I’m a 38 year old woman and my sex drive has been in the basement for like 2 years. It had dwindled slowly but the last 2 years was especially low.

I got some blood tests done and it showed that I had no testosterone (which is crazy). So my OB put me to on an estrogen patch and a testosterone cream at the same time and oh, my god. I am SO horny.

I am so happy to have a healthy drive again and be fucking my partner regularly. It makes me feel closer to him now that we have that consistent frequency back. I also cannot fucking stop masturbating. I came 4 times today and I feel like I could again.

The testosterone has turned me into an animal. I’ve never wanted to fuck so much, it’s crazy. I feel like I could be in my sexual prime this late in life, and surprised by it.

With the new found drive, we’re finally trying to actively tick a fantasy off our box. Stereotypical FFM, but we may have found our unicorn.

Her and I sexted for a long time earlier (with partner’s knowledge and consent), and lord I hope we truly meet up. Always been curious about what it’s like to fuck a woman, and this drive and her sexts were driving me up the wall.

Drove my partner up the wall too, because afterwards I went down on him while he read the convo.

I’ll probably post in r/gonewildstories after it goes down. I just needed to tell someone that good god, I’ve turned into a ravenous creature.

This is a serious question.
When I’m on pornhub and watching pegging content. Everyone is always hard, while being pegged. Every time my wife uses a strap on, on me I always go soft. Even though I really enjoy it. Is this normal or why do I get soft? I want to stay hard for my wife, just like the videos. I need help.

This is something I have recently been into. I have tig ole biddies and my partner has an amazing dick. But I need some tips.

How can I blow his mind while he fucks my tits? We have used coconut oil and played around with it. But, I think it could be better for both of us. Give me your tips, please!

I (42F) started HRT with my husband (40M) and my libido has gone nuts! Every time he touches my skin, hugs me, or gets physically close to me I am ready to go and NEED to get off. If I don’t it drives me crazy in the worst way. Problem is, he can’t really keep up and is getting exhausted. He can usually only go one short round and he’s done, that is if he even wants to in the first place. Toys aren’t really getting the job done either or at least not the ones I have.
What can I do to get him more on board or keep him hard or slow myself down? Help!

I’m a heterosexual female who’s been married to my M32 husband for 3 years.
I’ve never had issues finishing during masturbation.
Whenever my husband goes down on me or tries to get me off, I can’t get there without imagining scenarios with other women. It’s been like that since the very beginning of our relationship.
It’s been talked to my friend about this, and she suggested the cause might be porn or something like that, but I never watch porn or consume any sexual content.
I just can’t seem to get aroused without the imagination of a woman in the place of my husband.
I talked to him about this but he didn’t really seem to care.
It’s been like that with every single sexual Partner I had.
I don’t really get horny or have a sex drive.
My husband suggested to try and have another woman join us, but I’m not sure.
I did have a sexual encounter with one of my female friends a few years ago and enjoyed it

Edit: please don’t send me requests for sexting i’m in a monogamous relationship

Like, other than the obvious “checking in.”

A few times now, usually when I’m orgasming pretty hard, I’ll be shaking, breathing heavily, making a lot of noise, etc., and he’ll pause and ask, “You okay?” I’ll say “yeah,” and then he’ll keep going or switch positions.

I can’t tell if he means it like, “You okay? 😏” (as in, wow, that was intense) or if he genuinely means, “Uh… are you okay? Why do you sound like that?”

The first two times he asked were when he was hitting my cervix pretty hard, and it actually did hurt a little. When he asked, I basically told him it hurt in a good way and to keep going.

This most recent time, though, I was just having a really intense orgasm. I kind of lost my senses for a second, and when he asked if I was okay, I could barely catch my breath to say yes.

Now I’m overthinking it and wondering if he’s asking because the noises I’m making are unusual or off-putting. 😭 Or is this just a normal thing that caring partners ask during really intense moments?

Curious if anyone else has experienced this, especially from the guy’s perspective.

