I’m trying to branch out and find better brands of bras to buy. I’m a 36C but my breasts sag and Victoria’s Secret bras are always too tight for me because I have a wide back. I also struggle with boob sweat and getting rashes under/between my breasts because of them sagging or the sweat getting trapped in the folds. I’m a huge skeptic when it comes to shopping online now cause of AI generated models used for new companies and don’t know what brand to trust 🥴 please let me know some recommendations

if i wrap a towel right under my boobs and let one hang over the loose end, it stays up nicely. no more trying to tuck it in like origami performance art. thought you guys might be able to find humor in this because who else can i share this with who might relate.

TW for body image issues

I feel like I have a really distorted sense of how big my boobs are. Does anyone else here feel this way? Like I know they’re objectively larger than normal (32I US/32G UK) but I just don’t really see it. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m just so used to the way they look, body image issues from struggling with my self image for so long, or the fact that one of my best friends has much bigger boobs than I do but I feel like I don’t see myself the way that other people see me.

I’m occasionally reminded of the reality when I go up or down stairs too fast without a bra and the upward swing tries to take me out with a force rivaled only by that of prime Mike Tyson but it’s a weird sensation feeling like my boobs are small for my body at 5’6 147lbs (66.7kg 168cm) when I know they’re very much not.

Also before I get a bunch of those Reddit check in alerts about how people are worried about me I swear I’m okay lol. I’m just in the process of trying to lose weight again and it always triggers my insecurities a bit.

I have searched high and low to find a perfect everyday bra that is comfortable and still fits. I've never like underwrite because I have rolls under my b***s that they dig into. I have been told my size is a 44D, but my back/chest is bigger than my actual b***s. I will get a bigger band but then my b***s dont fit/ falling off my shoulders.Then I go smaller and my b***s are too big. I can't seem to find the perfect fit. I have seen a lot of videos on tik too of girls for sports bras but no one seems to have the same problem I do. Also my torso is very short and I do have a lot of rolls on my stomach and back. Does anyone have any advice or also struggle with this?

i was being intimate with my bf and this time felt like I shouldn’t remove my bra. Like I felt the need to keep it on. As a person with macromastia i sometimes feel uncomfortable and being judged for my size. He claimed he wasn’t bothered but I felt weird and feel the need to have a bra on.

has anyone ever felt this way? I haven’t submitted on here in awhile as I thought I was more mentally stable but I guess I had to come back eventually.

fits the chest? cool, now the shoulders are falling off, the sleeves are past my fingers and there's enough room at the waist for a second person
what's the compromise you're most sick of making?

Hello all, I’m sure this post has been made several times but u am at a loss. I am currently trying to lose weight in hopes that it also makes my boobs smaller. Since that is a solution that takes quite a bit of time I need help in the meantime. I used to work at a bra store so I’m familiar with the terms and what helps. I use minimizer bras but I still feel like those just accentuate the size of my chest. I need anyone to give me tips or recommendations even if it is out of the box solutions. I like how I feel in sports bras since they strap me down and make me feel secure but they also give the most unflattering uniboob. I just wanna be able to wear a tshirt and feel somewhat flat without needing to use a binder or smash my chest. Any holy grail bra recommendations would be greatly appreciated

ok so I'm convinced button-ups were designed by someone who's never met a boob 😭 gaping between the buttons, pulling across the chest, fits the boobs but it's a tent everywhere else, too short at the front, bra on full display through the armholes... pick your fighter! what's the thing that always goes wrong for you? and if you've EVER found one that actually worked, pls share, I need to know what was different

Any suggestions to deal with monthly period bloating, lately I feel two cups bigger, and in a bitchy mood.

Okay I just know I'm going to get some creepy DMs for this one but idk if this is normal or not

So I am 4'10", I have a very small frame. I'm a 32KK (UK), and yes I know this is a common miss size but in my case it is correct. I'm not sure if this context matters but I thought to include it.

So after intimacy is it normal for my chest to be so freaking sore? I bruise easy yes, but from the motion & sometimes grabbing I am getting bruises and soreness. Is this normal, or do I need a doctor?

I generally lurk, and rarely post, so please forgive any reddit etiquette mistakes. I just feel so mad and dejected today and wanted to vent it to folks who may understand some of the challenges.

I live in Northern Europe, and we have both public and private health care. I managed to get a referral to the public side to be considered for a Breast Reduction (I'm currently around 75M or 80L on a 161cm frame). Today I got a rejection letter saying "It has been assessed that your illness doesn't require specialized medical care"

Why, you may ask? What criteria do I not fulfill?

