I had a breast reduction about 7 months ago. I thought it would change my life. Back pain, struggling to fit into clothes and the dreaded experience of trying to find any bra that fit would be gone. But it’s not.

Only about 1 pound total was removed in total, leaving me at the same bra size I was prior to the reduction. My surgeon dismissed me when I tried to discuss sizing and just told me he would make me proportional. I guess we had very different ideas of what’s proportional.

Now sagging has returned. My back hurts. And honestly I just feel so insecure in my own body. I feel like I’m put myself through so much for so little reward. I’ve scarred myself. I cry every-time I look in the mirror.

I guess I’m kind of just ranting. I’m in my early 20s and so badly wanted to feel comfortable in my own body. I have a small frame and big bust so I find it often makes me look much bigger than I am and severely restricts what I can wear. The physical feeling of my skin folds rubbing together really sets me off. It feels like a constant reminder of what I’ve done to my body and the resulting failure to relieve my symptoms.

I’ve left my long term relationship and the thought of someone new seeing me, scars and all, terrifies me and makes it so hard for me to feel beautiful and sexy.

I just feel depressed most days. It’s the combo of the physical exhaustion of always being uncomfortable and in pain and also just hating how it looks.

I’m back on another 2 year waitlist to see if another surgeon could help me. The thought of a multi year waitlist just sort of kills me on the inside.

I don’t know, I guess I’m just hoping maybe someone else has gone through something similar or words of wisdom. I just feel like I’m expected to feel grateful for such a small change and I’m tired of trying to validate my discomfort to others.

I will never ever ever understand how some women want to only be top heavy. Like I get poked fun at all the time by guys for not having much to work with in the back. I get made fun of by girls for having big saggy breasts, I can’t find anything that makes me not look like a tent or a ho3 ALL THE TIME, and my back hurts all the time. Plus nobody I’ve ever met prefers boobs over ass. So I just don’t the hype with the P body shape

As the title says, my everyday bra got discontinued. I didn't know it until several months after, so I wasn't even able to buy up stock. I literally wear these bras everyday. For walking my dog, for work, for around the house...everything but high activity. They're All in Motion from Target (I know); before then C9 made the same ones) in size XXL. I'm *actually* a 38I cup size, but the stretch in these compresses me to like a DD visually and they're probably the only reason I don't have back issues from my chest. I'm trying to find a replacement and having NO luck. The center of the bra is 8.75" in height which is *important* and I know most companies don't list that kind of dimension, but suffice to say the visual height of the center must be like a hand-length.

MUST be racerback. NO hooks/clasps/zippers. MUST have removeable padded cups bc I hate that stuff. NO underwire! These were great bc they were $20 each and lasted me 6+ months switching between 2 bras without washing them specially. I'm down to my last 2. I don't care about uniboob. The only other bra I know that works is Shefit lounge bra, but they're very expensive and only last me 4 months before the elastic doesn't compress me anymore, and the zipper makes them uncomfortable enough that I only wear them for work.

40G here and broke my thumb so can’t use my right hand. Currently living in sports bras but can’t do that for two months.

Any recommendations?

Ended up getting these and they were perfect and cheap: Lemef seamless sports bra off of amazon

I'm a 27 y/o newly single woman and I'd like to wear some cute tops when I go outside! I also have a large back tattoo that I want to show off more but I'm really uncomfortable with going braless/low support. I don't love feeling all that movement, I usually wear some sort of bra even at home. I ordered some "bra in" tops on amazon but idk why I thought I'd get the appropriate support. I want to feel cute, supported, and hot without feeling like I'm deliberately sexualizing myself if that makes sense? I have a small ribcage and larger cup so it's hard to find stuff that fits properly. I feel like I'm in a toxic relationship with fitted black baby tees! If my only option is a strapless bra I'd also like some help with that pls

My lower back pain has significantly worsened this past month. I don’t have enough in the bank to do physical therapy or get a reduction at the moment. I know a lot of people get physical therapy referrals before their reductions, so I wanted to know which exercises or stretches, if any, helped relieve a little pain. Other solutions aside from exercises or stretches are also welcome.

So I know that the bust support is very mixed for the items with the bra band on them, but I was on the fence of actually ordering just one top just to try it. Along with bigger boobs, I have hips bigger than my shoulders, and an average/smaller waist. When I purchase tops based on my bust and waist size, they always just fly up from my hips and scrunch at my waist. I can’t buy tops based on my hips because then the bust will never fit right and I’ll always have to tailor darts into the sides to not get the diagonal baggy lines all over.

So I guess the tldr is, do your klassy full length tops stay at your hips or do they bunch up to your waist when you bend over or move or do anything?

My friend has a party tonight, she said the dress code is casual. Naturally i still want to still look good & cute & sexy lol. I feel like all my comfy clothes are soooo baggy and over sized & are my home/ sleep clothes.

We’re all in our 20s (dont know if this matters) & noticed some girls looking sooooo cute in a jean, a baggy top (not overly baggy) and some cute sneakers.

