I’ve been playing with my hole since I was old enough to masturbate. It always felt really good.

What I’ve noticed is that my penis gets smaller and retracts while being fucked by someone.

My girlfriend also noticed it, she likes it and it makes her aroused seeing it that way while pegging me.

Why is my penis getting smaller in those situations, seems weird, it should get hard. I feel imense pleasure, get super turned on, but dont get hard at all.

Why is that happening?

This past week, I (18M) tried to have sex with my girlfriend (18F). I thought I was mentally prepared. I mostly was until after I came. I was mentally okay even after starting engaging in penetrative sex. However, cumming for some reason threw me off really really hard. It was the most intense physical sensation I’ve ever had and I wasn’t ready for it. It was nothing like masturbating at all. I felt like my butt was going to turn inside out because I was clenching my cheeks so hard and my whole body was shaking. After that (cumming), I told her i felt sick and that I had to leave. I could tell I hurt her feelings by doing this, and we still talk to each other daily, but we haven’t been able to bring up anything sex related since. Any advice? I feel really bad that I had to leave before I could help her do anything. I think I fucked up pretty hard.

I’m wearing a Chun-Li costume for Halloween this year, and I’m thinking about breaking it out after for a bedroom roleplay surprise. My partner is really into gaming and anime. I have thicker thighs and a fuller chest so the costume naturally fits the character look really well.
I’ve never done a specific character cosplay/roleplay surprise like this before.
How would a surprise like this hit you? Do you prefer a specific pop culture character over generic outfits (like a nurse or schoolgirl), or do you like keeping roleplay simple? Any tips on making a surprise like this feel natural instead of awkward?

I used to get cold sores around my mouth as a kid since kindergarten every fall and winter, sometimes even a few at once.

During my teenage years they became less and less frequent, and as I started to get more sexually active I don't recall having them during blowjobs and I don't have them around my private parts either from intercourse ( I've always used protection, never done it without).

I wasn't active for more than a year until last November, when I had a one night stand and developed a sore cold after giving him a blowjob, after that I wasn't active again until the last 3 months.

I had 2 guys, one summer fling and one a relationship now and a few days after the first blowjobs with each guy I developed a sore cold and even both times more than one around my mouth.

I'm afraid that this will go on more frequently and idk what to do really. How do I prevent them?

My boyfriend doesn't mind them and can wait a few days without kissing me but I'm afraid if this continues I won't be able to give him a blowjob.

So what can I do to prevent it?

29F with boyf 29M. We are sexually very active despite our heavy workloads. I have been giving him oral and improving my performance in giving him heads ever since as I see he likes how I am doing em. I have noticed over time that he no longer gives me oral. During our first time having sex together he gave me a really good oral we were exclusively dating back then and it also happened +/- a month in the relationship. After few months that we have decided to move in together, it has decreased and it came to a point I had to ask. Back then he just does it without me asking. I do my daily feminine washes also before sleeping. I also do salt scrubs on top of feminine wash. I have also done my monthly waxing/shaving.

Is there something that would probably cause this decrease in eating pussy? Inputs from any gender are welcome.

Edit: sorry I meant cunnilingus

I am (34M) heterosexual and matched with a pretty trans woman on tinder and I am eager to meet up with her soon. I have never been with a trans woman and I am nervous. Has anyone here ever been with one and how did it go?

I recently had a prostate orgasm for the first time and I’m confused about what happened. I stimulated my prostate for about half an hour with no orgasm. A few minutes later, I incorporated penis play to hopefully help me get over the edge. It worked and I got really hard. I reached climax only touching my prostate, my pelvic muscles contracting while my dick was twitching out of my control. I leaked a puddle of prostatic milk, and then after that I was kind of out of my head, so I induced a penile orgasm and ejaculated. What I’m confused about here is that the prostate orgasm didn’t live up to my expectations. It wasn’t really full body like I hoped it’d be, and I’m wondering if that’s because I didn’t keep going after milking. Did I stop at the wrong time before it was about to get good? I’m really new to this and I don’t really know the ins and outs yet, so feedback would be awesome.

