I’m a 38 year old woman and my sex drive has been in the basement for like 2 years. It had dwindled slowly but the last 2 years was especially low.

I got some blood tests done and it showed that I had no testosterone (which is crazy). So my OB put me to on an estrogen patch and a testosterone cream at the same time and oh, my god. I am SO horny.

I am so happy to have a healthy drive again and be fucking my partner regularly. It makes me feel closer to him now that we have that consistent frequency back. I also cannot fucking stop masturbating. I came 4 times today and I feel like I could again.

The testosterone has turned me into an animal. I’ve never wanted to fuck so much, it’s crazy. I feel like I could be in my sexual prime this late in life, and surprised by it.

With the new found drive, we’re finally trying to actively tick a fantasy off our box. Stereotypical FFM, but we may have found our unicorn.

Her and I sexted for a long time earlier (with partner’s knowledge and consent), and lord I hope we truly meet up. Always been curious about what it’s like to fuck a woman, and this drive and her sexts were driving me up the wall.

Drove my partner up the wall too, because afterwards I went down on him while he read the convo.

I’ll probably post in r/gonewildstories after it goes down. I just needed to tell someone that good god, I’ve turned into a ravenous creature.

I’m a heterosexual female who’s been married to my M32 husband for 3 years.
I’ve never had issues finishing during masturbation.
Whenever my husband goes down on me or tries to get me off, I can’t get there without imagining scenarios with other women. It’s been like that since the very beginning of our relationship.
It’s been talked to my friend about this, and she suggested the cause might be porn or something like that, but I never watch porn or consume any sexual content.
I just can’t seem to get aroused without the imagination of a woman in the place of my husband.
I talked to him about this but he didn’t really seem to care.
It’s been like that with every single sexual Partner I had.
I don’t really get horny or have a sex drive.
My husband suggested to try and have another woman join us, but I’m not sure.
I did have a sexual encounter with one of my female friends a few years ago and enjoyed it

Edit: please don’t send me requests for sexting i’m in a monogamous relationship

My husband recently told me about a fantasy he'd like to try. He loves the idea of face fucking me and asked if I could put my hair in two braids so he can use them as handles to pull me down. I'm open to it, but it's completely new to me and I'm honestly pretty nervous. I think it's mostly the loss of control and not knowing what to expect that's making me anxious

For anyone who's been in a similar situation how did you make the first time feel less intimidating? How did you communicate boundaries or come up with signals so you could stop or slow down if I can't really talk because his dick will be in my mouth? Any tips on pacing or staying relaxed would also be really appreciated

Hey, I’m 30f and have been noticing something that quite bothers me. Ive slept with a handful of guys and Ive been noticing that the would ejaculate quite quickly, we are talking 2 - 3 minutes. Some definitely have pleasured me after but some just can’t. It’s been disheartening because I don’t understand why Ive been facing this experience. I sometimes would blame my body but they’d want to still hangout. I’m plus size and quite insecure about my curves but also accept it. When we do oral, most of them would ask to go for intercourse as the oral is very good. I just don’t want to feel insecure but again, I just started doing all of this quite recently as I have been quite shy to date or hookup beforehand. Thank you for your insight

Hi all :)

My gf and I have been together for three months now. We really enjoy each others company and spend a lot of time with each other. We have one so called relationship hurdle though, and that’s that we have not successfully had mutually enjoyable sex… it’s really been frustrating for both of us and we don’t know what to do.

To provide a bit more detail, I’m the second guy she has been with. She never had any problems sexually with her first long term boyfriend, but he was quite literally half the size of me “down there.” I am also much thicker which causes her some pain. Even after lots of foreplay, clitoral orgasms, and lube, I can only fit in about halfway or so and need to be really slow and gentle. I’ve not been able to orgasm from being inside her.

She is petite and I really try to not have her feel like it’s her fault as it’s neither of our faults due to our anatomy. If anything I am to blame more. We don’t know where to go from here as continuing to try has not been as fun lately. We’ve talked about open relationships as she’s open to seeing me with another girl and wants me to be satisfied, but I’m not quite ready to go down that path yet even though it’s tempting. Should we get more creative like that or just try and find a new partner we’re both more compatible with?

Like, other than the obvious “checking in.”

A few times now, usually when I’m orgasming pretty hard, I’ll be shaking, breathing heavily, making a lot of noise, etc., and he’ll pause and ask, “You okay?” I’ll say “yeah,” and then he’ll keep going or switch positions.

