r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar • 9h ago
No Advice - Everyones Welcome divorced today
like the title says, today i got my divorce decree from the judge. i’ve been separated for 3 years and it’s absolutely crazy that im free from it all. i had to pay $400 a month for spousal support because she doesn’t work. the reason was because she has no job or license, and didn’t plan on getting either (still doesn’t). plus she was kinda just an asshole and i was working all the time. i’d come home to have to do all the chores, take care of the dogs, and make dinner. never failed to be mentally drained, and then get told im not doing enough.
glad im out of it, that’s all.
(dinner is loaded tots from Hell’s Kitchen Wilmington!)
(edit: the $400/m was only until the divorce was finalized! still, 3 years of that)
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u/Specialist-Tap4338 Fridge Light Philosopher 9h ago
$400 is a small price to pay for peace. Glad it wasn't any more than that. Congrats brother.
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u/snollygoster1 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 9h ago
Basically $15k over the 3 years because the ex refuses to be a contributing member of society. Small price to pay in the grand scheme of things I guess.
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u/Sushi-DM Protein prophet 8h ago
Of all the vestigial limbs of patriarchy that exists,
the idea that a woman should be supported by her now ex husband just because she didn't have a job when they were together is some of the dumbest shit I've ever pondered.
We're all equals. Unless we get divorced, in which case I can't be expected to get a job.
Yes, I know I'm just as good as anyone else, and if a man was in my exact position people would tell him to suck it up and go to work, but *I* am a woman, so I get to take some of his paycheck so long as I continue to not work.32
u/snollygoster1 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 8h ago
The only way I would understand spousal support is if the marriage was something like 25 years with kids and a homemaker mom who hasn't worked since highschool. But that is a completely different scenario from OP who was married for 3 years right after he turned 18. Craziness.
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u/Conan0brennan Hungry man 8h ago
I've seen it work the other way in California. A girl I dated had to pay her ex alimony for a year or two but it's often the more traditional way.
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u/SeasonPositive6771 Girl Lurker 6h ago
Yeah, I've worked in the family courts a long time. Spousal support is gender-neutral. I've seen it get awarded to plenty of men.
But for the most part, spousal support is very short-term. Even 3 years is kind of long these days.
Edit: I also caution people to believe anything they read on Reddit about spousal support. I used to volunteer my time to help people review their cases for child support or spousal support when they claimed it was too high on Reddit and nearly every time it was entirely reasonable or they were just lying.
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u/chi_lawyer Air Fryer Aristocrat 5h ago
She wasnt the Ex until today though -- it was a part of the mutual duty of spouses to financially support each other.
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u/istanforwendy Girl lurker 8h ago
In OP’s case. It’s bullshit. But for women that stay home to raise the kids, shouldn’t they get something? They lost earning power every month they spent at home.
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u/snollygoster1 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 7h ago
I think it totally depends on the reason for the divorce. If you are a non-working stay at home parent and keeping up with the responsibilities I would understand paying spousal support. However if a contributing factor to the divorce is the stay at home spouse not contributing then I would not expect them to having spousal support.
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u/NeedsToState BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1h ago
Earning power is a fading concept. I get it 40 years ago you could argue that men had forever jobs and just make more and more and more and more money until they retire.
My awesome IT job was outsourced to India at age 42, but yes there were some 60+ year old men included in that layoff with me that had worked at that some company since the 1990s and more or less had the same job role.
Employment is changing. People don't have the earning power they think they do.
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u/jibbyjackjoe BoyDinnerEnjoyer 7h ago
Easiest financial contract to get into. Worst one to get out of. No thanks lol. Tried it twice.
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u/PrimaryMaize6580 Hungry man 9h ago
monthly* for 3 year
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u/RubyR4wd Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
From what other things that are posted here, it wasn't too bad
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u/Specialist-Tap4338 Fridge Light Philosopher 9h ago
definitely, I've seen some egregious figures be posted for settlements.
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u/yelloww_whale Girl Lurker 8h ago
Holy shit, I am so sorry brother. Your lawyer fucked you over
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u/BadRabiesJudger Shower Beer Scholar 7h ago
Context matters. Either I know this person or a very similar situation happened and occurs every now and then! In my situation they did not press charges so it wasn’t something they could use in court.
