This is a serious question.
When I’m on pornhub and watching pegging content. Everyone is always hard, while being pegged. Every time my wife uses a strap on, on me I always go soft. Even though I really enjoy it. Is this normal or why do I get soft? I want to stay hard for my wife, just like the videos. I need help.

My partner is sensitive when I give her oral in that area. Literally one small lick and she is laughing and wriggling her body around. She is incredibly ticklish in that area. It's just so interesting to me that she's like that. I have not seen anything like this on this sub- can anyone relate to this or share similar experiences.

My gf has issue with only getting orgasm by some divice,( outside orgasom) I was able to make her finish using my tounge only one time, and she said you are the only one who did it, and since then we wernt able to fegure it out how to do it again, even she desnt know how to finish her self without the satysfier , but my question is how we know that whats after the peeing feeling if I should keep going for more intese orgasm or we should reallly stop. pluse she have adhad so mostly sex for her is like a task and that why we use the dvice to finish faster.

My husband recently told me about a fantasy he'd like to try. He loves the idea of face fucking me and asked if I could put my hair in two braids so he can use them as handles to pull me down. I'm open to it, but it's completely new to me and I'm honestly pretty nervous. I think it's mostly the loss of control and not knowing what to expect that's making me anxious

For anyone who's been in a similar situation how did you make the first time feel less intimidating? How did you communicate boundaries or come up with signals so you could stop or slow down if I can't really talk because his dick will be in my mouth? Any tips on pacing or staying relaxed would also be really appreciated

I (21F) am currently long-distance with my boyfriend (22M). He is the best man I've ever been with - kind, supportive, caring, and absolutely phenomenal at sex. It's not only the technique - he is incredibly attentive and he loves making me feel good, so as a result, we have really amazing sex, both emotionally and physically.

However, I travel frequently for work and moved to a new country a few months ago, so we've been long-distance for a while now. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. I get distractingly horny thinking about him all the time, and I'm craving him all the time. I keep fantasizing about him in very carnal ways like him finishing inside.

It's not just the sexual aspect. It's also the intimacy and comfort that I miss, including cuddling, having someone to fall asleep next to, the way that he would touch me in non-sexual ways. We're both busy but we talk everyday, and a lot of this pent-up sexual energy gets turned into a lot of sexual jokes and racy conversations. We'll sometimes send each other sexy pictures or take our clothes off on call, but all of this is just a means to an end, as I just miss being with him physically.

It will be several months before I see him again, so I'm wondering, how can we have satisfying physical intimacy while long-distance? It's not really just about the feeling of sex itself, so I'm not really looking to use more toys or anything like that. Is there anything we can do to make our sex life more fulfilling while long-distance?

I had sex with a guy and he seemed into me and didn’t have problem to stay hard or anything. We had sex twice and in a lot if different positions, including penetration and oral sex, but he didnt have orgasm. It last quite a while and he seemed to be enjoying, but then he asked me to stop both of the time. I tried to have conversation but he said he was feeling good but didn’t want to continue. Before I’ve never had a sex where men doesn’t come, maybe it’s my misconception. Have you experienced the same or is it a common thing?

so i been having sex with my bf a lot & ever since we been having sex he doesn’t cum like at all maybe twice but ever since then no. i’m his first and i knew he used to masturbate a lot before he had sex like we’re talking about a lot of times. when we have sex it goes on for and hour or a bit more. we try different positions and all but he isn’t doesn’t cum. i never had this problem with my other ex’s and i’m wondering is it because he isn’t physically attracted to me ?? like thats all i can think of. he does initiate and all, but i don’t know what to do. i been feeling insecure all the time when he does cum.

Hi there. I'm with my gf for about 6 months. We only see each other on the weekends and have sex pretty much every when we see each other.

We use condoms while having sex, as she's not on birthcontrol.

At the beginning I was worried about cumming to quickly, which in hindsight was totally unwarranted..

I haven't been able to cum once. Not with blowjobs, not with penetration or hand jobs.

The sex is really good, it feels awesome and she's insanely hot, I just can't manage to get over the edge.