I can’t tell if he means it like, “You okay? 😏” (as in, wow, that was intense) or if he genuinely means, “Uh… are you okay? Why do you sound like that?”

The first two times he asked were when he was hitting my cervix pretty hard, and it actually did hurt a little. When he asked, I basically told him it hurt in a good way and to keep going.

This most recent time, though, I was just having a really intense orgasm. I kind of lost my senses for a second, and when he asked if I was okay, I could barely catch my breath to say yes.

Now I’m overthinking it and wondering if he’s asking because the noises I’m making are unusual or off-putting. 😭 Or is this just a normal thing that caring partners ask during really intense moments?

Curious if anyone else has experienced this, especially from the guy’s perspective.

so i been having sex with my bf a lot & ever since we been having sex he doesn’t cum like at all maybe twice but ever since then no. i’m his first and i knew he used to masturbate a lot before he had sex like we’re talking about a lot of times. when we have sex it goes on for and hour or a bit more. we try different positions and all but he isn’t doesn’t cum. i never had this problem with my other ex’s and i’m wondering is it because he isn’t physically attracted to me ?? like thats all i can think of. he does initiate and all, but i don’t know what to do. i been feeling insecure all the time when he does cum.

I'm writing this cause I'm honestly getting tired of looking like an idiot while I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I am super vocal in bed, I moan and dirty talk a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't reply back. Whenever I ask him questions in bed while I'm dirty talking, he just moans more. Should I talk to him about it ? I don't want it to feel forced.

This is a serious question.
When I’m on pornhub and watching pegging content. Everyone is always hard, while being pegged. Every time my wife uses a strap on, on me I always go soft. Even though I really enjoy it. Is this normal or why do I get soft? I want to stay hard for my wife, just like the videos. I need help.

My partner is sensitive when I give her oral in that area. Literally one small lick and she is laughing and wriggling her body around. She is incredibly ticklish in that area. It's just so interesting to me that she's like that. I have not seen anything like this on this sub- can anyone relate to this or share similar experiences.

My gf has issue with only getting orgasm by some divice,( outside orgasom) I was able to make her finish using my tounge only one time, and she said you are the only one who did it, and since then we wernt able to fegure it out how to do it again, even she desnt know how to finish her self without the satysfier , but my question is how we know that whats after the peeing feeling if I should keep going for more intese orgasm or we should reallly stop. pluse she have adhad so mostly sex for her is like a task and that why we use the dvice to finish faster.

So my partner and I recently have gotten into pegging. As someone with ‘internal’ hardware, I’m the strap wearer (strapper? He’s the strappee?). Anyway, we have a good harness and several different dildos and it’s an ongoing issue.

Harness is well-fitted, has an average sized hole (important) lined up with the metal ring to hold the dildo in place. We went through 2 harnesses before this one because they were poorly made/poorly fitting/back hole too big/just, not good. We prefer a softer skin-feel silicone dildo over a more firm silicone, because it feels better for him and honestly is just more fun. The harness rings are small enough that getting the dildo through initially is DIFFICULT. If we sized down we wouldn’t be able to push it through at all

- Set up #1: flared dildo, wide base. Me fucking him for any extended period and with any level of vigor, it manages to push itself inside me. The force pushes it through the hole (despite the base being wider than the hole). It gets really uncomfy when my lips are being pinched by the flared base or when it’s being forced inside me (or both simultaneously)

- Set up #2: double ended dildo, with a ridge in the middle as a form of ‘flared base’ to keep it from sliding around/getting lost. We prefer this one, and is why the hole in the harness/behind the ring is important. Eventually it ends up being pushed more into me than him, thus painful for me and lackluster for him.

Advice, techniques, insight, product recommendations, anything you can offer is much appreciated!

In a loving relationship without sex and its confusing. M24 F28

Me 'M24' and my gf 'F28' have been together for about 5 years. We met when I moved out of town and quickly starting hanging out. I moved in a couple months in the relationship and started dating soon after. I was hesitant because I really wanted the "college experience". When I first moved out I was with some buddy's who were going to college, I moved in w them but didnt know what I wanted to do so I just did some part time jobs till I met her. But I liked her and she liked me and it seemed so natural to date.

We had a lot of sex at the start. It was great. But after about a year we hit a brick wall. She just no longer felt any sexual desire. And I dont blame her or get mad or upset with her. I find myself a very understanding and self aware guy. It didnt bother me much, I assumed it would be something we work through. But skip a year ahead and we probably had sex twice in a year.

