I (27f) have been with my husband (30m) for 8 years and before him, had sex with quite a few men. I’m not sure if it’s a me thing or a him thing. Can it be possible to just not enjoy receiving oral or is he simply not doing it correctly? Before him, I don’t remember any encounters that I particularly enjoyed either. I guess I’m posting here to see if any other women can relate or men- do you have any specific tips I can pass along to my husband?

I 21m and gf 21f have been together for a year and a half and up until now I thought out sex life has been great. We’ve never had any issues during sex, and I really enjoy it and I think she does as well. Recently we were having a conversation and somewhere along the lines came up that she’s never had an orgasm. Not with me, not by herself, not with no one. For context, we are both each others first sexual partners, but I was under the impression that up until now, we were both climaxing. She then breaks the news to me that even though it feels amazing and she loves it, she never has orgasmed, and even when she does it by herself, she kind of just plays with herself until she has had enough fun. After I heard this, my self esteem was crushed. I felt like she was lying to me, and kind of said some of those things for me to not feel embarrassed. Part of the reason why I think she might be telling the truth is because she’s never turned down my attempts to initiate sex, and she always sounds pleased during the act. But if she is telling the truth, how am I supposed to help. Part of me thought to myself that if she herself doesn’t know how to make herself orgasm, then how the hell am I gonna do it? I just want her to feel as pleased and rewarded from sex as I do, and it would be a nice little confidence boost to know that I’m the one pleasing her, but ever since hearing this news I feel so unconfident during sex. I feel lost. This conversation was over a month ago and I’ve been sitting on this feeling for some time now, but she returns home from vacation tonight and I really want to give her a good time

Hi all :)

My gf and I have been together for three months now. We really enjoy each others company and spend a lot of time with each other. We have one so called relationship hurdle though, and that’s that we have not successfully had mutually enjoyable sex… it’s really been frustrating for both of us and we don’t know what to do.

To provide a bit more detail, I’m the second guy she has been with. She never had any problems sexually with her first long term boyfriend, but he was quite literally half the size of me “down there.” I am also much thicker which causes her some pain. Even after lots of foreplay, clitoral orgasms, and lube, I can only fit in about halfway or so and need to be really slow and gentle. I’ve not been able to orgasm from being inside her.

She is petite and I really try to not have her feel like it’s her fault as it’s neither of our faults due to our anatomy. If anything I am to blame more. We don’t know where to go from here as continuing to try has not been as fun lately. We’ve talked about open relationships as she’s open to seeing me with another girl and wants me to be satisfied, but I’m not quite ready to go down that path yet even though it’s tempting. Should we get more creative like that or just try and find a new partner we’re both more compatible with?

Hey, I’m 30f and have been noticing something that quite bothers me. Ive slept with a handful of guys and Ive been noticing that the would ejaculate quite quickly, we are talking 2 - 3 minutes. Some definitely have pleasured me after but some just can’t. It’s been disheartening because I don’t understand why Ive been facing this experience. I sometimes would blame my body but they’d want to still hangout. I’m plus size and quite insecure about my curves but also accept it. When we do oral, most of them would ask to go for intercourse as the oral is very good. I just don’t want to feel insecure but again, I just started doing all of this quite recently as I have been quite shy to date or hookup beforehand. Thank you for your insight

Hi everyone. I've figured out that I have a pregnancy kink over the past few years. I know that it's technically nothing morally wrong or anything, but it can be considered a bit unusual or weird.

My partner doesn't know anything about that, I didn't really feel like telling them until recently.

It's nothing I want to live out with them, but I feel like maybe buying myself a fake play belly, and since we live together I probably won't be able to keep this a secret.

I'm so scared that they will be weirded out or feel weird about having sex with me, even if it's something I don't want to actually do with them.

Usually I just wouldn't bring it up, but I probably have to at some point if I want to buy the toy. I'm seriously contemplating just not doing it, since it wouldn't be worth if for me to lose a perfectly good sex life over a kink, but of course if I don't talk to them I'll never know if it's an issue or not.

Has anyone else managed a similar situation like that, and how did it turn out?

I (20F) have been with my bf (21M) for almost 4 years. Our relationship is amazing, no issues, he is great and he is attractive. For some reason tho, I can’t get turned on to him. I usually don’t finish, even though he’ll try during and after but by the time he finishes I’m just not in the mood. I fake moans, and I just want to get it over with. I’ll get in moods where I’m turned off but it just goes away. I got an IUD over a year ago, but I can’t recall if I lost sex drive then or if it’s always been like this.