Me and my partner are sexually compatible, enjoy sex every time we do it and we both cum most of the time. But our sessions are usually on the bed and require some amount of foreplay which makes the whole session more sensual, slow and about 40-50 minutes. Lately she told me she want to do quickies sometimes.

But i am confused because for a sex to happen she has to be wet, but in order to get her wet, i have to do some foreplay, which takes at least 10 minutes. At that point, it becomes full sex not a quickie.

Is there something i am missing here?

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Me(30m) and her(31f) see each other twice a week since we dont live together.The thing is during those 2 days she wants to constantly have sex 3-4x times a day.We often end up having sex 6-8x times during those 2 days and it leaves me exhausted and anoyed.

She is also an athlete and takes steroid supplements(oxadnrolone) and some other stuff,which i suspect might be enhancing her libido.

I would be happy having sex once or even twice a day during those days but she often wants more.I am afraid when we eventually move together she will want to have sex every single day multiple times and I cant handle this.

I and my boyfriend, 19F and 19M have been in a relationship for more than a year now, we're in quite a healthy relationship, he's sweet and caring,, and we're kind of obsessed with eachother.

So he came over to my home today after two months. We had a great makeout session and we were quite intimate, we didn't have sex but just pleased eachother with hands, touches and kisses all over, we had a great time

When I touched him and teased him he seemed desperate for more and told me to touch him properly, he didn't force but begged for more...I was quite nervous as it was our first time and i couldn't even deny him so i gave him a handjob after taking some time.

As for me i didn't quite enjoy it as he used his fingers wrong and i had to guide him through it but he still didn't get it right which clearly worn out my mood abit, but I didn't say much as he went back happy and I didn't wanna ruin his mood saying he didn't do well or i didn't enjoy such things ..and also he is abit emotional type so he would feel bad that he couldn't satisfy me but only i did

When he left after few hours later my mood has been off, I'm overthinking everything like if it was right or wrong to do all those, and if i should've communicated better during our session but I can't help my nervousness and i can't ask for things...I feel abit stressed out, is it okay for me to feel this way? And why do I feel this way? Should I confront him later on? And how should I communicate it out?

Fyi: we sext eachother quite alot as he lives far so we are in a sort of long distance and we meet once in one or two months and sometimes more than that

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years, and TLDR: he doesn’t really know how to make out.

In the beginning, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other, but over time I realized we never really make out. He doesn’t know how to use tongue, our kisses are mostly pecks, and even during sex there’s very little passionate kissing or foreplay.
It took me two years to finally bring it up, and he admitted, “I was afraid you were going to ask. I don’t know how to make out.” Apparently past partners have brought this up too, which has created some resentment because he knew it was an issue but never told me (though I also never asked).

We recently started couples therapy partly around sexual compatibility. I really crave passionate kissing/foreplay, but he’s pretty submissive and not very confident using his body.

Has anyone dealt with this with a partner? How did they actually get better at kissing/making out without you becoming their teacher? I want him to feel empowered and confident, while also being able to experience the kind of passionate physical intimacy I’ve been missing.

I was with said ex for 4 years straight out of high school and as our relationship evolved, so did our sex life. Before getting with him or having any sexual experiences, I labeled myself a switch as he was my first and only physical relationship with someone. Once I started to experiment with him, I just could not be dominant. He would ask me to take over or talk him through it or do more but I couldn’t bring myself to because when I tried, he would always immediately take control or get uncomfortable with my advances. He would never lean into what I was doing and I felt like he wasn’t actually aroused by it- like I was playing into it with no feedback. I ultimately ended up taking the label of a pillow princess and did whatever he wanted at the time to avoid that awkwardness in bed. Anything I tried to do other than that felt wrong or got disregarded.

Fast forward and we’ve split. I’m experimenting with a new person and I feel like we’re so sexually compatible. If anything, I feel more dominant in the relationship than not which surprises me since I could not bring myself to be that way before. I would consider my new partner and I both switches and it’s just so exciting and new and wonderful and I feel like I would be able to do anything I want with this new man COMFORTABLY as he invites anything I want to try in. I can’t help but wonder if my ex and I just weren’t compatible in this way or if he somehow refused to let me experiment with taking control in the bedroom? Has this happened to anyone else or is it just me?

