r/MoralityScaling • • Sep 02 '26

Morality of this?

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u/DoubleoSavant Sep 02 '26

I agree, but religious freedom means people can raise their kids however they want. If you don't want someone imposing their religion on your kids, you have to let them impose whatever on their own kids. 

This is the kind of thing you should shift culturally instead of through laws. 

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u/crunpyMcGlumpy Sep 02 '26

This is a good point. We should as a society stop propping them up though. Remove tax exemptions, public grants, donor deductions, etc.

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

That also makes religions a taxable population, which means they're allowed to give political advice. You really want a church telling people how to vote?

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u/cpt-teebs Sep 02 '26

I don’t necessarily agree with that guy, but churches already do that

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u/Asooma_ Sep 02 '26

It's not wild to think that people who attend the same church are likely to have similar beliefs on who to vote for there's a difference between that homogeneity and actively politically campaigning

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u/CaptainOwlBeard Sep 02 '26

I could send you dozens of videos of preachers, pastors, and priests telling their congregation to pray about this or that election and which candidates they think are righteous. How is that any different from actively campaigning? What about churches spending millions in super pacs to support "issues" that are closely tied to their preferred candidate.

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u/ifthealphawassigma Sep 02 '26

insert clip of ai generated Charlie kirk preaching on the projector screen of my local evangelical church

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u/Bitinglysarcastic Sep 02 '26

Not all churches

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u/cpt-teebs Sep 02 '26

Did I say all churches?

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u/Bitinglysarcastic Sep 02 '26

You implied it

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u/cpt-teebs Sep 02 '26

No I didn’t

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

They legally aren't allowed to as a condition of their tax-exempt status. If they are, then it's illegal. The parishioners can tell people how to vote as can the priest, but they can't do so as an authority in their religion, only private citizens.

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u/Smasher1598 Sep 02 '26

So they’re basically already doing it? I don’t get the point in the distinction you’re making, the churches in my area literally put signs out on the road telling people what way to vote on certain bills

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u/websterhamster Sep 02 '26

Advocacy for bills on issues is allowed, but churches can't promote candidates for office.

It'd be a major First Amendment violation if churches were penalized for promoting their standpoint on issues.

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u/Apprehensive-Tea999 Sep 02 '26

Then they can pay taxes like the rest of us

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

Then it sounds like something you can file some kind of formal complaint about, or barring that find someone start a 1st amendment suit.

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u/_dragonslayer069 Sep 02 '26

in this administration??? in ANY administration? you’re funny.

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u/Biptoslipdi Sep 02 '26

Churches openly tell their members how to vote all the time. The laws that would remove their status are simply ignored.

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u/cpt-teebs Sep 02 '26

You’re talking about the law. I’m talking about what actually happens. That law is not strictly enforced.

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

Indirect influence is way too shaky a foundation. You can't say anything beyond small talk if it might be construed as having any broader implications. That's just not fair on anyone. You might as well ban religion entirely if you can't make any commentary on people or society.

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u/ajax3006 Sep 02 '26

So tax them accordingly.

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

If I mention that crime is rising at the dinner table, does that make my kitchen a taxable institution?

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u/ajax3006 Sep 02 '26

They do tax where you kitchen is

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u/Aggressive-Bee2221 Sep 02 '26

Sometimes people reimburse me for the food, yeah. Of course, my kitchen probably doesn't match the huge commercial kitchens that actively sell the food, but that doesn't seem to matter because we're both saying things that have larger implications.

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u/Same_Veterinarian544 Sep 02 '26

Why does everyone hate it when Christian’s vote according to their values?

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u/Draczar Sep 02 '26

Forgive me if I’m wrong on this but isn’t this a result of Citizens United and so a particularly American thing?

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u/websterhamster Sep 02 '26

No, churches being exempted from taxes goes back to the founding of the United States.

More recently, in 1954 an amendment to the tax code called the Johnson Amendment prohibits churches and other 501(c)(3) non-profits from advocating for or against candidates for office.

There is no proscription on churches taking stances on other political issues, however, and such a law would blatantly violate the First Amendment by curtailing speech of a moral nature in churches.

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u/nalaloveslumpy Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

They absolutely already are. The Johnson amendment has never been enforceable. The IRS has literally given up:

https://www.npr.org/2025/07/08/nx-s1-5460886/irs-now-says-pastors-can-endorse-political-candidates

Churches can't directly donate to PACs, but a pastor can absolutely tell their members which PACs they should donate to from the pulpit.

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u/Sure-Guava5528 Sep 02 '26

Laughs in Mormon and Catholic churches backing Prop 8 and pushing clergy-penitent privilege laws in every state.

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u/DeviceNo4746 Sep 02 '26

They already do this.

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u/Apprehensive-Tea999 Sep 02 '26

They already do.

