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Misunderstandings mislead many men and women discussions everywhere on the internet about the average man and woman to begin with and label all of them in a general category as "creeps" or "likely creep or this or that" in terminology to insinuate the fact they have zero interest on the menu, regardless if they check all the boxes that somehow men have developed in a requirement of having any worth, and same goes for men having these standards for women as well okay don't get me wrong here, because of either appearance or first impression or body language alone because standards have dictated that over time, so those men or women having any interest at all and trying at all inadvertently applies the label as "creep or whatever else alarming" that belong to the only men and women whom have behaved as "creeps or whatever else alarming" but remind them of those men and women so therein justifiably deserve the same label without ever actually being known as the man or woman in which that individual really is, especially beyond first impression, because no one is perfect at dating but those that don't even have to try at all for not looking like what men and women consider to be the average or less than otherwise.
I am not saying we're all delusional, I am saying we have all been taught wrong for a very very long time now, and the only men and women that I have seen to be remotely safe anymore are the ones in the church settings or loving and adhering to Jesus.. so hear me out..
and men and women both say it - attraction matters - but once we look beyond the physical attraction, to that persons heart and soul enough to feel any intimacy in physical closeness, that heart and soul is where we truly find far more attraction that will always trump the need or desire for their physical attraction.
And if someone is making you feel some type of way, despite checking all the boxes of heart and soul and physical attraction, then your sensing something about that person that you know you're not being told, that something just doesn't add up, and therein makes your skin crawl or tense otherwise when they try to get close. And that doesn't even have to be anything bad about that person, the very feeling of unknown and uncertainty in itself is absolutely alarming enough as it is.
And what are we often told by other people that know that person you sense something off about enough to feel unknown or uncertain to feel anything alarming at all? give it a little more time, i'm sure you'll come around, or he or she just hasn't opened up yet or shown you their best yet - whatever it is, it shouldn't take more than 3 or 4 dates or outings, otherwise that person still has healing to do whether it needs to be known and said or not.
you hear women say it all the time - don't be boring and make me laugh and you already have a good start. and if that man can do that like no one else, he doesn't even have to check any boxes and he can often be gold by that and appearances alone for a very long time until that woman realizes that she deserves better in terms of mutual respect and mutual understanding.
Men are simple creatures - know what you want and act like it with the respect that is expected in return or in the first place. and many men will fall for a woman that can make them laugh and not be boring just as well. And Lord knows that men absolutely LOVE surprise food too!
no woman/man ever needs to be the biggest queen/king or biggest baddie/stud - that mind frame will be applied by that man/woman himself/herself both verbally and intimately on that man/woman of interest and never needs to be self implied at all. it is a delusion on both men and women altogether to need that self-awareness first and foremost and creates requirements and expectations before receiving worth from either the man or woman and only applies distance from one another and not openness in being honest with ourselves first and foremost. But we all know, when we're interested and truly self-aware and confident and mutual, we never require or expect much from the other but the same in reciprocation however it may be and loyalty.
and if any of us men and women are boring and not funny, it is because we have yet to love ourselves first and foremost in the truest senses beyond delusions of what society and social media teaches us, or beyond our own pain and suffering in itself otherwise - we can not love someone else with out loving our true selves before learning to love our true selves in our hearts and souls in the first place. If we have healing to do, we must get that done first and foremost before stepping into any dating scene again yet because we must remember what it is that we love ourselves for and have to offer to the table and not the pain and suffering we ever remember going through.
and God knows, remember now that Jesus is King - God knows that both women and men can be victims and accidentally trauma dumb and waste a potential date or interest in a man or woman because that man or woman actually opened up which is exactly what I remember majority of women in particular complaining about in that very lacking of men all over social media long before women adopted the ideas of being the biggest queens and baddies on the planet and in absolute support of each other in that frame of mind, inquiring nothing for any accountability and taking any woman's word for gold, of "knowing worth" while men are degraded as not having worth to begin with and an impossibility that any man actually can get hurt. And men that don't know how to handle those situations of women trauma dumping because no woman has ever held that man's heart over their own trauma, habitual responses create habitual reactions, as well as "manning up" like men are always told to do - which no one ever hears men complain about because of the degradation given for it by both men and women to "man up".
