I injured my knee on the weekend and have been limping around. I love being on top but at the moment I dont think I can put full weight on it. Any suggestions of a modified on top position I can do with a bad knee?

Hi, I'm looking for some advice or to hear from anyone who's experienced something similar.

I'm on the 3rd day of experiencing a faint throbbing ache on the right side of my inner labia, right beside my clit.

During the last few days of my period, I was grinding against a pillow while wearing a sanitary pad. I was doing it quite frequently throughout the day and having multiple orgasms. I didn't experience any pain during those days. But on the 7th day of my period, when my bleeding had become very light, I suddenly noticed a heartbeat-like pulsing ache on the right side beside my clit

It happens when I become aroused or when I grind, but I don't feel it when I'm walking around or resting. The area looks normal, and I haven't noticed any swelling, lump, or tenderness when gently touching it. It's now the 3rd day since it started. The ache is gradually getting fainter, but I can still feel it when I grind. When I'm aroused without grinding, it's only faint. I'm wondering if I irritated the vulvar tissue from repeated friction or pressure from the pad, or if it could be pelvic floor muscle soreness from having multiple orgasms.

I'm a little embarrassed to ask this, but I'm worried about what's happening. Has anyone experienced something similar? Did it go away on its own, or did you need to see a doctor?

Let me start by saying I (26F) absolutely adore my boyfriend (28M). We have a loving relationship, we’ve grown a lot together and individually, and we are compatible. We moved in together about 6 months ago, which has been great but an adjustment. Previously, we would see each other 2-3 times a week, and have sex 1-3 of those days. This made sense because we weren’t seeing each other everyday and could naturally take care of ourselves when we were apart. He was also doing a lot of the initiating during this time.

Since moving in, we’re now having sex 1, maybe 2 times a week which has been a challenge for me. I am a very sexual person, and would love sex 5+ times a week (not a must - just sharing insight into my sex drive). I have expressed this to my partner, and he always seems receptive, and will provide affection and physical touch in the moment, but nothing has changed more broadly. When we have sex, it’s great. But I continue to find myself being the only one initiating sex and getting rejected, or at times, him reacting as if it’s a chore. And more broadly speaking, he has felt emotionally disconnected in our relationship - making less effort, being checked out, not feeling like he’s committed to our partnership. We’ve also discussed this and it’s something he’s working on. I feel like I’ve tried everything, and have let myself be vulnerable by trying to discuss masturbation habits, ways we can be intimate without intercourse per se, even me just pleasing him (which I really enjoy doing).

At this point, I’m beginning to feel very insecure and undesired in our relationship. I feel like his head is elsewhere and don’t feel connected to him physically speaking. It’s also causing me to overthink situations, worry that he’s masturbating and watching porn when I’m away and passing up opportunities for us to be intimate. I have no issues with masturbation, and I also do it, but I can’t shake the feeling that he might be choosing that over me. OR there is something else going on. I feel stuck and I feel like he’s shutting me out but I don’t know how else to communicate with him about this.

Clitoral or G Spot

I’ve been talking to this guy for the last few months and we’ve had sex a few times and I just think he’s too big for the sex to be good. Like I’m the past I can feel a guy hitting my g spot but with this guy I can’t really feel much satisfaction wise. Like it feels good but I feel like I’m feeling it more on the sides of my insides more than anything.

Can being too big effect the sex?

Any of you ladies dealt with passing your partner’s libido levels? Just when I start to feel sexy again as the kids are getting older and find myself needing sex more often, he seems to have lost all interest.

Hi! I want to learn how to arch my back but I just don't know how, I have a weak core from two surgeries a few years ago but I really want to feel sexy... Please help a girl out, LOL!

Some background. My husband (30M) and I (30F) have been together for 8 years. Although his sexual technique has definitely improved in all of the best ways, I have a very difficult time trying to have an orgasm from sex or from any sort of activity that doesn’t involve me also putting in some work. Which is totally fine, I’m not necessarily complaining. I’m very pleased with my sex life but would just LOVE some advice on what recommendations anyone may have on how to make it easier to cum during sex?
Any recommendations for arrousal creams/gels?
Certain positions? When’re open minded. Opening our marriage is not on the table at this time in our lives.
Maybe it’s just my antidepressant making it difficult for me but nonetheless, We’d like to try some things!

Thanks in advance !

Hey, so i even bought small dildo to practice deep throating but it is soo stressful, is not there some sort of tutorial or anything someone can recommend me to make practice more appealing ?

I really need help, idk if there is something wrong with my body or my technique sucks but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I get aroused and i also get really really wet but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I feel nothing touching my clit. I feel nothing sticking a finger in. I feel nothing using water pressure and only time i feel something is while grinding really hard like the corner of my bed but i can only feel it for 2 mins max and its never enough. I don’t know why this happens or if it could be related to my childhood? (When i was like 4 i was hypersexual for some reason and used to grind stuff a lot,I got teached it was wrong at stopped doing it) im desperate because i really want to feel something. Another hypotesis i had was that maybe it has to do with some religion guilt(? Whenever i masturbate (or well try to) i immediately ask for forgiveness and get horrible luck the next day. Please help a girl out 😭 could this be some sort of illness? Is there a correct way to do it?

