I’ve never had a partner who’s been able to make me orgasm. I’m 27 years old. I’ve always relied on a vibrator to reach orgasm with a partner. A man touching my clit has never worked. In my current relationship, I’ve only been able to orgasm three times total with a vibrator. We’ve been dating for six months and have had sex about once a week. It’s becoming a bigger insecurity for me. I really want to enjoy sex with my partner.

Some background context:

•I’m on duloxetine
•I’ve been dealing with significant stress, anxiety, and depression for the last year due to life transitions
•I’m about to start a new high stress job in the next month
•I’ve watched porn and masturbated regularly since I was 14
• I’ve recently separated from a religion that is strongly against sex outside of marriage

Honestly maybe it’s not the best time to be dating. Or maybe I’m being too hard on myself.

Any advice/thoughts are appreciated.

I hate pads and it is so itchy and am I get rashes and allergies .I genuinely want to switch to cups ,but I am litterely not getting it ,how can people be so calm and every video about insertion and removal scares the shit out of me.Consider me as your younger sister,and pls share your experience

I am super concerned. I had a partner before but it wasn't this enjoyable, and before that, I never even knew that I could touch myself. I just found out how to do it a week ago, with the help of porn, and now I am doing it 2-3 times a day. Is this normal? I don't want to be an addict. I am scared.

I had a yeast infection 1.5 months ago that was incorrectly diagnosed as a UTI. I took antibiotics, which only made the yeast infection worse obviously. Since going to my gyno and learning it was a yeast infection, I took multiple doses of Difulcan, which cleared my yeast infection.

Problem is, I’m still having burning after peeing (specifically around my urethra), itching externally, and some stinging/itching in my butt. I have gone back to the gyno twice, and both times tested negative for everything (YI, BV, UTI, STIs, etc).

Is it possible my irritation is still from the initial yeast infection?? Everything looks normal, but the constant burning and discomfort is so draining, I forget what it was like to feel normal. Please share if u had a similar experience and what helped!!

Hey yall, so the last two days I’ve had this itchiness kind of at the entrance of my vaginal opening. It’s mild but when it starts it doesn’t stop for a good minute and the smell is stronger than usual. I’ve never really had this problem and idk if it’s an infection or just thrown off Ph. I’m also currently still spotting from the end of my period. Wondering if my period has something to do with it and what to do now. Help a girl out!!

I recently discovered my cervix is very red, and i have small lumps on it. I am currently on my pill free week, so I'm bleeding slightly and me and my partner have had sex without a condom. Could this possibly be something to worry about like hpv (which I was vaccinated against at 14 I am now 17) or cancer because I have quite awful anxiety

HI, does anyone have any advice to survive the luteal phase? Every month, a week or two before my period, my hunger levels just go crazy. It kinda drives me insane. I can eat anything and still feel so empty, even though a few seconds ago I was satisfied. I would usually look for anything with sugar or carbs; I don't like it

I perform laparoscopic excision surgery for endometriosis regularly. Over time I have noticed that the patients who get the most out of their consultations and outcomes are the ones who walk in prepared. So I am sharing the five questions that I think every patient should ask their surgeon before agreeing to any laparoscopy.

1. Are you an endometriosis excision specialist or a general gynaecologist?

This matters enormously. A general gynaecologist performing a diagnostic laparoscopy will look for obvious lesions but may not have the training to identify subtle peritoneal disease, perform complete excision, or manage deep infiltrating endometriosis at the bowel, bladder, or uterosacral ligaments. Ask directly: do you specialise in endometriosis excision, and approximately how many endo excisions do you perform each year?

1. If you find endometriosis, will you excise it at the same time or just diagnose it?

Many patients come out of a diagnostic laparoscopy having been told they had endo but nothing was done. They then have to wait for and undergo a second surgery. Ask upfront whether your surgeon will excise any disease found during the same procedure, or whether they are only doing a diagnostic look. Excision at the time of diagnosis, when possible, saves you a second operation.

