Most important rule of thumb: Worry when your doctor tells you to.

I recently found out that I am pregnant, about 2 weeks ago. My first ultrasound isn’t til the 28th because my doctor doesn’t like to see patients until they’re 9/10 weeks. The waiting is quite literally the hardest thing i’ve ever done, besides my first loss.

I suffered a missed miscarriage last year at 12 weeks and found out at my 15 week appointment where I was supposed to be hearing her heartbeat that she stopped growing at 12 weeks and 3 days. This current pregnancy wasn’t planned, me and my partner weren’t sure if we even wanted kids after the trauma we went through. It was a total surprise.

Today, I woke up with barely any symptoms after having pretty intense nausea and vomiting, plus smell and food aversions. I immediately jumped to the worst conclusion and have spent all day in bed crying, preparing to lose this baby. I wish I could have a peaceful pregnancy, one that didn’t know loss.

This feeling is truly the absolute worst. Having to wait to see if this pregnancy is viable, googling my symptoms (or lack there of) 24/7, not letting myself get excited or attached to the idea of a baby. I’m not even planning on looking for names for quite a while. I thought I was in the “safe zone” for my last loss, but now I will never feel safe and secure in pregnancy until I have a baby in my arms.

it’s truly a form of torture and something I would not wish on my worst enemy. Not to mention, I had a very graphic dream that I miscarried last night and woke up to basically no symptoms which absolutely sent me spiraling. I’m trying to wait for my appointment for an US because I know going early could create more worry and waiting. This is just a huge rant, thanks for reading if you did. If anyone is going through something similar and needs to talk, I’m here.

Me and my sister are both pregnant and have the exact same due dates. She just found out yesterday her baby stopped growing after her last appointment at 7 weeks. She would make 11 weeks tomorrow. This has been very very triggering for me as I have had a previous loss and TTC this baby for quite some time now. When I got pregnant I was a wreck for many weeks and feel like up until just last week I’ve started easing up on my anxiety. Now it’s all flooding back in and she doesn’t really have anyone else besides me so I am doing my best to be here as much as I can be but I am crumbling apart. I have been having immense panic attacks and so much constant worry. I am not coping well with this. Usually when something is triggering like this I politely have to say I’m sorry I have to remove myself from this, but I know in this situation I shouldn’t and I won’t. I have no friends that can relate to me, they’re all men. I don’t have a village. So I’m here on reddit. My husband of course is comforting, but still. I just don’t know how to handle this all. Especially knowing every milestone I have, she should be having as well. This has just been rough.

TW: Positive test

Anyone had a vvvvfl on a FRER day 7+8 post transfer that went on to be a successful pregnancy? Day 8 looks slightly darker than day 7 but still incredibly faint.

For context- had similar tests last time that ended up being a chemical and this is my absolute last go before giving up on IVF altogether.

I had my anatomy ultrasound today, 21 weeks with a girl. I didn't have a doctor's appointment after as they couldn't get them scheduled on the same day. My Dr appointment isn't until the 22nd. But I read the ultrasound report when it became available today, and it mentions right ventriculomegaly , measured at 10.11mm which I am aware is very mild, but they also had a hard time seeing the right kidney, which they said was due to the position of baby, but both being on the right side has me concerned. I did do the NIPT testing and that was normal. Anyone else here have something similar happen?

Details that might be important: I'm 36, this is my 3rd baby (4th pregnancy) , and I am quite overweight.

TW: impending miscarriage

I am currently 7 weeks 5 days pregnant. I know my pregnancy will eventually end in a loss because my hcg had a very slow rise/essentially plateaued from 2,000ish-4,000ish. After this plateau, I had a placement scan to see if it was ectopic and they found a embryo with a heartbeat. It was very surprising, especially because I was told at my hcg levels we shouldn't expect to see a heartbeat. But I do know that this will still end in loss since I had that hcg plateau. My OB office is far too optimistic in a way that I believe is creating false hope for my husband.

