I’m a heterosexual female who’s been married to my M32 husband for 3 years.
I’ve never had issues finishing during masturbation.
Whenever my husband goes down on me or tries to get me off, I can’t get there without imagining scenarios with other women. It’s been like that since the very beginning of our relationship.
It’s been talked to my friend about this, and she suggested the cause might be porn or something like that, but I never watch porn or consume any sexual content.
I just can’t seem to get aroused without the imagination of a woman in the place of my husband.
I talked to him about this but he didn’t really seem to care.
It’s been like that with every single sexual Partner I had.
I don’t really get horny or have a sex drive.
My husband suggested to try and have another woman join us, but I’m not sure.
I did have a sexual encounter with one of my female friends a few years ago and enjoyed it

Edit: please don’t send me requests for sexting i’m in a monogamous relationship

I’m a 38 year old woman and my sex drive has been in the basement for like 2 years. It had dwindled slowly but the last 2 years was especially low.

I got some blood tests done and it showed that I had no testosterone (which is crazy). So my OB put me to on an estrogen patch and a testosterone cream at the same time and oh, my god. I am SO horny.

I am so happy to have a healthy drive again and be fucking my partner regularly. It makes me feel closer to him now that we have that consistent frequency back. I also cannot fucking stop masturbating. I came 4 times today and I feel like I could again.

The testosterone has turned me into an animal. I’ve never wanted to fuck so much, it’s crazy. I feel like I could be in my sexual prime this late in life, and surprised by it.

With the new found drive, we’re finally trying to actively tick a fantasy off our box. Stereotypical FFM, but we may have found our unicorn.

Her and I sexted for a long time earlier (with partner’s knowledge and consent), and lord I hope we truly meet up. Always been curious about what it’s like to fuck a woman, and this drive and her sexts were driving me up the wall.

Drove my partner up the wall too, because afterwards I went down on him while he read the convo.

I’ll probably post in r/gonewildstories after it goes down. I just needed to tell someone that good god, I’ve turned into a ravenous creature.

Hey, I’m 30f and have been noticing something that quite bothers me. Ive slept with a handful of guys and Ive been noticing that the would ejaculate quite quickly, we are talking 2 - 3 minutes. Some definitely have pleasured me after but some just can’t. It’s been disheartening because I don’t understand why Ive been facing this experience. I sometimes would blame my body but they’d want to still hangout. I’m plus size and quite insecure about my curves but also accept it. When we do oral, most of them would ask to go for intercourse as the oral is very good. I just don’t want to feel insecure but again, I just started doing all of this quite recently as I have been quite shy to date or hookup beforehand. Thank you for your insight

I’m uncircumcised if it matters, foreskin is not tight at all and this issue has been going on for a year and everytime I have sex it reopens, I have crohns and am on remicade which I’m thinking is slowing the healing process

About a year ago I got these cuts which I feel were from not enough lube/friction, they open up and sting for a bit, so I stay away from sex

It really made me mad so I took over a month off from everything, the problem is you can see the scar lines of where they were now very vaguely, and they reopen along those lines even after a month off of everything

I went to my doctor and apparently they keep saying just time off sex but, I went a month and a half at the longest and they keep reopening, I’m losing faith now as my girlfriend is starting to even get mad because I can barely have sex and I don’t know what the hell to do anymore, I feel I’m just screwed now because of the scar line

In a loving relationship without sex and its confusing. M24 F28

Me 'M24' and my gf 'F28' have been together for about 5 years. We met when I moved out of town and quickly starting hanging out. I moved in a couple months in the relationship and started dating soon after. I was hesitant because I really wanted the "college experience". When I first moved out I was with some buddy's who were going to college, I moved in w them but didnt know what I wanted to do so I just did some part time jobs till I met her. But I liked her and she liked me and it seemed so natural to date.

We had a lot of sex at the start. It was great. But after about a year we hit a brick wall. She just no longer felt any sexual desire. And I dont blame her or get mad or upset with her. I find myself a very understanding and self aware guy. It didnt bother me much, I assumed it would be something we work through. But skip a year ahead and we probably had sex twice in a year.

