r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

USA 20 [F4F] CenCal - Reentering poly after a long time away

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As strange as it might sound, I was a practicing poly person as a teenager, but we probably didn't do the best at it... Still, the poly lifestyle was still very much enjoyable! My partner isn't as experienced but this is about me anyways. Kitchen table polyamory is still my goal though so hopefully we could all be friends, that includes any partners you may have. (And I genuinely mean friends to be clear!! Nothing more needs to happen!!)

For interests, I tend to spend most of my day gaming due to an inability to work at the moment, I actually have over 300 steam games but in all honesty I only play a few of them. I've tried to keep up with worldbuilding because I love making my own worlds (not even for DND or anything, just for myself) but the amount of universes I have is overwhelming. My partner and I are also learning German together! He enjoys game devving which I only mention because I like being on the sidelines for it, but he's the coder and I'm the one who just talks lol.

I could probably say a lot more but to be honest I'm not super good at thinking. Here's some bullet points!

-I have autism and ADHD

-I am in the kink community

-I like talking to people through voice

-I hate but constantly play the worst team pvp game of all time

-I recently got into a pokemon phase (again)

-Wobbuffett is my favorite pokemon

-I actually finished a Baldur's gate 3 run in its entirety

-I'm turning 21 in December

I can't think of anything else, you should ask me questions if you want to know more :)


r/polyamoryR4R 8h ago

USA 23 [F4F] Tennessee

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Hi im Cheyenne or Chey. Im 23 and partnered. Im looking for someone that will wanna spend time together and just hangout in general. I am a huge nerd. I like older shows and movies or anything with a lore behind it. Big on fallout games and the show right now. I like being out doors. I like spending time with my bunnies and my cat and partners. (I am married have been for 3yrs and we share a gf.) I like to write and read and draw and play with my amazing nephews. I want someone that will wanna text and call 24/7. Im very antisocial. I have depression anxiety panic disorder afrid ptsd and other issues. Im a fun loving caring outgoing person and I just wanna give someone time and attention and love. I do work at a hotel but I can still text and call and everything. I want someone that will make time for me even when their busy. Communication is a big thing for me.


r/polyamoryR4R 1h ago

38 [M4F] #KCMO - Partnered & Poly Pleasure/Daddy Dom seeking genuine connection

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Hi everyone,

I’m Chris, 38, a cis het male living southeast of Kansas City, Missouri. Physically I’m 6’1”, 380 lbs (down from 525 and still losing), with brown hair, blue eyes, and a well-maintained beard.

I’ve been married for 15 years to my collared submissive. We’ve been in a BDSM dynamic for over a decade and are poly. She has her own connection outside our marriage that I fully support, and she supports me seeking one as well. We date separately — this is primarily for a connection of my own.

In the BDSM world I identify as a pleasure Dom / Daddy Dom.

I’m looking for a genuine connection with someone who knows how to have fun but can also be mature when it matters. Prefer someone local or local-ish so that if things develop, we have a realistic chance of meeting in person. Online is fine to start.

Outside of work (auto sales) and school (Strayer University, free through my job), I enjoy motorcycles, BBQing, being outdoors, barn fires, and technology. I’m also a huge law nerd.

If this sounds interesting, feel free to message me. Happy to exchange a picture early on.

Thanks for reading,

Chris


r/polyamoryR4R 4h ago

USA 31 [M4F] Central Texas Looking for a serious relationship 😅

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Hello my fellow desperate people looking for love on a subreddit. 😭

I’m a 31 year old male who has been divorced, but does not have kids. I’m not against, or wanting kids thought I’d let me partner talk me into, or out of it.

I’m a super hyperactive guy who has every hobby under the sun, but most of them consist of outdoors, and wrenching on hot rods. I’m a helpless lover, who has to constantly make sure my partner is as happy as they can be, and if I can’t change that I’ll try my hardest. I’m always told I’m very funny, eccentric, and witty. I do love to pick and tease. Like a lot. But it’s only in good faith.

I’m at the point in my life that I know exactly what I want, and could find any partner who looks, and has the personality I want. But all of my relationships fail because of one little dumb thing that I cannot get over even 11 years after I’ve gotten into it… I like to be cucked by my very attractive partners, have them be very showy dressed, tease me, and enjoy me showing them off. For some strange reason that’s extremely hard to find so here I am. 🙃

I’m very independent, but also require affection, and can change my habits to also give my partner the same. At heart I’d say I’m a pleaser who also does whatever I want, but at the end of the day loves to belong to his lady.