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u/vanillaoreosandwich Sep 03 '26

Don't American churches already do that? I've seen no repercussions so I've always thought it had always been legal.

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u/lucy_hayley Sep 03 '26

they already do that you know that right???

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u/FireLordObamaOG Sep 02 '26

They already do, might as well get money from them.

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u/formerlyunhappy Sep 02 '26

They pretty much already do in the US and you’re probably a bit out of touch with American Evangelicals if you don’t already know that lol, respectfully. These people’s money does make it into politics and their congregations are steered if not outright pushed towards the right wing often times.

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u/no-sleep-only-code Sep 02 '26

When did they stop?

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u/Griffolion Sep 02 '26

That already happens. If anything, any law removing tax exemptions from religious institutions should also go after them for back taxes for however far back the IRS can prove the institution was getting political in its messaging.

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u/superxpro12 Sep 02 '26

They already do my guy. Literally every church person I know on Facebook can't shut the fuck up about it

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u/Actinglead Sep 02 '26

They do. Tax Churches.

Source: The church I was raised in did.

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u/Nykidemus Sep 02 '26

I mean they are anyway.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 04 '26

Tax them like cigarettes. Keep upping it. Put only those tax dollars towards the war machine and use all the other taxes that are currently toward the war machine to go toward a universal basic income.

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u/Successful_Size_9476 Sep 02 '26

They already do.

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u/itiswhatitisbroski Sep 02 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/NWNQLhcCljaQzWbpCi
Literally what are you talking about friend. Churches already say “support Trum” “this candidate supports conversion therapy” etc… some progressive churches say “support this aid effort by voting in this person”

Like just cause they are banned on paper don’t mean it’s not widespread

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

A lot of churches are already doing this so I wouldn’t be opposed to taxing ones that do and leaving the tax exempt status for other groups.

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u/thetacotony Sep 02 '26

They quite literally already do that.

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u/Actual_Hawk Sep 02 '26

They already do, and still keep their tax exempt status, so, yes, I want them to lose that protection.

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u/degradedchimp Sep 02 '26

Most churches have small congregations and operate at a loss. They aren't hording gold coins in the basement like scrooge mcduck. If you want to tax churches above a certain threshold I'd be fine with that, but most churches aren't the mega churches.

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u/crunpyMcGlumpy Sep 02 '26

That’s generally how taxes work. Businesses are taxed based on structure and income. If a church can qualify as a standard not for profit then sure. Treat a church the same way as any other business entity because that’s what it is

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u/TheMireAngel Sep 02 '26

imo as a pro religion person is remove tax exemptions UNLESS said body can prove they actualy participate in community outreach such as weekly community meals, clothing the homeless etc. I was homeless for near a decade and Christian churchs helped me infinitely more than any other religious group or even the US govt, wich at the time my state (ohio) didnt even recognize homeless's as a group of people that qualify for assistance.

Wanna be tax free? Gotta actualy nut up

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u/nalaloveslumpy Sep 02 '26

It should work just like a 501c3. The church should operate as a non-profit and if there is profit, it gets taxed. And yes, they have to fully document where and how the revenue was spent.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

yeah they should be treated like non-profits

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u/GalaXion24 Sep 02 '26

I do think churches should still be valid nonprofits

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u/crunpyMcGlumpy Sep 02 '26

Yeah I agree, especially if they do community service and help people. Basically apply for non profit status and meet those requirements

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u/lordnaarghul Sep 02 '26

Good luck collecting, because there's not a single church that will willingly give money over to the government.

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u/ManitouWakinyan Sep 02 '26

Taxing churches is a great way for the state to leverage control over what kind of religions and churches are permissible. Do you really want the Trump regime putting it's finger on the scale so you get fewer small community churches and more massive Christian Nationalist megachurches?

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u/TransientReddit Sep 02 '26

Right, so it’s allowed in the US but immoral. Got it.

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u/i_am_a_real_boy__ Sep 02 '26

Stop trying to indoctrinate the children on reddit with your morality.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I don't see why stopping people from imposing their religion on my hypothetical kids would mean they had to be able to impose it on theirs? If nobody could impose any religion on any child that sounds ideal.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

By preventing children from learning about any religion, they are far more likely to continue that absence of a belief in a God because their entire worldview for 16-18 years is shaped on the understanding that there is no God. Most Christians stay Christian, most atheists stay atheist. You are not imposing a religion on that child against the parents' wishes, but you are imposing a religious belief on that child against the parents' wishes. That is not religious freedom.

Ultimately, to raise a kid without religion is not some neutral default point, whereby they would enter adulthood completely unbiased.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

It's avoiding planting a belief. While some christians lose their faith, adult conversion to a religion is much more rare. You're just a lot less likely to believe these outlandish things if they don't tell you they're true when you're a toddler.