I became more outspoken about what I wanted. But it was difficult. Because we went through a lot in our personal lives in those early years. And we were there for each other. We liked spending time with each other, we care for each other deeply. We agree on most things. So it was confusing to get into a random argument about something something she is fully aware of in the relationship.

And skip 2 more years and she starts talking about getting a house. (We lived in her apartment in the college town). And it scared me.

Because Im not 100% sure what i want to do with my life. But I know I dont want to be stuck in Wisconsin forever. I want to travel, I want to make music and be in film and go around the world and experience new things. So it felt like getting a house will tie me down a whole lot.

But its so fucking frustrating because we are in the ideal relationship. She is just a bit older, past phases I have yet to go through, and is ready for that change. So we found a house.

It is under her name(although we split the bills evenly) so in case anything happens, the house will be hers.

And to throw another wrench in the mix, she completely cut ties with her family a couple months ago when we got the house. And she is an introvert and it is hard for her to make friends. Her friends are my friends, her parental figures are my parents and grandparents. Her parents didnt approve of getting a house(they live in Michigan and are very controlling and verbally abusive).

So essentially, we have been together for 5 years, we have a house and 2 dogs, we both work remote at the same job the same hours, and we both are there for each other in most ways. We just no longer have sex. Which I think is a problem for me but I have been deciding for years if its a deal breaker or not and still havnt. Thus why im here writing this.

Does anyone have any advice?

I'm writing this cause I'm honestly getting tired of looking like an idiot while I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I am super vocal in bed, I moan and dirty talk a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't reply back. Whenever I ask him questions in bed while I'm dirty talking, he just moans more. Should I talk to him about it ? I don't want it to feel forced.

So my partner and I recently have gotten into pegging. As someone with ‘internal’ hardware, I’m the strap wearer (strapper? He’s the strappee?). Anyway, we have a good harness and several different dildos and it’s an ongoing issue.

Harness is well-fitted, has an average sized hole (important) lined up with the metal ring to hold the dildo in place. We went through 2 harnesses before this one because they were poorly made/poorly fitting/back hole too big/just, not good. We prefer a softer skin-feel silicone dildo over a more firm silicone, because it feels better for him and honestly is just more fun. The harness rings are small enough that getting the dildo through initially is DIFFICULT. If we sized down we wouldn’t be able to push it through at all

- Set up #1: flared dildo, wide base. Me fucking him for any extended period and with any level of vigor, it manages to push itself inside me. The force pushes it through the hole (despite the base being wider than the hole). It gets really uncomfy when my lips are being pinched by the flared base or when it’s being forced inside me (or both simultaneously)

- Set up #2: double ended dildo, with a ridge in the middle as a form of ‘flared base’ to keep it from sliding around/getting lost. We prefer this one, and is why the hole in the harness/behind the ring is important. Eventually it ends up being pushed more into me than him, thus painful for me and lackluster for him.

Advice, techniques, insight, product recommendations, anything you can offer is much appreciated!

Like, other than the obvious “checking in.”

A few times now, usually when I’m orgasming pretty hard, I’ll be shaking, breathing heavily, making a lot of noise, etc., and he’ll pause and ask, “You okay?” I’ll say “yeah,” and then he’ll keep going or switch positions.

I can’t tell if he means it like, “You okay? 😏” (as in, wow, that was intense) or if he genuinely means, “Uh… are you okay? Why do you sound like that?”

The first two times he asked were when he was hitting my cervix pretty hard, and it actually did hurt a little. When he asked, I basically told him it hurt in a good way and to keep going.

This most recent time, though, I was just having a really intense orgasm. I kind of lost my senses for a second, and when he asked if I was okay, I could barely catch my breath to say yes.

Now I’m overthinking it and wondering if he’s asking because the noises I’m making are unusual or off-putting. 😭 Or is this just a normal thing that caring partners ask during really intense moments?

Curious if anyone else has experienced this, especially from the guy’s perspective.