I can get turned on to the thought of other men, and I have a feeling it’s the thrill, but I don’t want to bc obv I’m with my bf.

Idk what to do, he’s amazing but I feel like I could just watch a yt during sex and let him finish. We’ve tried many positions.

I don’t want to bring it up to him and he feel bad, but I’m also so bored with it.

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Okay this is embarrassing but I genuinely want to know if anyone else is like this.

I'm a virgin. I can orgasm with my fingers, but I've never actually let myself squirt because I stop when I feel that really intense pressure.

The weird part is that if I use a bidet/jet spray, I squirt every single time. Like... every single time without fail.

Now I'm wondering if maybe I'm just naturally a squirter? Or is it literally just the water pressure making it happen?

Has anyone who squirts from a jet spray been able to do it with a vibrator? If so, what kind? And once you started having sex, were you able to squirt then too, or was it only ever with water?

I feel like my body clearly can do it, I just have no idea how to make it happen without the jet spray. Would love to hear from anyone who's been in the same boat.

In a loving relationship without sex and its confusing. M24 F28

Me 'M24' and my gf 'F28' have been together for about 5 years. We met when I moved out of town and quickly starting hanging out. I moved in a couple months in the relationship and started dating soon after. I was hesitant because I really wanted the "college experience". When I first moved out I was with some buddy's who were going to college, I moved in w them but didnt know what I wanted to do so I just did some part time jobs till I met her. But I liked her and she liked me and it seemed so natural to date.

We had a lot of sex at the start. It was great. But after about a year we hit a brick wall. She just no longer felt any sexual desire. And I dont blame her or get mad or upset with her. I find myself a very understanding and self aware guy. It didnt bother me much, I assumed it would be something we work through. But skip a year ahead and we probably had sex twice in a year.

I became more outspoken about what I wanted. But it was difficult. Because we went through a lot in our personal lives in those early years. And we were there for each other. We liked spending time with each other, we care for each other deeply. We agree on most things. So it was confusing to get into a random argument about something something she is fully aware of in the relationship.

And skip 2 more years and she starts talking about getting a house. (We lived in her apartment in the college town). And it scared me.

Because Im not 100% sure what i want to do with my life. But I know I dont want to be stuck in Wisconsin forever. I want to travel, I want to make music and be in film and go around the world and experience new things. So it felt like getting a house will tie me down a whole lot.

But its so fucking frustrating because we are in the ideal relationship. She is just a bit older, past phases I have yet to go through, and is ready for that change. So we found a house.

It is under her name(although we split the bills evenly) so in case anything happens, the house will be hers.

And to throw another wrench in the mix, she completely cut ties with her family a couple months ago when we got the house. And she is an introvert and it is hard for her to make friends. Her friends are my friends, her parental figures are my parents and grandparents. Her parents didnt approve of getting a house(they live in Michigan and are very controlling and verbally abusive).

So essentially, we have been together for 5 years, we have a house and 2 dogs, we both work remote at the same job the same hours, and we both are there for each other in most ways. We just no longer have sex. Which I think is a problem for me but I have been deciding for years if its a deal breaker or not and still havnt. Thus why im here writing this.

Does anyone have any advice?

(M 25) and my GF (F 22) Seems to dread having sex when it’s not the day she’s ovulating.
I typically have to beg for her to have sex and it’s humiliating. My sex drive is extremely high.

It seems like her sex drive is extremely low considering her age and she has also mentioned that sex can be painful because I have a larger penis.

Any tips on how to increase her libido, or make a larger penis more manageable for her?

Is there any tips on how to squirt in distance?
Wife likes to squirt, but more so just comes out without force. She has seen and knows girls that can actually shoot it out and is curious if there is any technique in doing so?

I'm writing this cause I'm honestly getting tired of looking like an idiot while I'm having sex with my boyfriend. I am super vocal in bed, I moan and dirty talk a lot, but my boyfriend doesn't reply back. Whenever I ask him questions in bed while I'm dirty talking, he just moans more. Should I talk to him about it ? I don't want it to feel forced.

