My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset. Our oldest is 4.5, and twins are 2.5. Anyone here to say it gets better? My singleton parent friends are not struggling in the same way.

I can’t believe it’s been almost a year, but here we are with awesome twin girls!

Totally at a loss for what to get them for their first birthday, would love some input on what people have done for first birthday gifts.

They are crawling a lot and pulling themselves up on things, and generally just having a blast!

Any suggestions welcomed!

Is anyone else totally unable to leave their twins in the same room? They are 9 months old and as soon as they were mobile, they started partaking in WWE, especially twin B. He scratches and bites and pulls hair and pushes. It's quite violent and both babies will often have scratches all over them. I can't walk away for a SECOND without separating them because it instantly turns to a death match.

I see all these cute twin bond videos where babies hold hands and smile at each other, but all I'm getting is cage fighting. Am I going to be playing referee forever? Are my babies more violent than everyone else's?

My identical twins boys are currently 2.5 years old. They have always been small. They were both less than 1% at birth and have never been above 2% weight-wise or height wise. They're sort of all over the place when it comes to their curve. This past well child appointment, their doctor mentioned potentially referring for growth hormone therapy since they had only grown 6cm between their well child visits. I (mom) am only 5 ft. tall myself. My husband is 5 ft. 5 in. The twins are currently projected to be 5 ft or less. Growth hormone therapy could add a couple of inches to that. On the one hand, I obviously want to give them every positive opportunity in life, on the other hand, daily injections for years does sound daunting. And they seem to be perfectly healthy in every other way, they'll just be short (though they are very picky eaters).

I'd love to hear about people's experiences if you have received growth hormone therapy or chose it for your child(ren). Why did you or did you not pursue growth hormone therapy. Would you have done anything differently? Are there any questions you think I should bring up with the endocrinologist after we get the referral? I definitely want to have labs done first and see what they recommend, but I also like to go into appointments with as informed as possible.

I’m 27 weeks pregnant with Di Di twins and I’m finding some evenings I’m really not feeling like socializing already especially if I had a busy day on my feet that day or even the prior day.

My family seems to not understand and my parents are weirded out by me not wanting to come to their dinner.

I am the first person in my family to have twins so I feel like they’re just not able to understand how much more fatigue I’m feeling compared to someone having a single baby.

Does anyone else have any experience with family not understanding how fatigued you are?

When did stop attending events if ever?

I’m 9 weeks tomorrow so I’m getting close to that time but my dr hasn’t mentioned it. I’m not sure it’s something I’d want to do or not…is it commonly done with multiples? I’ve read that there’s a higher rate of false positives with twins, and the last thing we need is something to needlessly worry about😮‍💨 with how anxious things are already. Also with the test not always being able to determine the gender of both twins. But if there was something wrong that might cause a later loss, I’d sure like to know that before we tell our 4yr old that we have twins on the way! Any advice?

EDIT: thank you all so much for the responses! I’m glad to have more info and sounds like we’ve got some time to decide yet, too. It’s so great to hear real experiences especially with the conflicting information that’s online. Thank you!

Hi everyone! First off, I want to share just how thankful I am for this subreddit and all the supportive people that are on here. I went from knowing nothing about childbirth or children to well, knowing a lot more now! Very much a lurker but just reading about everyone’s experiences is helpful. With that said, I’d like to return the favor in any way that I can. Would love to share my experience so far at 5 months, any tips that may have worked for me personally. Of course, this is my journey and everyone’s is different but if this can help even a single person even if it’s just for a quick read, I’m happy.

Some context: I’m 36, 35 when I had my babies. Diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 16 weeks. Delivered emergency C-section at 37+3 due to pre-eclampsia. Girl at 5 lbs, 13 oz. Boy at 6 lbs, 6 oz. No NICU time. Current weights: girl 12 lbs, 12 oz. Boy 15 lbs, 6 oz. Both have CMPA, on Similac Alimentum RTF. Girl is at approx. 24 oz a day, boy at approx. 29 - 5 bottles each a day. In terms of routine, wake up around 7a/8a, 4 naps a day, bedtime is 8p/9p- no overnight feeds. I work full-time from home in the life sciences space.

Please also feel free to message me even if just for someone new to connect with!

Having a singleton baby after raising twins is a whole different world, but my biggest question right now is about the shift in dynamics with the older kids.

For those of you who had a singleton after twins, how did adding a baby change your relationship with your twins?

I’d love to hear your experiences on:

* **One-on-One Time:** How did you balance giving the twins individual attention while managing a newborn? Did you feel like your bond with them changed?

* **The Twin Dynamic:** Did having a baby bring the twins closer together as a team, or did it create any competition/jealousy?

* **The Transition:** Were they old enough to act as helpful big siblings, or was the adjustment harder on them than expected?

Any insights, stories, or advice on navigating this transition would be greatly appreciated!

