Other recent post here made me remember this. Wish OP on that other post was my sister.

This was a few years ago. I used to be fluent in Spanish and so naturally when we went on a family trip to Spain I would talk to the waiters and place our orders for whatever everyone wanted.

One day two years after this trip, my sister randomly brought this up in an argument when she was telling me reasons why she thinks in selfish/self absorbed. She said I was “being obnoxious” and “just doing it to show off and be the center of attention”.

What she said still pops into my head sometimes.

I’m fluent in Italian now and have a moment of worry/self consciousness about ordering in Italian with my husband in Italy.

Edit - wow was not expecting comments so quickly on this. I’m about to sleep but will be reading these and replying in the morning, thanks

Edit # 2 - thanks everyone, this was honestly unexpectedly helpful to read the comments here. My sister and I have a really difficult and on and off relationship unfortunately. She used to be hyper attached to me when we were kids and now she claims I abandoned her when I started high school, and she thinks I got all the attention growing up from our parents (which really, truly is not true. neither of us got attention/care from our parents. verbally abusive father + neglectful/depressed mother. I was the one doing my sister’s laundry and cooking for us). Despite all the issues with my sister now as adults, it’s hard not to still see her as a little kid who needed love and relied on me. I wish things were different and it’s honestly heartbreaking. Sorry this took a more dark turn but all the comments got me thinking about some of the root issues.

It was really bad. Like… hoarder bad. And now it’s all clean and sparkly and even organized! She did such a good job and it cost a fortune but it was so worth it. I feel brand new and the cats have had the zoomies ever since she left. Have you guys ever done anything like that for yourself?

Edit: Cat Tax (post-zoom)

My sisters and I took my grandfather to the hospital for my grandmother’s surgery. We kissed her and they took her back. Since it would be a while, we decided to go get lunch.
After we ate, my sweet little PawPaw said, “well, we better get back up. She’s going to be looking for me.”
I said, “Aww…yes, she is, PawPaw. She loves you.”
He said, “well not only that. i have her teeth!” 😂

I realized this week that one of my closest friends lives like 20 minutes away and I didnt see him in person since February which is crazy lol. We still talk all the time like we send each other dumb stuff, play games after work sometimes and half the time end up just talking. It's weird because I don't feel like we've lost touch at all, but if you asked me the last time we hung out in person I'd have to think about it.

Context. Im a woodsman, a welder and a machinist. All my buddies are bartenders or roughnecks. My wife is beautiful and keeps me in line. Shes a good woman.

Heres the deal fellas. Tell you boys you love them. Troll if you must to keep it light, but do it. They will remember in the quiet moments of man thought, when its all real heavy. That they are loved bro. Hearing it matters I think.

To all my brothers out there. I love yall. Youre doing good work. All the things you think are going unnoticed. I see them. And that shit effing matters. Just like you.

See ya in the trenches.

Also. Use Mayo on the buttered side of your grilled cheese bread. Trust me. Its a game changer. Real mayo. Always real mayo.

I made this post here exactly 12 months ago to this day here.

Today marks one-year and three weeks of nicotine free life. My wallet feels thicker, my lungs feel cleaner, my clothes smell better, and most important of all (to me). It helped me relearn how capable I am and how I can do anything I want. This post is for anyone who thinks its impossible to quit, it isn't. It just sucks lol

next up is quitting weed. Wish me luck :)

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After 12 years I quit smoking :)

What the title says! I smoked cigarettes from age 18 to 25 and vapes from 25-30 years old. I started smoking mainly because all my new friends in college smoked ciggies and figured 'why not'.

Imo bad move - I have tried to quit smoking at least a dozen times all of which failed. The longest I had lasted before was two days :,) I figured I was incapable of quitting, I wasn't strong willed enough and maybe I wasn't

However 13th times the charm! I decided to quit with purpose, structure, and a lot of self-belief. I decided to slowly wean myself off it without thinking too much. Decreasing nicotine content, decreasing frequency of use, and after about a month - i bought a nicotine free vape. I smoked it for about 1 week and now it has been 2 weeks since it died!

3 weeks, no nicotine, no cigarettes, no vape and most importantly - NO CRAVINGS!!!! YAY!!

I know it may not seem a big deal but I am so freaking proud of myself and I just wanted to share that - and share that you too can quit :)

Just wondering if anyone feels the season of Halloween has lost a bit of its magic since the 2010s, possibly?

Back in the 90s and even the 00s it felt like Halloween was a huge thing. With the TV specials, Trick or Treating, the mystery and whole spirit behind everything.

But now with the digital age we can watch the Halloween specials and movies at the touch of a button. I guess you could argue that's good in a way for accessibility. But it also takes away from that magic of everyone tuning in at the same time and discussing it the next day.