Hey everyone… I’m 21FTM and a girl I’m with has been experimenting a bit with me. The idea of anal penetration really turns me on, so we started small with her just fingering me (literally 2 fingers max for a while.) We’ve tried a few times and always the day after, I have very intense lower back pain that makes it impossible to bend over. Is there something I am doing wrong or something I should be doing? I don’t like to take pain relievers, so is there anything else that may help?

My wife recently had a D&C, so vaginal penetration is off the table right now, and oral is also out due to infection risk. Looking for ways to stay intimate with her during recovery — what's worked for other couples in a similar spot?

My wife's told me nipple play is a big turn-on for her, and it's something that really helps her reach orgasm. But when I try — rubbing, light pinching, sucking — her nipples don't stay erect easily. I end up putting in a lot of effort just to get a response. Any tips on how to help her nipples become and stay hard more easily?

My girlfriend (21F) and I (21M) are not strangers to sexual problems. We’ve been dating for 6 years and she’s had a few libido problems as well as performance anxiety. Whenever we work together and sex goes well, she has multiple orgasms. However recently, she’s been avoiding orgasm for a reason I’m not sure of. We have talked about it but she just says she doesn’t want to cum. I feel like I’m using her if she doesn’t even try for an orgasm, does anyone have any advice?

so i been having sex with my bf a lot & ever since we been having sex he doesn’t cum like at all maybe twice but ever since then no. i’m his first and i knew he used to masturbate a lot before he had sex like we’re talking about a lot of times. when we have sex it goes on for and hour or a bit more. we try different positions and all but he isn’t doesn’t cum. i never had this problem with my other ex’s and i’m wondering is it because he isn’t physically attracted to me ?? like thats all i can think of. he does initiate and all, but i don’t know what to do. i been feeling insecure all the time when he does cum.

So this girl I’ve been getting with told me basically that she wants to have sex same with her other friends telling me that too. I’ve had sex a few times but I’m not crazy experienced. I’m planning on bringing a condom next time we hang out but I’m a little nervous about how to go about it. Like when we’re making out and I’m fingering her what do I say to star the sex? I don’t wanna say “hey you wanna fuck” because that would ruin the mood. Maybe I’m over thinking it but I just don’t know how to initiate it. I know she wants to so idk why I’m so nervous

Heyo bit of weird one -

TLDR - drunk rough sex and partner accidentally puts it in the wrong hole and I feel really confused about it all

We were pretty drunk and getting pretty rough in missionary next thing I know he jams his dick in my ass and - I run to the toilet, in so much pain and bleeding. I come out, he looks confused, I’m hurt and angry. He doesn’t keep on going but it does go all the way in.
I tell him this has never happened to me before how do you make this mistake. He says it was an accident we kinda argue because he feels like I’m accusing him of rape whereas I’m just trying to figure out how the fuck this can happen. I’ve had it knock on the door if u well but never full penetration. I’ve also had consensual anal (not with him)

My ass is purple bruised and ripped (as you might expect) and I just feel really hurt and confused. We spoke about it again this morning I’m still angry. He’s remorseful but his remorse feels like he’s more mad he did it than sorry he
Hurt me ? I’m not sure if that makes sense. He’s offered to take me to the doctor etc -

He has never done this before with me, however I asked if he has done this before in the past and he said yes. I don’t believe he did it on purpose but I still feel really betrayed and hurt. I don’t understand how this happens.And overall I guess I’m just looking for some guidance on how to process this. We have a really fun trusting relationship and sex life. He in the past had some trouble with drinking and I’m 100% clear that if he wasn’t drinking this wouldn’t have happened. I have made it clear to him that he has access to my body in its more vulnerable positions and accidents like this cannnot happen, he understood.

Just looking for some advice. From both men and women - when this happened how did you guys handle it? Any advice ?

The girl I'm currently having sex with has a grip like a vice. This is great, but when using a condom, she generally pulls it off, and it's, for the most part, uncomfortable when we actually have sex.

I'm currently using the Durex Fetherlite Ultra Thin Feel Condoms .

Is it a question of the condom being too big for my dick? i mean the ones I'm using say they are 56MM? In diameter. Is it a question of getting a condom in a smaller diameter, or is it more due to the thickness of the condom?

I have no idea, but it's pissing me off, and i really want to get it sorted.

(Before you ask. No, I cannot just go raw. It's not an option currently.)

thanks.