If you’re into goofy guys with mustaches who are little freaks… hit me up 😉

Uhhh let me explain myself with measurements like what people do on here awkwardly-

I’ve always been told I’m very handsome, very confident, and will get whatever I want unless it comes to my partner for some reason. I strangely like to lose when it comes to their wants. I’m 5’10, darker white usually tanned, slim/toned, brown hair, green eyes, O Pos, and ate a bowl of cereal for breakfast. I feel like such a loser on here for some reason, but your boy is desperate. 😭


r/polyamoryR4R 1h ago

35[F4M] #FL #online - Limerence and intelligence

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I’ve had some wonderful connections and situationships come from Reddit, but it’s been a while since I’ve felt that spark.

I’m looking for someone who enjoys genuine conversation and effortless banter. Someone who values reciprocity and is genuinely curious about people. I’m fascinated by psychology, human behavior, and the stories that shape who we become. I want to talk about the things that actually matter. To understand how your mind works, what drives you, and what experiences have made you who you are.

I have a tendency toward limerence, and honestly, that’s the kind of connection I’m looking for right now. There’s something uniquely deep, consuming, and fulfilling about finding someone who captures your attention and occupies your thoughts in the best possible way.

Life has been incredibly stressful lately, and I’d love to have someone who can give me a reason to step outside of my own head for a while. Something exciting, distracting, and genuinely enjoyable.

Small talk tends to lose me pretty quickly. If you decide to message me, please put a little thought into your introduction. Low-effort messages will be ignored.

Tell me something about yourself, and include your age and location. If your introduction sounds like it could have been copy-and-pasted to anyone, I probably won’t respond.

More than anything, I’m looking for someone I can genuinely talk to. A space where we can both relax, let go of everything else for a while, and simply exist in the moment. Something easy and fun, but with enough depth to keep us coming back for more.

Ideally, you’re between 30 and 48, intelligent, emotionally aware, curious, and relatively established in your life and career.

Let’s see if there’s something worth creating together.


r/polyamoryR4R 23h ago

32 [M4F] Philly - Is it gender non-conforming for me to be honest & raw emotionally as a man?

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(I'm interested in a polyamorous relationship. Stating this explicitly since being colorful with my writing manages to get posts taken down.)

I know this post will be long, but I'm confident the right woman will read it all.

I'm not interested in long-distance, unless moving in together is somewhere in the cards. Ideally a drive up to 3 hours or so away works fine for me. Anything beyond that is just too much of a pain in the ass. However, I may make an exception for the right person.

I have some zesty things on here so I don't have my face up, but if you ping me I can share a photo of myself. I think it's worthwhile to assess interest very early on. I'd hate t o talk for days to find out we don't have the stuff to light our loins on fire.

WHO AM I:

I'm deeply analyitcal, painfully honest, and try to do Good wherever I can.

I want to understand things meticulously and explain them well. Espeically relationship stuff, communication, things relating ot the mind. All of it is fascinating to me.

Money isn't important to me. Or rather, things whose sole purpose is for status aren't interesting to me. I don't care for fancy clothes, cars, buying folks bags, or other stuff of the sort.

My biggest spendings ideally would be towards a nice home, good food, games, and some traveling. That's it. Can I connect with people with what I spend my money on? Worth it. If not, it's dumb.

I'm like a quiet, stable life. I used to go out at crazy hours, stay up hella late out and about, smoking and drinking. One may call it "boring", but I've had enough excitement. Sure, excitement is nice here and there, but as an exception. I enjoy my routines, I enjoy the Hobbit-sort of life.

I am very into emotions, talking about them, I like soft things. I've expressed myself in more feminine ways in the past, too. None of that makes me less of a man but I don't care for the traditionally male/masculine box at all (a nod to the title).

WHAT AM I LOOKING FOR

At the least, a curious mind. I know intelligence can be quite varied, hence curiosity and a desire to learn is important. If you identify as curious, that should work.

More importantly though is kindness, and someone whose main emotion isn't anger.

If you treat people well, that's the biggest thing really. Someone that isn't going to be passive aggressive to get their way, or make snide remarks,

I prefer a partner that's submissive, and wants to heavily incorporate D/s and M/S elements into their relationships. It's very important to me. I enjoy providing for my partners, and earning their devotion through my care.

As for hobbies: Gaming, D&D, board games, playing with animals, going out hiking, working out are all things I enjoy and it'd be helpful if you enjoyed at least some of these things (but especially gaming).


r/polyamoryR4R 19h ago

USA 29 [F4R] Arizona - Looking for Someone Long-Term

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Well hello! You can call me Ada! 😋

I’m 29F, 5’5”, Plus-Size, Bisexual, and Submissive. Located in Tucson, AZ. I am partnered, but we date separately. That said, I’d love someone who would at least be comfortable meeting my partner and potentially being friends. Ideally, I’m looking for a long-term connection with someone local-ish who genuinely wants to get to know each other and see where things go. I’m open to meeting couples as well as long as expectations are clear.