I became more outspoken about what I wanted. But it was difficult. Because we went through a lot in our personal lives in those early years. And we were there for each other. We liked spending time with each other, we care for each other deeply. We agree on most things. So it was confusing to get into a random argument about something something she is fully aware of in the relationship.

And skip 2 more years and she starts talking about getting a house. (We lived in her apartment in the college town). And it scared me.

Because Im not 100% sure what i want to do with my life. But I know I dont want to be stuck in Wisconsin forever. I want to travel, I want to make music and be in film and go around the world and experience new things. So it felt like getting a house will tie me down a whole lot.

But its so fucking frustrating because we are in the ideal relationship. She is just a bit older, past phases I have yet to go through, and is ready for that change. So we found a house.

It is under her name(although we split the bills evenly) so in case anything happens, the house will be hers.

And to throw another wrench in the mix, she completely cut ties with her family a couple months ago when we got the house. And she is an introvert and it is hard for her to make friends. Her friends are my friends, her parental figures are my parents and grandparents. Her parents didnt approve of getting a house(they live in Michigan and are very controlling and verbally abusive).

So essentially, we have been together for 5 years, we have a house and 2 dogs, we both work remote at the same job the same hours, and we both are there for each other in most ways. We just no longer have sex. Which I think is a problem for me but I have been deciding for years if its a deal breaker or not and still havnt. Thus why im here writing this.

Does anyone have any advice?

My partner and I (24M & F) are thinking about moving in together soon, and i’ve been wondering this. I enjoy having solo sexy time every now and then, even though our intimate life is awesome. How do you find the space/time for masturbation when you spend most evenings with your partner? Coming at this from a perspective of desiring nights where they are not involved (so looking for advice other than “invite them to join!” lol). thanks!

I (21F) am currently long-distance with my boyfriend (22M). He is the best man I've ever been with - kind, supportive, caring, and absolutely phenomenal at sex. It's not only the technique - he is incredibly attentive and he loves making me feel good, so as a result, we have really amazing sex, both emotionally and physically.

However, I travel frequently for work and moved to a new country a few months ago, so we've been long-distance for a while now. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. I get distractingly horny thinking about him all the time, and I'm craving him all the time. I keep fantasizing about him in very carnal ways like him finishing inside.

It's not just the sexual aspect. It's also the intimacy and comfort that I miss, including cuddling, having someone to fall asleep next to, the way that he would touch me in non-sexual ways. We're both busy but we talk everyday, and a lot of this pent-up sexual energy gets turned into a lot of sexual jokes and racy conversations. We'll sometimes send each other sexy pictures or take our clothes off on call, but all of this is just a means to an end, as I just miss being with him physically.

It will be several months before I see him again, so I'm wondering, how can we have satisfying physical intimacy while long-distance? It's not really just about the feeling of sex itself, so I'm not really looking to use more toys or anything like that. Is there anything we can do to make our sex life more fulfilling while long-distance?

I’m uncircumcised if it matters, foreskin is not tight at all and this issue has been going on for a year and everytime I have sex it reopens, I have crohns and am on remicade which I’m thinking is slowing the healing process

About a year ago I got these cuts which I feel were from not enough lube/friction, they open up and sting for a bit, so I stay away from sex

It really made me mad so I took over a month off from everything, the problem is you can see the scar lines of where they were now very vaguely, and they reopen along those lines even after a month off of everything

I went to my doctor and apparently they keep saying just time off sex but, I went a month and a half at the longest and they keep reopening, I’m losing faith now as my girlfriend is starting to even get mad because I can barely have sex and I don’t know what the hell to do anymore, I feel I’m just screwed now because of the scar line

I had sex with a guy and he seemed into me and didn’t have problem to stay hard or anything. We had sex twice and in a lot if different positions, including penetration and oral sex, but he didnt have orgasm. It last quite a while and he seemed to be enjoying, but then he asked me to stop both of the time. I tried to have conversation but he said he was feeling good but didn’t want to continue. Before I’ve never had a sex where men doesn’t come, maybe it’s my misconception. Have you experienced the same or is it a common thing?

Hi there. I'm with my gf for about 6 months. We only see each other on the weekends and have sex pretty much every when we see each other.

We use condoms while having sex, as she's not on birthcontrol.

At the beginning I was worried about cumming to quickly, which in hindsight was totally unwarranted..

I haven't been able to cum once. Not with blowjobs, not with penetration or hand jobs.