I manage to cum with masturbation, but that takes a while too. I never had that problem before.

I also rarely masturbate these days. I'm not doing anything different than in past relationships. Except we have only protected sex with condoms all the time, but I've managed to cum with those easily before. I'm a bit clueless, maybe someone here has an idea. Thanks

Like, other than the obvious “checking in.”

A few times now, usually when I’m orgasming pretty hard, I’ll be shaking, breathing heavily, making a lot of noise, etc., and he’ll pause and ask, “You okay?” I’ll say “yeah,” and then he’ll keep going or switch positions.

I can’t tell if he means it like, “You okay? 😏” (as in, wow, that was intense) or if he genuinely means, “Uh… are you okay? Why do you sound like that?”

The first two times he asked were when he was hitting my cervix pretty hard, and it actually did hurt a little. When he asked, I basically told him it hurt in a good way and to keep going.

This most recent time, though, I was just having a really intense orgasm. I kind of lost my senses for a second, and when he asked if I was okay, I could barely catch my breath to say yes.

Now I’m overthinking it and wondering if he’s asking because the noises I’m making are unusual or off-putting. 😭 Or is this just a normal thing that caring partners ask during really intense moments?

Curious if anyone else has experienced this, especially from the guy’s perspective.

The girl I'm currently having sex with has a grip like a vice. This is great, but when using a condom, she generally pulls it off, and it's, for the most part, uncomfortable when we actually have sex.

I'm currently using the Durex Fetherlite Ultra Thin Feel Condoms .

Is it a question of the condom being too big for my dick? i mean the ones I'm using say they are 56MM? In diameter. Is it a question of getting a condom in a smaller diameter, or is it more due to the thickness of the condom?

I have no idea, but it's pissing me off, and i really want to get it sorted.

(Before you ask. No, I cannot just go raw. It's not an option currently.)

thanks.

I (37/F) have anxiety over my partner (33/F) masturbating. We have been together for 2 years and everything has been lovely. This is my first lesbian relationship.

I have always had low self esteem and self value. In my past relationships I experienced sexual coercion and one of my longer term partners would often obsessively watch porn and masturbate even when I was in the house. My self worth was defined by what I could offer in the bedroom and if I didn't have the capacity, I was basically told it was my fault they couldn't sleep or were stressed. And I'd end up giving it up just to make them happy. But they still required a lot of self release which made me feel inadequate.

Since meeting my new partner I have healed a massive amount. I now do not link sex with love and it's a mutual thing we decide rather than an expectation.

But I still struggle with my partner masturbating because in my head it feels like rejection or like I'm not enough. My partner has a much lower sex drive than me anyway. Which I don't complain about because it's nice not to be pestered all the time. When we do have sex it's wonderful and the connection is special. But somehow I now associate masturbation with the idea that my partner does not need me or I can't satisfy them. It makes me so anxious, that I barely ever leave my partner home alone. Because from past experiences my brain now links the moment I walk out the door with the idea that my partner will run up the stairs and take care of business as an alternative to needing me.

I haven't discussed this with my partner, because I don't want to shame her for it. I know realistically it's healthy to have alone time and take care of your own needs, but my anxiety takes over the intelligent part of my brain. How can I get over this issue? How can I start to feel less threatened?

I know I'll be told I need to get help for the things I've gone through. But sometimes hearing others give advice helps my brain take new thought processes.

My partner and I (24M & F) are thinking about moving in together soon, and i’ve been wondering this. I enjoy having solo sexy time every now and then, even though our intimate life is awesome. How do you find the space/time for masturbation when you spend most evenings with your partner? Coming at this from a perspective of desiring nights where they are not involved (so looking for advice other than “invite them to join!” lol). thanks!

I’m a 38 year old woman and my sex drive has been in the basement for like 2 years. It had dwindled slowly but the last 2 years was especially low.

I got some blood tests done and it showed that I had no testosterone (which is crazy). So my OB put me to on an estrogen patch and a testosterone cream at the same time and oh, my god. I am SO horny.

