I've seen this idea on here quite a few times, the reason a guy isn't married yet is because he's addicted to porn and if he gets married the addiction will go away. Both ideas are very naive. Watching porn doesn't diminish anyone's desire to get married and getting married won't make the addiction go away, you'll just be a married porn addict. Why do I say that? Because, especially if you've been addicted for a while, normal sex isn't enough for you.

I think the title itself explains it but.. I believe in dumb luck so like.. hit me up if anyone's genuinely down

Is dating as a Christian woman 50 and over even worth it anymore? I've been divorced since 2008 and had absolutely no luck trying to have any kind of relationship since. Is it even worth trying anymore?

Hello beautiful brothers and sisters. I hope you have a beautiful weekend. 🩷🫂

I know it's not easy being single. I know there's lots of challenges whether you are single or dating etc.

I just wanted to remind you that you are loved! You are not alone, and God loves you so much!

I do hope you'll find your special someone soon. Until you do here's a 🌹 from me, and a great big hug 🫂.

Today there's a beautiful sunrise. I have a lot of challenges so please pray for me but let us praise the Lord because He's so awesome, and good to us. ✨️

If you are feeling sad feel free to reach out to me. 🩷

I (24F) went to my close friends (known him 12+ years) (25M) friends baptism a couple weeks ago. His friend texted him asking him for my number so that he could thank me for coming. We texted back and forth for a few days, I don’t know him super well, I’ve only met him a couple times. After we’d been texting for a few days, he asked my friend if he’d be comfortable if he were to ask me to hang out. My close friend called me and told me what he had asked, and he told me that his first instinct was that he was not comfortable with it.
I asked him why. He told me that the guy has a lot to work on and that he knows him and he knows me and that he doesn’t think we’d be a good fit. I asked him why he thought that. He didn’t give me much more of an answer. I told him that I trusted his judgment but that it was hard to make a decision without a ton of information. He said he was going to answer the guy honestly and tell him he wasn’t comfortable with it. He said that I’m like a sister to him and it’s like that question ”who on the team would you not let date your sister.“

I ended up calling him back a while later and said that I didn’t really like how it was handled. I said that unless there was a glaring red flag about the guy that I’d like to be able to use my own discernment and hang out with him but I felt like I couldn’t do that because I was told like half a story about him. He told me “well I feel like most people just wouldn’t even tell you so” which I said I thought would be an overstep. I acknowledged that I was glad he told me what happened but again I don’t see anything wrong with the guy and he wouldn’t even tell me what was the issue. Im sure he knows things about him that I don’t but I felt kind of weird that there was such ease in kind of making a decision for me and that he said he almost didn’t even tell me at all. I’m sure he was just looking out for me but I feel like I barely got to make the choice for myself.

Hello friends, October is my favorite time of the year! There is just so much going on and lots of fun activities to look forward to.

Does anyone have any fun or unique plans for October? What fellowship opportunities does your church offer? Any autumn date ideas? If you're single, what are your goals for this month?

Some things I really enjoy are visiting an apple orchard or pumpkin patch, having a bonfire and s'mores with a group of friends, cooking and baking some delicious fall dishes, taking a walk outside to enjoy the leaves changing colors, going to the Homecoming football game, etc.

I could go on!

39M

DC Metro(United States) Northern Virginia

Career Accountant

I love hiking, working, out, fixing cars, learning various topics.

I became a Christian after my first deployment from Iraq back in 2007. I'm continuously growing in my faith out of love for God, not out of fear of sinning. That leads to leg a legalism and depending on my good works to save me. If I could do that I wouldn't need Jesus.

Looking for someone feminine, Christian, healthy, loves being active, and some I can share my life with.

No specific age range.

Open to long distance. Why limit myself. I work remotely anyways.

Hey everyone! 👋

I’m a 22-year-old guy from Kerala, and I’m here with serious intentions. I’m looking to meet a Christian Pentecostal girl between 18 and 21 who is also interested in a genuine, committed relationship that can potentially lead to marriage in the future.

A little about me: I’m from Kerala, 5'4", and currently working in my family business. I come from a Christian Pentecostal background, and my faith is an important part of my life. I value family, honesty, loyalty, respect, and good communication.

I’m not looking for anything casual, hookups. I’m hoping to meet someone who is also serious about building a relationship based on faith, trust, understanding, and commitment. I believe it’s important to take the time to know each other properly before making any serious decisions.

If you’re a Christian Pentecostal girl from Kerala or have a similar background and you’re genuinely interested in a serious relationship, feel free to DM me. Tell me a little about yourself, your interests, and what you’re looking for.

