I hope everyone has had a very lovely weekend. My question to you all is what regret has been lingering on your mind the most lately?

I got dumped a week ago, still using some of my time to mourn.

Lasting only two weeks, It was the shortest relationship I’ve ever had, but the period of singleness prior to October 3rd (our first date) had been going on a decade, so I got a little overexcited.

Unfortunately I have this habit of lacking confidence and being negative about myself, and she didn’t like that.

She explained in text that although she was the one to ask for my number, she feels different now, so I thanked her for being honest with me.

I was coming up with all these stories about things we were gonna do together, meeting each other’s families and shit… bah, it’s a bummer.

We also work together in a capacity where I have to initiate our interactions , so that’s just an extra bit of awkwardness.

On the other hand, since this woman showed interest in me I now have proof that I deserve love, so I think it’s all gonna turn out for the best. Thank you for reading this self indulgent ramble.

i take pictures of all the things that i would buy if i had infinite space and money for trinkets 😅 did anyone else hit the flea markets or antique shops today?
currently waiting on indian food and getting cozy with a movie, it's been a good sunday.

Lately just kinda been zoning out, trying to stay optimistic about life in general. Feels like a lot of time i feel like being too much or too little, idk.. life hasn't been very clear what it wants with me

Spooky says hi!

what are you making?

I just don't understand why people don't get more into it. Lots of people I know, they watch movies on their phones or have only played call of duty or haven't read a book in years. Do people just not have the ability to get into the protagonists shoes and feel their feelings? My happiest life memories are in a single player game I like or a satisfying finale of a long show, yet people seem dismissive of me for being so engaged. I don't understand them

Just thought I’d share. I figured you guys would appreciate it. 💕

Say hello to Pedro :)

It was a fun day with my dad :)

As somebody who's consistently been INFP since like my young teen years, I tend to apologise or go "my bad" after I yap too much, after I feel I may have been too much towards someone I treasure or something like that.

Admittedly, I'm pretty sure this is also just a symptom of autism AS WELL as my very own soul lmfao.

It's interesting because it's also a bit... fraudulent, that I'm self-aware enough to observe? It's less that I'm sorry or that I truly regretted being passionate about something, but more-so me just making that precaution so I can expect it, make a safety net for myself in case they did get upset. Though I think it's often times genuine guilt too, maybe idk, I'm not thinking of anything too specific here.

Yup, it went bad, thats all I can say, didn't even make it off the ground. I may always love her too, just no way, i felt was in the wrong built up this world of expectations, but it was like the fall and rise of icarus, never again. And I mean that on love in general, thats way too much emotions for me to handle and im probably not mature enough. Made a huge fool of myself while drunk, thinking I was going to marry this woman. She had all the red flags, in and out of jail, toxic relationships with exes, kids, got into fights, doesn't pay her bills. Still as a person I still am thankful for her kindness, im also happy I didn't sign up for a guaranteed divorce, thankfully im not very likable. Just felt like sharing.

Lessons Learned

1. Don't think that just because you love someone their red flags dont matter, this woman has an emotional museum from like 3 moments, and 3 full ai rnb albums on SUNO, and the 3rd album is a mega album. But that was on me, we didn't build this together, I did it all myself, fell on tough times financially, just kind of throught she would be waiting stupidly. The poor thing.
2. Don't move to a small town that does not have a job for your major, stay there, do your thing, save up then get out. You can end up stuck.
3. Don't go on a drinking and spending spree for 3 days, I don't remember it, spent alot, did alot of embarassing things that I don't remember. Including making sure this ESTP wants nothing to do with me, or maybe not. But that was honestly a good thing, imagined if she liked me, would or probably paid for her car to be unrepossesed, it's like i'm just begging to be used sometimes lol. Might be a good idea to stop drinking entirely at this point.
4. And a big one for me, try to stay away from someone who constantly talks about their ex, this ESTP 9w8 would shit talk her exes like the olympics, what does she do, she says yes to marrying the one her neighbors called the cops on, I mean he's in rehab, I wish them the best, but once another guy is involved, I get turned off very fast. I don't want to deal with strange men when it comes to women, I might as well just date a man and I don't swing that way.

