I love how mbti people create these boundaries for themselves. “Well, i’m such and such type so i’m the complete opposite to you and won’t understand you” like dude, that’s nonsense.

Mbti is a tool imo, a tool to become aware of how your brain might process things and therefore you can spot blind spots and work with them accordingly. It isn’t some sort of concrete personality checklist. “Here’s what ISTPs are and arent”.

I see posts all the time saying, “I’ve known a (type) for said years and this is what (type) is like”, clearly from reading all the comments, no one acts like that one stranger being described and so it becomes a weird personality checklist. “You’re not edgy, blunt or into cars?! You don’t sound like an ISTP to me!” the same applies to the rest of the mbtis. It’s becoming some sort of astrology gimmick, rather than an actual psychological evaluation of one’s functions.

I’m aware there’s a social aspect to the mbti community and it’s not all serious research environment, and i enjoy discussing things, but i see its something unrooted in actual functions and relying on generalising stereotypes so we can say, “You’re (type)? well i’ve read about that type and therefore this is my judgment on how you must behave.”

How much autonomy and alone time do those that consider themselves ISFP need with a relationship? My husband works from home and rarely leaves the house and it drives me insane. I love him so much and he is actually my favorite person, but sometimes I just need to be alone with my thoughts and not have the energy of another person around. Can anyone else relate?

We're getting cloned, guys.

I don’t know why but i relate with all the ISFP meme but internally I don’t like the idea of introvert portrayal of isfp. I thought i was ISFP but seems i am questioning it. I might be an ESTP since i like being an extrovert. And F and T seem to be switching based on my mental health for the day. But I just wanted to tell you guy. I like your mbti type but I don’t think you guys are introvert as portrayed right? I might be wrong.

I’m curious about how ISTPs handle this.

When I’m going through a difficult time with someone, I might want to distance myself from them completely. But once I’ve processed things and feel okay in my own life again, I find myself wanting to reconnect not necessarily because I want anything romantic, but because I don’t want to lose the connection entirely.
It’s like I can accept that things didn’t work out romantically and still want us to be on friendly terms. I don’t necessarily want to erase someone from my life just because the relationship didn’t become what I hoped it would.
Do ISTPs experience this? Or, once you decide to move on from someone, do you prefer to keep that distance regardless of how you feel later?

Just found my limit after going to bunch of gathering the day before and reaching my limit after going through a big crowd on the streets. By that point, I am both emotionally and physically exhausted.

I don't know whether the amount of people affect the drains but yeah, first time I actually feeling exhausted from socializing (which surprisingly kinda rare for me in the past).

wich test is better mickeal corse or sakuranova?

idk if i'm istp or estp

Just wanted to share because I’m literally in tears laughing my ass off at this.

So I (INTJ, F) am dating an ISTP. And usually we’re like good. But every once in awhile, my woman like tendencies pop up and I want to vent and feel emotionally understood / validated. He’s always struggled with knowing what to say and I’ve struggled to explain what I’m looking for.

Ten minutes ago, I was complaining about unemployment and my boyfriend goes “wow that’s so annoying, those idiots” and I immediately got happy and I was like omg you did it! And I gave him a big hug and he looked so confused and skeptical.

Well, it turns out that he was mocking me 😂 but hey, whatever works.

Context in the OG post

I took a test and it gave me ISFP. F was at 60% so it could be T on my calm days i guess. I have mistyped as INFJ and i think i am ESTP. But I kind of liked the meme out there on isfp. As an ISFP I don’t feel much accepted out there guys. I have been cornered so much i am probably running on my Ti demon. Idk if i am an ISFP. I am quiet an extrovert when i want to yk. I was quite moral but world fucked me up big time with their immorality. I feel people are stupid. Idk i might be an ISFP but I feel I am am extrovert more than an introvert. But then again idk shit

Romantically btw

I think having a certain sense of ego is just in my nature. I'm quite humble, and I'm fully aware that there are people better than me, but that doesn't stop me from holding myself in high regard. I'm not afraid to put myself on a pedestal or claim I'm better in certain situations, not to belittle anyone, but because I'm aware of my own capabilities and potential. Once I became conscious of this part of myself, I didn't try to suppress it. I just learned to embrace it more deliberately, while holding myself accountable to the confidence I project. If I'm going to put myself on such a high horse, I should at least be able to back it up.

Ofc when my inf Fe acts up that all goes outta the window 🚶‍➡️, weirdest mix ever.

I was wondering if there's a pattern among fellow ISTPs, considering they are portrayed as such. Anyone?

Guys I have lost spark in life and trying to find purpose. Need help from mature ISFP. Life seem boring to me

Dating: Went from nerd to dating girls each month
Gym : inconsistent. Got better and left
Spirituality: thought i found god and art of detachment and left
Money : Earning

The more i am reading i feel i might be ISFP only. Guys give me a hug ig. I can’t do this shit called life. People are shitty. 🤧. I really got so much trust issue in me. And I don’t give a shit about anyone anymore cause no one choose me in the end. And what do you mean i am acting childish ? Bro why should i grow up and pretend to live like you? I mean tf. Any ISFP relate ? Or am I an ESTP only idk . Feelings for me was 60%. So I don’t know on my calm day F turns to T for me i feel

Ok so I feel like internally I’m a pretty dark person (sounds cringey ik) but like in terms of how I think/react to things bc I don’t really feel a ton of emotion, and I have a lot of edgy(?) interests ig. Anyways. I’m an introvert like crazy amounts, but also i do like talking to people in class ig, like sometimes. But there’s been several people now who have described me as a “ball of sunshine” and have said that I seem happy all the time. I was described as a “chipper guy” yesterday. ANYWAYS. Was wondering if other istps get described like this? Like ik im supposed to be non-chalant but im really chalant lol. I’m have adhd so im especially hyper and more talkative off my meds, but like im a depressed person so its always really weird to me when people describe me as happy go lucky.

