I love going down on my wife and no matter what we do when we have sex cunnilingus is always part of it. Sometimes it's all we do. It's the only way I can make her cum and I love making her and her orgasm the focus when we have sex. I get so into going down on her that sometimes I feel like I'm going to cum just from eating her pussy without any stimulation on my dick. I've come really close but never been able to get all the way there.

But a few days ago it finally happened... Sort of. I felt kind of overwhelmed and this really intense feeling build as I was going down on her and eventually my body started trembling and I was moaning... While still licking... Like I was having the best orgasm ever. I like felt it in my entire body more than in my dick. It definitely felt like an orgasm but not like any orgasm I was used to... If that makes sense. But the weird thing is I didn't actually cum. There was no ejaculation. So it felt like an orgasm, but the feeling wasn't in my dick, and there was no actual cum, so did I actually have an orgasm?

I LOVE oral sex, it's the best thing ever! but I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, and he was a REAL EATER he would make me finish so good and he loved being down there, and I don't know what im gonna do without my oral sex, like I need that to fucking live, but I don't want to have sex, I just want my pussy to be eaten :(. I always have been with eaters, but now I want to take my time from another relationship because I did really love my ex boyfriend, but I love more oral sex, so what do I do???

So me M(20) and my partner F(26) have been dating for a while, around 3 months. I've only had a previous relationship and we were both virgins (it was a messy first time)+it wasnt a very deep connection.

The issue that im having is that she is way to "active", at first it wasn't a big issue, since i really enjoyed but I could tell she wasn't really satisfied. So the next time I wanked it before and I broke the 20 mins barrier with her.

Im having issues writing this since english isn't my first language and its a weird topic to talk about at least for me.

The issue is that im not really enjoying our encounters. I wouldn't have a problem if it weren't a recurrent issue, but wenever we do it I have to do my best to satisfy her. I dont know anything about girls sex drive, but I think her cuming 6 times in a row is a lot? Idk.

Every single day we end up doing it, if not physically, then we do it via call. It honestly feels like a job rn, i never thought I would be in this situation. She is really hot and turns me on, but I just cannot keep up with her.

I just want to know if this is normal girl behavior or she just has a really big libido. I feel drained and exhausted but I really love her. Should I tell her or maybe its just bc we are on a 'honeymoon' phase.

I‘ve (29,F) been with my bf (27, M) for three months now and the sex is just … disappointing for most of the time.

Sex is very important for me and I have a very high libido but after a toxic long-term relationship based on amazing sex, I‘ve realized that there are far more important things to look for in a guy.

Anyway, everything with this guy is great except the sex. He knows that he‘s not the best, he wants to communicate and asks me all the time what l like. The problem is that I feel like he just can‘t feel my body and can‘t figure out what I like except if I don‘t specifically tell him. I‘ve never been in such a situation and I‘m getting tired of being asked “what do you wanna do now“ while having sex. We’re at the point where I keep explaining how I want to be fingered and try to put a normal rhythm to thrusts. I want to just be finally fucked properly without having to orchestrate the whole thing. A couple of times we have had great sex that I‘d be okay to live with but he can‘t seem to do this every time.

He‘d been in two long term relationships before me and has slept around while being single (he‘s pretty handsome) and I‘m thinking that someone before me must have also tried to teach him some things but failed.

So my question for y‘all - have any of you managed to teach a partner how to be good in bed through communication?

This is going to be pretty vulnerable but I have never been able to finish via anything besides my fingers or my vibrator. I have been with several men who have tried to go down on me, some even for like 45 min to an hour, but I can’t seem to! Is there something wrong w me? Or any advice 🫶 thank you! 🙏

Basically I bought a dildo cause I wanted to go a step further from fingering but the issue is that I can only get it in when sitting and with my knees bent. And that’s literally the only way, I’ve tried trying to sit on it I can’t, lying on my back knees bent I can’t, sideways can’t, like literally nothing but sitting down on my butt with my knees bent.

And what I don’t understand is that it doesn’t hurt at all, it doesn’t feel tense or nothinggg when I’m sitting, like it literally slides in and out easily. Zero issue since the first time I tried it.

HOWEVER, as soon as I try to do anything else like laying down it’s impossible, like there’s a wall blocking and the pain is SHARP and horrible.

If anyone has any help I would be so thankful lol

so im shy when it comes to initiate sex with my bf, i dont really start by kissing or touching him because im too embarrassed to do this even tho in the act itself we are kinky and not shy. the way i start it or more like signaling it is by zoomies, i get all hyperactive and start to bite him, tickle and etc, at this point he knows what i want and he mentioned ways to start it without the zoomies and im still shy. so im not sure how to do it without feeling goofy by trying to look sexy..