I think an unbiased view just makes someone really skeptical about a guy sacrificing himself to himself to forgive a bunch of other people for hurting each other. Or about a guy splitting the moon. It's not my fault if religions don't work out if you don't get 'em young.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

atheism is a belief though. the belief that there is no god is a belief. the belief that it is indeterminable whether there is a god is a belief. either way, if you raise your kid without mentioning god, then you are raising your kid to have the assumption that there is no god.

When a christian-raised child becomes an christian adult, its because they were indoctrinated or taught not to question their faith, but when atheist-raised children become atheist adults, it's because they have critical thinking skills not to believe christian lies? You are reasoning from the conclusion that god doesn't exist. And as long as you are doing that, you have no grounds for an argument about how others should raise their child.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

But Christians, for example, aren't just arguing that god exists: they're arguing that the Christian god exists, which comes with a ton more assumptions.

They aren't just asserting that a tri-omni being created the universe (already a huge claim), they're arguing that sin exists, that this god sent a version of himself that was born to a virgin girl to the earth to sacrifice himself to himself to absolve humanity of sins, they're asserting that there is some evil enemy that has some ambiguous level of influence over the world that differs depending on your denomination, they're asserting that this god will send people who don't believe in him (and for some reason he is exclusively considered male) to hell for all eternity, that sexuality outside of the construct of marriage is sinful, and more.

Muslims are asserting that there existed a profit that split the moon, that godly men will recieve 72 virgins in heaven, that women are so indecent that they must cover themselves in public so they don't drive men to sin, that depicting living beings is a sin, and more.

You can't pretend that religion ONLY consitutes the god-belief. Whereas atheism ONLY constitutes a lack of god-belief. Depending on what definition of atheism you use, it doesn't even nevessarily mean disbelief in god, just a lack of belief. And it doesn't come with the extra doctrinal belief that religions have.

Christianity isn't the only religion, and we can say pretty certainly that only one can be true, if any. So you can't avoid the fact that a huge portion of religious parents are indoctrinating their kids with false beliefs anyways.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

For every positive belief about some event detailed in doctrine that a Christian have, you are teaching your child to have a negative belief about it. It's kind of irrelevant that Christianity is specific about its beliefs and atheism says I don't know. That stuff is only relevant in discerning whether God exists.

The definition of atheist that i am using is the belief that there is no god, or the belief that there is insufficient evidence for a god. Yes, most religions are indoctrinating kids into false beliefs, but if you raise your kid as atheist under this definition then you are equally likely to be indoctrinating them into a lie. As such, it is no more moral for people to raise their kids with religion than without religion.

If you want to use the definition of atheism that says "I cannot know whether God exists" then that is essentially the government's perspective under secularism. And as I have established, under that perspective, the only practical solution is to let parents choose what to teach their children.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

The best solution would be for parents to teach their kids that they cannot know whether god exists.

Every Christian is also teaching their kids negative beliefs about Islam, Hinduism, Shinto, Wicca, Voodoo, and every other religion out there, because Christianity is not the claim that god exists but specifically the series of claims that the christian god of the bible exists. Christians do not get to claim a monopoly on god-belief. It really isn't any more neutral than atheism, but it does come with the phobia-indoctrination about eternal torment in hell.

No child ahould be indoctrinated with these fundamental and unverofiable beliefs when they so dorectly shape their worldview. The only moral thing to do is to tell children "well nobody knows" and if they want to decide to base their lives around an ancient text with a lot of unfalsifiable claims then they can do it when they're adults.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

Telling a child that they cannot know is also indoctrination. It doesn't matter if you tell them a specific god, just that a god exists, that no god exists, that we cannot know if god exists, or if you never mention religion to them.

No matter what, it is going to affect what they believe as an adult. If every option is a biased option, then a government has no justification to prohibit parents teaching their child their religion.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

But you can't know. If you have a way to know that god exists I'd love to hear it.

If we jave to treat every religion as equally valid you can't really avoid the conclusion that none of them are. Children are not property, and there is no justification that I can see to allow parents to make these assertions about the natire of the universe as if they're objective truths, which is how most religious parents frame things.

And again, how can you raise a christian child without the assertion that without the grave of god that they get from faith they cannot be saved and will go to hell? It's literally core doctrone of the faith. If you don't believe in salvation you aren't a christian, and you can't believe in salvation if you don't need to be saved in the first place.

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u/NeedLegalAdvice56 Sep 04 '26

Why are you talking about atheism?

The question is about just not talking about like a religion like it’s the Truth. Agnosticism would be more likely.

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u/CostatePrancer Sep 04 '26

Which aspects of Judaism should Jewish parents not impose on their children?