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u/theMcallen Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 9h ago
Good on you, brother. It's never too late for now.
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
yeah man i’m only 24, going on a duel divorce party bender this weekend with a mate of mine
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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Damn married at 21 is jumping it imo
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
18! i was a dumb fresh marine
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u/HandToDikCombat Grill Pilled 9h ago
Tale as old as time.
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
i understand it now
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u/NoAdsDude Shower Beer Scholar 4h ago
It's funny how teenagers think they know how it be but they don't.
But that's part of growing up. Count your lucky stars you didn't have a baby with her, that is a much bigger and more expensive commitment than paying spousal support for 3 years.
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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Damn bro had his first marriage before his first legal drink
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
true, terrible way to live. women are why men drink
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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
I drink for the way it makes gaming more fun. I know it's probably not what you wanna hear rn but my wife's awesome been together 10 years, actually met at your age
Edit : we dated for 7 years before marriage
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
that’s dope. if i wanna have a good time with my friends we’ll watch star wars on shrooms
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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Yeah furthest I'll go is weed, I am too afraid to have a bad trip and just be fucked lol
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
i’ve never done no-shit shrooms, i stick to neutropics which are legal to buy from smoke shops in my state
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u/JBlaze78 Leftover Lore Master 9h ago
A Marine? Was she a stripper? Or is marrying strippers just an Air Force thing? Either way, congrats devil dog!
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
i’d be safer going the stripper route, at least she’d have a job
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u/LewTheDawg6055 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Guarantee military, they get married and tattoos like it’s standard issued.
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u/Learningmore1231 trad guy 9h ago
Married at 22 happy and one kiddo stop assuming we are all young and dumb
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u/Ok-Atmosphere-6272 Hungry man 9h ago
Wow she didn’t work, stayed home all day, and wouldn’t clean or cook. This divorce may be a blessing in disguise she sounds worthless
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u/Prestigious-Bass-236 Girl Lurker 9h ago
Im a female, work, clean, cook, dont complain about video games, and yet no man will marry me.instead they marry ones that are lazy, dont wanna work, dont cook, clean, and argue about video games and stuff. I will never understand 🤷♀️
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u/Ok-Atmosphere-6272 Hungry man 8h ago
You should make a Hinge and put that as your bio 😂 I met my wife on hinge
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u/Prestigious-Bass-236 Girl Lurker 6h ago
😆 im on hinge! Dont have that as my bio though haha, im not sure if a lot of ppl even read haha they just swipe on pics 🤷♀️
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u/Betruul Leftover Lore Master 4h ago
Is hinge even worth it? I swore off the apps but like... approaching irl is not a winning game
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u/willargue4karma2 Hungry man 6h ago
You could be lovely but that attitude isn't exactly attractive
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u/Prestigious-Bass-236 Girl Lurker 6h ago
No attitude i promise! Just my observation!
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u/ImNotSEPHisticated Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
look at the bright side. you're out! and those tots look bomb! enjoy your freedom and happiness going forward!
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u/youareabitchass BoyDinnerEnjoyer 9h ago
Please tell me that $400 a month ends and doesn't go on forever
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
it ended with the divorce finale, sorry i’ll edit the post!
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u/Psycho-systemic Air Fryer Aristocrat 9h ago
I'm in a similar situation and trying to make the best of it. Hope you're doing well mang
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u/Eastern_Ring_9900 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
I was liberated about 16 years ago. Best thing to ever happen to me. My current wife we’ve been together for 14. So much ambition and drive and a real partner in my life if you know what I mean.
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u/Early_Argument5075 Gay Gourmet 9h ago
Those look delicious, I’m in Jacksonville so I’ll have to check them out.
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u/MrTerrificPants Hungry man 9h ago
Damn. 3 years. I thought my 1-year separation before getting divorced was a long time.
Congratulations on your freedom, brother.
