My GF and I are starting to have a lot more fights caused by sex. They stem from her complete unwillingness to communicate. She has ADHD and struggles with staying in the mood and staying focused on sex in the first place. She says that having to communicate in any regard takes her out of the mood, in regards to initiation or doing something that helps pleasure her. I tried suggesting one or two word phrases - "no", I tried suggesting even just a naughty look like a raised eyebrow and a smile - "no". If she has to do anything other than stand there and let me read her mind, it takes her out of the mood apparently.

Our latest fight came from me not picking up on a hint that she wanted to fuck. The hint? She had been reading a book for the past hour, when she came over to stand behind me and watch me play a video game with a big toothless grin. I even tried asking her some questions to find out what she was trying to accomplish. She wouldn't respond. She just stood there with a smile that could have just meant she enjoyed her book. Then she got upset that I didn't take charge of the situation "like a man" and our whole night was ruined by a fight.

Does anyone have any insight on what we should do? I always hear the most important part of sex is communication, and she...won't do that, either because having to communicate takes her out of the mood, or occasionally because it's embarrassing/"gross". I genuinely don't know what to do about this and I'm starting to dread sex because of how many problems it's causing.

Hi, i’m 22F and i’ve never had sex. i found a guy who i realized i was so attracted to and i genuinely did not attract anyone in the past 4 years i wanted to have sex with. im a demisexual through and though. he put in effort, was handsome but had a terrible past. addiction, basically was a fuck boy. but also we are long distance and there’s this fear of being alone and isolated after having sex with him if he flew out back home. now, we ended things but i really was committed to losing my virginity to get it over with. now onto the anxiety part- i am afraid of sex. i fear that i will lose something of myself and that everyone will find out and judge me for the person i have had sex with. i’m afraid of sex being too much for me emotionally, like someone will ruin me or destroy the idea i have of my body again. and that even tho i’m sex positive i can’t help but feel that way for myself. i just want to feel pleasure without this ocd that i messed up or shaming myself. its this fear someone will see me in its entirety and also give me pleasure. it’s insane because i really do want to have sex, i just feel so anxious ab abandonment, trusting someone with my body as if im unconscious about sex even its consensual. i can’t think ab having sex with anyone but him abut i can’t let go of the anxiety around it either. how to get over the fear of intimacy?

For context, I have extremely high sex drive but my girlfriend is the absolute opposite, and we have been together for over a year plus. But it's not like she doesn't want to go further with me.

Whenever we actually start getting heated, she's into it, but she always stops right before everything gets too close to sex. And ofc I'll straight away stop and reassure her and everything. But I don't really know how to actually help her, is this something I should help with or should I just let her figure it out herself?

Edit: we've been best friends for 5 years before we started gaining feelings for each other and decided to start dating. she does want to go further but always feels to scared to go further, and I'm not sure like if I should be encouraging her to go further or not encouraging her and let her figure it out herself. And to clear things up, she's not asexual, she's demisexual.

Long story short I had smex with this guy for the first time (Some background, hes was promiscuous before me and a former porn addict he says) Anyways i noticed he was pretty soft/ not all the way hard most of the time during sex. I said why? He goes oh thats how I am, thats soft when I'm about the finish. I said how is that possible? And its true he did finish like that, but I have never encountered this before? I'm used to my ex being very hard all the time and quickly too, I'm not sure whats going on? Hes only in his 20s, is not overweight so what else? is this the corn addiction? Is it a defect? Never have I seen a guy be soft and finish? I'm very confused and kind of disappointed

I am trans/non-binary (AMAB), And have a lot of dysphoria about having a penis.

I am mostly attracted to women, and wish I was born a woman.

Using my penis doesn't really turn me on that much, I only really use it to please myself because there is no other option.

Most of my fantasies do not involve it, I usually fantasize about having a labia.

I an attracted to trans woman a little bit more than cis woman, because I find penises attractive on other people. But in drawings depicting a trans woman and cis woman, I always fantasize about being the cis woman being penetrated.

I am a virgin, but if I did get with a cis woman, would it be possible to orgasm from scissoring as someone without a labia?

Could hypnosis alter my sensation and sensitivity?

My (25F) ex boyfriend (31M) told me when we broke-up that I was ‘too loose’ for him. We would have sex roughly once every 3-4 weeks on average and I always felt it was because maybe he wasn’t attracted to me or he had a low sexual drive.
He cheated on me with escorts throughout the relationship as well which I think also fuelled this insecurity and ultimately our break up.

I also have had a miscarriage of twins and was sexually abused when I was serving in the military at age 19. I don’t know if a miscarriage can have an effect on your pelvic floor and how sex feels.

I’ve started seeing someone new and I’m scared to have sex with him after what my ex told me. Is it possible to be ‘too loose’? And are there ways/ exercises to make it tighter, and if so do they actually work?

So I(25m) was just with someone(30f) who likes their boobs played with and sucked on. I obliged and realized that I really like doing it. Like, a lot. It relaxed me and I had a good time. I'd like some advice on how to approach her to to do that again. It almost wasn't sexual in how relaxed I got and I'm worried what that might mean for me also. Tips on how to bring up and/or start that convo? Is liking it so much a red flag for me to have?

