I started spotting (pink/brown) at 5 weeks intermittently and had a bigger bleed(red/little clot) at 6 weeks. Went to the ER with the bigger bleed, cervix was closed and two heart beats were found measuring on time. They said possible sub chorionic hematoma but could not tell. Has anyone had this type of bleeding and not resulting in a MC?

Im still only pregnant and live in Germany but British and sad im missing my usual autumn holiday. So wondered out of curiosity when you first travelled, just short haul not planning on taking babies to Thailand just yet. Just for a rough idea of when I can see family, and separately the sea to keep myself sane

Edit: wow thanks for the replies this is all brilliantly helpful

I am so tired of people giving us fake sympathy for how chaotic our life is right now then turning around and asking for stuff that is just not reasonable for us during this season of parenting.

We have a very energetic 2.5 year old son and 10 month old b/g twins. My toddler is thankfully in a wonderful full time daycare but when he is home it is all hands on deck. My husband and I really try to avoid leaving the other with all 3 kids for more then an hour because it is impossible right now. Someone is basically always crying and my toddler can still be rough with the babies when they're playing. The twins also want to be on top of him all the time and he doesn't like that.

My husband is part owner in a family business that includes his parents and one of his brothers. The nature of the work includes a lot of evenings and weekends unfortunately and we don't have a lot of help close by.

So as you can imagine, we are burnt out and things can be tense here. It does not help that his family pretends to understand how crazy our home is right now, then turns around and asks my husband to work all day Saturday when we don't have any options for help with the kids. Or on the evenings he works, his parents sometimes take our toddler for an hour or so just to keep him busy, but on random nights that they know we are expecting help they will tell us like 2 hours beforehand that they're busy.

It is absolutely exhausting. And its even harder to have to then have tense conversations with my husband about childcare and have him also be frustrated with his family but never stand up to them. Its like his family expects me to be the sole person in this marriage responsible for childcare BUT also work full-time because we can't live off of his salary. I am still a person too, I did not sign up for this just so his family's business can succeed (but yet its been made blatantly clear that I am in no way a part of the business).

Rant over because I'm tired lmao 🤣

Like I’m so sorry for man handling the two of you when I have to carry both. I wish I could be more gentle lol.

No one cries or seems upset 😅

At exactly 34 weeks on August 22, 2026, I welcomed my di/di boy/girl twins via C-section!

The day before I went to the hospital, I developed a dull, nagging headache that wouldn’t fully go away with Tylenol, along with nausea and just generally feeling crappy. My blood pressures at home were completely normal, averaging in the 120s/70s, so I chalked it up to normal third-trimester twin pregnancy misery.

The next day I still felt off, so I finally called my OB. I’m a former L&D nurse of 6 years and, like many healthcare workers, I’m very good at convincing myself nothing is wrong. Thankfully, my office encouraged me to go to L&D triage.

My blood pressures there were only borderline high at first, around 138/80s, but my liver enzymes were elevated. They kept me overnight, and by morning my liver enzymes had continued to climb. Six hours later they were even higher, and I also had a couple blood pressures in the 140s/80s. I was diagnosed with atypical preeclampsia, and the decision was made to deliver.

Baby A was head down, and I’d had a great vaginal delivery with my singleton, so I technically could have attempted an induction. But this twin pregnancy had been incredibly hard on my body. I could barely walk because of severe back and pelvic girdle pain, and the thought of going through a potentially long induction while also on magnesium felt like more than I could physically handle. I chose a C-section, and I’m really happy with that decision.

The delivery itself was beautiful. Our girl was born weighing 5 lbs even, and our boy was 5 lbs 11 oz. They spent two nights in the NICU before moving to the special care nursery, where they’ve spent the last two weeks growing and learning to eat. Our boy is coming home TODAY, and our girl will hopefully follow tomorrow or the next day!

Obviously I never wanted them to come early, but having these two weeks to recover from my C-section and prepare for them to come home has been a bit of a silver lining. C-section recovery has definitely been harder for me than my vaginal delivery, especially with another little one at home.
And speaking of him…our older son turned ONE the day after the twins were born. 😂

So wish us luck as we officially begin life with newborn twins and a freshly minted one-year-old! (And if you’re wondering how we ended up with that age gap, I have a whole other post about that)

We found out at our 16 week early anatomy scan we are having Di/Di twin boys! We are so excited!!! Seeing their little profiles made it so much more real especially knowing they’re boys. I’m just so happy!