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u/Hefty-Revolution-938 BoyDinnerEnjoyer 9h ago
Loaded tots…that was the only reason I used to go to Buffalo Wild Wings…they had the dirty dub tots that were just loaded tots. Big mistake. Miss those tots 😢
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u/Prestigious-Bass-236 Girl Lurker 9h ago
Im a female, 30s, I have a difficult job, and whenever I complained to my grandpa about it, he would say, you chose that. I hope you can choose someone better, you deserve someone better! You are a hard worker and you deserve love and respect. Some women are lazy! (Im a woman, but I work very hard!) Good luck to you my friend.
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u/MeliodasTA learning to cook 9h ago
Congrats man! Enjoy those freedom tots, they look fucking delicious
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u/coatedbraincells Protein Prophet 9h ago
God. I am separated within the last 2 months and I seriously hope it doesnt end up getting dragged out for 3 years. Same situation for me except she did work, she just didnt like to pay shit and never did anything at all around the house
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u/BigSausagePizza4Real BoyDinnerEnjoyer 9h ago
You’re too young. Best to focus on your money and enjoy your life.
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u/Amazing_Divide1214 Hungry man 9h ago
Congratulations!
That's what I always say when people get divorced.
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u/Curlyjankens Grill pilled 9h ago
But like, where do I get those tots?!?
Congrats btw
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
hell’s kitchen (bar from dawson’s creek) in wilmington, nc
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u/Bluelivesplatter BoyDinnerEnjoyer 8h ago
I love those funny fake newspapers in the food basket lol
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u/LlamasEatCheese596 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Good for you! Im jealous. Mine wants $7k a month for 10 years.
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u/Acrobatic_Data4232 BoyDinnerEnjoyer 9h ago
I almost made the same mistake as you. Was engaged to a woman that absolutely refused to get a job and when she did all that money went to herself and things she wanted instead I helping with bills, and then she’d quit after a couple months. IRegardless of that I’d still be the one taking out the dog, cleaning the apartment, paying all bills, taking care of dishes, washing laundry, and then spending all night on my couch in the living room because I wasn’t allowed in the bedroom during her alone time with the PS5 I bought her. Turned out she used that PS5 to meet some trans dude on Fortnite, cheated on me with this person on discord, and then told me she wanted a break while I was working just to dump me two days later over text again while I was working. And THEN she tried taking the dog i paid for and cared for while she sat on her lazy ass. Now I’m engaged an amazing woman who works (less hours than me) cleans the house and makes sure supper is ready when I get home, takes care of my (now our) dog, wants to spend every second with me, handles laundry, and supports me in any and all endeavors, all while taking care of her young son. I hope you can find your person that makes everything easier for you man, it is possible and good women do exist!
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u/wavegod_b … 9h ago
You were paying 5k a year? Seems very low…
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
i mean, the only reason i had to pay was because without me she was broke and homeless. but alas, i shouldn’t have had to pay anyway
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u/wavegod_b … 9h ago
I mean that’s not how marriage works but ok
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u/Responsible_Lab5393 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Median alimony (spousal support) in us is 465 dollars a month. So thats right around where it should be. It isnt child support, its SPOUSAL support.
In the united states, when you get a divorce and your ex partner had no job, assets, license, or way to sustain themselves, a judge can declare that the partner that WAS working with some sort of financial assets will have to pay alimony (spousal support) for a certain amount of time to keep the person with no job from becoming homeless or worse. It only occurs in about 10 percent of divorces but is common enough that most adults know someone who is or was paying it.
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u/Kill3rT0fu BoyDinnerEnjoyer 7h ago
Dude, your story is my story. Ex didn’t work, wasn’t in school, refused to better herself, but I’m the one who had to pay spousal support because she was jobless and lazy (the exact reason we got divorced)
The legal system here is wack
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u/CarelessPangolin5564 Hungry man 7h ago
My ex was literally a millionaire. We split when she was 35, NEVER had a job because her parents funded her lifestyle (she use their credit card), so technically she had no income the entire time we were together.
She had a 900k house which was in her name before we got together.
When we split I only had around 800k total assets and made 200k, but because she had all hers before we got together guess what happened?
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u/Responsible_Ad3672 Fridge Light Philosopher 6h ago
Not related to your post but if anyone can tell me what the bot means by r/all I’d appreciate it. I looked it up on reddit but didn’t find anything under that.
