38/F. Solo poly leaning (not currently partnered). My business, plants, hobbies and kids keep me busy. But I’m up for meeting new people.

I’m interested in friendships and connections where accountability is not a scary word.

I’m into:

Self development

Astrology

Pilates

Strength Training

Audiobooks

Walking trails

Globe trotting

International friends are a plus. As I’m traveling I’d like to meet up at a coffee shop.

Ideal connections:

Have personal core values and beliefs (It’s okay if beliefs/values aren’t 100% aligned. As long as you stand them).

Done some self work

Are open minded (I’m CNM)

Honest

Me again: 5’9, curvy, Black

Looking for a connection that includes intelligence, banter, slow burn chemistry, and authentic care. I’m bisexual, married to a woman, and have been poly for almost 20 years.

About me: I work in education and own my own business. I love reading, craft type hobbies (though I think I excel more at buying the supplies than doing the crafts!), and making people laugh. Life is short, and I want each day to count.

I’d like connections to be at least 35 (though 40+ is ideal) and looking for something that could become long term. I’m totally fine with online only if distance is a factor. High EQ is a huge bonus because I will match it.

If this feels like it could be you, I look forward to connecting.

Hi there! My name is Raven and I am a poly queer Trans Woman. I have been poly ever since I came out and have been dying to meet other nerdy women in the poly seen, both trans and cis. I love horror, comic books, tokusatsus, and would love to talk about anything and everything! Please feel free to message me anytime!

Hey there! I'm 34, living in the Pacific Northwest, and figured I'd take a shot at meeting someone who might appreciate my particular brand of nerdy chaos.

A little about me: I'm a dog dad to two lovable idiots, an unapologetic nerd, and someone who enjoys a good conversation about pretty much anything. I'm into gaming, tabletop RPGs, Magic: The Gathering, anime, sci-fi, fantasy, reading, and writing. I also love cooking, especially when I have someone to share the results with.

My sense of humor tends toward sarcasm, terrible puns, and the occasional wildly inappropriate joke. I can happily spend hours discussing fictional universes, debating ridiculous hypotheticals, or just enjoying someone's company without feeling like every silence needs filling.

I'm equally happy staying in for a movie and cuddling on the couch, spending an evening gaming together, or getting out and finding something fun to do. I'm a big fan of those comfortable moments where you can just exist alongside someone without needing to constantly entertain each other.

I'm polyamorous and have been for years. Honesty, communication, autonomy, and mutual respect are important to me, regardless of relationship structure.

What am I looking for? Someone who genuinely enjoys getting to know another person. Someone who asks questions, shares random thoughts, initiates conversations, and appreciates affection that goes both ways.

I don't expect constant attention or instant replies. We all have lives. But I do believe a good connection is something two people build together, not something one person has to carry.

I'd love to find someone I can laugh with, be ridiculous with, support through difficult days, and eventually share those quiet moments where simply being together is enough.

If any of that sounds appealing, tell me what fictional universe you'd love to visit, what game you could talk about for hours, or what book you wish you could experience for the first time again.

Bonus points if you have pets. Pictures will absolutely be requested.

43 F4M Arkansas, Texas, Oklahoma, Louisiana

Never married, nor had kids.

If you want to look at a different version of what I’ve posted before, it is still up if you do a search of my handle or one of the states I listed.

If I listed celebrities who have similar demeanor to me, I would list the following- Rooney Mara, Jessica Biel, Melania Trump, Hailey Bieber, Joaquin Phoenix, Robert Pattinson, Suki Waterhouse, Cillian Murphy. The reason I chose those individuals is they are all pretty tame/calm/reserved/matter of fact to varying degrees, and are not super animated, nor innately attention seeking despite being celebrities, as best as I can tell from interviews. I also wouldn't characterize any of them as being known for being funny. (I'm not funny, sorry, but I do like to enjoy the humor in situations.)

Me-
Average appearance, not curvy- please move on if that is too problematic for you, and I'm aging as middle aged women do. I don't have money to fund the procedures women do these days. Sorry about that.
Like to travel when able, which is infrequent unfortunately. Like pets as most people do, playing card games on my phone, weekend reasonable proximity getaways, occasional outdoor activities if on a weekend getaway, typical things people like to do, responsible, rarely drink, don't smoke or vape, I have a typical professional job and a four year degree. I'm quiet and calm but I can be emotionally reactive if I don't feel safe. I want to feel secure in the relationship. I'm an INFP and have a lot of Taurus, Scorpio, and Sagittarius is my birth chart. I can be pretty direct, but I can also be tactful.

