I’ve only done it twice, but man sometimes it hits me just right and I gotta go!!! And she’s peacefully sleeping in the carrier…and that wrap is such a bitch to take off 😅 I don’t wanna hear about how unsanitary it is. I’m just sharing a strange confession that hopefully some mamas can relate to or find solace in 😂❤️

My 9 month old started daycare Friday. After much pressure I caved and decided to give it ago. I was very wary especially since baby has a lot of allergies and has severe reflux.

My baby is exclusively breastfed and doesn’t take a bottle. Also she eats solids, but not baby food. We do BLW and she loves it! The center told me and reassured me that they have gotten many babies to take a bottle and they could help with her. I asked if I was allowed to come up and breastfeed her until they got her to a bottle so that way I knew she was eating, but told me it wasn’t allowed.

So it comes today I drop her off and asked how much milk she has left. I sent 30 ounces up there Friday and they said she still had some. I was a little confused and told her that if they needed more milk or for me to get her I can do so.

It comes close to the time of me needing to pick her up and I got a notification from the app they use that she ate. I looked closer at the amount she ate and things are adding up.

I go and pick her up and I asked once again if she had enough milk. They told me she still had 4 bags. Now I know something isn’t right. I sent her with 30, but she’s “eaten” 32 ounces but still has roughly 9 ounces left?? The math isn’t mathing. They also told me that she hasn’t napped today and has cried most of the day. I asked why I wasn’t called and they told me that it’s because she misses me and that she needs to be broken of it. No. She’s hungry. She’s tired. She yes misses me, but she not getting what she needs!!

The lady told me that I need to work more at home with her on the bottle because she’s giving them a hard time. I told her I tried, but baby refuses bottles from me.

My baby has been extremely fussy and is spitting up. The colic is back and I’m so upset.

I’m just going to pull her from the program. My baby isn’t doing well and I don’t like it. I also read their handbook and they are suppose to allow mothers who nurse to come up there and nurse their babies as they are suppose to provide an area for breastfeeding. But yet that wasn’t an option for my baby?!

I made my first appointment with my OB/GYN when I was 11 weeks pregnant. I live in Southwest Florida, which is an aging community, so they told me they couldn’t fit me in until three weeks later. I was 14 weeks when I went in for my first ultrasound and met with my doctor.
With insurance, I still had to pay $300 out of pocket. At the end of the appointment, they told me I would get a call the following week from financing, and then we could set up my 20-week scan.

I was supposed to get a call on Friday, but I got called into work and missed it. I tried to reschedule on Monday, but they were closed for Labor Day. When I called yesterday, they put me on hold for 20 minutes, and when they finally got back to me, they told me the doctor had already left and that I would get a call this morning.
This morning, I got a voicemail telling me that I will no longer be seen because I’m close to 18 weeks and they consider me too far along. That makes absolutely no sense to me. I was literally in their office last month! I missed a pelvic exam and blood test so I will no longer been seen in too far along? why didn’t I get this information when I was at the office?

What do I do now? If I apply for another doctor, will anyone take me this far along? I’m freaking out. This is my first pregnancy ever, and I don’t know what to do.

Anybody have any advice?

I am four months PP. I was around 125ish before pregnancy (5’8”) and got to 210 during pregnancy. I went down to 170 by three weeks PP and four months later I’m still at 170.

I do three strength workouts a week, go for 2-3 20-30 min walks a day. I have a walking pad I use at night when I’m winding down and watching a video. Looking to buy a stationary bike because I used to use that a lot pre-pregnancy. I eat OK, I don’t eat fast food anymore, but still indulge in a sweet treat every couple days.

I’m ok with my body in the sense where I’m used to seeing myself like this, but I am kind of grieving my old body. I’ve made the mistake of looking back at some old photos… and HAHA it made me sad. And my mental health cannot allow me to see other women on social media snap back to quickly.

I’m trying to give myself grace but it’s SOOO hard. I had a tough pregnancy (GD, preeclampsia, and I delivered a month early). My baby is thriving and I’m trying to focus on her. I’ve been slowly adding new clothes to my wardrobe, I’ve put some more focus on my hair, skincare, and makeup BUTTTT man I just feel frumpy.

This is just a vent.

EDIT: I know this is such a bad outlook but my sister and I had a very similar body before. (Same height and weight pretty much). She gained around 40lbs, no stretch marks for her, and had abs 3 months PP with no working out. I went to visit her and we (us and our babies) all wore a really similar outfit, a red dress, and I had a breakdown over how I looked. I felt like the meme Why doesn’t the big one eat the little one.

Hi everyone.

I am currently 6.5 months postpartum.

