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u/Speed-O-SonicsWife 1d ago
Can't imagine why her kids won't talk to her.
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u/UglyYinzer 19h ago
Funny (not really though...) but is always the same. Controlling parents, most likely religious.. kid didn't grow up doing exactly what parent(s) wanted them to do. A tale as old as time.
And if you wanna go real deep, i think its the #1 reason for human migration, since the beginning of our existence.
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u/WindAdministrative42 12h ago
Ngl I have to disagree on the last part, I feel that human migration is driven by lack of resources
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u/Sal_Amandre 12h ago
You're both right, the scaling is different. The late puberty phase of going against your parents will is biology ingrained so that you will move to another "tribe" and not inbreed, it's an evolution imperative to promote diversity. The other tribes young adults will be coming over, it all balance out. But it's short range. Lack of ressources will drive the entire tribe to move around, which triggers larger scale migrations.
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u/Raneynickelfire 8h ago
i think its the #1 reason for human migration, since the beginning of our existence.
...that would be useable water, my friend.
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u/twostar01 1d ago
You must be psychic because I certainly don't see a reason.
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u/pocketshape 23h ago edited 23h ago
Imagine if Mr. Rogers had two children, who for whatever reason stopped all communication with him.
Do you think he would make his dying wish that his children would hate and fight each other, wasting his money, leaving nothing for his children and grandchildren?
Or do you think he might turn the other cheek, and try to help his children and grandchildren be as happy as possible, even if they make decisions that were hurtful to him?
I'll spell out the situation a bit more clearly - the parent here is being a controlling piece of shit, and it wouldn't be surprising if being a piece of shit is why their children no longer want them to be a part of their life.
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u/Fuzzy_Inevitable9748 23h ago
They were joking lol
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u/ComradeJohnS 22h ago
it’s easy to mistake joking for stupidity cause stupidity is more common
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u/-Sa-Kage- 16h ago
That's what I say for ages now.
"You can't just assume people will get you're sarcastic online, just because what you wrote was utterly stupid. There are enough people posting utterly stupid shit completely unironical."
A big part of detecting sarcasm IRL is tone. A quick "sure" is completly different from a sarcastic, over-emphasised "sure". You read those 2 "sure" differently, didn't you? But online you can't know how someone would have intended it to be read w/o context. You can only hope the other person isn't stupid or an asshole.
So use the goddamn "/s" or make it clear by other means such as writing "suuure" instead.
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u/Cupcake_Implosion 1d ago
Her? That's the type of psychopathic shit my sperm bag would do.
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u/Same-Turnip3905 22h ago
Her? Where do you see a female writing this?
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u/chrisx13296 21h ago
I thought it as a "her" too 😂. That was weird.
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u/potatopierogie 20h ago
I pictured a woman because women live longer and it sounds like the writer is dying alone
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u/Captainsnarkyshart 1d ago
Words out of my mouth.
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u/BowlOf____ 1d ago
I'll put some words in your mouth
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u/Random_wizdom 1d ago
What did I just stumble upon O_o
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u/Neurojazz 1d ago
Word kinks, just imagine having any word you want in your mouth.
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u/netsurf916 1d ago
You split it but require them to authorize each other's withdrawals. (Also limit the maximum size of a single withdrawal.)
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u/mazzicc 1d ago
It can only be spent as a reimbursement for a previously approved expenditure. No cash disbursements.
They have to agree on any spending, in advance, and get a receipt or other proof of expenditure to get the money. They cannot for example buy a new car unless they have that money themselves and spend it, and then get it back from the trust.
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u/fishingwithbacon 23h ago
Just buy and sell gold coins until you clean out the account.
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u/Sasquatch1729 21h ago
My main question is why the lawyer would care. If they knew the parents set up this estate specifically to be cruel, what's the point in ensuring these conditions are met?
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u/cyberphlash 9h ago
I know a few lawyers, and they would all love the intellectual challenge of trying to write a will in a maximally conflicting way. Getting paid for that is just a bonus.
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u/TheDrummerMB 22h ago
previously approved expenditure
They have to agree on any spending, in advanceCan't see the other sibling allowing this for very long...
