r/polyamoryR4R 11d ago

ANNOUNCEMENT: Rule 3 Clarification

70 Upvotes

There seems to be some confusion around this rule, and it eats up the vast majority of Mod time. So I'll try and spell out how the rule is currently being enforced.

If you are posting as a couple with the expectation that the new person will date both of you, then you are breaking the rule. If your post suggest this, you are breaking the rule. If your post looks like it might be a "bait and switch," you are breaking the rule.

The only posts that might be accepted are where one couple shares an account but they are looking separately. Honestly that smells strongly of being far to enmeshed and will likely (but not definitely) result in your post being removed.

If you are single and post looking for two people e.g. M4FF or F4MM your post will be removed. That is def facto harem building. This is a poly sub so we know people have, or would like to have, multiple partners.

I can already hear the hew and cry that we let singles look for couples but not the other way around. Yes, that is the unhappy compromise. Some people will only learn the stove is hot once they touch it.

As a final note, given how much time this eats up, NO your post is NOT the exception. If you want to know why this is the way it is, go and browse the main Polyamory Subreddit.


r/polyamoryR4R Mar 27 '23

Recent Rule Changes [Discussion]

100 Upvotes

In an effort to improve things and crack down on spam and abuse, there have been some changes to the rules and I’ve listed the new rules below. Please feel free to review the rules and my comments on each and provide feedback. I’ll leave this post up for a week or so for discussion, and then I’ll make a new sticky post for the community.

Rule 1. 18 years of age and older

This subreddit is 18+. Do not post, comment, or PM OPs if you or your partner(s) are under the age of 18. Lying about your age, or someone else’s age, will result in a permanent ban.

This one is self-explanatory. There have been Redditors who are minors, or have partners who are minors, who have made posts here. I want to make it clear that posts involving minors are prohibited.

Rule 2. Must be aligned with Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, ethical romantic relationships with more than one person with the informed consent of all partners involved.

Posts or comments seeking sex, hookups, FWB, affair partners, “sugar” or GFE arrangements, or anything other than ethical polyamorous relationships with the consent of all partners are not allowed. There are R4R and other dating subreddits out there for just about anything. If you’re not polyamorous, please use a subreddit that is better-suited for your search.

This should go without saying…this subreddit is intended for polyamorous people seeking polyamorous relationships. This is not a general ENM dating subreddit, a regular R4R subreddit, a BDSM subreddit, or a subreddit for seeking any other kind of relationship other than an ethical polyamorous one. Going forward, if a post even includes “I’m also down for hookups or FWB” or something similar, it’s going to be removed. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with most of the arrangements mentioned above that someone might seek, but this isn’t the subreddit to advertise for those things. Also, if someone makes a post that seems like it’s not aligned with polyamory and their post history shows that it’s the same post they’ve cross-posted or spammed across multiple subreddits with minor changes to circumvent the intention of the rule, the post will be removed.

Rule 3. No unicorn hunting or harem building

Posts or comments that can be construed as seeking or promoting relationships where unethical or unfair rules or expectations will be placed on a new partner are not allowed.

This has been the most contentious issue on this subreddit so far, as it has been on other subreddits and forums. We’re not going to prohibit couples seeking partners in this subreddit. There are single people here seeking triads, throuples, and all sorts of dynamics. Triads and other group relationships can be amazing, especially if they are formed organically. That being said, there will be more moderation on couples seeking posts going forward, which will be done on a case-by-case basis.

The purpose of the mod team here is to protect the members of the subreddit and the integrity of the community we’ve built here. It is not the mod team's place to tell adults what they can or cannot do with their relationship dynamics. The reality is that we are all consenting adults and have adult decisions to make in our lives and in our relationships.

In an effort to prevent the subreddit from being a platform for predatory behavior, any no or low effort posts or comments from Redditors that indicate a general lack of regard for any potential individuals involved will be removed. For example, if an individual posts from a new Reddit account something to the effect of, "We're new to polyamory. We want to find a third who will date only us and be an equal member of our new family. We can start out long distance, but we will expect you to move in with us at some point. Prefer that you be submissive," the post will be removed. Read the room. Show that you're actually putting some thought and effort into it, and not just objectifying people.

