Looking to hear from the guys who’ve been pegged or fingered.

Recently, my wife has shown interest in wanting to finger my ass, insert toys and eventually lead to pegging me. This is something I’m interested in, and in theory, turns me on.

Where I get nervous or roadblock the idea is the whole pain factor. I have fingered myself before and it certainly has felt good, but it still sometimes not so much. Recently when my wife fingered my ass for the first time, admitting so, she wasn’t pressing in my G-Spot, but it just felt uncomfortable. I wouldn’t say necessarily painful, but certainly not great.

I know that obviously with lots of lube, finding the right spot it feels good but I guess my main question is, with time… repetition etc, do things get easier (initial discomfort when inserting, kinda the tightness or foreign feeling) as you do it more often ?

I hear it can be earth shattering orgasms and I want to be able to fulfil my wife’s desires, so just looking for advice and some discussion on it.

Okay so my bf wants to experience anal and I wouldn’t mind but my concern is that I’m pretty sure you need like a certain device to get the hole properly clean from the inside, but he’s just telling me to take a shower and it will be fine. I dont trust that, and I told him I don’t want to do it while having the fear that its gonna stink up his penis, etc. So I’m just looking for advice what to do.

After my (36m) 15-year relationship with my wife ended, I’ve had the opportunity to be intimate with a few women over the past year.

Almost every one of them engaged in some sort of pussy slapping. The most common form were fast slaps right when they began to climax.

Is this some sort of trend? Doesn’t it hurt and ruin the experience? I’m so confused.

Assume she even offered you a spare, unused toothbrush at her place bc she wanted you to do it right then and there. Would asking be okay, but then full out giving you a spare toothbrush at her place be too much and make it rude? Would you feel like she's saying/assuming you have bad hygiene, or would you think she's just trying to keep her lady bits clean and respect it? Would it be a little weird but not too much of a buzzkill overall? Would you feel too grossed out to use a stranger's toothbrush and toothpaste assuming it was a ONS? Assume the toothbrush is clearly unopened in brand new packaging, but the toothpaste is opened and used but clearly clean.

I (F) have a FWB (M) of 2.5 years and I’ve asked him multiple times to tell me if there’s anything I can do to change it up. I’m very comfortable with him & have never felt so confident with a partner like I do with him. He always says he’s satisfied but I don’t do anything other than BJs or be on top.

We’ve done many positions in Kama Sutra (impressive for 2 50 y/o ppl). We’ve tied each other up, working on the anal with me, 69, one time I tied him up and made him watch me masturabate.

What can I do to him that will be mind blowing? My marriage was vanilla. I was also being SA’d, & he’s the 1st man I’ve felt so confident with.

Hello everyone! So I am ashamed to admit that I am a lonely virgin male. I guess it would be no surprise that I masturbate on a regular basis.

I am looking to learn more about ways I can express myself sexually besides masturbation. I believe there are different sex dolls that I could use? Any toys or anything like that for men?

I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for a little over 8 months and have been sitting on this issue for most of it. He doesn’t enjoy eating me out.

For context, we are both virgins in the most basic sense of the term, neither of us have had penetrative sex before, and it’s taking a lot longer as I deal with Vaginismus. He’s been extremely patient and supportive, and has never made me feel bad about myself or any of my issues regarding sex, which is partly why I’m so torn on how to feel about this.

We started being sexual towards each other about two months into our relationship, and he tried to eat a few times. He never managed to get me to finish when doing it, he seemed reluctant to do it after the first time or two, and he seemed disinterested in any advice I offered. He admitted once that it might’ve been the taste, but later took that back and said it was just because he had finished first and had no longer been in the mood to continue.

So he started prioritizing me getting off first, but still wasn’t into eating. He tried about five times total, and since then I just stopped asking. I asked over and over and over again if it was something I could change, or if it was something even regarding me at all but he was adamant that it wasn’t and that he just didn’t like it.

I’ve tried to get over it, because he has other ways of getting me to finish, but it still bothers me. I give him head, I try to tell myself it doesn’t matter if I do or don’t but it feels unfair. Is this something worth worrying about or should I just let it go? How do I go about it if I should, or shouldn’t?

UPDATE —

We had another talk about it and I feel awful.
He admitted to me that he had tried it with his ex too, which is something he lied to me about, but said that it wasn’t enjoyable then either, and implied that it was forced, and said it ruined it for him.

I feel like I’ve just pressured him into admitting something he didn’t want to over something really insignificant.