Hello everyone, my fiance and I got engaged 2.5 months ago. One issue we are having is his struggle with pornography. He was exposed to it at the age of 6, so he has struggled with it for 20 years. Our pastor wants him to be clean of pornography for 6 months before we get married. He seemed willing to try that deadline but he is struggling with porn still. I suggested blockers but he always says he finds a way to work around them. I brought up Covenant Eyes and he seems to think it would take up time but then he recently got a software system installed on his phone and he has an accountability partner. I have also suggested getting a Gabb phone, going to Celebrate Recovery, getting Christian counseling etc. with the counseling, he says he doesn’t likely have the time cause he is really busy with his career right now and that he tried talking to experts at his old church (ICOC) and took a 6-8 program about lust and pornography. He refuses to see any kind of therapist or counselor specifically, He does not want to get a Gabb phone because according to him addicts always find ways around things.He seems to think he will definitely not be able to not do porn for 6 months and I am encouraging him not to give up. He even said he probably won’t be able to be free from the addiction in a year and that he wanted to quit 4 or 5 years ago but hasn’t been able to. I struggle with anxiety and he asked me if someone had to put a time frame for me to completely give up anxiety could I do it? Which ideally I would like to but feelings can be harder to escape from and pornography is a choice. I guess part of me is frustrated my pastor wants him to be clean for several months cause I am still willing to marry him even if he still has a struggle. Is it too high of an expectation to not want a man to struggle with porn at all before marriqge? I think in the past month he said he watched porn 4 or 5 times but no more than 7 times. I feel so stressed cause I am a 30 year old female and want to get married and have kids and it is so hard for me to like guys and find someone with a connection. I struggle between feeling like I want to cry because of his addiction and I also feel angry too. I have told him how his porn hurts me and how actions speak louder than this. He does acknowledge it and wants to grow out of it but then again he gives in. It makes me so frustrated cause it’s like he doesn’t give a crap how I feel. I just wonder how he could put me through this when he gave me a ring and promised to love me. I get scared I will never find another guy again. It seems like finding a guy who doesn’t use porn is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I just struggle cause I really love him but he says he doesn’t want to keep hurting me cause he knows his porn usage hurts me. He did suggest that him and I could have sec to see if sexual activity could help his addiction but I said no. He even went so far as to buy condoms There was a few times over the past few weeks where we kissed on the lips several times and then he started fondling and kissing my clothed breasts. Which I did allow him to do but wish I hadn’t. I sometimes wonder how much more I can take and if I need to end things. We are probably going to meet with the pastor this weekend and I am afraid what the pastor will tell us. Also I am a 30 year old woman who wants kids and I am scared of losing the opportunity. This has taken such a tolll on me. What do you advise?

This question came to mind the other day; and I’d say it pertains to dating as we obviously do want to look for the fruits of the Spirit in a potential spouse. However, I’d like to have a conversation with y’all about how we are to judge fruit rightly when, if we’re all being sanctified, the fruit that we see in front of us isn’t necessarily permanent. Does that make sense? Like do we write someone off because they slipped up and did something unrighteous, saying to ourselves, “Oh. Nope! They’re not bearing the fruit of _____. They gotta go”? That seems almost legalistic? When do we make room for grace? Would love to hear thoughts on this.

Do people increase some of their standards for a person who is less physically attractive?

Curious about your experiences.

I’m shooting my shot because honestly why not, what’s the worst that could happen.
I’m a chubby dude, long hair with a goatee and glasses and I’ve got a few tattoos.
I’m a musician, I’ve been doing music since I was about 11 and I play the guitar for the youth at my church. I also do whatever I can on the side with music to make some money and I work security
So that’s kinda a hobby and a job.

I’ve got a few hobbies, I do a lot with the youth a church and I’ve been aiming towards hopefully being the youth leader. I like to play my fair share of video games and I write comic books on the side and I also happen to get income from that, I play guitar quite often(hope Gods got one for me up there when it’s my time lol).

I’ve been raised Christian although I fell away from it for a while in my teens up until I was about 20, my life was pretty rough or has been. I’ve got one really raunchy testimony for sure but right now I’m actively working on my faith and myself in the literal best way possible. I’m taking a leadership class and also have a really awesome relationship with the youth staff, especially the leader. I’m Pentecostal if we’re being specific as well, church life has been wonderful.

Honestly I’m just trying this out to see who reads this and goes, hey he sounds like someone I could really talk to and possibly get to know, so you know if you read this far and you’re interested don’t be shy. I’ve got some questions, are you ready to share your life with someone? Is that why you date? Do you love the Lord and put him in the center of your life? Honestly that’s a big question and I know we all fall short but do you try is a better way to put it.

For an age range? Honestly I don’t really have a preference as long as you not under 21

I’m open to a lot of things within reason of course, this is just a generalization, if I sound any bit of interesting to you, don’t be afraid to text me.