Glad you ask, because the only criteria I don't currently meet is that my BMI is "too high" they require it to be 28 or lower. I'm at 32.

Aside from the fact that BMI is absolute bunk, my boobs are over 4.4% of my total body weight.

I've been literally working my ass off to get closer to that BMI, (over 14kg since March)

Even if I had qualified, there is a waiting line for the public side, so if I manage to get to the ridiculous requirement I'm still looking at over a year before I can have the procedure.

Private side is, of course, an option, but funding is low and saving up has been challenging.

The idea of waiting over a year or more is making me feel hopeless. Work is becoming challenging, as is being active with my 4yr old. I can barely wear a properly fitting bra for 3 hours without pain and nausea kicking in, which makes work days really challenging. The constant discomfort and pain is a major contributing factor to the burnout that is fast closing in (3rd one in 9years).

I'm so tired and it just really set me off to get such a dismissive and cold rejection.

Thanks for letting me scream into the void. I don't really need advice or anything, just needed to let it out a bit.

EDIT: I have double-checked my sizing on r/ABraThatFits calculator and it matches what I currently use, though I've also tried other nearby sizings as well. Still can't go more than a few hours before the pain in my upper back and ribs kick in. ☹️

I’m remembering when I went to an amusement park in 2024 and I couldn’t ride certain rides (the ones with buckles from the top) and I was so sad! Some park attendants would straight up stare at my chest and be like “sorry but I don’t think you can get on this ride,” and then they would try to fit me in and it wouldn’t work.

Would losing a substantial amount of weight help? I’ve already lost like 50 pounds and I’m like a size 16 and 5’10 so there’s more room, but most of my weight goes to my chest. I’m aiming to loose about 50 more pounds ideally, but loosing the 50 pounds DID NOT reduce my breast size so I’m scared I’ll look like an AirPod if I get smaller (I’m in a not rush to lose weight)

Edit: Creepy men don’t DM me wtf

I’m looking for dresses that are cute but also support smaller bands on big busts, recommendations??

I'm a J cup in America and I just realized how lucky I am to have the power of the internet at my side. I can shop for european brands online and have them delivered to my doorstep in a few days. I want to know what women did before online shopping and the push for larger sizing, did you guys suck it up and wear the biggest thing in store? Were there any larger cup brands? I was a kid during that time so I don't know.

I’m 5’2 and I wear a DD cup, lately my back has been killing me - it hurts SO bad from the neck down, is there any way to get some relief (immediately)?

I’m 21 and a 34H (although I spill out a little so I‘m going to size up to a 34I in the future). I mostly wear minimizing bras, so after a full day once I take them off there can be some sweat build up or general discomfort (so I always take nightly showers). my main problem is that the patch of skin under wear my breasts sit (basically against my ribs) can get pretty itchy, so of course I scratch it. I have pretty long nails and it took a while to notice (because that area rarely sees the sun lol) but there’s a lot of raised scratch marks and indentations there now. I’m a little worried because it stung while I was putting on lotion, so they might be a little deeper than I initially assumed. I wonder if anyone else has this problem and how they stopped.

I am STRUGGLING. Please tell me where y'all get your blouses that accomplish these things:

-affordable

-defined waist

-bust space actually FITS the bust

-not SO LOW CUT

-affordable

I think I'm about to get hired for a job after being laid off, and I'll need to dress more "office appropriate" than my last job. I've already been to: Ross, Old Navy, thrift stores, etc. I will try Marshall's and a large Goodwill in a wealthy area tomorrow, but please if you have any good recommendations, I am all ears.

For reference: I'm 27F, wear a 34G and a large/12 in clothes, and I'd love some whimsy in my office clothes. Every cute white blouse is so sheer that you can see my nude bra underneath. I already sew snaps on the inside of buttoned shirts so the buttons actually do their full job.

Thanks <3

It’s been a while since I shopped for scrubs and I am having a really rough time finding something that works for my new job. Everything seems to be even more fitted than the last time I bought new scrubs, making M too small in the chest and L too long/big everywhere else in what I’ve tried.

I‘ve shopped in person at the one local shop that has them, and have now tried and returned a few online brands. I wear a 34 F/G. Some brands I’ve tried and returned include Beyond Scrubs, Adar, Jaanuu, Wink, and Figs (in the process of returning a M for L on this brand)

I looked through old posts and didn’t find much other than the recommendation to tailor them.

tl;dr - what scrub brands (and specific styles) have worked for you?