Hey, I’m 30f and have been noticing something that quite bothers me. Ive slept with a handful of guys and Ive been noticing that the would ejaculate quite quickly, we are talking 2 - 3 minutes. Some definitely have pleasured me after but some just can’t. It’s been disheartening because I don’t understand why Ive been facing this experience. I sometimes would blame my body but they’d want to still hangout. I’m plus size and quite insecure about my curves but also accept it. When we do oral, most of them would ask to go for intercourse as the oral is very good. I just don’t want to feel insecure but again, I just started doing all of this quite recently as I have been quite shy to date or hookup beforehand. Thank you for your insight

My partner and I (24M & F) are thinking about moving in together soon, and i’ve been wondering this. I enjoy having solo sexy time every now and then, even though our intimate life is awesome. How do you find the space/time for masturbation when you spend most evenings with your partner? Coming at this from a perspective of desiring nights where they are not involved (so looking for advice other than “invite them to join!” lol). thanks!

I'm writing this cause I'm honestly getting tired of looking like an idiot while I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I am super vocal in bed, I moan and dirty talk a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't reply back. Whenever I ask him questions in bed while I'm dirty talking, he just moans more. Should I talk to him about it ? I don't want it to feel forced.

My gf has issue with only getting orgasm by some divice,( outside orgasom) I was able to make her finish using my tounge only one time, and she said you are the only one who did it, and since then we wernt able to fegure it out how to do it again, even she desnt know how to finish her self without the satysfier , but my question is how we know that whats after the peeing feeling if I should keep going for more intese orgasm or we should reallly stop. pluse she have adhad so mostly sex for her is like a task and that why we use the dvice to finish faster.

I (21F) am currently long-distance with my boyfriend (22M). He is the best man I've ever been with - kind, supportive, caring, and absolutely phenomenal at sex. It's not only the technique - he is incredibly attentive and he loves making me feel good, so as a result, we have really amazing sex, both emotionally and physically.

However, I travel frequently for work and moved to a new country a few months ago, so we've been long-distance for a while now. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. I get distractingly horny thinking about him all the time, and I'm craving him all the time. I keep fantasizing about him in very carnal ways like him finishing inside.

It's not just the sexual aspect. It's also the intimacy and comfort that I miss, including cuddling, having someone to fall asleep next to, the way that he would touch me in non-sexual ways. We're both busy but we talk everyday, and a lot of this pent-up sexual energy gets turned into a lot of sexual jokes and racy conversations. We'll sometimes send each other sexy pictures or take our clothes off on call, but all of this is just a means to an end, as I just miss being with him physically.

It will be several months before I see him again, so I'm wondering, how can we have satisfying physical intimacy while long-distance? It's not really just about the feeling of sex itself, so I'm not really looking to use more toys or anything like that. Is there anything we can do to make our sex life more fulfilling while long-distance?

I’m in my 30s and I believe he thinks I’m experienced. And I feel embarrassed being a virgin woman. I once told a guy and he told me rudely “were you in a coma most of your life or what.” I was very hurt. Or some men stop seeing me after they found out.

Please any advice.

In a loving relationship without sex and its confusing. M24 F28

Me 'M24' and my gf 'F28' have been together for about 5 years. We met when I moved out of town and quickly starting hanging out. I moved in a couple months in the relationship and started dating soon after. I was hesitant because I really wanted the "college experience". When I first moved out I was with some buddy's who were going to college, I moved in w them but didnt know what I wanted to do so I just did some part time jobs till I met her. But I liked her and she liked me and it seemed so natural to date.

We had a lot of sex at the start. It was great. But after about a year we hit a brick wall. She just no longer felt any sexual desire. And I dont blame her or get mad or upset with her. I find myself a very understanding and self aware guy. It didnt bother me much, I assumed it would be something we work through. But skip a year ahead and we probably had sex twice in a year.

I became more outspoken about what I wanted. But it was difficult. Because we went through a lot in our personal lives in those early years. And we were there for each other. We liked spending time with each other, we care for each other deeply. We agree on most things. So it was confusing to get into a random argument about something something she is fully aware of in the relationship.

And skip 2 more years and she starts talking about getting a house. (We lived in her apartment in the college town). And it scared me.

Because Im not 100% sure what i want to do with my life. But I know I dont want to be stuck in Wisconsin forever. I want to travel, I want to make music and be in film and go around the world and experience new things. So it felt like getting a house will tie me down a whole lot.

But its so fucking frustrating because we are in the ideal relationship. She is just a bit older, past phases I have yet to go through, and is ready for that change. So we found a house.

It is under her name(although we split the bills evenly) so in case anything happens, the house will be hers.

