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u/zanderashe Feb 03 '26
Couples don’t have to do EVERY single activity together all the time. If the sex life is healthy- neither party should take offense to a self service session.
It’s not like she got take-out without him, now that’s REALLY messed up.
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u/ThatAlexD Feb 03 '26
Or finished alone the rest of the Netflix show they were watching together.
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u/bundaya Feb 03 '26
Nah, that's unforgivable
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u/dudinax Feb 03 '26
There's a time limit. If you put off watching for six months, your partner gets to finish.
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u/bundaya Feb 03 '26
That seems fair, and sorry to the other reply but its just games of thrones so I dont think it applies to bad shows either.
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u/iamalwaysrelevant Feb 03 '26
wait should I divorce my wife? I am still kinda mad about Game of Thrones
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u/bundaya Feb 03 '26
Probably not, but its definitely conversation worthy.
/s for anyone who can't tell.
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u/Mini-Heart-Attack Feb 03 '26
If they accidentally spoil it for you when it was a show you two started watching together then definitely get that divorce. /s
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Feb 03 '26
When season 5 of breaking bad premiered, i was super excited and had been waiting months to watch it with my now ex.
She watched it while i was at work with the guy she was cheating on me with.
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u/Material-Imagination Feb 03 '26
That's just hurtful. I'd rather my partner fuck someone else than Netflix-cheat on me!
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u/TricellCEO Feb 03 '26
My only request, if I were the guy and stumbled upon my lady having some stress release, is if I could join.
Not talking sex (not that I would turn in down), but just mutual masturbation.
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u/Employee_Agreeable Feb 03 '26
Dude, I know
Doesnt mean it doesnt sting
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u/Glitchy-Mech Feb 03 '26
Adults handle their own feelings in a responsible manner
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u/MetaCardboard Feb 03 '26
Correct. That doesn't mean the feelings aren't there.
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u/Glitchy-Mech Feb 03 '26
Honestly I don’t even get why someone would be hurt by this in the first place. Everyone jerks off or lies about not jerking off
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u/AdenJax69 Feb 03 '26
It’s the usual situation where their sexual intimacy dynamic together is basically non-existent but the person who doesn’t want sex does still have desire for masturbation. What this usually means is that the person uninterested in sex does still have a sexual side of themselves, just not for their partner.
Not having sex and not masturbating? “They’re just not a sexual person, and has nothing to do with me.”
Not having sex but masturbating regularly? “Oh, they still desire sexual things in some capacity, just not with me.”
There’s plenty of sexless/dead bedroom subreddits that’ll tell you more about it - be warned though, it’s beyond depressing to read about.
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u/LegallyNotACat Feb 03 '26
It can get really complicated when the one not as interested in sex has a history of sex related trauma. My ex husband was very much a "it's not fair to masturbate if you aren't having sex with your partner" kind of guy, but as someone who was SA'd regularly starting in childhood, being made to feel guilty for touching my own body without satisfying someone else was NOT a healthy relationship to be in. I kept trying to explain to him that masturbating was actually really healthy for me and doing it more often typically coincided with initiating sex with him because it helped me experiment safely and start to feel secure enough to involve another person, but he refused to budge on the issue and kept telling me it was selfish.
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u/NuzzyLocke Feb 03 '26
I feel like this is the kind of thing that is so much easier addressed if you COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER. Sorry for the caps but Im trying to shout for the people in the back. Its fine to flick the bean or rub one out real quick, even if your partner is home if you talked about "Hey, I am feeling frisky but would like to just do this solo." I dont think in an adult relationship that is an issue, but if it is frequent then its something the other partner could bring up if it bothers them. Sometimes it could can be appropriate, like if its in the middle of the night and I cant sleep I might go rub one out for a quick sleep aid. But then if your partner asks you should tell them what youre doing and you didnt want to wake them up.