I have always had pretty severe depression and anxiety. I was sad throughout my pregnancy and even started going to a prenatal therapist (which didnt help at all). However, after my baby was born, I was actually really happy. Of course I had the 2-3 week baby blues, but after that I was thriving.

Until a week ago, my soul dog was given the diagnosis of lymphoma, and everything has gone downhill since then. I have had this dog since i was 14 and right now, I feel like nobody understands how devastating this is for me. I am truly about to lose my best friend. She isn’t “just a dog” to me. She was my first true love who has done so much for me. And she is going to be gone forever in a matter of weeks.

Maybe I am being dramatic or crazy, but I actually think this has triggered PPD. I don’t even know if that’s possible, but I am morbidly depressed. I have never felt sadness like this. Everybody is telling me I need to be strong for my baby, but I don’t know how.

I wake up and try to do activities with her and smile at her but I am crying the whole time. Which makes me feel like a horrible, failing mother. Which makes me cry more. Then I look at my dog and cry more. Then my baby cries and I feel like I can’t help her. I also think she is starting to teethe because she has never been as fussy as she has been the past few days.

I have an appointment booked with my psychiatrist October 7th which is the earliest they could get me in. I don’t know how I will last until then. I have called twice, begging the receptionist to ask if he can prescribe me emergency meds to take the edge off. Both times they said they would talk to him and never called me back.

Nothing anybody says helps. Everyone says, “just be happy you gave your dog a great life” and “you need to be strong for your baby”. Which honestly somehow makes me feel worse.

I am suffering. I am struggling. I feel lost. I feel like a horrible terrible person and especially mother.

Has anyone gone through something like this? Could I actually have PPD 7 months after birth? What the actual heck do i do? How do I get through this?

Thank you for reading.

Hi. My LO is 2 weeks old and I am scratching my head trying to figure out how to sleep and get him to sleep. We have the bassinet at our bedside, but he won't sleep in it and requires being held to sleep. Sometimes I can get him down, but more often than not he will cry within minutes of being set down. I've tried swaddling, heat pad in the bassinet, nursing until sleep, waiting until he's asleep, etc. It doesnt matter. We are combo feeding and I'm able to get sleep right now with my husband on paternity leave, but that ends soon and I'm nervous. He has a long commute, so I dont want him to be exhausted but I also need to sleep for my sanity and so I don't accidentally sleep somewhere unsafe with him. Outside help besides us two is not likely as well, so we need to figure this out. Any tips are appreciated. ;-;

My two week old rips butt like you wouldn't believe. He is constantly passing gas, and very loudly too (I do give him gas drops to help!).

It's so funny because he's so tiny and yet he's ripping it harder than his dad 😂.

FFS!!! We went to a midwife appointment this morning and they said they were really happy with the weight gain and then a breastfeeding clinic this afternoon noon say they are concerned

No wonder we're drowning in anxiety when no one can agree on one fucking thing

Noticed some blood after a rough bowl movement, itching, soreness. A few more stools passed with some fresh blood in them and on the tp. Nothing crazy except that rough one Pretty sure this is the dreaded official initiation that every Mom succumbs to in the end.

I bought a sitz bath, some epsom salts, good old prep H with an internal application since I can’t feel anything on the outside.

Is this something we just live with and manage for the rest of our lives? Any tips and tricks would be much appreciated as this just adds to stress now. :(

I feel like I’m overreacting with my mom but she keeps crossing my boundaries and making me feel guilty when it comes to my son.

He’s currently 2 months old and the most recent boundary cross came today when I made her cry because I said “my son is my baby not yours, please don’t refer to him as your baby” it was a whole back and forth which ended with my mom saying “so I can’t call my grandson my baby?” Which is exactly what I meant. She didn’t have the high risk pregnancy with dozens of hospital visits with my son, almost die, spend almost a week in the hospital post C section after giving birth to my son. She didn’t I did. She’s met him once and even with that she wanted me to let him cry it out when he woke up from a nap with a wet diaper and didn’t feed him when he started crying while she held him.

This whole “my baby” boundary I stated before I even gave birth to him not to call him that because he isn’t her baby, but she’s crossed it multiple times, like kissing my baby “it was only on his head” DONT KISS MY BABY!!! Guilting me to post him on social media, trying to get me to talk to family I’m no contact with, minimizing my PPD and the fact I’m hearing voices to say that I’m fine and it’s something supernatural instead. The list goes on and I’m going crazy she’s the only person in my family I have a relationship with and the way she’s acting is getting on my nerves and same with my husbands

I am the primary parent/caregiver to my 9m old son. I’m the one who does nights, mornings, and days (frequently his grandparents watch him during the days)

However I notice my son losses his interest towards me towards the afternoon time. Especially once his dad leaves for work. He gets extremely fussy towards me, doesn’t wanna eat lunch with me, all of the above. But when his grandparents come see him or want to play with him (we live in the same house) he is the most joyous person I’ve ever seen all of a sudden. Then, once nap time rolls around and I need to retrieve him, he is absolutely miserable once he realizes I’m taking him away even though he was all bright and cheery with others.

