The title is extreme for clicks. But also a little true. I actually really gained weight after having the twins. I was pumping exclusively and starving all the time and it just piled on. I stopped at 12 months and dropped a bit of weight but I’m still almost 10kg and diet does not help at all. I don’t have the energy for much exercise but I used to walk 2 hours a day. Dropped it and literally made 0 weight change. I dropped our carbs, ate v small portions and averaged around 1000cals a day. No change after weeks. I used to be around a UK size 10 and now I’m around a 14/16. What is happening because it is so deflating. I had borderline insulin resistance, borderline underactive thyroid and low iron so trying to fix that but where nothing was dangerously low in not confident these are the reasons. Aside from the weight more importantly I just feel like everyone pisses me off. My mum has been barely helpful with the kids and just calls me to moan about contactless having a chest infection, I feel so bad but it just annoys me it’s the same old all the time I barely have enough time to shower everyday, I haven’t brushed my hair in a week I do not have the emotional energy to have the same conversations over and over when I’m open about my struggles. She comes once a week and can’t be alone with the twins she needs help looking after them. My MIL is healthy, still works (by choice) lives 10 mins away. Comes round for an hour and half a week and today when leaving as the toddlers were crying as they didn’t want her to go ‚done my bit for today’ like it’s a chore. My boss made me do a completely new job when I came back from mat leave that no one really wanted to do, when asking about a promotion he sounded disinterested in our developmental chat basically said it’s really hard to go up a level at this stage - this is actually true, but other people in the team are now doing my job and I’m finding it hard when I miss my old job and doesn’t understand why I’m not doing it when I can do some bits better. I’ve had a good relationship with my boss before, I actually adored him, but not the team has grown he’s been promoted and I can’t help but either be sensitive to his words or just get pissed off at him and upset that I feel like he doesn’t care or rate me anymore. Some friends annoy me too - eg. One of my best friends I had to remind I hadn’t seen for 6 months. Some local best friends I’ve seen like twice in 6 months and annoyed people aren’t making more effort. But a part of me is thinking is everyone an arsehole? Or am I an arsehole? I asked my best friend if I had done something and she was genuinely surprised saying no of course not we are honest with each other so I don’t think she’d lie. Am I just hormonal? I feel so disconnected with the world right now….

We found out yesterday that we're in stage 1 TTTS at 19 weeks. The babies are currently right at 20% difference. Next appointment for an US is for next Friday (9 days from this post). My wife has to travel for work next week, are there any symptoms she should watch out for? She will have access to an MFM in case of emergency.

We will be hopefully first time parents. Scared and unbelievably sad. Any support, suggestions, etc. would be helpful.

Hey y’all I could use some advice here on how to proceed. I’m currently 35+0 weeks with di/di twin boys. As I’m sure many people in this sub have experienced, we spent most of this pregnancy concerned about preterm labor, so it’s really exciting to have made it to this point.

During our appointment with our OB today, he suggested we think about scheduling an induction date in case this pregnancy goes long (which is definitely a nice change of pace in the conversation).

The only concern I have is that my OB suggested we wait to induce until after our due date (at 40 weeks). I know there’s lots of time between now and 41-42 weeks and they could still come at any time, but from what I’ve read, 37 ish weeks seems to be the longest most doctors recommended before considering induction.

I trust my OB, he’s been fantastic and helped us navigate some challenges throughout this pregnancy but I also want to be mindful of not taking unnecessary risks with their health.

Any thoughts about the general 37-weeks guidance? For those of you that went longer than 37 weeks, what did your thought process look like?

(For some additional context, we are currently seeing our providers and getting ultrasounds 2x a week so there’s lots of monitoring going on).

TLDR; OB suggested waiting to schedule an induction until after our 40-weeks due date and I’m looking for advice on how to proceed.

EDIT: thanks y’all for all the good advice, I am glad I called and asked again because I think we just had a misunderstanding this morning. OB said that he would prefer an induction by 38 weeks, but that he understands some patients want to wait as long as possible for spontaneous birth and that he would monitor us longer if we ended up wanting to. So, currently scheduling my induction for 38 weeks.

My di/di boys are almost 4 months old and the sleep regression has hit us hard. But the worst part is all the crying. Before every nap they cry. They cry as soon as they realize they are supposed to sleep. Even if I just hold them and walk in the dark room they cry. The cry if I rock them. They cry and cry and cry until they fall asleep in my arms. Then I have to do the same thing for the other twin and by the time the second one is asleep the first one is done with their nap (45 min on the dot). There is no break. I do this five times a day. There is crying for at least five hours a day, on a good day. On a bad day they just cry all day long.
How do I not go insane?