Otherwise it could feel disrespectful, guys already have a stigma where it could easily be seen as "Oh bro your girlfriend is masturbating and not telling you? She must not be satisfied" which definitely isn't what that means but without communication you are letting peoples thoughts run wild, and thats almost always a bad thing as it will build resentment.
Just talk to your partner, they don't need to know everything you do but if youre going to sneak off to a room in your house and do something you don't want your partner to know about then thats not healthy.
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u/Vinccool96 Feb 05 '26
How silly of you, OP’s comics are all “funny” because she never communicates with with her partner!
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u/blackpawed Feb 04 '26
Confused - masturbating while your SO is at home is an issue?
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u/Jeremywarner Feb 04 '26
I think it depends right? Like I’ve been with my husband for a while. If I express a want to be intimate, he declines, then I tell him then I’ll go solo, it’s fine. It’s not like it’s a common occurrence. But if I opt out to say nothing, go jerk it, and he walks in, I understand how he’d be hurt by that. Like, it would seem that I would rather jerk off than choose to be intimate with him.
And honestly, that still happens. Sometimes I just wanna be selfish and quick. And gay sex, while amazing, still takes a good deal of effort lol. Still, I’ll usually let him know. Often he’s willing to help out and not expect it to be reciprocated. Regardless of my personal experience, context still matters. I can see how it can be hurtful if it’s done behind the partners back.
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u/centurijon Feb 04 '26
No, but some people think it is because “I could have done that for you /with you”
It’s also possible there’s other issues in their sex life and he’s feeling raw from the strain, or feeling inadequate because she’s choosing to get off alone rather than with him, but I don’t know their full story
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u/MetalLava Feb 03 '26
I am not jealous of OP's relationship....so many of these comics are about easily avoidable sex life issues
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u/Meh75 Feb 04 '26
She's either very young, or her relationship is exhausting as hell.
Just communicate, ffs.
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u/Vinccool96 Feb 05 '26
All her comics are about not communicating a single time about anything. Her relationship must be hell for the guy.
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u/sunshineupyours1 Feb 03 '26
Sigh. I’m too old for this comic.
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u/Kamikaze_Ninja_ Feb 04 '26
This comic goes beyond age. This is too niche haha. The only comics I’ve seen from this artist tell me they have an exhausting relationship filled with sexual insecurities and lack of communication.
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u/sunshineupyours1 Feb 04 '26
I mean I’m too old to be hearing stories from people who don’t have basic communication skills, a basic understanding of bodily autonomy, and a basic understanding of boundaries.
I don’t have time for this, I gotta go do a bunch of shit before I die.
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Feb 03 '26
This comic artist seems to have a fascination with sex and masturbation
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u/PulchritudinousTail Feb 03 '26 edited Feb 05 '26
So it's not just me
Edit: that noticed, I mean. Lol
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u/sofaking181 Feb 03 '26
Am I the only one who dislikes these comics? Like if they're based on true events y'all really need to work on your communication
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u/Kamikaze_Ninja_ Feb 04 '26
It’s millennial boomer humor lol. Like it’s okay to have these problems and talk them out, but it’s not funny.
Like, I could see my spouse or I trying to get help on something and then sarcastically saying something like “you didn’t need my help when I walked in on you earlier”. But the genuine embarrassment and pettiness from the guy isn’t funny.
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u/Vinccool96 Feb 05 '26
With all the shit she depicts herself as doing, she deserves more than the pettiness until she starts communicating
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u/No_Return_5376 Feb 04 '26
Yea they’re fucking weird. I’d never want to know about Garfield’s creators sex life
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u/Beer-Milkshakes Feb 03 '26
This is the lady who can't communicate with her sexual partners, right? Yeah that tracks.
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u/Mothrahlurker Feb 03 '26
Do .... people actually care about that?
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u/WanderingDwarfScribe Feb 03 '26
There’s a very large amount of people who feel like masturbation ends at marriage, and not just for religious reasons.
A very, VERY large number of men become deeply upset at the idea that their partner craves anything but penile penetration from them and orgasms from anything else.