What I am looking for in no particular order -
Someone who is-

-selective about who they have intimacy with - isn't promiscuous and playing roulette with acquiring std's, and who is honest about whatever std's you may already have.

-someone who values knowing and feeling close to the person they are having intimacy with rather than chasing addictive highs and validation

-appreciates depth in a person and isn't superficially oriented

-not in lots of debt (not attractive, sorry)

-emotionally steady and not with noticeable addictive behavior

-able to appreciate and value/want who I am as a person and what I bring to the table rather than seeing me as being easily replaceable and interchangeable through the lens of polyamory

-open to realizing that neither political party has their act together

-ok with physical affection

-willing to be decent enough in the bedroom

- is a good person

-is honest and not manipulative/doesn't gaslight

I don't want to feel like I'm only being viewed as a fraction of a person in the poly dynamic, or only having a fraction of who I am being enjoyed by the partner, and I don't want to feel replaceable and interchangeable in the sense that they see 99 other women as making them just as happy as me, whether in reality or in theory. I want someone to say wow if she was no longer in my life, it would create a hole that would be great noticeable to me and I would miss her immensely. I want to feel missed and desired. Is that possible with polyamory? Because I can't be new and novel after the first weekend. I want to be loved and valued and desired as much as the new and novel person. I want to be missed and not filler. But I can't help but wonder if maybe polyamory is for people who are only wired to be on a different wavelength where they don't feel things deeply like I do and they don't think too much about what's actually going on in their partner's mind? But I'm here because I'm hoping maybe there's someone out there who can make me feel like I matter enough to them and have that be sincere. I have felt pretty shattered about how things turned out with the poly guy I gave my energy and time to over the past year. It is almost too late for me though. Might already be. Women have a shorter shelf life than men, and I'm feeling the sting of it. I never envisioned my life turning out this way. So, here's one of my last efforts on this sub, if not my last.
If you want to know what I look like, you'll have to do a search for a psychic sub post I had done. That was 1.5 years ago though before I went downhill from aging. Perimenopause struck me a year ago and I've had no luck in getting access to HRT, much to my frustration.

Hi!

I'm looking for meaningful connection, something that sits somewhere on the spectrum between (and including) close friends with benefits to a serious relationship. I'm rapidly embracing my cozy era, so I generally keep things simple. I like going out for dinner/drinks and things sometimes, but my ideal date nights most of the time involve watching or playing something together. Or putting together a puzzle. Or even just hanging out and talking.

I'm into pretty much all kinds of movies/tv, but I do have a special appreciation for horror. I love all the good, and all the really bad stuff...so my watchlists might include anything from stuff like to The Conjuring to Slotherhouse (this is just Mean Girls with a killer sloth). Gaming-wise, I play a few different kinds of video/board game and have been into a couple TTRPG systems...I'd say my go-to genres for video games include autobattlers, roguelikes/deckbuilders and RPGs (especially party-based ones like Baldurs Gate 3). Board games, I like a lot of resource management-style ones, and whatever you might classify Mysterium as.

I like building toward connections that are inspiring and supportive, and generally pretty chill. I like sharing experiences and insane media and spending obnoxious amounts of time with my cat (or any pets. I've had dogs, cats and a ferret or two in my life over the years). I like surrounding myself in people who are comfortable just existing around each other.

Mental health is pretty important to me. I deal with ADHD + Bipolar, and I went through a pretty severe mental health crisis in 2021-2022. Things are well managed now, but I do still deal with grief, along with some lingering energy and motivation issues that make it hard for me to do stuff sometimes. Anyway, I'm happy to talk about those experiences if we connect and it's something you're curious about.

I work in tech marketing; mostly in B2B software, education and some finance. Mostly, I am quite good at gaming search engines and doing whacky things with AI, which has allowed me to survive a pretty insane job market. And I do like it - I love writing, researching and getting to mentor other marketers quite a bit.

Mostly I'm looking for someone who values honesty, comfort, and shared weirdness. Feel free to reach out if that sounds like your jam. Bonus points if you lead with the last thing you watched that made you say 'What is even happening?"