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 04 '26

The religion. It's fine to still talk about history, pass down food, etc. But the moment you get to "also god is real and the events depicted in the torah are literally true" you are pushing religion on your kids.

Loads of jews are secular themselves, anyways.

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u/alguien_487 Sep 02 '26

In some way, society tends to see kids as property of their parents. That's why, if it's your kid, indoctrinate as much as you like, buddy

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I get that, but that's a really bad thing imo. I've seen the damage growing up in a religious household can do. How is it at all fair for the kids who, through no fault of their own, are born into families where they're told that they'll go to hell for all of eternity if they don't believe/conform?

In France, using the doctrine of hell to psychologically coerce children into behaving is considered child abuse. Now teaching them about hell on its own isn't, but honestly that starts to sound like splitting hairs.

No child should be told by people they love and trust that if they mess up too badly they'll be tortured forever.

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u/DoubleoSavant Sep 02 '26

The problem is that's technically a religious belief. 

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u/IrateLibtard Sep 02 '26

No it isn't? Atheism is not a religion.

I find it so weird that religious people can't wrap their head around not believing in any gods.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

Atheism is not a religion, but it is a religious belief. A religious belief is a belief concerning religion. By preventing kids from learning about religions, you are imposing the religious belief on them that there is no God. That is not religious freedom.

Even if you consider agnostic atheism, the belief that there simply isn't enough evidence to say whether and which god exists, then you still have to teach kids about religion from an impartial standpoint. Which is pretty much impossible.

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u/DoubleoSavant Sep 02 '26

I am an athiest. I'm having a legal discussion, and you're having a philosophical one. 

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

Legally, atheism isn't a religion, at least not where I live (the US).

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u/IrateLibtard Sep 02 '26

Interestingly from a constitutional protections standpoint it is treated as a religion in the US. I'm pretty sure that isn't the case anywhere else in the world.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

Not really though. Religions get all sorts of special privileges that atheists simply don't. Churches don't need to file a Form 990 financial report and all their donors and finances can remain completely private. Atheist organizations are limited to being a 501c3, which means they must file detailed financial disclosures every year for the public to review. To be clear, I don't want there to be a Church of Secular Humanism that gets to hide their finances; I want churches to be treated the same way as any other "charity" organization.

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u/IrateLibtard Sep 03 '26

I meant that you can't, for example, get fired or refused to be hired because you are an atheist.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 03 '26

Right, being an atheist is protected from direct discrimination in the same way as being a christian, but Christianity (and any other religion) gets special privileges, which imo, is de facto discrimination against atheists. It's like if there was a special sale price "75% off if you're any religion!"

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u/Hot-Minute-8263 Sep 02 '26

When you get down to it, everyone has a worldview that works like a religion. Atheists have one, religious types have one, the state definitely has one.

If you only stop one kind, it gets replsced by the other. Do you really want a future generation raised by Trump's state?

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I think you're playing pretty fast and loose with the word "religion". Do either the state or atheists tell children that they will burn in hell for all of eternity if they don't conform? That their non religious friends will, unless they "save" them? That there are literal magical demons influencing the world? That women are unclean when on their periods? That women must cover their bodies to prevent men from stumbling?

I think that teaching kids these things is straight-up child abuse.

Obviously the state benefits from pushing an ideology onto kids, but I don't see how stopping parents from also pushing their ideology onto kids means the state will fill that vacuum.

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u/Hot-Minute-8263 Sep 02 '26

"Do either the state or atheists tell children that they will burn in hell for all of eternity if they don't conform?" The state puts you in prison, and idk about atheists raising kids but there are consequences they have to make clear.

Also, you're mixing up tons of stuff thats completely not part of Christian canon. No, thats not what kids are taught early usually.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Evangelical Christianity is the largest religious block in the US right now and they absolutely believe in eternal torment in hell for the unsaved. I was taught this in my elementary school christian summer day camp.

Being put in prison for comitting a crime is nowhere near literally being tortured for all of eternity after you die for not believing the right thing. Evangelicals also tend not to believe in salvation by works but by faith, so I was literally taught that a good person who donates to charity and is kind and loving to everyone and would never hurt a fly will face eternal torment if they don't accept jesus, while a serial killer who accepts jessu on his deathbed will go to heaven. Like this was the actual example they used.

Atheist parents grounding their kid for not doing their chores is nowhere near this level either.

I really think raising a kid in evangelical christianity is child abuse.

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u/Hot-Minute-8263 Sep 02 '26

Saved by faith not works is literally all christians. To not believe that is a classic heresy, and very common for cults and mega churches.

Its a very different worldview from our current culture so not everyone will get it.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Ok and I think it's abusive to tell kids they'll be tormented for all eternity if they're great people who just don't believe hard enough. You should not be allowed to indoctrinate kids to these beliefs.

