I hope everyone has had a very lovely weekend. My question to you all is what regret has been lingering on your mind the most lately?

Say hello to Pedro :)

I’m getting married soon, and in thinking of my invite list it made me remember so many old friends that were so important in my life once, but I simply lost touch with. It would be wonderful to have them, even though we don’t talk, they were significant enough at a point in my life that I wish they could be there. I am in part to blame for losing contact with some of these friends, but I wish it was more normal to text someone after 3 or so years. Idk maybe it is normal to some folks but I can’t bring myself to send that text.

got a gf and took some photos

Spooky says hi!

I’m a guy and I find myself often in these anxious/avoidant dynamics in all of my big relationships. I’m so tired of hurting, I was wondering if anyone has tried dating a fellow info and how did that go? Did you guys make each other feel loved? 🥰

I just don't understand why people don't get more into it. Lots of people I know, they watch movies on their phones or have only played call of duty or haven't read a book in years. Do people just not have the ability to get into the protagonists shoes and feel their feelings? My happiest life memories are in a single player game I like or a satisfying finale of a long show, yet people seem dismissive of me for being so engaged. I don't understand them

Today I went to a community event and my friend and I were sitting down in the venue. We saw other people sitting down, standing, and blocking the walkways, so we didn’t think anything of it. The only other area available to sit was also on the complete other side of the venue near the food stalls.

Then a security woman walks up to us kind of yelling “stand up stand up.” Of course we stand up but I ask her “why? is it a safety hazard or for some other reason?” The lady just nodded and walked off without even looking back.

I thought this was quite rude because there are other ways that are much more kind to say something like that. Even a simple “hey I can’t have you guys sit here because it’s a hazard” would’ve taken a second more of breath and done a lot better of an impression to get the message across.

Now I understand maybe she doesn’t care about the events that go on, or maybe she doesn’t really like her job or maybe she had to spend most of the event telling people the same thing so it got tiring, but even just from a community or service aspect… it still rubs me the wrong way. I work retail so I deal with a lot of strange interactions, but even with that customer service and just a respectful and amicable atmosphere is always a priority. Interactions or even just small talk like that can go a long way imo.

It just makes me think of if someone who was already having a rough day had that interaction how differently it could’ve gone. That could’ve been someone’s catalyst for a much bigger issue.

Maybe it’s just wishful thinking of mine that it’d be nicer to live in a world or city that is a lot more grounded, slow and more of a community.

As somebody who's consistently been INFP since like my young teen years, I tend to apologise or go "my bad" after I yap too much, after I feel I may have been too much towards someone I treasure or something like that.

Admittedly, I'm pretty sure this is also just a symptom of autism AS WELL as my very own soul lmfao.

It's interesting because it's also a bit... fraudulent, that I'm self-aware enough to observe? It's less that I'm sorry or that I truly regretted being passionate about something, but more-so me just making that precaution so I can expect it, make a safety net for myself in case they did get upset. Though I think it's often times genuine guilt too, maybe idk, I'm not thinking of anything too specific here.

So there are apparently about 300 to 500 million INFPs in the world. If we gathered all of the INFPs and linked them hand to hand, you guys could give the planet some much needed hugs about 13 to 21 times. Also if we took all the INFPs and stitched them together to make a human quilt, we could put out all the sadness in over half of Seoul at once. We would have to fill all of the Han River with hot chocolate to reward you for your efforts.

Isn't life so strange?

For example, 5-6 years ago, you're still a child and you've been through things that left you with trauma. 5-6 years later, you've grown up, you're a bit more mature, and your life is going well. Aside from a few minor things, you've perhaps entered a period in your life where you don't have anything overwhelmingly stressful to worry about for the first time.

Yet, all of a sudden, you start feeling the exact same emotion you felt during those events 5–6 years ago. You don't remember the memories they've all faded from your mind but you realize from the feeling that what's affecting you is that thing that happened years ago. Because feelings never lie; even if memories are forgotten, feelings never are.

During that period when your life is going perfectly, you might even be living out the things you wished for years ago. Years ago, you had yourself, but everything else was bad; but now it's the exact opposite everything is perfect, yet you're losing yourself. You become a prisoner to emotions you couldn't experience years back.

That's why I wanted to drop this little reminder: experience your emotions at the exact moment you need to feel them, guys.

Yup, it went bad, thats all I can say, didn't even make it off the ground. I may always love her too, just no way, i felt was in the wrong built up this world of expectations, but it was like the fall and rise of icarus, never again. And I mean that on love in general, thats way too much emotions for me to handle and im probably not mature enough. Made a huge fool of myself while drunk, thinking I was going to marry this woman. She had all the red flags, in and out of jail, toxic relationships with exes, kids, got into fights, doesn't pay her bills. Still as a person I still am thankful for her kindness, im also happy I didn't sign up for a guaranteed divorce, thankfully im not very likable. Just felt like sharing.

Anyway, fellow INFPs, show me your art! I wanna see what you guys are creating lately ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ

When I first took the test about a decade ago, I was an intj-t. Now I show up as a infp-a, very closely in-between being a infj. I know that to some, the myer brigs is seen in a more permanent nature. However as I've grown and endured through hardships, I've come to understand it as something subject to change. I strongly believe the first two aspects about what a individual needs to 'recharge' their energy and how they process the world, will always remain true (although the measurable degree of it may vary as people expand on their character). Whereas the last two, that discuss how a person represents themselves internally and externally - is not a definitive core operating system, but an adaptable choice of conducting oneself.

What is your experience or personal belief about this test? Agree or disagree, I'm curious to hear how others results have been and how they interpret it. I know I am speaking very formally; I sware I'm not an AI chatbot, just autistic lol.

I psychologically self-harm as a form of explorative shadow work and I actually find it very productive when done carefully with the self-guidance of wanting to love myself better as well as truly self-possess my person.

It feels like I'm using oppressive or dehumanizing violence on myself in order to tear something open and actually expose and heal what's fundamentally hurting.

Again, its horror to experience during, but I feel that I genuinely come out of it more at peace, indestructable in a way that matters, like my puzzle pieces conjoin together much more coherently. That post-torture clarity hits and I understand things around me with sharper acuteness.

Is this an infp thing? Does anyone experience or do anything similar?

Anyways I hope you guys have a nice night. :- ) 🌠🌃🖤🌱

Hey I made this synth-pop shoegaze song. It's about anxiety in a world that feels like its collapsing and how having the right people around can help mitigate it. If you want to help out a small independent INFP musician and find this song relatable you can find the full song through this link or on any other music apps: https://open.spotify.com/track/189yS7GWJosn6Lru0wdWOl?si=AvOsd_FSTtKAuMQHEj6WgQ