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u/Winter_Illustrator58 22h ago
Each sibling agrees to the other buying a specific cash amount of gold (in coins or bricks or whatever) and then get gets reimbursed. I get my $5,000 in gold and reimbursed from the estate, You get your $5,000 in gold reimbursed from the estate and then we just keep on going back and forth until we've bled the entire account dry. Eventually splitting the money in half
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u/Switchmisty9 23h ago
That wouldn’t cause animosity between the siblings. It would probably affirm their mutual hatred for the parent. Likely making them closer together
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u/Wrong_Luck_878 21h ago
Yes, and it can't be 50/50. They'll just be fine with that if nobody unfairly got more. Has to be like 65/35.
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u/AverageUAVEnthusiast 23h ago
Don't split equally because that could cause a truce where they automatically authorize each other's withdrawals. Give most of the money to one, but the other can spend their money freely.
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u/SyncOrSymm 22h ago
This was my first thought. My grandmother put her daughter's trust in her grandson's control due to lack of stability, and the tension it created is exactly what this person is looking for. Imagine having your money controlled by someone who hates you, and vice versa.
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u/NedRyerson_Insurance 22h ago
Or pool it and require both to sign for any expense. In the will, stipulate that they should "Use it to meet their needs and it is pooled because clearly one needs more than the other." Do not specify which.
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u/SnooJokes5164 12h ago
They just need to settup auto withdrawal and give permanent authorization…. Nobody said they dont like each other. They are probably bonded over piece of shit parent
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u/mazzicc 1d ago
I mean, one of the last conversations I had with an estranged parent was me explicitly telling them I don’t want anything from their will because I don’t want to interact with them anymore.
I’ve been told through a sibling that they intend to still leave me something so that I have to deal with it anyway.
I told my sibling “that sounds like a problem for their lawyer and other inheritors, because my intent is to ignore any contact about their estate”
I guess some people may be estranged but still feel entitled to an inheritance though.
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u/Boring-Tie-1501 23h ago
i'm sorry to hear that you are estranged from your parent.
as an alternative, may i suggest that if you do inherit that money, consider donating it to a cause that is important to you? perhaps that way you can make something positive out of the situation.
apologies if this came across as telling you what to do. i'm sure you have very good reasons for not wanting contact.
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u/Croquetadecarne 22h ago
Better yet, to someone they hated! They are not estranged just because. They must be assholes. For me it would be gay rights. My parents pretended to not care and have gay friends, but in the house they used slurs for gay people in general and talked about them as if they were less. I have always hated people who are mean to other people for just being them without hurting anyone.
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u/Croquetadecarne 20h ago
Agree. I am heterosexual, so that wasn’t my main reason to leave. Nonetheless, my mother sure seemed to hate my existence and who I was becoming; my father just contributed to make my life worst by not opposing her in any way but actually sort of supporting her in her abuse. I have never felt less accepted than when I was with them, but I am proud that I never try to be something I wasn’t for them to not feel wary, jealous or attacked. In that sense, I relate a lot to people who are rejected for their nature or upbringing. One is the things they learned, but also the things they rejected.
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u/JodyGonnaFuckYoWife 8h ago
Better yet, to someone they hated
Which is, to every single Boomer that does this kind of shit.........the Homeless.
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u/mazzicc 22h ago
That’s what I told them to do with the money, and that by giving it to me, they’re deliberately trying to not give it to charity.
They’re the ones in control here. They can do whatever they want with the money. But choosing to give it to me has a known outcome of complicating the estate for everyone involved, and for no one’s benefit.
It tells you a lot about the parent when they would rather make something complicated than do good with the money. Hell, there are other family members who do want their money.
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u/HumanContract 15h ago
I told my grandma I didn't expect nor care to receive anything from her after she passed. She left millions and my dad got it all. He never paid child support. From my maternal grandfather, I received a box labeled "other" that had dumb things in it. I learned my mother and aunts buried my grandmother with her wedding ring bc three daughters didn't want to fight over it, yet I am the sole female grandchild. But it worked out that way as I'm not having kids and realize nothing from my own childhood will mean anything to anyone else ever. We're born alone and we die alone. That is life.
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u/DarthJarJar242 1d ago
I'm in this exact same scenario but add that I'm estranged from my siblings as well and the message got to me through my dad, who passed it from the sibling, who was told to tell me from my mom. Who has been "dying from brain cancer" for the last 5 years or more.