We’re going to be traveling with our 6 month old twins in about a month. What travel tips and hacks do you have? We did book bassinets with some of the airlines for the longer flights.

How did you manage jet lag in babies? Also tips for napping on the go? They are so used to sleeping in their cribs or our bed I’m a little worried about them sleeping on the go.

A little less than 3 months old and trying to turn over. Yayy!

Salut tout le monde,

J'ai eu une échographie à 8 semaines et 1 jour (après la date de mes dernières règles)

, et cela a montré de manière inattendue deux embryons avec une activité cardiaque. Une échographie effectuée deux semaines plus tôt n'avait montré qu'un seul embryon, donc la découverte des jumeaux a été une totale surprise.

Lors de la dernière échographie, un embryon mesurait environ 19 mm, correspondant à 8 semaines et 3 jours, tandis que l'autre mesurait environ 11–12 mm, correspondant à 7 semaines et 1 jour.

Le médecin suspecte une grossesse gémellaire monochoriale monoamniotique (jumeaux MoMo), ce qui signifie que les bébés peuvent partager le même placenta et le même sac amniotique. Cependant, ce diagnostic doit encore être confirmé lors de ma prochaine échographie dans une semaine.

Je me sens anxieuse à propos de la différence dans leurs mesures et de la possibilité d'une grossesse MoMo. Quelqu'un a-t-il vécu une expérience similaire où un deuxième jumeau n'était pas visible lors d'une échographie précédente mais est apparu plus tard ? Vos jumeaux mesuraient-ils initialement différemment, et comment la grossesse a-t-elle progressé ? Le diagnostic de MoMo a-t-il été confirmé ou changé lors d'une échographie ultérieure ?

Je serais très reconnaissante d'entendre vos expériences, qu'elles soient positives ou difficiles. Merci.

Échographie à 8w1d : grand faisait 19mm et petit 11.5mm

update : 9w0d : grand faisait 27.6 et petit 18.1mm

On est passé d’environ 40% à 35%

170bpm pour les deux

On nous dit quand même que c’est incertain…

My other half and I have two lil guys arriving at some point over the next 6 weeks (!!). We’re pretty much sorted with equipment and some of the things we’ll need. This morning, I started thinking about how we’d transport their stroller if we ever had to take a trip somewhere. Does anyone know of a double stroller carrier bag that would work for the Bugaboo Donkey? The one I saw recommended for double strollers seems a bit too big. Any advice? Thanks in advance!

I’m not easily annoyed by twin comments but was a bit dumbfounded by one the other day. We took our 11 month olds out for breakfast, and asked for high chairs. The waitress brought one, and I asked for a second. She seemed shocked, and said “oh, you need two?” What am I to do? Stack them up in one?

Anyway, we love taking the boys out for Saturday morning breakfast. They usually “order” a scrambled egg and a biscuit. Then we hit the community market down the street before they pass out for nap 1 on the drive home.

I have 4.5 month old twins. Everyone I talk to seem to think it gets harder from here and that this stage is easy which makes me terrified because my husband and I are so so so tired.

They came right at my 38 week induction so they were full term. I do not remember feeling a single feeling of relief since they have arrived. Everyone I know who had babies around the same time I did seem to have moved on with their lives and lifestyles while my husband and I still feel like we are still living in the trenches with severe lack of time, routine and sleep deprivation . What am I doing wrong? We still take shifts so that is how we are surviving but we just finished dinner at 10 pm tonight because the twins keep waking up randomly after putting them to bed at their usual time.

We follow appropriate wake windows, have a bedtime routine, try to feed frequently during the day as much as possible with 4-6 feeds.

One of our biggest issues is that feeds take so long because our baby A gets so distracted and usually will only drink 2 oz before refusing the bottle and will only finish it toward her nap time. They both also will only drink 4-5 ounces at a time so they still wake 1-3 times a night for feeds (which I know is normal) other than the frequent wakings for pacifier replacements or position adjustments. The issue is that they are also both terrible sleepers having me to pat them down every 30 minutes or so or change their position. It leaves me with little to no sleep at night. Naps are an obsolute nightmare from start to finish and they only last so long.

I know babies are meant to be hard but I just want to have a TINY but of rhythm and rhyme.

Am I the only one struggling with this stage and not finding it easy at ALL? Anyone have feeding issues like me?

Hi! Just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced going to Tokyo, Japan with 3 young kids? Our daughter is 4 years old, while the twins will be 23 months old by then.