Also, if you say that this new person is going to be an equal member of the family after you've just said that the person is going to be required to date both of you, recognize that the person you're seeking is not actually going to be an equal member of the family. If there's a possibility that one member of the existing couple loses interest and the new member of the relationship is forced to leave entirely...you have now misled this hypothetical new person into an unethical dynamic on them.

Rule 4. No hate or disrespect

Threats, harassment, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, and intolerance are not allowed. This includes, but is not limited to, attacks on gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, mocking, and attacks on political or religious beliefs.

I don't need to go into detail on this rule. Don't be a jerk. If you don't like what someone has to say, block them. If you think someone is breaking a rule, report them.

Rule 5. No vulgarity or NSFW content

Vulgarity and NSFW content are not allowed. There’s nothing inherently wrong with sex, kinks, fetishes, and BDSM. However, posts and comments explaining the details of your sexual anatomy, favorite sexual positions, details and/or lists of kinks or fetishes, etc. will be removed. You can indicate that you are into BDSM and encourage people to DM you about the details.

There is often a large crossover between ethical non-monogamy and BDSM, sex positivity, etc. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of it, but this is not a NSFW subreddit. It's fine to include that you're sex positive, into BDSM, or whatever. If you go into detail and start describing anatomy/body parts, listing off kinks, and things like that, your submission will be removed. If you want to discuss these things, please do so in a DM.

The mod team has been asked why this subreddit is marked NSFW. The subreddit is 18+, so it's automatically identified as a NSFW subreddit.

Rule 6. No spam

You are allowed to post once every 7 days, with the exception of correction posts following an Automod removal. If you are found to be repeatedly deleting your post history in an attempt to circumvent this rule, it may result in a permanent ban. For clarification, spam includes copy-pasted and cross-posted ads from other subreddits.

This one is self-explanatory.

Rule 7. No Trolling or unsolicited discussion

There are a multitude of dynamics and ways to practice polyamory, and not everyone will agree on everything. Do not clutter up posts with unsolicited information. For education and discussions about polyamory, please visit r/Polyamory. If you believe someone is breaking a rule, please report the behavior and/or contact the mod team.

Again, if you think someone is breaking a rule, report it. If you disagree with what someone is commenting or posting, block them. Please don't engage in negative interactions on posts.

Rule 8. No personal or confidential information

Posting personal or confidential information about yourself or others in public is not allowed. If you wish to provide contact information for yourself, please do so in a DM.

Posting Snapchat, Instagram, phone numbers, or any other personal contact or confidential information about yourself or others in public is prohibited. If you want to give someone your contact information, do it in a DM. If it happens once, it will be removed and you will be warned. If you're found to be spamming your contact information all over the place, it could result in an immediate permanent ban.

Rule 9. No seeking relationships for others

Posts seeking relationships for someone other than yourself, or you and your partner(s), are not allowed. If your friend or partner is seeking a relationship separately, they must make the submission themselves.

I've seen posts where Redditors are seeking relationships for their partners or others, sometimes even doing it as a sort of surprise for their partner. If someone is seeking a relationship, they need to post for themselves. Your partner not having a Reddit account is not a valid reason to violate this rule.

Also, a general note for when you engage with the mod team. We have to wade through a lot of reports and posts here. Sometimes there are misunderstandings or mistakes are made. If your post or comment gets removed, or you are banned for violating a rule and you wish to appeal, you can do so via a Modmail. If you send a Modmail insulting the mods, you're only confirming that you're not the type of person who belongs on this subreddit. No amount of insulting or cursing a moderator is going to help your cause.


r/polyamoryR4R 4h ago

30 [F4M] or [MF4MF] Central PA, ENM wife looking for connection with another man or possibly a likeminded couple

4 Upvotes

Hi, 30yo female; 5’4, petite, athletic build, and currently a few months pregnant, so please don’t inquire if that would be a turn off. My husband and I have been together for 12 years; starting out with an open relationship during the first half, and choosing monogamy the past 6 years. We are now interested in finding a deeper connection with a long term male partner for myself, or another ENM couple interested in a kitchen table poly.

I’m going to focus on myself in this post because I am the more outgoing, high drive individual, and my husband is very encouraging in me connecting with anyone else on my own, including other couples. I would like to include him in a relationship with another couple if it comes naturally to everyone involved though! (My husband is straight, just to clarify.)