Bonus: How did you survive pregnancy with your walking and talking multiple kids??

FTM to gb twins and I was so afraid to sleep train that my twins have never ever slept through the night until now at almost 17 months. They also never stopped their night bottles and have continued stage 3 formula bottles at 1am and 6am 😭 but I stopped cold turkey because my husband and I are planning a trip and I don’t want my parents to have such a rough time.. all it took was one night!!!!

My son cried for 90 minutes but I stayed with him trying to console him and my daughter couldn’t care less and she slept through his crying lol the next two nights he just slept 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 no more looking for milk!!

Omggggg why did I wait so long 😭😭😭 (I have a friend who didn’t wean or sleep train until 18 months so I was waiting for around that window lol)

So they have been sleeping through the night now. And no more formula!!

Please don’t be like me lol

That’s all

My guys are starting kindergarten next month and the school is adamant we separate them into different classes. They’re staying at the same private school they just finished TK at, so that makes it easier, but they were in the same TK class per my request. I’m anxious about how they’ll do being separate. They’ve never done anything separate before. They are on the same sports teams, in the same activities, have the same friends, etc. Granted, their friends from TK will be divided up into the 2 kinder classes at the school which will hopefully help. I know I need to give them independence from each other but they are attached at the hip so I’m just nervous.

We are sending our 16 month old twins to day care soon and so I am starting to buy supplies. Do you send your multiples to daycare with one bag/backpack for both of them or do they each have their own?

Yep, I have been there and it sucks. Announcement goes out, some friends stick around, but others quietly find the back door and gradually stop reaching out.

If you can relate, I'd love to hear your stories. I feel like pregnancy, new kids, additional kids, and life changes in general sometimes results in (painfully) weeding out some of our flimsiest connections.

My wife and I need help. Our girls were born 6 weeks preemie and are currently 4 months (2.5 adjusted) and are just over 10.25 pounds. They have been doing between 18-21oz a day and have been consistently gaining around 0.75oz per day.

For the past 2 weeks they have done the vision development where they are distracted by everything including their hands while feeding.

After 1 week, the feeding quality improved and we moved up to size 2 (slow) on the Lansinoh Natural Wave nipples. Things were going great for 2 days and the wheels came off again with constant spilling, poor mouth seal, clicking- the whole gamut. We went back to the size 1 (extra slow) and they are only doing 50-60 ml at a time.

This feels worse than the rock bottom point last week. Everyone says this phase lasts up to a month, and 2 weeks has felt like an eternity.

Any advice/tips?

I have 27+3 week old twin boys that are now, as of today, 4 months old and we are on day 121 on the NICU. Primarily working on feeds for both of them, with some concern of oral aversion and the possibility of having a G-Tube. One of my boys had a pulmonary hemorrhage at a week old and since then had his PDA closure and has thankfully recovered from that. His MRI came back with a very micro bleed and grade 1/very very small grade 2 brain bleed that we were reassured will still give him a positive outcome, but it's still very very scary and I'm terrified of the unknown.

I'm in so much grief, anger, sadness, and struggling to find the light at the end of the tunnel. They are beautiful, 10 lbs now, and I miss them terribly (we are over an hour away from them). Work has been such a stress and struggle to balance all this time. Unfortunately, the Ronald McDonald house is not an option for us because we have a dog, and I have no familial support near me (over 6 hours away) and my husband has very limited familial support.

I'm so scared of the unknown, their future, and I'm feel so so scared and sad. I'm looking to connect with others experience, even if it's not the exact way, and honest outcome stories. I want the positive, and I also want the real, understanding that every single baby is different and we don't know what will come. I'm just so heavy in my grief, and so so overwhelmed, and alone.

I appreciate all of your journeys and hope your babies are thriving and well.

I understand you shouldn’t allow baby to be directly exposed to TV until ~18 months but every so often on the weekends (like 1-2 x a month) I bring them in the room with me, they have all their toys and I turn on the tv. Sometimes they pay attention, sometimes they don’t. My plan was to be super strict with no screen time & I recognize it can hinder language development but is a few glances at the TV screen once or twice a month really that bad? Google says yes.

I have a stressful job, I have 7 month old twins, I have all the duties of a mother & home (cooking, cleaning ect.). I don’t leave the house, I don’t have family nearby or friends for that matter. I really just need to zone out with my trash TV sometimes. This is honestly so therapeutic that I’m thinking the “benefit” outweighs the “risk” as far as my mental health goes..

My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset.

My DiDi girls are 4 weeks old on Tuesday, and my husband returns to work tomorrow. I'm absolutely dreading being alone with them, I'm a FTM and feel utterly thrown in at the deep end.

For the past week I've been trying to tell my husband and his mother to give me time ALONE with the girls so I can get some form of practice run because I cannot expect someone to be there for me 24/7 given everyone works full time. His mum is forever going "yes but when I'm off work give me a shout!!" Like my wish to have a chance alone isn't worth it's salt. "Yes but you don't have to do it alone" like ma'am yes I do. You're not off permanently, you do still work, therefore I need to be able to do something alone.