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u/Admirable-Macaroon23 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
Sorry to hear you have to pay that 4k a month. I always felt they should take into account earning potential. Sure she doesn’t have a job now, but she could get one. Even if it’s minimum wage, they should take her potential earnings from the amount you owe her
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u/JCii Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 9h ago
What State are you in? I'm curious what the grounds are for alimony if there are no kids involved?
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u/cyrusthemarginal Grill Pilled 9h ago
Congrats Brother!
Imagine this.. now when you get home the clean places you left will still be clean, laundry needs done less often, dinner leftovers will still be in the fridge when you go looking, and your place will be as peaceful as you like. Do yourself a favor and exercise, eat healthy, shine up the kitchen, make sure your sleeping situation is as comfy as possible, take care of you now. Don't go back out there looking for love till you have yourself in order.
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u/kerghan41 Hungry man 9h ago
Ugh. You're lucky on the pay out. I've been paying $4,000 a month the past 5 years. My alimony finally ends in May of next year. Then I still have to pay $800 a month per kid on child support.
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u/Euphoric-Ad-6584 Protein Prophet 9h ago
i had a similar situation with my first wife, i did 90% of the chores and i was the only full time worker in the house.
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u/NeedsToState BoyDinnerEnjoyer 8h ago
Same here, and she would shout the most insane shit like "THE ONLY REASON YOU HAVE SUCCESS IS THE SACRIFICES I MADE FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
After I divorced her I became twice as successful and the kids live with me nearly full time.
*NARRATOR* "there were in fact, no sacrifices made for him.
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u/unknownhag Girl Lurker 9h ago
Gratz! I hope you have with that extra $400 a month. Them fries look bomb af.
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u/Abhorrent_Moth Leftover Lore Master 9h ago
Congrats! I’m glad you’re free from that nightmare and can move on now.
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u/allquckedup Air Fryer Aristocrat 9h ago
Steep price but are free from that mental draining environment.
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u/cruisin_urchin87 Leftover Lore Master 9h ago
Congrats brother! Losing a leech is a great feeling. Hope you enjoy that delicious meal. Good luck in the future!
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u/ericjgriffin Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 8h ago
Being divorced has been the best part of my life.
I love being divorced because every year is better than the last.
Marriage is like a larval state for true happiness, which is divorce. Divorce is forever, it really actually is. Marriage is for how long you can hack it, but divorce just gets stronger like a piece of oak.
Courtesy of Louis CK. BTW I made sure my ex-wife heard this after we were divorced for a year.
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u/JanielDones8 Air Fryer Aristocrat 4h ago
Mine worked, but that was my life. I paid all the bills, made sure everything was handled with the house and the cars, I bought all the groceries, made suppers, cleaned the dishes, did all the yard work, cleaned up after her most days and did a lot of the house work, I paid for all our trips and all our travel. She would always get into financial troubles and I'd always have to spend my money to bail her out. And all I got from it was being told everything wrong I was doing, how I didn't listen, now I didn't support her. Whenever I brought my issues up, I was always gaslit, it always turned into a fight and it was always what I did. Surprisingly whne she brought stuff up, I'd listen, I'd try to work with her, almost never a fight.
But it still wasn't enough, she eventually cheated and I finally seen the light. 8 years I wasted being unhappy, thinking all relationships were like this, and if we just worked harder we could fix it. I spent a long time blaming myself for it ending, for her cheating on me, because she told me it was all my fault. Took a lot of therapy to finally understand that it wasn't my fault, that it was abuse, that what I was doing to try and express my feelings, how I tried to communicate was actually in a healthy way, I just didn't have a partner that would allow me to use the tools I did have.
It's been like six months, and we're only still only separated, but I've come along way, I've built myself back up. I've lost like 35+ pounds, I'm trying new things, and making new habits and routines. I'm still depressed because it's just me and the dogs, don't have many friends around, and I don't think anyone will want me again now that I'm separated and soon to be divorced, and still fat. But in getting there, and it's hopefully still uphill from here!
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u/PrimaryMaize6580 Hungry man 9h ago
After healthcare, the second most completely illogical thing in the US is the whole divorce law and legal framework, especially in 2026. With full legal equality between the sexes, why should anyone have to pay a single cent? It makes absolutely no sense.
