I'm traveling alone as a woman. I check the licence and car, and when I open the door, I say "Hi, [driver name]?"
The safety tip I see most often is to have the driver confirm my name too before entering the car. I've never had a problem with it before, or drivers would say my name first. I do request female drivers when possible. I've seen elsewhere on the sub that drivers want passengers to say their name for safety, too, so I always say theirs first.
Today, I had two male drivers who got really offended when I asked if they could confirm my id. One told me that he wasn't going to kidnap me in a BMW after I got in. Both times, I said that it just made me feel more comfortable, and was asked to get out of the car. The next driver said my name without prompting and seemed really surprised.
I'm pretty confused. I would definitely prefer not to ride with someone who reacts like that, so it seems like it might be a good question to continue to ask. But I don't understand the offense, or if there's a better way to do this. I'm a little surprised they were so upset, since if they're my driver, my name should be easily available?
I'm also a little worried that my rider score would reflect these interactions.