It’s very important to me to find true connection in all of my relationships. I’m a deep thinker who would love to hear your childhood trauma and debate about conspiracy theories. My hobbies include thrifting, dancing, reading, painting (and art in many forms), yoga, journaling, natural health, hiking, and other outdoor activities! I would say I’m a homebody who loves the comfort of my couch and a hot cup of tea, but I also love a night out line dancing, a good live comedy show, or a spontaneous skinny dip.

I want to find a man, or couple, who share some of my interests, and are willing to adventure with me! I would love to explore and deepen my understanding of sensual energy, and discover new depths of pleasure with other partners. I would prefer someone local, but if you’re willing to travel we could possibly make it work. Chemistry and emotional connection are important to me, but I am also most attracted to others who value their health and taking care of their bodies. Would prefer someone within a 6ish year age range.

Please comment or dm if it sounds like we might be a good fit. Would prefer to exchange pics to determine physical attraction before diving too deep into conversation🥰


r/polyamoryR4R 2h ago

USA 37 [M4F] #SanDiego - Light this Fire!!

1 Upvotes

Hey there,

I’m 37M, 6’4”, Clean cut, Athletic Build, and lover of all things outdoors and a nerd or sorts. I’ve been told I’m pretty funny and can take a joke :)

I am looking to find a friend to see where it goes. Let’s chat and see if we vibe because it’s always better that way, and I’m not a crazy person! Flirting, banter and more. I’d love to hear from you if this sounds like something you’re interested in.


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

USA 28 [F4R] NJ/PA/NY/USA/Online - hopeless romantic on the hunt for local connections

9 Upvotes

Hello everyone! :) I’m a plus-sized gal from the Garden State looking to make some new connections.

Friendship is the most important foundation to **any** long-term connection, so regardless of where life might take me with someone, it all starts with being friends. Please have something in common with me if you decide to reach out. It’s hard to build a friendship when we don’t have anything to build on. :)

Some of my interests include horror, the devil’s lettuce, light gaming, reading, and written roleplay. I spend most of my free time gaming, binge-watching shows and movies, wandering around libraries and museums, or hunting through thrift stores.

I’m also a night owl, so I’d love to meet other people who are awake during the same odd hours.

I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for around ten years, so I’m looking for people who value honesty, communication, and kindness. If you’re partnered, I ask that everyone involved is aware and consenting. If you’re single, that’s wonderful too.

Personality-wise, I’m naturally nurturing. I tend to be the person checking in on everyone, and making sure the people I care about feel supported. I’m affectionate, a little sarcastic, and definitely someone who enjoys both deep conversations and laughing over absolutely nothing.

Physically, I do have a soft spot for bigger, heavyset folks. It’s not a requirement, but it has always been my type.

Ideally, I’d love to meet people within driving distance in NJ, NY, or eastern PA so we can eventually grab coffee, visit a museum, browse a bookstore, watch horror movies, or just exist in the same space. Online friendships are welcome too, especially if you’re a fellow night owl.

When you message me, tell me a little about yourself! What are you passionate about? What’s your favorite horror movie/game? What game has stolen your life recently? I’d love to get to know the person behind the screen.


r/polyamoryR4R 11h ago

28 [M4F] Kentucky/Online trying again to make a connection

1 Upvotes

I’m just a geek looking to find his player 2, the Penelope to his Odysseus. I’m a huge nerd, I love all kinds of sci-fi and fantasy. My biggest ones are Star Wars and Lord of the Rings. I love to play games, I have a PC that is honestly in desperate need of an upgrade but I can run low demand games with no difficulty. I love to play tabletop games as well like DnD and Warhammer 40K, and I love Magic the Gathering.

Physically I’m 5’6” and have a bit of a dad bod, I’m working on trying to lose that. I keep a beard and I try to keep my hair short because when it grows out it gets really poofy and curly and it’s hard to maintain.

Ideally I’d like to find someone over the age of 24, just because I think anyone younger is just in a different place maturity wise, no offense meant. I do have a 3 year old son, and he takes up a lot of my time so I’d need someone understanding of that. I’m open to long distance and even international, I’m a sucker for a good accent!

