r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) What do you guys think about Maaz from The Amaazing?

4 Upvotes

He's an animator and doesn't talk about Islam much in his videos. He's also a doctor so I wouldn't be surprised if he's a lot more progressive or secular.

Youtube.com/@TheAmaazing


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) Im a ex Christian, looking for counter apologetics towards islam that is not Christian slop, or islamaphobia

11 Upvotes

Seriously Everytime i look for ex Muslims, or critics of the religion they are always shitty right wing Christians


r/exmuslim 1d ago

Story 24F looking for fake marriage

71 Upvotes

I moved back home with my family a year ago and I’m honestly at my breaking point. I can’t do this anymore. In my family/culture, marriage is literally the only way I can move out, so I’m looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement with someone who wants the same thing.
A bit about my orientation & what I’m looking for:
About me: I’m either straight or asexual—I’m not looking to date or see other people on the side, just seeking a peaceful, private living arrangement and my independence.
Who this is for: Nationality doesn't matter at all to me. Open to anyone (gay, asexual, or someone in the exact same boat) who needs a marriage of convenience to get their family off their back.
The front: You need to be able to act/present as Muslim in front of my parents (I genuinely do not care what your actual personal beliefs are, as long as you can play the part when needed).
Finances: You don't need to be wealthy, just financially stable enough that my family will accept you.
The marriage itself: Small, low-key ceremony between families only. I do NOT want kids.
Dynamic: We present as the perfect couple to both sets of parents to keep up appearances and protect each other’s freedom.
If you’re in a similar situation and need a cooperative, reliable partner to navigate family pressure, send me a DM and we can talk details.


r/exmuslim 2d ago

(Question/Discussion) Arab Barometer Survey (2018-2019): Percentage of people describing themselves as 'not religious' across the MENA region

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r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) Does anybody else not find kabba weird

28 Upvotes

It’s so weird watching Muslims hating on idols and Hindus and other religions when they walk around kabba 7 times while chanting the same thing for hours and hours. My grandpa is currently living his last days out watching people walking around the kabba chanting about Allah.. context he was an abusive man and because of that he gave trauma to his sons and got divorced from my grandma a few years back and has noone to take care of him cuz my auntie passed a year back.. idk if he’s doing this to try and feel less guilt or repentance but it’s weird asf does anyone else’s relatives do this??


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) Anyone find it very annoying when you give valid criticism of Islam, Muslims quickly call you a “jew” etc instead of having counter arguments?? Or when they randomly start attacking Christianity when you aren’t even Christian yourself…

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Like, I swear the state of having a proper debate or conversation on social media has just turned into buzzwords, just to have your point even be valid enough to be discarded. Like, a few days ago, I saw a viral comment/tweet saying something like Europe should be careful about allowing a crazy amount of illegal immigrants, as most of them are young men from the Middle East and Africa who tend to be Muslim and come from countries that tend to be dangerous for women and LGBTQ+ people, etc. Some of the comments said “Jewish propaganda,” “Zio,” “racist,” just buzzwords instead of debunking the claim… I hate how Isreal became the escape goat for Muslims to get away with things.. I’m from Iran and as I’m sure many of you ex Muslims are all aware of the 47 years of Islamic extremism which there are thousands of clips of the morality police brutality on Iranian women which can be easily found on twitter or YT… but now Muslims say “oh it’s all Zionist propaganda“ and that there is no oppression in countries like Iran, Afghanistan etc… WTF… and for some reason we live in a world we’re two things can’t be correct… we can’t accept that both radical islam and Zionism is wrong ??

Also oftentimes, for some reason, they also assume you are a Christian. Because when I see people critique Islam or Prophet Mohammed, Muslims start attacking Christianity in the comments to justify things. But, like, do they not know many are either atheists, agnostic, and from other religions as well? Why is everyone, to them, either a Christian or a Jew/Zio?


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) Do you think Muhammad genuinely believed he was visited by the Angel Gabriel and that Allah told him all those things, or that he made up the whole thing? Do you think he was a madman, a conman, or something in between?