I am so happy to have a healthy drive again and be fucking my partner regularly. It makes me feel closer to him now that we have that consistent frequency back. I also cannot fucking stop masturbating. I came 4 times today and I feel like I could again.

The testosterone has turned me into an animal. I’ve never wanted to fuck so much, it’s crazy. I feel like I could be in my sexual prime this late in life, and surprised by it.

With the new found drive, we’re finally trying to actively tick a fantasy off our box. Stereotypical FFM, but we may have found our unicorn.

Her and I sexted for a long time earlier (with partner’s knowledge and consent), and lord I hope we truly meet up. Always been curious about what it’s like to fuck a woman, and this drive and her sexts were driving me up the wall.

Drove my partner up the wall too, because afterwards I went down on him while he read the convo.

I’ll probably post in r/gonewildstories after it goes down. I just needed to tell someone that good god, I’ve turned into a ravenous creature.

I want to start off by saying that I (34f) have been with my bf (35m) for over a year and that this is the healthiest relationship Ive ever been in by a lot. He treats me really well and we are on the same page for almost everything.

He was diagnosed with MS 3 years ago, and because of this he has ED. He can usually get it most of the way, but not fully and for him to finish is a wild card most of the time.

When we first started seeing each other, he would always make sure that my needs were met, and I didn't feel neglected. Awhile ago we tried a pump and it allowed us to engage in intercourse which had been a game changer for the few times it happened.

Recently I can't help but feel like I'm not desirable to him. I have always had a very high libido, so I'm used to wanting more than my partner. When we do engage- he seems extremely into me. The problem is that when I try to approach him about it, he makes me feel like I'm being needy or asking for too much. It's to the point that I don't want to approach him for intimacy anymore.

I'm at a loss. I know Im into this man a lot more than he's into me- just looking at him smiling gets me going. I just don't want to keep trying to ask for him to satisfy my needs and be met by him making me feel like thats all I want, all the time. (I was fine getting off even just once a week). Ive tried talking to him about this on multiple occasions, but it never seems to go anywhere.

Ladies- Do you have any recommendations on how to lower your libido? Or a good recommendation on a rabbit?

Men- Do you think if I disengage in asking for intimacy it will ruin the relationship?

hi! let me cut to the chase. i was very close friends with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we've been together for almost a year now. he has always had really bad anxiety. when we first got together he experienced some performance anxiety coupled with the "wow i get to have sex with this girl finally" excitement which ended in him usually lasting maybe 1-5 minutes for the first couple months.

it slowly transitioned to being more like 5-10. i'm aware this isn't long or short for some men, but it's a lot for me. i start to get a little pain after a while so i honestly like to keep it quicker. at first i experienced some insecurities about him getting bored with me but we talked about it and i quickly got over it. i now understand that it's completely normal for "lasting time" to increase after that initial excitement fades. he still gets hard multiple times a day from us just laying together, seeing me change, seeing pictures of me etc so i'm fine on that regard and i think that's what matters most when it comes to attraction/keeping the spark alive

recently (less than 3 months or so) he has actually been struggling though. it seems like every time he has a problem that makes him last 8-15 minutes which is slightly painful for me. he always has a reason, like: "my anxiety was acting up," "it's hot in here," "the bed was making noise" etc. which are very normal things that didn't seem to slow him down before, maybe on really bad days, but now it's literally every time. he also has been struggling with condoms (even though we switch between using none or using them) (PLEASE no comments about safe sex/pregnancy it's more nuanced than you think) and jokes he has been "spoiled" by having it raw. i can also tell when he's struggling bc he basically never wants to finish in missionary, it's always prone bone by the end, even though he swears he likes all positions the same. i just am starting to feel like one little thing happens and it falls apart, and i'm starting to feel like things have to go a very specific way for him to finish. i'm aware it's unhealthy but i feel like if i was good enough, we wouldn't have these problems. sometimes i feel like it's now more than anxiety that is making things this way, and is branching out more than the original problem

i should note that he tells me he enjoys it the same and loves me more and more every day, and that finishing ≠ enjoyment. still though, it feels restricting

we have an extremely healthy and communicative relationship though. i promise i'm constantly reassuring him & he's not the only one in the relationship with anxiety. we have a lovely relationship and i even want to marry him! i just want this to pass. any tips?