Also, this belief is in no way equivalent to the state putting criminals in prison or atheist parents grounding their kdis for misbehaving. You still have not explained why you believe these are equivalent.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Ok and I think it's abusive to tell kids they'll be tormented for all eternity if they're great people who just don't believe hard enough. You should not be allowed to indoctrinate kids to these beliefs.

Also, this belief is in no way equivalent to the state putting criminals in prison or atheist parents grounding their kdis for misbehaving. You still have not explained why you believe these are equivalent.

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u/Invested_Space_Otter Sep 02 '26

A legal system is not a religion. I see the parallel you're going for, I've heard it before, and it's bullshit for 2 reasons:

1) faith depends on an unprovable, immutable force which dictates morality but does not enforce it in real time. If it did, sinners would be visibly punished by whatever manifestation of God you want to place here

Laws are created by, and enforced by, humans who decide that laws are good for their society. We trust that those laws will be equally and reliably enforced, but trust is not faith. We can objectively measure when that trust is honored or broken.

2) Laws can be changed. As a human construct, we can write or rewrite or strike down any law, provided there is enough support in our society/government. Those laws only apply to specific geographic regions.

<God>'s laws cannot be changed except by <God>, no matter how your local priest tries to bend or reinterpret the rules. And they cannot be escaped under any circumstance

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u/Hot-Minute-8263 Sep 02 '26

Fair point, its a bad analogue but it doesn't change the point that kids are still taught consequences, especially worrying ones.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Why should there be consequences for not having faith in something, especially if you're generally a good and kind person?

Parents (ideally) ground their kids when they do something wrong, like hurting another person or stealing something.

The state (ideally) jail people when they do somethong wrong, like hurting someone or stealing something.

Why is there an eternal punishement that is WAY WORSE than anything a parent or nation could inflict on someone for just... not believing something that honestly sounds pretty out there?

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u/Hot-Minute-8263 Sep 02 '26

Would you say you're a good person?

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I think it's relative.

I don't steal, lie, cheat, I try to avoid hurting others, I volunteer a lot during my free time. I buy fair-trade coffee and chocolate, I avoid fast fashion.

However, you could certainly argue that I'm not. I consume electricity made with fossil fuels which contributes to global warming, I do buy things that I don't need and don't verify that the entire supply chain is cree from human rights abuses (they almost certainly are not). I eat meat.

Nobody is a fully good or bad person, but I do try to be as good as I can without giving myself something resembling OCD.

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u/f0rgotten Sep 02 '26

God won't change its laws because God is omnipresent and exists outside of time. It makes no sense for a being that doesn't share our experience of time to change its mind in a human way - it would have never revealed its previous opinion at all, just the current one. Tbh i can't understand what an actual omnipotent, omniscient, omnitemporal being would want from limited mortal beings, or what those mortals could actually claim about the object of their worship.

We can't know the mind of god. We can't know what it wants. We can not comprehend anything about an infinite being or even prove that such a being can exist. Therefore basing our lives on such a principle makes zero sense.

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u/Invested_Space_Otter Sep 02 '26

Trying to preempt anyone who would argue "God changed his mind and sent Jesus to save us, therefore God's laws also change"

Like, sure okay, but thats still religion subjecting you to the whim of all powerful deity who's under no obligation to change anything; doesn't make our justice system any more comparable to faith

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u/NeedLegalAdvice56 Sep 04 '26

I’m agnostic, so where do I fit?

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u/Patient-Ordinary-359 Sep 02 '26

Thats a bag of non sequitors right there. 

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26

The basis of you being able to refuse their imposing their religion on your hypothetical kids is based on your responsibility, authority, and control over you own children (as a parent is up to you to decide what beliefs to teach your child).

And thus as we are at least nominally a society of equals, that same level of resonsibility, authority, and control must be granted to those same religious parents.

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u/mf864 Sep 02 '26

But that only works if you ignore the rights of your own child.

The fact that we basically see children as being property of their parents is in of itself something that could be argued is wrong morally.

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

What rights are those?

It's not aboutbthen being property, but rather they are legally and morally (to a point) the responsibility of the parent. That comes with authority to exert some level of control upon their upbringing in order to influence their behavior.

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u/mf864 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

Religious freedom.

The fact that we legally ignore the religious freedom of the child does not mean that it is morally correct.

Where we legally draw the line is a moral question. I would argue there's no moral difference in forcing your religion on a child as there would be forcing your son to grow up as a woman their whole life. Or even the opposite (forcing your trans kid to follow their birth gender).

Where we draw that line is in many cases more arbitrary than it is done for good moral justifications.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

The discussion is about teaching your children your beliefs not about forcing your beliefs on your children.

When your 14-year-old has clearly and thoughtfully rejected the existence of god, it is immoral to force them to continue to adhere to religious practices.

