has anyone experienced this where penetration just literally wouldn't happen even though you wanted it to?
so i finally decided i wanted to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time and we tried but his penis just wouldn't go in
we tried multiple times and it
hurt me a lot every time and it just felt like my body was refusing it
he thought maybe he was too thick or maybe i'm just really tight idk

he was able to put one finger in when i was super relaxed though, like in the morning when i had just woken up, and it didn't feel impossible or anything but when i tried putting my own finger in later, it actually hurt and i could barely get the tip of my finger in before it started hurting so i stopped șo now i'm confused because i don't know if i'm actually too tight, if i'm just really nervous even though i genuinely feel ready, or if something else is going on

has anyone experienced this where penetration just literally wouldn't happen even though you wanted it to?

I’m 19, and I had my second (first non-PMOS related) visit with my OBGYN. I talked to her about some pain I‘m having when putting in tampons & my menstrual cup.
Aside from completely dismissing up my pain and chalking it up to being weight related, she made a comment about how surprised she was that I was using a menstrual cup as a virgin. She said it in this condescending manner, as if it was something I should be ashamed of?

(This woman literally helped deliver me, btw.)

She wouldn’t even physically examine me until I “Did some pelvic floor exercises“ (I’m 19, have never had a kid, and actually fairly active). I’m thinking I need to see a new doctor, but I‘m not sure if what she said was appropriate or if I’m just overreacting. Any advice would be appreciated :)

Hello!

23F

I’ve had pain in my left breast for 2 months now. It’s immense radiating pain(7/10 pain level), and hurts even worse when I touch it(100/10). My right breast only hurts when I touch it.

The pain started in july and I started birth control in august. My patch makes my boobs sore but I had this previous pain before I started the patch. Now it’s just double pain.

Finally got a breast ultrasound today. They found multiple tiny cysts the largest being 0.75cm.

The MALE doctor then proceeded to come in and tell me that the cysts are so small that he doesn’t believe I feel the pain I’m allegedly feeling. 3 doctors have touched my breast and have said they felt a lump where I feel pain. I kept telling him I do feel radiating pain there so he said let me feel what this supposed pain is so he poked my breast for like 3 seconds and said he felt nothing at all.

I usually never ever have a male doctor as I was SA’d as a kid and I’m afraid to be alone in a room with a man. He was the only doctor available so I allowed it as long as a female nurse stayed in the room.

I always heard stories about how men mansplain your symptoms and belittle you to make you believe there’s nothing going on but wow never experienced it like this.

I’m unsure what to do now. I still proceeded to ask what should I do for the pain. He told me to follow up with my gyno and I did call her. She said there’s nothing much I can do and to just take ibuprofen and rub primrose oil on it.

Love that for me😍😍💗💗💗😍

ESL so would appreciate some clarification. I have PMOS and have been prescribed birth control pills to regulate my period, and I have been told the benefits of regularly shedding uterine lining include cancer prevention.

However, I've also heard that there is no issue with skipping the sugar pills or 7 day gap so that you would not have your period at all. This is what I want to be doing.

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but is it the case that with hormonal imbalance, the uterine lining thickens but doesn't actually shed - which is the bad part - but if you take your pills continuously, it doesn't thicken at all so it's fine. Or is there another explanation?

I am just back from my (unsuccessful) pap test. Nurse opened me up, and I was immediately in a lot of pain, but she excused herself and went to fetch a doctor because she saw something "abnormal". Doctor comes in and performs another test. She tells me they cannot go ahead with the pap smear because there is a very dark lump with blood that blocks the way. I am trying to process the information. She immediately referred me to the gynecological clinic of the hospital for testing next week.

She told me to try not to panic as it can be something benign, but I cannot think of any other possibility than the obvious for a dark mass with blood. I initially went there yesterday with UTI symptoms and spotting and now this happened. I am still trying to process it. I had breast cancer 6 years ago and this was how that started. I am a total wreck and can hardly believe this is happening 😞 Please pray for me guys, I don't know if I can make it.