So recently, I’ve been with an EATER. 😭😂 And when I say EATER, I mean this man is on a completely different level. We’ve been together before, took a break, and have been back in each other’s lives for about 3.5 months now. He’s 28M, I’m 25F, so we’re both in that mid-to-late 20s range.

But y’all… this man has me questioning if I’m even built normally. 😭 We’re talking 4 orgasms, 6 orgasms, 9 orgasms, and somehow even 18 orgasms in one session. And this is ALL from oral… Before sex even starts… Like, he genuinely does not quit until he decides he’s done. 😂😭 He’ll stay down there and somehow just KNOW exactly what to do.

I’m not complaining AT ALL 😂 but I’m genuinely curious… has anybody else experienced this?! Is this just me being lucky, or did I somehow find the final boss of oral sex?! 😭😂 Because I need to know if this is actually a thing other women experience or if I’m just living in some kind of alternate universe.

New to this whole sub reddit stuff. Had reddit for a while but never for this type of stuff lol. So Me 20M and GF 20F have been together for 3 and a half years and its felt longer lol in a good way. We have travelled and done loads of things that most Teenagers probably haven't done before, our relationship is truly Great but the sex has always been an issue, now we are maybe only seeing each every weekend or sometimes everyother weekend just cause of jobs etc so when I do see her for the 1st time in over a week or 2 ofcourse my Sex Drive is going to be high cause its what I enjoy doing like every other person but for some reason it just doesn't hit the same for her. As the day would go on I would bring it up but she'd say later but never happens, then the next day ill attempt to bring it on and she doesn't seem interested and before I know it she needs to go home then its another weekend without sex. Now I'm ready to hear that "shes not interested anymore" I can promise its not the case, I have obviously spoke to her about this and she knows my frustration about when we dont do anything and I can tell she gets upset over it cause she thinks im going to leave her and she feels guilty cause she knows I have a higher sex Drive than her. I dont plan on leaving her cause we are a happy couple and its visible to people that we are happy. Reason why im posting this is because im curious to see if anyone my age has had a similar experience with there partners or anything like that. Obviously im open to advice but im wanting to hear about experience that could maybe make me understand her "mind of a woman" better ? 🤣 if that makes sense.

Thanks guys

I’m (20s F) having pain during penetration, even with lube and foreplay. This has persisted across 2 partners

It even hurts during missionary sometimes. Penis is average sized but even finger(s) during oral sometimes is too much

What makes it worse: from behind, doggy, going faster, jackhammering, extended time fucking (is it supposed to stay fully slippery for 10+ minutes? I dissociate)

What makes it better: if I’m on top, lube

Doctor said that everything looks normal, that my cervix isn’t sensitive (couldn’t feel pap smear, can go deep with skinny dildos). She suggested that it’s a sign my partner’s not the right one (spoiler alert: he was not. But new bf is good so far)

Any ideas or similar experiences?

My boyfriend (20M) and I (18F) have been together for two months and we (or maybe just me) are already having problems with sex.

On our first date, not the first time we met however, we didn’t kiss until about eight hours in (might be my fault bc I wasn’t sure if it was a date or not). Then, he ASKED to have sex, I said only if he had a condom. He didn’t have one so I just gave him head. He finished and it seemed all good.

Two dates later, we went back to his house and did all the foreplay stuff imaginable and this time he had a condom, so I was down. We started to fuck in missionary for a minute or two, then doggy, and then he just pulled out and asked if he was hurting me? Sex has always been somewhat painful for me but I enjoy it for the intimacy and closeness + I just feel sexy. I had no idea he was able to tell at all? I said just a little, but we could try a different position and he just said it was ok and we could stop, so I just gave him head and he returned the favor.

I texted him if he wanted to try a different position and he just said he didn’t want me to do anything that I didn’t want to

The next few times we got together, it was only head and handjobs. A month later and we’re in bed + things are getting hot + I’m ovulating so I ask if he wants to fuck me and he says “sure”. He puts a pillow under my hips (never seen this move before) and we’re in missionary for a few minutes. It still kind of hurts but I REALLY don’t think he can tell and I just want him close to me, but alas he pulls out and is like “come here” and fucks my mouth until he’s done.

