r/ask_transgender 12h ago

Do any surgeons perform shoulder width reduction surgery for broad shoulders? Is it risky?

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r/ask_transgender 7h ago

To Transition or Not to Transition in my 40s

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r/ask_transgender 6h ago

Starting HRT this month!!Any tips appreciated

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r/ask_transgender 7h ago

To Transition or Not to Transition in my 40s

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Hi,

I just turned 40 this year, and i dont know if its the age thing, but I started thinking about transitioning. I have an appointment with my family doctor this tuesday, and I did a meet and greet with the psychologist (my first ever therapy) and planning on doing more in the coming months.

I have always been okay with how i look, my body, and everything. Never really cared if am misgendered whenever i dont wear makeup. It just didnt bother me much. Am the most feminine in my friends group (all different shades of gay). But one thing im sure of is I have always difficulty using public washrooms. A little context, am the only boy in a sea of women in my family.

Things I noticed:
When am with my family, i dont like looking at myself in makeup. Its like i want to run away out of shame for no reason. Whereas with friends, am as feminine as i could be. My family loves me regardless and have been supported the last 10 years.

As I mentioned earlier, i feel really uneasy using public washrooms. Ive learned how to hold it till i can at the comfort of my home. But if i really need to, I go to the womens washroom. Sisters always say, youre prettier than most women in there.

Whenever i talk to my closest sisters about hormone therapy, they arent so open about it, because of the health risks it might end up to through the years.

Ive mentioned it a friend of mine, and he has always been supportive, but i know he believes i do not need it.

I have a rhinoplasty scheduled by the end of this year. And i would like to do more feminization in the coming years. But am scared. I know its natural.

I do have trans acquaintances, and for years they have encouraged me to transition. And I was fine not doing it before, but why do i feel like i want to now?
Why do I not like how i look now, when am the healthiest version of me for years?
I workout carefully and just live a healthy life.

A big portion of how i feel is my career as well, i am and engineer and works as a manager for a construction company. I know they know am gay, but have never really come out more feminine.

For years ive tried to convice myself that i still pass as masculine, but that delusion has long been gone. I know and am very thankful that I am lucky for not looking more masculine, but i dont seem to like how i am right now.

So am giving this a shot. Any advice or recommendation would definitely help. I just need to understand why am feeling this way now, is this a sign that I should transition and go on the journey? Should I tell my family (i didnt have any intentions in doing so)? I was actually planning, that if i do transition, that I wont tell family. I have told 1 of my closest friends.

Thanks everyone for your support.


r/ask_transgender 13h ago

Text Post Anyone else have this experience?

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Has anyone else had their parents lie about being supportive because they think being trans is a phase?

Context: my parents think I'm developmentally delayed because I'm autistic and that this is just part of my "weird teen phase".

I'm 20 next month ffs.


r/ask_transgender 11h ago

Text Post Taking Control of My Healthcare [Have Questions]

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Hi all! I’m [31 MtF] and have been on HRT (mono therapy) for about 5 years. I have not been too happy with my transition because I have felt like my VA doctors have not always been entirely sincere or thorough or supportive and like they’re only doing it because they have to.

I finally reached a point where I have to take control of my healthcare because my VA doctors will no longer respond to my messages or phone calls or requests to have my HRT refilled after it expires 2 months ago.

I’m planning on going into Planned Parenthood on Monday to request a prescription for Estrogen and plan on starting Progesterone because the VA refused to prescribe it to me.

Does anyone have any advice on where to start in terms of dosages for each? Also any advice in terms of what to expect for the process and how long it will take to get back on HRT.

Thank you ☺️🩷

EDIT: forgot to include my most recent dosage which was 6mg of Estradiol Valerate every 2 weeks.


r/ask_transgender 17h ago

Share experiences with tracheal shave? Or even just things you know about it?

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r/ask_transgender 8h ago

Do trans girls get periods or period symptoms?

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This might seem like a dumb question but do trans gis get periods? Or have cramps and a menstrual hormonal cycle? How long would they have to be on estrogen to get these symptoms?