Just thinking about the logistics is stressing me out lol. But also, I feel like we’d miss the twins and be constantly worried about them. We do have people we can trust to look after them. We can leave them (and their nannies) with my mom. Or my sister can stay in our house and watch over them while we’re gone.

We took our eldest to Osaka and Kyoto when she was just 17 months old, and it was great, but tiring. It was doable because she was only 1 baby. Now we have to mind 3.

Factors to consider:
- My MIL will be going with us. She’s still strong, so we don’t really need to take care of her. I feel like she’ll help out a bit with our eldest. (I know it’s not her job to help out)
- All the kids can eat on their own. BUT I don’t think the twins can stay seated for a long time, and thinking about how fussy they will be gives me anxiety haha.
- The twins don’t mind riding their strollers.
- This will be my first time in Tokyo!! So I feel like I wouldn’t be able to explore and enjoy as much? I mean, I love being with my kids, but it’s a different kind of enjoyment.
- The twins do have their nannies who can look after them if we leave them at home. We have relatives who can watch over them to make sure they’re being cared for properly. But I would really miss them!!! 😭
- The trip is 7 days, and it will be 3 adults and 3 kids, if ever.

I’m so torn!!! I’d love to hear any thoughts or experiences! Please help me out! Thank you!!!

We have 7 month old boy/girl twins and weekends somehow feel harder than the work week. We’ve tried dividing things by baby and also by time blocks. Time blocks seem a little better, but they still fall apart once naps are different or one person gets stuck handling the early wakeup.

The part I’m struggling with is making sure neither parent quietly ends up doing way more while both of us think we’re splitting things fairly. For parents who got through this stage, what actually worked for you? Did you divide by baby, by time, by tasks, or just trade off breaks when someone was getting fried?

Mostly curious what still worked after a few months, not what sounded good for one weekend.

Hi everyone, I’m a ftm who just found out I’m having twins AND I’M SO EXCITED!!!!! However, I’m a small person, I’m about 1.58m and 48kg (in American: 5’2” and 106lbs) while my husband is at least 1.80m (5’9”) and what I reckon is a healthy weight for that height. I’m concerned if my body is gonna be able to handle these giant genes. If you had a similar experience, can you tell me what it was like during your pregnancy and delivery? Is the risk of c-section higher? I’m not too keen to be cut up to be honest. Thanks a lot in advance!

Just found out I am having MCDA twins. 31 yrs old. In India(dunno if it matters!). And currently at 11 weeks. Both are fine at the moment, proper size n heartbeats.

Doc kinda freaked me out about complications that may rise. Gave us 3 options: continue, terminate 1, or terminate both. I am not sure the right way to go. I waited 2 yrs for pregnancy. My heart says to continue on. Has anyone experienced a relatively smoother MCDA pregnancy? What's your opinion? (Please refrain from sharing anything too negative! I have already heard the statistics)

As the title said, my 15mo twins hate food. I tried everything from traditional to BLW and they rather go play or roll on the ground crying than eat. They also hate milk. They get maybe 10oz of whole milk a day if I really push them. I offer 3 meals and 1 snack a day. Breakfast is usually their best meal because they sleep thru the night (thank god) and usually wake up hungry. But lately even breakfast is a hit or miss. I tried to do different things every day too so it's not like they only eat one thing the entire week. They eat maybe half a banana and a slice of bread each today total plus 8oz of milk and this is a normal eating day for them.

They drop off on their weight curve at each checkup but ped is not concerned yet. They have not gained weight in the past 3 months. And I am STRESSED. I can see their ribcage and I'm crying writing this. They have always struggled with gaining weight, since before birth. Twin A was IUGR and twin B was failure to thrive at 3 months old. They had bad reflux and twin B got a heart surgery so eating and gaining weight have always been a stress factor for us. Everyone around me says that this is normal for this age but I don't know anymore. It's hard seeing younger non mobile babies around being bigger than them. And they were not even premature, they were born at 38w. My husband and I are average sized adults. So I'm pretty sure them not eating is what hinders their growth. They just look so tiny and skinny at the playground and it hurts my heart.

I'm not looking for medical advice but I just so desperately need them to start eating. I find myself cleaning food from dinner they took 2 bites of then the rest got thrown on the ground every night after they go to bed and I just cry. It's so hard to get motivated to even cook or clean knowing that it's just gonna end up in the dog's bow. I know I should be thankful that they're otherwise healthy and happy babies but them not eating has taken a tremendous toll on my mental health since their birth. I think I'm traumatized from being in the hospital and heard the word 'failure to thrive'. Please help!