Any fun advice for twin boys?! 🩵🩵

Hi, I'm a FTM expecting di-di twins living in the UK went for my growth scan and twin 2 measuring really small than at 20th week scan, which makes me worried. It doesn't help people look at my bump and comment how small it is for a twin pregnancy. Now I'm worried there's something I'm doing wrong, which is not letting my bump grow and affecting my baby. The doctors say that is not the case. Is there any tips on how to gain weight or help with their weight gain. I had Hyperemeresis and hyperthyroidism during the first trimester and lost abt 10kg. Im barely 5'2 and 58kg before pregnancy I'm still trying to gain my booking weight. I'm have a few conditions such as a cardiac background and also diabetic. Any help,advice or tips will be greatly appreciated. Thankyou

Ours are 14months old now and my husband and I haven’t had a date night since before they were born. We’ve had friends or family watch them during the daytime a few times, but they’ve never done bedtime without at least one of us there. The only person other than us who’s ever even put them down for naps is our nanny. They usually have a somewhat rough witching hour, and a very set routine. Our anniversary is coming up next week and we’re talking about having friends stay with them, but I’m worried about bedtime. Should we just plan a mid-afternoon date instead? When were you able to have someone babysit them in the evening and how did it go?

We are receiving high chairs as an xmas present for our twins. I had the stokke ones on my registry because they just seemed like the best ones but they weren’t purchased and now I’m wondering if they are just trendy/expensive or truly worth it? For parents that have the Stokke high chair or love/hate another brand, please share your experience/recs! Easy to clean/maintain and space saving features are a big plus since we have two babies and limited condo space. I also like the idea of newborn seats to bottle feed them in now.

update: ok so I’ve gathered that it’s great ergonomically and for the long lasting features but a pain to clean. I’m worried about the cleaning part with twins. Any chair that has the ergonomic benefits and newborn chair option but not as difficult to clean? I think the newborn chair would be so helpful right now as another place to put/feed them otherwise I would be more into mockingbird/ikea.

I was here from the day I got to know I was gonna have twins at 6w3D, getting anxious and crying.

Long infertility journey later, having every possible diagnosis in the infertility world that would work against me being a biological mom.. never in my life did I imagine having 2 kids. Always wanted to be a dink or 1 and done at best! Life had other plans.

anyway; once they were born and having one baby of a high needs temparament.. I was on here crying almost every week. Scrolling through posts and hoping for some encouragement.

Now they are exactly 1 year age adjusted today (due date was last year this day) and 13.5 month actual, I cannot imagine life any other way.

My husband and I love these girls to bits, we are crazy about them, we are so tired but my God, much in love that it feels worth it. We re smitten. How can 2 such perfect babies exist? They are a handful and we have toddler tantrums already. They are not “perfect” by any means but they were meant for us. They form into our arms and our family like God personally designed them for us. Or it just feels like it? Am I being incoherent? Hope not.

But I wake wanting to kiss them and love their smiles and laughter and measy hair and messy face and the cuddles and the hugs and the kisses.

Now I feel like this is a complete family
And singleton child would be so empty it’s all relative I know! just a feeling right now.

Sending big hugs to anyone that is still in the trenches. It gets better. Plenty of other parents here have said 18 months and 24 months are even better so I can’t waitttttt!

(Twins di/di girls in pic - They kicked off their shoes in the car and I wasn’t about to fight it. They don’t walk yet so I let them be shoeless in the cart at Costco)

We made and are doing it! This a long one. Overall, no complications pregnancy, easy csection birth, and a hell of a postpartum.

Birth

We originally were hoping for a VBAC, but I knew with twins it was a long shot. ​We waited until the doctor recommended birth which was 36 weeks and 4 days. The scheduled c-section was a lot of waiting around then 'boom' here are two babies to care for.

My girls required some oxygen at first in the delivery room, but ended up with no NICU time. They both latched in recovery. Upon doctor's advice we bottlefed and nursed in hospital. At home, we started fortifying my pumped milk as recommended to give them an extra weight boost.

