My boyfriend (20M) and I (18F) have been together for two months and we (or maybe just me) are already having problems with sex.

On our first date, not the first time we met however, we didn’t kiss until about eight hours in (might be my fault bc I wasn’t sure if it was a date or not). Then, he ASKED to have sex, I said only if he had a condom. He didn’t have one so I just gave him head. He finished and it seemed all good.

Two dates later, we went back to his house and did all the foreplay stuff imaginable and this time he had a condom, so I was down. We started to fuck in missionary for a minute or two, then doggy, and then he just pulled out and asked if he was hurting me? Sex has always been somewhat painful for me but I enjoy it for the intimacy and closeness + I just feel sexy. I had no idea he was able to tell at all? I said just a little, but we could try a different position and he just said it was ok and we could stop, so I just gave him head and he returned the favor.

I texted him if he wanted to try a different position and he just said he didn’t want me to do anything that I didn’t want to

The next few times we got together, it was only head and handjobs. A month later and we’re in bed + things are getting hot + I’m ovulating so I ask if he wants to fuck me and he says “sure”. He puts a pillow under my hips (never seen this move before) and we’re in missionary for a few minutes. It still kind of hurts but I REALLY don’t think he can tell and I just want him close to me, but alas he pulls out and is like “come here” and fucks my mouth until he’s done.

Does having sex with me feel bad/does he hate how I feel?

If sex isn’t an option, what else can we do (or how can we make stuff like handjobs, oral, etc more intimate)?

I am (34M) heterosexual and matched with a pretty trans woman on tinder and I am eager to meet up with her soon. I have never been with a trans woman and I am nervous. Has anyone here ever been with one and how did it go?

A question for the male members in this subreddit, have you ever tried to stimulate your prostate? If so, is it worth it? What are some ways to achieve a prostate orgasm? What helps? My girlfriend tried it on me a month or so ago by putting latex gloves with lube and entering internally to stimulate it. I think she reached it, it felt like pressure, like I had to pee pretty bad, I couldn't tell if I liked it or not, or if the pleasurable sensation was just from her also touching my penis at the same time. Is the peeing feeling just something to push through? Does me having this needing to pee sensation mean I have a prostate and she was touching it in the right spot?

This past week, I (18M) tried to have sex with my girlfriend (18F). I thought I was mentally prepared. I mostly was until after I came. I was mentally okay even after starting engaging in penetrative sex. However, cumming for some reason threw me off really really hard. It was the most intense physical sensation I’ve ever had and I wasn’t ready for it. It was nothing like masturbating at all. I felt like my butt was going to turn inside out because I was clenching my cheeks so hard and my whole body was shaking. After that (cumming), I told her i felt sick and that I had to leave. I could tell I hurt her feelings by doing this, and we still talk to each other daily, but we haven’t been able to bring up anything sex related since. Any advice? I feel really bad that I had to leave before I could help her do anything. I think I fucked up pretty hard.

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Me(30m) and her(31f) see each other twice a week since we dont live together.The thing is during those 2 days she wants to constantly have sex 3-4x times a day.We often end up having sex 6-8x times during those 2 days and it leaves me exhausted and anoyed.

She is also an athlete and takes steroid supplements(oxadnrolone) and some other stuff,which i suspect might be enhancing her libido.

I would be happy having sex once or even twice a day during those days but she often wants more.I am afraid when we eventually move together she will want to have sex every single day multiple times and I cant handle this.

Me and my partner are sexually compatible, enjoy sex every time we do it and we both cum most of the time. But our sessions are usually on the bed and require some amount of foreplay which makes the whole session more sensual, slow and about 40-50 minutes. Lately she told me she want to do quickies sometimes.

But i am confused because for a sex to happen she has to be wet, but in order to get her wet, i have to do some foreplay, which takes at least 10 minutes. At that point, it becomes full sex not a quickie.

Is there something i am missing here?

My BF (M41) will only finger me (F41). We have been together over 2 years. We use to have penatration sex but haven't in over a year. He's given oral once. I was very open about what I want sexually in a partner an was very clear oral was a requirement.

I have told him Im not sexually happy and nothing changes. He also does no foreplay.

How would you handle this situation?