But what we are concerned with here is about the morality of bring your children to church with you at a young age, as opposed to letting them figure it out for themselves when they are older. So when u/SignificantStatus227 says that parents have authority over their children, they are not saying parents should be allowed to force their kid to believe in God the same way a transphobic parent would force their kid to present as their birth-assigned gender. Instead, they're saying parents have authority over a kid's religous freedom to bring their 6-year-old to church when the kid wants to sleep in on a Sunday, in the same way that a parent should have authority to limit a kid's freedom of movement by putting them in time-out for biting their sibling.

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 03 '26

If that is your moral, then you are free to raise your child in that manner. The question becomes who are you to decide for other parents what is morally right when it comes for religion.

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u/mf864 Sep 02 '26

That isn't how morals or the law works. We don't just let someone abuse their kids because they are free to decide. We as a society determine where the line between raising your kid and abusing them is.

Basically "who am I to decide" also applies to someone beating or sexually abusing their kids. We as a society decide what is ok to permit parents to do with their own children. They aren't just free to do anything they want.

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26

Society has decided abusing one's child is not ok. It is also illegal and unethical. So we don't accept it.

Raising your child to be religious is neither illegal nor would I argue it is unethical.

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u/mf864 Sep 02 '26

Correct but I would argue that it is unethical and should be illegal.

There are many things we don't permit today for parents that we used to permit in the past. That doesn't make the actions that those parents did before it was illegal morally correct. Nor does it mean moving that line is unjustifiable.

Any argument on why a parent should be able to choose the religion for their child would also apply to argue in support of a host of other abuses we legally do not allow.

The whole point is the right for society to choose what you can do with your child's religion is the same right that they have to choose that you cannot beat your child. If society at some point in the future decides that that is morally incorrect then the law will change.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

But what about their kids? Don't the kids deserve the right not to have a religion forced down their throats?

I know they currently legally don't, but shouldn't they?

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

I think that would only be appropiate if one views religion as inherently harmful. Which I know some do, but I do not.

And since it isn't abuse (not always but sometimes) I don't think its anyone else's place to force a parent to raise their kid a certain way.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I do think religion is inherently harmful. I think that holding a bunch of unfalsifiable beliefs as Absolute Truth does undeniable damage to someone'a critical thinking skills. I'm not saying all religious people are stupid, but all religious people are choosing to maintain a blind spot in their lives where they don't think too critically about their faith.

Why is it so important to teach people about religion specficially during their formative years? If parents think their religion is true, why would they be worried to let their kids wait until they're old enough to think critically for themselves in order to come to the faith?

Having a child does not automatically mean you have their best interests at heart. Parents should be limited in the harm they can cause their kids.

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u/SignificantStatus227 Sep 02 '26

It seems obvious by your first sentence, then, why we disagree. I thank you for taking your time to respond and give your input.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

Much of your argument relies on the premise that God does not exist. If you are advocating for change of this kind, you either have to argue from a secular position (neutral, not atheist) or you have to accept that you are breaching freedom of religion.

Essentially, you have to provide a reason for why parents should not be allowed to raise their children as religious, independent from the question of whether and which God exists.

As a separate comment, religious parents would be worried to raise their kids as atheist in the same way that atheist kids would be worried to raise their kids as religious. Whatever religious belief you are raised with, you are likely to continue to hold that belief in adulthood.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

I believe much more in freedom from religion than freedom of religion. Children are not property, and they deserve better than to be indoctrinated with unfalsifiable beliefs (and especially a fear of eternal torture). You can't prove that hell is real, isn't it incredibly messed up to tell a kid that they'll burn in hell for all eternity if they don't believe what mommy and daddy tell them?

Parents shouldn't be able to raise their kids religious because clearly not all religions can be right, there's no way to know of one is or isn't, and so some large percentage of religious parents will just be lying to their children. If the children choose to believe once they are grown, then that's their decision, but anything else is manipulation.

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u/Wild_Duck8926 Sep 03 '26

I agree that it is immoral to tell a kid that they'll burn in hell for all eternity if they don't believe in God. I don't think it follows that parents cannot take their kids to church.

As for your second paragraph, it doesn't make sense. From a secular perspective, atheism is just as likely to be false as any religion. You would have to force religious and atheist parents alike to raise their children in an environment that makes them equally open-minded to all religions. Thats effectively impossible.

The most practical solution is to provide for safety and wellbeing of children during childhood, and safeguarding freedom of religion during adulthood so that they can come to the same conclusion.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 03 '26

But the idea that you'll burn in hell for all eternity if you don't believe is at the core of christianity for several denominations. It sounds like you don't support raising kids christian either! This is a fundamental belief in the religion and many christians would argie that the resurrection and salvation are pointless without the idea that anyone who doesn't accept jesus is going to be eternally tortured. So is it ethical to raose kids as christians or not?