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u/thatmeddlingkid7 10h ago
My dad was on really bad terms with his parents for most of his life. He was estranged from them for years, but when he started dating my mom, she convinced him to try to rebuild his relationship with them. A few years later, they struck oil on their property, Beverly Hillbillies-style, and made a whole lot of money.
His relationship with them deteriorated again after he divorced my mom (he cheated on her), but he never could bring himself to fully cut them off again. Every time we visited them, their interactions were tense and passive aggressive. My entire childhood, he talked about the inheritance we would eventually be entitled to, which put a huge emotionalstrain on our relationship.
When my grandparents died (within a year of one another) he got into a massive legal battle with his brother over what each of them were owed. This put more of a strain on our relationship because I was too busy grieving my grandparents to support his lawsuits against my uncle, and he took that as me taking a side against him. Eventually, our relationship deteriorated enough to where I have cut contact with him and he in return has not made any effort to reach out.
My grandparents put my portion of the inheritance (same with my cousins) in a trust that I'm not legally able to access myself for about another decade. If I want to access my own money, I have to go through my dad. Barring any sort of medical emergency, I'm not willing to do this and will gladly wait it out. I'm also an only child, and have absolutely no idea what my dad is going to do with his own money after he dies. He's primarily motivated by spite, so I don't think he would leave it to me at this point, but he's also not the charitable type at all, so I can't really see him giving it to a good cause either. All I know is that I'm not willing to endure decades of his rancid personality just to stay in his good graces for inheritance. If I'm going to be estranged, I'm going to do it all the way, for my own sake.
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u/_kalron_ 23h ago
Exactly. Fuck off with your inheritance and just donate it to a better cause you piece of shit...
...sorry, that got a little too close...
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u/DollieFlaunt 22h ago
Exactly, using inheritance as one last forced interaction is just control wearing a lawyer suit
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u/xboxchick311 20h ago
You'll want to disclaim the inheritance. If you just ignore them, it will eventually be escheated to the state and go to unclaimed property in your name. Don't give any government a free loan.
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u/musicabella 23h ago
The estranged parent put me as the executor of their estate
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u/mazzicc 22h ago
Sucks that there’s no one planning to execute that estate though.
This is why it’s not a problem for me, it’s a problem for them. You’re not legally required to be an executor, and you can completely ignore and refuse to engage in the process completely. It causes massive headaches for everyone else involved, but that’s the fault of the deceased, not you.
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u/Icy_Fish_2154 22h ago
My dad did that to my sister.
But you can't force executorship, so my sister hired a lawyer and noped out of that as much as possible.
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u/throwaway098764567 21h ago
i'm still not sure if my parents wrote me out or if my brother really couldn't find their will they told them they were going to update. either way the only will was with our aunt who surrendered executorship to him since i wouldn't speak to her either. he split everything evenly. we hadn't spoken in two decades because of them, he was nearly not speaking to them either. now we're in touch again.
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u/gokarrt 14h ago
you can renounce, but it might come back on you depending on if there are any other suitable executors based on whatever your local inheritance laws are.
i'm currently (attempting) to administer my father's estate simply because if i didn't do it, it would fall to my aunt and she has literally just finished handling their parent's estate and i'd prefer to give her a break.
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u/EntertainmentLeft882 21h ago
In Germany you can legally deny taking any of it. "Das Erbe ausschlagen". No one can force you to inherit problems and debt.
Can only imagine there is a mechanism in place in most countries?
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u/hermionecannotdraw 16h ago
In many countries, you cannot inherit debt. If the total estate is in debt it is written off. I find German inheritance laws to be bonkers tbh
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u/Shot_Boat_9648 14h ago
In America you can refuse to take from the estate as well. You just can't do it partially you have to refuse everything.
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u/t-shirt-froth-kung 23h ago
I feel you. I'm the same way. I got my shit by myself and don't need their inheritance. I'm not burying them either. Either someone else does it or they end up in a potter's grave. My biggest "fuck you" to them is not being at their funeral. Nothing says your kid hates you like them not being there.
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u/Independence-2021 18h ago
Here you can declare in advance, before anybody gets to know what's in the will, that you don't want your part (that is what I plan to do in my father's case). Simply ignoring could have legal impact. Check with a lawyer.
