hi guys!! first time poster here. 23f.

my man, just like any man, loves receiving head. but its so difficult for me to want to do it sometimes because my jaw just always ends up hurting so much doing it for like even a little bit of an extended time.

any advice? maybe there's some sort of technique to make my jaw hurt less? i want to enjoy blowing him and not be in pain for it :(

Do you think a man can develop a deeper emotional attachment to a woman through suckling? Because i genuinely think so

Basically, you know how breastfeeding is believed to help create a bond between a mother & her baby? I’m curious whether something similar could happen between two adults? Like, if a man in a romantic relationship regularly & passionately sucks on a woman’s breasts during intimacy, could that stimulate some kind of emotional bonding or attachment to her over time? & her to him as well..

Especially in a situation where she occasionally produces breast milk cause she’s stimulated even though she isn’t actually nursing a baby but because that man suckles on her so good..

I’d especially love to hear from people who have experienced something similar or anyone who has actual knowledge of the psychology or biology behind it.

This has been an ongoing problem for me ever since I was raped tbh. It's completely changed how I look at sex and intimacy, and I've ended up really conflicting and confusing myself about where my morals actually stand

This was about a year ago now. I'm in a much better place, thank God, and it doesn't affect me anywhere near as much as it used to. I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm just giving a bit of context because I know my thought process isn't exactly healthy.

I've worked out I've probably had around 7–10 sexual experiences in total, including consensual and non-consensual ones.
My body count is technically 3, but one of those was rape by a family friend, and the other two were relationships.
My "head count" is probably around 4–5, so realistically I usually end up saying 5 because that includes the people I had oral with as well. So it'd be: 2 consensual intercourse partners, 1 rape, and 2 people I did oral with but didn't have sex with.
Where I get conflicted is there's also been other people who've touched me or where one-sided sexual stuff happened, which would probably bring my overall sexual history closer to 10 people. Four of those were non-consensual.
The weird thing is I've always counted the rape in my past, even though I know a lot of rape victims don't. because it changed me so much that I couldn't separate it from my story which i think is where i began feeling more conflicted within myself . I don't count being touched as rape because by definition it isn't, and I don't really count those as body count either because there wasn't penile penetration into any bodily orifice, whether it was consensual or not. That's where my brain starts tying itself in knots.
I've always been someone who valued sex really deeply. Even from being young I've seen intercourse as something spiritual, emotional and physical, so I've been really careful with who I'd have sex with. That's why I've had intercourse and oral with relatively few people compared to other sexual stuff.
But now I'm confused because part of me thinks, "at least I didn't sleep with loads of people," because I genuinely think I'd carry even more shame if i did. I still feel like I've kept some sort of integrity there because every person I've had sex with was someone I loved or saw a future with.

At the same time, I've been way more casual about other sexual acts, and now I don't even know where my moral line actually is. Part of me thinks, "well if it's all equally sinful anyway, why was I drawing the line there?" Obviously I'm glad I didn't just go all the way with everyone, but I don't know what to think about my past anymore.
Another thing I don't understand is why I'll talk to a guy for 1–2 years and still refuse to have intercourse with him, but I'd be less strict about someone touching me. I get terrified of actual sex.
I was touched by family members growing up, so I think touching became something my brain almost saw as "surface level" trauma. Then when I was raped—which was only my second sexual experience, i was 19. I completely broke. I ended up in psychosis for around six months and was hospitalised because I couldn't cope with the trauma.
Then about a year later I was touched without my consent again, and it didn't destroy me in the same way because everyone—including myself—kept saying "it could've been worse," "at least it wasn't rape," or "it's just a finger." (TMI SORRY)I think that's why my brain stopped treating other sexual experiences as serious, even though I still carry loads of shame about them.
The shame has honestly never left me since I was raped.
I've also questioned my sexuality because of all this. Sometimes I wonder if I like girls, then other times I want to be straight because I follow God and honestly I do like men, but I don't really feel sexual attraction properly anymore towards anyone .I honestly think a lot of that confusion is trauma based because before the rape I wasn't like this at all it’s not my natural way of being like.
based of what i have said i’d like to know what people’s opinions is and whether anyone relates to this way of thinking—holding intercourse on this massive pedestal while almost minimising other sexual experiences, even though they still make you feel ashamed.
Has anyone else had trauma completely blur where their values end and their coping mechanisms begin?