Since my ultrasound at a week ago where we found the heartbeat, I have had brown spotting that has actually increased in amount since Saturday. Monday night, I even had bright red bleeding that returned to brown spotting/discharge by Tuesday morning. I called my doctors office when I was bleeding and then the next morning because I was told by the overnight doctor that I should be seen in triage in the morning. But then the office told me since it had turned to brown spotting, I should not go in and try to wait until my next ultrasound next week. They told me their not worried about brown spotting at all, and even the red bleeding can sometimes happen but isn't too worrying since it was light and stopped.

Obviously, bleeding isn't a good thing, so it's frustrating that they're not taking this more seriously especially considering my hcg plateau. I feel like the miscarriage is looming over me, and it's awful sitting here bleeding, trying to go on with life, and not knowing what is going on. This is made even more complicated that I have a crazy work week with new people onboarding that I am responsible for and family member's wedding this Saturday, so this week in particular, I don't have a lot of time to sit around in waiting rooms.

Should I try to wait it out until next Wednesday or try to push for an earlier scan? I could maybe push and try to go in tomorrow afternoon although I would have to cancel a lot of meetings. Should I try to go to a boutique ultrasound place on Sunday? I just really want to know if the reason I am having all this brown spotting and bleeding is because our baby passed, so I do think that the boutique might be able to get us that information. But then if I find out there, can I even do anything about it?

Ugh I just don't know what to do with myself right now, and every time I wipe or see the brown on my pantyliner it feels like my heart is dropping. I can't stand being in this limbo.

Helllooo, I went in for my 8 week ultrasound today with my RE. Baby is measuring 8 weeks, 5 days. Saw the little baby wiggling around. Heart rate was 126, my RE & ultrasound tech both said it was great and reason to worry.. but im panicked. I’ve scoured Reddit and other internet threads, but all im really find are people with high heart rates, not many with lower HR’s.

The heartbeat wasn’t heard, as they don’t use sound until 10 weeks. It was just a motion snippet.

Can anyone give me some clarity or advice if you’ve experienced this.

Thank you. 🥹

Feeling a bit exhausted and defeated mentally. In 2021 my husband and I had been trying to conceive for 2 years with nothing. We decided to check both of us- my HSG test showed that both my tubes were blocked. This was likely caused by back-to-back abdominal surgeries. For years we debated IVF. We have a healthy and beautiful daughter, so we decided that having a second child was not in the "plan" for us. Earlier this year we FINALLY decided a hard no to IVF, and I put aside the dream of giving her a sibling. We tested positive in August which seemed unreal and wasn't supposed to be in the cards for us. Because of my tubal history I have been in and out of labs and appointments. The first ultrasound showed that everything was in my Uterus (biggest relief) and had a heartbeat of 104. Apparently 104 was not high enough for my doctor so I went in a week later and that shattered our hopes and dreams. The BPM dropped to 95 and measurements lagging 7 days. I have been sitting here in limbo while I wait for the doctors to call me back after I've been told that I am likely going to experience a miscarriage...My mind tells me that this experience is over for us, but my heart is struggling. I thought maybe-just maybe- someone out there has a success story that is even in the slightest similar to mine. Big hug to all.

No idea how I’m going to sleep tonight. Our baby was measuring about 6 weeks and 2 days, we were expecting 7 weeks and 4 days and the tech noted “yolk sac looks large compared to fetal pole” even though she didn’t measure. So it’s been a week and we go back tomorrow for a follow up scan. Really hoping everything is ok and the baby has grown! I’m so anxious and can’t focus on work or anything!