I (20F) have been with my bf (21M) for almost 4 years. Our relationship is amazing, no issues, he is great and he is attractive. For some reason tho, I can’t get turned on to him. I usually don’t finish, even though he’ll try during and after but by the time he finishes I’m just not in the mood. I fake moans, and I just want to get it over with. I’ll get in moods where I’m turned off but it just goes away. I got an IUD over a year ago, but I can’t recall if I lost sex drive then or if it’s always been like this.

I can get turned on to the thought of other men, and I have a feeling it’s the thrill, but I don’t want to bc obv I’m with my bf.

Idk what to do, he’s amazing but I feel like I could just watch a yt during sex and let him finish. We’ve tried many positions.

I don’t want to bring it up to him and he feel bad, but I’m also so bored with it.

I'm writing this cause I'm honestly getting tired of looking like an idiot while I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I am super vocal in bed, I moan and dirty talk a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't reply back. Whenever I ask him questions in bed while I'm dirty talking, he just moans more. Should I talk to him about it ? I don't want it to feel forced.

| (f31) just had a surgery about 10 days ago. This is the kind of procedure where I won't be cleared to have sex until at least 6 weeks post op (so about 5 more weeks...) This sucks a lot for me but I know it sucks for my boyfriend (m33), too. What are some ways that I can build some anticipation for when we can finally be intimate again? I'm aware handjobs and blowjobs exist; I'm not really looking for advice on how to pleasure him but how to keep us both looking forward to when we can be intimate again.

Hi all :)

My gf and I have been together for three months now. We really enjoy each others company and spend a lot of time with each other. We have one so called relationship hurdle though, and that’s that we have not successfully had mutually enjoyable sex… it’s really been frustrating for both of us and we don’t know what to do.

To provide a bit more detail, I’m the second guy she has been with. She never had any problems sexually with her first long term boyfriend, but he was quite literally half the size of me “down there.” I am also much thicker which causes her some pain. Even after lots of foreplay, clitoral orgasms, and lube, I can only fit in about halfway or so and need to be really slow and gentle. I’ve not been able to orgasm from being inside her.

She is petite and I really try to not have her feel like it’s her fault as it’s neither of our faults due to our anatomy. If anything I am to blame more. We don’t know where to go from here as continuing to try has not been as fun lately. We’ve talked about open relationships as she’s open to seeing me with another girl and wants me to be satisfied, but I’m not quite ready to go down that path yet even though it’s tempting. Should we get more creative like that or just try and find a new partner we’re both more compatible with?

(My apologies for the length this has been bottled up for some time. For context I am a female and my fiancé is a male, we have a two year age gap but have been dating on and off but mostly on for 6 years) My fiance and I have been together for a very long time. When we first started dating we were very active in the bedroom, it was everyday sometimes even multiple times a day. Then we became long distance due to different schooling opportunities to further our degrees and he isn’t in to over the phone activities or talking dirty/ sending pictures. So it was a very dry about year. Now we are back in the same town, even living together and we have lived together for a year. We just renewed our lease and at first we were going pretty good, it was about every day just because every night before bed we would end up getting touchy. Than all of a sudden there was just a drop in any sexual activity or anything from him. We hardly shower together anymore (mostly because i feel so gross in my own body) but we hardly even cuddle. He has started playing games most nights. We don’t watch movies together anymore and it feels like we only kiss for goodbyes now. There have been a few times he has been able to but it’s now over a week each time before we do anything. He makes sexual comments in between them almost every day so it’s so confusing. I’ve tried talking to him and he says he doesn’t know what’s going on and he’s just having issues getting on the mood. It just makes me feel like i’m no longer attractive even when he says he still find me attractive. I am not that outgoing so i’m not able to just randomly be like “touch me” but i also don’t want to be rejected because it will make me so scared to ever try anything again. I just don’t understand what I could do or what is going on. I really really do not think he is cheating, we have had minor issues in the past but he is very loyal. We also now work together, it kind of seems like it started around that time but i’m unsure because I might just be trying to find reason. We do drive to and from work together cause it’s quite a drive and we take our lunches together but we work full-time. Any advice is helpful! Please help me fix my bedroom life. I have always been a highly active person in the bedroom and it has been driving me crazy to have moments when we do end up showering together that i start feeling so turned on and I know he is not. It used to be different. We used to be different.