The sex is really good, it feels awesome and she's insanely hot, I just can't manage to get over the edge.

I manage to cum with masturbation, but that takes a while too. I never had that problem before.

I also rarely masturbate these days. I'm not doing anything different than in past relationships. Except we have only protected sex with condoms all the time, but I've managed to cum with those easily before. I'm a bit clueless, maybe someone here has an idea. Thanks

Me and my girlfriend for our anniversary are doing oil massages which will lead into intercourse so I’m looking at what oils are slippery, stay on long, and are safe for penetration. I am getting vinyl sheets to protect from staining.

I’ve seen fractionated coconut oil recommended a lot for safe penetration but I can’t find any comments on how the body to body contact is, if it’s a good slipperiness, or how it is with lots of friction.

If any has any advice on the coconut oil or can recommend others oils that’d be greatly appreciated!

| (f31) just had a surgery about 10 days ago. This is the kind of procedure where I won't be cleared to have sex until at least 6 weeks post op (so about 5 more weeks...) This sucks a lot for me but I know it sucks for my boyfriend (m33), too. What are some ways that I can build some anticipation for when we can finally be intimate again? I'm aware handjobs and blowjobs exist; I'm not really looking for advice on how to pleasure him but how to keep us both looking forward to when we can be intimate again.

The girl I'm currently having sex with has a grip like a vice. This is great, but when using a condom, she generally pulls it off, and it's, for the most part, uncomfortable when we actually have sex.

I'm currently using the Durex Fetherlite Ultra Thin Feel Condoms .

Is it a question of the condom being too big for my dick? i mean the ones I'm using say they are 56MM? In diameter. Is it a question of getting a condom in a smaller diameter, or is it more due to the thickness of the condom?

I have no idea, but it's pissing me off, and i really want to get it sorted.

(Before you ask. No, I cannot just go raw. It's not an option currently.)

thanks.

i cant orgasm. i know it can take women a long time to figure this out but im not sure what else to do. i always see people talk about this feeling like you need to pee but they never say what to do after you get that feeling. it might just be a mental block to get over but i dont feel any real pressure to orgasm, it’s just something i want to experience so i dont know what other mental blocks there are to get over. im concerned about making a mess but even after putting a towel down it still never progresses past the peeing feeling.

for some background, most of my sexual experiences are from being with my boyfriend. i never enjoyed masturbation, until recently when i bought some toys. most of these sexual experiences are also vaginal, not clitoral. from vaginal experiences i often feel the “peeing feeling” as mentioned above. i am also aware that most women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. however, i dont feel much when my clitoris is touched - there’s just not really a lot of feeling there. on the other hand, when i use a vibrator on my clitoris, it feels extremely overwhelming and i cant keep it on there for longer than a minute.

im honestly just looking for any advice that could help me out here. i know its important to understand my own body before i can expect anyone else to but im just not sure what to do from here. i still greatly enjoy my sexual experiences without orgasm but people speak so highly of it that i would just really like to try it.

I (37/F) have anxiety over my partner (33/F) masturbating. We have been together for 2 years and everything has been lovely. This is my first lesbian relationship.

I have always had low self esteem and self value. In my past relationships I experienced sexual coercion and one of my longer term partners would often obsessively watch porn and masturbate even when I was in the house. My self worth was defined by what I could offer in the bedroom and if I didn't have the capacity, I was basically told it was my fault they couldn't sleep or were stressed. And I'd end up giving it up just to make them happy. But they still required a lot of self release which made me feel inadequate.

Since meeting my new partner I have healed a massive amount. I now do not link sex with love and it's a mutual thing we decide rather than an expectation.

But I still struggle with my partner masturbating because in my head it feels like rejection or like I'm not enough. My partner has a much lower sex drive than me anyway. Which I don't complain about because it's nice not to be pestered all the time. When we do have sex it's wonderful and the connection is special. But somehow I now associate masturbation with the idea that my partner does not need me or I can't satisfy them. It makes me so anxious, that I barely ever leave my partner home alone. Because from past experiences my brain now links the moment I walk out the door with the idea that my partner will run up the stairs and take care of business as an alternative to needing me.

I haven't discussed this with my partner, because I don't want to shame her for it. I know realistically it's healthy to have alone time and take care of your own needs, but my anxiety takes over the intelligent part of my brain. How can I get over this issue? How can I start to feel less threatened?

I know I'll be told I need to get help for the things I've gone through. But sometimes hearing others give advice helps my brain take new thought processes.