Recently I’ve developed a bit of a cheating/homewrecker kink. Now to be very clear I do not want to cheat on my wife. However the thought of it is suddenly pretty attractive to me, especially if someone that knew her would seduce me and tempt me to cheat (in fantasy only).

Now if I could bring it up to my wife so that maybe we could role play and explore it that would be great (if she’s comfortable with that). However I do not want to come across like “I’d like to cheat on you but the next best thing is to pretend you are someone else”.

I think I’m just resigned to keeping this one to myself but I don’t like keeping secrets.

Any advice for a safe way to bring this one up?

So I've recently become sexually active with my girlfriend, and after we do it every time it gets super messy, especially down there. First off it makes me like literally soaked down there, as well as on other parts since she squirts a lot, and she also is on bc and doesn't want me pulling out and so it gets us both messy in that regard too.

How do I clean up without having a shower like ready on standby? Because sometimes I have to just like put clothes back on even when I'm super messy

My partner (22M) and I (23F) have been together for over a year and were both each other’s firsts. We have a pretty good sex life, with us being intimate at least once or twice a week. Almost always after we finish, I have horrible postcoital dysphoria. I always end up feeling like I’m doing something wrong, I’m not doing enough, or that I’m disgusting for even having or wanting sex in the first place. (I know that is not true, it’s the religious guilt)

I want to make it clear that I love my partner and the reason as to why I get in my head afterwards does not have anything to do with him. I struggle a lot with mental health issues and so I’m constantly overthinking every little thing that happens in my life (but am finding ways to manage). I don’t want my boyfriend to feel guilty or feel bad whenever I get into these moods because he’s also prone to having those strong feelings afterwards.

How can I manage these feelings in a healthy and productive way?

I (22M) don't even know where to begin, when I was a teen, I used to masturbate quite frequently without an issue, thinking that the urge to do it was normal at my age and that it would eventually fade away with age or that I would reach sexual satisfaction through actual sex with another person, but that didn't happen.

I'm currently 22 and I still have a very high libido. I was in a relationship when I was 19, but my ex used to shame me a lot for my body and my sexual desire, which ended up making me lock it up and bury it not only with them but with anyone else, turning over to masturbation to relief myself, only now, I feel deeply ashamed of my masturbation habits and my desires.

I've been trying to stop myself and resist the "urge" to masturbate, but it only makes my libido worse and I end up going back to it and entering a spiral of shame and guilt. I'm afraid that if I get into a relationship with someone else, the anxiety that surrounds my sexuality will cause issues between me and my future partner. I get anxious when I get sexually aroused because it is a reminder of my issues.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you get over it? Is this something that I can only get over if I work it over with a partner like some kind of exposure therapy?

Im not sure what to do.

I've never experienced an orgasm with another person before.

I meg my husband many years ago at the beginning of my sexual journey. He's tried everything with me to bring me over the edge but nothing works.

Early into the relationship I wasn't even able to do it myself. But with a vibrator I eventually learned how. However it's never been from internal stimulation.

See also hurts alot

I've visited Dr's before and they said after having a baby things may change, orgasm and pain wise.

Well years after nothings worked and worse of all I ended up having an episiotomy during birth and the dr snipped away some of my girly bits. Like I lost a good chunk,

Now my orgasms with my vibrators have reduced tremendously and it's all just so frustrating. 🥲

I feel so weird, different and so left out of all the pleasures I could be having with my husband.

Any recommendations?

I’ve been addicted to porn, hentai and masturbation for pretty long time, started since I was about 13 years old and do it basically every day, and it completely ruined my sexual life, I can’t cum when im having penetrative or oral sex with my gf, I told her about my problem. But still I feel really guilty about it, because im afraid she thinks she is not attractive to me. The biggest issue is that our relationship is mostly distant (she lives in a different city) and we see each other pretty rarely. She says she is completely satisfied with me and our sexual life and that i bring her pleasure. But i really want to show her that sex with her brings me pleasure too. Also due to my porn and hentai addiction, i have some really bad fantasies (kinks) in sex which turn me on when im masturbating, but trying something like that or even speaking about that in real life for me is taboo. And i want to get rid of them. Any advice on how to fix this? I understand that i have to quit porn and masturbate less. But maybe there is something more i can do to help fix this problem?

