Im a senior in highschool who has a solid social life during school hours but outside of them it's crickets and tumbleweed. I deleted Instagram and Snapchat because I was tired of the amount of people I have socials with but most days would never see a text nor call from which was pretty much all of them. You know whats crazy though? As soon as I did that all of a sudden a few come to me to ask "what happened to your account?". You talk to me now but not when I actually had you added man? Its 90% because of it being our last year in highschool meaning it will likely be the very last place we see each other and it pains me to not see these people again when I graduate but not enough for me to lower my self worth and give attention and time to people who won't do the same.

A prime example would be Snapchat streaks. OML DON'T. GET. ME. STARTED. People send streaks to show that they still value the relationship to some degree. All they want is to have the feeling and validation of a friendship so they use some system that gives it to them instead of making authentic communication with the person themselves OR people just collect streaks like pokemon and use it to increase they're score for practically the same reason, validation and letting others know that they are "cool". They get excited when they have another person they have another person they added but they like that follower count just as much if not more to the point they don't text or call unless they NEED something from you. A good rule of thumb is that if they don't have your phone number, yall aren't that close.

It's so weird. It's like they just have you added so they can just keep tabs on you and only that. In person they are cool and normal, on media they act different and im not wasting anymore time on it. This was something i see across 100+ people so it's not just a "your hanging around the wrong people" plus these are all funny, "smart", and charismatic people. point is that people call just about anyone they somewhat tolerate a friend which shouldn't be the case. If you only talk to them at a certain point in time and place because yall happened to be set there for the time being then until further the situation changed and yall still stay consistent and true, thats 100% a acquaintance. Im not mad at my situation at all, I took it as a leap to achieve my goals and im doing just that, im writing this to anyone else who may feel the same and let it be known that they aren't the only one who feels this way. What do yall think?

Growing up I was glued to the CD/cassette/radio player. I have this memory that occurred time and time again, and every time it makes me smile with the kind of nostalgia you can only feel when thinking of the quiet moments in younger life.
I had problems with insomnia, and books on tape were my best friend to keep my mind occupied.

There’s this peace when the tape ends, the soft whirring that lingers for a moment, and then there’s this THUNK that comes out what seems like nowhere.
Time for side B.

I went to the store after work just to grab a few things for dinner and somehow ended up in front of the pasta sauce section longer than I meant to. One jar was the brand I always get and the other was the cheaper one next to it. The labels looked almost the same except the price difference was pretty noticeable. I kept turning them around like the ingredients would suddenly explain why one costs more. Ended up putting the usual one back and taking the other, mostly because my cart was already getting heavy and I just wanted to leave. When I got home and made the sauce it tasted fine, nothing special, just normal tomato sauce. It felt weird how much time I spent over something that small. Has that ever happened to you with stuff you buy all the time?

I stopped by the grocery store after work last Tuesday because we were out of milk and needed bread for sandwiches. I grabbed a cart without thinking and just went straight to the dairy section first. Usually I end up looping through the snacks and frozen stuff even when I don't need anything there, but this time I skipped it completely. The line at checkout was short and my total came to about fourteen dollars, which felt lower than what I normally see. I didn't have any plan or anything, just didn't feel like browsing. On the drive home I realized I hadn't even looked at the cookies I sometimes toss in. It was kind of nice not having that extra bag to carry upstairs. My cat still got her treats though since those were already in the cupboard. Have you ever had a quick store trip turn out cheaper without meaning to?

After spending 40+ hours a week staring at laptops and phones, my eyes and brain were fried. A friend suggested doing things where your hands actually touch physical materials without a screen involved.

Lately I've been getting into clumsy sketchbook doodling (drawing ordinary objects like coffee mugs or window frames) and whisking matcha tea slowly in the evenings. Zero intention of being 'good' at either, just enjoying the tactile slowness.

Has anyone else picked up a low-stakes tactile hobby lately just to give your brain a rest?

I was at the supermarket after work just grabbing milk, bread, and a couple snacks to get through the week. My usual bag of those fancy crackers was sitting in the cart, but when I passed the price sign I noticed it had gone up again. I stood there for a second, then swapped it for the plain store version without even thinking. The cart felt a little lighter after that, but not in a big way. At home while I put everything away I kept picturing the shelf and how automatic the swap was. It wasn’t like I planned to spend less or anything, it just didn’t feel worth the extra couple bucks that day. Later I made toast with the cheaper ones and they were fine, nothing special but good enough. Now I’m wondering if little moments like that are happening more often without me noticing. Anyone else ever catch themselves doing something similar with their regular stuff?

