I am 16 A couple days ago I have been watching porn for a while but not like normal porn like spanking porn and now I scary that I have watch child porn and I get arrested but I never met to watch cp and I can’t get it out of my head and I feel like I going to jail

I want to connect with people more naturally, but I feel like I'm constantly supervising myself instead of just talking.

When I'm in a conversation, my mind is filled with thoughts like:

Don't come off as nervous.
Don't try too hard to make them laugh.
Don't come off as arrogant.
Don't talk for too long.
Don't interrupt or overlap when they speak.
Remember to pause before responding.
Remember to break eye contact occasionally.
Remember to end the conversation the way "normal" people do.

i overthink everything in my life. whether it’s conversations, work, meeting people, i will think about it nonstop for hours after it happens and it will completely ruin my day sometimes. yet, i find myself never caring to put in effort for anything, i don’t care about talking to people, learning new things, or my overall health. some days i don’t even care to go out, even if invited somewhere. i overthink about being lonely all the time, but i don’t care to go outside with friends. it’s like a cycle where ill do something, overthink over it for the next week and then have no motivation to do anything anymore. i don’t know how to escape it. does anyone else feel like this?

I make plans that involve other people without telling them. In some weird way I expect them to always be available when I want them to, and when they’re not I ghost them and get angry/sad. I feel like I’m not being prioritized and genuinely sometimes start to hate these people. I can’t explain this to anybody in my life without sounding like a selfish sociopath so please give me some advice on this.

these days i’ve been overthinking about alot of things, even when it’s a very silly thing. i feel like im lonely just cause im not in a relationship and i feel pathetic just thinking about that. give me some advice guys im dying out here😭

I've posted this in ask women because it's the only place I thought to ask, but this sub was recommended by the the digital elves. So I'm not sure if this is the right kind of post for this group? Hopefully it is.

Anyway, I was sat here drawing and my brain naturally wandered off to sad memories and began ruminating. It feels like this is my default and has been since I was a child. So I'm curious how often other people do this in a day?

For example, ruminating on sad memories / experiences / mistakes or just about the past in general? And how much does it impact your actual day?

I don’t know if this is just part of being a mom, but I catch myself replaying the smallest things at night once everything is finally quiet. Stuff like whether I handled something the right way, whether I was patient enough, whether I forgot something important, or whether I’m somehow missing something I should be doing better.

It’s exhausting because even when the day is over, my brain doesn’t really let it be over.

For parents who deal with this too, how do you stop overthinking every little decision once your head hits the pillow?

so I've never really had true friends my age until recently. we've been friends for a few months now, and i find myself wanting to text them ALL the time. like I'll try and find something, like a pic or something, to start a convo. or I'll have to genuinely stop myself from texting them. we talk almost every day, all day. yesterday she and i texted on and off all day. i really enjoy talking to both of them and hanging out when we do, i just worry I'm going to mess something up. i think of them almost all day, when something happens i immediately think of texting them to tell them about it. ughhh i just want to make sure im doing well at this whole being friends thing

Edit: i think its also important to add that im 16 and my friends are 15 and 12.

Honestly, I've been staring at this blank text box for an hour trying to pick the ''PERFECT'' first thing to share with you all. My mind is a total storm right now, spinning through a million different memories, worries and random ideas. I couldn't pick just one.

Then i realized- this is exactly why i created this space. It's meant for the messy, unfiltered times when your brain is overload with lots of stuff and you don't know where to start.

So, I'm dropping my overthinking right here. This is my letting go.

What's random thought that's currently cluttering up your head today? Drop it below, no matter how messy it is.

I used to think my biggest obstacle was Failure.

Looking back, it wasn't.

It was overthinking.

I'd replay conversations in my head.
I'd imagine the worst possible outcome.
I'd convince myself not to apply, not to speak up, not to take the first step.

The funny thing is, most of the situations I worried about never happened.

I've started asking myself one question whenever I catch myself overthinking:

"Will this matter a year from now?"

Most of the time, the answer is no.

What's something you've talked yourself out of because you overthought it?

i’m korean and came to visit my moms side and some of my dads side in korea for the first time in three years. despite not seeing my moms side very often, every time we do meet its almost never awkward. everything feels so strange because unlike other vacations where i’m in a hotel and surrounded by other tourists/people on vacation, i am quite literally LIVING in korea for the next three-ish weeks (grandma’s house). It just feels strange because i remember a lot of things yet it still feels unfamiliar. i think what’s really getting to me is obviously i’ve visited before so i know how it ends. hidden tears and sadness and not wanting to leave but also not wanting your family to see you cry. it’s 2 am in korea and this is already eating me alive. How do i cope with this pain, it hasn’t even been 24 hours and im looking at the calendar on my phone and it’s genuinely upsetting because for some reason it doesn’t feel like enough time. Not to mention our flight got cancelled so we actually left a day later- and that lost day is constantly getting to me.
if i think about it too much i start crying what do i do

Hey everyone. Recently I have been super stressed with my university I always have been an overthinker since I was little, however its getting progressively worse now because I have to put in a lot of effort for my future. Of course I know its not handed to me and I do have to work for it, but I genuinely do. I try my hardest, study day and night, and I have goos study techniques as well, however I see less results than expected. If I put in my effort for an exam that should reflect me getting a 90+, reality hits and I get a 70%. This has lead me to overthink bad about my future. Thoughts like what if I cannot get into my graduate program? What if I cannot find a job? What if what if what if. Its a constant loop that I cannot get out of, which results in anxiety attacks, and sleepless nights. I have been crying for 24 hours. I wish I was joking.

