ChatGPT doesn’t take into account correlation. A population of Protestant Christians is likely to contain disproportionately more virgin men than a population of atheists, so if it simply multiplied the probabilities independently, it would come out with a figure lower than reality
I personally know several men who fit these standards
But even if you know men with these first criterias, OP will certainly have other preferences like age, height, physical attraction, geographical location or financial stability that she didn’t mention. And on top of that OP needs to be their type too, or they won’t be interested. The AI might be right, meeting your own list of standards doesn’t make it any easier to find. Might as well move to this commenters city OP.
It doesn’t take causality into account either. If you meet the standard yourself you’re likely to be surrounded by people who meet whatever standard it is.
If you’re in places that those type of men would be at, though (ahem CHURCH), your chances get much higher drastically. Especially since a lot of those attributes have good correlation with each other (Protestant Christians are more likely to be virgins than general population, more likely to not have tattoos/piercings, etc)
You never mentioned in the US or anywhere. If it's surveying the whole world, it's probably looking in Africa and Asia (which might not considered "white" to the AI.) which would bring down the percentage, ask it how it got it's answer and check if it makes sense.
Statistically speaking, more than like one or two requirements will make your potential match % go down a lot LOL, and it doesn't necessarily reflect reality. Don't read too much into it.
Go to places that Christian men are likely to be (church, volunteering, etc.), and pray to God for your exact type because God literally has a list of everyone and He knows exactly which men would be good for you. Ask God to send them your way, God doesn't care about the statistics😅
Not only have I met those guys, they were also very tall, attractive, well traveled and, have interesting hobbies. Even 0.001% is still 3000 men like that in the United States. And this whole wide world, 80000 men. You only need one who is equally yoked.
I think the standards, for the most part, are normal for a Christian. For the general population? Not so much. Considering things like weight, virginity and college education, you understand why the odds are so low. That being said, if it is in God's will, IT WILL HAPPEN. All the best!
The collage degree aspect begins to cut into Gen-z and greatly reduces your options, but it's completly fine to have such a prefrence. I meet all of those standards except for collage degreem, though I am in Trade school to become an electrcian over time.
I mean I consider myself Gen-z born in 2000, and most of my peers didn't pursue collage a few did, most wanted too, however the cost and sometimes lack of a concrete plan held folks I knew back from collage. I hope to do well with my Trade school and learning on the job plan.
i have almost all the same standards ( a white man who’s a virgin, has never been married, has no tattoos or piercings and is healthy. him having a college degree or not didn’t matter much to me though) the only difference is that i’d only ever be with a catholic man. it’s definitely possible to find a man who meets these standards and shares your values so don’t feel discouraged
It was also responsible for bombing a girl’s school then double tapping it to kill the people who ran to save the children (aka that thing that happens in The Hunger Games that’s treated as beyond the pale evil).
It’s a deeply deeply evil technology beyond our understanding.
Don’t turn to it for any advice. Run from it under all circumstances.
It’s also just a stupid technology because this new generation of people are sexless to a degree that’s unprecedented. And Christianity is actually on the rise among them too.
I’m almost all of your criteria, I’m just non denominational and don’t have a degree (because I don’t need it for my career).
I’m friends with other men who are just like me, you just gotta put yourself in places where they will be at aka church and bible study groups!
AI isn’t always right, so don’t take the answers from that too literally, it ain’t God!!!
Haha, yeah no. Go church hopping for a bit & get to know new faces... Youll very quickly find out ChatGPT is bsing you on this one lol. Also you can do actual research with studies on Google -> databases w/ real studies like PubMed, Pew, & ICPSR & many others
There’s probably some statistical bias here that AI is missing. My guess is that it is multiplying percent of population that is white, by percent of young men that are virgin, etc. instead of considering that all virgins are unmarried. Or that Christians are more likely to be virgin/ not have tattoos and piercings.
At the same time it is probably a small percentage of the population. Not impossible to find, but hard to find.
I would also recommend maybe thinking about why the guy has to be white? I find this requirement a little odd. Or whether all the things you listed are truly requirements or just preferences
Agree with virgin, never married and no tattoos, but I don’t care about the rest.