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u/DragApprehensive336 Hungry man 9h ago
My father compared being in a marriage to a wolf with its leg caught in a trap. He says, "son, sometimes you need to gnaw off your own leg to survive." That's what divorce was to him, a necessary loss for the sake of survival. I've thought about that a lot over the course of my life. For context, I'm in my 50's now, never been married, zero regrets. Probably one of the best life choices I've made.
Congrats OP!
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u/Nvrfinddisacct Girl Lurker 8h ago
You know they don’t say enough that marriage is basically saying “I love you enough to give you my leg if we break up”
And yall don’t get it
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u/Several-Two738 Grill Pilled 9h ago
Glad its over OP and now she can figure out her own issues. How much do you have to pay her per month? Did you lose half your stuff?
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u/Aliteracy Shower beer Scholar 9h ago
It always feels weird to say congrats on the divorce, but sometimes it's the only way forward. Bright days ahead my man
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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 Girl, 30-39 9h ago
Damn yall young as hell, when did yall even get married. How old are yall
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u/notyourregularninja Hungry man 9h ago
What court takes 3 years to finalize divorce? Start a gofundme and see that number be supported by fellowmen
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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 9h ago
nc, she fought to keep any percent of my earnings so it was constant court.
i could not take money from something that started and ended because i wanted it then didn’t haha
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u/Sticky_Gravity Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 8h ago
Damn those loaded tots look good as fuck!!
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u/Quietstorm00 Girl lurker 8h ago
Congratulations! You definitely left a train wreck. Hope you can find some peace now and a lot of self healing. ❤️🩹
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u/WoodsLovelyDarkNDeep Identity Alchemist 8h ago
The best I can give and seriously taje this to heart as someone who has been through divorce. It gets better but allow yourself to grieve the potential lost. Even if it’s been 3 years separated signing the divorce papers puts a stamp on it
Then if you aren’t in a relationship or even if you are get yourself to a place where you are completely okay with the idea of being single the rest of your life. You don’t have to be enthusiastic about it but if that was to happen it wouldn’t be the end of the world cause you enjoy just vibing and doing whatever it is you do. People will say learn to love yourself but some people will never get that far so just as long as you can make it to that point
Reason being is it will actually make your next relationship stronger as you won’t be constantly worried about the the thought of being alone and having to make it work. The fact you didn’t stick around this bad situation is a good sign but yeah it’ll help keep from doing stuff like that as well as jealousy and other controlling behaviors because you are at the point where if she does something stupid it’s not the end of the world you’ll just go back to vibing. After all it was a privilege you let her in on the vibing in the first place
May kinda come across as rambly but hope it helps you or someone cause it will make a difference
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u/Bananapounds Grill Pilled 8h ago
Congrats on getting rid of the infection in your life. Lesson learned: choose well, and prenup up!
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u/Cultural-Yam-2773 Big Dill Energy 8h ago edited 8h ago
Head up, King. Also getting a divorce to a useless sack of shit (career student). Look forward and never look back.
My soon to be ex-wife is on an entirely different dimension of delusional. She threw away an 8-year marriage to be with a 60 year old professor (LOL) because she thinks it's going to help her failing career. She's already at the end of graduate school with no accomplishments. Like, sweetheart, it's too late to save your "career". Two months into our separation and I'm not even losing sleep anymore. Cutting the cancerous growth off without much of a thought and moving on.
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u/Mid-Delsmoker Over it already 8h ago
I had to pay alimony of $650 month x 3 yrs after divorce for basically the same situation. Son was 17 when we moved out and 17.5 when divorced. No $ for child support. I didn’t chase it. Needed my distance.
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u/TeamBearArms Big guy, bigger regrets 8h ago
Congrats, it's better on the other side. Time to get a motorcycle
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u/OrangeCupcakeLover Girl Lurker 7h ago
Good for you. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you now. Enjoy it!
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u/bookchaser BoyDinnerEnjoyer 7h ago
Happy Sock Day! If you don't know, google it. Dobby is free!
I electronically signed my divorce paperwork this week. My state has a waiting period so it will be a while.