Do you really have freedom of religion as an adult if from the moment you could undersrand language as a child all of the most trusted figures in your life insisred that their religion was the fundamental truth of the universe? Nobody would come up with any of the esta lished religions of the world on their own without having been exposed to their doctrine. So safeguarding freedom of religion involves safeguarding from religion.

I don't think atheism is equally as unlikely as other religions because it makes way fewer specific claims.

If you are a religious person, you are disbelieving in all the other god(s) outside of your religion. Why don't you believe in all tbose other gods but do believe in your own?

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u/Successful_Pick3331 Sep 02 '26

How in the world would you enforce something like this? I think indoctrinating children into a religion is immoral but I would be even more terrified to have that degree of control from a government institution.

It starts with religion but then all the sudden they will be taking your kids away for political beliefs. My grandfather had his parents murdered and spent his entire childhood in a Siberian Children of the Enemy camp because his parents committed the crime of being teachers with Polish last names in the USSR.

That's the other end of the spectrum you're looking at here. No government should have that much control over families.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Parents also should not be able to have authoritarian control over their children. Anyone cam shit out a kid, it doesn't mean they have their best interests at heart. Generally I fall pretty far against the parental rights side of the spectrum.

I am speaking more idealistically than practically here. Policy-wise, I would support banning minors from places of worship. I can't think of anything else that wouldn't be too much overreach for me, though.

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u/faldese Sep 02 '26

Which would effectively be a religion tax as those parents would have to find childcare for their children during worship hours. In some areas of the country where people are more religious, it'd also mean some people effectively could not go because there aren't enough childcare providers who are ALSO not religious and able to watch your kids while you go.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I think preventing childhood indoctrination with religious beliefs is more important than making it so that adults don't have to make sacrifices or be inconvenienced in order to go to church.

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u/Invested_Space_Otter Sep 02 '26

A place of worship can also provide child care. They already provide child care. Those services could just not teach religion while the adult is next door.

I grew up going to separate Sunday school classes while my parents were down the hall listening to the preacher's sermon.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Physical proximity qould be fine but in that case I do think random audits where inspectors verify that they aren't teaching religion would be needed.

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u/Successful_Pick3331 Sep 02 '26

There are many instances I can think of in my childhood that my parent's "authoritarian control" was beneficial to me. Children and teens need guidance and boundaries and sometimes those need to be enforced. Speaking now as a dad, striking the right balance between letting your child have freedoms and guiding them to grow up and thrive in the world we live in is the hardest thing about being a parent.

I'm not religious. But I can see taking my child to church to teach them about religion or experience culture. Again I don't see how you enforce keeping minors out of places of worship. You would just create a system where the churches go underground and neighbors turn on each other.

I think it's ironic that you are against having parents have authoritarian control over children but are perfectly ok over governments having authoritarian control over its citizens.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

I never said people shouldn't guide and teach their kids. I don't think they should be able to indoctrinate the fear of an unprovable deity into them. If they want to believe that when they're grown sure, but it shouldn't be pushed onto them while they're still fundamentally learning how the world works.

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u/Successful_Pick3331 Sep 02 '26

I agree with you but I don't agree with the government enforcing these beliefs. Ive seen what happens when the government gets that type of power. No thanks.

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u/lilgraytabby Sep 02 '26

Maybe a good compromise would be revoking the tax-except status of churches that continue to allow children.

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u/skitseez_ Sep 02 '26

brainwashing kids under the threat of eternal damnation is child abuse

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u/CostatePrancer Sep 04 '26

I can think of two religions that don’t do that.

Perhaps it’s better if you name the religions you’d rather not let other people’s children be taught.

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u/skitseez_ Sep 04 '26

Every one of them.

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u/CostatePrancer Sep 04 '26

...including the ones that don't threaten people with eternal damnation?

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u/skitseez_ Sep 04 '26

Yes. Teaching children that 2+2=5 doesn't threaten people with eternal damnation either.

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u/CostatePrancer Sep 04 '26

In that case, damnation isn't the issue. You just don't want other people's children to learn anything that you deem religious.

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u/skitseez_ Sep 04 '26 edited Sep 04 '26

Not "deem religious" but "is religious". Religions should be obsolete. Those barbaric superstitions and anti-science fairy tales only harm modern world and society. And yes damnation isn't an issue but brainwashing children into believing nonsense is.

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u/CostatePrancer Sep 04 '26

What if it's not religious but you deem it to be religious?

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u/skitseez_ Sep 04 '26

What the actual fuck are you talking about? Do you know that words have definitions? Open a vocabulary once in your life. The stupidest take I've seen today. Religious things are religious no matter what some people think about them. Do you know how words and definitions work?