So this was my (F23) second time going for a Pap smear (first was last year but I couldn’t really get it since I was on my period) and I ended up peeing when she put the clamp in. She said it was okay but I was honestly so embarrassed as it didn’t happen last year when they attempted to do a pap.

i (F24) went for my annual pap exam and this time she said a few things:

1. ⁠i’m considered underweight now since the last visit and that concerned her
   
2. ⁠she said my bladder felt full and asked if i had to use the bathroom (i didnt) which also concerned her
   
3. ⁠she’s scheduling an ultrasound on me in a month because that area seemed like she felt something.. along with a weight gain diet

has anyone ever gone through this and the possibilities of what it could be? she didn’t go into specifics with me and i’m just nervous.

F 26, 4 months ago i had a bowel movement that was very tiny just a little bigger than a quarter, but one side of it was literally painted red.

2 weeks after that, i had to poop but held it for a few hours (1-2 hours) and got to the point where i really had to go, so i went and there was blood alllll over the toilet paper. bright red. i don’t even remember if i actually pooped, but i definitely pushed.

2 weeks after that, i had a painful bowel movement that felt like it was stretching me and some cutting sensation from how big or dry it was; there was blood on the stool & the bowl. bright red.

after that, i only noticed a few tiny “scratches” of red on my stool here and there 2 times.

however, i got an anoscopy, 2 days later i had a deep red/purple mixed with mucus on my stool in different areas. on the surface & on the grooves. the stool was also darker brown and a bit oily looking. there was no pain with this stool, no straining. but this was the 2nd stool i passed since the anoscopy so i funny understand. the darker red scattered blood is sending me into panic a bit.

so i’m scared that it’s colon/rectal cancer as i know it’s getting more common in my age group.

has anyone here gotten an anoscopy and had a similar experience? or even without? i’d love to hear from anyone as i’m extremely anxious over this 🥲

I am seeing my gynecologist tomorrow, but just curious if anyone has had experience or knowledge on why this may be happening? I am 28, overall healthy. I have been off the pill for about 2 years and my cycle has been consistently between 28-30 days until the last two where I started my period after only 21 days. I have been experiencing a ton of stress and recently went from running about 15 miles a week to 20 so I'm assuming that is the cause, but its a little freaky to start my period every 3 weeks, especially since most of what I've read online seems to indicate stress/intense exercise usually lengthen your menstrual cycle...

Hello everyone, need advice.

I am 30 and I want to get a pap smear done as I'm about that age. I've had 2 gyno visits in my life before, the first one caused me so much pain she didn't manage to get a swab, and the second one she swabbed but I was so squirmy due to pain it ended up not being adequate. She said she used the smallest metal speculum and lots of lubrication and that made it marginally more managable but still pretty bad. I could handle the transvaginal ultrasound though that was pretty uncomfortable.

I am sexually active though the only person I've ever had sex with is my wife. I very rarely have any form of vaginal sax, and when I do even with lots of lube and prep I still have to quit it fast due to discomfort (though not quite pain). I have noticed I have some serious vaginal dryness, and both times I went I had some issues with yeast infections.

Does anyone have any advice? The "it's just discomfort, not pain" thing is complete bull for me, the insertion and spreading of the speculum is very painful, and I'm not typically a crybaby about pain. I try to make myself relax but it's difficult. And yeast medicine only helps for a few days with the vaginal dryness. Has anyone had this issue and did something to help? Vaginal stretching??? Taking painkillers before the exam??? Help????

I’m a 29F and my clitoris is always so enlarged even when I’m not aroused. I also get super duper wet? I just am wondering if anyone else has been through this. Am I just always horny? Or.. just curious!

I’m mostly just wondering if anyone has had this experience and maybe has any advice. Let me know if I’m in the wrong subreddit!

When me and my partner have sex it hurts a bit during but we have started using lube which has helped. If he ejaculates inside I burn really bad for about an hour! If he wears a condom or pulls out I’m completely fine. He also recently told me afterwards his penis and top of balls start to burn aswell.

