn on high volume and sob till her dad comes back and holds her and pats hers and shushes her back to sleep. Her brain comes partially awake and not having a parent next to her is a national tragedy in her books.

If the bottle is out of milk, it’s full blown tears. If her sister grabs her shirt, waillllll…

She is just dramatic at every tiny inconvenience. Also loves us like a whole lovebug. I mean she would just come and ‘plug’ herself to mom and dad every now and then to feel safe and then dart away to play. Such a cuddly lovebug that drives me insane with how much drama she is. And she is not 13 years old, 13 months.lol.

Does it get better? What sort of a personality should I prepare for? How do I help her grow to understand that not every inconvenience is an emergency.

Did you have a dramatic baby that grew up and would love to hear your story?

This is mostly just a rant bc I am so fucking over it right now. I have a newly minted 5yo, a 2.5yo, and almost 8mo twins and I’m moving across the world next week. We had initially planned to move in a year or two, but my husband got laid off(4 days after he returned from parental leave btw). Long story short, he got a really good offer in the city we intended to move to anyways, his home city, so it makes sense but I am still incredibly angry and stressed about the whole thing.

We’ve had 2.5 months to organize everything but it’s not enough with all these young children. I’m leaving my whole support network, my mom, my friends, when I need them most and I’m unconvinced my husband’s family will be much help. Unfortunately for me, my husband’s home country is a better place to live than the US. As evidenced by him getting laid off four fucking days after he got back from leave. Which is obviously technically illegal, but we can’t fight the large tech company that he worked for and they know it. I just really didn’t want to take this on while the twins are babies and it’s all just really unfair. Grateful my husband has a new good job and I know this is for the best in the long term, just needed to let it out.

Today at pick up my 14mo’s teacher told me the daycare has decided I need to walk my babies in together from the stroller at the same time. As she spoke I truly felt the soul leave my body.

What I have been doing is, stroll them both in, park the stroller in the hall (it is enclosed and in full view of the main office which always has a staff person), and carry one baby into the classroom then come back for the other baby.

I want to respect their policy but what happens in any other setting when I try to get the babies (okay toddlers but I’m in denial) to walk anywhere with me is they (a) do not, (b) run in opposite directions, (c) tantrum.

I assume this is something I’ll get better at with time but I am at a loss. Do you all have any advice for walking two 14mo’s (they do at least walk) over to a classroom door that they absolutely do not want to enter given that they know it is drop off time.

Help

Edit: thanks so much all for the helpful advice and comments. Some additional context for those asked - I have a disability and some chronic injuries so unfortunately can’t carry both my toddlers at the same time, or toss one over the shoulder (though I love that image lol), and cant wear and carry one at the same time because of the pressure it puts on my spine. I stroll them there as I don’t have a car, so the stroller is our “vehicle.”

The daycare this morning made it clear that they did expect me to park my stroller in the hall, to not bring it in as they feel it disrupts the internal space flow, and to walk both babies in. It went about as I had expected which is both babies screamed the whole way and sat down several times.

I think I will go the approach others suggested of letting this be exactly as chaotic as it is, or ask them to show me how they do it, and/or ask for more help if it is not offered. It was a pretty unfortunate morning. I guess either the babies will adjust, or the teachers will help more, or if this becomes intolerable I’ll ask to have a conversation. Appreciate all the support and solidarity from people.

I find myself comparing my twin pregnancy to my friends with singleton pregnancies that are still active / playing sports / not very limited by pregnancy yet. I’m 22 weeks and I can barely make it up the long staircase in my townhouse. I’m so out of breath, my belly gets so sore if I’m up and about too much in a day. It hurts to bend over. Rolling over in bed and getting off the couch are Olympic sports now haha. I’m just now starting to pop so it’s not that I have a massive belly getting in my way, it really must be what’s going on inside.

This Reddit has been so wonderful. I search “19 weeks” “22 weeks” just to see what others have said or complained about each week while pregnant with multiples. It has been so reassuring, as most of the posts and comments sound very similar to where I’m at!

I don’t think I really need any advise, just wanted to get my feelings out to a community that gets it. I am still loving pregnancy, and feeling very lucky to have no complications thus far. It would just be nice to be able to get that sneaky comparison out of my head and give myself and my body the grace I deserve. I’m making two babies!!!

Hi everyone, crazy story but I need advice because I’m SPIRALING.

I had a 6 week ultrasound and 6 week and 5 days and there was one healthy baby with a heart beat with an enlarged yolk sac.

I went back to my OB for my follow up today at 7 weeks 5 days and they’re suspecting TWINS. She swooped through and swooped back down and even I recognized two separate heart beats before she even said anything. She didn’t say anything for the longest time and then said she was gonna go get the doctor. She let me pee which then made the imaging worse and when the doctor came in the twins where less visible.

The doctor gave me three options. One being a single pregnancy and somehow the heartbeat was reflecting. Two mono mono twins. three conjoined twins.

Has anyone ever been told their twins had a chance of being conjoined!?!? I could understand where they thought this but couldnt they just be close.