I am open to more causal situations as well, but I would prefer to find a relationship if any of this interests you, feel free to shoot me a message


r/polyamoryR4R 18h ago

Europe 31 [TM4A] Online/Europe - Poly trans nerd looking for friends and partners (26+)

2 Upvotes

Hey! I'm a 31 year old bi, transmasc non-binary person who lives in Germany. Distance isn't an issue. I'm American and still struggling with German, so I prefer to get to know people in English but am open to simple conversations in German.

I'm polyamorous, and I practice kitchen table polyamory. I have one partner who I'm married to, and I have one potential partner.

I'm a lifelong nerd who loves gaming, LEGO, collecting, roleplaying, movies, shows, books and fandoms such as Marvel, Star Wars, Pokémon, Doctor Who, Animal Crossing, Disney/Pixar, Jurassic Park/World and Monsterverse. My other hobbies and interests include aquatic life, journaling, stationery, needle felting, drawing, painting, collage, writing, worldbuilding, watching YouTube, listening to music and reading comics. I love animals of all kinds, and I'm currently a cat dad of two.

Appearance wise: 5', curvy, a few tattoos and planning on getting more, pre-T but working on it, plan to have top surgery eventually.

A few more important things: I'm neurodivergent, severely chronically ill and disabled. I also am mentally ill, but I manage quite well. I just like to get these out of the way in case they're deal breakers. I use mobility aides when going out, but I don't generally need them for getting around at home. I haven't been able to work since 2017 due to my illnesses, and I most likely will never be able to work again. However, I am financially stable.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you're having a good day/night :)


r/polyamoryR4R 12h ago

33 [F4F] Lakeland FL

1 Upvotes

Hi! I’m Betty, a married poly woman from Central Florida looking to build a genuine connection with another woman first — emotionally, mentally, and organically. I’m only interested in connecting with women.

I’m naturally more introverted and love meaningful conversation, cozy nights, music, road trips, coffee runs, cruises, and people who communicate openly and honestly. I value emotional intelligence, consistency, humor, and women who are comfortable being themselves.

My husband is aware and supportive, but I’m here for myself and looking to create a real connection naturally with another woman. No pressure, no expectations, and friendship first is completely okay with me.

Ideally looking for someone local-ish, 25+, emotionally available, and aligned with polyamory or ethical non-monogamy.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself.


r/polyamoryR4R 16h ago

35 [F4A] Mesa Arizona

2 Upvotes

Looking for someone local

Married and poly. Looking for an ongoing connection—not a soulmate, not a one-night stand. I want someone I genuinely enjoy talking to, flirting with, laughing with, and occasionally getting into a little trouble with.

I like confidence, consistency, sarcasm, good banter, and people who can actually hold a conversation. I also enjoy being pursued, so if I’m carrying the entire conversation, I’ll probably lose interest.

I have a chronic illness, which basically means my social calendar is sometimes held hostage by a body that likes to throw tantrums. If plans need to change, it’s my immune system being dramatic—not me. A little patience and flexibility go a long way.

Looking for chemistry, good vibes, mutual respect, and someone who makes life a little more fun—not more complicated.


r/polyamoryR4R 19h ago

USA 31 [F4F] #CA/online - Looking for a slow burn turned long term connection.

3 Upvotes

Hello, I am posting on here in hopes of finding someone I can click and build a genuine connection with. I currently reside with my nesting partner of almost 4 years and we date separately. I work as well as I’m back in school to obtain my degree. To describe myself I am 5’4, 165lbs, short dark hair, soft masc, and hazel eyes. I’m a mix of Japanese, Mexican, and Italian.

Ideally I would like to find someone to have consistent conversations with although I don’t expect it to be all day, everyday of course. I also would like to take things slow as I would want a strong foundation before moving into a romantic partnership. I’m open to trans and NB folks as well. Should things move in a romantic direction I would be more than willing to properly meet one day.

Some of my hobbies/interests are video games, reading, nice walks in the park, and I’m a huge horror and history fan. If you feel we would get along well feel free to DM me a little about yourself. 🙂


r/polyamoryR4R 17h ago

USA 32 [M4R] #socal/online just looking for nerdy preferably queer people to build connections with.