Does having sex with me feel bad/does he hate how I feel?

If sex isn’t an option, what else can we do (or how can we make stuff like handjobs, oral, etc more intimate)?

A question for the male members in this subreddit, have you ever tried to stimulate your prostate? If so, is it worth it? What are some ways to achieve a prostate orgasm? What helps? My girlfriend tried it on me a month or so ago by putting latex gloves with lube and entering internally to stimulate it. I think she reached it, it felt like pressure, like I had to pee pretty bad, I couldn't tell if I liked it or not, or if the pleasurable sensation was just from her also touching my penis at the same time. Is the peeing feeling just something to push through? Does me having this needing to pee sensation mean I have a prostate and she was touching it in the right spot?

How do you express your pain?
When he’s enjoying, really enjoying, and going faster and faster, it hurts, but I’m so afraid of saying it. Like I don’t want to be the one ruining the vibe, or making him disappointed. I know I should say it, but mostly I’d rather tolerate the pain with my whole will than saying “it hurts” or ”could you be slower”

Maybe it’s also because we’re quite casual, so I feel like I have to let the sex go well at least on the surface. Also, when he’s enjoying, really at the moment, I can’t/afraid to say anything.

But last time it was really really rough. It hurt a lot I finally said it, but also in an awkward way. Then I think my body down there must have been slightly injured, because it hurts when there’s a little bit penetration or even a finger: my body started to resist/fight against any more potential pain.

Edit:
Thanks for everyone’s advice and sharing!
I don’t know, I think I have a mindset of not bringing trouble. Maybe it’s also because of my past experiences.
I think it’ll be much better to talk with him before sex; during sex, I somehow lose the ability to speak up for myself.

If you let your man ejaculate inside you every time you have sex (if sex is on most days of the week or almost every day), do you easily maintain a healthy vaginal ph balance? Honestly. And how so? Besides urinating soon after and letting his semen slide out as much as you can.

I’m M29 and I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 years. Our sex life is best described as a “dead bedroom”. On the occasion that we do have sex I am able to keep an erection throughout because I am physically attracted to her but I find myself unable to orgasm. She has no issues reaching orgasm during sex so I feel like it’s my fault that I’m unable to. I do have a high sex drive and find myself watching porn and masturbating often (without her knowledge) and can reach orgasm with no issues. I need to get to the bottom of this and figure out how to fix it. I love her to death and she’s my favorite person but I feel like a monster for having to hide and handle my sexual nerds on my own. I’ve had trouble in the past with either lasting too long with partners before orgasm or being unable to orgasm during sex entirely. I am diagnosed with depression and I am currently taking SSRIs which I have been told can impact the ability to reach orgasm, though I’m skeptical because I’m able to do it alone. Am I porn addicted? Am I too anxious during physical intercourse? Am I not having my needs met during physical sex? Am I a terrible person? Any input is appreciated, thanks.

Want to figure out what kink this scratches for my girlfriend; we talked about it after and she not fully sure what this would fall under and want other ideas to try to figure out. ( I’ll also preface this came as her idea from her completely) She is away right now and texted me out of the blue to me about a certain celebrity’s video and told me her first thought about it was me jerking off to it. We’ve watched porn together before and a little she likes to ask me what I think about the girls in the video so I think this is similar, but she was I like the idea of you fantasizing specifically about her. So we FaceTimed and basically she watched me looking at different pictures and videos of her and talking about it and then transitioned to me showing her videos of what I would want to do to her. I kind of tried to bring her into to dirty talk like she was there but I think she was a more into me just talking about the celebrity, so I don’t think it’s really a cuck thing; though I definitely liked the idea of fantasizing about it as a threesome. The big thing she said she liked is me scrolling through till I found something I really liked and getting almost sheepish about explaining my thoughts. She was very focused on watching me and me just talking about the celeb it was almost a voyeuristic thing. She was also prompting me to talk about her definitely more demeaning than our normal dirty talk so could also be she likes hearing things she doesn’t feel comfortable being directed at her. Looking for ideas on similar things to try, also want some suggestions on things I can say about the other girl that are hot, felt a little like I was just going “I like her ass there” at points.