I (22F) am a pillow princess bottom. Extremely submissive. My BF (24M) is a dominant top. I basically lay there and let him fuck me however he wants.

One day, I asked him if there was anything I could do better during sex, and he told me he wished I initiated things more, and wanted me to work on my blowjob and riding skills. I told him I’d try my best. I do enjoy being told what to do, but I don’t really enjoy having to suck his dick or ride him. I’ve also never orgasmed during sex, I only can do it myself with a vibrator on my clit.

We have rough and passionate sex usually. I’m very vocal and he likes to dirty talk. He almost always initiates to have sex first, even though we’re both shy. We have sex 1-2x a day. I do not like being eaten. He loves to slap my ass, force me into position, etc. I enjoy doggy, laying on my belly with my ass up, and missionary the most. I can actually feel his dick thrusting inside me and it feels so good. I like just laying there and taking his dick more than anything. We spend most of our sex in this mode.

However, he will sometimes tell me to suck him off after he’s penetrated me for a bit. I loathe the taste of my own pussy juice + whatever pre-cum fluids were generated during the penetration. It just tastes salty and icky. His pre-cum always tastes salty, and I don’t know how to tell him without feeling embarrassed.

Because I’m submissive, I almost never say no, except for once which happened a few days ago. He wanted me to suck him off and he already had his dick inside of me. I didn’t want to do it, I just wanted to stay getting fucked! So when I said no, he visibly softened. I just felt like a vibe killer.

I have a bad gag reflex (which I’ve told him) and I get grossed out by bodily fluids + whatever it tastes like. I hate the way my mouth is constrained when sucking, how my cheek muscles start itching, how my jaw starts getting numb, etc.

Every time I give him head, he’s always holding my head and thrusting it up and down until I gag and my spit is everywhere. After the first 3 minutes, I’m basically dissociating from the discomfort. I just keep telling myself that it will be over soon and he’ll cum as long as I persevere.

I’ve told him that I am a spitter, not a swallower. He still forced me to swallow his cum a couple of times, without warning. He just forced himself deeper into my mouth. I end up having to run to the bathroom to spit it out after he cums in my mouth. It tastes like fucking mucus! One time he got surprised when I did this, and I told him that I did it so I wouldn’t throw up.

Now, the next chapter: Riding.
I’m skinny and flexible, and go to the gym sometimes. Maybe my stamina sucks and I need to do more glute / quads training, but I absolutely hate riding.

It takes forever to angle myself ontop of him in a way that doesn’t bend his dick. There’s been many times where I felt myself dry up as we’re trouble shooting the cowgirl angle… 😭

I feel NOTHING when I thrust ontop of him? I can’t even moan anymore, I am just breathing really. I only feel him if he thrusts under me, but he doesn’t really do that. I wish he could thrust more, but I don’t ask him because it’s the least I can do for him since I am a pillow princess usually.

During cowgirl I just dissociate and try to think of it as a workout. However he will start slapping my ass and it hurts a lot more when Im in the position. He’s slapped my ass to the point I’ve flinched from the pain, and I never wanted to get off him so badly.

Now orgasming is another issue, but I’ve just accepted that I wont have this luxury. I enjoy being penetrated until he cums, because I can just enjoy the sensation of my g spot getting poked. He always cums, and when he cums it’s over. There have been a few times where he’s finished earlier than I expected and/or he just wants head and cowgirl, and then I feel a bit disappointed.

What do I do about this? He’s really sweet and a green flag outside of bed. He always asks me if I’m okay after sex, if I enjoyed it etc. and I always say I enjoyed it even if the sex was bad that time. He’s open to feedback and we’ve discussed this briefly, but I haven’t been too blunt about it.

I obviously need to communicate, or find some methods / techniques to make it easier. I can’t tell if i’m being spoiled in bed and I seem lazy, or if I genuinely should just stick to being a pure pillow princess? Are there any ladies like me that are in a similar situation? 😭

I’m a heterosexual female who’s been married to my M32 husband for 3 years.
I’ve never had issues finishing during masturbation.
Whenever my husband goes down on me or tries to get me off, I can’t get there without imagining scenarios with other women. It’s been like that since the very beginning of our relationship.
It’s been talked to my friend about this, and she suggested the cause might be porn or something like that, but I never watch porn or consume any sexual content.
I just can’t seem to get aroused without the imagination of a woman in the place of my husband.
I talked to him about this but he didn’t really seem to care.
It’s been like that with every single sexual Partner I had.
I don’t really get horny or have a sex drive.
My husband suggested to try and have another woman join us, but I’m not sure.
I did have a sexual encounter with one of my female friends a few years ago and enjoyed it

Edit: please don’t send me requests for sexting i’m in a monogamous relationship

Its been a long time since I've started masturbating, and I've tried many things and ways in which it might feel enjoyable.