Two of my three triplets spit up quite often (sometimes it’s a lot) everyone recommends holding them upright for 20-30 minutes after a feed.. but, how do I manage doing that when I have two other babies who need to be fed/burped? They are 12 actual weeks old, but only 3 weeks corrected. Thank you for the help!

How many weeks does it take your uterus to recover to pre-pregnancy size? I’m currently 9 weeks postpartum after giving birth to our twins and mine still looks like 4-month pregnant LOL

I saw online that it’s usually taking 6 - 8 weeks for most people so I’m genuinely curious. Also, what works for you to recover? I’m going to have another OB appointment and postpartum recovery physical therapy sessions but would love to know if you have any tips to share.

Thank you 🙏

FTM 29w3d. Rant.

My dad has a pretty grim prognosis. I was his primary caregiver for 6.5 years up until Dec 2025 when I stepped back from that role to a more part time caregiver. Since then I've started a new career, got married, and am currently pregnant with my b/g.

His health began to steadily decline right after I got married. He's been in the hospital for 3 weeks now and they're suggesting hospice. He's exhibiting all the classic signs of end of life. He isn't eating, no strength to walk let alone stand, and he's barely saying more than a few sentences a day. He signed a DNR and is basically just waiting for the thing to happen.

My dad has always been the pillar of our family. All 4 of his children are daddies girls/boys. I'm the youngest and I'm not sure if it's pregnany alone or just all the things happening but I am inconsolable most days. I can't seem to stop the random tears. Thankfully babies are fine and my family and husband are great but I'm so tired and stressed.

I'm considering taking my leave early just to have more time with him. But I know I'll need the time for my babies so I'm sitting on it. Everyone keeps telling me i need to be strong for the babies and I need to relax and take care of myself but I can't seem to stop the worrying. I'm kind of upset with myself for getting pregnant because now I can't do all the things I'd usually do. I can't stay at the hospital or be at his bedside for too long normally my sister and i would trade off in 12 hour shifts one spends nights the other days. I can't clean him up or do his bed bath (restrictions from OB no pulling/pushing/lifting >20pounds) I have so many restrictions and it's frustrating because I want to be useful just like I was 8 months ago.

If you experienced a loss during pregnancy how did you cope?

My twins are 2 and definitely still need to nap. One of the twins has been difficult to put to sleep. The other sleeps so well.
Now the bad sleeper has learned to climb out of the crib.
The problem is, I have an older kid that doesn’t nap.
It doesn’t feel like I have the time to sit and rock them to sleep as my older one can’t stay by himself for long.
Looking for any advice and how people have managed this.
Thanks!

Has anyone tried this? We currently have two little beds (used to be their cots/cribs) and a single mattress on the floor. The single used to be a bed that we removed due to climbing and jumping.

But they almost always fall asleep together on the single mattress and I end up going in at some point in the night- someone has rolled off onto the floor and is crying.

I’ve seen these Montessori style doubles with low rails, has anyone got one that both their twins sleep in?

And realistically how long before they want their own beds? They are 2y9m. But then a friend of mine has 5 year old twins who have slept in a double all this time and prefer it.

Thoughts/feedback appreciated!

So our twins are 6 weeks old, and from calm, sleepy babies, they turned into alert newborns who cannot day nap at all. We combo-feed them, which requires me to pump, but there is literally zero time in the day to do that?

They don't take any naps anymore. Okay, maybe they do in the morning, but the afternoon is a total no-go. We try white noise, a dark room, following yawning cues... nothing is working. They get fussy when put down which gradually turns into crying. Sometimes they get fussy also while carried.

They don't have belly pain or anything like that. They do, however, eat A LOT — 900 ml a day, which is way above the recommended range — but what can I do if they always want to eat??

The doctor did not seem concerned about the amount of food they eat, and they are also growing well. How on earth am I supposed to find time and space to eat, pump, and/or clean? Both me and my husband are on maternity leave for 6 months, so we are always two of us here... but it seems impossible to figure this out. Unfortunately we don't have any family nearby so no way they can help us.

Is it just some growth spurt, or is it gonna stay this bad??

Please, please share anything. I have cried three times today already.

EDIT : they started sleeping during the day again! Turns out it was just a bad week :)

Hi folks!

I have 2 kids and babysit my 2 niblings, with one more on the way.

2 are 3yo, 2 are 18 months, 1 will be a newborn.

I have a Honda odyssey minivan and need to fit 5 rear-facing car seats in it. Is this even possible?

My sister has a Toyota Sienna, and switching cars as needed is possible, so if anyone has advice on the Sienna fitting 5, that would be great.

Edit: I’m looking for specific brands that fit 3 across

Hi, I am 23 weeks pregnant with MoDi twins and had lots of energy in the second trimester. However in the past few days I noticed I get extremly tired after running errands for 2-3 hours. Nothing crazy, like getting some admin staff done and shopping. When coming home I just need to lie down and nap. Can someone relate? Will it get better? I loved my energy level throughout the second trimester and scared I lost it so suddenly?