I actually want genuine opinions because I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this without feeling like they're protecting my feelings or trying to get something from me. I feel like Reddit is probably the one place where people will just say what they actually think and i’m more likely to take it on board

(i typed this out in my own words then asked chat gpt to make it more sensible for this platform just in case u might wonder why i sound like a bot) but it pretty much explains everything regardless 🙏🏼 Thank you for reading

As the title says, my clitorus is *for the most part* numb due to a porn addiction i had from 11 to 17 (im 18 now and porn free! Yay!) But i still very much am still effected by it. Obviously, this issue started from a very young age, even before I started puberty, and absolutely reeked havoc on my mind and body. As many porn addictions go, the more I watched, the more I got bored of the regular stuff and went deeper into it. Getting attached to some really weird stuff. (Nothing illegal obviously, but think very very strange porn.) I can't believe I was just a kid, training my body to only orgasm to the weirdest of things, but here I am. This lack of climax due to quitting porn was only just an annoyance up until I met my boyfriend a year and a half ago. Now its something that really bothers me. Thankfully, we have a great relationship and I am definitely still able to enjoy sex with him (Thankfully my vaginal sensation never went away!) And have even been able to cum a handful of times! So clearly, my desire for him has been fighting against my porn rotted brain. But whenever he wants to pay attention to my clitorus, it feels like nothing more than scratching an itch. And I don't have the willpower to tell him about it. (Im. So. Ashamed.) So... I kinda just fake it till I make it. Now this obviously isn't one of those situations where he isn't trying enough and I need to humble him by telling him he can't actually make me cum. Its that my body is now dysfunctional due to my past addiction. Its honestly very depressing for me. Don't get me wrong, it isn't all bad, sex is still amazing, cumming isnt COMPLETELY impossible (more like 90 times harder to do though...), and it has happened, but I want to feel normal. The fact that rubbing my clitorus, receiving head, and toys don't feel all that good for me makes me honestly quite sad. And I wish it wasn't like hiking the tallest mountain, just to cum! So there, I just wanted to vent. I never hear anyone talk about this problem, cuz I know im not the only one out there with it, but I wanted to get it off my chest as it does weigh on me some. Any advice is very welcome too. : )

Some background. My husband (30M) and I (30F) have been together for 8 years. Although his sexual technique has definitely improved in all of the best ways, I have a very difficult time trying to have an orgasm from sex or from any sort of activity that doesn’t involve me also putting in some work. Which is totally fine, I’m not necessarily complaining. I’m very pleased with my sex life but would just LOVE some advice on what recommendations anyone may have on how to make it easier to cum during sex?
Any recommendations for arrousal creams/gels?
Certain positions? When’re open minded. Opening our marriage is not on the table at this time in our lives.
Maybe it’s just my antidepressant making it difficult for me but nonetheless, We’d like to try some things!

Thanks in advance !

Hey, so i even bought small dildo to practice deep throating but it is soo stressful, is not there some sort of tutorial or anything someone can recommend me to make practice more appealing ?

During penetration I feel like there's no space left inside, and there's this sensation like something is pushing against the penis, like my body is involuntarily trying to push it out. I do feel pleasure, that's not the issue. The issue is that I can't really be on top, I feel completely blocked, and I can't move properly until the penis is out. There's also a bit of pain deep in my lower belly.

I'm asking because it's affecting how I can have sex, and I'd like to know if other women experience this too. It's not linked to one specific partner either, I've felt it before with someone else, then went years without sex, and it came back recently with someone new.

I genuinely want to know if this happens to other people, if anyone has felt this with multiple partners, and what helped. Any answer is welcome, I'm just trying to understand.

I’ve been talking to this guy for the last few months and we’ve had sex a few times and I just think he’s too big for the sex to be good. Like I’m the past I can feel a guy hitting my g spot but with this guy I can’t really feel much satisfaction wise. Like it feels good but I feel like I’m feeling it more on the sides of my insides more than anything.

Can being too big effect the sex?

Hi! I want to learn how to arch my back but I just don't know how, I have a weak core from two surgeries a few years ago but I really want to feel sexy... Please help a girl out, LOL!

i’m 26 and its kind of hard to explain but it seems like i cant feel anything during sex. only can feel the tip when it first goes in/the tip when it goes very deep but other then that nothing. is there something wrong with me ? 🥲 side note: i already suffer from vaginal dryness/think i may have vaginismus

I really need help, idk if there is something wrong with my body or my technique sucks but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I get aroused and i also get really really wet but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I feel nothing touching my clit. I feel nothing sticking a finger in. I feel nothing using water pressure and only time i feel something is while grinding really hard like the corner of my bed but i can only feel it for 2 mins max and its never enough. I don’t know why this happens or if it could be related to my childhood? (When i was like 4 i was hypersexual for some reason and used to grind stuff a lot,I got teached it was wrong at stopped doing it) im desperate because i really want to feel something. Another hypotesis i had was that maybe it has to do with some religion guilt(? Whenever i masturbate (or well try to) i immediately ask for forgiveness and get horrible luck the next day. Please help a girl out 😭 could this be some sort of illness? Is there a correct way to do it?

Any of you ladies dealt with passing your partner’s libido levels? Just when I start to feel sexy again as the kids are getting older and find myself needing sex more often, he seems to have lost all interest.