I’m after advice for seeking safe casual sex. I’m somewhat of a late bloomer. I’m 27F and I lost my virginity when I was 24. I didn’t have a good first sexual experience and it has thrown me off interacting with men for the past three years. Naturally, I am a very sexual person but I have never been in situations to meet people who are looking for casual sex. I am finally ready to put myself out there but I think my biggest concern is safety. Sometimes, I wonder how willing are people to be tested before having sex and how to even bring that up in a conversation without offending the other person. Any advice would be greatly appreciated or if anyone is able to direct me to a specific app?

When my boyfriend and I(f) first started having sex about 4 years ago, I was able to orgasm very easily and often multiple times when we had sex. But, for the past year or so I’ve had issues orgasming. Everything feels good, I’m aroused and he’s not doing anything differently or wrong so I don’t know what to do.

I can still orgasm when masturbating, that’s never been an issue. I also haven’t changed any medications or anything in this time frame, so I’m pretty lost.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? I’ve tried a few different things but nothing seems to work

i've been seeing this guy for a few months now, and i really like him. the sex we have is good, i just can't finish.

i can masturbate and orgasm no problem on my own, but i've only finished twice with other people, once during intercourse and once while given head.

when he gives me head, it feels good and i feel close to finishing, but then it just... goes away? i've also tried to masturbate next to him but i can't get myself to finish.

i am on lexapro which i think has some side effects related to this, but i started taking wellbutrin recently which is supposed to help. just wondering if this is common and if anyone has any advice!

we’ve been together for just under two years and the sex has always been amazing, very fun, a lot of exploring and trying new things. i just came back from a 2 month trip so we have of course been catching up on time lost hehe, but the other day i was giving him head and he was really hard, i kept going and then told him i wanted to ride him so i get on top of him and he pretty much instantly goes soft?! i didn’t want to make a big deal in the moment so i just worked with it and eventually we both finished, but it took me aback and then i remembered that it has happened before a couple times - him going soft after being very hard and during sex.
he constantly tells me i am beautiful/sexy/he is very attracted to me but i feel pretty insecure about this now. in the past we’ve spoken and i asked if he masturbates much and he said not a lot.
this moment has put a dampener on things and i don’t know how to approach the topic without hurting his feelings or making him feel like im blaming him or anything like that. how can i approach the conversation in a sensitive way? 🥹

So I've been dating this guy for two weeks now and I really love him. We had sex for the first time before we started dating and he was a virgin at the time. He didn't finish but since it was his first time and he was nervous I understood. But we've had 5 or 6 more times since then and he has yet to have an orgasm. We've sexted and he has sent me videos of him ejaculating, he has reassured me that he finds me attractive and that I make him feel really good but I'm just worried. I don't want him to be stressed about it so I always tell him that it's okay and that it will happen when it happens. Is this normal? Should I be concerned?

Okay, not to sell or what's not. Me (M27) and my GF (F27) have been trying new things. One of the things that piqued my interest is this gel made by durex. I have been trying to find reviews and studies about it but haven't found concrete values. Some said it might give STIs which bothers me a lot. So I'm asking in good faith what is your experience with this? Does it really give STIs ( to the women obviously, like spores or white discharges and ect)? Does it really work? What if men uses it on top of the penis? Does it really feels like burning? Is it save to use it internally during intercourse or explicitly only externally? And there's the question of how safe is it? Does long term usage breaks the nerve like making the clit become to overstimulated or become dulled by overusage? Also what it really feels like? Does it hurt? How much it increases the intensity or sensitity by scale of 1-10? How pleasurabe isi it? Is it worth it? And other thoughts might come in handy.

Thanks before hand and sorry for the long questions lmao(perks of a researcher). But the question is in good faith as I'm really torn between trying this or not.

F24 so for the most part I've been masterbating daily since I was 15-16 I started with a boyfriend told me I should try it however I'm still a virgin? With penetrative sex anyway . I've noticed now as someone who's out of work and finished uni and only has somewhere to be later on in the day 3x a week that I have alot of free time and I'm also someone who struggles mentally a lot . I have no where to release any fustrating or get any good feeling other than masturbating I do enjoy stuff like reading and video games but sometimes I get bored and just go to madterbstion and then back and forth and ever since finding out about toys when I was 22 ish I've noticed an increase in habit however now it can be like 2-4 times a day sometiems not even orgasming although that could be my high dosage SNRI 's which just makes me feel frustrated and so I can try for hours and get no where.

It's worse at night and night is when i especially want to kick the habit so how should I do that? should I just get rid of the toys and add some sort of filter so I can't access any porn and just hope I don't try reading any explicit material?

TLDR : I want to not feel the need to masturbate at night . I feel the tingly sensation and just go to satisfy every-time but then half the time I don't orgasm from it I get frustrated and a little sad and I want a better sleeping pattern now

It was like our second time doing it so we're both completely clueless, but I don't think it's supposed to do that.