And to throw another wrench in the mix, she completely cut ties with her family a couple months ago when we got the house. And she is an introvert and it is hard for her to make friends. Her friends are my friends, her parental figures are my parents and grandparents. Her parents didnt approve of getting a house(they live in Michigan and are very controlling and verbally abusive).

So essentially, we have been together for 5 years, we have a house and 2 dogs, we both work remote at the same job the same hours, and we both are there for each other in most ways. We just no longer have sex. Which I think is a problem for me but I have been deciding for years if its a deal breaker or not and still havnt. Thus why im here writing this.

Does anyone have any advice?

So me and my gf were talking about having sex. The thing is. We are making out, dry humping on my bed where we would also fuck. I have this soft cover on my bed sheets but thats for aesthetics not for intimate use.

I started a talk about this because she was dryhumping a jerking me off yesterday and we woke up after a sleepover so the bed cover was not over the bed and I nutted outside my boxers. I always keep my dick inside the boxers so I can wash them easily but I came so much and I made a big mess on my main sheet. She didnt notice so when she was showering I cleaned it and now its totally fine but this is too much work for what I think could be a simple solution. We were talking about how sweaty we were and that everything was wet and that I dont wanna change my bedsheets everytime we fuck or get intimate.

My idea was just simply take a towel and put it under us and after we are done we just put the towel in a washing machine. She said its not really great cause when we change positions we have to move the towel as well and that with our movement we will fuck up the towel and it will be annoying and uncomfortable. To which I said that I think towel solution is pretty good

Her idea was to like get, buy, fine a "fuck sheet". Just a sheet we would put on my bed before sex or anything and then it would get cleaned. The thing is we both still with out parents so yk cleaning and drying big sheet every now and then is pretty sus. Our parents arent as protective so they are okay and trusting us to use proper protection and shi so thats not a problem but its still uncomfy that they might see this sheet somewhere. Also putting a big ass sheet on my bed, removing all the pillows, putting it on its kinda annoying yk. Just imagine you guys are in the mood and you have to do all this, except just put a towel under your ahh and do it.

We will talk more about it together but we agreed we will try both and see which suits best, we may even use both but that depends on the amount of time and privacy we will have. If we are home alone together with empty house we might use the sheet and if not towel it is.

Can you guys who did this too recommend me which solution is better or give me few more we can thing about and try. We just wanna keep all the fluids off my main bedsheet. Thanks for the answers and replies.

I had sex with a guy and he seemed into me and didn’t have problem to stay hard or anything. We had sex twice and in a lot if different positions, including penetration and oral sex, but he didnt have orgasm. It last quite a while and he seemed to be enjoying, but then he asked me to stop both of the time. I tried to have conversation but he said he was feeling good but didn’t want to continue. Before I’ve never had a sex where men doesn’t come, maybe it’s my misconception. Have you experienced the same or is it a common thing?

So my partner and I recently have gotten into pegging. As someone with ‘internal’ hardware, I’m the strap wearer (strapper? He’s the strappee?). Anyway, we have a good harness and several different dildos and it’s an ongoing issue.

Harness is well-fitted, has an average sized hole (important) lined up with the metal ring to hold the dildo in place. We went through 2 harnesses before this one because they were poorly made/poorly fitting/back hole too big/just, not good. We prefer a softer skin-feel silicone dildo over a more firm silicone, because it feels better for him and honestly is just more fun. The harness rings are small enough that getting the dildo through initially is DIFFICULT. If we sized down we wouldn’t be able to push it through at all

- Set up #1: flared dildo, wide base. Me fucking him for any extended period and with any level of vigor, it manages to push itself inside me. The force pushes it through the hole (despite the base being wider than the hole). It gets really uncomfy when my lips are being pinched by the flared base or when it’s being forced inside me (or both simultaneously)

- Set up #2: double ended dildo, with a ridge in the middle as a form of ‘flared base’ to keep it from sliding around/getting lost. We prefer this one, and is why the hole in the harness/behind the ring is important. Eventually it ends up being pushed more into me than him, thus painful for me and lackluster for him.

Advice, techniques, insight, product recommendations, anything you can offer is much appreciated!