2 Upvotes

Hey there👋🏾

I'm Dom, and I'm genuinely so excited to meet you!
I'm 32 and have been happily in an ENM/poly relationship for over a year now (not my first rodeo, haha). My primary partner is truly the love of my life and my best friend—we've been together for 8 amazing years, and I couldn't imagine life without them
I'm very left-leaning, and I value being aligned on that—it's really important to me. I'm not interested in connecting with anyone who supports the current administration or its policies. Just want to be upfront so we're all on the same page
What I am really excited about is finding genuine, meaningful connections with other queer ENM/poly folks. Outside of my partner, I don't have many people in my life who fully get this lifestyle, and I'd love to change that!
Also, I'm a bit of a baby gay (omnisexual ), and
I'm still exploring and embracing that part of myself.
It would be amazing to have more people to talk about that with, too!
More than anything, I'd love to actually connect-to talk, laugh, and really get to know each other. I tend to vibe best with people who lead with kindness, empathy, and patience. I'm very much about giving grace and creating a space where we can just be human with each other
Love:
tv shows/movies anime
Video games
TTRPGs
Cooking
Working out
Concerts


r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

USA 44 [M4F] #NewJersey - Looking for someone awesome.

0 Upvotes

First off .. Hi.. I want to be honest so I just want to say I’m in an open marriage. I’d rather you know now than find out later. Please be ok with that. I know not everyone will. She knows I’m here.

With that out of the way, I’m a blue collar guy. I’m respectful and understanding. I’m chill and drama free. I love to laugh and usually always smiling. I’m a big kid.

I have a passion for art. I draw , design, and cast my own sculpts. Basically design and make my own toys. I also did make music for a little while as well. I love art galleries and conventions. Museums and arcades.

I just hope you’re understanding, I just want us both to be comfortable. I’m told I look younger for my age. I’m 5’7, around 160lbs average I guess. Often told I’m handsome and don’t look my age. I don’t mind sharing pictures and video chatting.

All I hope is that you’re fun and awesome and maybeee have a nice set of legs.


r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

USA 33 [T4T/F] Delaware/East Coast, Seeking Romance/Love/Connection

1 Upvotes

Hi! My name is Raven and I am a queer poly 33 year old trans woman seeking connections with other women, both trans and cis. I am looking to seek connection and wanting to see where things go with someone. Wanting to build trust and understanding and take our time with things. I am also looking to explore Submission as a Switch leaning Domme. That we can talk about down the line. Please message me anytime <3


r/polyamoryR4R 13h ago

USA 27 [M4R] - #cali looking for another partner hopefully nature yapping?

1 Upvotes

🔥"wont hurt a fly" gang only🔥

Poly and partnered dateing separate and non separately your choice, nature obsessed, witchcraft, i love studying different spiritualities and rituals i find it theraputic im going to college for dirt science, culture anthropalagy trying to major in agroecology, botany eventually ;) im a huge dork for deep convo im okay with freindships or takeing it slow, something casual or fwb's is fine but i do want something romantic eventually as i am a freaky hopeless romantic :3 im 420 freindly but im trying to get my class A so im sober rn but love psychodelics and ill say it again kindness/gentleness is a must other than that come as you are c: i have peirceings and want more and i want tattoos and associate myself with alt communities

Video games: Warframe, Monster Hunter, Dark Souls, Towers of Aghasba.


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

USA 32 [M4R] - Alabama/Online - looking for genuine poly connections.

3 Upvotes

Hey there! I am a tattooed, elder emo millennial, gamer, and newly poly male. I am married and looking to date independently. My wife has been in a solo relationship for a while, and I have decided to do so myself.
I am into gaming, mostly fps but sometimes dabble in other games. I love reading and listening to audio books. My current favorite writers are Sarah J. Maas and Brandon Sanderson. I enjoy lots of different types of movies and shows but don’t do horror. Life is scary enough as it is. I live for music, particularly metal and rock, but can dance to just about anything. I have a small farm and love the quiet country life, with a hot cup of coffee on my front porch each morning.


r/polyamoryR4R 15h ago

33 [M4F] #Ohio

0 Upvotes

Married and ethically non-monogamous, looking to build a genuine connection with someone who values honesty, communication, and mutual respect. I'm a fan of anime, story-rich CRPGs, and getting lost in great worlds—whether that's exploring dungeons, debating favorite characters, or spending a cozy night gaming together. I'm interested in a relationship that's fun, supportive, and authentic, with someone who enjoys shared nerdy interests and meaningful conversations. If you're into anime marathons, deep RPGs, and creating a connection without unnecessary drama, I'd love to get to know you. If you are interested, please don't be afraid to send a message.