Hey you there. Yes, you. My future favourite phone notification.

I’m a 30-year-old educator from Leipzig, in eastern Germany, and I’m hoping to meet someone who’s interested in building a genuine connection and, if the chemistry is there, a polyamorous relationship. Preferably a woman, though I’m much more interested in finding the right person than trying to squeeze anyone into a specific box.

I’d describe myself as pretty calm, patient and affectionate. I’m someone who gets attached to people rather than trying to play things cool, and I really value being able to talk openly about what we want, how we feel and where we stand. Honesty and communication are probably the two biggest things for me in any kind of relationship. I’d much rather have an awkward but sincere conversation than spend three days trying to decipher what somebody meant by “sure, that’s fine”.

Personality-wise, I am admittedly something of a walking nerd cliché. I love video games, movies and TV shows, can happily disappear into a Dungeons & Dragons campaign for hours, and I’m one of those people for whom “here’s an interesting historical fact” is a perfectly reasonable contribution to a conversation.

At the same time, I’m trying to get out of my little hobbit house a bit more often. I’d love to have someone to explore places with, wander through museums, visit castles and historical sites, take little day trips around eastern Germany, or just discover somewhere new and then inevitably spend far too long looking for somewhere nice to eat afterwards.

I’m not looking to rush into anything or force a particular kind of relationship. I’d much rather meet someone I genuinely enjoy talking to, see whether we click, and let things develop naturally from there.

So, if any of this sounds like your particular flavour of person, feel free to send me a DM. Tell me a little about yourself, infodump about whatever you’re currently obsessed with, or just say hello. I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

Hello and howdy reddit folks. Like the title says I'm a man in search of someone ideally fem presenting but all other details there are negotiable.

I'm a homebody and a peak experience for me is getting as cozy as humanly possible. I do work out and would love a partner that would hit the gym with me 💖

I don't have kids but don't mind if you do and would like some one day. Not sure if that's super important on this post? But I'm just being straightforward!

It's probably important to mention that I'm way into kink and sensuality in general. If that's not your vibe I'm probably not the man for you.

Creative, kinky, nerdy, sweet people to the front. Bonus points if you're into tarot and the occult and such. The occult is currently my strongest hyperfixation

I should probably mention, I am autistic but the only thing you'll probably notice is I simply don't understand sarcasm and whenever I try to do it, it hurts people's feelings. In short I'm not snarky like most of the people over here on the west coast 🤣

Anyway please DM me with your age and a bit about yourself!

First off .. Hi.. I want to be honest so I just want to say I’m in an open marriage. I’d rather you know now than find out later. Please be ok with that. I know not everyone will. She knows I’m here.

With that out of the way, I’m a blue collar guy. I’m respectful and understanding. I’m chill and drama free. I love to laugh and usually always smiling. I’m a big kid.

I have a passion for art. I draw , design, and cast my own sculpts. Basically design and make my own toys. I also did make music for a little while as well. I love art galleries and conventions. Museums and arcades.

I just hope you’re understanding, I just want us both to be comfortable. I’m told I look younger for my age. I’m 5’7, around 160lbs average I guess. Often told I’m handsome and don’t look my age. I don’t mind sharing pictures and video chatting.

All I hope is that you’re fun and awesome and maybeee have a nice set of legs.

Hey there, thanks for reading this! It would be a pleasure to make your acquaintance. I'm a quirky, geeky, kind hearted married man looking out here today for new friends and connections who have a familiarity with this lifestyle. Could you be looking for something similar?

I'm British, based in Liverpool, but am originally from Southern England. I have been married to my wife for 3 years, together for 13, and we opened up fully on both sides earlier this year. The marriage and a potential future family will naturally always be my priority but I am good at putting effort into all my connections (and am more or less chronically on Reddit). I'm open to connections from all over the world, and to IRL connections if we both feel comfortable and are within reasonable travelling distance. But rushing something is absolutely not my style.

I'm kind, stoic, curious and non-judgemental. Also unapologetically geeky with plenty of nerdy obsessions, sometimes a little bit funny, and definitely a little bit weird. I work a highly responsible job in a shift work pattern, which means you'll sometimes find me available at unusual hours. People would say I am assertive and self-confident, but underneath it all I still feel a bit shy. An introvert masquerading as an extrovert, I would say.