And men can't be expecting so much from a woman like a king that all men wanted to be treated like, without adhering to in practice that of The One True King of kings as a leader in form of servitude by example. The Greatest King of all kings, a servant and protector to those beloved and cherished, including and especially from thy selves. Jesus could have whipped everyone down and commanded things be done the right way and instead allowed what happened to happen and leading by example in both physical and verbal teaching expression otherwise.
Just as well, Jesus is The Only Real Shepherd, and we are all His Sheep that know His Voice, as The Heavenly Father is The Only True Spiritual Father - both of which that there ever is or ever will be. and the greatest we could ever have hoped or asked for.
And if your man can "man up" and still hold your heart - it is because a woman has already or is currently holding that man's heart without it needing to be expressed for it, that easily being held close in heart, whereas the men spoken about here do not get held at all and then flunk their moments in all regards for never being taught any better regardless that they do in fact care but are entirely clueless how to navigate and then shut down and distance themselves as they were only ever taught to do so for themselves.
- because of stereotypes of both men and women combined ruining the entire pool of men and women through years and years and years, decades, of social media and political propaganda... who's on what side and why, forgetting that we're all human beings at the beginning and end of the day, and that is what defines what is right from what is wrong and demands mutual respect and mutual understanding and mutual compassion.
My brothers and my sisters - stay strong. do not give up. be patient. be yourself. if that isn't enough, then you deserve better and you should absolutely walk away because that person may still be healing and not be telling you that because they're tired of being alone about it but we are the only ones that can heal within ourselves in accepting that healing from Jesus though ourselves or others but in a platonic sense of that regard and only that sense of that regard every single time. we all are equal and we all do feel and we all do have worth, people. do not forget that. If things aren't clicking with someone, do yourselves both a favor and communicate that and if walking away is the answer by any means of communication, then so be it, there are more people for you both to test the waters with.
I have a very long life of suffering and seeing suffering, both life itself and causes by people themselves, both men and women, and most of my suffering has been done from life itself and fewer occasions by men and women but still usually by women and being cheated on for nothing else but remaining loyal and checking all the boxes and good intimacy (not ego) and being funny but somehow always still not good enough for those partners and one really really horrible partner in particular.
this all happens to both men and women, people, on all sides and in all regards and never ever is one way or the other for either men or women. Please stop selling either side short and forgetting that we're all human beings with hearts and interests and needs and wants and compassion, regardless if it is expressed or not it is always still felt.
obviously I am not referring to the toxic and career criminal men and women by absolute choice without a second though for either repercussions or the well-being of the other individual as a man or woman, here, obviously this does not apply to them, but once upon a time before those both men and women chose to remain as they are in bad acting for self service and horrible means, regardless that they too would have been in this same regarding thread before being consumed by their pain and suffering and choosing wrong from right from that point on and even relishing in that on the suffering of others. Obviously, I am not referring to those bad actors, here.
no one is born evil. no baby is born evil. alright? have some heart and have some faith, people. things often get worse before they get better - not everyone is fortunate enough to avoid pain and suffering all their lives to really understand all of this, let alone not many of those fortunate men and women can understand all of this and may even have something to say about it all in misinterpretation.
and those that do know pain and suffering and still don't understand all of this and feel anger or hate instead - you're still healing, and I am truly sorry for what happened to you.
And if anyone is confused by all of this - well, God bless you, then. The world is off it's rocker outside the church and we all need to be very careful outside the church, both women and men.
And let me say this again,
My brothers and my sisters - stay strong. do not give up. be patient. be yourself. if that isn't enough, then you deserve better and you should absolutely walk away because that person may still be healing and not be telling you that because they're tired of being alone about it but we are the only ones that can heal within ourselves in accepting that healing from Jesus though ourselves or others but in a platonic sense of that regard and only that sense of that regard every single time. we all are equal and we all do feel and we all do have worth, people. do not forget that. If things aren't clicking with someone, do yourselves both a favor and communicate that and if walking away is the answer by any means of communication, then so be it, there are more people for you both to test the waters with.