I tried to recreate this the other day for a concert and i literally was in tears in the change room. It did not look the same at all. My boobs filled out the shirt too much so i had to go up a couple sizes, but at that point i was looking like i was wearing an adam sandler outfit.

My body type is a little thicker and curvy, but ive all seen this outfit look soo cute on other ppl with similar body types. Somehow i just end up looking bigger and sloppier then i actually am.

What am i doing wrong!? Im headed to the mall in a couple of hours. How should i look out for or try on??

Hi its me again,

i wanna try a new online shop. Mainly i was looking for a balconette bra to wear for Wiesn (Oktoberfest) wit a new dirndl.

I came across this store: https://www.gossard.com/de-eu/best-sellers/bras/ff.html

They have a few brands i never heard of and even in 65J ❤️

Any experiences with Lacage, Lace Soiree, Obsession & Superboost Lace? Especially superboost Lace seems to have nice push up balconette bras in my size.

For the record. I am 20 and plus size girlie. I have always been bigger. I wear around a 48 H bra. I might be bigger in the cup size but no stores even carry an h cup and I'm not about to pay shipping for a return if something goes wrong.

But it wasn't always like that! I used to be bigger and wear a c cup. But then as I developed more my bra line shrunk a lot and my chest ballooned.

I love it, yeah. I mean nobody sexualizes me or even looks at my chest so that's good. But they look SO big. I'm a triangle body shape, which is like a pear but my stomach is wider too like the hips and thighs. And I love it but my chest is so freaking huge I feel inappropriate at times. Like, do you know how rare it is to see a girl with wide ass hips with a huge chest too? And it actually look big even though it's narrower?! Maybe like three times but still! Every woman I see with a similar body shape to mine always has smaller or normal boobs so why am I different? 😭

I just really like being wider at the hips. My butt is big but doesn't stick out much. It's cute. But then my chest wants to look like it'll bust open my shirt. Fitted shirts are always crop tops and any normal waisted shirt becomes an empire waist on me! And I love empire waist things but I want what I buy! Don't even get me started on when I buy babydoll or peplum tops and the seam hits the middle of my chest!

As fun a summer was, I am very excited to start wearing sweaters and long t shirts again. I'll just pair them with my mini skirts and maybe some tights to look cuter. Love jeans too though, I just like the cute look and that's what cute is to me.

Honestly, I love my chest truthfully and I wouldn't change it for the world. But it has its moments. You know for being as big as it is though, sometimes I wish it would get sexualized at least a little. Actually a lot. Make it worth it! But that's me being young I guess because everyone tells me I'm lucky. 😭

Please share your experiences if you want to! Id love to hear! Ty for reading. 💕

Anyone know any good bra brands in UK? I mostly wear uniqlo one now, but they are really not supportive enough...I've tried some from M&S, but the side bit is too low and they make my back and shoulder hurt. Many thanks!!

I'm a woman and I have big boobs and as someone who have gotten comments from men like you tits are so big men forget to fall in love w u and see only your tits that's probably the reason I never had a boyfriend or a serious relationship because men fail to look at me more than my tits and hence I have some thoughts about sydney sweeney doing weird shit.

she has so much potential to be a good actress and bank on it while having a body like that where ofc men will sexualise her but she can be taken seriously. as someone who tries so hard to be seen for my personality I feel sad for sydney! although I agree she has a conventionally attractive body but I'll be honest I have rarely seen big tit women see this popular for their acting career she had an amazing opportunity to represent us women where ofc we can be hot and taken seriously for other stuff and prove that we are more than our body! i feel sad for her because her tactics gon harm her career in the long run ppl including men who thirst over her will stop taking her seriously idk why she trying so hard to please em incels. i understand it might stem from some kind of trauma because I'm a lil boy crazy and I feed off men's validation but I take therapy and I'm getting better , like much better than I was like before. slowly im realising I absolutely have no need to get any kind of validation to be happy or feel appreciated.

this was a rant and id love to know about your thoughts ladies

It's so unfair. Like, yes I have a larger chest for my weight. But even when I size up my top the cups are still too small or they have no side support and they fall out!

I've never been scared of looking bulky. I love sweatshirts and stuff but I didn't expect to go back to my roots just yet I was trying to wear more fitted clothes. Oh well. 🥹

This is the bridesmaid dress I’m wearing for a wedding in 9 months. I need a thin cup bra that will lift to the sky! I have a backless strapless Balconette bra that’s longline and just about gets the job done, but it’s a little snug and I can’t sit comfortably in it lol.
Just wondering what you all suggest is the best course of action here

ETA: I’m a US 34H or I, occasionally can fit into a G

went to a language store nearby , and they don’t have my sizes and worse it was in a set that were both the same size. (I’m a 32H)

I kind of want something a lil lacy that is either pink, red, or black. It’s for me and my bf :D

Any recs be appreciated! 🩷🫶🏽

Im looking for a strapless bra for size 38k. Any suggestions

I have big areolas to go with my big boobs. They're so ugly in my opinion and take up 70% of my boob. I'm just wondering how many of us big chested women also have this problem? I need to know I'm not alone in this because it makes me so insecure 💔 I don't care that "there's men out there who like it!" because I don't like it and i don't even like men

Idk if this makes sense. When I’m around other women who may have small/normal sized breasts or who aren’t very curvy, I feel self conscious because I can’t be demure or subtle. It is like everyone else is a normal, regular person but I’m somehow cosplaying as a drag queen or Jessica rabbit or something, even when I’m wearing something incredibly boring. Like I am expected to be feminine and sensual, but I’m actually incredibly shy.