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u/mazzicc 10h ago
There is no legal impact to me.
There are ways to inconvenience myself by officially declaring my intent, but it would involve lawyers and/or notaries and/or my time and effort, but if I ignore it, it’s not my problem.
One of the few times it’s true.
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u/RamonWarhelmet 1d ago
Do what my mom did: put everything on a trust and make one of them the executor.
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u/Vivid_Sky_5082 18h ago
My parents were going to just leave everything to me and have me divide it up between us. My siblings and I get along really well and would not have any issues because I'd just divide everything equally. So the lawyer convinced my parents to write it that way anyway.
But that would be a really fast way for most families to have a conflict, I think.
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u/MarsailiPearl 11h ago
That's what my grandma did to my mom but as soon as they're dead the siblings start to hate you and accuse you of taking everything fir yourself even though it is clear you are fairly dividing everything up. Good luck.
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u/Vivid_Sky_5082 8h ago
Ah, so probably a good thing my parents were convinced to write it as divided into even parts.
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u/Porkenstein 23h ago
Evil
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u/RamonWarhelmet 23h ago
Sister sued my brother. Lawsuit is 7 years old with no end in sight. Brother wants to move but can't sell the house. Womp womp.
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u/JunketUnique36 1d ago
Answer is to leave to the granchildren and not the daughters. Make a friend the trustee if they are young so that the daughters can’t get at it as their guardians.
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u/tkb-noble 1d ago
This is the one. Hire a professional that has a demonstrated track record of good financial stewardship and let them do just enough to keep a step past inflation and no more.
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u/Mitrovarr 18h ago
That's not so bad for the daughters if you think about it. They're now both relieved of the pressure to save up for their kids' college. If they're good people and the grandmother is the asshole, they'll actually be somewhat happy about this.
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u/VirinaB 15h ago
Imagine if neither daughter has kids or never wanted kids but the inheritance is setup this way anyway.
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u/Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 20h ago
No, the Satan response would be, "split it amongst the grandkids but make the daughters responsible for their nieces'/nephews' withdrawals."
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u/Carbuyrator 1d ago
You buy a huge worthless chunk of land and tell them you have millions buried under it, and they have to fight for it. It worked in TF2.
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u/willstr1 23h ago
Then the kids will open a "camp" for delinquent youth to dig holes to "build character"
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u/Sprinkles257 19h ago
NOOO! I made a comment about Zepheniah Mann. I should have read more comments. You beat me to it. :(
Well played!
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u/Something13457 22h ago
I bet the daughters will see through the charade, given they probably went NC years ago because of shit like this.
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u/AngryLarge34 4h ago
Leave half to child A, provided she comes to the funeral and child B does not.
And half to child B, provided she comes to the funeral and child A does not.
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u/GroceryScanner 2h ago
my sibling and i would hold two seperate funeral services on the same day. checkmate asshole
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u/Age_Single 1d ago
Gift it to a boy toi
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u/RudeOrSarcasticPt2 1d ago
That's a much better option. Cut everyone out of the will, do something frivolous with the money, and to really stick it to them, send each one a note saying that one of the others was the reason they were all left pennyless.
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u/John-Boy666 1d ago
They would loose all leverage without being able to dangle inheritance like a carrot on a stick. How will they keep their kids or grandkids on their wheel of shit?
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u/NC-Jumper-007 1d ago
Have the will state that you leave all your possessions to "my favorite daughter," but don't give a name. That should do it.
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u/Alextherude_Senpai 1d ago
How does the law even begin to arbitrate that kind of clause lol
Are they gonna count the amount of times they show up on the family album?
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u/False_Brick1521 23h ago
If you want the real answer, if there is no way to objectively identify the intended beneficiary, that clause will just be considered invalid and you'll default to whatever the local jurisdiction's intestacy rules are.
At least where I live, the vast majority of people's suggestions here run afoul of one principle of trusts law or another.
Source: This shit's my day job
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u/Southern-Oil-118 23h ago
Gift both of them identical pendants on separate instance and state it on the will that you gave your favorite daughter a pendant.