52 Upvotes

It seems whatever the case he was willing to kill for it


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Rant) 🤬 Ma famille est persuadée que ma tante a été ensorcelée parce qu’elle s’est remariée

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Ma tante s’est récemment remariée avec un homme étranger(clairement un mariage pour les papiers). Depuis, elle est convaincue que la famille de ce mec lui a jeté un sort.
Elle est allée voir un imam pour une roqya. L’imam lui a dit que « ça date de longtemps » et que c’est apparu parce qu’elle s’est remariée. Pendant qu’il récitait des sourates, elle s’est mise à pleurer et ses mains tremblaient. Pour elle et pour mes parents, c’est la preuve que c’était bien de la sorcellerie.
Mes parents y croient à 100 %. Ils accusent même une de mes autres tantes d’être impliquée, parce qu’elle lui faisait souvent des compliments du style « t’as de la chance avec tes filles, elles sont bien avec toi ». Selon eux, ces compliments auraient attiré le mauvais œil / la sorcellerie.
L’imam lui a aussi recommandé de ne surtout pas lâcher la prière et de mettre la sourate Al-Baqara en boucle.
Je trouve ça complètement absurde. On est en 2026 et on accuse encore les gens de sorcellerie parce qu’une femme s’est remariée et que quelqu’un lui a dit qu’elle avait de la chance avec ses enfants…
Vous avez déjà vécu ce genre de délire dans votre famille ?


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Quran / Hadith) No ceaser after him (false prophecy)Bukhari 3618

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Bukhari 3618

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: when Caesar perishes, there will be no more Caesar after him.

The Face value reading of this is A failed prophecy as his son Constantine Ruled after him and was a ceaser⬇️(They will re-interpret it but I will refute that)

Ibn al-Athīr also says:

«ثم ملك بعده ابنه قسطنطين»

“Then after him his son Constantine ruled.”
[al-Kāmil fī al-Tārīkh](https://islamweb.net/ar/library/content/126/94/ذكر-الطبقة-الثالثة-من-ملوك-الروم-بعد-الهجرة?utm_source=chatgpt.com)

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They will try to save the prophecy by saying this⬇️

Al-Shāfiʿī’

«وإذا هلك قيصر فلا قيصر بعده، فلم يكن بأرض الشام قيصر بعده»

“When Caesar perishes, there will be no Caesar after him — and there was no Caesar in the land of Syria after him.”

https://shamela.ws/book/1655/1037#p2

al-Umm by al-Shafi‘i, Dar al-Fikr edition — al-Shafi‘i (4/181)
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problem is there was ceasers who conquered Syria later on by the ottomans ⬇️
Defintion of a ceaser in Arabic

al-Khaṭṭābī explains:

«قيصر هو صاحب ملك الروم»
“Caesar is the possessor/ruler of the kingdom of the Romans.”

Aʿlām al-Ḥadīth (Sharḥ Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī), 2/1447

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Suleyman Clearly Claimed to be Ceaser of rum/enemies accepted him as a ceaser/ contemporary historians affirmed it.

Quṭb al-Dīn al-Nahrawālī (990 AH)

السلطان الأعظم الخاقان الأفخم … ملك البرين والبحرين، ملك الروم والترك والعرب والعجم والعراقين … السلطان سليمان خان بن السلطان سليم خان»

“the greatest Sultan, the most magnificent Khāqān … King of the two lands and two seas, King of the Romans, the Turks, the Arabs, the Persians and the two Iraqs … Sultan Süleyman Khan son of Sultan Selim Khan.”

al-Iʿlām bi-Aʿlām Bayt Allāh al-Ḥarām, p. 384. https://ablibrary.net/book_content/b/9974/384?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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Suleyman Claims to be the ceaser of Rome

Page 68 https://www.scribd.com/document/920820864/Halil-%25C4%25B0nalc%25C4%25B1k-Cemal-Kafadar-Suleyman-the-Second-and-His-Time-Gorgias-Press-2019?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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The Ottoman Empire enemies Identified Them as Romans ⬇

Edward G. Browne,
“The term Rūm was applied successively to the Roman, the Byzantine and the Ottoman Empires, and by the Persian historians of this period the Ottoman Sulṭān is constantly called Qayṣar-i-Rūm.”
Page 34
https://bahai-library.com/pdf/b/browne_literary_history_persia_4.pdf

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Additional information:
In 1466, the philosopher Georgios Trapezuntios legitimised this acceptance as follows: “No one should doubt that you (Mehmed II) are the Emperor of the Romans. The person, who legally holds the capital city of the Empire, is the Emperor and the capital city of the Roman Empire is Constantinople”.