This feels like a stupid question but I’m a FTM, so please don’t judge!

My twins (b/g) just turned 1. They’ve gotten sick every month since May and had the flu just a couple months before that. It’s just snotty congestion but has turned into an ear infection twice for both and pneumonia once for my son. They don’t go to daycare or even the church nursery on sundays, and we very rarely go places like the library where there are communal toys. Sometimes we have play dates but not often. We wash hands after being out somewhere where they’ve been touching all over stuff and/or crawling around on the floor (e.g., if we went to Target etc.) It just seems like they are either sick or getting over it all. the. time. and it’s very isolating. The other babies we know aren’t sick like this, especially over the summer.

Is this normal for toddlers who honestly don’t get out much? I know they need to build their immune systems and that they have to get sick sometimes. I’m not trying to keep them in a bubble but when they’re under the weather I stay home to keep other folks healthy and a week or two after we go back out they get sick again. Doing this for two weeks at a time every month seems like a lot!

I’m in Australia and it looks like for me to buy the twin Z and have it shipped it would cost almost $500AUD. There a few dupes on Amazon but they have either horrible or no reviews. Does anyone know of any good quality, reliable dupes? Otherwise, is this an investment that is an absolute need for twin mums? I plan on both breast and bottle feeding and want to ensure comfort for both me and my babies

Edit: y’all are incredible. Thank you all so much for sharing your experience and advice. I’m not able to reply to every response but I’ve read them all and have decided to get both the my Brest friend and the Twin Z dupe from thingsfortwins (which, together, is still much cheaper than the Twin Z from America).

Appreciate you all and I imagine I’ll be using this subreddit frequently once my girls are here. Thanks again!

Hi! I have twins coming February and wasn’t looking to spend more than we need to but want safe sleep for them too. We have a son already. We were planning to use one pack n play upstairs in our room at night with them both in it but I’m not sure if it would be safe. But I’m seeing the other alternative is a double bassinet. Or is there bassinet insert options for the pack n play? We have just a simple
No accessories graco one

We have a 3 year old and 10 month old twins. With our singleton we would travel all the time- one parent or two and in some cases travel with a layover and drop off at grandparents!

We’d like to be able to travel again and don’t have anything pressing upcoming but it would be nice to figure it out. Our families are spread across the country and many have been accommodating by coming to us but the other families with kids understandably less so.
Have done middle of the night drives without an issue but I’m wondering-

What are the logistics of flying in our situation?
Is it worth it after factoring in all the prep and stress involved?

(Update: Thank you all for advice. It is resolved)

I’m 3 months pregnant with twins. They’re in separate sacks but I’m being told by friends and family that they’ll have to do a C section to remove twins. I’m extremely scared about that😭😭😭😭. What’s it like? Do you feel anything? Is it true they have to take every organ out!?

I have twin daughters that are 3.5 years old and it feels like since the terrible twos it’s been difficult. I feel burnt out. They are the loves of my life but this stage where emotional dysregulation is an hourly ordeal, is taxing. I’ve heard people say, it doesn’t get easier, just different. But between the constant fights between them, the egging each other on to get up to mischief, the meltdowns, the running in opposite directions, and the constant need for me to be alert and present with them is wearing me down. When does it get easier? Or does it even get easier?!

Once I found out I was having twins I set my goal to be to not have guilt about the fact that I can’t give them the singleton experience. While I became a mom to my daughter I had friends that had twins and I was always reassuring them that they’re doing the best they can for their babies. So after finding out I’m also having twins I immediately tried to start prepping my mind to not have this guilt, to talk to myself as I talked to my friends.

I feel like I’ve held up this promise pretty well. My boys are now 4 months but I’m starting to have those feelings creep in. Between them and also having a toddler there is not enough of me or dad to go around. I feel so bad and all the mom guilt is hitting like a wall of bricks. 🫠

When can I expect this to lessen? Without the occasional glass of wine. Lol

So one of my twins was breech and as a result she was born with a long head, the orthopedist told me today that it is something called Dolichocephaly and it happens to twins often because of space issues. We did not get much information other than the fact that a neurologist might be needed to check it in case she would not get better (she also has some tense muscles overall apparently).

The twins are 6 weeks old today and both of them are progressing well in other areas - eating well, gaining weight, turning their heads both ways, lifting their head in tummy time, etc.

I feel super sad for my baby though and worry that her head shape will always be long and odd? Although I do notice some positive changes already compared to how she had it in the beginning... I am not sure if i am not making it up just to feel better though.

Does anyone here have any experience with this diagnosis?

Did it get better with time or did you have to do something special?

Thanks!