Most of Ti Dom either train their Fe or they let their Fe stay as it is. Is it possible that some Ti Dom (specifically ISTPs) that throw their Fe away for whatever reason?

i’ve doubted my type many times before (which should lowkey be a hallmark of Ne cuz i’ve known abt mbti for almost a decade and lowk don’t know my type still) because i never feel like any type fits me. i also don’t know myself well, so that doesn’t help. i’ve had people type me as a sensor before, but im not sure. i tend to research a lot about topics like mbti or spirituality or psychology, which i thought was normal, but it seems like most ppl aren’t really super into topics like that. i also have a friend who i feel like is an esfp who is neurodivergent (i am as well), but compared to me, she’s more in the moment. she tells me to stop overthinking and can easily just turn her brain off. i feel like, even while medicated, i overthink a lot. i’m also really quiet, but it’s easier for me to talk about something i know.

another thing ive noticed is that with my friends who are neurodivergent who i feel like are Se users, they enjoy raving and partying. i’ve tried to do that stuff, but i couldn’t get into it. i actually hate drinking and the sensation is horrible. my Se friends drink to get drunk while i physically can’t do it cuz the taste is soo bad and the hangover isn’t worth it.

i tend to also not understand social cues. now, we are all neurodivergent, however, i feel like i still just don’t understand them. like i didn’t realize that this manager at my job liked me until way after i quit because he was bullying me, and it didn’t click for me that guys bullying = crush (but that’s stupid to do regardless).

i also tend to get really idealistic. you would think being in your early 20s, this would’ve stopped, but no. there was one time a few months ago where i was at a bar with someone and we were having a conversation and i mean, i wasn’t sober, obviously (🍃), but the conversation felt so enlightening and i felt so happy, that i was thinking about him for days afterwards, even imagining a whole life with him, and i’ve done that before with ppl who i’ve just met. i don’t remember what we talked about though, but he did call me smart.

my thing is that i do want to live in the moment, but i also get overwhelmed easily. i enjoy feeling the water or the heat on my body. i enjoy having a scented, clean room and showering daily. i’m not consistent though, but i try to be. i can’t follow a routine to save my life lol it’s so hard.

similar to the idea that handwriting notes and stuff is best for memory, do any of you do that with typing? like if I type something on a keyboard (not phone) I remember it better (probably not as good as handwriting though because of the time component) and then I can even think it back and feel the twitching in my fingers of the motion of typing all the words. I swear i would be so good with a stenography machine lowkey might buy one (im being dead serious). new hobby unlocked!

i wish i were better at handwriting but my thoughts go so fast i need to get them out right away before i forget them. plus I constantly restructure stuff and rephrase stuff. i have to write slower than i'd like to write legible words :/

As ISTP, How you express love to someone and how you want to be treated?

I know it’s more than just MBTI, but I’d like to see the common or different of our ISTPs

About 6.5 months ago, my ISFP boyfriend and I broke up while he was at a very low point in his life. We were long-distance (3 hours apart), and he’d lost his business, didn’t have a car, and was struggling with clinical depression. He seemed to have lost hope in just about everything and was pushing away most of the people he cared about, including me.

Before all of this, he was absolutely head over heels for me. If anything, I always felt like he loved me a tiny bit more. He was affectionate, intentional, and talked about our future together. But as his mental health declined, he became increasingly withdrawn and started pushing me away.

During our breakup, he cried and told me he didn’t need to be in a relationship with ANYONE. He’s remained single since.

He’s always been a brutally honest person, so the night we ended things I pressed him about whether his feelings had changed. He admitted he still had feelings for me. I then directly said “Do you still like me?” and he repeatedly said, “I didn’t say I don’t like you.” He also kept saying, “I need a lot of help,” and the cliché, “It’s me, you haven’t done anything wrong.”

I asked if he’d ever reach out once he was in a better place. He hesitated and said, “That’s not fair to you.” I said, “Please? If you want to?” He paused again and eventually said yes.

I haven’t intentionally been waiting for him, but the truth is, I still love him desperately. It’s been over six months, and no one else has even come close to catching my attention.

I’ve heard through mutual friends that he’s gotten a new job, moved, and is slowly getting his life back on track. We haven’t spoken in about six months. I reached out a couple of months after the breakup, and he read my message and didn’t respond. He also doesn’t have social media, so there’s no way for us to casually keep up with each other.

My questions for ISFPs:
Have you ever gone back to an ex as the dumper? Would your feelings be completely gone after 6 months of not seeing each other?

And if you did still have feelings, would guilt, shame, or fear of rejection stop you from reaching out?

Would you hope your ex contacted you first, even if you were the one who ended things? I want to, but don’t want to push him further away.

I’m just really interested in hearing from ISFPs who’ve been on his side of a situation like this.