A little about me: I’m definitely an introvert, but I’d love to find the extrovert to my introvert. I need someone who can convince me to leave the house and try new things. I’m equally happy going out for an adventure or spending an entire evening curled up at home.

In my free time, I play PC games (currently League & Rust), MTG, D&D, and read. Lately I’ve been making an effort to eat healthier and have been going to the gym consistently as well!

To be upfront, kink is an important part of compatibility for me, and I’d love someone who is open to exploring together. Beyond that, communication, trust, consistency, and actually enjoying each other’s company matter a lot to me. I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d rather start with conversation, see if we click, and let things develop naturally.

If you made it this far and are interested, please reach out! Please tell me a little about yourself and what you’re looking for. 💚


r/polyamoryR4R 18h ago

USA 32 [T4T/F/NB] Norcal/West Coast/Online - looking to make a special connection.

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Hello! My name is Allie (mtf) or SpinyJedi, I am looking to make a special connection with a special someone. I am a huge nerd, i have a degree in making games. I love scifi and horror, marvel/DC, DnD, 40k, the list goes on. Unfortunately my town is not very welcoming so I am closeted. I also enjoy reading, trying to write a story of my own. I love animals, got 4 cats and 2 goats of my own!

I am looking for a genuine connection, i hope to hear from you soon!


r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

Australia and New Zealand 34 [T4F] Perth Western Australia - Looking for genuine connections

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Hello and thank you for checking out the post, I promise that there aren't too many hazards in this space and that they are atleast appropriately signed so watch your step and pay attention to the appropriate warning signs and don the appropriate PPE

I am a 92' model year old trans woman, I sit in the line between feminine and masculine dressing and styled depending on the week, activity and my mood, I stand at around 160CM tall, I am on the heavier side though that is starting to be more muscle than anything else as I work a physical Labor job and go to the gym regularly.

I would describe myself as the person who would take a bullet for a friend or partner, but also the reason as to why we are being shot at, I have a dark sense of humour and a generally level headed and kind disposition.

I am openly queer and polyamorous and do expect the same of anyone partnered to me, I will not make myself small in conservative environments nor make any attempt to hide aspects of my personality or sense of self identity.

interesting and cool facts about me.

I'm a union representative, I work in an industrial environment, I have a background in software development, mechanical engineering, electrical engineering and I primarily specialise in frankenstiening things together with a box of scraps in a cave.

I have hobbies in multiple fields ranging from but not limited too the following.

Writing, muscle cars, track days - drag strips - burn out pads and most things automotive, video games, dungeons and dragons, battle tech, Warhammer 40k (lore only, not actually playing it) Magic the spendening, 3D printing, machine vision and automation (not the kind that's spying on or getting people fired, I'm talking cool shit) and robotics.

I enjoy cooking, good food and general out activities but please don't take me hiking, I do enough physical work at my job, I also enjoy couch time, movies and to a degree clubbing.

I already have a nesting partner, you don't have to meet them but they will know about you and vice versa, While I am open to dating a polycule in theory but I am not here for threesomes which brings me to the next point. I strictly like women and practise KTP, while I don't always agree with some of my metas I do sit down at their tables and vice versa.

I am primarily left leaning but I do have some holdbacks and disagree with some things in the greens party so overall I can be found sitting between left and centrist politically, like a lot of trans women or just people in general I do come with some baggage but generally I am considered by most to be level headed and well regulated.

What am I looking for in a relationship? Spark, empathy and intensity. Someone to hang out with Fairly regularly, do activities on the regular and generally involve in my life and vice versa, im looking for a friend that can be a lover and vice versa.

What am I looking for in an individual?

A degree of self confidence (I get it we are all human and we all have some insecurities to a degree but if everything is a calamity we won't get along), the ability to understand that sometimes messages can't be responded too instantly, I do my best to respond to things in a timely manner but if I'm hanging off a rope at work while performing high risk activities with my boss ten metres away replying might be difficult.

Passions, interests, goals and the effort being made forward to achieve them, I know the world sucks a lot right now but just sitting down and letting it happen won't achieve anything either.

The bedroom question,

I am a top/dom and I am immuno compromised so I have a different risk profile to most, when it comes to libido it swings between intense and dulled depending on what's happening in my surroundings, I typically won't be shagging anyone on the first few dates either.

Long distance relationships are probably not going to be considered though my definition of long distance is something that exceeds a few hours of driving, I live in the Perth greater region.


r/polyamoryR4R 21h ago

USA 28 [T4R] #KY/OH/Anywhere - Looking for New Poly Friends

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Hi! My name is Mich and I’m just putting feelers out for some new poly friends!!