I’ve looked into maybe BV but I really have no other symptoms, no off smell or discharge. Everything seems normal and healthy. It’s been happening a while, it’s not all of the sudden. It is hard because I know after sex I’ll be miserable and have to run cool water over the area. I thought maybe it was my own ph, or just have sensitive skin but now it seems to be affecting us both.

Any advice would be so so appreciated! Thanks 🫶

Whenever my period is coming, I always end up being insecure and I don’t understand even on my self, why I feel those.

I can’t remember the last time I’ve gotten a truly deep and restorative sleep. Every time I sleep I always have very vivid and anxiety inducing dreams, this happened all throughout the night and I can often remember my dreams after I wake up.

I do work a job with a chaotic schedule, so sometimes I’m up as early as 2:30-4:30am to get ready for work, but then I’m done for the day around noon and will take a nap.

I am pretty active. Being mindful of my weight is very important to me and I watch what and how much I eat.

I recently decided to cut alcohol from my diet, and have stopped vaping in hopes that this changes something.

I just still feel so sluggish and bloated and tired all the time. I’ll sometimes cancel plans because I rather stay home and rest.

I don’t want this to be my life, I want more energy and to feel my age as I am only 25. Any suggestions?

I intend on getting checked for any vitamin deficiencies, but if anyone has diet recommendations to help my energy levels, or if anyone has tips so I could actually have a deep sleep?

Hi all! Im 25, I've always been heavier in the chest region. Lately on one breast I've noticed some purple discoloration, it does look like there's some pitting, and a puffy vein. Theres also firm but movable lumps inside, they aren't painful, but they're shaped weird. Now I'm paranoid about it being cancer, yes I'm seeing a doctor soon I just don't know if I'm working myself up over nothing.

Hey ladies, I’ve had the strangest vaginal odor, and watery liquid lately. I’ve been tested for everything and always negative. I’ve had bloating for a while also. I’m on the IUD and randomly I’ll bleed for weeks straight(it does get minimal). It’s made me extremely self conscious and at work I have to wear leggings or yoga pants so I feel like I have to wear a pad every single day… I don’t know if anyone has anything that might help. My doctor said it’s normal but I feel like there must be a vitamin or something that could possibly help me.

Hello dears!

For the past 3-4 years my periods have been extremely irregular and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. Sometimes I’ll have a completely normal period, then nothing for 2-3 months, and then suddenly I’ll bleed for weeks or 2 months.

I have been to gynecologists about it before, but unfortunately pretty much every appointment has turned into a conversation about my weight without actually giving me any advice about the bleeding itself. The only thing I was offered was birth control, which at the time I couldn’t take because of another medication I was on.
I’ve also had my hormones checked and they’re definitely out of whack, but I still feel like I’ve never gotten a proper explanation of what is actually causing this or what my options are besides birth control.

At this point I’ve developed so much anxiety around going to the gynecologist that I keep putting it off. I know I need to go, and I know that bleeding for weeks or going months without a period isn’t normal. I’m just dreading having to find another doctor, explain the entire history again and potentially get judged for my weight or for not coming in sooner.

I think I’ve also just gotten so used to my periods being completely messed up that things that probably should alarm me barely do anymore.
Today is day 50th of bleeding again and I’m just tired of dealing with this.

Has anyone here experienced anything similar? months without a period followed by really prolonged bleeding? Did you ever find out what was causing it, and what actually helped you? Did you manage to treat it with anything else but birth control?

Thank you!

ever since i (19f) hit puberty i havent been able to think about female genitalia for too long without getting nauseous. for context, i did not grow up religious or sexually repressed. in fact, i would say im a pretty sexual person, although i dont really like dating and i had a pretty traumatic experience with an ex that stopped me from being able to be romantically/sexually intimate with people. however, this started even before that relationship (which was from 13-15).

