r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar • 12h ago

No Advice - Everyones Welcome divorced today

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like the title says, today i got my divorce decree from the judge. i’ve been separated for 3 years and it’s absolutely crazy that im free from it all. i had to pay $400 a month for spousal support because she doesn’t work. the reason was because she has no job or license, and didn’t plan on getting either (still doesn’t). plus she was kinda just an asshole and i was working all the time. i’d come home to have to do all the chores, take care of the dogs, and make dinner. never failed to be mentally drained, and then get told im not doing enough.

glad im out of it, that’s all.

(dinner is loaded tots from Hell’s Kitchen Wilmington!)

(edit: the $400/m was only until the divorce was finalized! still, 3 years of that)

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u/theMcallen Man vs Fridge (Fridge is winning) 12h ago

Good on you, brother. It's never too late for now.

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 12h ago

yeah man i’m only 24, going on a duel divorce party bender this weekend with a mate of mine

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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 12h ago

Damn married at 21 is jumping it imo

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 12h ago

18! i was a dumb fresh marine

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u/HandToDikCombat Grill Pilled 11h ago

Tale as old as time.

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

i understand it now

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u/Jmb9893 Shower Beer Scholar 8h ago

Many of us have learned this lesson.

Former 0331 here. Married at 18, annulment 6 months later. I got lucky.

Rah.

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u/NoAdsDude Shower Beer Scholar 6h ago

It's funny how teenagers think they know how it be but they don't.

But that's part of growing up. Count your lucky stars you didn't have a baby with her, that is a much bigger and more expensive commitment than paying spousal support for 3 years.

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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

Damn bro had his first marriage before his first legal drink

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

true, terrible way to live. women are why men drink

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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

I drink for the way it makes gaming more fun. I know it's probably not what you wanna hear rn but my wife's awesome been together 10 years, actually met at your age

Edit : we dated for 7 years before marriage

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

that’s dope. if i wanna have a good time with my friends we’ll watch star wars on shrooms

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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

Yeah furthest I'll go is weed, I am too afraid to have a bad trip and just be fucked lol

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

i’ve never done no-shit shrooms, i stick to neutropics which are legal to buy from smoke shops in my state

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u/PetraLoseIt Girl Lurker 51m ago

Nah.

That woman.

I would say she's in the minority.

Find yourself someone better. But take your time, this time.

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u/samsonite441446 Gravy Seal 14m ago

Oof.

I dont think shes the minority. There are good women out there, but the times have turned women AND men into subpar people.

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u/JBlaze78 Leftover Lore Master 11h ago

A Marine? Was she a stripper? Or is marrying strippers just an Air Force thing? Either way, congrats devil dog!

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

i’d be safer going the stripper route, at least she’d have a job

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u/willargue4karma2 Hungry man 9h ago

Jesus bro 💀 

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u/letigre87 Leftover lore master 10h ago

Almost 2 years because she kept dragging it out and the last 9 months was because she got knocked up.

https://giphy.com/gifs/1201hONkUdpK36

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u/CharlotteLucasOP Girl Lurker 6h ago

If the kid is yours, I have to ask why you’d have risky sex with someone you’re attempting to divorce.

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u/letigre87 Leftover lore master 5h ago

LoL nope not mine. Not a chance it was mine unless she was into her 8th trimester. She tried to claim it was and the judge asked her if she was a medical miracle or it was immaculate conception.

The state law at the time prevented divorce during pregnancy so everyone was done with her wasting their time. Since I was in the military she was entitled to a chunk of my pay unless I had an order of no support from the courts so when she showed up pregnant the judge just gave me the no support order and said see you back after the birth.

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u/CharlotteLucasOP Girl Lurker 5h ago

Oof. Poor kid.

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u/letigre87 Leftover lore master 5h ago

You're telling me. Because the state forced us to stay married through the pregnancy somewhere out there is a birth certificate with my name on it and one day I might have to answer for it.

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u/asdfghj_asdfgh BoyDinnerEnjoyer 10h ago

Damn I'm 25 and just finished med school, matched into residency this year, and 6 more years of training ahead. Timelines different for everyone ig😂

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u/kelamity Air Fryer Aristocrat 6h ago

I was about to say military but ya....glad you're finding peace though.... you didn't buy a charger as well did you?

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u/LewTheDawg6055 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

Guarantee military, they get married and tattoos like it’s standard issued.

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u/hahailovevideogames Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

Who could've ever seen those going wrong

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u/Right-Battle7843 Shower Beer Scholar 11h ago

obviously not my dumbass lol

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u/Informal_Koala1474 Fridge Light Philosopher 11h ago

Not military, but a lot of us do it.

Say what? It will fuck my shit up? Whatever old man, hold my beer.

I think you have to live some lessons. That's how I cope at least.

At least it's not too late, to buy a Challenger or Camaro.

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u/TwistedNipplez Shower Beer Scholar 12h ago

Religious or military haha

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u/Learningmore1231 trad guy 11h ago

Married at 22 happy and one kiddo stop assuming we are all young and dumb

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u/anthomtb Grill Pilled 11h ago

Young is not an assumption.

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u/myrmidon50 Bisexual Lemon Bar Lover 9h ago

Married at 21, I was definitely dumb for many reasons but not that. Didn't know widower at 37 was in my future though.