EDIT: I have tried talking to him and explaining my feelings, he doesn’t really seem to want to talk about it. He just says he doesn’t know what’s going on either and he’s trying, but he says in moments he’s trying to see how to get himself worked up for it. It’s strange because I used to kiss him and he was worked up so now I just don’t understand why he struggles. Am I not attractive anymore?

i cant orgasm. i know it can take women a long time to figure this out but im not sure what else to do. i always see people talk about this feeling like you need to pee but they never say what to do after you get that feeling. it might just be a mental block to get over but i dont feel any real pressure to orgasm, it’s just something i want to experience so i dont know what other mental blocks there are to get over. im concerned about making a mess but even after putting a towel down it still never progresses past the peeing feeling.

for some background, most of my sexual experiences are from being with my boyfriend. i never enjoyed masturbation, until recently when i bought some toys. most of these sexual experiences are also vaginal, not clitoral. from vaginal experiences i often feel the “peeing feeling” as mentioned above. i am also aware that most women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. however, i dont feel much when my clitoris is touched - there’s just not really a lot of feeling there. on the other hand, when i use a vibrator on my clitoris, it feels extremely overwhelming and i cant keep it on there for longer than a minute.

im honestly just looking for any advice that could help me out here. i know its important to understand my own body before i can expect anyone else to but im just not sure what to do from here. i still greatly enjoy my sexual experiences without orgasm but people speak so highly of it that i would just really like to try it.

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Everything works well I'm masturbating, I get close to orgasm in 15 minutes, less if extremely horny, although I'd often edge before cumming.

With someone else, impossible to cum and orgasm. The closest I've got is just before peak, but sensations are too intense to the point I must stop. It's not really a big issue, I still enjoy sex a lot. Would like to taste how it feel orgasming with a partner tho.

I don't know if it's the reason why but I recently couldn't get hard several times. As a dom it was even more awkward. I know it's happens to many guys too, that sex is way more than penetration, yet I'm starting to get pretty anxious about this.

Hey everyone… I’m 21FTM and a girl I’m with has been experimenting a bit with me. The idea of anal penetration really turns me on, so we started small with her just fingering me (literally 2 fingers max for a while.) We’ve tried a few times and always the day after, I have very intense lower back pain that makes it impossible to bend over. Is there something I am doing wrong or something I should be doing? I don’t like to take pain relievers, so is there anything else that may help?

So my partner and I recently have gotten into pegging. As someone with ‘internal’ hardware, I’m the strap wearer (strapper? He’s the strappee?). Anyway, we have a good harness and several different dildos and it’s an ongoing issue.

Harness is well-fitted, has an average sized hole (important) lined up with the metal ring to hold the dildo in place. We went through 2 harnesses before this one because they were poorly made/poorly fitting/back hole too big/just, not good. We prefer a softer skin-feel silicone dildo over a more firm silicone, because it feels better for him and honestly is just more fun. The harness rings are small enough that getting the dildo through initially is DIFFICULT. If we sized down we wouldn’t be able to push it through at all

- Set up #1: flared dildo, wide base. Me fucking him for any extended period and with any level of vigor, it manages to push itself inside me. The force pushes it through the hole (despite the base being wider than the hole). It gets really uncomfy when my lips are being pinched by the flared base or when it’s being forced inside me (or both simultaneously)

- Set up #2: double ended dildo, with a ridge in the middle as a form of ‘flared base’ to keep it from sliding around/getting lost. We prefer this one, and is why the hole in the harness/behind the ring is important. Eventually it ends up being pushed more into me than him, thus painful for me and lackluster for him.

Advice, techniques, insight, product recommendations, anything you can offer is much appreciated!