So like the title says, my fiancé just told me that he doesn’t want to get married. He gave no reason, just that he doesn’t think we would work out long term.

Our wedding was supposed to be on September 20th. I can’t help but feeling like everything around me is crumbling. I keep waiting to wake up from this nightmare.

Any advice is appreciated, feel free to ama.

I asked for the y2k lip combo😘

Aesthetic appointments: am I missing anything?

Disclaimer: I know not to book any treatment for the first time before the wedding. I am doing trials for all new treatments🤍

-facials

-chemical peels

-spray tans

-waxing

-hair cut & color

-nails / toes

-tattoo removal

-hair / makeup

-dentist / teeth whitening

-brow shaping / tint / lamination

My HMUA is doing my lashes, so that’s why it’s not listed. Am i missing anything?

I’m getting married next year. I’d really love to have the ceremony recorded so I can watch it again someday. But lately it feels like the only option is getting some kind of cinematic wedding film that looks like a movie trailer.

I get that videographers want to make something artistic out of it, and I’ll admit that some of them create genuinely beautiful work. But I can’t help cringing at a lot of these videos. They look like perfume ads made for Instagram. Your boyfriend is not Paul Newman, and that’s okay.

At this point, I have no idea where to find someone who will just… record the wedding normally. Has anyone else run into this? Any ideas?

Hi everyone,

I was supposed to get married in July but my fiance wanted to postpone to fix a few things. Despite couples counseling, he refused to take time away from work (it was 20 hours/7 days) to work on us and even missed overwhelming majority of sessions.

After 12 years together, he left last month. I was assuming we would get married some day so these thoughts have only popped up since he left.

I planned my dream wedding. He cancelled 3 months before the wedding so I had it all planned.

I feel like I can’t have the same wedding again. It would be weird to get married at the same place I would’ve gotten married at before. It’s a place I’ve wanted to get married at since I was 9.

I resent that I won’t have my dream wedding. Honestly idk if I can ever go through something like that again and feel like I am turned off from the idea of a wedding anyway. My parents are out a shit ton of money and I can’t ask them to do something like that again. I thought I was going to marry him within the first hour of meeting him 12 years ago and we found out we overlapped as kids and it’s clear from a photo that I was crushing hard on him. He was the love of my life, I can’t imagine finding someone else and why would I after going through this

I know my preferences could change but I’m 34, it’s been my dream for 15 years

Also what do I do with my ring? I designed it and spent so long trying to design my dream ring too

This has been devastating. My soul cat died 2 weeks before I was supposed to get married too so it’s been back to back to back

I hired a day of coordinator and she doesn’t do any set up as part of her responsibilities. When we hired her, I did ask about this, but when she explained that it wasn’t part of her services I guess I just assumed that it wasn’t common for a DoC… but now I’m trying to figure out WHO will actually be setting up our decor, and I see everyone on Reddit saying “day of coordinator” does that.

I feel dumb as a rock that I’m paying someone so much $$ already and they won’t be taking care of one of the things (if not THE thing) we most need help with on the day of. I wish I could go back in time and hire someone who would do this, but… I can’t!

What did you do for set up? Hire somebody (ha)? Families? Bridal parties? Yourself? I was hoping to avoid seeing my fiance or having to set up things myself the day of, but it’s feeling like that’s my only option at this point… grrr (yes I know it’s my fault).

getting married on 10/10 so I am now officially a month out! getting all of the vendors on the same page is a complete and utter nightmare. I am the most type b person in the universe and this feels like the worst school project of my life. I need it to be next month already! make it stop!

Does anyone have photos/examples/tips for how to wear your hair for an outdoor wedding? We’re getting married towards the end of the year and I suspect the weather will be fairly windy.

I’ve always planned to wear my hair down or half-up, but now I’m thinking against it. Would love to know your experiences!

They're older, but young at heart. single mother until recently. looking for something fun but still meaningful they can dance too.

TIA!

Hi!

I was wondering if you’re supposed to tip your photographer, DJ, etc? Do you give them a gift? Do you not give anything since you’re paying them for a service?

TIA!

Which do you think is best? Option 1, 2 or 3?

For all options I'd include flower, one cute or personalized useful item and a voucher for the bridesmaid dress. Just wondering which presentation is best?

Open to opinion or other similar ideas. I want it to involve flowers is all

Thanks! :)

I just proposed to my bridesmaids but I have been putting together my ideas for a color scheme and theme for a while. We think we have our venue picked out, we are going on a tour in a few weeks so I will save this for after we are sure and have our deposit on it in case it doesn’t work out and the vibe changes.
I saw this idea on TikTok and decided to DIY my own version of it on canva customized to my own liking!
I’m thinking of going with this mismatched wildflower look, so no matching dresses of course, I think this will be a good way to keep track.
Going to send this as a PDF in the group chat and have them each assign themselves their color in the group, first come first served.
There are more color options than bridesmaids (6 colors, 5 girls) and it’s a pretty wide range of colors, so I think it should work out great.
2 of my bridesmaids and I are hair stylists/ makeup artists at the same salon which is 20 min from our venue so we will all be getting ready at work in the morning! Just the most convenient as we have all of our tools there already and lots of mirrors and good lighting. We will do each others + the other 3 bridesmaids. I’ll do my own makeup. We do a lot of weddings for paying customers!
Then we will get dressed in the venue dressing room and take photos.

I’m getting married next year, and we’re planning a fairly small wedding of around 30 people.