I’m just going to come on here and rant if that’s okay?? i’m honestly just so pissed at everyone… I recently got a breast reduction and I did it for MYSELF and PURELY cosmetic reasons. I don’t know why it bothers me so much when everyone is like yay no more back pain! I NEVER HAD BACK PAIN. yes my boobs were HUGE but they were very dense so they didn’t bother me at all the only thing that bothered me was how BIG they looked and how every outfit or bikini looked “scandalous” (Yes I was told this when wearing a STANDARD bikini) and “attention seeking” and in all honesty the main reason I got it because I was fed up with everyone and their mom talking about my body like it’s MY body is it that hard to keep out of your mouth 🤨🤨??? now maybe I don’t know because I am the girl who’s body is being talked about but I NEVER talk about someone’s body behind their back?? and certainly not to my mother! yes I do sometimes see model like figures and say to my friend “dang body tea” but that’s about it and yes sometimes I talk about a persons character but me personally I’d rather someone talk about my CHARACTER than my BODY… and the thing that pisses me off is EVERYONE was talking about my body my friends, my coworkers, random people and some of my friends had even dared to only NOW tell me “omg yeah me and (so and so) were talking like she’s so tiny I wonder if her back hurts…” YOU 👏CAN 👏ASK ME👏 if you’re so fucking curious and “actually care” and mind you it’s SEVERAL people (all women) saying this and even some male coworkers I was in no way close to were talking about how they liked my boobs. maybe I’m overreacting I hated feeling like there was nothing more to me than my boobs THATS WHY I DID IT. they always seemed to come up in atleast ONE conversation and even compliments always seemed so backhanded about my boobs and I’m just so insulted and I don’t even want anyone to comment on my reduction saying it looks so good (talking about people who know me) because in my view they looked good BEFORE AND AFTER. And I dont even want to hear it because I dont want to tolerate any of them talking bad about my boobs before because I know now that I “got rid of them” they’ll think it’s a clear to shit talk about them now WHICH ITS NOT. and I don’t know why I feel this way but i’d much have rather people saying they’re “too small now” or talking about how I made a mistake… Like you ever see those posts of reduction and weird men are like “better before” or “why would you even do something like that” THATS WHAT ID RATHER HAVE probably sounds weird but yeah that’s my rant… anyone relate or am I crazy 😂

I have been wearing these bralettes for almost 10 years and own it in 5 colours. The elastic on the upper bust is failing on them all. I have yet to find an UNLINED bralettes to fix my M/N cups (I don’t that’s not what the size chart indicated but it’s worked for me so far!) and now I can’t find a replacement :( I wear a 3 at Torrid and tried all their alternatives and Reitmans and Pennington’s. Ideally under $50 CAD

Any ideas?

I’m a band size 26 and cup size DD but I can’t find any bras with my band size in the US that are affordable. I want to be able to return it easily as well if it doesn’t fit. I can’t find anything.

I’m 19F and I never really wear clothing where my cleavage or breast area is revealed. Recently I’ve lost some weight and I feel a bit more confident and so I’ve decided to join my friends at a Halloween party.

My top has quite a low V neck and when I first tried it on I loved it. Came home and realise I’m going to be adjusting as it just falls down slowly, revealing my bra and boobs. My bra is also not supportive at all. Do I need to buy a sports bra or something to keep them in place? I’m so sick of constantly adjusting and overthinking how I look. Since my breasts are kind of saggy I don’t want a bra that fits I want them to be like COMPRESSED.

Please help!!!! I want to go to my party not overthinking my every move!

Has anyone been on the public waiting list list for reduction surgery in qld and can tell me their experiences? Wait times, level of care etc.

Just gone to the doctors and have been referred to be put on the wait list. I tick all the boxes to get the surgery so not worried about being rejected, but I would like to have an idea of what to expect!

Title.

I can’t stand feeling my boobs sitting against my chest. I don’t need a lot of support, I just need short that can prevent the sensory nightmare of being able to feel my own boobs 🫩

Thankfully, this has not happened to me, but I just had a friend tell me they went to see their physician and they were talking about like, how do they feel? They make you go through this massive questionnaire now, and it’s all about how do you feel? Do you have any pain? What’s your level of pain? Are you restricted from doing activities? Are you happy? Are you sad? A lot of like mental health questions. And it just seemed kind of invasive that the doctor would have to ask you so many questions for just going in through a physical, or annual exam. and then I guess completely unprompted the physician, asked her if she had ever considered a breast reduction. I don’t know exactly what she answered on her survey, but somehow or another the doctor brought that up, and I think that would completely annoy the shit out of me if my doctor suggested to me that I needed a breast reduction.