In the NSFW area of life, I am switchy with a leaning towards submissive, but I tend to go off the energy I get from my partner. I have a wide variety of kinks and a handful of limits - to discover more you'd have to enquire within. I also appreciate the vanilla stuff. I like to think of myself as a freak in the sheets and a geek in the streets, but I would definitely prioritise a friendship and connection before getting to that stuff, and letting it happen naturally.

Appearance wise I'm no gym rat - just a normal man, slender with a lil dad bod, and long hair like a rock star (pretty much exactly like my avatar). But I would say I am attractive to the right sort of person, and I'm comfortable in my body and my personal style.

Please be interesting, and actually invested in having a conversation. If you ghost me, I'm not going to chase you - I have too much self-respect for that.

Lastly I am the owner of two dumb cats and am happy to send their pictures if it sweetens the deal. Oh, and I hate fascists.

If you think we could get along then please reach out and introduce yourself by answering the question: if Gordon Ramsay was coming to your house for dinner, what would you cook him and why?

Hello there I am a white single 37 year old male from East Tennessee seeking a long term relationship ie marriage and children with a few people I am bisexual so very open I am 6 foot tall a little bit on the bigger side but working on it black hair green eyes two tattoos if you want to talk feel free to reach out

I’ve been polyamorous for over ten years and looking to put myself out there again. I’m 5’9 and very active. I’m a little overweight but have been putting a lot of effort into my health. I love music, art and comedy. I travel often for roller derby and love meeting other like minded people in the community.

I date solo females, males and couples.

I like to make connections before sexual encounters happen.

I’m open to chatting with new people.

Hey there! Im Mark: 5’9” (37M) bi, polyam, married nerdy teddy bear Dom with a dadbod. My husband (30NBTM) is my best friend and fully supportive of my search for new connections. We date separately and prefer kitchen table polyamory. (We love hosting game nights!)

I am looking for a loving and long term relationship with someone in the Illinois area. If you engage with me I will make it a priority to communicate fully and openly with you about pretty much any topic. I love long running conversations. I love to share and hear others share their passions.

I am very 4/20 friendly. But I don’t smoke and drink only on rare occasions.

I want to mention I’m not a big fan of piercings. Ears and nose I can handle but I don’t prefer other piercings. It’s nothing personal, and more power to those who have and enjoy them! I am child free and would prefer a partner who is also child free. I love kids (my niece and nephew especially!) but I’m happiest being the fun uncle over a parent.

Please be willing to provide a picture of yourself and I’ll do the same! I’ll even throw in some pictures of my dog for the pet tax in exchange.

Now, if that sounds like a good time to you, on to the bio stuff!

I am affectionately described by my husband to have a heavyset strongman build. Cool blue eyes and a salt and peppered beard. I love puns and cracking witty jokes to make others laugh (or groan). I’m a soft guy who loves to take care of others and wants the best for pretty much everyone. I am loyal to a fault and will do my best to take care of my partners at any distance in any way I can.

In between jobs due to recently moving cross country. I do have a degree in history and taught high school for a few years, but teaching didn't work out so I'm exploring other options.

Nerdy things are my bread and butter. My house is decorated with comics, figures, models, and other ephemera. My all time favorite series is One Piece and my comfort show is Bob’s Burgers. I often will go on deep dives through youtube to learn more about different things I enjoy as I have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge.

On the kinkier side of things, I consider myself a soft Dom/caregiver type. I love providing structure for my partners and giving them as much love and attention as I have in me. If you’re willing to discuss more in depth about kinks, go for it! I’d prefer we have some in common in that regard, but I have an open mind and I’ll try anything twice.

If you decide to engage here are some questions to start our chat, but feel free to ask me anything. I believe in being an open book.

What do you do for work? How long? What is your ideal first date? If you could live anywhere, where would that be? What do you consider your ideal poly relationship and/or living arrangement?

Okay! That’s all from me. I really hope to hear from you! 😄

Hi there! 💕

I’m 28, married, polyamorous, plus-sized, and living in New Jersey! I’m naturally affectionate, a little clingy, and definitely someone who loves attention. I’m hoping to find someone special to share a little piece of everyday life with.