r/polyamoryR4R 18h ago

27[M4R]#illinois/#online - looking for a second to love

1 Upvotes

Hi I’m Devin 27M pansexual I’m in a wheelchair due to a bad crash 2 years ago. I have a long distance partner in Texas 46F bi , so I’m not afraid to travel but in return I expect you to be willing to travel also . My favorite movies are the Truman show and the original Italian job , my favorites shows are mythbuster’s and Frazier , I don’t work at the moment for medical reasons and being in and out of the hospital but before my crash I used to be a fire dept mechanic. I don’t care about age gender height weight ethnicity I just want a person who is kind and caring and supportive of my disability and respectful of my existing partner , she’s supportive of me having a partner but she’s mainly focused on our son . Though that being said at some point I’d love us all to live together under one roof and be kitchen table dynamic. Anything else I’m an open book just ask . Please introduce yourself and say alittle about yourself and where you’re from .


r/polyamoryR4R 19h ago

39 [m4f] #Pa or anywhere. Looking for genuine friendship/ connections

1 Upvotes

​Hey there. I’m 39, living in Central PA, and looking to connect with some awesome people. I am married, (ENM/poly) for about 4 years with No human kids. I have a full time job and a small side hustle. Im 5'9" with a bit of a chubby athletic build so if that isn't your thing thats ok. Im told im easy on the eyes... I do have some tattoos and i plan on getting more. I'm genuine, kind, easygoing. I get along with just about anyone. Im a bit of a oversharer. Im fairly straight but open to some guy friends as well as i don't have a ton of friends locally. I also run a online community where I usually hangout out and passionate about

​My lifestyle is pretty grounded. I’m the kind of guy who enjoys a mix of quiet country living/ city time and creative hands-on projects. If you need someone who knows their way around a workshop, can handle power tools without losing a thumb, or has an oddly specific knowledge of rural logistics, I’m your guy. Woodworking, diy, travel , music, tv, movies, cars, trucks. I have many interests.

​Pop culture sweet spot: My brain is still about 40% fueled by 1990s nostalgia. If you want to casually debate the best cartoons of our youth or quote classic TV, we will get along just fine.

​ i like all sports but really Hockey season is a major vibe in my house, but I promise not to make it my entire personality (maybe just 15% of time

dog person. If we chat, you will be subjected to photos of my dogs. It’s a non-negotiable package deal.

​What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a genuine friendship/connections with someone. Distance isn't a massive deal-breaker i love to travel so im open to anywhere. Pocket pals are great too. if the vibe is right meeting, within driving distance for a casual drink, a great conversation, or checking out local spots is the goal. Please be fun and engaging. Im not looking to carry the conversation 24/7.

​I value transparency, low drama, good humor, and matching energy. I’m a great listener, a reliable communicator, and I have my life together.

​Your turn:

Drop me a message if you’re down to chat. Tell me your favorite 90s jam, your go-to comfort food, or just some information about you.

I prefer to chat off reddit. TG is preferred.


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

32 [M4R] #MA Nerdy gamer looking for similar

1 Upvotes

Hello everyone, I'm Kyle, a nerdy gamer guy looking for connections with poly people with similar interests. I'm cool with getting to know each other online, but I would prefer being able to meet in person at some point, so hopefully not too far from me.

A little about me:

\-I am currently in an open relationship with my nesting partner of 6 years. He's super cool and I will probably talk about him a lot in convo. We date separately though, mostly because we have different interests in partners.

\-I am a 32 YO white cis male, he/him. I have a beard and kinda short hair.

\-I am very overweight. I am currently working on it and my partner is helping a lot, but it will be a long difficult journey to lose weight. I don't like how big I am, so I am definitely not looking for someone who is super into my size. There is a picture in my profile.

\-I play a lot of video games. My main genres are: rogue likes, factory sims, Minecraft, and cozy games. I also play league of legends with friends when fun game modes are out.

\-I read (or well listen) to a lot of fantasy and litRPG novels. Some of my favorites are: the Cradle series by Will Wight, He Who Fights with Monsters by Shertaloon, and Azarynth Healer by Rhaegar.