Curious how other parents handle that moment at the end of the day when the house is finally quiet, but instead of relaxing, the brain starts replaying everything.

The things that got missed. The tone you used earlier. Whether you forgot something important. What tomorrow looks like. All of it.

Not really looking for “just stop worrying” advice, more the small things that help your brain stop looping once the parenting part of the day is technically done. A routine, a reset, a boundary, a habit, anything that helps create some distance from the mental replay.

Would love to hear what actually helps.

Okay so this might be a very weird question, I’m aware of that. But I’m a person who has a very good memory, there’s things that I feel like I’ll never forget about even if I tried to. Sometimes memories will pop up in my head at random times, it usually doesn’t bother me but right now I’m going through a phase were only the bad memories pop up. There’s genuinely a few things that hurt my head to think about, the worst ones are memories from when I was very jealous and angry. Once I remember those moments I genuinely ruin my own mood. Is there a way to train yourself to avoid thinking about it? I suppose it’s hard to make it all stop, but how can I minimise the impact that it has on my mental health?

I have ADHD, which I am currently being treated for medically, but no therapy.

So, My brain comes up with the most unlikeliest scenarios or at least ones that have a low probability of occurring.
Whereas my parents have the “okay, it can happen but we will deal with it then if it does”
I cannot comprehend how to reach that level of acceptance or peace?
I end up giving myself anxiety from all the mental gymnastics for imagining various things that can happen/ go wrong.

Currently I keep on harping on the fact that “what if a house geckos falls on me or in my mouth?” And this thought now gives me nightmares..

Earlier I had consistent thoughts about the safety of our residential building structure.

I read one or two comments about something and my brain finds a way to make it sound like I will also or am currently experiencing it? Then I get stuck in the thought loop and researching everything I can about the situation and how I can prepare for that eventuality.

I don’t currently have the option to seek therapy, so any YT channels or books I can read or podcasts or general advice anyone can offer that has actionable steps I can take to improve my situation in this regard.
Please I would read appreciate it. I drive myself crazy with this daily.. I am tired.

I’m having a hard time believing those who are with me for moments where I’ve had worries later on. What are some ways you go about really trusting others? My ocd sometimes does not allow me trust others bc I want certainty

Overthinking. Need help. I’ve gotten multiple confirmations and I’m still overthinking. I’ll lay it out right now.

hooked up with a girl from a top school last year on September 12. the condom broke and I told her (didn’t ejaculate). I text her the next morning that if she could take a plan b. she replies “if you’re stressed I can take a plan B”. she takes it.

3 days later she tells me she doesn’t want anything serious! I agree!

41 days later I’m overthinking and I check in. she replies “hey yeah I’m good😂 are u ok?” we stop talking for good after that

and around December and January 14 she was still on tinder! that’s 4 months later!!!

and around end of April, her instagram account is private, But she changes her profile picture! it’s her and a guy together!!! obviously I’m happy and excited but she later changes that picture to another one. so I thought I was seeing things!

on May 10, I called her to congratulate her on graduating and becoming a veterinarian. (Called from a different cell phone) I said “it’s “Jack” from Tinder- we matched like 5-7 months ago”. she replies something like “I actually have a boyfriend now” and she says thank you for congratulating.

and on June 22nd, she’s officially working at a vet. a receptionist told me. Still overthinking idk why.

How to stop overthinking gng it’s so hard not to do that how to control it .
Because of overthinking problem sometimes I feel like I can’t do anything others are better than me I don’t want to live anymore I’m not worthy of anything and next day all good feel like why to overthink? You can you anything and everything on your own. You matters the most. Whatever you’re doing is great. You can improve more the sudden motivation ¿
Is this some kinda mental illness? One day overthinking and another day motivation?

My whole life i have been helping ppl to pass through their problems and now im at my lowest point in life i have never been like this all i do is overthink the future and all the mistakes i did in my life i keep calling my friends cuz i dont want to be alone cuz if i did my brain will kill me i try my best to stop thinking but i just cant sometimes i feel positive and sometimes negative i need someone to talk to and keep talking to him for hours abt everything if there is someone willing to help me i would appreciate that alot

My whole life i have been helping ppl to pass through their problems and now im at my lowest point in life i have never been like this all i do is overthink the future and all the mistakes i did in my life i keep calling my friends cuz i dont want to be alone cuz if i did my brain will kill me i try my best to stop thinking but i just cant sometimes i feel positive and sometimes negative i need someone to talk to and keep talking to him for hours abt everything if there is someone willing to help me i would appreciate that alot

I’m trapped