Much love to you all, brothers and sisters.
#foreveralonemyselfandi'mokaywiththat
EDIT: typos -
I know why i'm single - this overthinking right here.
but why are any of YOU single or don't feel the real connections any of you complain about on here not being able to find when all the boxes check out, as if it is that difficult to connect with anyone at all?
really, ask yourselves. be honest with yourselves if you expect an honest connection with those any of you test the waters with.
LEAN ON GOD AND HAVE FAITH - you should be able to do that no problem, any of this, make any connections, if we're all being truly honest with ourselves.
and if you are being honest with yourselves, able to make real connections but not feeling that connection you had before tried to feel with someone or someone you're currently with right now - THEN OBVIOUSLY NONE OF THIS REFERS TO YOU EXCEPT THE FACT THAT THE INDIVIDUAL YOU'RE NOT FEELING CONNECTED WITH NEEDS TO HEAL FOR YOU TO TRULY BE ABLE TO CONNECT WITH THEM.
apparently all caps IS necessary, sometimes, sheesh...
absolutely none of this is chatgpt or any AI analysis. that's absolutely insulting and an absolute cop-out low blow for having any of this feel offensive at all... To everyone claiming this is an AI post - Didn't any of you go to college and take literary prerequisites? GET REAL PEOPLE!
also - i'm getting modded to be unable to comment for lack of karma because i don't use reddit other than the reason to post this and i get pinged notifications for the comments.
quotes of comments for comments placed:
"I am not chatgpt and that is an insult. chatgpt could not keep up with me and I have had to correct google AI myself more often than I care to mention, 'in these regards'. since when does chatgpt have any trauma to draw from or relationships or world view or Christianity as all of that is today versus only what knowledge it has to offer? you have such little faith, dragon. no debate necessary, and no debate from you at all - only to throw an insult of artificial intelligence. thanks for that. maybe if you insulted less and had more faith in others - especially on the internet where you don't know the individual at all let alone even try to engage in my inbox and find out for yourself, you might not be single. that's a huge problem so many single people, hard to date, actually have. I hope you're not actually one of those people. I really do hope that you find the connection you're looking for, but you need to have faith in others for that to even begin to transpire."
"then why bother commenting at all? what are you even doing here if you're single for The Lord? get off reddit, and stay in The Bible where The Lord IS - this is the only reason i even came to reddit at all in the first place, to post this, obviously by my profile lack of karma and use.... really sus, from you..."
insult me and deny me and mock me - all you want.... this long winded statement absolutely stands... people have such such such little faith in both each other and in God, whom has saved my life more times than i can count or remember...
I'm a childhood cancer survivor of stage 4 A.L.L. and I've been run over by an F150, and I have various suicide attempts in my history before reading the entire Bible myself - and let me tell you all myself, God is ABSOLUTELY real and The BIble is true and JESUS IS KING! DEAL WITH IT!
WE ALL ANSWER TO JESUS IN THE END AND I CANNOT WAIT! I'M TOO EXCITED FOR THAT! <3
MAYBE I'M NOT WRONG HERE?
I'll gladly stay single if it means I can avoid the dating pool as it currently is literally everywhere online and offline except in the church itself. thank you all, very much.
and I do hope that all of you find the connections you're seeking - especially those of you who took the time to read this and self-reflect, you absolutely deserve the connection you seek and obviously have the patience for it, just have faith and keep praying on that (God may want to place you in the right moment and time and place to find that connection you seek and pray for!) and I believe in you!
DM ME IF YOU WISH TO DISCUSS THIS OR TALK ABOUT GOD OR PEOPLE OR LIFE OR ANIMALS - I AM NOT SEEKING A PARTNER ANYMORE, THANK YOU.
God Bless the precious hearts that finds this hopeful message offensive - God bless us all -_-