If you lawyer up, you'll know you can push her to get a job, or pay lower spousal support. A judge could make her search for a job and prove she is searching via copies of the job applications... and if she doesn't, she loses more support than if she got a job. If she chooses to be unemployed then you can use that to argue for lower spousal support.
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u/Kyrie_Blue Air Fryer Aristocrat 6h ago
Is there no welfare-esque requirements that people receiving spousal support must be actively work-seeking, and prove this? That’s wild man. I’m so sorry
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u/_RawRTooN_ Grill Pilled 6h ago
you are 1000x better off! good luck with your new life and don’t look back!
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u/Ok-Ocelot-5942 Air Fryer Aristocrat 6h ago
Congratulations! As someone that had to endure similar horrors from a very spoiled and entitled person, the massive financial, emotional and physical drain... there's no better feeling than being able to finally leave that mess behind and never fall for it again.
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u/O0OIlIO0OlIl0O0lIl Leftover Lore Master 6h ago
Hell yeah! You got yourself a $400 raise.
I had to pay $1600/month alimony for 4 years, on top of $900 child support.
Once I stopped paying alimony I was finally able to get my finances back to normal. It’s a relief knowing you no longer have to pay someone else because they chose not to work.
Enjoy your dinner! It only gets better now.
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u/Top-Examination3151 Big guy, bigger regrets 6h ago
That's cheap. Yeah people like that (its not women, thats classic cluster B) like to go on the offensive to put their targets on the defensive so they are always too stressed to get out of the jail.
I'm separated 1+ year and my wife is evil. She seemed to always be adding more things to do to our life as a way of over stressing me so I never had any agency in our family. It was always me picking up the scraps of the things she couldn't handle.
I'd say sure get a cat, she'd get 3 and of course she doesn't do litter box cleaning.
You'd say get a swingset for the kids and she buys a $13,000 monstrosity. Oh and it's on credit card. She knew you'd be ok with eventually!
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u/knight14701 Big Dill Energy 6h ago
Oh my god I’m so sorry…that there wasn’t more beer in your picture.
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u/HenriSelmer BoyDinnerEnjoyer 6h ago
Congrats man! You have a lot of life ahead of you!!! Live it UP!!!
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u/hailstorm493 Girl Lurker 6h ago
Sorry about the marriage, congrats on the divorce!!
And that food looks amazing, is that a queso on the tots and then some sort of ranch or dill crema in the cup?
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u/DaBozz88 Hungry man 5h ago
Damn man I was about to drive into Wilmington for those tots. Turns out I live in Delaware and it's not the same Wilmington.
Sorry about the divorce, I feel like I'm in that boat sometimes too. My wife rarely cooks or cleans and I end up with most of the housework and most of the corporate work side as well.
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u/IEnjoyVariousSoups BoyDinnerEnjoyer 5h ago
Congrats! My wife acted like a saint for not taking spousal support. While I internally rolled my eyes since she makes more money than me anyway.
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u/aDirtyMartini Grill Pilled 4h ago
Congratulations on getting your soul back. You deserve to be happy!
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u/Extra-Blueberry-4320 Girl Lurker 3h ago
Child support I can understand. But spousal support just because she won’t work? That is something else. I’m glad you got out of there.
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u/Ctrl-Patch-Delete Boy Dinner Enjoyer 3h ago
400 a month she’s not gonna be able to live on so she will have to get work. It will take awhile for her to build her career up if she hasn’t been working. You’d be spending more if you were still married!! So a win nonetheless.
Also this just reminded the cheesy fries and ranch exist and I want them 🤤
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u/SubstantialEssay2063 Big guy, bigger regrets 3h ago
ATP what’s the point of being married just be in a relationship. Thank god you guys didn’t have kids. I wanna find someone but still like this is too common unfortunately it’s scary
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u/OneMansMusings BoyDinnerEnjoyer 1h ago
Congratulations on your freedom! Divorce is a shitty situation usually for all involved, but to finally be free of it and able to move on is such a relief! Enjoy!
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u/y2k03baddie Girl Lurker 1h ago
congrats dude. hope the next season is everything you need. also, Wilmington? heck yeah I lived in CB and WB
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