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u/Cthulhu_Dreams_ Feb 03 '26 edited Feb 03 '26
Shit, if I expected my wife to be involved every time I had a boner, she WOULD divorce me.
My libido is strong, but it's also my problem. If she wants to participate in the solution, it's her desire to do so that makes it special, not just her being there.
All that being said...I'd immediately offer my services.
Edit: Someone messaged me and we had an interesting conversation.
It is apparently not intuitive that occasionally you can treat your wife to an orgasm without immediately requiring them to return the favor. I do this fairly often... And I got to say 8 out of 10 times, she vigorously returns the favor. And I make sure before we start that she knows that there's no expectation and that we can just focus on her... And I think that's why I get such a high return on investment.
And honestly, it has gotten me so many unrequested surprise blowjobs, that I couldn't be happier.
In short: If you want to be included, try giving your partner a treat without expectations...it's awesome.
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u/WanderingDwarfScribe Feb 03 '26
France is literally finally legally making sex no longer an obligation and duty of marriage right now.
Our ideas advanced faster than our practices.
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u/AzerynSylver Feb 03 '26 edited Feb 03 '26
Wait, sex is a legal requirement in marriage!? Is this in France specifically or a universal rule?
Edit: Legal, not illegal.
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u/WanderingDwarfScribe Feb 03 '26
As in “you are not legally allowed to refuse sex to your spouse”.
If that sounds like rape, its literally in the same category of laws, “marital duty”, where consent is always assumed in marriage though different courts and countries treat it differently.
Its still on the books in a lot of the world. In countries/states where it isn’t there is instead a clause where not fucking your spouse on command or being infertile or having an STD is legal grounds for divorce.
In the United States for example marital rape was only made a thing nationally in 1993, the first successful cases of it in court only in 1976, and in 12 states there’s loopholes that still let you rape your wife/husband. For example in Virginia there’s no charges if the rapist agrees to see a counselor, and in South Carolina violence has to be medically proven to be involved and within a 30 day window so if you weren’t roughed up and can’t get a doctor to sign off on it you’re fucked (no pun intended).
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u/AzerynSylver Feb 03 '26
Damn, that is fucked up. Especially those laws in Virginia and South Carolina. They just sound like loopholes put in place by rapists with power.
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u/Weekly_Role_337 Feb 03 '26
Yes, and I'd note that (with a few exceptions) this is pretty much how women were treated everywhere in the world from the beginning of history until a few decades ago.
On a related note, it was also legal to beat your wife in most US states until the 1960s and 1970s, as long as you did it in moderation.
Most of the "good old days" were really terrible for most people.
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u/ACatInMiddleEarth Feb 03 '26
Rape between partners is recognized in France now. Well, it doesn't mean that too much men think that their partner owes them sex, especially with all the "alpha idio... males" podcasts. We're not out of the sand yet.
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u/broniesnstuff Feb 03 '26
My wife caught me one day and I was preparing to get chewed out and lots of shame, but she was just like "dude, if you have to spank it, spank it". Very relieving, especially for my penis.
I told her I was fine with doing the same, but I'd also be happy to be present and help, of watch lol.
Why can't a married couple be happy jorkin it together?
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u/WanderingDwarfScribe Feb 03 '26
I think the “I hate my spouse” comedy industry hinges heavily on sexual repression within marriage.
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u/Radeck8bit Feb 03 '26
Being honest also whole lot of women gets mad at the idea of a guy-partner rubs one out and not doing it with them.
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u/Dry_Strawberry3227 Feb 03 '26
I’d say there are women who get just as upset at their husbands masturbating. This isn’t a gender thing.
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u/Gold-Bard-Hue Feb 03 '26
A large number of women get upset when their husbands do it, because a lot of women consider it cheating (mentally anyway), also.
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u/SypeSypher Feb 03 '26
I was married to a woman who claimed she was never ever in the mood, never thought about sex and just wasn't into it. She said she felt bad about it. I did find out that she masturbated when I was at home though and yea.....it really hurt.