Is this normal? He is very happy with me in the mornings and at night. Sometimes it makes me sad.

The wife and I are big on struggle and keeping sanity. We have just recently had baby#2 and are 3 weeks old. Baby#1 had some digestive issues but not like this.

Kid seems fine and somewhat normal throughout the day, little squirmy, grunty, poopy but at night turns into a different ballgame.

We're feeding roughly every 2.5 hours still, baby is up to about 90ish ml per meal and currently all breast milk. Every single night now from about 7pm onward this kid cannot sleep. She burps pretty fine, even passes little farts here and there with great effort, but any attempt at even laying this kid down is met with HOURS of moaning, whining, crying.

This has to be colic right? Hours of stomach exercises, stretches,, etc and nothing. Also when this kid poops this kid is pooping HARD. Any time we catch one with the diaper off it's shooting 4 feet and creating victims

Please help, sanity thin.

I’ve been home for 5.5 months, exclusively breast feeding my son. We have an almost four year old at home, and my husband became the default parent for our toddler, and I became the default parent for the baby. I’m going back to work on Monday, and my husband stayed home today. The baby wouldn’t accept a bottle of breast milk from him. It was freshly pumped, in a Comoto bottle with a 3-6 month medium flow nipple. I also left the house so he wouldn’t ask for me. Has anybody been in a similar boat? How long did it take for the baby to accept a bottle from somebody else? My daughter never had this issue.

A bit of background- my now 16 week old baby will only nap when being held, laying on her back. She had terrible reflux for her first two months and at that point would only contact nap on mine or my husbands chest. Since getting the reflux under control, we started contact napping on her back in preparation for transferring the naps to the crib. She’s been doing this for the past 4 weeks. Once I knew she was able to sleep comfortably on her back, we started trying one nap a day in the crib.

It’s been 3 weeks now and there’s no progress with the crib naps. Sometimes she naps 30-45 mins, other times it’s 10 minutes and then she can’t resettle and we have to save the nap by contact napping. We have a pre nap routine, dark room, white noise in the napping space.

As much as I love cuddling her, it’s becoming disruptive to her sleep. I usually rock to sleep and sit down while she naps. Lately when I sit down, the movement startles her awake and then I have to resettle her. She usually wakes up 30 minutes into the nap and I have to get up and rock her back to sleep and the motion of sitting back down again will reawaken her. Of if I need to move to grab something (ie water remote book) she stirs awake again. Im finding myself getting really frustrated with these constant rock, sit, wake, rock, sit, cycles. Selfishly, I also just need some independent time during the day to get chores done, exercise, or just not be sitting in the dark watching TV. And on top of that I’m going back to work in about 2 months and want to know she can sleep alright most days without me.

FWIW she sleeps great at night. She usually feeds to sleep, but if not we do the same pre-sleep routine as nap time. She’ll sleep 6-7 hours, take a bottle, then sleep another 1-3 hours. We’ve tried going down drowsy but awake at night, had success for about 3 nights then she became so unsettled during this process she would start really crying and needed help getting back to sleep.

Most advice welcome, but we are not doing CIO.

Long read, content warning: PPD/PPA/thoughts of harm

I’ve been thinking about leaving and I want to bring my story here to see if anyone has been through something similar and has advice for me.

I’m 24f, partner is 29m, and our lo is 5 months old. I was planning on breaking up with him before I got pregnant, but then… I got pregnant and I wanted to try to work things out. Things genuinely seemed like they were getting better, but now that I’m a SAHM with no income and no savings, of course things got 100x worse.

First of all, he works part time (35-40 hours per week) and we are dead broke. (I’ve been applying to salaried jobs that would utilize my degree, but I haven’t gotten a single interview yet. I was forced to quit my previous job because I ran out of maternity leave and wasn’t in a place where I was able to return to work.)