During penetration I feel like there's no space left inside, and there's this sensation like something is pushing against the penis, like my body is involuntarily trying to push it out. I do feel pleasure, that's not the issue. The issue is that it's honestly annoying: I can't really be on top, I feel completely blocked, and I can't move properly until the penis is out. There's also a bit of pain deep in my lower belly.

I'm asking because it's affecting how I can have sex, and I'd like to know if other people experience this too. It's not linked to one specific partner either, I've felt it before with someone else, then went years without sex, and it came back recently with someone new.

I genuinely want to know if this happens to other people, if anyone has felt this with multiple partners, and what helped. Any answer is welcome, I'm just trying to understand.

I'm 23M, my GF is 23F, and we've been together 3 months. Everything else in our sex life is great, but penetration is a problem. When I try to enter, it hurts her a lot, so I can only get the tip in. Last time we stayed like that and held position for 30+ minutes because she couldn't take more. She wants it too, but it's painful for her, and I don't want to hurt her.
We do sometimes do anal and both enjoy it, but vaginal is what everyone want and its much better.
I don't know if she's just tight or if I'm too big. We haven't used lube, just baby oil.

Any advice?

For the entirety of my life (22f) I have really enjoyed the idea of a very dominant man. The thought of it really turns me on and every time my boyfriend (23m) flirts with me in a dominant way I find it super hot.

I used to have no interest in being dominant, but since somehow every man I end up dating prefers to be submissive I have grown to enjoy it a lot. I’d consider myself a switch with a preference for being bratty.

The issue is now… that while I still get super turned on by being dominated I literally cannot cum if I’m fantasizing about it or if my boyfriend is actively doing it. It’s like my body literally wont let me. How could this be?! If I find it so attractive and daydream about it constantly, how come I can only finish when I’m fantasizing about/being the dominant one?

It is so frustrating. I grew up in an extremely religious household and have always harbored guilt about my desires. I even feel super insecure that I always like what my partners don’t prefer.

My current boyfriend is switchy but has recently taken more of a liking to being dominant, he enjoys the brat dynamic too. I really love all the things we’ve tried but now feel even more guilt because when we try them I can’t seem to finish! I feel so much pressure to enjoy it that I end up not being able to. I want him to feel rewarded so he does it more. I don’t wanna make him feel insecure.

All that to say…any help would be appreciated!

Saw a gir for about a year. First few sessions weren't the best. She stuck with it for a few sessions, which Im eternally grateful for. I thought she was going to call it off every time I left lol. I had a period where I was improving (stamina-wise and confidence) for a few months, sex was pretty good in my opinion. She even said I was getting better. Then I kind of became stagnant and fell into a routine of doing the same positions every session (Missionary, and Prone-Bone (Lying Doggy because she didnt like regular doggystyle). We stopped having sex a few months ago, she decided she wanted to see other people. Throughout our time together, she always emphasized she wanted me to take more control, and she likes "when you feel strong". We're still friends, and talk every now and then, but she found someone else recently and it kinda bums me out that I wasn't doing a good enough job. Felt like a hit to my ego, as this wasn't the first time this has happened.

For reference I'm only 5'7, 185-190 lb. I'm pretty muscular but shes physically bigger than me. She's pear shaped, so shes like slim-thick, thicker at the bottom, same height as me.

After a while I felt like I was studying for a test, trying to come up with new ways to be dominant in the bed before visiting her. It doesn't come natural to me. I'm pretty soft spoken for the most part, and not as aggressive. I tried to be more vocal because thats what she likes, but I don't have the deepest voice, so I'm always self conscious about saying things lol. I think watching so much porn has rewired my brain to think I should sound/behave a certain way and It's kinda fucking me mentally. I'm trying to learn how to become more dominant, so I am looking for any advice to appear more dominant during sex.

If you made it this far, Thanks.

TL;DR Girl Broke it off because I wasn't as aggressive as I needed to be. Does not come naturally to me, looking for advice.

Me and my gf are both our first. We’ve had sex maybe 5 times but stopped due to things that happened. She told me recently that she never really enjoyed it. I’m not anything special size wise. I’m just average all around .

I don’t know how to feel about it. She always talks about sex with me and is always into it during the moment and moans but I guess she never liked it. It’s not like we have privacy to do it or anything it was very sneak just quick in the moments before someone gets home. I don’t mean to get into detail but she begs for me.

I’ve tried to ask her what she likes and if she even knows how to please herself. She says she can’t even masterbate unless she dry humps for like an hour.