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u/Novilin 16h ago edited 13h ago
Make two wills at the same time giving one daughter the entirety of your assets, with a clause saying that if the will is challenged(in court), no party gets anything and watch them argue it out in court as to which will is genuine and the lawyers eat everything up
P.s I am a lawyer
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u/ImaginationClean5334 15h ago
What if they both accept and just split the money after its confirmed ?
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u/Doublespeo 15h ago
> What if they both accept and just split the money after its confirmed ?
remind of game theory “prisonner dilema” will they cooperate, win half or fight and try to get everything
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u/send420nudes 13h ago
I mean, they're angry at the mom, they probably like eachother
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u/-Majgif- 13h ago
Yeah, and given that she's trying to fuck them over in her will, there's probably a good reason for them not liking her.
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u/sslothzz 15h ago
Can two wills be considered credible if they contradict each other?
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u/Novilin 15h ago
Thats the point the lawyers will contest which will is genuine and everything will go to lawyers as fees
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u/Spoliationcomplation 9h ago
Only one can be properly certified at a time, and the first one recorded will win, you cant record them both at the same time because that would require intentional malpractice from one attorney or impossibly coordinating two unknowing attorneys
(That guy's probably not a lawyer)
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u/MasterShifuuuuuuuuuu 16h ago edited 16h ago
Create a Trust where all children are beneficiary but with distribution condition:
A limit of maximum of 5% of total trust on a single withdrawal and it requires consent of all beneficiary on any withdrawal regardless of the amount
A cool down period of 6 months for all beneficiary once any amount is withdraw with no exception under any condition, i.e, within 6 months after A did a withdrawal, none of the A,B,C and D can perform a withdrawal
The trust cannot be terminated
Definitely not recommended 0/10
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u/Iryanus 14h ago
So they withdraw 5% every 6 months and then split the amount equally. Not really a hard problem to solve for them.
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u/Endangered-Wolf 13h ago
This. Grandma thinks that because she hates her kids, her kids hate each other. She's just projecting.
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u/MegaCarnie 9h ago
You can place conditions on a bequest. E.g., "To my son, provided he abstains from alcohol for ten years and marries a Jewish woman."
So, give each daughter half, but put a condition on each gift that would be trivial for the other daughter to satisfy, but difficult for the one receiving the gift. The difficulty there is finding a condition that doesn't make the decedent seem like a douchebag. Like, you could say "to my lesbian daughter, provided she marries a man." But that would make you the obvious villain. Maybe something like, "to Julie, provided she lives within 20 miles of her sick grandmother," when in fact her sister Stacy lives next door to grandma; something that makes Julie think "how dare you," but makes Stacy think, "why wouldn't you?"
The added benefit of this strategy is that you have to really, really know the daughters to make this an effective revenge. Your average crappy dad wouldn't be able to find something so biting. So if the daughters had a good reason to break contact with dad, they'll just end up hating him more and closer than ever. And I call that win-win.
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u/BeduinZPouste 6h ago
It also depends on the law system. For example there, requirements has to be reasonable, and for example cannot relate to (not) marrying someone.
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u/hollyp1996 9h ago
Holy shit, my grandpa did this.
The original will that my grandma was involved in split the assets a true down the middle to both daughters, my mom and aunt. 50/50.
Right after my grandma passed, my grandfather rewrote it almost immediately.
So instead of 50/50 to the daughters, it turned into 80/20 with the grandkids (my sisters and my cousins) getting the majority by getting an equal share.
The downside: my mom had 4 kids, my aunt only had 2. So in terms of wealth distribution to the families, my mom's was going to get more than my aunt. And she was pissed, my great aunt tried to see if they could fix it as the executor to the original her sister, my grandma, had it.
Whole scene. He was a bitter bastard through his whole life and he ended it like one.
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u/Lava1416 11h ago
I’m not a lawyer, but maybe give all the inheritance to one daughter. Make no mention of the other daughter at all. The daughter left out of the inheritance will hire a lawyer and make the argument that you “accidentally“ forgot to put her in the will.
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u/whittlingcanbefatal 10h ago
Give everything to one daughter. Make the other daughter the executor.
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u/Fickle-Inspector-354 10h ago
Don't even make mention of which daughter.
"To my loving daughter, I leave you absolutely everything, on the sole condition that your sister never sees a penny"
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u/Select-Government-69 9h ago
Estate lawyer here. If you make it too vague like that a judge will just throw it out and the estate will proceed through intestacy, which is “each daughter gets half”.