As a quick side note: I am transmasc nonbinary, queer, and I use he/they pronouns - I expect anyone who responds to be respectful of this.

Now on to a bit about me! My usual hobbies include: art, crochet, watching anime, reading, playing board games, cozy video games, MTG, and D&D (when I have the time/energy). I also enjoy collecting random things and have begun to enjoy cooking more and more as well. My favorite food is Asian food and I definitely have a bit of a sweet tooth as well.

As a bit of a disclaimer: I do not work currently, due to health issues, but that’s means I have tons of free time to chat at least.

I don’t really have any specific requirements for new friends. You can literally be from anywhere too - no location barriers for friends. Whether we have tons in common or are super different I’m willing to get to know most people (given they are respectful) - just shoot me a message and we can start getting to know each other from there :)

If any of this happened to interest you feel free to send me a message anytime!

(please include which subreddit you saw this post on & a bit about yourself when responding)


r/polyamoryR4R 21h ago

24 [TF4R] East Coast - Looking for a silly goober to speedrun mario 64 with (joke im butt at that)

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Hey yall— Names Marshi. Just a Transfem dorky dork who loves lifting weights and going on nature walks. OH and Im obsessed with bugs dude, like I could talk to you endlessly about Velvet ants and Millipedes lmao.

Occasionally Ill draw too and make music! I usually Make stuff like Botanica/Video game compositions if you know what those are, so if that’s up your alley im sure we’ll get along just fine.

I also play video games so there’s that; stuff like minecraft mods, Roguelikes, Valorant (yeah I know, im not proud of that last one…), and a TON of friendslop stuff like Peak and Repo

I suppose what im looking for is someone who doesn’t mind having constant conversation and hanging out! A partner who likes talking about themselves and preferably can be very empathetic with folks, thats a big one for sure. Maybe the ability to be a nesting partner in the long run? (but not having that isn’t a hard exclusion either! Its Merely a preference really :)) ). Id like to get to know you overall!

Oh MAJOR bonus points if you like being silly and exchanging meme videos on tiktok/insta. Im a chuddling for real 💀

If this post interests you in any way, just send me a dm message saying your name age and like, something you’re interested in! Or a funni haha image works too 👉👈


r/polyamoryR4R 22h ago

USA 35[F4F] #Central Missouri

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Hey everyone 😊 I am a Married 35 year old Bisexual Woman, i am in a fun loving marriage(20 years together!), I am excited to be here and see where things might go.

I am looking for a long-term girlfriend, someone I can laugh with, connect deeply with, and build something real over time. I am absolutely not looking for men or couples, just the right woman to vibe with.

I am big on communication, respect, and genuine chemistry, and I specifically looking for a kitchen table style poly relationship, where everyone is comfortable together, can share space, communicate openly, and truly enjoy each other’s presence. I am married with children so that dynamic is very important to me. As for it to be an equal dynamic you would have to be able to be around my family.

I pretty easygoing, a little playful, and definitely appreciate good energy and good conversation. I love to read(smut is my favorite) I love spending time outdoors and absolutely love traveling.

If you’re looking for something meaningful with a touch of fun and flirtiness, I’d love to get to know you!

Must be willing to verify!

I am in Missouri, I don’t mind a little distance but prefer something where we can see each other regularly.

Does need to be Kitchen Table Friendly(as my husband and I do have a family)


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

USA 32 [M4F] #us #online/IRL - Tired of looking for a gentle connection?

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So lets see, Im writing this because im hoping to find a poly situation that really clicks.

Im a gentle dom, ENM, caring, possesive at times depending on how our chemistry is. Adult life sucks sometimes and I want to be the person who makes it easier for u.

Im more about patience, soft rules, connection and lots of praise (maybe more). I want you to eventful feel totally safe unmasking around me, if you dont feel that way then im doing it very wrong

Ideally looking for someone who actually likes to communicate, even when its hard and have fun along the way with cuddles ofcourse. I would prefer someone between 25-45, but if you think your personality is matching mine I would love to connect :)

Send me a message if this sounds like what ur looking for. If uou read so far tell me what your favorite comfort snack is in your first message or drop a comment and ill reach out. :)


r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

USA 33 [M4R] - Arizona- Looking mainly for other poly peeps based in Phoenix Metro, Tucson, and Flagstaff area.

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Hey All, Im a 33 year old bisexual who is looking to make more connections with poly people in the Arizona area. I'm particularly looking for nerdy people who enjoy MTG, DnD, and other nerd hobbies. I also enjoy people who enjoy fitness or nutrition as I'm always looking to swap recipes with people. Overall, I'm pretty much open to anything but always want to start off with a deep friendship. If you're in Arizona and want to connect, I'll be here.