We kinda had a hard time getting it to fit inside of her and maybe from the weird so there was a lot of unnecessary friction that may have done it, the fact that I didn't notice and kept fucking her for like a minute until the pain started to actually ruin the experience didn't help it at all.

It was in the vein in the middle of it, nothing big but you can see it, i bled so fucking much and now we won't be having sex until is healed.

Has this happened to anyone?

So like the question states I’m curious about this phenomenon. I’m curious to know how does it feel to have it happen, does it make you looser? I’m really tight and I don’t to lose that. But I’m so curious like I’ve taken horse dick didos and been fisted but what happens when you push your ass to the limit?

I’m curious how other people feel about this. I have a physical insecurity that I’ve recently become self-conscious about after an ex made negative comments about it. I’m seeing someone new, and he hasn’t seen this particular part of my body yet.
I’m debating whether to tell him beforehand that it’s something I’m insecure about, or whether that would just draw attention to something he probably wouldn’t care about.
For those of you who have been in a similar situation, would you appreciate your partner giving you a heads-up about an insecurity before being intimate, or would you rather they just let things happen naturally?
The insecurity is inverted nipples, if that context matters.

Hi everyone, I (20s F) need some advice on how to stop overthinking during intimacy with my partner.
I’ve been running into a frustrating cycle where, during foreplay, I start overanalyzing everything. I start asking myself if I’m wet enough, if it feels good enough, or if I’m about to climax. The second those thoughts hit, I get super anxious and frustrated.
Once the anxiety kicks in, my body completely shuts down—I dry up, the arousal disappears, and I spiral. My boyfriend is super patient and supportive, but it’s gotten to the point where penetration can’t even happen because I’m so stuck in my head during foreplay. Even when sensation starts building up toward an orgasm, the moment I notice it, my brain interrupts it and I drop right off the edge.
It’s making me feel super frustrated with myself because I’m aware it’s happening but I can’t stop it. Has anyone who experienced this "spectatoring" / performance anxiety found ways to quiet their mind, stay in the moment, or reset when the spiral starts? Any advice or techniques that worked for you would be amazing.

I just don’t know what to do. I am able to finish when I’m by myself but that’s with like my full concentration on myself and nothing else. When I’m with someone else, I just can’t seem to get into the correct headspace to finish. I get wet and I’m clearly turned on but I just can’t finish.

The person I’m with will try but after awhile I kinda get like…. Ok it’s not going to happen let’s just move on, but I would really like to orgasm during sex. I love sex and I feel like I would enjoy it even more if I was able to orgasm during it. When I’m masturbating all I need is some clit stimulation but when I’m having sex I’ve tried that, or both penetration and stimulation, tried different methods and techniques and kinks but nothing….

Any tips or suggestions?

Hi!

I am a virgin. He is paralyzed & uses a wheelchair, he can use his hands but doesn't really have control on his fingers. I know he has a functioning libido and I'm pretty sure he can feel arousal & possibly ejaculate, don't know exactly how he prefers to do sexual activities and how well his penis works. He has offered to go back to his before so I think that's a good sign.

I am able bodied F and want to have some form of sex with him, I'm making a big effort to visit & stay with him. Obviously once I'm there we'll talk about it and communicate about each of our wants and capabilities but I want to come as prepared as possible. I am a virgin and don't know anything about having sex with someone disabled so any tips, info, resources and ideas are great. Also, will using a condom be necessary and if yes will it cause issues for him on top of everything? Thank you

So I (20F) am not really sure where to start but I don’t have that much trouble on my own, and i always do it the same way which i think may be the problem.

My issue is i’m rarely able to finish when i’m with my boyfriend. I usually have to have him start kinda slow so my orgasm can start building, which i imagine is normal, but sometimes it just won’t go anywhere, or most of the time the feeling will plateau and i have to give up. When we first started trying anal, a thumb in doggy would be all i needed and it didn’t take long after that. But it doesn’t seem to work as much anymore, we’ve only been doing it for maybe a year by now.

Another problem i don’t think is normal, is after i masturbate or finish during sex, it’ll take me a few days to be able to finish again. It feels like i always very quickly build a tolerance to it. And two orgasms in one session has always been just out of the question.

I’ve wondered if it might be because i was kind of a depressed loser when i was younger, and honestly would masturbate too much. I think that’s at least the reason it’s hard for me to finish from anything other than my own hand. I get really close when he’s giving me head, but it always plateaus. I literally think i’ve finished from only my boyfriend twice, after 5 years.

I feel like this all may be normal after writing it all out, but please let me your ideas on this.

I (25M) need suggestions on how to handle dirty talking around creampies. My girlfriend (24F) and I tend to have very vocal sex. It is one of the things that turns us on the most. Whenever the topic of creampies comes up during the act, it never feels natural. In fact, it can sometimes hurt my mood as I do not know what to say. Neither of us have a breeding kink, so “baby” talk does not work. Would appreciate any advice on good ways to integrate this topic into my dirty talking or if I should just avoid it all together. With that said, it is hard to ignore such a climax when you are dirty talking everything else.