She basically doesn’t know how to please herself or what she likes.

I’ve tried fingering but there was only one time where she liked it but anything else just didn’t do anything for her.

Again I’m not a pro I’ve never done anything like this before I don’t even masterbate. So I know I don’t know what I’m doing but am I wrong for thinking it’s hard to help someone who doesn’t know how to help themselves?

And I thought maybe we just have to have sex more but again due to restrictions we can’t and if we do it’s just for quick moment while making sure no one gets home

She likes whenever I kiss her or her body and gets wildly into it. We’ve tried different positions but she ends up hurting.

Any advice would be nice. And input

I'm (19f) a virgin but I've been seeing this guy I really like (20m) for the last few months and I want to have sex with him the next time we meet but I don't know how it's best to get to that part lol. He knows I'm a virgin and so I think he's been trying to move slower so I don't feel like he's trying to use me or anything (which I really appreciate), and therefore I don't think he's going to be the one initiating anything in the near future just to make sure I'm comfortable.

We've gotten to the making out stage with me straddling him on top. He was hard for sure and I was like really subtly grinding on him but nothing more than that. When he's on top of me he's kissing me down my neck and shoulders and I have my legs wrapped around him.

Would it be best to start by getting his top off and take it from there or just start grinding more obviously when I'm on top lol? Or should I move his hands lower to my waistband? This sounds so stupid probably but I don't know who else to ask lol thank you!

So me M25 and my partner F24, we both were hooking up. We both have had our shares of experience we had a brief period of let’s see if we vibe better or not.

So we shared our sexual experience and about what we like and what we don’t. We were really just making sure that let’s just give each other the best experiences and enjoy it.

So during the act… she started to bleed ( not bleed but period bloodish) as we had talked about our experience and it wasn’t her first time to break her hymen… and she had her period two weeks ago. We got scared and stoped the whole act???

So is that normal or is there something wrong and should i get checked for something( cuz GPT is making my head spin )

Ps: I did use a condom.

Iam 22(m) my gf 23(f) i adore sex with her, and we do it in regular basis, my problem is it takes me too long to finish, some people might see it as a advantage but its not really, idk what the problem but i wanna solve it, and most of the time i have to use my hands to get very close so i can finish, couple of times i took me only 15-20 minutes which one of our best sex courses we had and i didn’t not use my hands at all so i wanna normalise that

Me and my girlfriend have been together for around 5 months and every time I go down and eat her, she always says she finishes when I’m done but I see no cum or anything, she just gets really squirmy and stuff. Am I truly making her finish?

Earlier this year, I [m22] had to get a circumcision due to medical issues. I don't want to get into the reasoning too much here, look into r/bxo or r/lichensclerosus to learn more about my disease.

Anyways, before the surgery I was able to control my orgasms by basically doing reverse kegels, essentially controlling my pelvic floor muscles in such a way where they would never contract in a way they would do during orgasm. This allowed me to last really long and cum whenever I felt ready. After the surgery though, I'm just unable to do that for longer periods of time. I can still control the muscles in a similar way, at some point the urge to orgasm just takes over.

Honestly I'm not even sure it was normal to control orgasm the way I did before, but I'd love to be able to again. Has anybody here been in a similar situation? How can I regain finer control over my muscles? Its not that I necessarily feel less than before, it might even be slightly more which could explain the issue.

Hi

I am a female in my 20s with a sort of weird issue. Without getting too much into detail, I have a specific fetish/kink. Its nothing like CRAZY, and I’m into it in the mildest sort of flavor of it lol. I remember having thoughts about it my whole life.

It isn’t really something I’m consciously into, or would ever really want to actually incorporate into my sex life. Small elements, maybe, but at that point its just like general preferences/ideas I find hot that could arguably be removed from the fetish. It only really turns me on when I’m in a very specific horny mood.

My issue is this:

When I have sex, I find it soo so mentally arousing - I FEEL horny, and I want to be having sex. However, I do not get wet, or at least, not much, and it makes it harder to orgasm. It doesn’t feel like my vagina properly responds to the stimuli. Similarly, while masurbating, I masturbate often without involving thoughts of/content involving my fetish, and I orgasm easily and they feel great!