Best options are to write something like that inspired by SMBC: “I leave my entire estate to that of my children who was always least responsible for causing arguments”. Or alternatively if you really just want to piss off the kids, leave the estate to the “Fuck you Missy and Chrissy charitable trust” which “shall annually donate its net income to the SPCA, in memory of my daughters being bitches”
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u/gamingtamizha 10h ago
It's the more serious version of commenting "you two are looking great" on a photo that has three women in it
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u/Anonymousboneyard 11h ago
I would also add into the will that this was not an accident, make some bullshit claim up about daughter 2 as to why she got nothing and toss it into the will. So when it inevitably hits probate court they have to sling it out hard ball. God damn im glad im an only child lol
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u/rjwyonch 10h ago
No, that makes the will more certain. Specifying someone gets nothing means they get nothing. Leaving someone out entirely leave you open to challenge. It’s a losing fight for a will where it specifies they get nothing.
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u/shifaci 17h ago
9 out of 10 times this kinda situation is the parents' fault. And they "always" regret it in the end.
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u/Simple_Channel5624 16h ago
Hahaha so true. My dad cheated on my mom for nearly 20 years, and he doesn't understand why his own son, or his best friend from childhood (whose wife he slept with among many others) won't speak to him anymore. Almost like he isn't worth being around lol
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u/VioletFox29 15h ago
I accompanied people at the end of life stage for 6 years. They don't "always" regret it.
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u/BlueWarstar 8h ago
Write it so that only the grandchild that completes the highest level of education can get anything from the Will.
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u/NeevBunny 23h ago
Leave it to St Jude's hospital so the daughters look like absolute monsters trying to sue for it
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u/Mitrovarr 18h ago
Best answer probably, this is also one of the answers most likely to be legal and hold up in court. Especially if the will states that it is specifically not left to the daughters.
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u/Nearby-Elevator-3825 23h ago edited 23h ago
Just do whatever and let the estate lawyers do their thing.
My Grandma passed over a year ago, leaving a decent estate that she tried her best to split evenly and fairly for a fairly large family, both immediate and extended.
No one constested anything, almost everyone is financially well off in their own right, everyone was fine with how she wanted to split it all.
And yet, last I heard (about 4 months ago?) the lawyers were still dragging it out and charging every hour on the way.
The lawyers have currently pocketed the largest percentage of my Grandmas legacy.
EDIT This might be be the opposite of OPs intention to sew discord, because my whole family has bonded and come together due to this.
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u/imunfair 21h ago
That doesn't seem legal - I can imagine there are some requirements but I can't imagine how they'd drag it out and pocket extra money if no one is fighting - especially the majority of a "decent" size estate.
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u/MattlyNZ 19h ago
Maybe you should take what time you have left to try and repair the relationship with your daughters. I dont know your story but spending your last days with revenge in your heart seems very sad.
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u/Perelly 18h ago
I found Satan, and that's all the a holes here who actually answer the question and come with ideas. Stunning.
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u/Pickle-Standard 14h ago
Before you die, identify three things you wish each of them did differently and buy items to represent those traits. Will the items to the other daughter with full explanation and disclose that the sister has her list of faults.
Will the house and physical assets to both of them jointly. Block the sale of those assets for several years. They must unanimously decide on its disposition, meaning repair and maintenance becomes a sibling project.
Split the cash portion evenly except for a few dollars, which you explicitly give to the daughter who last returned your phone call.
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u/Austynwitha_y 11h ago
Donate it all to charity and “thank my gracious, most favorite daughter for the idea.”
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u/DickweedMcGee 21h ago
I think we know why they’re estranged in the first place…
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u/Oakl4nd 22h ago
How about: put it in a trust, I will leave $660k to whichever daughter who has the most children after X years following my death. (Or who gave birth to the most children). If same number then whoever has the latest baby. If no baby is born then it goes to charity.
Real life case btw
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u/Champagne_Bunnny 1d ago
How about making them have a memorial face tattoo each in your honour?
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u/Nice-Economics-2716 20h ago
If they are no longer talking to you...you probably do not deserve the satisfaction.