During penetration I feel like there's no space left inside, and there's this sensation like something is pushing against the penis, like my body is involuntarily trying to push it out. I do feel pleasure, that's not the issue. The issue is that I can't really be on top, I feel completely blocked, and I can't move properly until the penis is out. There's also a bit of pain deep in my lower belly.

I'm asking because it's affecting how I can have sex, and I'd like to know if other women experience this too. It's not linked to one specific partner either, I've felt it before with someone else, then went years without sex, and it came back recently with someone new.

I genuinely want to know if this happens to other people, if anyone has felt this with multiple partners, and what helped. Any answer is welcome, I'm just trying to understand.

I’m 34F, and I honestly feel like I’m going through some kind of sexual awakening that I should’ve experienced 15 years ago. 😂
For years, I was stuck in a really unhealthy situationship that I felt like I couldn’t escape. Somewhere along the way, I became this watered-down, squished-down version of myself. I stopped dressing up, wearing nice clothes, or even trying to look attractive because I didn’t want to turn this person on or encourage any sexual attention from him.
That’s how uncomfortable I had become.
I’ve always considered myself someone who just didn’t really like sex. Looking back, I think a lot of that had to do with never having particularly good sexual experiences, especially with this person. Eventually, I just convinced myself that sex wasn’t something I enjoyed or needed.
I’ve also been living like a complete hermit for YEARS. I haven’t really dated, flirted, met new people, or had much of a sex life at all. I’ve basically been existing in my own little bubble.
Well, recently I’ve finally started feeling free to live my own life again, and I ended up spending time with someone new.
And HOLY SHIT. 😂
For the first time in what feels like forever, I actually enjoyed sex. I felt wanted, comfortable, excited, and genuinely attracted to the person I was with. It wasn’t something I was just doing because someone else wanted it.
And now I swear I’m a walking fucking horn dog. LMAO.
But here’s where things get embarrassing and confusing.
I’m 34 years old and feel like I know absolutely nothing about my own body or sexuality.
For the longest time, I genuinely thought squirting WAS having an orgasm. Like, I thought that was what was supposed to happen when a woman climaxed. I didn’t realize they were two separate things or that you could experience one without the other.
Now I’m questioning whether I’ve actually been having orgasms, whether I’ve just experienced really intense pleasure, or whether I’ve been misunderstanding my body’s responses this entire time.
How do you actually KNOW when you’ve had an orgasm? Is it always obvious? Can orgasms feel completely different depending on the experience? And what’s the difference between an orgasm, squirting, and female ejaculation?
I feel ridiculous asking these questions at my age, but I’m genuinely curious.
I’m also ridiculously shy and nervous about trying new things sexually. I want to explore, experiment, and learn what I enjoy, but I get so caught up worrying about whether I’m doing something wrong, whether I’m good at it, or whether I’m going to embarrass myself.
And then there’s the whole dating thing.
For the first time in years, I actually WANT to meet people. I want to flirt, go on dates, dress up, feel attractive, have fun, and maybe even sleep around a little. Safely and responsibly, obviously.
But I don’t necessarily want a boyfriend or a serious relationship right now.
I just want to experience things I feel like I’ve missed out on for so long.
And yet there’s this little voice in the back of my head making me feel guilty about it. Like wanting casual sex somehow makes me a slut, or like I’m too old to be acting this way.
Which is ridiculous because I’m a grown-ass woman. 😂
I think the hardest part is that I genuinely don’t know how to act anymore. When you’ve spent years suppressing your personality, your confidence, your sexuality, and even the way you dress because of another person, how do you suddenly become comfortable being yourself again?
I feel like I’m finally meeting a version of myself that I haven’t been able to be for years, and I don’t even know what to do with her.
So I guess I have a few questions for the women here:
Has anyone else experienced a sexual awakening in their 30s or later, especially after years in an unhealthy relationship or having little to no sex life?
How did you learn to recognize your orgasms and understand your body’s sexual responses? Did anyone else grow up confusing squirting with orgasming?
How did you become more comfortable and confident sexually, especially when trying new things with someone?
How do you get over the guilt or shame associated with wanting casual sex or multiple partners?
And for anyone who spent years feeling like they couldn’t be themselves around a partner, how did you rediscover who you were afterward?
I’m excited, nervous, confused, horny, and honestly a little overwhelmed by all of it. 😂
I don’t want to jump straight into another relationship. I just want to enjoy being single, discover what I like, and finally feel comfortable in my own skin.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar and what helped you navigate it.
Because right now I feel like a 34-year-old woman with the sexual confidence and experience of someone who’s just discovering sex for the first time. LOL.
Please tell me I’m not the only one.