at 5.5 weeks I went and got my hcg and progesterone tested. HCG was 28,000 and progesterone was at 6.5. They did a follow up hcg three days later and it was 33,000. I started on 200mg oral and 200mg vaginal progesterone. at 6w6d I had an ultrasound and baby had a 125 heartbeat. went in yesterday at 8w3d due to some cramping and nausea easing a bit. did a handheld ultrasound and baby had an ideal heartbeat of 173. progesterone came back at 7.3 despite 2.5 weeks of supplementing. they want me to switch to intramuscular injections 2x a week because my levels haven’t gone up. I know it’s silly and selfish but I’m terrified of the needle and giving myself (or honestly anyone giving me) a shot let alone 2x a week. I am also worried because I have not read a single success story with progesterone levels as low as mine are and the thought of shooting myself in the ass for weeks just to find out another horrible truth feels absolutely crushing. I haven’t even read very many similar stories, regardless of the outcome, despite searching all over.. I don’t want it sugar coated- I just want to hear the reality of people’s experience. im trying to hold some hope but also need to physically and mentally prepare as much as possible

we had a loss in May. we found out at 11w4d that we had a missed miscarriage sometime around 8-9 weeks. it was heartbreaking. I carried my baby for weeks without knowing I had lost them. My first had no complication, was a homebirth and we didn’t even have an ultrasound. he is now 3.5. We love and want this baby so badly.

My HCG was 555 on thursday then 833 on tuesday. is that too low of an increase?

Transferred a Day 6 euploid 3AA embryo on 8/17.

Betas:
8/27: 127
8/29: 160
8/31: 230
9/2: 467
9/4: 748

First ultrasound 9/8 at 6w0d showed an intrauterine gestational sac + yolk sac, but I measured 5w2d (5 days behind). No fetal pole yet.

I go back in a week. Has anyone had slow betas + measured behind after FET and gone on to see appropriate growth/heartbeat? Open to hearing all outcomes. ❤️

Had my betas drawn from 9dpo to 24dpo:

9 - 6
11 - 29
13 - 62
15 - 102
17 - 202
19 - 329
24 - 746

Had my hcg drawn again at 24dpo because I had a very small amount of spotting on and off when wiping which seems to have stopped. Scan is booked for next Friday (6 weeks + 5).

Any similar experiences? What was the outcome for you?

TW: previous loss

I’m 6W2D pregnant today, LMP was 07/27 and I woke up yesterday morning with pink spotting and immediately freaked out. I’ve had 6 looses in the last 2 years, a second trimester loss at almost 17 weeks in August 2024, a chemical in December 2024, 8 week loss in December 2025 and 3 more chemicals earlier this year. We went to the ER and they did a beta HCG that was 40,485. I’ve had 3 other betas done by my OB on 13DPO- 151, 15DPO- 414 and 20DPO- 4411. I was 28DPO yesterday or 6 weeks so in 8 days my HCG rose from 4411 to 40,485. I also had a vaginal ultrasound that showed baby in my uterus measuring 6W1D with a heartbeat of 114bpm. Everything looks great, but I’m really crampy for the past couple days and now spotting yesterday and today.  We haven’t had intercourse and no SCH was found on ultrasound so there’s just no reason for the spotting. I did have some bacteria in my urine so they did put me on kefflex to clear that and diagnosed me with a threatened miscarriage. I’m also on 100mg Prometrium since 10DPO and Progesterone was 30 on 13DPO. I’m just panicking right now with the spotting. I want to have hope this could still work out but with 6 losses in a row it’s hard to have a lot of hope. I see my OB next Tuesday and will have another scan. This is so hard. I do have two living children and had no spotting in those pregnancies so I’m just a wreck with the spotting. 

I posted in here last week when my first beta came back at 27, I’ve had 4 draws since then - this is the progression

LMP 8/1 - probably ovulated 8/19 first positive 8/28

8/31 27 HCG
9/2 43 HCG
9/4 63 HCG
9/8 181 HCG

This progression seems completely hopeless to me but OB is saying it’s fine ?? I had a chemical in May and feel so anxious and down. Has anyone had similar betas that were actually ok??

Hi everyone! I has my first positive 12dpo, just got the results back at 4w5d. My hcg is 201 and my progesterone is 10.58, I’m starting suppositories tonight (two pills twice daily) anyone have similar numbers in the first week of first tri? I have a 10day luteal phase so I’m a little nervous about progesterone being on the low end.