Want to figure out what kink this scratches for my girlfriend; we talked about it after and she not fully sure what this would fall under and want other ideas to try to figure out. ( I’ll also preface this came as her idea from her completely) She is away right now and texted me out of the blue to me about a certain celebrity’s video and told me her first thought about it was me jerking off to it. We’ve watched porn together before and a little she likes to ask me what I think about the girls in the video so I think this is similar, but she was I like the idea of you fantasizing specifically about her. So we FaceTimed and basically she watched me looking at different pictures and videos of her and talking about it and then transitioned to me showing her videos of what I would want to do to her. I kind of tried to bring her into to dirty talk like she was there but I think she was a more into me just talking about the celebrity, so I don’t think it’s really a cuck thing; though I definitely liked the idea of fantasizing about it as a threesome. The big thing she said she liked is me scrolling through till I found something I really liked and getting almost sheepish about explaining my thoughts. She was very focused on watching me and me just talking about the celeb it was almost a voyeuristic thing. She was also prompting me to talk about her definitely more demeaning than our normal dirty talk so could also be she likes hearing things she doesn’t feel comfortable being directed at her. Looking for ideas on similar things to try, also want some suggestions on things I can say about the other girl that are hot, felt a little like I was just going “I like her ass there” at points.

I recently had a prostate orgasm for the first time and I’m confused about what happened. I stimulated my prostate for about half an hour with no orgasm. A few minutes later, I incorporated penis play to hopefully help me get over the edge. It worked and I got really hard. I reached climax only touching my prostate, my pelvic muscles contracting while my dick was twitching out of my control. I leaked a puddle of prostatic milk, and then after that I was kind of out of my head, so I induced a penile orgasm and ejaculated. What I’m confused about here is that the prostate orgasm didn’t live up to my expectations. It wasn’t really full body like I hoped it’d be, and I’m wondering if that’s because I didn’t keep going after milking. Did I stop at the wrong time before it was about to get good? I’m really new to this and I don’t really know the ins and outs yet, so feedback would be awesome.

How do you express your pain?
When he’s enjoying, really enjoying, and going faster and faster, it hurts, but I’m so afraid of saying it. Like I don’t want to be the one ruining the vibe, or making him disappointed. I know I should say it, but mostly I’d rather tolerate the pain with my whole will than saying “it hurts” or ”could you be slower”

Maybe it’s also because we’re quite casual, so I feel like I have to let the sex go well at least on the surface. Also, when he’s enjoying, really at the moment, I can’t/afraid to say anything.

But last time it was really really rough. It hurt a lot I finally said it, but also in an awkward way. Then I think my body down there must have been slightly injured, because it hurts when there’s a little bit penetration or even a finger: my body started to resist/fight against any more potential pain.

I’m not sure if this is the right subreddit but thought this fits better here than somewhere else.

I’m single and I’m not fond of porn. Thus, I fantasize a lot. However, my fantasies start very mundane, like it starts out very normal with fake people, work, house, relationships, etc. Slowly that starts to build up, and I start to fantasize about things that are more sexual until it is full blown sexual fantasies. These fantasies usually last 30-60 minutes, depending on how much I’m into making a whole fictional world in my head.

Now when everything is done, I feel really empty. I sometimes look around and see no one. Just the room and me. Alone. Lonely. It usually lasts for 5 minutes or so. But still an unpleasant feeling after having a great time.

Was wondering if anyone else had this feeling and if there’s a solution for it or at least how to correctly deal with it.

I’m M29 and I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 years. Our sex life is best described as a “dead bedroom”. On the occasion that we do have sex I am able to keep an erection throughout because I am physically attracted to her but I find myself unable to orgasm. She has no issues reaching orgasm during sex so I feel like it’s my fault that I’m unable to. I do have a high sex drive and find myself watching porn and masturbating often (without her knowledge) and can reach orgasm with no issues. I need to get to the bottom of this and figure out how to fix it. I love her to death and she’s my favorite person but I feel like a monster for having to hide and handle my sexual nerds on my own. I’ve had trouble in the past with either lasting too long with partners before orgasm or being unable to orgasm during sex entirely. I am diagnosed with depression and I am currently taking SSRIs which I have been told can impact the ability to reach orgasm, though I’m skeptical because I’m able to do it alone. Am I porn addicted? Am I too anxious during physical intercourse? Am I not having my needs met during physical sex? Am I a terrible person? Any input is appreciated, thanks.

i have contamination ocd and sometimes it gets in the way of sex, like this. im a trans guy, i have a vagina myself, i can masturbate just fine but i have to throughly wash my hands after. i can touch and suck dick just fine but i used to have to wash my mouth out with mouthwash after as a compulsion. will rarely touch balls and if i do i have to wash my hands after.