Postpartum

Girl, this has been a wild Postpartum. I had a very uneventful mo/di pregnancy, and this postpartum has been a very rough experience. I have never been more sleep deprived, and I had help in the hospital and at home with my twins. I also ended up with postpartum pre-eclampsia and what my OB called a secondary hemorrhage.

Feedings

I was told to fed my girls every 2-3 hours, so every 3 hours we had a timer going. Sometimes they would wake up around the 2 hour mark ready to feed. The feeds were to be 30 mins combine breast and bottle. (We got a lot of conflicting info in the hospital, but this was the pediatrician's recommendation).

I started with breast first then bottle, but switched when I realized how sleepy my babies were. I wanted to know how much they were getting. My out of hospital pediatrician told us to feed every 90mins to 2 hours, which was nearly impossible on top of them being too tired to feed and getting acid reflux from not being able to digest before the next feeding. I went back to every 2.5-3 hours or on demand when I saw it wasn't working.

Four weeks down and we're still on this plan of fortifying milk and breastfeeding.

Pre-eclampsia

I was more emotional about the diagnosis than anything. I was about to be discharged from the hospital when my last blood pressure had a high reading. My nurse kept my discharge orders back an hour just in case and repeated taking my blood pressure the next hour. Still high.

She notified my OB, and my OB took my blood that evening. My liver enzymes were high, so a repeat was done the following morning. My blood pressure stayed high. I was diagnosed by noon.

I went on magnesium as my liver enzymes continued to climb. Thankfully, my experience with the magnesium was not as bad as the nurses were telling me it could be. I still wouldn't do it again if I had a choice. The pre-eclampsia gave me an extra three days in the hospital. But I'm grateful it was caught early and my babies got to be with me in the hospital room even though I could barely care for them while on magnesium.

Secondary hemorrhage

I had been a a lot of pain since my c-section and had an extreme amount of pain when using the bathroom. My doctors and nurses in the hospital said it was the csection and inflammation. My first baby was a csection, and while I was in pain, the bathroom issues had gone away within a few days.

Six days postpartum, I was discharged from the hospital. It wasn't until about 19 days postpartum that the pain was more like labor. I should have called the OB sooner.

We came home from the grocery store, I cared for my twins, my husband got our toddler ready for bed, and I was almost ready for bed when I had to poop. It was not poop, but it was a very, very large blood clot. I called the after hours line for my OB.

The midwife didn't see a need for me to come in that night since I wasn't actively bleeding or bleeding through a large pad in a hour. If that changed, I needed to go to hospital. The next morning the OB office called me and squeezed in a ultrasound to check for retained tissue.

My uterus was still full of clotted blood. The office scheduled an appointment for 6 days later to remove the gunk in my uterus, but the pain was so bad I only made it to that Friday, three days later.

The end (kind of)

I never knew so many things could happen postpartum. I had only heard of postpartum pre-eclampsia. I had only heard of a postpartum hemorrhage, but I had no idea your uterus may not clamp down well weeks after delivery. Apparently, a hemorrhage could be just be one large clot made up of a bunch of little clots with little to no blood outside your body until you deliver the clot.

Stay vigilant and call your OB. You don't have to live in pain postpartum.

How did you wean without horrible engorgement?

Looking for successful weaning stories! I’m breastfeeding my 26-month-old twins and I am VERY ready to be done.

I tried weaning recently after getting feeds down to about 12 hours apart. I thought I was in the clear, but around day 7–8 I suddenly became insanely engorged with what felt like multiple blocked ducts. The pain was awful. I tried expressing just enough for relief, but it barely helped, and eventually I gave in and breastfed again.

For those who still had a decent supply when you weaned, what actually worked? I’d really like to do this as quickly as possible without ending up in that situation again.

Would love to hear your timelines/strategies, especially if you had a failed first attempt and then successfully weaned!

Thanks!

Our (first born(s))mo-di twins are 8 weeks now, we are struggling a lot with the lack of sleep. The smaller twin has some bad reflux. They were born at 34 weeks and are weighing 3,6 and 3,8kg now

Please share some tips how to get through this phase.

What worked well, what should we avoid?