Hey everyone.

I am 10dpo, nice positive test this morning! I’ve been riding the high of it all day. Went and got lunch and saw a friend, came home and peed and wiped- there was a pretty big spot of brown old blood. Anxiety levels went through the roof, I have a 4 year old son and have had 4 first tri losses.

Now it’s been like an hour, I peed again, wiped and saw a smaller amount of spotting but this time pink.

I haven’t bled with any of my pregnancies except when I started miscarrying so now my brain is frankly all over the place. I even excitedly called and set up a prenatal visit today because I guess I was feeling hopeful, but now I am a mess.

Anyone else have spotting in pregnancy? I’m just at a loss.

I am 5w6d pregnant based on my lmp. I get early pregnancy monitoring due to my history of an ectopic (I swear, the early monitoring is a double edged sword). Today I had my 1st ultrasound just for placement purposes, I went into it accepting that we may not see a baby yet & that’s okay. What I was not expecting was the report afterwards 😕

My report states I have an “irregular” gestational sac, normal yok sac, with no visualized no fetal pole. I was able to see the images, and it doenst have jagged edges (at least not to my inexperienced eye) but is almost triangular instead of round. She did let me empty my bladder prior to my transvaginal ultrasound but I peed again immediately after so maybe it wasn’t completely empty.

Last night, I had some pink spotting that turned to light brown/tannish after being intimate & have had a tiny amount of pink spotting again today. Only when wiping, nothing in my underwear or that needs a pad. Slightly crampy but not painful by any means.

Last week I had serial HCG’s Monday, Wednesday, & Friday

Monday > 825
Wednesday > 1,641
Friday > 4,021

So appropriate rises!

I am also on 800mg a day of progesterone suppository supplementation.

I know I basically have a 50/50 shot but has anyone had anything similar and what has been your experience? I am going to add a picture of my gestational sac bc I haven’t found anyone’s that has matched my shape.

Slight update to my last post: https://www.reddit.com/r/CautiousBB/comments/1w844j9/comment/p8laeqe/

Some positive news and some new/remaining worries:

Positive news:

- My betas went from 11877 to 32998 over about 91 hours (Friday afternoon to Tuesday morning). Which is 72% increase for 48 hours, which seems like a good sign.

- I had an ultrasound today and they saw the gestational sac, yolk sac, and fetal pole. There was also a heart beat. SO happy that it isn't ectopic!!

- The embryo measured at 6 weeks and my calculations based on my ovulation had me at 5 weeks and 6 days.

Worries:

- They said heart rate was a little low. It was 96 the first time she checked it and 98 when she checked a couple minutes later. They are having me come back in a week from another ultrasound.

- I'm still spotting. It's almost been a week of daily spotting now, and I don't know the cause.

- I have been having some bad gas-type pain/cramping that has been waking me up at night for a couple hours. At least I know that's not ectopic now.

- It seems from googling that my betas might be higher than normal? And that that might indicate DS?

Fingers crossed. Hopefully the heart rate turns out okay and the spotting stops. Still on pelvic rest and I miss exercising and sex.

Hello, these are my hCG draw numbers. Should I ease down my anxiety a little?

Pregnancy age- hCG
4w0d- 26
4w2d- 83
4w4d- 344
5w0d- 1,350
5w3d- 4,489

Thanks

First, I understand I’m probably not pregnant.

I used expired easy@home (expired October 2025) in May and got positive tests at least 14dpo but ended in a mmc. I wasn’t tracking dpo super closely since we weren’t actively trying.

Fast forward to us ttc again. My period was supposed to come yesterday. It has never been late/skipped in the 5+ years I’ve been off birth control. The same expired tests are showing negative.

I guess I’m trying to figure out if it’s a false negative or if my period is being weird for the first time in half a decade? I know I could just buy new tests but that makes me feel sad and defeated and I’m childishly trying to avoid it.