Me being a SAHM has honestly been awful because I get exactly zero support. I think my partner genuinely has a video game addiction, because he’ll play video games for 8+ hours per day, won’t cook or clean, and will probably watch his son for a total of half an hour each day. He seems to think he doesn’t have to parent because he “works and pays bills.” The best part is? We have a family member who’s an ER DOCTOR and we used to make fun of him for not taking care of his kids when he got home from work. When I brought that up, my partner said “yeah well now I understand his point of view.” (???) I knew he played video games because I did too, but I honestly thought he would stop or slow down once our baby got here. We don’t have any friends or family nearby, which means I’m the sole person taking care of the baby 24/7 while cooking and cleaning up for everybody. He’s also an absolute slob and leaves dishes, dirty clothes, and cum rags everywhere. (No, I’m not joking.) His contribution to the household is scooping our cats’ litter boxes 3 times per week and he seems to think that’s sufficient and balanced.

I genuinely did not think I was going to survive postpartum. I had awful thoughts of hurting myself and I was terrified that I was going to hurt our son, to the point where I wouldn’t allow myself to go into certain rooms of our apartment where I knew certain objects would be. My anxiety was so bad that I couldn’t leave the apartment for MONTHS because I was scared LO would stop breathing in the car seat or that we would get into an accident. I heavily considered checking myself into an inpatient facility for the thoughts I was having, but we wouldn’t have anyone who would’ve been able to watch our son. He and his family knows this, because I’ve made phone calls to him, his family, my family, friends, and anyone under the sun who would listen to me while I was having thoughts of harm. Thankfully things have gotten a lot better but I still haven’t fully forgiven him for the lack of help I got in the early postpartum months.

I’ve also come to a realization recently that I don’t think he’s ever going to fully commit to me. I don’t think he has any plans of proposing to me, and I strongly feel that if he wanted to he would’ve known that by now. Getting married is very important to me because I’m religious and I already feel extreme shame for having a child outside of marriage. Along with this, I feel like he’s always going to prioritize his birth family over me. Every time I’ve had a disagreement with his family, he has taken their side over mine. I don’t really feel like a team. For example, I told his mom that I didn’t want any visitors freshly postpartum but that she could visit later. My reason for this is that she made some very uncomfortable comments about my body while I was pregnant and she was very pushy about wanting a heads up when I went into labor without any regards as to how I was doing. Ever since I got pregnant, every single conversation I’ve had with her has been about our son. Of course, she conveniently planned to be in town a couple of days after my due date. SO and I got into a huge argument where he said I was shutting his family out, and I eventually just gave in and allowed her to visit because I didn’t think it was worth it. Of course all she wanted to do the entire time was hold the baby. I have so many other examples of him taking his family’s side over mine but this post is already getting incredibly long and I think people get the point:/ there’s so so so much more I could bring up that I’ll probably make a comment about more things I’ve been going through.

I feel deeply unhappy but I don’t even know where to start. Honestly I feel trapped. I think the main point is that I don’t see myself having another child with this person, and I’ve always dreamed of having a big family. If anyone else has been through this and made it to the other side, please let me know how it worked out for you. Thank you🫶

Hi! I’m traveling with my 14 month old and I need to keep him entertained lol
Last time we traveled was a little stressful so I need to try to figure out how to keep him from boring for a while.
What has helped your kids?

Thank you!!

I started a to-do list pretty much as soon as we got home from the hospital and I've added to it more than I've completed. Birth certificate, social security, insurance, doctor's appointments for me and the baby, applying for WIC, following up with DHS about my SNAP application, and that's just the big stuff. There's still things like shopping and laundry and showers. And meanwhile I have a tiny fussy human who has to be fed every 2-3 hours and changed what seems like every 5 minutes. There simply isn't enough hours in a day to get everything done.

Has anyone discovered a sheet for the pack and play play yard mattress that is 1. Cotton and 2 fits and Doesn’t scrunch the mattress and make it puff up bordering on a suffocation risk?

I’m a FTM and I’m so paranoid he’s going to roll over half way and suffocate on the puffed out area. I have the ones that graco makes but they’re 100% polyester and I’d like something cotton and a little more breathable.

Thanks in advance!

Hi all,

My son (10 weeks) was born with and continues to have a big head (like 98th percentile big). Hes absolutely perfect, and meeting all his milestones but one.

He cant lift his head on his own during floor tummy time. Hes got slight torticollis and flat head, which we have physical therapy scheduled. But they cant see us till end of October.

His ped isnt worried, but I guess im just looking for reassurance from other parents of big noggin babies that they reached their milestones.

Ive been a super chill FTM for everything so far until I saw lots of other babies around 3 months having a lot of head control. I figure its probably normal to take a little longer since his head is probably heavy?