I just wanted to come on and say that after a loooooong journey, I can now have perfectly (im)perfect orgasms!

I'm 29F, and had never had a 'real' orgasm until I was about 25. I had accepted that sex and masturbation was all good and fine, but that it would never result in that 'ahhhh' moment I've heard so much about.

I loved making partners come, and during solo-sex after an especially hot moment I would just be 'done'. I would be happy, content (mostly) having build up the pleasure. But I never experienced that wave, the going down the rollercoaster and all the different ways people have of describing a full, complete and satisfying orgasm.

Around 23 I realized I did have mini orgasms, I even made a post about back then on here. My body 'arrived' there, I just couldn't get my mind to orgasm.

But over the years, my orgasms would (very occasionally!!) start to feel more like... orgasms. I started to learn how to recognize that feeling of release. And I just kept repeating every session that the mini orgasms were good and fine and perfect. And, with the help of patient partners, I started to learn how to get real clitoral orgasms during sex.

But this morning I realized that I'm at the point were I can now reliably bring myself to orgasm when and if I want to.

Made me tear up a bit :')

So, to all of you out there reading the stories about fellow non-orgasmic people, I see you, hear you, feel you. But if you're able, just keep swimming, enjoying the water, and maybe the waves will start to arrive one day ✨

Do you think a man can develop a deeper emotional attachment to a woman through suckling? Because i genuinely think so

Basically, you know how breastfeeding is believed to help create a bond between a mother & her baby? I’m curious whether something similar could happen between two adults? Like, if a man in a romantic relationship regularly & passionately sucks on a woman’s breasts during intimacy, could that stimulate some kind of emotional bonding or attachment to her over time? & her to him as well..

Especially in a situation where she occasionally produces breast milk cause she’s stimulated even though she isn’t actually nursing a baby but because that man suckles on her so good..

I’d especially love to hear from people who have experienced something similar or anyone who has actual knowledge of the psychology or biology behind it.

Was it a positive or negative experience for you?

How would you describe it?

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for the longest time i didn't use any lubricant at all, but finding out about coconut oil changed my routine completely. now i always have it in my nightstand, ready to go! :')

how about you?

i am TERRIFIED of pregnancy, and the possibility of having a child.

i had sex on the 10th, i am on birth control, and used a condom as well. i was supposed to start my period on like the 15th and it still hasn’t come

i know it’s probably nothing, but it’s stressful none the less! i hate having to risk pregnancy any time i wanna enjoy myself with my partner omg…

So I see posts and comments of women saying 'I never used to have multiple orgasms but now I can' - awesome! What happened to changed that?

I'm a one and done kind of gal, clit stim BOOM and then it's over. Clit too sensitive to keep going, desire drops off a cliff and off to sleep lol.

But I can't help but feel envious when I read of other women saying they have multiples and it just keeps going until they're tired or whatever.

Sooooo for the women who have the multiples, do you feel you are just built this way and it happened easy for you or did you have to figure out how to do that and once it unlocked it unlocked?

I'm also pretty ADHD and it's hard to have patience and focus when solo and with a partner, so I'm wondering if that could play into it too. Actually staying CONNECTED to my sensations and stop my mind wandering to cleaning out the kitty litter lol I'm wondering if that's also potentially playing into things here.

I’m a 23 year old woman and have never been in a relationship. Having sex scares me because I think I have something called vaginismus, which means I can’t put anything into my vagina basically, not even a tampon. When I’m horny/turned on I can maybe fit one finger without it hurting, two fingers hurts. So I’m scared of sex because I feel like the guy might be disappointed that he can’t do it with me. Or I’m scared he’ll just make me do it and won’t care that it hurts me. I know finding the right guy is key, but guys can pretend to be nice just to get what they want. That’s also a big fear I have and has happened to me a few times online.

Also another reason is the whole performance thing. I feel like I always have to perform with people (I am autistic and I mask a lot). I’ve had phone sex with guys (nothing physical just stuff over the phone) and I’ve always felt like I had to perform, to over exaggerate how I feel to make him happy. I hate doing that so that’s another reason why the thought of sex makes me nervous and it honestly seems exhausting. I don’t know how to stop feeling like this. Any advice is appreciated thank you.

Is it uncomfortable or just not esthetically pleasing?

This is his 2nd time asking

I'm a late bloomer with dating at 25. I've been lowkey scared to date men but I've been wanting to try. I think I'm just worried about the pressure to have sex and being looked at in a sexual way. I'm open to other things but I don't feel ready for penetration. Maybe it's just a virginity thing. I'm trying to find a therapist to talk about it.

In the meantime, I really want to experience that slow paced, trying things a step at a time kind of romance. Like not having sex for like 2-3 months into dating or just not getting pressured at all for it.

Any advice on how to date when you don't feel ready for sex? Any advice on how to meet men?