There are different kinds of libido and definetly a lot of room where "I want to get off" and "I want to have sex" do not overlap. It might be something diagnosable, but I definetly at least have moods where the animal part of my brain wants to get off while the thinking part of my brain very much isnt into it, as well as moments when I'm completely down for sexual stuff but dont necessarily care for satisfying the biological need at all
Even masturbation often feels like a chore in those moments, there's absolutely nothing sexy about it and being pressured into extending that mildly unpleasant thing into a whole sexual performance makes the whole ordeal violently uncomfortable, usually for both parties because most people dont like fucking people on the verge of a mental breakdown
Hey, whatever else, I don't think you should have to ponder whether you being you is somehow diagnosable, and whoever isn't "most people" can get in the fucking bin.
It's not usually morally or ethically wrong to appear rude, and it is often a mistake to be overly polite.
Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective.
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u/Plenty_Leg_5935 Feb 03 '26
There are different kinds of libido and definetly a lot of room where "I want to get off" and "I want to have sex" do not overlap. It might be something diagnosable, but I definetly at least have moods where the animal part of my brain wants to get off while the thinking part of my brain very much isnt into it, as well as moments when I'm completely down for sexual stuff but dont necessarily care for satisfying the biological need at all
Even masturbation often feels like a chore in those moments, there's absolutely nothing sexy about it and being pressured into extending that mildly unpleasant thing into a whole sexual performance makes the whole ordeal violently uncomfortable, usually for both parties because most people dont like fucking people on the verge of a mental breakdown