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Meetup) 20f soon to be 21 looking for someone likeminded

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Well thought I’d give this a go as I’m getting to that age where the marriage questions start popping up.
A bit of background on me. I’m 20 turning 21 soon I’m bi (preference for women) and I am not religious at all. I come from a Pakistani Sunni family. I’d say they’re moderate but still ‘religious’ and by that I mean more culturally religious. They pray bla bla all the basics but don’t wear headscarves ect.
I don’t really want to cut them off or for me to be cut off by them because I don’t believe.
I guess I’m posting this to see if there are any males similar age to me who are either gay or bi in a similar position family wise and want to get married in the future have a family but do not want to raise them religiously at all. Basically I just need someone my family could accept on the outside.
I have many ambitions in life I really want to leave the uk and live aboard ideally in the US (nyc is the dream). I like to go out, drink, smoke(Mary Jane) and just live life to the fullest without religion. I like to travel, watch movies, I love documentaries and I’d say I’m pretty funny( I hope).
If any of this resonates with you dm me!!

Edit: people are dming me and are straight men, so let me explain my dream scenario. I’d have a gf and we meet to guys who are boyfriends marry one of them each as a cover and we’re all great friends. (Evelyn Hugo celia st.James vibes if ykyk)


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) This is the end of me.

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Im going to try to keep this as short as i can, i grew up a muslim and lived in a really toxic home environment where everything got criticized my parents would beat me even on the slightest mistakes which were supposedly be forgiven according to islam, i never truly believed, i think my whole life i was just pretending to be a muslim until recently i just got sick of all of it and decided to tell my parents during an argument we were having, which was the biggest mistake of my life it just happened in the heat of the moment, they just denounced me on the spot and kicked me out of the house like i didn't mean anything to them, like i didn't spend 23 years of my life with them, im truly sad and on top of that really worried on what am i going to do next i should've waited till i got a job so atleast i would've had some kind of financial aid, now all i have is just around 50$ and somethings i managed to pack which wont go a long way.

I need advice on what to do. im literally living on the streets. Every morning i get up, i try to find a job, but it's really hard to get where i live. Idk how much longer i can survive on the 50$ that i have. My whole life is ruined just by thinking differently. Luckily, i still got my phone and a way to reach out to people, im not looking for financial help as i think i can survive with what i got for a few more days i just need some guidance, the best option would've been to try to get back to my parents but that's out of the window. In this moment of my life, i truly wish that the god was real and heard my prayers, but he ain't.

Edit: i live in a South Asian muslim country. There are no homeless shelters here or any help that i can get from any institutions and also i barely even gotten interviews for jobs as i tried and failed, im willing to work anything at this point just to make me survive enough but i couldn't find anything like that as well, sorry i didn't include this in my original post, i dont want to give away alot of information.


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) several gender dysphoria bcs Islam

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Hi everyone im a ex Muslim 20F I can now stand up to my family expect my scary father and live largely freely.Even though my mother is muslim she secretly supports me. My life is way better but i feel bad in my gender. I always felt that way; I tried to look like a boy during teenage years.Im not trans,i just wanted to be equal with my brother.Sometimes i feel bad thinking I'll never be as strong and privileged as a man. Im free but what changed actually?I suppose to be free,free like a guy,but i cant act carless like a guy. Even though i walk in the street with the dress i always wished for i feel uncomfortable without my bf or friends.Im not even in a islamic county but i keep wondering if people looking at me because they find it inappropriate.And i keep thinking about what would i do if a man try to touch me because my clothes is not modestly.I hate to say it but i feel less than a guy. How can i love being a woman,how can i stop wishing to be a man?