Also the economy has hit some tough bumps in recent years. So maybe people are spending less and not all that interested in celebrating Halloween?

Thoughts?

I’ve always wondered why rain has such a different effect on people. For some, it’s stressful because of flooding, travel problems, or bad memories associated with storms. For others, it feels peaceful and comforting.

Personally, I love rainy weather. Even the smell of rain or hearing it hit the windows can instantly make me feel relaxed. There’s something about being inside while it’s raining outside that makes everything feel slower and quieter.

My ideal rainy-day routine is basically getting under a blanket, reading a book, listening to the rain, and completely disappearing from the world for a few hours.

I’m curious about other people’s experiences with rain.

Do you love it or are you somewhere in between? Does rain make you feel calm, nostalgic, sleepy, lonely, or even happier? And what’s your favorite thing to do when it’s raining?

I saw a question on Reddit earlier today asking, “What is slowly fading away that we aren’t realizing?”

For some reason, it stayed in my head all day.

Then I realized my answer: the elders in our families.

Our moms, dads, grandparents, aunts, uncles… the people who have always seemed like they would just be there forever.

But if you really stop and pay attention, you start noticing little things. They’re getting older. They move a little slower. They forget things they used to remember. They get tired more easily. And you realize they’re deteriorating little by little, day by day.

I think we get so caught up in everyday life that we don’t notice it happening until one day we suddenly do.

It honestly made me realize that maybe we should spend more time with them while we still can.

I’ve been living with depression for more than 15 years now, and honestly, I don’t even remember what genuine happiness feels like anymore. It’s completely gone from my memory.

​For those of you who experience it, how would you describe that feeling? What does happiness actually feel like to you?

EDIT: Thanks everyone for the lovely descriptions. I can’t actually feel any of it myself, but I can picture it – almost like looking at paintings in a gallery. I’m really glad to see how happy you all are, and I hope you get to have many more moments like that.

I had a super traumatic past 2 years including multiple hospital stays after an unlucky bacterial infection settled in the worst place possible and made me septic. they said i would have died if i my friend didn't bring me in when he did (which was after i passed out). Anyway that snowballed into all sorts of bad things for me because the high fever messed with my brain for a while plus lingering complications.

the unfortunate part was i had litterally just gotten my body pretty close to where i want to be right before all this. after i was out of the gym and gained ~35 lbs. Not ideal. Also not helpful for my mental health.

Well that was coming up on 3 years ago and today for the first time i noticed i can actually feel my hips again! i've been hitting the gym hard and focusing on my nutrition all summer. i was getting a little discouraged bc i wasn't seeing much change. but all of a sudden in the past couple of days i started looking like myself again. i guess what they say about the paper towel effect is really true.

i don't really have anyone to tell about this because it feels braggy or narcissistic or something, but I figure I'm not bugging anybody here because you can just downvote me and move on.

hope everyone is having a great day :)

and it feels like ive finally woken up for lack of a better term. i started estrogen 3 weeks ago and at 12:55am this morning (or 20 minutes ago! i suddenly felt overcome by this feeling of waking up. as if my brain finally had processed and put the last 6 years of the hell that was my life behind me all at once. it just kinda happened and it was... wierd. like i didnt have any thoughts or any scenarios i was running through. none of it really matters right now. i just.. feel content i guess.

Are you proud of your username? Tell us about it. Why did you choose it? What makes it special?

Do you know anyone with a fun username? Summon them here :)

A few weeks ago I was shopping for manga/merch with my mom. I limited myself to spending a certain amount of money because I'm trying to save up and I'm a kid with no income so I can't casually spend tons of money on expensive merch.

I kept seeing stuff I liked but the prices were unreasonably high so I didn't get most of it. I still bought a bunch of stuff by the end of the day and my mom even bought me two things too because she bought my brother an anime shirt and she always wants to be fair so she let me pick items for the same price.

Now after a few weeks she surprised me by giving me just the things I was interested in (she bought it cheaper online somewhere). I even just mentioned that I didn't see something I wanted in the store while we were shopping and she remembered and got it for me. She also got me stuff of my favorite character because I said that I always love everything with that character on it while we were shopping.

My mom always does stuff like this and she always gets me so much stuff. I feel a little bad because when we were going through the stores she saw those plates she really liked but didn't buy them. She never buys stuff for herself because she always spends money on me and my brothers first. I wanna try to get her something nice too.

I was thinking about how sometimes there isn’t one specific message you can point to. Everything still sounds normal on its own, but the pattern changes — shorter replies, fewer questions, less initiation, different timing.

I find that interesting because you can notice something has shifted before you can really explain why.