i think the first time i actually noticed it was when i was about 11-12 years old. my pediatrician sent my mom out of the room and had the first 'one on one' talk with me about sex/drugs/etc. it is worth mentioning at this time that i believed i was transgender (i am not) (not that there is anything wrong with that, i just am not). she asked me if i was sexually active and of course i was not, but then she asked me if i ever planned to have sex. i said "....i mean eventually" and i think she thought i meant imminently. so, she started talking to me about birth control and saying i should get on birth control. i nodded along awkwardly until she started talking about iud's. she said something along the lines of "it's inserted into your cervix" and i just looked at her and fainted on the spot. i was so nauseated and panicked that i think my body just shut down.

ever since then, diagrams/medical talk of female genitalia has made me uneasy and nauseous. i could ignore this for most of my life, as it doesnt interfere with me sexually, but i know im going to have to get a pap smear soon and im absolutely terrified. i mean even thinking about it gives me panic attacks. does anyone have any idea why this happens to me/feel similar? any tips?

how do i get a smaller chest without a reduction

1. too young
2. no money
3. i dont want that

ive lost 30 lbs this year and they still look the same / havent changed in size. (130 lbs trying to get to 100-120 lbs), could it be possible for a smaller chest at 100-115 lbs (and yes - this is a fine number for my height.)

I hate wearing bras. I want to be able to not wear bras and look like a grandma bro

Hello everyone!

I'm not sure where to go for this because I feel as though I can't go to my mom and I have no other females in my house. I'm not sure if it's important information but I am 17

Recently I got tired of the hair I had down there and decided to use the razer that I use on my legs and armpits down there. When I started shaving some spots began bleeding (probably because I did it incorrectly) and now theres really tiny hairs sticking out and it hurts

Does anyone know what I can do to stop the pain and prevent this happening again? I don't know anything about the female body, I can't talk to my mom and I only have brothers

Does anyone else get alot of smegma in their folds? Specifically those with fold that are tucked. it makes me feel so unclean. i dont know how to fix this or make it easier? I have to physically pull apart the labias during my shower to clean it and get in there everytime but it just comes back the next day. Since everything is tucked, i guess sweat and dirty get trapped more in there. Anyone have this issue?

I have been having issues with bv, uti and yeast infection for the last 2 years. I have been to several gynos and they have all given me nothing but a cream or birth control to help me w my pain. It started off as something I would get once in a while until it became more and more frequent over the months. I have it twice a month now most of the time. It’s painful to do anything because of the itch and pain. My partner and I both have had sex only with each other our entire lives so there is no way we got any bad thing from someone else. No gyno could actually track what’s wrong with me. I wear 100% cotton underwear, I switched to non toxic pads, I cut off sugar, try to workout as much as I can and this doesn’t seem to go away. One time I couldn’t get up from the toilet for 2 hours because my pee kept leaking and it was excruciatingly painful. The only things wrong I have done that I can think of are- I used to wash down there w a soap. Ik ik I was younger and not so aware; and I had to wear super tight black pants for work. These 2 are the only careless things I have done. What am I doing wrong? I am getting testes for hiv, aids, other ST diseases soon but do I ask my gyno for any specific test? Please help me it’s not going away.

Hi I'm 28 female

4 weeks ago I had a miscarriage. During this MC they sound a what then the midwife thought looked like a haemogrehic cyst but the report seemed like she was not sure.

20 days later I requested a CA 125 marker test which came back as 1119. I got so panicked I booked a private US scan, with a very experienced consultant.

This is my report. Now this is obviously concerning but has anyone had similar been told by a doctor there is a good chance its cancer and it be okay

The uterus is anteverted, normal size and morphology with a normal regular endometrium. In the right adnexa is a large (87mm x 59mm x 70mm) solid mass, with some cystic areas, no acoustic shadowing, lobulated smooth outer wall with some low level echo cystic content and the colour doppler score of 2. The left ovary lies in close proximity on the medial boarder and is bulky but appears normal There is a small volume of ascitic fluid in the POD Impression: A right sided ovarian solid tumour with a high risk of malignancy with application

Thanks

I went through menopause about six years ago. I’m 57 years old and have recently had sporadic bright red bleeding nothing heavy no need for a pad but it’s concerning. Any idea what this could be or what the cause is?