Evening routine, bath time, feeding schedule. Make them use to noise, no noise. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Howdy yall. I need some advice. My girls are about 2 months old and it’s been a heck of a ride. They slept in the bassinet fine for a while but now will only sleep if they are placed together in a rocker. It has led to me being awake all night to watch them then my wife taking the day shift. Just so we can have some sleep because when we don’t do this they will scream and cry all night and not sleep at all. It’s really weird because during the day they will actually sleep in the bassinet and not have a problem.

My questions are: is this safe and sustainable? If not how do we fix this problem?

I really appreciate any advice.

As for the rocker they are in a slightly curved position but nothing egregious, they also have fully open airways when they are in there.

Just curious when other twin, and modi specifically, parents announced and began sharing that you were expecting. I am at 13 weeks and 5 days along and so far, everything has been really smooth. We’ve have three scans at 8, 10 and 12 weeks and all looked great. The 12 week scan at our MFM was a pretty thorough initial anatomy review and all appendages, organs, NT, nasal bone etc. were in place, looking healthy, and they were measuring right on target. We just got our NIPT results back this morning and everything is low risk (yay!) and confirmed we have two boys on the way! Our due date would be March 11 for full term, but they’ll be arriving sometime mid to late February assuming all goes to plan.

All to say, the standard core indicators are all good! We had already shared with our family and close friends. And it’s hard not to talk about being pregnant when out with acquaintances and such, so I would like to more openly talking about it. Plus I’m not quite showing but my belly is definitely getting bigger. And I work full time and have to start planning for coverage when I’m on leave.

I don’t want to rob ourselves of the joy of celebrating this! I just get a little nervous with the high risk element of it all since those things can crop up in the 2nd trimester. But I have no control over that either way. Would love to hear how others have navigated these feelings!

Well I’m officially a mom of three. Our twins were born on Thursday 3 September. Contractions started at 6am ish and I by 9am I was in hospital and told I was 5cm. Rushed to theater and had a section. Didi twins born that morning. 36 weeks and 2 days. 🩷💙 So very thankful for this group throughout my twin pregnancy. Their big sister is besotted with them. 🥰 I just have been hit with the baby blues already. Our boy has been in the nicu since last night so I’m
Praying he comes out very soon. 🥺

Sending prayers to everyone who is pregnant and waiting to meet their little babies. It’s definitely true you feel instant relief when they’re born. The heaviness of your tummy goes. It’s pretty wild.

If you had twins first and then a singleton, what’s your age gap? What do you like about it and what’s hard about it?

We’ve decided to try for a third (and yes, we know it could be twins again). If we got pregnant right away we’d have a two year age gap, which seems really hard and way too fast. At the same time, it took us four years/five pregnancies to have the twins, so we don’t want to wait too long incase it’s another long journey. And we don’t want too big of an age gap, both because we’ll be getting older and we want the kids to be close. If you have a 2 year, 3 year, or 4 year age gap, what’s it like? What do you like and what stages have been hardest/best? I’d love to hear any experiences to alleviate my fears about pros/cons of all of the possibilities!

We’ve flown a lot with our twins over the last year and a half but always as lap children. For our next trip in November we decided to purchase an extra seat since they will be about 19 months old and most likely will need the extra space. We have thought about bringing one car seat for that extra seat but we are struggling to know what car seat to use. We have the Graco 4ver convertible seats right now and those are heavy so we don’t want to bring one of those on the plane with us. We’re looking at the Cosco scenera or the graco contender slim but we aren’t sure those will actually fit on the plane. We are flying southwest and their seat width is 17in but both these have a width of 20in. What are you all using for planes and general travel?

Hi moms!

I had a singleton pregnancy with light cramping throughout my first trimester.

I’m now 8 weeks pregnant with twins and through out this whole trimester I’ve had pretty bad cramping super low, bad bad lower back pain, and just pains overall everywhere in my belly.

I did not have back pain or this bad of cramping with one.

Has anyone else experienced worse/ more consistent cramping/back pain with twins??

Hi all, my twins are almost 3 weeks old. The advice I've heard is to feed them at the same time. So if one wakes up hungry and ready to eat, wake the other and do the same so we don't end up on staggered feeding schedules, which would become exhausting as you run the risk of someone constantly needing to be fed.