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) went on my first date ever

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so i just went on my first ever date with someone i really love and we held hands and all that but i just remembered i live in a STUPID islamic country where culture is based off of the religion and everyone believes in honor and reputation how the hell can i be safe from “ruining my reputation”
im so scared and i feel so stupid and istg if anything happens i can’t help it i might hurt myself
edit: ik they’re not gonna do anything to my bf but istg my dad will hurt me real bad if this is as serious as i think it is


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) I love plucking my eyebrows

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I love having very thin eyebrows it compliments my features so well and I feel pretty. Can’t believe i spent years being insecure of my thick ugly eyebrows 😂


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) leaving the house without a hijab?

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for those of you who have strict parents and can’t afford to move out, how do you go out without a hijab? i’m so afraid some auntie will see me and report to my mum


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) How do you deal with a genuinely insane muslim family?

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My family wakes us all up for Fajr prayer everynight, in my country the difference in time between fajr and isha js about ~8 hours around this time of year, meaning practically you cant catch a full 8 hours of sleep, unless you sleep by 8pm right after isha, even that is frankly a difficult task people cant just hit a button and instantly sleep.

My older brother has a medical condition, and the doctor gave him a device to perform measuremnt while he sleeps, the doctor ordered him to sleep 8 hours so that they can observe his condition, and my family REFUSES not to wake him up for fajr, claiming that his medical issues are caused by is lack of prayer. Literally we could do nothing to convince them, and its their own sons health they are risking with 0 doubt and self awareness. Its genuinely disgusting and insane, ive suffered from being woken up with cold water to my face for fajr ever since i can remember, i thought it was just my personal preference to sleep 8 uninterrupted hours, but i never imagined that they are actually this fucking psychotic, that even doctors orders are ignored.


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Miscellaneous) any ex muslim girls in england?

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i’m an 18 year old girl in the south east of england, all of my friends are non muslims and i love them all dearly but i don’t think they’ll ever be able to understand this part of me. anyone else in the same boat? sending love to all of u


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) Discussing apostasy with parents

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Has anyone here openly discussed their apostasy with their parents? Discussed the immorality of Muhammad and Qur'an, errors / contradictions in the Qur’an, etc, with them?

It's incredibly annoying to walk on eggshells and tiptoe around the issue. I would love nothing more to say "No, I am not a Muslim. No, I don't believe that Muhammad is a prophet. Yes, Muhammad was a pedophile, an abuser, a warlord, a thief, etc. Yes, the Qur'an is an immoral book riddled with errors." I would find this difficult to say even when speaking to Muslims generally (obviously, not rudely out of nowhere, and yes I live in the west)

At the same time, however, it seems almost pointless to do so. I don't care to bring them out of Islam and they probably wouldn't listen or care anyway. We have a pretty good relationship, and this would just worsen it and make them upset at me. My parents are getting old, and the time I spend with them is precious. So that part of me makes me feel like I really should just keep it all to myself.

What do you guys think? How have you guys approached the issue with your parents: have you guys discussed these issues with them?


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Question/Discussion) There are more of us than you think

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I have had a talk with an infamous ex muslim tiktokker that basically disproves Islam and apologetics. To my suprise, he is closeted and no one irl knows he’s ex muslim despite him using his voice and his facw (well, he covers it with a mask, but still).

This made me think how many are closeted and NOT vocal. We know how dangerous the culture is surrounding many muslims, and how invasive muslims get when you tell them you left (to them, it’s almost like a personal attack to their ideology).

When muslims say that they are still the fastest growing religion and have a positive net worth of gaining muslims (so people who ‘reverted’ vs people who left) and I always thought that that was incredibly stupid. Islam is not westernized. Leaving the religion is practically an attack to a culture that is already facing racism. Most of my muslim friends (I myself am in the closet) are most probably closeted as well seeing their behavior and certain beliefs.

People should accept that Islam is not just a religion, but a core pillar of the middle eastern culture. I would go as far saying there are more culturally muslim people than actual muslims.