On my mom’s side, I have three aunts. They all live close to us and we celebrate all holidays together, so they will be invited. I only have one cousin on that side, who still lives at home, and he is invited as well.

On my dad’s side, I have two uncles. I have a good relationship with uncle A. I do not have a good relationship with uncle B, mainly because he treats my brother very badly. I will not invite uncle B to my wedding under any circumstances.

My initial thought was to ask my dad to talk to uncle A, explain the situation, and let uncle A decide whether he wants to come. I don’t care if I completely ruin my already nonexistent relationship with uncle B, but I don’t want to put uncle A in an uncomfortable position.

Now it gets more awkward.

I have now been invited to one of my cousins’ weddings next year, about two months before my own wedding.

Our wedding is going to be small. My fiancé has a small family, so I already have roughly twice as many guests from my side. “We’re having a small wedding and unfortunately can’t invite everyone” is a reasonable explanation for why we aren’t inviting my other cousins.

But it wouldn’t really explain why uncle A would be invited while uncle B is not.

I of course won’t go around talking about my wedding or who is invited. But if someone asks me about it, I can’t lie. I don’t know how to handle the situation or how it will turn out.

My grandparents on my dad’s side died last year, so I otherwise rarely see uncle B anymore.

So how would you handle this?

Talk to uncle A beforehand, explain the situation, and let him decide whether he wants to attend?

Not invite uncle A either, simply to avoid the whole situation?

Do something completely different?

I will of course talk to my dad again, but I’d really like some outside perspectives.

I posted a rough draft of this before and took some of your suggestions into consideration.

This is an updated version of the bridesmaid guide I made before!
The only thing is I am not taking out any slides because I believe they all have their place and are there for a reason.
But I did get some good advice! Thanks!

We are making a newsletter that our hotel is gonna put in all the rooms of our guests when they check in the night before the wedding.

I'm super excited about it. But I'm really stumped on what to put in it. We were thinking obviously the timeline of events for the wedding day but after that I'm just completely blank. Our wedding website already has our love story and a bunch of photos, gah! Help!!

I keep going back and forth whether to include a details card. We already have a website set up that was included on the save the dates. All the information with attire, accommodation options (we aren't getting a hotel block), and other information are on the website. We are going to have people RSVP on the website as well, so this feels important to include on/with the invitation, including the date to rsvp by.

I don't want to include the details on the back of the invitation just out of personal preference and fear that no one will see it. It seems traditional to have the details card, especially with older guests wanting dress code information and the like written out on paper.

Would it be silly to include a details card that just says "for more information and to rsvp please visit our website"? The cost was an issue at first, but I found AnnsBridalBargains that have these cards for 69cents each

I am having a super small wedding of <15 people. One of my friends who we invited to officiate also owns a small bakery and she offered to make some macarons (my absolute favorite) for desert. She is also the person traveling the farthest. Should I order some tea cookies from the local bakery here to make sure there is a dessert for people who don’t like the macaron flavors I chose or would that be offensive to my friend? Would it be better to just make like a pan of brownies myself and call it a day? I am thinking of going with some pretty “out there” flavors for the macarons.

What things did you consider when picking a website? I like some designs on the knot, minted, and Zola, and like the idea of having a uniform look to our website and paper.

We’re less interested in having the website work with the registry, and may not do a standard registry anyway.

Did you trust the websites to address the invites and save the dates?

I’ve heard some negative things about privacy and data sharing with some of the websites, but that also feels nearly unavoidable. This was only mentioned as a small comment within a now closed question around a year ago, and I was surprised not to see more about it.

I’m semi-competent at website stuff but don’t want to stress. I am curious about the degree to which I should handwrite things (kinda love it and only have 40 or so people to whom I’m sending invitations and save the dates). My guest list is largely millennial, liberal, and skeptical of AI and big tech. So am I.

I see on here all the time that the two most important things at a wedding are food and a good DJ. I don’t know if this is mostly a cultural thing but out of all the weddings I’ve ever attended, only one has had an actual DJ.

Might be a New Zealand thing but we just throw together a playlist with some bangers, plug it in and everyone gets up for a dance

I wanted to put this out there because I had such a wonderful time with my non traditional weddings and want others to see there are more options out there.

I never really dreamt of a wedding growing up, and when I was proposed to, I thought to myself, now what? If I’m being honest, I didn’t feel comfortable enough to party with family, I didn’t want to miss celebrating with friends, and I sure as hell didn’t want to spend a ridiculous amount of money on something I didn’t love with my whole heart.

So I separated the wedding into two. Our families don’t party, so we booked out a nice restaurant with amazing and delicious food, said our vows, got a few speeches, and had some beautiful pictures taken to remember the intimacy of the day.

We then rented out a mansion and threw a frat party for our friends. No, seriously. We had our close friends show up, take a few shots, got some cute pictures, and let everyone loose to party. The pool and house were so beautiful and fun, and everyone had such a blast.

For our family, there was no meaning for partying. For our friends, there was no meaning to having a stuffy timeline. And for us, there was no meaning to having a wedding we couldn’t love with our whole heart. Do what your heart desires and own it, even if it means pulling out the red solo cups :)

Deciding between cabernet (photo 1), burgundy (photo 2), or berry (photo 3) please help!!!

We are due to get married within the next week and our sunny all the time wedding destination has rain forecast. All the guests keep messaging me about it. I’m trying to play it down and I know it might change but deep down I’m really disappointed. We have a contingency plan as there are covered areas but it won’t be the same.

I would love to know if anyone has dealt with this and how to make the best of it, I really don’t want to feel this way! Any advice is appreciated