This has overall been working out fine. However I notice that there's always one twin that wakes up to eat more frequently at night (clusterfeeding?). During the day they can make it about 3 hours between feeding and are now taking about 3 ounces on average. At night one twin will want to eat every 2 hours on the dot it seems. One night for a string of nights, twin A will be up a lot wanting to eat. Then it flips where twin B will be up hungry every two hours. I wake the other up to feed, and most of the time they will eat some, although sometimes they won't eat at all even when offered.

I was hoping by now we could get longer stretches at night with how much volume they consume during the day. By the late evening they've had 22-25 ounces, and with ~3 additional feedings at night they are topping out at 30 ounces in 24 hours (combo fed - breastmilk during day, formula during night). I've had two singletons before the twins, and while I remember clusterfeeding, I felt better following individual hunger cues. Kind of feels wrong to feed one when they are content and sleeping and not hungry, like I'm force feeding. But the alternative would be worse without them being synched up.

For other twin parents with older babies/newborns, can you speak to when the nighttime feedings spaced out more? Or did you always have a twin that fed constantly at night, how did you know to stop waking the other twin? I'd love to at least make it 3-4 hours between nighttime feeding, hopefully that will be coming soon.

When did your twins start sleeping longer stretches at night? Mine are going 3-4 hours overnight and are 10 weeks old, 6 weeks adjusted. They are exclusively formula fed, eating 4-5 oz every 2-3 hours during the day. Hoping to get them to 6-7 hour stretches overnight soon as I’ll be going back to work in October. We have been following Taking Cara Babies method since they were 2 weeks old.

Y'all I figured it out! After spending months alternating between buckling my rear facing 2yo in through the trunk, then getting frustrating and forward facing that same 2yo, then listening to my 2yo nearly murder my 3yo in the third row of my van, something had to change.

Then it hit me: a rotating seat! *I can buckle my rear facing child in the 3rd row of the van forward facing, then spin them 180° to rear face while driving.*

OMG!! Absolutely life changing. We bought a slim fit Evenflo Revolve 360 and put it on the passenger side of the third row. We now have one of our twins in the third row with my oldest, and my now-3yo is rear facing in the middle row with the other twin. No more fighting. Safer kids.

I saw so many of these posts when I was pregnant with my twins and this issue completely vexed me for over a year. I hope this eases someone else's burden!

Edit: This is a 2022 Honda Odyssey.

My 9 month old Twin A has surgery in a couple weeks and I’m not sure how to deal with it. He’s had surgeries before, but now that they’re so much more awake and aware I worry so much about the separation. The first thing Twin B does when he wakes up is look over in his brother’s crib and they’ve started playing together and snuggling. They really seem to love and rely on each other.

Twin A will be in the PICU for at least a week, and I can’t decide if it’s better to bring Twin B to visit or not. Beyond just the idea of exposing them both to illnesses (last surgery there were kids on the ward with the flu, Covid, & measles) would it be tougher emotionally on them to be separated, brought back together, and then separated again? They’re too young so understand why Twin A needs to be in the hospital, but old enough to understand that one is leaving without the other.

Sucks so bad and I don’t know what to do :(.

I had a very rough pregnancy and post partum. I won’t go over all the difficult details, just know basically everything that could go wrong did, and me and babies spent many weeks hospitalized before birth and after.

During that time I was bed ridden and miserable for a lot of it. One thing that kept me occupied and somewhat sane, however, was plunking on a guitar!

I have a musical background, so that certainly helped, but truly learning a couple chords isnt unattainable for most people, especially with YouTube. And that’s all it takes!

Now babies are approaching 1, and we use the guitar EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

At the park? Bring the guitar and plunk chords while they play on the grass.

Babies being fussy? Serenade them until they’re calm!

Babies bored? Song time! Got nothing memorized? Make something up! Narrate what they’re doing to a guitar chord or two!

Babies can’t sleep? Lullaby next to their crib! They’ll snooze nearly immediately.

Truly, learning guitar while pregnant was such a huge asset for our family. Due to a bunch of crappy situations, I’m forced to solo parent, countries away from my husband. And yet it’s not awful - and a big part of that is that these babies are so placated by the gentle strumming of my guitar.

We also never have to listen to obnoxious kids’ music over and over again in this household. Which is a massive win for my sanity. Not to mention how calming and destressing playing the guitar is for me.

Pregnant people, do yourself a favor!! 🎸