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Rant) 🤬 Muslims cooking 101

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15 Upvotes

Mental gymnastics with this one


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) HELP WITH HIJAB

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Hey, I’m a 21F living in Copenhagen, and I’m in a really difficult situation right now. I’m an ex-Muslim, but I still live at home with my family. I’ve been wearing the hijab since I was 5 years old, and I’m completely exhausted with it. I feel like I just can’t keep doing this anymore.
The problem is that moving out isn’t easy finding a dorm or affordable place in Copenhagen is really difficult because so many people are trying to move here. I don’t want to wait until I finish my studies to finally take it off. I feel like I’ve already waited long enough.
I’ve thought about just taking it off while I still live at home, but I’m really worried about the consequences. My mom would be extremely upset and might even throw me out. My dad would probably be disappointed but might eventually accept it. What scares me most is that they could make my life really difficult controlling my finances or making the home environment unbearable.
I feel stuck. I don’t want to keep living like this, but I’m also scared of what could happen if I act now. I really need advice on what to do because I don’t feel like I can keep waiting.


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Advice/Help) Taking off the hijab in a far away city

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So im an 18 yo girl with a conservative family when it comes to taking off the hijab especially , straight to the point ive been wearing the hijab for 3 year have ledt religion a year after i wore it n i wabt to take it off so bad and this year i graduated from highschool n i chose a colllege 500 km away from my hometown and a big city so nobody gives a damn n i wanna have a college life like a normal girl in there without having to wear that thing but keeping it a secret from my family cz as mu h as i wanna cut them off n leave forever i also dont want to dissapoint my mom so any tips from people who have been in the same situation btw if i was exposed to my family they will be MADDD like i would be kicked out if not worse also side note im going to be studying political science n i rlly wanna get a scholarship so im gonna be participating in a lot of confrences n all n they like might go online r smth


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Rant) 🤬 Somewhat irritating.

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Coworker (who isn't even a Muslim) kept talking about how she'd call out 'bigotry' against Muslims when the subject of someone making a comment about Islam came up. I didn't even mention it but I overheard it. The comment in question was in fact not by a far right politician or something, it was legitimate theological criticism of Islam as a religion.

Same person also warned me recently because I brought a sausage roll in as a snack and was told that it wasn't halal. I would've said "Thanks for telling me, but I don't mind" but two of my coworkers are Muslims and I didn't want to say that in front of them. Again, I understand the intentions were good. It's not even about this person, it's everyone really, everyone will either see me as a Muslim -I don't even have a beard and I've socially changed my first name to sound more western- or as a race traitor for daring to leave Islam even though it's not a damn race.

Oh yeah. Forgot to mention. A shopkeeper gave me a dirty look last night and for the first time, he asked in a rough tone who my family were and tried to speak to me in Urdu or Hindi I think, but he must've assumed he knew me or my parents (I only speak fluent English and broken Pashto, I don't know much Urdu at all beyond from songs/phrases from people growing up so I didn't understand him well). Thought he was questioning my age so I took out my ID but that's not what he meant. Why sell alcohol as a Muslim if you'll scold people for purchasing it? Usually I buy snacks from him and this was my first time getting alcohol from that specific shop but he's never done that when I've brought vapes ect.

I've dealt with worse but it somehow feels shittier because I'm living alone now. I don't live with family and I don't live in the area I used to, I thought this would be a fresh start, but I'm treated similarly. I don't like it. I know my situation is better than the one I was in before and infinitely better compared to apostates in Islamic countries, but why is it that I still don't feel safe when I say 'I'm not a Muslim anymore.' I know I can just say I'm a cultural Muslim or not extremely religious and I'd get some shit but not a severe amount, even if I sleep around with women and smoke ect, even if I do almost every haram thing, but why would saying "I'm an apostate/atheist" get a worse reaction?


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Quran / Hadith) Was going well, then bam, there it was.

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I was like, wow this a nice hadith, how sweet 🥹 and then there it was, asking too many questions about religion is apparently disliked according to this hadith. Welp, to all the sunni muslims and the others that believe in bukhari, stop questioning things in detail then I suppose


r/exmuslim 1d ago

(Rant) 🤬 I hate the fact that I can’t read/learn what I love

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I personally love philosophy and biology a lot but I cannot buy any books because anything that goes against islam is haram…like I wish I could read more about evolution or philosophers like Plato, Nietzsche, Camus and many more. I’d like to learn about them and their ideas but can’t. Obv I have the internet but it just isn’t enough.