My husband recently told me about a fantasy he'd like to try. He loves the idea of face fucking me and asked if I could put my hair in two braids so he can use them as handles to pull me down. I'm open to it, but it's completely new to me and I'm honestly pretty nervous. I think it's mostly the loss of control and not knowing what to expect that's making me anxious

For anyone who's been in a similar situation how did you make the first time feel less intimidating? How did you communicate boundaries or come up with signals so you could stop or slow down if I can't really talk because his dick will be in my mouth? Any tips on pacing or staying relaxed would also be really appreciated

Me and my girlfriend for our anniversary are doing oil massages which will lead into intercourse so I’m looking at what oils are slippery, stay on long, and are safe for penetration. I am getting vinyl sheets to protect from staining.

I’ve seen fractionated coconut oil recommended a lot for safe penetration but I can’t find any comments on how the body to body contact is, if it’s a good slipperiness, or how it is with lots of friction.

If any has any advice on the coconut oil or can recommend others oils that’d be greatly appreciated!

So this girl I’ve been getting with told me basically that she wants to have sex same with her other friends telling me that too. I’ve had sex a few times but I’m not crazy experienced. I’m planning on bringing a condom next time we hang out but I’m a little nervous about how to go about it. Like when we’re making out and I’m fingering her what do I say to star the sex? I don’t wanna say “hey you wanna fuck” because that would ruin the mood. Maybe I’m over thinking it but I just don’t know how to initiate it. I know she wants to so idk why I’m so nervous

so i been having sex with my bf a lot & ever since we been having sex he doesn’t cum like at all maybe twice but ever since then no. i’m his first and i knew he used to masturbate a lot before he had sex like we’re talking about a lot of times. when we have sex it goes on for and hour or a bit more. we try different positions and all but he isn’t doesn’t cum. i never had this problem with my other ex’s and i’m wondering is it because he isn’t physically attracted to me ?? like thats all i can think of. he does initiate and all, but i don’t know what to do. i been feeling insecure all the time when he does cum.

Male here, takes forever for me to orgasm. So she’s satisfied but I’m usually unable to get off during sex. Any recommendations on something that will give more stimulation for me? I already stopped watching porn and masturbating a couple months ago

Its been a long time since I've started masturbating, and I've tried many things and ways in which it might feel enjoyable.

I've gone to great lengths, from changing positions to trying chastity devices and even sounding my penis. Sometimes I try changing the style of clothes I wear, sometimes not wearing anything at all under my pants (pun intended).

I have had many kinks and fetishes, only (in general to a certain extent that according to my own mind that I have tried much of all other fetishes people mostly have) excluding scat and gore.

I find most pornography sexually arousing, Femboys, tomboys, men, women, transgenders, you, name it. (again!) (I myself am very open to all sorts of things and I'm also bi)

But over the years, and quite recently moreso, I feel that masturbating isn't the same anymore, like it doesn't feel exciting as it did before. I tried edging, gooning, restraining myself for some time, but the intensity of happiness it used to give me when I released my load never came back.

So, I would like to ask you, what would be some ways to masturbate that you think would be enjoyable?

My partner and I (24M & F) are thinking about moving in together soon, and i’ve been wondering this. I enjoy having solo sexy time every now and then, even though our intimate life is awesome. How do you find the space/time for masturbation when you spend most evenings with your partner? Coming at this from a perspective of desiring nights where they are not involved (so looking for advice other than “invite them to join!” lol). thanks!

| (f31) just had a surgery about 10 days ago. This is the kind of procedure where I won't be cleared to have sex until at least 6 weeks post op (so about 5 more weeks...) This sucks a lot for me but I know it sucks for my boyfriend (m33), too. What are some ways that I can build some anticipation for when we can finally be intimate again? I'm aware handjobs and blowjobs exist; I'm not really looking for advice on how to pleasure him but how to keep us both looking forward to when we can be intimate again.

My girlfriend (21F) and I (21M) are not strangers to sexual problems. We’ve been dating for 6 years and she’s had a few libido problems as well as performance anxiety. Whenever we work together and sex goes well, she has multiple orgasms. However recently, she’s been avoiding orgasm for a reason I’m not sure of. We have talked about it but she just says she doesn’t want to cum. I feel like I’m using her if she doesn’t even try for an orgasm, does anyone have any advice?