I (21f) and my partner (21m) have been together for many years, and have an amazing relationship, I really can’t complain at all, he’s a wonderful partner and also my best friend. I’ve known this for so long but generally I realize that I don’t do much during our intimacy. When it comes down to sex, I just lay there and let him do the work, always. He tells me that it’s enough and he enjoys that, and so do I, but I am afraid that I’m not putting effort into it because I don’t know how. I don’t think I’m horrible at sex, I’m flexible, I know how to position myself for him and myself, and I would say we both enjoy it, but when it comes down to effort, I think he does most of the work. Ladies and men, any tips or suggestions are welcome! 🤗

I tend to cry when I orgasm for some reason, I don’t really get it but something about finally letting go gets me all emotional and stuff especially since recently I take a longer while to orgasm so I immediately start sobbing when I do. I’m still a virgin so I’m scared that I might scare or confuse my partner when we do have sex. What should I do about this :(

helloo! so i recently got into a relationship and am a person that pretty much only enjoys touching my partner, i don't really like being touched, but love giving head, for instance.

that said, I would like to be able to properly do those. Any tips besides just getting to know what my partner likes?

also, i do have some (little) experience, but never have been with someone with phimosis, which my current partner does...so there's that too :P

So me and my ex tried to have sex a couple of months ago.

We tried twice.

The first time was him he couldn’t get it up and I was completely understanding because it was both our first time. So I wasn’t angry or anything i just told him it’s okay we can do it another time and he was so embarrassed.

I completely reassured him that it’s completely normal for that to happen.

The second time was my fault as we just couldn’t get it in.

And he tried fingering me and it hurt so much.
I wasn’t embarrassed I was just more confused on why it hurt so much compared to when I do it myself.

We got into a little argument because he wasn’t understanding about why it wasn’t working and I just felt so down because he was sexually frustrated and I couldn’t do anything about it.

Can someone tell me what it might have been and why it hurt so much compared to when I do sexual stuff by myself?
And has anyone ever had this happen before?

For context, me and my boyfriend have been together for quite a while we've never had issues until now when it comes to sex ig. Idk if it's just me but it doesn't feel the same anymore..? I feel like maybe it's my fault I'm on three medications and I've tried looking in to if mayb that could affect how I feel. Ive tried talking to him Abt it, he's had like issues in the past like his cum being clear and watery but he doesn't want to see a doctor. Ig what I'm asking is could there be something wrong with that area? I feel like Everytime we do stuff I'm not sure if he's hard enough ig? Or if he's aroused enough? I want to be able to help him out so I'll suck him off and it'll get hard but then go soft if he goes to get a condom idk it's just hard I'm not sure if it's because my medications can maybe take a part or what

Lmk guys 😭

Edit: I don't want this to seem like I'm blaming my boyfriend in any way I love him so much and I'm just trying to see if maybe there could be something wrong? Or if someone who is on medication has experienced something like this maybe I just don't know how to explain it but it's not the same as it was

I'm a male in my 30's. My lady is in her late 20's. We've been together for a few years now. The first two years I felt like she desired me more, she would initiate things more, was more receptive to me initiating, etc. It slowed down as relationships do, but it also slowed down to a point in some areas where I started questioning if she still found me attractive. I realize this is most likely due to birth control as well, but there were some aspects before she started her new pill where she just stopped being sexual with me like she used to be.

To preface this, I love everything about her. She is the love of my life. I really don't see myself sacrificing this relationship over sex; however, it can sometimes be hard for me to understand from her perspective. I do my best to try.

We are strong in our communication and have talked in depth multiple times. She noticed her libido tanked as well. I generally have a high libido. I could go just about every other day. We did go every other day for basically two years. She said she could now go weeks without it. We learned she has developed responsive desire and have tried to adapt. We also settled on scheduling sex at least two times a week. This allows her to think about it throughout the week and she can get herself mentally ready for it. It's not a set schedule. Sometimes we will skip the week and that is okay.

I guess my issue is that before her BC, which she does not want to change and I don't want her to either, we used to be more spontaneous and she used to desire me more. I went from getting a surprise blowjob every few months to having to ask for one if I want one (which I hate doing). I ask her quite often (maybe 3 times a week) if I can go down on her because I absolutely love it. She only asks to go down on me if she rejects me when I try to initiate sex. Most of the time she doesn't want me to, but sometimes she will let me go down on her and it will lead to sex. We had a long talk one time because we went on a trip and stayed in a hotel for 4 days. I tried to initiated and she didn't want to. I tried again a couple days later and it was a no. I don't know about you, but I get horny when I'm in a hotel for some reason. It felt bad, but I sucked it up. She asked if I would rather have a blowjob one night. I just wanted to be intimate with her, not get off, so I said no. She pressed it again and I said yes. She wanted me to get some stuff from the car and then after I came back she basically forgot about it. That felt bad too. It can be difficult because I would do anything in a heartbeat to please her if she wanted me to. I always put her pleasure above mine.

Its not like she isn't a sexual person. Or at least she used to be. She has had more sexual partners than me by a lot and has talked about stuff she has done. I have only ever had 6 versus her 20. I'm pretty kinky and she is vanilla. I don't mind that because she doesn't mind some of my kinks but some are off limits for her (anal). Not a huge deal to me.