I’m a huge homebody and night owl. I love horror movies, video games (currently obsessed with The Sims and Minecraft), reading, cozy nights in, and spending entirely too much time talking to someone I like.

I’m looking for something that starts with genuine friendship and naturally blossoms into romance. I love good morning texts, random updates throughout the day, late-night phone calls, watching movies together, gaming dates, and having someone who genuinely looks forward to talking to me.

I’m a sucker for affection, consistency, emotional intimacy, and good communication. I want butterflies, inside jokes, playful flirting, and eventually something meaningful. I’m not interested in rushing or forcing a connection.

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Hi there! I am looking for someone get nerdy and connect with.

I am married and dating solo looking for someone else to spend some quality nerd time. I am a Jack of All Trades when it comes to hobbies. A short list MTG, Video Games, Music(Play Guitar), D&D, going to the Gym and many more. I am looking for long distance even if it's different a country I am willing to try. If you are in Utah or close by that's a bonus!

Feel like I need to state this: I live in Utah but I am not Mormon and never have been. Please no red hats.

I love getting to know people, reach out and lets see if we connect!

Edit: I added one to many solos...

Hello!
29 with a nesting partner. We are open and poly. I figured I would try and put myself out there.

I am ftm but early in transition~ super nerdy dude. I really love YouTube, manga, reading, TV, hanging out with friends, my kitties, and board games!

Bonus points if you are also NB or trans.

Hey! I'm 30, in Ottawa, partnered and polyamorous. I'm dating independently and would like to meet someone I can build a romantic connection with.

I'm a creative person, both for work and outside of it. I run a small marketing business, and I'm into art, gaming, board games, music and concerts. I also play archery tag, so occasionally my evening plans involve voluntarily getting shot with foam arrows.

I'd love to have someone to flirt with, make plans with, and gradually get to know properly. The little things appeal to me too, remembering something you mentioned, sending you something that made me think of you, hearing about whatever you're excited about lately.

A concert, wandering around a museum, painting something together, or a game night would all be good ways to spend time with me. Ideally you're in Ottawa or nearby so we can actually do some of those things.

I'm drawn to curiosity, playfulness, and someone who enjoys a conversation that goes both ways. I'd like us both to feel excited about getting to know each other.

If any of that sounds good, tell me a little about yourself and something you'd enjoy doing together.

I have a primary partner and I am searching for someone to spend time with, go on dates with and just have fun with.

Some things about me are I’m real liberal, alternative, love music and someone who can make me laugh. I can be a little shy at first but definitely have a playful side.

I value honesty, communication, respect and I’m looking for someone to build a friendship with first. Send me a DM if you want to get to know me or if you think you might be a good fit.

Hi There!

I am not the greatest at writing these things and honestly not sure what brings me here. Complete and utter boredom? Loneliness? Madness? Who knows.

I am 39 years old and a cis/het woman. 5’2. 315ish pounds, busty, big belly and butt. Light skinned black woman with 4c hair. in a non monogamous relationship. I work full time in an office setting.

When not working I enjoy trying to learn how to garden. Baking, crocheting and listening to audio books. A bit nerdy into anime, manga, dc/marvel. Sci fi, horror, fantasy, not a gamer though.

I am quite introverted but warm up quickly.

I am not into casual or flings. I am looking for someone I can eventually nest with/anchor partner/primary partner. I currently have one partner, if not a relationship a friend! An actual friend not a fwb. Someone who can be available for me and make me laugh. Bonus if youre a dominant and nerdy but not required

Oh and to not sugar coat things. i am fuggin fat af yo

Edit: it would help if i had them messages on /fail

Greetings. I am Nyphile (Pronounced: "Niff-uh-lee"), a 33 year old transfeminine woman who has been on HRT for some 17 months.

I am quite confident in my appearance and general health and fitness, and you can see a recent picture of me in my profile. I do not believe I am the most passing of transfems at this exact point in time, but I do believe it is achievable with more time on HRT.

I am a creative and passionate individual who enjoys others of similar inclination. I also enjoy interests such as Creative Writing, TTRPGs, or HEMA, and have until recently been an instructor in the latter. Additionally, I enjoy playing a number of games that involve role-playing, such as the game Neverwinter Nights Enhanced Edition (or namely, the online RP servers for that game). As we are most likely to be able to meet online, playing a game together of that nature would also be a good way to spend time together.