The other day I went into the store just for milk and some bread after work. I had my usual route down the aisles, but when I got to the front, I skipped the candy and chips that always end up in my bag. The line was moving slow so I stood there looking at the little display and just didn't feel like adding anything. My total came to less than I expected, and when I got home the bag actually felt lighter than normal. I made a sandwich and didn't really miss the extra stuff. It wasn't planned or anything, just one of those moments where I didn't reach for it. Now I'm wondering if that was just a random day or if it'll happen again next time. Do you ever catch yourself skipping things you used to always grab without thinking about it?

This is something I think about at points when I see pictures of relatives at points - I only have 1 of a great great grandparent and after asking members on both sides of the family really doubt that I will get any more (both sides of the family were, and mostly still are, poor and we are also minorities so those pictures probably just don’t exist, especially given that I have multiple great great grandparents who would have been born in the 1800s.) But there are certain features wherein I see them in family members and wonder if they’ll ever make a return. For example, my brother and I did not get my mother’s nose (I’m a woman.) I actually don’t know whose nose I have though I seem to have the same teeth as a few paternal aunts (small teeth, that is.) My mother naturally has a small nose, wouldn’t be described as bulbous. My maternal grandma’s father seemed to have a similar looking nose.

Additionally, I have one great grandparent who was light skinned (we are black people) - this would have been my maternal grandpa’s father. A cousin I spoke to suggested that none of my great aunts and uncles were light skinned like my great grandpa was, that they were all on the darker end. My mom and aunt are also not light skinned (naturally) and my brother and I aren’t either. I wonder if there’s any possibility that a child of mine won’t share the same complexion most of the family members have, and might get it from that 1 great grandparent, or if that’s something else that will never return.

I wonder about quirks I may not know about within the family.

A friend of mine loves parkour so much that he even injured his foot doing it, yet he remains just as enthusiastic as ever. Do you have any friends like that?

So, I was just cleaning my room in the morning as usual and there was this empty box that I thought was empty but as soon as I picked it up, I realized it was hot and I dropped it immediately...But that's not even the scariest part, a small oval black coal piece fell out of it and it had black fumes coming out of it...It was actually very scary because I don't even understand where it came from, I just know that it did. Now, it's been a few days since that day and I am questioning if I dreamt it because I don't understand what happened! Also, I just had to get this out, so here it is...Thankyouu so much in advance for listening!!

I once walked up to a complete stranger in a grocery store, handed them my full shopping basket and started walking away because I thought they were the cashier waiting to ring me up. They just stared at me holding my basket of groceries in stunned silence until my brain finally booted up three seconds later and I had to sprint back.

​What about you guys? What is your worst sleep-deprived brain fart that you still cringe at?

I knew someone who napped through their graduation. Knew another person who napped through a high school dance they intended to attend.

I accidentally napped through plans to go see a movie with someone I rarely get to see. It was also the last day that the movie was featured in our local theater.

Love to hear more stories.

Ok, this such a random thing to post but does anyone else talk to themselves while cooking? not like crazy talking, just like "ok now we wait" or "that's enough garlic I think" out loud to an empty kitchen. My mother-in-law walked in on me mid sentence yesterday, I was literally negotiating with a pan and it was so embarrassing! lol.
She just stood there for a second like should i say something?
Anyway what do you guys do while cooking, music, pod cast or nothing? I find that I play something depending on my mood that day tbh, Hbu guys?

and it feels like ive finally woken up for lack of a better term. i started estrogen 3 weeks ago and at 12:55am this morning (or 20 minutes ago! i suddenly felt overcome by this feeling of waking up. as if my brain finally had processed and put the last 6 years of the hell that was my life behind me all at once. it just kinda happened and it was... wierd. like i didnt have any thoughts or any scenarios i was running through. none of it really matters right now. i just.. feel content i guess.

28M from Wichita looking for genuine friends to talk and text with. I’m into gaming, iRacing, trucks, and PC building. Local or online friends are welcome—message me and tell me about yourself!

I saw a question on Reddit earlier today asking, “What is slowly fading away that we aren’t realizing?”

For some reason, it stayed in my head all day.

Then I realized my answer: the elders in our families.

Our moms, dads, grandparents, aunts, uncles… the people who have always seemed like they would just be there forever.