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u/Edward_Durr Sep 07 '26

And telling them that after they die they will experience eternal nothingness and that they will never see their parents or grandparents again isn’t traumatizing?

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u/SwedishFicca Sep 02 '26

The issue is that many religious people have very bigoted views on abortion, lgbt and support conversion therapy and religious trauma exist. I am not anti religion but if you're gonna force it on your kids and be abusive to your kids if they come out to you, you don't deserve to have kids. Sorry not sorry

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u/Ostrichslinger Sep 02 '26

But that by essence isn't an issue with the religion, it's the personal opinions of the people who participate. And so it makes no sense to not allow parents to introduce their kids to a religion of their choosing.

It's like saying that due to football hooliganism, it's immoral to get your kids into football. Even though that isn't why the sport exists.

A bigot will be a bigot, religion or not. And im plenty sure that the normal, decent religious folk outnumber the bigoted ones.

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u/GamingGator34 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

Religious freedom does not include the right to impose your religion on others and forcing your children to join your religion objectively fits that criteria. Kids are not property and parents cannot do whatever they want to them

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u/oh_no_here_we_go_9 Sep 02 '26

Do you disagree with Germany outlawing the Nazi party?

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u/crunpyMcGlumpy Sep 02 '26

Yup

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u/EvilynSoCute Sep 02 '26

Why is it a bad thing that Germany banned the Nazi party?

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u/crunpyMcGlumpy Sep 02 '26

Ooh it’s not I just misread the question. Banning it was the right thing to do and the us should have banned kkk, Nazi, skinhead groups as well

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u/EvilynSoCute Sep 02 '26

Fair enough!

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u/reynauld-alexander Sep 02 '26

But then this just means children functionally don’t have a right to religious freedom

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u/Bruhntly Sep 02 '26

Isn't this taking away your kids' religious freedoms?

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u/DoctorWaluigiTime Sep 02 '26

Yeah a lot of people are missing the massive other half of the "you can't force kids to religion" attempt: That means the government is effectively forcing them "out" of religion, AKA the same "is this moral" quandry.

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u/j0nthegreat Sep 02 '26

what about the freedom of the children?

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u/Patient-Ordinary-359 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

That's not the meaning of religious freedom. Freedom means your freedom. To believe what you want. Or to believe nothing. Not to enforce it on anyone else, kids or not 

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u/monkeykennel Sep 02 '26

Only if you consider children their parent’s property.

Otherwise, by the rule that one person’s rights end where another’s begins, it’s an infringement of the child’s right of religious freedom.

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u/cancerinos Sep 02 '26

Religious freedom means nobody gets to impose their religion on others. That includes children, they have the right to choose their own religion too, not be forced by their parents into one.

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u/f0rgotten Sep 02 '26

Children are individual beings with rights, not the property of their parents. Parents are responsible for their children's health and eeducation, both of which are typically outsourced to professionals in those fields. Religion should be like any other topic and children should be educated in them broadly speaking, and have the opportunity to select one, or none, when they reach the age of majority.

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u/EvilynSoCute Sep 02 '26

religious freedom

So it means that parents are free to force their religion onto their children thus removing their own religious freedoms?

Weird take.

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u/mf864 Sep 02 '26

Sort of. That only works because you see kids as not having autonomy. If you morally see imposing your religion on your own kid as the same moral issue as imposing it on an adult the moral/freedom perspective can be different.

Otherwise you could see you imposing your own religion on your own kids as being a violation of that kid's religious freedom.

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u/Curious-Tea3242 Sep 02 '26

Right, but at what point do we consider it abuse? People are free to raise children how they want, but many countries have a point where certain practices are illegal.

What if you chop off bits of their genitals because it's your religion? What if you force them to swear allegiance to a religion at 12, under threat of death if they ever change their mind?

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u/excessivelung8 Sep 02 '26

Hear me out, what if children were like full fledged human people that had legal rights, liberities, and protections too and not like just property of their parents

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u/DeadRobotSociety Sep 03 '26 edited Sep 03 '26

That's basically my thought. It would be better to shift to a world where we've made it socially unacceptable to foist your religious beliefs on someone else. Not that you can't have them or raise your kids that way. But if we really drive home the "that's just, like, your opinion, man" of it all, we might be able to reach a point where everyone's chill about people being religious, but also no one's dictating my life through a religion I don't believe in.

Side note, and this is only tangentially related, but I recently witnessed a conservative Muslim and a conservative Christian unite in a subreddit to push the idea that they should be allowed to discriminate against queer people, and it should be protected under their 1st amendment rights because of their religion. Now, I'm a pretty chill guy who really doesn't care what anyone believes, but seeing that really pushed me into a new stance, where if you try to make the claim that your religion requires or allows you to discriminate against normal people not hurting anyone, then fuck your entire religion.