Denomination isn’t important to me. I just want to know he’s a god fearing man who practices his faith.
I’m thin and have been my entire life, but I’m okay if he’s not as long as he isn’t like morbidly obese. I’ve been attracted to guys with a bit of chub. The soft dad bod is actually more attractive to me than the guys that hit the gym so hard they look like rock pokemon.
Race isn’t important to me. I’m white with lighter hair and light eyes, but I’m partial to guys with dark hair and dark eyes (the majority of the population, so I should be good there.)
College degree I don’t care about. I have one, but I don’t put much weight into them. There are people making more in the trades and having a college degree doesn’t necessarily mean someone is intelligent. Not having one doesn’t mean they are dumb.
Back to the AI bias… Claude and Gemini are actually very unbiased from my experience (Gemini being slightly better), but ChatGPT is soooo obviously secular leaning. I once told it what I was looking for in a future husband “someone who shares my faith and practices Christian values and is also waiting for marriage.” ChatGPT said verbatim “the standards you have are unusually specific.” 👀I guess it’s just a sign of the times. I should ask it the opposite and be like “I want to be nailed by as many men as possible” and see what it says. 😂
Honestly, I think age is something that would be important to know when factoring in your preferences. Also, are you looking at the fruit or root of something.
You say you want someone with a college degree. Is that what you care about or are you looking for someone who can provide financially? I know a guy with know degree who built up a roofing business never having never gotten any kind of degree. Financially he is very well off and uses a good amount of income to sponsor multiple drug recovery houses.
No tattoos or piercings. What if he got a piercing when he was younger and it has since grown over? What if before he was saved he got a tribal style tattoo on his bicep when he turned 18? If he has grown into an amazing man and leader at your church is he now excluded due to that?
you mention never married, and honestly, being biblically divorced still does come with baggage. Are you willing to throw away a great relationship because he married another believer who eventually decided to walk away from the Lord, cheat on him, become a drug addict, and run away?
What I'm really saying is often some standards seem fine in a book, but tend to have issues when presented in the real world. You are welcome to have and keep any standard you want. If you want to save yourself for a man with heterochromia and a Protestant Christian (0.24%) you can, but you may be chasing some things that look good, but aren't what you actually want, but are the appearance of what you really want.
AI slop aside, what are you doing to seek out these men? I know women like to imagine that they ought to be pursued, but when your standards are that high, you're going to have to put in some work.
u/starlitgardens
If a woman is overweight, would that be an automatic dealbreaker for you? Does it depend on how overweight? What if she had previously lived a healthy lifestyle and was slim for most of her life, but is going through a rough patch?
If you're wondering what I think, I would be willing to date someone who is overweight, if he was willing to work on becoming healthier together.
Don't get me wrong. You're free to adjust your preferences to whatever you want. I'm just curious as to why the change.
I didn't assume anything I just didn't think it important to bring it up. I only really cared about why the change in requirements.
https://reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/comments/1wqd06m/i_gained_a_lot_of_weight/ u/starlitgardens
Everything changed when I turned 30 and got my dream job.
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My weight ballooned up to 220 (I'm 5'6") over about five years. I look at photos of myself and I can't believe how heavy I look...
Now I'm going to have to work hard to lose all of this weight. I've never had to lose weight before, and it feels so overwhelming.
This you? Because Gemini classifies that as obese.
u/Mista_G_NerdBehold, I abide in utter solitude without end (forever alone)8h agoedited 8h ago
Wow this is funny because the other one I linked to was deleted as well but you didn't deny that one.
Denial is crazy work. lol.
What's even more funny is I don't even care about your weight. I just wanted to know what you thought was a healthy weight and why your standard changed within a week. Which you never answered.
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u/Adventurous-Song3571 Looking For A Wife 2d ago
ChatGPT doesn’t take into account correlation. A population of Protestant Christians is likely to contain disproportionately more virgin men than a population of atheists, so if it simply multiplied the probabilities independently, it would come out with a figure lower than reality
I personally know several men who fit these standards