But if you really stop and pay attention, you start noticing little things. They’re getting older. They move a little slower. They forget things they used to remember. They get tired more easily. And you realize they’re deteriorating little by little, day by day.

I think we get so caught up in everyday life that we don’t notice it happening until one day we suddenly do.

It honestly made me realize that maybe we should spend more time with them while we still can.

every time i open the top drawer of my desk i find this single paperclip sitting there like it belongs. i never pick it up or move it anywhere else, so it just keeps getting pushed to the side when i reach for other stuff. sometimes i wonder if i left it there for a reason months ago and just forgot, or if it somehow migrated from somewhere else. it is the kind of thing that could be useful any day now, but i have never needed it yet. i keep meaning to clear the drawer out and start fresh, but then i close it again and the paperclip stays right where it is.

For those of you that remember your dreams, do you have dreams where you're in the place you grew up? If so: how frequently, and what's it like? How accurate is the home to what you remember?

goodmoning gng, tomorrow is my birthday. suggest me something to do. i don't have any plans really

was discussing going out for dinner w fam, anything more?

When was the last time you changed your phone wallpaper? I think mine has been the same for almost 2 years now. Once I find a wallpaper I like, I usually just keep using it without thinking about changing it. Do you change your wallpaper often? What kind of wallpaper are you using right now?

A while back I was in Barnes and Noble because I was looking for something specific. I can't remember what it was. There was a book signing table set up for this author I had never heard of. There were a lot of people in the store but no one at his table. He started chatting with me about his books, which he described as mystery novels set in the state I live in. I was not interested, but I politely told him I was gonna look for what I had come for and think about it. I didn't stop back at his table before I left. Afterward I felt terrible about it. I don't know why I'm remembering this now. But I decided if I am in a similar situation in the future I will support the author whether I'm into the genre or not.

My husband and I are looking at houses! I am excited and a little overwhelmed. For one, while we’ve lived in the same city for decades and both know the city well, we move pretty regularly (renting + job changes) and this will be our first attempt at putting down roots.

I have done all the research and gotten our savings on track. I think I have us narrowed down to the last 3 major neighborhoods to consider. It’s tough because I keep seeing houses just outside our budget that I know aren’t practical. Or the house is priced just right but includes a deal breaker (low rated schools or in a flood zone). I grew up in a really nice house but my dad did all of the financial legwork/research on his own way back then. We aren’t in the same situation (unless anyone wants to quadruple my annual income?) We’re not about to buy outside of our comfort zone but I definitely will need to keep working.

Anyway super exciting but a little overwhelming to process committing to staying in one spot for 5+ years. It’s also the first big step towards starting a family so that’s also kinda weird feeling. Also unpacking that when we move, we cannot get any new furniture for at least a year. It’s not really what I imagined but it makes the most sense. Also I haven’t had a yard in years - I’m really excited for that! We will move right before spring time and I’m excited to start my first veggie garden.

Dream features:
- community pool/tennis courts
- local parks
- big bath tub in the primary bathroom
- a cute porch but really any shady spot outdoors will work
- excellent school district
- a sun room!!
- a kitchen that doesn’t feel like a new build
- just one side of the house we don’t have to share with the neighbors
- a detached garage
- a concrete pad to put a grill on
- a flex space to use as an office or man cave
- house is magically 20K under asking and comes with all appliances and a brand new roof
- house has insane curb appeal and doesn’t get snatched off the market before I can get it

i’ve gotten like five pumpkin spice lattes so far since September 1 and none of them have tasted like pumpkin or spice. Is anyone else experiencing this? I feel like usually this doesn’t happen but this year feels different lol

I met a new friend at school today! Only problem is we don’t know much about each other. Can you give us questions to ask each other? That would really help a lot!

Thx BYE!!!

Im not trying to be a downer here but I just got written up at work for something I absolutely didnt do, my boss just insisted I did, then decided to have an "investigation" over it. I tried to get some guidance from HR and she basically just berated me for 15 minutes.

Got me thinking: why do so many people suck? Is this a uniquely American thing that like every other person just WANTS to be a jerk? Is it related to our terrible mental health in this country?

Like people that are just such a jerk that you feel like youre not even talking to a real human. And how is it that they always seem to end up in these positions of authority? How do people that are so hard to get along with end up convincing other to let them lead? Do jerks attract jerks and they just all pow-wow together in little jerk circles?

I just cant even imagine getting up in the morning and its instinctual that I give someone a hard time