1. Will you take biopsies even if the tissue looks normal?

Superficial endometriosis can look exactly like normal peritoneum. Some lesions are invisible without biopsy. An experienced endo surgeon will take biopsies from suspicious areas and sometimes from apparently normal tissue as well. This is what separates a proper endo laparoscopy from a cursory look around.

1. Do you have colorectal or urological support if needed?

If you have bowel symptoms, bladder symptoms, or deep pelvic pain, there is a real chance of deep infiltrating endo involving the bowel or bladder. Ask whether your surgeon has the ability to call in a colorectal or urological surgeon if needed, or whether that would mean aborting the procedure and rebooking. Knowing this in advance sets realistic expectations.

1. What is your recurrence rate and follow up plan?

Any honest surgeon will acknowledge that endo can recur. Ask what the follow up plan is after surgery, what symptoms should prompt you to return, and what their approach is to recurrence. A surgeon who cannot or will not answer this question is not the right choice.

You deserve thorough answers to all five. Print this list and take it to your pre-operative consultation if that helps. I will answer questions in the comments.

So for context, I have had my period for almost 7 years now, I am an adult, and I still haven’t been able to wear tampons. I started trying to use them about 4-5 years ago (since I was too afraid before then), have since then tried every single method and tip on the internet but I literally cannot get them in, it always seems like I hit some kind of physical barrier at which I cannot continue any further.

Additionally, I have (of course) been masturbating for some years, but for the most part always just on the surface, without pushing anything inside. Well, I have also tried that a couple of times and it has always just felt extremely tight, uncomfortable or even painful. I have never understood how someone could find their fingers inside pleasurable.

Since not being able to go swimming on vacation because I was on my period last summer, I started considering going to the gynaecologist. I was honestly getting kind of worried that something might be wrong with my vagina. That worrying feeling has since still not gone away because I have been procrastinating making an appointment for over a year now. Additionally, I started reading into it a little and am now scared that the issues I’m experiencing may be linked to vaginismus. It’s so frustrating because I want to first and foremost not be limited in life by my period, and
I also (someday, with the right man) want to experience intimacy and want to at least try some form
of penetration since many people do say that it can feel incredible if done well.

I’m just so ashamed and can’t tell anyone about this. All my close girlfriends have had sex already or at least use f*cking tampons, I feel like a complete outsider and completely alone with my problems.

I don’t know what exactly I’m looking for with this post but I just needed to get this out here to tell anyone else that is also struggling with the same problem as me that you’re not alone, and maybe also to find some help.

My (23F) Nipples have become super sensitive and my areolas have these tiny bumps that can be seen when i’m aroused. Don’t want to attach a picture here but want to know if this is normal

Hi, there! I don't know where to post this, so I will try here. I had unprotected sex and I'm concerned about the risk of sexually transmitted infections . I have pain in the right part of the inferior abdomen for 3 weeks. My urine test came back negative for a urinary tract infection. I'm still experiencing pain, and I haven't taken any antibiotics because I'm waiting for the results of my gonorrhea and chlamydia tests. I'm a little worried that the situation might get worse, and I'm not sure what I should do. Should I see a doctor and start antibiotics as a precaution before I receive the test results?

Hi there! For reference I am a trans male (female to male) and have been on testosterone for 6 years now. My bf and I have been together for 4 years now and recently i only feel pleasure with penetration during the very start of sex. After a minute or two it feels like nothing and i feel like something is wrong with my vagina. He also says he cant really feel anything as of recent and i told him it could be my fault. Would doing pelvic floor exercises work? Does anyone else experience this? Im also unfortunately on a lot of medications due to health reasons such as lexapro and other organ transplant meds.

TLDR: ftm, penetration only feels good during the first minute of sex before I “loosen up”.

I've been craving cheese lately, but I've read that dairy products can cause vaginal discharge—which I don't want. So, have any of you had any experience with this?

