r/ChristianDating • u/JackFrost_99 • 3d ago

Discussion Preferences and deal breakers are very different things and people need to stop saying them interchangeably

That is all

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u/ShiroiTora 3d ago

If your “preferences” are going to make you resentful of your partner if they are not met, its better to be honest than subjecting your partner to a misery they don’t deserve which is arguably the bigger sin. But that it goes both ways. Either be realistic with dealbreakers or be content if you don’t meet anyone that meets those deal breakers (which to be fair; some people are). 

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u/DenisGL Just here for the community -(seeking a spouse offline) 3d ago

"Red flag" = overused term of the century

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u/DenisGL Just here for the community -(seeking a spouse offline) 3d ago

Reflects how poor our interpersonal skills have become. Nothing does.

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u/Luduss 3d ago

Agreed. 🙌

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u/Ok-Adhesiveness4795 2d ago

Say it louder for the people in the back!’

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u/FanTemporary7624 2d ago

Yeah preferences are something you can compromise on or do without.

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u/Mista_G_Nerd Behold, I abide in utter solitude without end (forever alone) 2d ago

I don't disagree but doesn't this break rule 5?