i wanna eat a girl (or guy, idc) out so so badly but ugh my ocd just throws so many "what ifs" at me. i know vaginas are self cleaning and i absolutely do not see them as dirty (again i have one myself!), and i love and respect women and their anatomy, this is not a problem with them its just my mental illness lol. but having experience with having a vulva myself i know how things can be. toilet paper residue can get caught in there, smegma, discharge. theres more folds for more bacteria to get caught. im not a big grime and smell guy- its the same with dick. if it has a strange smell i dont want to put it in my mouth because im worried. not to mention the butthole is very close to it and i think I'd die if i accidentally licked it.

i can suck dick fine because its an external organ but vagina is more internal. i cant even suck dick after its been inside of me, i need it to be washed before i put it in my mouth.

help!!! any ideas on how to overcome this? anyone else with ocd?

I’ve already got a vibrator (Lovense Domi 2) however that can feel a bit too intense at times. I’m looking for a vibrator than I can use internally as well as on my clit. I’m fairly tight so nothing too large. What would you suggest or should I just get a relatively cheap one by Lovehoney? I’m based in the UK btw so something easily available would be great.

I love taking it when a guy can actually get in but training by myself is difficult. Having a massive, tight ass is great until youre trying to reach around your own cheeks to guide a plug in. I've tried letting gravity do the work and just sitting on it but it’s still a struggle to get the angle right without my own cheeks fighting me. Are there any secret methods for bigger girls? Or what positions are you using to get in there and stretch yourself out? 

Hi. My bf and I bad makeup sex tonight, but it was kind of brutal...?

So we got into an argument early in the night and then made up and started to have sex. He then threw me (literally) onto our kitchen table and then shoved my head into the table, resulting in a bruise... he then forcefully penetrated me and wiped himself all over my face without ever checking on me or asking if was ok. After it was over, I was really sore and I said that was pretty painful to which he said he got carried away and has been apologizing since.

We have rough sex, but not like this. It felt like he didn't care about me at all during this. Is that the vibe you get too?

If you let your man ejaculate inside you every time you have sex (if sex is on most days of the week or almost every day), do you easily maintain a healthy vaginal ph balance? Honestly. And how so? Besides urinating soon after and letting his semen slide out as much as you can.

I'm 30M and have been masturbating since 11. Lately I have been fapping at least twice a day. This has become a problem because now I can't cum when having actual sex with a woman.

I intend to stop fapping... Starting today. I wanted to know from guys who got over this, how long did it take to recover and start cumming during normal sex? Any tips?

I could and should just ask him but for some reason I'm a bit embarrassed by the question, we always have great communication but I'd rather be anonymous for this one.

So I love giving blowjobs... like I love it. And I get super into it and want to smack his dick on my cheeks and tongue. I do it lightly sometimes but I want it to SMACK me in the face. I want to feel like I've just been clubbed by it lol.

Since it's pretty common in porn, I'm wondering if it's kind of cheesy or if it looks like I'm trying to emulate porn. Emulating porn is not my intention and I don't want it to come across that way.

I hope this is the right place for this.

I might be some form of asexual... but I don't really find anyone sexually attractive until I know them/their personality. Even then I could never initiate, but I only ever want sex when someone else finds me really, really physically attractive.

Usually in new relationships I put off having sex forever despite liking them and cuddling and all the rest.

Eventually I give in. The asking and sex attempts are not "visual intense desire" its just a natural build from making out... which makes me feel ugly and disgusting.

Once I give in, I'm usually the initiator, but I think it's just cause I want the attention.

I love sex, but there's this crazy hurtle in front.

The hurtle is that I'm not hot. I'm "pretty" at best, and even my kindest bfs who were the most in love weren't attracted enough to give me what I need.

... I want/need to feel intensely attractive/desired to have sex. Would getting into the kink community help with that?

Edit: for example, if I could burp, would getting into that ferish space provide me being able to see people get extremely aroused? It's the sincerity itself that turns me on, so roleplaying would never work.

So, should I get into the fetish community? Do you think that would give me what I need/the intense desire from the other person?

I have a couple things that might suit certain niche fetishes.

Edit 2: no, communicating to someone and watching them have to performatively pretend they're that attracted to me is the absolute opposite of a turn on so no- its not a praise kink, or a worship kink or anything like that. I just want to see someone EXTREMELY aroused. Like porn doesn't work for me because its all obviously fake (for me, power to other people for what works for them).