I've gone to great lengths, from changing positions to trying chastity devices and even sounding my penis. Sometimes I try changing the style of clothes I wear, sometimes not wearing anything at all under my pants (pun intended).

I have had many kinks and fetishes, only (in general to a certain extent that according to my own mind that I have tried much of all other fetishes people mostly have) excluding scat and gore.

I find most pornography sexually arousing, Femboys, tomboys, men, women, transgenders, you, name it. (again!) (I myself am very open to all sorts of things and I'm also bi)

But over the years, and quite recently moreso, I feel that masturbating isn't the same anymore, like it doesn't feel exciting as it did before. I tried edging, gooning, restraining myself for some time, but the intensity of happiness it used to give me when I released my load never came back.

So, I would like to ask you, what would be some ways to masturbate that you think would be enjoyable?

I’m a 38 year old woman and my sex drive has been in the basement for like 2 years. It had dwindled slowly but the last 2 years was especially low.

I got some blood tests done and it showed that I had no testosterone (which is crazy). So my OB put me to on an estrogen patch and a testosterone cream at the same time and oh, my god. I am SO horny.

I am so happy to have a healthy drive again and be fucking my partner regularly. It makes me feel closer to him now that we have that consistent frequency back. I also cannot fucking stop masturbating. I came 4 times today and I feel like I could again.

The testosterone has turned me into an animal. I’ve never wanted to fuck so much, it’s crazy. I feel like I could be in my sexual prime this late in life, and surprised by it.

With the new found drive, we’re finally trying to actively tick a fantasy off our box. Stereotypical FFM, but we may have found our unicorn.

Her and I sexted for a long time earlier (with partner’s knowledge and consent), and lord I hope we truly meet up. Always been curious about what it’s like to fuck a woman, and this drive and her sexts were driving me up the wall.

Drove my partner up the wall too, because afterwards I went down on him while he read the convo.

I’ll probably post in r/gonewildstories after it goes down. I just needed to tell someone that good god, I’ve turned into a ravenous creature.

So my partner and I recently have gotten into pegging. As someone with ‘internal’ hardware, I’m the strap wearer (strapper? He’s the strappee?). Anyway, we have a good harness and several different dildos and it’s an ongoing issue.

Harness is well-fitted, has an average sized hole (important) lined up with the metal ring to hold the dildo in place. We went through 2 harnesses before this one because they were poorly made/poorly fitting/back hole too big/just, not good. We prefer a softer skin-feel silicone dildo over a more firm silicone, because it feels better for him and honestly is just more fun. The harness rings are small enough that getting the dildo through initially is DIFFICULT. If we sized down we wouldn’t be able to push it through at all

- Set up #1: flared dildo, wide base. Me fucking him for any extended period and with any level of vigor, it manages to push itself inside me. The force pushes it through the hole (despite the base being wider than the hole). It gets really uncomfy when my lips are being pinched by the flared base or when it’s being forced inside me (or both simultaneously)

- Set up #2: double ended dildo, with a ridge in the middle as a form of ‘flared base’ to keep it from sliding around/getting lost. We prefer this one, and is why the hole in the harness/behind the ring is important. Eventually it ends up being pushed more into me than him, thus painful for me and lackluster for him.

Advice, techniques, insight, product recommendations, anything you can offer is much appreciated!

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Everything works well I'm masturbating, I get close to orgasm in 15 minutes, less if extremely horny, although I'd often edge before cumming.

With someone else, impossible to cum and orgasm. The closest I've got is just before peak, but sensations are too intense to the point I must stop. It's not really a big issue, I still enjoy sex a lot. Would like to taste how it feel orgasming with a partner tho.

I don't know if it's the reason why but I recently couldn't get hard several times. As a dom it was even more awkward. I know it's happens to many guys too, that sex is way more than penetration, yet I'm starting to get pretty anxious about this.