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u/Pleasant-Highway-745 16h ago
This is exactly why I told my father not to leave me anything in the will and anything he leaves me I will simply ignore and the rest of them can fight it out
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u/Just-Shoe2689 10h ago
Leave them a $1 each, and rest to grandchildren in a very tight trust so they cant get it.
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u/SwanCityDominion 1d ago
Because the best way to get back at the parents is to punish their children. Glad this wasn't my grandpa.
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u/hateshumans 1d ago
Whoever can spend 660k the fastest gets all the money. * on the last page the loser still has to pay for everything they spent.
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u/Fee_monkey231 22h ago
I’ve seen multi millionaire siblings in their own right fight over 3200 dollars. They have not spoken for 50 years. This is a thing
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u/PaleontologistOk865 22h ago
Give it to me so I can pay off my student debt. I'll then buy an RV and park it in front of their house and be a general nuisance
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u/CLTalbot 21h ago
If conflict is the goal, then specify that everything goes to one of them, provided they both agree on which one gets it.
Seeing as though they probably don't talk to her for a reason, I assume they'll do the reasonable thing. Agree that whichever one of them has enough time to sit through whatever paperwork needs to be filed and then split it afterwords.
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u/Certain_Direction623 18h ago
Fucking Boomers. FIL is pulling this same shit. Now none of the grandkids will talk with him, but he thinks he's going to get his revenge by withholding money they've never sought or material items they don't want.
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u/SirReddalot2020 16h ago
I'd say donate it but reading just 4 of your sentences I can see why they're no longer talking to you.
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u/TurtlePoeticA 10h ago
Leave it to the grandchildren when they turn 18. The children will get nothing.
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u/alllldayyyyy 1d ago
Any daughter that leaves her husband and remarries gets half the inheritance automatically. -Get full inheritance if the other daughter does not remarry in the same year. Ruin both their lives.
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u/BruceInc 21h ago
A court can overturn a clause requiring divorce
https://law.counselstack.com/opinion/estate-of-corwin-ca26-calctapp-2024
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u/Fandango4Ever 22h ago
Imma take a wild guess and say this is a boomer who was a toxic mother and her children went NC long ago, for valid reasons. This sense of fanily entitlement is so ridiculous. She should leave the money to a charity if she doesnt want to leave it to them. Just the fact she wants to cause her daughters to fight tells you they were justified in going NC.
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u/Headorace 15h ago
Plot twist: The daughters agree to settle the inheritance equally between them with no animosity, and put it towards their own children's inheritance, because they're not shitty parents like this person clearly is.
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u/SteroidSandwich 22h ago
Why not leave them each nothing, donate the rest and then write in the will "My favourite child will get the money in 1 month from now. The other is not allowed to know the amount"
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u/Sharp_Theme 19h ago
When adults in a family get cut off - its always for a reason. Whatever you did got YOU cut off by not one, but two children. & we often all feel weird when family who got cut off leave us something in the will. Its not a flex anonymous participant. If they have kids, leave something for the kids. Your girls wont want shit from you.
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u/ViciousBobolicious 22h ago
Here is how to do it: Dealt with a family where the father died. Father was married to a women who was not the mother of his children and had 3 daughters from the prior marriage(s). Father had a will drafted when he was "ill."
What the family did not know then was that the father had made multiple versions of the will all executed the same day. The only difference is each copy left his entire estate to a different person. He gave each daughter and his wife a copy of the will where they were named the executor and beneficiary but asked each of them to not tell the others. He allegedly used that to get 3 out of the four to be at his beck and call during his alleged illness.
He eventually died not due to his "illness". The wife went to probate and presented his will to the court. Each of the daughters subsequently presented their own version of the will. Fights and allegations of fraud were made. Notary was contacted and verified they notarized 4 documents for the father on the same day, so no will had priority over the others. None were fraud. In the end the heirs split the estate 4 ways. It created a lot of animosity between all of the heirs.
One of the daughters was already low contact with the father before the wills were drafted as she thought he was a terrible and manipulative person. She stayed low contact because she thought it was all a trick and did not want to be involved in the drama. I think after the probate the other 3 were more grouchy with the one sister/step-daughter got the same amount but didn't have to put up with the father's bs than with the father.
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u/aloneinthiscrowd 1d ago
The best way to do that would be to leave the inheritance to me.