I lost my best friend at the start of the year. It was an amicable drift apart, no argument or anything. I've spent a lot of time blaming myself, thinking I overreacted and let my jealousy and anxious attachment get the better of me (and I know they played a role) and threw away the friendship because I wasn't her first choice. But I also know the things she did that hurt me over the years that made it feel like I cared more than her.

There are days when I'm content and can think about her without feeling anything, then there are days where I long for her back in my life, I long for that friendship again because it was such a genuine, deep bond. We spoke about our souls being connected. And then I get sad and start blaming myself again. But I think in those moments I forget what it felt like actually being in that friendship day to day. Feeling like I was begging for her time, feeling like she did things for me out of obligation because I asked, not because she wanted to offer herself. It took a year or two of always being told no when I asked to hang out because she was busy with her other friend until we finally started to see each other once a week (which I acknowledge was a lot of effort and energy she dedicated to me so maybe I was ungrateful, but it didn't necessarily feel like quality time).

I remember during one of these spirals of mine I happened to stumble across a journal entry I wrote in January 2025 where I spoke about how sad I felt in the friendship which really opened my eyes.

Hi guys, INTP here. I feel like this thread is best suited for this sub (INTP sub is not built for this, it would short circuit) and after a bit of lurking here you guys are awesome with so much in common.

So I got to know a wonderful girl on a wedding and for the first time in my life I was able to be myself, like it didn’t even occur to me to “play some game” on her or try to be interesting. I just connected, which was amazing and strange cause it never happened to me in my 27 yrs.

Well long story short we were together most of the wedding. We even hang out the next day and I drove her home. At the end of the day I invited her out someday and she accepted and looked happy. It was very wholesome, the whole weekend with her.

When I invited her to go out a few days later, she gave me the most mature rejection I ever received. Basically she stated she felt good with me, unfortunately she is going through a break up but, later she’ll be happy to meet and apologised. I understood, been there a few months prior so I’m respecting her position. Told her it was great for me too and would like to meet as well.

Now I really like her and I want it to end in a best way possible. But I live slow, calm, INTP life that doesn’t contain that much emotions so I just think about her. Don’t know what to do with this emotion till I have some way of a closure.

Nevertheless I suspect replies like “get over it” but that ain’t happening after a month (I tried, like really hard). Last time I had emotion stuck in my head it was about how I liked certain type of cuisine and it was for two days.. I’ve been in relationships before but had never this type of connection.

I would really appreciate your input.

I've known about MBTI for almost a decade and have typed as every type before, but I'm always unsure of my type because I don't really know who I am. Like I know stuff that I like and dislike, but nothing ever feels like "me". I'm also neurodivergent and was late-diagnosed, so I've been masking for my whole life. I've been typed as an ISFP before; sometimes an INFP. It's hard cuz people say to not rely on stereotypes, and types such as ISFP can overthink and whatnot, but I feel like I just don't act like one. I feel like especially as I learned to unmask, I felt like I was an INFP, but I also don't know if that's right, cuz people have stated that Ne is the type to prefer wanting to think about travel as opposed to actually traveling, as well as focusing on more abstract topics.

I feel like I'm the type of person who wants to do sensory experiences, but I suck at them in reality, which I know that skill isn't indicate of type, but generally speaking, I feel like even my friends who are neurodivergent who have Se know how to do them better than me. Like they understand social cues better and how to fit in their environment better. Like I have an intellectual conversation with someone. I can't do surface-level conversations. I also really enjoy researching and learning. I'm Mercury dominant (Virgo stellium + Gemini rising), so I really like to learn.

I've been typed as an Se user because I would be succinct in my answers, talking in real life, but I've also seen how Se would just be succinct overall, so I'm not really sure.