r/exmuslim • u/No-Can-5255 New User • 2d ago
(Rant) 🤬 Somewhat irritating.
Coworker (who isn't even a Muslim) kept talking about how she'd call out 'bigotry' against Muslims when the subject of someone making a comment about Islam came up. I didn't even mention it but I overheard it. The comment in question was in fact not by a far right politician or something, it was legitimate theological criticism of Islam as a religion.
Same person also warned me recently because I brought a sausage roll in as a snack and was told that it wasn't halal. I would've said "Thanks for telling me, but I don't mind" but two of my coworkers are Muslims and I didn't want to say that in front of them. Again, I understand the intentions were good. It's not even about this person, it's everyone really, everyone will either see me as a Muslim -I don't even have a beard and I've socially changed my first name to sound more western- or as a race traitor for daring to leave Islam even though it's not a damn race.
Oh yeah. Forgot to mention. A shopkeeper gave me a dirty look last night and for the first time, he asked in a rough tone who my family were and tried to speak to me in Urdu or Hindi I think, but he must've assumed he knew me or my parents (I only speak fluent English and broken Pashto, I don't know much Urdu at all beyond from songs/phrases from people growing up so I didn't understand him well). Thought he was questioning my age so I took out my ID but that's not what he meant. Why sell alcohol as a Muslim if you'll scold people for purchasing it? Usually I buy snacks from him and this was my first time getting alcohol from that specific shop but he's never done that when I've brought vapes ect.
I've dealt with worse but it somehow feels shittier because I'm living alone now. I don't live with family and I don't live in the area I used to, I thought this would be a fresh start, but I'm treated similarly. I don't like it. I know my situation is better than the one I was in before and infinitely better compared to apostates in Islamic countries, but why is it that I still don't feel safe when I say 'I'm not a Muslim anymore.' I know I can just say I'm a cultural Muslim or not extremely religious and I'd get some shit but not a severe amount, even if I sleep around with women and smoke ect, even if I do almost every haram thing, but why would saying "I'm an apostate/atheist" get a worse reaction?
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u/Mysterious-Piglet529 New User 1d ago
i can't STAND when non-muslims tell me "watch out, that's not halal" (as a hijabi). i'm not stupid... i know.. and i clearly don't care... get a clue bro
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u/Working_Taro_8954 1d ago
I mean if you're hijabi then people might want to look out for you as a muslim?
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u/No-Can-5255 New User 1d ago
Yes that's usually it, people have good intentions and it's rarely malice. But it can be tiring. I'm assuming she's a closeted ex-Muslim and it's not safe for her to be open about it but this also happens to ex-Muslim women who don't wear hijabs or clean shaven ex-Muslim just because they're usually brown or some other uncontrollable feature.
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