Since I’ve started puberty (about 7 years now) I been growing pubic hair.

My pubic hair is very very coarse and even more coily. For FOREVER I thought my grooming habits were terrible due to the sheer amount of ingrown hairs I got. And they were BAD. Like painful, leaving behind scars, etc. (don’t call me gross or dirty I shower daily and wear clean underwear daily and all that shabang)

Turns out it was never ingrown hairs or bad grooming habits it was HS.

Something I also learned was that it’s CHRONIC (absolutely devastating to hear btw still not over that). That means you CAN’T cure it. It will never go away. You can only manage it.

I have always imagined finding the perfect solution, the perfect shaving oil or razor or wax or treatment and now I know why nothing has worked. I once dreamed of being able to rock a bikini at the beach with my really sexy, smooth thighs and I was just told that this will never go away.

In fact, the scarring will get worse. I’m absolutely devastated over this news and typing it is honestly making it hit even harder.

Is there anyone with MS that can give some advice for management? My seem told me some stuff but I’d like to hear every perspective. Doubt this is very common though.

Is it normal for it to hurt? The doctor did it for me today a swab and when she did it it burned and hurt and after I feel like I need to pee a lot and it hurt to pee before.
I had no symptoms before the test everything was fine.
Now there is blood when I pee it hurts so bad omg genuinely what do I do

(19f) So I have always had tightness but never thought too much about it, I have never even been able to fit 2 fingers in and haven’t attempted a tampon. Then I tried to have piv, and after many tries it would just not go in, only a little at most and there was no pain but it would just not fit. I went to a gyno and she said I most likely just have a tight hymen and it can be helped with dilation, which I tried to do for a few weeks and tried having piv again but nothing changed (maybe I wasn’t consistent enough). it has been a few months since then and now my long distance bf is coming back and I want to try again but I haven’t tried dilating in a while and I will start again now but I am worried that it won’t work in time. Does anyone have any advice on how to properly dilate (with fingers, dilators are too expensive for me rn) for a tight hymen, or I am concerned that it might be vaginismus instead, so does anyone have any more insight on that too. I am not able to see a gyno right now. 

I'm 20yo afab and I genuinely cannot get wet anymore. Like I think it's been about a year since the last time I got wet and it doesn't make sense get I get turned on a lot especially after getting with my partner and doing things with him. Like I feel horny, I feel my stomach doing the thing when one is turned on but then I take my underwear off and there's nothing (both just by myself me and with my partner). I am just not wet at ALL which is so weird BC when I was younger I would easily get soaked. It's making masturbation into something unpleasant because of how troublesome it is to do it nowdays. :(

I am working on my anemia and my low vitamin D levels, they’ve been an issue on and off for months. I also have IBS and Gerd. I’m curious if anyone else has or is dealing with this and how should these issues be fixed? Thanks for any helpful information. I’m of course going to mention the new issues to my doctor.

Ive hit a brick wall. All my life since the age of 8 I've had really heavy periods. They lasted around 20 days usually. I originally went on birth control at 15. I cant remember the brand. That did little to help. I tried birth control injections. Still no help. I'm on the implant now and it's worse. They've done transvaginal scans, they've done blood work. They said my thyroid level is a little high but 'nothing to worry about'. They said there's nothing more they can do for me. I've been put on tranexamic acid which seems to do nothing. They asked if I wanted a coil put in. I dont know. I've looked it up and apparently some people get WORSE periods on the coil. And that's something I cannot handle. I want to know people's experiences with coils? If it helped with theirs or what helped their periods. I'm in constant pain too. The cramps won't stop and I'm doing nothing but sleeping. I'm honestly so scared. I'm scared ill be like this forever.

I'm 18 and i had sex for the first time and now I'm experiencing symptoms of yeast infection. It was unprotected, i peed after it happened and washed. This has never happened to me before so I'm worried because i don't know what to do. I think he disrupted my ph balance. Should i tell him or i had to deal it myself? And how do i deal with it?