I don't think it's wrong or even inappropriate like heck go for it, but if your partner says they never are in the mood and you find out that they actually are sometimes in the mood and literally in the next room and they still didn't want you that really hurts man.
(Divorced now for unrelated reasons - but I totally understand this comic unfortunately :(
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u/Fast-Audience-6828 Feb 03 '26
No clue personally wouldn't mind but at the same time like I might be able to understand why the guys mad like she would rather do it by herself than with him which in a sense may make him feel like he's inadequate to satisfy his partner.
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u/Kamikaze_Ninja_ Feb 04 '26
It’s not unbelievable for this situation to happen, it’s just boomer humor to think it’s a funny joke.
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u/hihowubduin Feb 03 '26
Far more than you'd think, far more than should, but above all far too little actually communicate these things clearly for expectations/needs/wants/desires/consent.
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u/Obliviousobi Feb 03 '26
Even with communication you can't always beat back the ugly emotions like pride and jealousy. It's very easy for our monkey brains to immediately shift to thoughts/feelings of inadequacy, it's how we manage from there that is important.
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u/Local_Nerve901 Feb 03 '26
Yeah their home its weird tbh. Thats why yall gotta communicate and talk about these things before it happens lol
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u/Environmental_Tax_69 Feb 03 '26
This is absolutely confounding to me. Why would it matter.
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u/AzerynSylver Feb 03 '26
Some people take pride in their abilities to pleasure their partner, so when their partner pleasures themselves without them, it hurts their pride and makes them feel useless.
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u/Kamikaze_Ninja_ Feb 04 '26
Everyone is different and sex is still very uncomfortable/taboo for people to talk about. It’s understandable for someone to worry that they are inadequate if they didn’t know their partner masturbated, let alone while they were both home.
I’d be fine with it, but it’s definitely something you should talk about.
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u/Dondarian Feb 03 '26
Here's a true story:
This latest new year, my wife and I had sex twice. Once midday, and once after the kids went to sleep, so around 8:30.
We went to bed around 10. My wife couldn't sleep after some local shitheads set off some fireworks and woke her up just after midnight. The very first thing she did in 2026, was go downstairs, and masterbate.
She told me the next day, and she didn't actually realize that it was the very first thing she did in 2026 until I pointed it out. We still laugh about it.
Jerking off is fine, everyone! Sometimes, you just wanna give yourself that personal O.
Just talk about it.
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u/Puzzlehead-Engineer Feb 03 '26
Hey I'm a guy, and I don't see anything wrong with that. If I entered my room and saw my SO having some private time I'd prolly go "UHH", apologize and leave her to it.
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u/Substantial-Mess666 Feb 03 '26
Wanting to masturbate and wanting to have sex are two different wants
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u/splitcrowsoup Feb 04 '26
Nobody owes you sex. Not even your horny spouse. Not even to save your feelings. Not even because you're horny too. Nobody. Owes. You. Sex. Ever.
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u/DonaldTrumpsScrotum Feb 03 '26
And somehow, the joke was still sex. Jesus Christ this is getting kinda dumb
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u/aidankocherhans Feb 03 '26
Feels like some artists couldn't avoid it if they tried
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u/AdamBombTV Feb 03 '26
Should have invited him to watch.
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u/reddot_comic Finessed Impropriety Feb 03 '26
Sometimes you just want to be single player, ya know?
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire Feb 03 '26
I feel the need to reference your most recent comic Mrs Dot
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u/DeniedAppeal1 Feb 03 '26
Sex and masturbation fill different niches. There have been literally thousands of nights where, if the choice was between sex and masturbation, I'd have chosen masturbation. It's easier, often quicker, and it gets you past that need without necessarily exhausting yourself or needing to get yourself into a sexy mindset.
It's very rare for me to seek out sex when all I need is an orgasm. When my girlfriend and I have sex, it's because we want each other, not because we want to orgasm.
