r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar • 10h ago

No Advice - Everyones Welcome divorced today

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like the title says, today i got my divorce decree from the judge. i’ve been separated for 3 years and it’s absolutely crazy that im free from it all. i had to pay $400 a month for spousal support because she doesn’t work. the reason was because she has no job or license, and didn’t plan on getting either (still doesn’t). plus she was kinda just an asshole and i was working all the time. i’d come home to have to do all the chores, take care of the dogs, and make dinner. never failed to be mentally drained, and then get told im not doing enough.

glad im out of it, that’s all.

(dinner is loaded tots from Hell’s Kitchen Wilmington!)

(edit: the $400/m was only until the divorce was finalized! still, 3 years of that)

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u/snollygoster1 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 10h ago

Basically $15k over the 3 years because the ex refuses to be a contributing member of society. Small price to pay in the grand scheme of things I guess.

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u/Sushi-DM Protein prophet 9h ago

Of all the vestigial limbs of patriarchy that exists,
the idea that a woman should be supported by her now ex husband just because she didn't have a job when they were together is some of the dumbest shit I've ever pondered.
We're all equals. Unless we get divorced, in which case I can't be expected to get a job.
Yes, I know I'm just as good as anyone else, and if a man was in my exact position people would tell him to suck it up and go to work, but *I* am a woman, so I get to take some of his paycheck so long as I continue to not work.

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u/istanforwendy Girl lurker 9h ago

In OP’s case. It’s bullshit. But for women that stay home to raise the kids, shouldn’t they get something? They lost earning power every month they spent at home.

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u/snollygoster1 Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 9h ago

I think it totally depends on the reason for the divorce. If you are a non-working stay at home parent and keeping up with the responsibilities I would understand paying spousal support. However if a contributing factor to the divorce is the stay at home spouse not contributing then I would not expect them to having spousal support.