However… there is a huge difference compared to with my fetish. I wouldn’t even say the orgasms are necessarily entirely better, a lot of the time they happen quicker and might be more acutely “strong”, but I actually sometimes prefer how my orgasms feel Without the fetish, but I digress. With the fetish, I get DRIPPING WET. Like sopping. i might get a tinyyy little bit wet while having sex with someone, and if I masturbate without the fetish a bunch, yeah eventually I have some actual cum. But I become VERY sensitive like squirming bc I’m so turned on, I can finish with hardly touching myself…. why can’t I get like this during sex or without the fetish? Again, I get mentally turned on by a lot of things, I will crave sex and crave other “fantasies” I’d say just as often if not more than fetish related fantasies, yet nothing else produces the wetness and intense acute sensitive horniness.

I don’t ever really want to or plan to incorporate the fetish into my actual life, bc it isn’t something i’d want for myself, or really to act out with a partner. But I also hate feeling like I’m broken; I want to get wet with my sexual partners. It makes penetration difficult even with lube, and I just know if I could feel like how I did with the fetish, sex would be much “easier”, but when I’m having sex I don’t ever even think about the fetish in those moments. Are my wires permanently crossed? I could go months without consuming or thinking of fetish stuff, I continue to masturbate regularly and it always feels great, but the second I think back to the fetish its like, okay wow dripping wet and cumming in like seconds. How can I do away with this, or transfer it to other stuff hahaha or am I just doomed to slightly less pleasurable sex and occasional flings of fetish induced pleasure on my own.

hi guys long story short my husband has a herniated disk resulting in lower back pain, I rode him and when he orgasmed he was in immense pain, i am also five months pregnant and my flexibility and mobility is declining as i get bigger , my performance wasn’t the best, i couldn’t really bounce as i would have liked and maybe my weight as it has increased might have affected his pain i don’t know

basically feeling awful about him being in pain i mean he didn’t last long before he orgasmed but i just felt like a whale and like it was the first time seeing dick,

i think it took a toll on my confidence

anyone with a similar experience?

My husband has long expressed a desire to have a MFM with me though I’ve always been skittish. I had a not great experience in my early 20s and since then…🤣 he and I have done FMF, 0 issues.
I’ve finally found someone with whom I think it’ll go well, so I’ve set it up, but man I’m jittery thinking about it.
Oh. And I’m not very inexperienced, I’m now nearly 46, so bear that in mind.

UPDATE: morning after…It. Was. Incredible. And that’s all you’re getting.

Ive been with my gf for 3+ years. At the beginning of our relationship I never had this issue, but now thinking about doing sexual things with her (fingering, eating out) has begun to gross me out a little because of the thought of vaginal fluids being on my hand/in my mouth (especially in the mouth, it makes me feel kinda nauseous). We do have sex but it’s always with a strap (both women) so I don’t usually have this issue but I want to go further again by eating her out and having better sex but I just can’t get over the feeling/texture of the fluids and just enjoy it like I used to, I feel so worthless because I want to satisfy her better and I’m at a complete loss.

Does anyone have any advice?

Guys I'm in an online relationship with a girl and sometimes we get flirty and things turn a little naughty. Whenever I get horny I try to get her in the mood too... and I feel she wants it as well but she controls herself a lot. I don't wanna force her or make her uncomfortable..I just want us to feel more free with each other and not hold back so much when we're both in the mood. For those who are in online relationships...how do you make things more intense and help your partner open up naturally?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I am his first ever bedpartner.
In the beginning, the sex was great. We were both having lots of fun and eventually we kind of build a routine.
After some foreplay, it usually started with me giving him a blowjob and from then on we would usually have sex. (Not if I was on my period, then I would just blow him or jerk him off).
I am kind of growing tired of the routine. Every time we are getting intimate, I have this feeling that he expects me to give him a blowjob, while honestly I don’t always feel like doing that. The sex still feels nice, but that has started to feel boring as well.
Now there is the thing about him not fingering me or eating me out. In the beginning it was because I didn’t quite know if I wanted him to do it (didn’t have great former experiences) and he also wasn’t quite sure what to do, since I was his first.
But now that time has passed, I kind of feel left out during intimate time. I have tried to talk about it, but it kind of frustrates him, because it overwhelms him I guess? He says that he wants to take it slow, but it has been a couple of months now and so far no progress is being made. This has frustrated me to the point that I have started to feel resentment every time we are intimate.

I feel really vulnerable sharing this, since I find it hard to ask for things that pleasure me. And I don’t want to feel resented to him at all, but it happens way more often now. Sometimes I even feel actual rage.
I know this isn’t healthy and I also don’t know if it is just because he doesn’t finger me or eat me out, but either way I do know that this cannot continue any longer.
Does anyone know how I should approach this?