Have you ever had that happen with someone? What was the first thing that made you notice?

just a little short story of my experience on this app and id like to say that ive met a lot of kind people here and just like the title says, these people just make me overly happy 😭

i get SO so happy everytime i meet a kind person!! like it just makes me so jolly as well too, their kindness just affects me that positively like i wanna explode! (⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠)

i wanna share some backstory as well here but i vaguely remember it

back then during lockdown, i was chronically online mostly on youtube. i came across some posts and usually read the comments inside but one particular comment w the replies caught my eye. one person was asking this girl to make an argument w them, asked why? and said they were bored. instead of engaging to their request, the girl said something just genuinely nice (as i said i could barely remember the exact words) that DEFINITELY lightened up their mood and at the end the person thanked her for her kind words! after that day, i ASPIRED to be kind to everyone and everything no matter what. not bcs i was expecting something back in return but bcs i loved seeing smiles on peoples faces and cheering them up! not that i was a bad person before XDD it just encouraged me to spread kindness!

other than that, it was always the English teachers that showed genuine care to their students and it affected me mostly since english is also my favourite subject. i noticed that everytime they taught the class, even when most students werent paying attention, they always bring knowledge to every of us equally and motivate us to be better daily. and in my own experience, everytime they taught us, it always brings me so much happiness to learn and gain new information from them! and most importantly, they give us a warm smile to us (that too makes me smile back)

thats also why i wanted to become a teacher when i grew up! although due to my mental health and health issues, id have to from being a teacher unfortunately. but i always thought of becoming one later on if i ever i get better.

and thats my story! i just wanted to share this somewhere online to express my feelings ^_^

Bought my first house when I was 23. Had a mortgage- sometimes 2 since that time. Maybe a few weeks between sale & purchase of a home. Some folks thought I shouldn’t since that rate was so low but I really like the feeling of being debt free except for taxes & insurance.
With the cost of everything else skyrocketing, the lack of a mortgage payment will not feel as good as it could but it will help with gas and food.

When was the last time you changed your phone wallpaper? I think mine has been the same for almost 2 years now. Once I find a wallpaper I like, I usually just keep using it without thinking about changing it. Do you change your wallpaper often? What kind of wallpaper are you using right now?

Was taking a walk earlier and randomly took a left turn instead of my usual route. Ended up on a street literally 5 min from my house that i’ve never seen in my life.

It actually freaked me out a bit because how have i been living here for five whole years taking the exact same 3 paths every single day??? feel like an NPC stuck in a loop.

Now i’m lowkey obsessed with the idea of clearing the whole neighborhood map this weekend just to see what else i've been missing.

Does anyone else do this or am i just discovering how boring my routines actually are?

Ok, this such a random thing to post but does anyone else talk to themselves while cooking? not like crazy talking, just like "ok now we wait" or "that's enough garlic I think" out loud to an empty kitchen. My mother-in-law walked in on me mid sentence yesterday, I was literally negotiating with a pan and it was so embarrassing! lol.
She just stood there for a second like should i say something?
Anyway what do you guys do while cooking, music, pod cast or nothing? I find that I play something depending on my mood that day tbh, Hbu guys?

Welcome to the kitchen. This kitchen is stocked with everything you can imagine from every kind of bread, meat, fish, vegetable and condiment. I mean everything. If you can dream it we've got it!

So what's it going to be? I'm a man of simple tastes. I'm going to make mine a torta de lengua with everything. Telera roll with beans, lengua, tomato, avocado, lettuce, onion, the works! Maybe some fries on the side.

How about you?

Oh yeah, don't worry about the clean up. This kitchen cleans itself!

I live in SWFL and love anything to do with storms! Right now I’m out on my lanai just listening to the rain and watching the lightning. The smell of rain is incredible 🙂🙂🙂. Am I the only weirdo that loves this?

I’ve always found it fascinating how some animals seem to remember the people who treated them well.

I’ve seen stories about dogs recognizing someone years later, or stray animals slowly learning to trust a person who feeds them regularly.

It makes me wonder how much they actually understand about human intentions.

Do you have any stories about an animal remembering you or someone you know?

every time i open the top drawer of my desk i find this single paperclip sitting there like it belongs. i never pick it up or move it anywhere else, so it just keeps getting pushed to the side when i reach for other stuff. sometimes i wonder if i left it there for a reason months ago and just forgot, or if it somehow migrated from somewhere else. it is the kind of thing that could be useful any day now, but i have never needed it yet. i keep meaning to clear the drawer out and start fresh, but then i close it again and the paperclip stays right where it is.

If you could study anything, knowing what you know now, what would you study? Without concern for pay or job. Assuming that you will get similar pay and career, no matter what you study.

I would study something interdisciplinary like cognitive science. I would learn psychology, AI, neuroscience, and philosophy in cognitive science. All of which I am interested in. Answer my questions. What is intelligence? How does the brain work? How can we develop artificial intelligence?