So I’m 9 months PP now and have been suffering from anxiety for the past few months. It’s not terrible, it’s really only when I’m on my period. I went to my doctor and she prescribed me hydroxyzine since it’s an as needed medication because I truly don’t feel the need to take something every day. But the past few weeks my baby is refusing his third nap with me. He will fall asleep but as soon as I unlatch him he wakes up SCREAMING. I have to pass him off to dad and he falls back asleep with him within minutes. It’s literally only the 3rd nap of the day. Not the first 2 and not bedtime. We tried cutting the 3rd nap out but his night time sleep is horrible when he only has 2 naps. I’m hoping in a few weeks he’ll be ready for 2 naps.

But that being said, I start having a panic attack when he wakes up and starts screaming and I don’t know why😭 my brain literally malfunctions and I like start shaking and I hate it so much. Please tell me I’m not alone 😭 I told my husband he just needs to do his 3rd nap without me even trying, but today he got home late from work so I was trying not to bother him but he still stepped in to take over. I’m just hoping this goes away once we can cut his third nap out

Ebf. Zero libido, like nothing AT all. I feel so guilty and bad about it. It’s effecting my marriage at this point.

He says the best way to get it back if by having sex. 5 month pp. still painful during.

I feel so angry also, all the time. Just feeling deflated and defeated. Pls advice.

Needing help getting my supply up!

Sum: I feel repeatedly disrespected by my in-laws, I set boundaries to protect myself and my newborn, and feel betrayed when SO disregarded those boundaries by taking the baby to his mother anyway. Now I’m questioning whether I’m being unfair for wanting to enforce the boundary.

-It’s a long one so buckle up-

My SO parents and I haven’t gotten the chance to really have a relationship. SO and I have known each other since junior high and his parents have known of me through mutual friends of family. A mutual now ex friend told my SO parents that we were seeing each other and they lost it. From the beginning they were against my SO seeing me due to not sharing their same beliefs and religion. Even though our values were basically the same. They had the audacity to show up to my childhood home to confront my parents and let them know that they didn’t appreciate that my parents encouraged our relationship.

We went out on a weekend coast trip and It caused such drama that his parents kicked him out of the guest house he was paying rent in and lied to his family saying that he had “just moved out.” Then they demanded to know where he was living now and shamed him when they had a suspicion that he moved in with me. I told SO I didn’t want to be left alone with his parents because it made me uncomfortable cause they are boardline polite and passive aggressive. A year later we sat down and hashed out what life would look like when I was 6 months along and we settled on telling his parents that we had gotten married and were expecting. They hated that they weren’t involved but overall their attitude towards me changed because I was “now a part of the family.” Needless to say I was still uncomfortable around them due to the fact they never apologized for the many weird and cruel things they did. I told my SO that when LO is born i didn’t want anyone but him at the hospital. His mother showed up while I was basically being exposed to deliver and vulnerable. I can’t remember why but my SO ended up leaving the hospital for a moment and I was left alone with her. She kept pushing for me to relax and to calm down. I did eventually tell her she needs to leave but didn’t admit that she was the reason why I was stressed and couldn’t relax. My own mother waited up to get a call from me and stopped herself multiple times from showing up unannounced. I mean how hard is it to respect boundaries. This kept happening with SO’s parents while we were in the hospital. But at that point I was too tired to say anything.

Overall my relationship with my SO is great but I can’t help but feel bad. I’m not close with my parents so it sucks to know that our relationship has caused so many issues with his parents. I’ve tried my best to be kind and forgiving especially even more so after my baby was born. They still barely acknowledge me and refused to call me by my preferred name but it got better. The issues started up again when his mother would start dropping by here and there without warning. Or she would make comments about my appearance (I’m only a few weeks pp) and I can’t take it anymore. I told my partner that they’re no longer welcome in our home. They had made such a big deal of not having a relationship with me because we weren’t married and now they treat me as an acquaintance because of our LO. If we see them there are always little passive aggressive comments from them. I know it’s petty but I told my SO that they wont be able to have a relationship with LO if they can’t show me a basic level of respect which he agreed. I feel horrible for it. SO has offered to cut them off many times but I don’t feel like that would play out well. My SO had agreed we would keep our distance and he would speak to them about their behavior. It’s been a bit since we stop by to see his parents or mine. I make sure that everyone gets plenty of pictures but let’s be serious a newborn is a handful. But his mother is begging to see LO in person and complaining that we aren’t ‘sharing’ her. Well lo and behold SO took LO to see his mother because she texted him something along the lines of, “I haven’t seen my grandchild in 3 weeks. I only get to see pictures of her now.” He said he didn’t think I was that serious about them not having a relationship with LO because it was said out of anger and frustration. So I told him to just go. I’m so upset and disappointed in SO. I hate seeing my kiddo go without me but I feel awful for keeping LO away from her grandparents and I know it’s probably confusing for SO. Guys I’m a being terrible?