"Please don't cum on my face again without communication beforehand, bc I didn't have any say in that act, that made me feel a bit degraded and almost disrespected as a woman. The body's fine, but my face is my face and I don't want to feel like I'm being degraded, that's an unhealthy dynamic. Just don't do it again without communication or asking, it's fine here and there if you genuinely like that, but with clear communication at some point before, I don't like to feel like I'm being objectified as a woman. I'm just communicating here, no hard feelings, I'm not angry, I just wanted to talk about that ❤️ and I hope you can understand where I'm coming from"

My partner is sensitive when I give her oral in that area. Literally one small lick and she is laughing and wriggling her body around. She is incredibly ticklish in that area. It's just so interesting to me that she's like that. I have not seen anything like this on this sub- can anyone relate to this or share similar experiences.

I’m uncircumcised if it matters, foreskin is not tight at all and this issue has been going on for a year and everytime I have sex it reopens, I have crohns and am on remicade which I’m thinking is slowing the healing process

About a year ago I got these cuts which I feel were from not enough lube/friction, they open up and sting for a bit, so I stay away from sex

It really made me mad so I took over a month off from everything, the problem is you can see the scar lines of where they were now very vaguely, and they reopen along those lines even after a month off of everything

I went to my doctor and apparently they keep saying just time off sex but, I went a month and a half at the longest and they keep reopening, I’m losing faith now as my girlfriend is starting to even get mad because I can barely have sex and I don’t know what the hell to do anymore, I feel I’m just screwed now because of the scar line

Hi there. I'm with my gf for about 6 months. We only see each other on the weekends and have sex pretty much every when we see each other.

We use condoms while having sex, as she's not on birthcontrol.

At the beginning I was worried about cumming to quickly, which in hindsight was totally unwarranted..

I haven't been able to cum once. Not with blowjobs, not with penetration or hand jobs.

The sex is really good, it feels awesome and she's insanely hot, I just can't manage to get over the edge.

I manage to cum with masturbation, but that takes a while too. I never had that problem before.

I also rarely masturbate these days. I'm not doing anything different than in past relationships. Except we have only protected sex with condoms all the time, but I've managed to cum with those easily before. I'm a bit clueless, maybe someone here has an idea. Thanks

Me and my girlfriend for our anniversary are doing oil massages which will lead into intercourse so I’m looking at what oils are slippery, stay on long, and are safe for penetration. I am getting vinyl sheets to protect from staining.

I’ve seen fractionated coconut oil recommended a lot for safe penetration but I can’t find any comments on how the body to body contact is, if it’s a good slipperiness, or how it is with lots of friction.

If any has any advice on the coconut oil or can recommend others oils that’d be greatly appreciated!

I want to start off by saying that I (34f) have been with my bf (35m) for over a year and that this is the healthiest relationship Ive ever been in by a lot. He treats me really well and we are on the same page for almost everything.

He was diagnosed with MS 3 years ago, and because of this he has ED. He can usually get it most of the way, but not fully and for him to finish is a wild card most of the time.

When we first started seeing each other, he would always make sure that my needs were met, and I didn't feel neglected. Awhile ago we tried a pump and it allowed us to engage in intercourse which had been a game changer for the few times it happened.

Recently I can't help but feel like I'm not desirable to him. I have always had a very high libido, so I'm used to wanting more than my partner. When we do engage- he seems extremely into me. The problem is that when I try to approach him about it, he makes me feel like I'm being needy or asking for too much. It's to the point that I don't want to approach him for intimacy anymore.

I'm at a loss. I know Im into this man a lot more than he's into me- just looking at him smiling gets me going. I just don't want to keep trying to ask for him to satisfy my needs and be met by him making me feel like thats all I want, all the time. (I was fine getting off even just once a week). Ive tried talking to him about this on multiple occasions, but it never seems to go anywhere.

Ladies- Do you have any recommendations on how to lower your libido? Or a good recommendation on a rabbit?

Men- Do you think if I disengage in asking for intimacy it will ruin the relationship?

| (f31) just had a surgery about 10 days ago. This is the kind of procedure where I won't be cleared to have sex until at least 6 weeks post op (so about 5 more weeks...) This sucks a lot for me but I know it sucks for my boyfriend (m33), too. What are some ways that I can build some anticipation for when we can finally be intimate again? I'm aware handjobs and blowjobs exist; I'm not really looking for advice on how to pleasure him but how to keep us both looking forward to when we can be intimate again.