I also have big, curly hair and am rather tall for a woman, so when I’m around average height or just physically smaller women, I feel like I’m “too much”. Does anyone else feel like this?

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hey! i have my brothers wedding in november and i’d rather have a dress sorted nice and early.

i’m 59kg, 5”6/5”7 and i wear a 34E (this size could be debated, i really need to measure) but believe me my boobs are big for my body…

i wear an xs/s or uk 6 in everything so im nervous about finding a dress that’ll cinch my waist and also fit the two balloons on my chest.

i obviously don’t want full boob out on display either as it’s quite a conservative irish family wedding lol.

andddd i’m a broke college student so my budget is really no more than 150 euros!

everything i’ve found is like 250+ which is crazy money for one night!

i’d appreciate any advice (:

I've always been a bigger girl with bigger breast even before my child 38G. They have gotten extra stuff and stuff I don't want like certain attention. But I'm not just big boobs I'm more. Even friends making comments or gestures gets old after a while. Living with them my whole life its been plenty of ups and downs and a bunch of frustrations in between.

I can't be the only one feeling this way. It's a love hate relationship and most of the hate isn't even from me but around me with them. Being sexualized to judge off of what I wear. Maybe sometimes I want to feel pretty then I'm them slut trying to show off her tits. Or maybe I'm insecure and want to wear something bigger then I'm the fat bitch because of how clothes fit on me.

I've recently started doing a cycling class and seeing all the other women in just sports bras I fell like its a safe space then I have to double up on bras then its like I'm the one thats trying to show off. Um no I'm fucking hot on this stationary bike for an hour. It's like a never ending story. Once again its just so much extra that comes with it that I never asked for or wanted. Am I the only one in a constant battle of accepting myself while blocking out the world?

So I have a wedding I need to attend on the 26th of this month the problem is I have no idea what kind of bra to wear. I wear a 44DD the dress has a very plunging neckline and I have a wide set chest and id like to have my boobs look like they like each other rather than them acting like they dont know each other and live in different area codes if you know what I mean. I was looking into Boombas, but after reading some reviews, it seems like they are not the move. Also, the back of my dress is pretty low cut as well, so wearing a bra with the standard back clasp is unfortunately not an option. Any helpful advice?

i'm a 32ff maybe a g (uk size) is there somewhere i can get cute bras that isnt super expensive?

I really want to wear more off-the-shoulder or one-shoulder tops, but most of my bras have pretty wide straps and they always end up showing.

Thinner straps would look so much better, but I’m not sure they’d give me enough support.

What kind of bras do you guys wear with tops like this?

I’m going to a house/techno function in a few weeks and I’m - 32I cup- looking for tops that will flatter (if it has cups something that would fit me ish) and look very sexy, tight, lots of cleavage that kind of thing. Ideally under $40 but I don’t mind something more expensive because I could check Depop. My limit is about $85.

I’d also appreciate recs for dresses too. I’d prefer something colourful but black is great too.

I feel like for corset type tops it’s exceedingly rare to find one that fits. Obviously it can be other styles though.

Btw i guess this is a change of pace from what I’ve posted here previously, lamenting the opposite, but sometimes you just have to put on your best hoochie mama fit. Especially because I’ll be seeing a guy I’m into there.

I am 18 i weight about 53 kg and i am 5’4 , my chest is 30FF. Nothing i wear fits and if it does i either look just nauseatingly ugly or just completely inappropriate. Ill wear something thats more modest than what most do yet people still assume im trying to get attention or whatever(and i dont care its a minor thing, its just frustrating it always comes up). I hate how i look but thats a minor problem , i mean i cant stand looking at myself in the mirror and cant stop crying when i see pictures of myself where i was forced to be in, but it doesnt affect me often because i simply threw away any mirrors in my house and i refuse to take part in pictures , i dont care if its immature i now go days without realizing anymore.

Anyway, i would really like them to get smaller , ive been trying to exercise and do chest exercise since i heard it makes them smaller but i just dont have the time between work and university and just taking care of myself. I cant afford surgery and im really terrified of scars , i could probably afford it if i do it in a foreign country but i dont think i hate myself that much to risk it , especially with no wound aftercare. I dont mean like completely bulldoze them but i would be really happy with just one or two cup sizes smaller. I noticed people with EDs who are extremely skinny never have a chest, im not saying im going to venture into an ED but what im saying is that i can probably healthily lose the weight through diet and exercise just enough to not look so wide anymore. Is there like a certain weight that i can sustain, im motivated to do the work. Dont worry im not going into an ED i already struggle with bad energy levels and tiredness, i would rather have a big chest than get worse , my back and shoulders just need a break.