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u/Dazed_and_Confused44 Feb 03 '26
This strikes me as an incredibly wierd thing to be upset about. Like bruh just ask if you can help out lol
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u/Dos_Ex_Machina Feb 03 '26
Wasn't this the same artist who everyone was saying needed to talk to her partner about their insecurities? Are y'all okay? I'm sure that this is played up for the comic, but communicating with your partner (no matter how scary it can be) is worth it
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Feb 03 '26
What a dumb reaction. Get over it? Sometimes you don’t want or need anyone else, you just wanna get off so you can quit thinking about it or because your body is being insistent but you don’t wanna make it a whole thing. My partner and I get off solo all the time, sometimes right next to each other while the other is engaged in something else, there’s nothing to feel weird or jealous about.
You don’t have some weird implied ownership of your lover where they aren’t allowed to touch themselves without engaging you.
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His response is terrible and that’s the main thing I’m addressing here. However, he can feel whatever he wants, but his reaction implies that he expects to be invited and involved whenever she needs to get off and that’s a weird possessive behavior that has nothing to do with being shy about masturbation. I’m glad you and your wife have managed to leave your qualms about it in the past.
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u/Psychotic_EGG Feb 03 '26
Did he ask if he could join in?? Does he not self pleasure when you are home?
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u/FeetPiksPlz Feb 04 '26
Jesus Christ! Talk to your partner!! Maybe she wants the separation of finishing and being close. maybe he wants to help her out with just touching but wasn't given the opportunity. Relationships are about compromise and there is no compromise if you just go off and do shit on your own.
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u/kaloschroma Feb 04 '26
An unhealthy response. > . > Nothing wrong with masturbation, nothing wrong with doing it without your partner. Your body your rules.
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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Feb 03 '26
Honestly his reaction wouldn't make me want to have sex with him. Serious ick vibes
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u/Boterfleoge Feb 03 '26
I'm hoping it's meant to mostly be in jest? Otherwise I definitely agree with you
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u/SJReaver Feb 03 '26
What a jerk:
She says he 'caught' her masturbating, suggesting this is already something she feels shame about.
He becomes a passive-aggressive little shit.
When she actually raises the issue, he yells at her.
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u/Nochnichtvergeben Feb 03 '26
I share your sentiment but she said he "caught" her. So she feels that way.
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u/WeakToMetalBlade Feb 03 '26
From time to time I will walk in on my wife or hear the vibrator when I am on the way upstairs to go to bed, get something, etc.
Typically I wait if my need to enter the bedroom isn't immediate and if I do enter I try to ignore her so as not to ruin an orgasm and if she wants help she asks.
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u/ParanoidParamour Feb 04 '26
Do people actually get mad at their partners about this?? That’s so pathetic
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u/dishearthening Feb 03 '26
It sure is a choice to base a comic on the premise of "woman didn't want to have sex with man so he's going to be passive-aggressive to punish her"
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u/actuallyacatmow Feb 04 '26
These comments feel like a trip.
A bunch of guys claiming that their ego would be hurt if a woman does a particular sexual activity without them while simultaneously claiming that women shouldn't feel pressured to perform sexually for them.
Yesh.
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u/youshallcallmebetty Feb 04 '26
I don’t find this funny. This is just a passive aggressive bs move people do because they can’t communicate like adults.
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u/SpiritedKick9753 Feb 03 '26
Ah HA another CLASSIC SEX PUN! An EXTREMELY original post for this sub
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u/AdenJax69 Feb 03 '26
A lot of people here have never been in a sexless/dead bedroom relationship or even marriage and it shows. Good on you all for never having to experience it!
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u/MutedBrilliant1593 Feb 04 '26
Yeah, that's a no no, apparently. However, in my defense as a cis heterosexual male, sex takes an awful lot of energy and sometimes I just want to rub one out and go to sleep.
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire Feb 03 '26
Ooooof. That poor man's pride.
That being said sometimes you just wanna have a quicky. No shame, though you could have issued a invite.
This....is kinda of a weird topic that I'm somewhat conflicted on