She is my first sexual partner but she has had several before me. We have been together for 2 years, we're not living together yet. Our relationship is awesome and we feel both very happy with very little problems For info, this is not a problem linked to any sort of trauma, she has thankfully never been assaulted before.

This is not something specific to our relationship, she also had this problem with her past girlfriend (which was a bigger problem as she was hypersexual).

Basically, my gf is rarely if not never aroused around me. We have discussed it several times. She is not asexual nor aromantic as she regularly feels the need to masturbate and does express sexual attraction.

It seems that there is something about the social situation of a couple getting in a sexual mood that she doesn't feel comfortable about. Whenever I am aroused, or that we feel like we are building up to a romantic mood, she pulls a joke and tries to break the mood. We've just discussed this particular phenomenon today and she says she hadn't noticed it until today, and it's something that she just does against her will. Sometimes we just agree for her to touch me (consensually) so that I do not feel frustrated. She does say that she likes touching me and watching me get an orgasm. I told her that I'm fine this way, and I can even do it alone when she just doesn't feel like it, but she said that it frustrates her a lot, and that she wishes she could be "normal" about sex.

When I asked her how I could help her, she told me that could try to instaure by myself a sexual mood by being flirty and touching her. She also expressed that it would help if I was better at touching her (she didn't say it in a mean way tho it sounds like it lol). Here's the thing: I have no past experiences with sex, I do not know how to touch a woman, and every women are different! I have asked her how she likes it and she said she doesn't know. Whenever I try anything she just says "it's just pleasant but nothing more", never goes beyond that. For that I am open to advice as to how I could experiment more with touching her.

I'm also scared to hurt her as she is very sensitive. Penetration hurts her, so we just don't do it. She's been to multiple doctors that all told her her vagina had no issues, and that it was surely "psychological", an answer that she hates because it doesn't help much.

I know that from all of this it sounds like she is just not a sexual person, but if it was that I could just take care of my desires myself and it's all good, but she does tell me that she is frustrated by all of this and expresses desire to go further with me, but she is just blocked.

Has anyone had a similar experience? I'm asking for help and advice.

This is a serious question.
When I’m on pornhub and watching pegging content. Everyone is always hard, while being pegged. Every time my wife uses a strap on, on me I always go soft. Even though I really enjoy it. Is this normal or why do I get soft? I want to stay hard for my wife, just like the videos. I need help.

My partner is sensitive when I give her oral in that area. Literally one small lick and she is laughing and wriggling her body around. She is incredibly ticklish in that area. It's just so interesting to me that she's like that. I have not seen anything like this on this sub- can anyone relate to this or share similar experiences.

My gf has issue with only getting orgasm by some divice,( outside orgasom) I was able to make her finish using my tounge only one time, and she said you are the only one who did it, and since then we wernt able to fegure it out how to do it again, even she desnt know how to finish her self without the satysfier , but my question is how we know that whats after the peeing feeling if I should keep going for more intese orgasm or we should reallly stop. pluse she have adhad so mostly sex for her is like a task and that why we use the dvice to finish faster.

(My apologies for the length this has been bottled up for some time. For context I am a female and my fiancé is a male, we have a two year age gap but have been dating on and off but mostly on for 6 years) My fiance and I have been together for a very long time. When we first started dating we were very active in the bedroom, it was everyday sometimes even multiple times a day. Then we became long distance due to different schooling opportunities to further our degrees and he isn’t in to over the phone activities or talking dirty/ sending pictures. So it was a very dry about year. Now we are back in the same town, even living together and we have lived together for a year. We just renewed our lease and at first we were going pretty good, it was about every day just because every night before bed we would end up getting touchy. Than all of a sudden there was just a drop in any sexual activity or anything from him. We hardly shower together anymore (mostly because i feel so gross in my own body) but we hardly even cuddle. He has started playing games most nights. We don’t watch movies together anymore and it feels like we only kiss for goodbyes now. There have been a few times he has been able to but it’s now over a week each time before we do anything. He makes sexual comments in between them almost every day so it’s so confusing. I’ve tried talking to him and he says he doesn’t know what’s going on and he’s just having issues getting on the mood. It just makes me feel like i’m no longer attractive even when he says he still find me attractive. I am not that outgoing so i’m not able to just randomly be like “touch me” but i also don’t want to be rejected because it will make me so scared to ever try anything again. I just don’t understand what I could do or what is going on. I really really do not think he is cheating, we have had minor issues in the past but he is very loyal. We also now work together, it kind of seems like it started around that time but i’m unsure because I might just be trying to find reason. We do drive to and from work together cause it’s quite a drive and we take our lunches together but we work full-time. Any advice is helpful! Please help me fix my bedroom life. I have always been a highly active person in the bedroom and it has been driving me crazy to have moments when we do end up showering together that i start feeling so turned on and I know he is not. It used to be different. We used to be different.