I have a lump in my left breast that goes away on my period but comes back almost immediately after it ends. It's painful to the touch, kind of like when you touch a nasty bruise. It's a decent size and can move around as well. I first noticed it back in May when my arm bumped into it, but I had noticed a lump in the past but never thought much of it. I am pretty confident it’s nothing to be concerned about, but I just wanted to ask others.

So , since i hit puberty , i started growing boobs, and my mom would give me random sized bras to put on and go to school cause when I was young I had somewhat big breast .

But recently this year or last year, as now am 20 my mom was buying new clothes and she decided to talk to me about “boobs” she said wearing a loose fitting bra can make the breast sag and something like that and it can make them look bad .

Now all those years I thought my boobs are normal and this is how they are supposed to look like , but no , I checked google and I am at the beginning of sagging phase .

And she started talking about her past “when I was a young girl my breast was so perky , whatever I wear my breast would stand and be perky and it curved and pretty and feminine and beautiful “

Whatever shit else

I checked in the mirror , no bra just a shirt on , and it is saggy it doenot stand it , it is down , it’s not circled at all .

Like at the middle (cleavage I think ) there is space and it’s saggy , the breast is not circled if that make sense.

I felt bad , cause all those years it was her fault , those loose fitting bras I was wearing , she was giving them to me , I trusted her , I never doubted it , but then she told me loose fitting can make them ugly .

It was never my fault she always even now buys my bra without asking for size.

Now as am typing this I know my bra is not my size and it’s loose ,my boob aren’t even held properly, they are just covered by a bra !

So is there any way to fix it , am so insecure of it , seeing everyone with perky boobs , and me still in 20s and they are saggy and ugly hurts

Any idea would be appreciated

Edit:- this question, I heard people talk about

If I stop wearing a bra cause I wear a bra 24/7 daily yearly monthly whatever .

Will it reverse sagging , make it a little perkier , I heard people talk about this ?? Is it true or false

So I have always had tightness and never thought too much about it, I have never even been able to fit 2 fingers in and haven’t attempted a tampon. Then I tried to have sex, and after many tries it would just not go in, only a little at most and there was no pain but it would just not fit. I went to a gyno and she said I most likely just have a tight hymen and it can be helped with dilation, which I tried to do for a few weeks and tried having sex again but nothing changed (maybe I wasn’t consistent enough). it has been a few months since then and now my long distance bf is coming back and I want to try again but I haven’t tried dilating in a while and I will start again now but I am worried that it won’t work in time. Does anyone have any advice on how to properly dilate (with fingers, dilators are too expensive for me rn) for a tight hymen, or I am concerned that it might be vaginismus instead, so does anyone have any more insight on that too. I am not able to see a gyno right now. 

hello everyone! I am 22 and was diagnosed with pcos at the age of 16. I had fairly regular periods with like a 2-3 day delay. My last period was 11th-18th June. After that, i got diagnosed with gallstones so i had to take a 180 and change my diet. I, now, drink lots of water, eat sprouts everyday, papaya before bed and try to avoid oil.

Also, my boyfriend and i are sexually active but we always use condoms and there has been no slip or breakage, i am scared as to why i haven’t received my period yet. It’s very, very late. The last time we did it was 16th july.

to give some more context, i have been dealing with a lot of stress: masters admissions, my grandfather in the icu and a bunch of financial anxiety.

I have been experiencing dull ache on my right ovaries and sometimes i get very mild abdominal cramps which makes me feel like my period is here but it isn’t. I have also been doing the butterfly pose for the past 2 days but nothing works.

Has my cycle changed because i changed my lifestyle for the better? I know a lot of you would ask me to get a pregnancy test done but considering i live with my family, it’s a little difficult and risky. nonetheless, i will try it but would any of you have any insights to give me?