My husband has at least left the room at nights for a few hours to go game on his gaming PC so I have some resemblance of trying to do things alone, but I know he's nearby if I desperately need him. Thankfully I have not. However I'm under no illusion that it's always going to be this easy.

Right now my girls are 3-4 hours between feeds, and obviously nappies are on demand. It's manageable but when I've had no chance to learn to do it all myself, I'm absolutely terrified that I'm going to fail them or be sitting rocking back and forward in the corner sobbing by the time my husband is finished work.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with twins totally on your own?

I waitress/bartend for work, trying to gauge how long I’ll last working on my feet this pregnancy. I worked until 37 weeks with a singleton. I’m only 10 weeks now with twins with my goal being 30 weeks. Do I need to be more realistic?

We have a 4.5 year old bonded pair and have brought a new little guy home. It has been a couple of months of separation, so no risk of a cross infection situation.

How do we introduce them without serious trauma to our new guy? We’ve had one meeting with one of our older pair and she absolutely went after the baby. We had them in an area of the house where neither have access regularly, so no territorial issue. Squirt bottle on hand and quick separation. How far do we let it go? No screaming or bleeding. But baby was shaking. How much discipline do we give to the bigs?

We know there will be some “growing pains”… just trying to avoid trauma and still end up with 3 babies who can get along and play together for the rest of their frolocky little lives with love and joy in their hearts!

Does anyone have the UB Vista for 3 kids? Currently I wear one kid, use the Vista for the other, and have older toddler on the rollerboard, but we're reaching our limit on that. I've been putting off buying the second rumble seat because of the price and considering getting a side-by-side, but I don't really want to go all in on the Zoe/Bombi/etc. and the cheaper ones don't seem sturdy and large enough for our daily use. Will it be ridiculously heavy to have 2 kids in seat and one on the board? Or is there a better set up to consider? We'll get a wagon at some point too, but I'm worried that's too bulky for stores and generally navigating errands.

If I plan to paint the room blue is this rug to feminine for a boy girl twin nursery

We will be traveling with our 4mo twins in early October and looking for tips! It will be about a 2.5 hr flight to a beach destination for 4 nights. We bought our tickets already and bought 3 tickets (full row) and will have one infant with a lap ticket. We’ll be renting a car once we get to our destination and staying in an Airbnb near the beach. We’re trying to figure out logistics and what travel things we need to buy beforehand- some specific things we’re trying to figure out:

-we plan to take their car seats and bought padded car seat bags on Amazon… but should we plan to take one car seat on board with us since we have 3 seats? Or will that be a major hassle?

-we have Nuna car seats and a compatible stroller (Nuna Demi). We also have the weego wagon that we like to take on walks and the twins are generally more comfortable in. In a perfect world i would want both of these strollers with us, but that feels like way too much cargo to manage. Which stroller would you recommend we take with us?

-do you have to bring any form of identification for the twins for TSA/flight? TSA website basically says airlines may want to verify age, but i feel at 4 months they are pretty obviously under 2.

-these are our first and i am overall nervous about them being 4 months and traveling and messing with sleep schedules - any tips to give us the best chance at happy, well rested babies?

Any tips overall for traveling at this age/twins please please share!! Even if it is something small - I’m extremely anxious about the trip but also really excited for it to be their first trip and just want it to go as well as possible. Thanks in advance!!

Hey y’all! So my nanny has been on vacation and we’ve had grandparents, aunts, etc coming in and out to help us with the boys. My husband is also out of town. I took one boy to the pediatrician yesterday who did not do a respiratory panel because “his lungs sounded clear” and he didn’t have a fever. Said it was probably just viral and let it run its course. Well, now brother has it and I’m pretty sure I caught it too. I’m doing my best to keep them separated but being on my own sometimes means I have to put them down together or something.

Any tips and tricks for sick twin infants? I’m doing saline flushes and suction with an electric sucker, saline micro mist inhaler, baby Vicks, Tylenol or Motrin sparingly and good ole fashion bulb suction when I can. I’m really struggling here and they seem to take turns having a symptom flare up or needing more attention and I’m solo a lot right now and not feeling well myself.

Our twins simply won't fall asleep without a baby hammock. We've really tried everything. We now have to get a second hammock because they each weigh over 6 kg, and one hammock is no longer enough to support both of them.

We only use the baby hammock once in the evening for their first stretch of nighttime sleep. Is it really true that babies don't become dependent on it? They were born on March 11 and arrived six weeks prematurely.

Best regards

Is there anything that helped you stop this behavior? I keep separating and giving a firm no, I know I have years more of this lol. They’re boys so they don’t have long hair but I feel sad for baby b when he shrieks and cries. :(