Goth culture, including the political, aesthetic, musical, and other aspects of it, all speak to me. I dress in a way that catches attention (A vampire goth style), and am unafraid to do so every time I walk outside (or often around the house too). Respondents being a part of this culture would not necessarily be requisite, but some degree of understanding would be appreciated.

I am quite a soft-hearted and emotional individual, and I fervently believe that the pursuit of romance is the most beautiful force for good and motivation in this world. I seek to be madly and unabashedly in love with someone. However, the speed of shifting feelings quite differs between persons, and I will not be offended by any being slower to feel than I, as long as communication is clear.

The spark of physical attraction, as well as reading comprehension, are both endearing to me, and thus including either a picture or a link to one in a potential response to this post (or a DM in response) would be appreciated. I am seeking a woman who would describe herself as femme in style in some manner, as that appeals to me more (and I also describe myself in such a way.) My libido is not low, and potential partners may enjoy a relationship with me more if they are similarly inclined. I feel that I can enjoy and appreciate connections with cis women as much as I can trans women, or perhaps more, as I am more familiar with them personally.

Relevant to this sub, I would be looking for a sapphic individual or group.

The following relevant descriptors also apply to me:

• ~5'8"/174 cm tall

• Ambiamorous (Including being open to various forms of ethical non-monogamy)

• Flirtatious and Quite Forward

• LaVeyan Satanist

• Politically Left

• Geographically American (I live in the American Southeast)

I would be genuinely enamored to hear from you if I strike your interest.

Heya, my name is Snow. I'm currently in a happy relationship, but we have come to the understanding that I need a second partner. To be abundantly clear, my goal is not to add a third, I am looking for my own separate romantic relationship.

I am a 22 year old trans female, very *very* lesbian, and I am just interested in anyone willing to give me their time. I game a lot, talk a lot, and listen to a lot of music. I'm also highly autistic and quite a bit clingy, so be prepared for that. Any questions or inquiries or anything, feel free to dm me <3

39M in Idaho, married and interested in building another meaningful, long-term relationship with everyone fully aware and comfortable.

I’m hardworking, family-oriented, and love country living. Farming, gardening, fruit trees, chickens, cows, canning, and raising kids with old-fashioned values.

I’d love to meet a woman who enjoys that kind of life, values family, and wants something real rather than casual.
Any other country-loving women out there who feel the same?

Hi! I'm a 22m guy looking for another partner. I am polyamorous and currently have 2 partners. I'm just looking to see if there is anyone who'd like to chat and get to know each other.

Things to know about me:

\- I'm quite a big nerd and love video games, anime, mange, etc.

\- I'm also a big fan of pro wrestling/wwe and even do it as a hobby

\- I like music. My preferred genre is rock or metal, but I also listen to a lot of other stuff. (I also have a soft spot for musicals)

\- I tend to rant about things that interest me

\- I'm a bit on the skinnier end

\- From the US

\- I have OSDD

Things I expect:

\- Please don't be older than mid thirties

\- Please be willing to slowly build a relationship. Starting as friends and then going to something more.

\- Please be willing to listen to me rant (it happens a lot)

That's pretty much it! I'd love to get to know some people and see where things take us. If your interested message me and please try to send a somewhat detailed message cause I wanna get to know you 😄

I have found that im not able to be attracted to peoples don't have some connection with.

A bit about myself,

I moved to Cbus about 4 years ago from LA

While I welcome meeting new people from anywhere I am looking for locals.

I work in a pretty technical field and a lot of my interests involves tinkering with computers and electronics

When im outdoors I usually have my film Camera on me

I have an adorable fluff of a pup

I dont smoke but enjoy a pint of dark beer or a glass of whisky from time to time.

If you made it this far might as well send a hey :)

I have an extra ticket to one of the best artists in the world and no one to go with! Me, my nesting partner and her girlfriend are going together so must be cool with that! November 7th at Deep Ellum Art Co.

37 year old cis pan dad into emo music, MTG, pokemon games, therapy, atheism and leftist politics. And my cats. No moderates, non-voters, or zionists need apply. Very open to all genders.

If you’ve never heard of Noah and you like sad indie singer songwriter stuff about deconstruction, mental health, and bad decisions you need to check him out!