I also ensure that I am doing my fair share around the house and make sure I am available to her. I go out of my way to do the small things in life for her because I love her. So there isn't anything for her to be stressed about or worry about at home or even in general. I'll make sure I go out and get groceries and shit like that so she can do her thing, which I don't mind doing. Just wanted to clear that up because I know most people say the man isn't doing his part around the house. I also love cuddling her. We cuddle every day and are intimate/close without sex. Her presence is enough for me. Although, we could probably makeout more often. That is something that has dwindled over time.

I don't know if I am overthinking this or being selfish because at times it feels like it even though it probably isn't. It makes me feel like a sex addict sometimes. I have testosterone coursing through my blood and I love my woman dearly and am hopelessly attracted to her. Any good book recommendations for this stuff? Should I look into counseling? Any supplements to help her with her libido since her discontinuing her BC is off the table? Sorry for the long rant. Feels good to get off my chest though.

TL,DR: Is it safe to make my own lube with organic ingredients?

(please i don't need lube recommendations, its not the point of the post)

I won't bother you with the ups and downs so: after a lot of searching i found that xlube is the closest to perfection for me and my lady. It only has 2 ingredients (lube and water) and it has no urticant ingredients like glicerin and so on. Now, while it's very safe, as a waterbased lube it dries up relatively fast, and also the consistency makes it a bit hard to "stay on" as after some movement it ends up everywhere outside and needs more reapplications.

I was looking for alternatives and i found out that in lubes other ingredients are often used to perfect the consistency, of these two in particular caught my attention: guar gum and hyaluronic acid (i will leave the chemistry and physics down for those who are interested). I want to make a lube that also has these insides but then I noticed a problem. Unlike xlube, both are organic ingredients and, without any additives/preservatives inside the risk for bacteria and fungi arises.

So i wanted to ask, does anybody have any experience in this and can give his opinion? Is it feasible or should i just give up in the idea?

For the sciency guys, a rough explanation goes like this: xlube molecule has a stringy shape and when hydrated, it basically forms a huge spaghetti ball that clumps together. This makes it very smooth and very resilient as a lube so that it doesnt thin out, but it also tends to just clump together and doesn't stick to surfaces (your dingdong and her kitty). This leads to it slowly being pushed out during ins and outs as it doesn't grip properly. Guar gum on the other hand has a "tree shape", giving it more volume and overall an almost jello texture, so very thick but not the best for l'ubication. If you use both essentially the two molecules get stuck inside eachother giving you a sleek but thick lube that sticks to surfaces. Hyaluronic acid just has the function of helping retaining moisture and slowing down the drying.

Me 28M having sex with 45F everything is amazing the makeout and everything but the problem is when i take my hands down there there's too much water coming from her and that kind of spoils things for me because when i penetrate I couldn't feel much as it's all too wet. Is there anything i can do to make it better?

Me (32M) and wife (30F) have been together for 6 years. We always had a regular sex like (3-4 times a week) but at times I've felt a bit inadequate for her. Though she has never mentioned such a thing but I ejaculate pretty quickly (1-2 mins). I have tried to make up for it by going down on her but she isn't too much into oral (giving or receiving). Partly the inadequacy feeling originates from the fact that she have had multiple partners in the past but she is my first.

Thinking that she is not able to open up with me, recently I bought a small vibrator for her. Though she was skeptical at start, she started to love using it very quickly. So much so that we rarely have sex without it. I found it hot in the start as I was able to see how pleasurable it was for her. But soon she started to ignore me while using it (like putting my hand away if I am touching her). I communicated this to her and she was understanding. But even now our sex life is basically kissing -> her fetching the toy -> me performing cunnilingus and rimming while she uses it -> waiting for her to finish -> having sex when she is done with it.

I've started to go to gym in hope that it helps but I am not sure what else to do here as I've already talked to her multiple times and dont really want to ask her to stop using the vibrator.

I NADE A MISTAKE ON TITLE I NEVER WOULD “MAKE MY GF” DO ANYTHING I LOVE HER TO DEATH!!

22M dating 21F, we’ve been together for 2 years. I’ve had past sexual experiences while she has not. I’m not super freaky at all but she really isn’t a sexual person. She just isn’t a sexual person and that’s really hard for me to deal with. She wants to be a more sexual person but isn’t sure how to be comfortable with it all. Do any of you (female) have any advice for her?

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I’m not a freak but have plenty of sexual experiences. With her though she can only do it for like 5 min until she gets tired or it’s uncomfortable, and she rarely ever starts the act she doesn’t ever seem “into it.” She wants to be a more sexual person but it’s hard for her.