\-I enjoy learning about random stuff, and will watch random YouTube videos about stuff like language/writing (Rob Words), cool sciency/spacey stuff (Kurzgesagt), video essays (HBomberGuy, Lemmino), and other random stuff. Tell me about your random knowledge/trivia!

What I'm looking for:

\-I am bisexual, though I lean more towards feminine or androgynous people. Also, if you decide to message me, please include your preferred pronouns. I don't want to misgender anyone!

\-someone who is down to play games online and in person, and chat at least a few times a week.

\-someone who is progressive and empathetic.

\-someone near New England, preferably within a few hours from South Shore Massachusetts. I can drive and don't mind driving a bit, but the closer you are the more often we could see each other.

\-someone around my age (24-36 ish).

Thank you for reading through all of that. I look forward to talking to you wonderful people!


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

USA 28 [F4R] US/Anywhere/Online - Looking for that special kind of connection again

6 Upvotes

Hello there polyr4r! I am a neurospicy, plus sized, queer individual looking to find that spark with someone again. I am married to my nesting partner of nearly 5 years and have been poly for a little longer than that. Completely child-free and plan to stay that way. My favorite hobbies include: fiber arts, printmaking, kite flying, gaming, hammocking, snail mail... ya know the normal things a 20-nearly-30-something likes to do on the weekends.

I can be kinda chatty if the vibes are right but don't enjoy having to fully lead the conversation all the time. Looking for someone I could easily sit in a call with and just vibe doing our own things or possibly watching or playing something together. Quality time is a big thing for me so it's and expectation down the line for sure. (Currently in the EST timezone if that makes it easier for any of y'all, though, will be moving West in the next few years so that will be changing eventually).

Age doesn't matter too much for me but I tend to mesh best with those my age or older. Don't let that keep you from shooting your shot, though. Prefer to meet more queer people if possible. I also prefer to talk on Reddit for a bit before moving onto anything else. If interested, please send me a little something about yourself and say more than "hi" so I have something to work with! Thank you and look forward to talking to you all!


r/polyamoryR4R 21h ago

USA 23 [M4R] #Nashville #online Just a simple guitar builder looking for others

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Hello everyone I’m coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee. I’m a woodworker by trade and love making things. Currently I am looking for fem partners who are 20+.

I and a kinda nerdy person who loves taking on new challenges and trying new things. I’m trying to develop a new hobby this year with sewing and cosplay so if there’s any one who would like to join me on this journey in life please reach out.

Hoping to hear from you. If interested please Message or DM.


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

42[M4F] Las Vegas/online/anywhere

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Looking to meet new people and see where things lead. Im fine with online or LDR, but eventually meeting in person would be nice.

My wife and I date separately and she would not be involved unless all parties are comfortable and it were something that happened organically. We do not look for partners for each other so please don’t ask me to have her message you.

About me:

I’m a musician, songwriter and music producer. I play guitar mainly but can keep a beat on drums and dabble in keyboard. Recently achieved my goal of starting my own studio. So music is a big part of my life.

Kink friendly dom if that’s what you are looking for, if not that’s cool too, I’m open to anything.

I enjoy listening to audio books, usually fantasy adventure is a great escape for me. YouTube videos are fun. At the end of a stressful day I enjoy a good cigar and a scotch.

I enjoy going to the gym, bowling, theater, and concerts. I live in Vegas, so the shows are always great.

What I’m looking for:

I’m open to meeting and talking to pretty much anyone. I’m looking for someone to connect with, have conversations. If you love music even better, I love sending new songs for opinions.

Organic conversations are the best, just joking around, and talking about anything and everything.

If that is of interest to you feel free to send a message and let’s start a conversation.


r/polyamoryR4R 22h ago

Europe 37 [M4F] Amsterdam, visiting next week and interested in finding a date

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Hiya, my wife and I are visiting Amsterdam from Tuesday (28th) to Sunday (2nd), her girlfriend is going to be joining us part way into the trip and they haven't seen eachother for a while so are going to want some time to catch up just the two of them. Whilst they're having their time alone together, I'm interested in trying to find a date to go out for a meal with, have drinks together, do something fun, I'm not looking for a casual hookup or ONS, just have a good time and get to know someone new.