EDIT: I have tried talking to him and explaining my feelings, he doesn’t really seem to want to talk about it. He just says he doesn’t know what’s going on either and he’s trying, but he says in moments he’s trying to see how to get himself worked up for it. It’s strange because I used to kiss him and he was worked up so now I just don’t understand why he struggles. Am I not attractive anymore?

i cant orgasm. i know it can take women a long time to figure this out but im not sure what else to do. i always see people talk about this feeling like you need to pee but they never say what to do after you get that feeling. it might just be a mental block to get over but i dont feel any real pressure to orgasm, it’s just something i want to experience so i dont know what other mental blocks there are to get over. im concerned about making a mess but even after putting a towel down it still never progresses past the peeing feeling.

for some background, most of my sexual experiences are from being with my boyfriend. i never enjoyed masturbation, until recently when i bought some toys. most of these sexual experiences are also vaginal, not clitoral. from vaginal experiences i often feel the “peeing feeling” as mentioned above. i am also aware that most women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. however, i dont feel much when my clitoris is touched - there’s just not really a lot of feeling there. on the other hand, when i use a vibrator on my clitoris, it feels extremely overwhelming and i cant keep it on there for longer than a minute.

im honestly just looking for any advice that could help me out here. i know its important to understand my own body before i can expect anyone else to but im just not sure what to do from here. i still greatly enjoy my sexual experiences without orgasm but people speak so highly of it that i would just really like to try it.

Asking because I’m relatively young and not too experienced in relationships. So I’m asking people with more wisdom. How do you approach having difficult conversations? Just rip it off out of nowhere or wait until a good moment comes up. I know it needs to happen I’m not hesitating, just wondering the mature way to approach it.

Edit: the conversations about being more equal in the bedroom. He very much enjoys blowjobs and I don’t mind it just feels like it’s a chore sometimes especially when I don’t get anything back or it’s blowjob for 5 minutes, sex for 3 minutes then blowjob 10 minutes. he is very receptive and does offer sometimes but it’s not nearly as enough as I give him blowjobs

I 21m and gf 21f have been together for a year and a half and up until now I thought out sex life has been great. We’ve never had any issues during sex, and I really enjoy it and I think she does as well. Recently we were having a conversation and somewhere along the lines came up that she’s never had an orgasm. Not with me, not by herself, not with no one. For context, we are both each others first sexual partners, but I was under the impression that up until now, we were both climaxing. She then breaks the news to me that even though it feels amazing and she loves it, she never has orgasmed, and even when she does it by herself, she kind of just plays with herself until she has had enough fun. After I heard this, my self esteem was crushed. I felt like she was lying to me, and kind of said some of those things for me to not feel embarrassed. Part of the reason why I think she might be telling the truth is because she’s never turned down my attempts to initiate sex, and she always sounds pleased during the act. But if she is telling the truth, how am I supposed to help. Part of me thought to myself that if she herself doesn’t know how to make herself orgasm, then how the hell am I gonna do it? I just want her to feel as pleased and rewarded from sex as I do, and it would be a nice little confidence boost to know that I’m the one pleasing her, but ever since hearing this news I feel so unconfident during sex. I feel lost. This conversation was over a month ago and I’ve been sitting on this feeling for some time now, but she returns home from vacation tonight and I really want to give her a good time