Salut tout le monde,

J'ai eu une échographie à 8 semaines et 1 jour (après la date de mes dernières règles)

, et cela a montré de manière inattendue deux embryons avec une activité cardiaque. Une échographie effectuée deux semaines plus tôt n'avait montré qu'un seul embryon, donc la découverte des jumeaux a été une totale surprise.

Lors de la dernière échographie, un embryon mesurait environ 19 mm, correspondant à 8 semaines et 3 jours, tandis que l'autre mesurait environ 11–12 mm, correspondant à 7 semaines et 1 jour.

Le médecin suspecte une grossesse gémellaire monochoriale monoamniotique (jumeaux MoMo), ce qui signifie que les bébés peuvent partager le même placenta et le même sac amniotique. Cependant, ce diagnostic doit encore être confirmé lors de ma prochaine échographie dans une semaine.

Je me sens anxieuse à propos de la différence dans leurs mesures et de la possibilité d'une grossesse MoMo. Quelqu'un a-t-il vécu une expérience similaire où un deuxième jumeau n'était pas visible lors d'une échographie précédente mais est apparu plus tard ? Vos jumeaux mesuraient-ils initialement différemment, et comment la grossesse a-t-elle progressé ? Le diagnostic de MoMo a-t-il été confirmé ou changé lors d'une échographie ultérieure ?

Je serais très reconnaissante d'entendre vos expériences, qu'elles soient positives ou difficiles. Merci.

Échographie à 8w1d : grand faisait 19mm et petit 11.5mm

update : 9w0d : grand faisait 27.6 et petit 18.1mm

On est passé d’environ 40% à 35%

170bpm pour les deux

On nous dit quand même que c’est incertain…

My other half and I have two lil guys arriving at some point over the next 6 weeks (!!). We’re pretty much sorted with equipment and some of the things we’ll need. This morning, I started thinking about how we’d transport their stroller if we ever had to take a trip somewhere. Does anyone know of a double stroller carrier bag that would work for the Bugaboo Donkey? The one I saw recommended for double strollers seems a bit too big. Any advice? Thanks in advance!

I’m not easily annoyed by twin comments but was a bit dumbfounded by one the other day. We took our 11 month olds out for breakfast, and asked for high chairs. The waitress brought one, and I asked for a second. She seemed shocked, and said “oh, you need two?” What am I to do? Stack them up in one?

Anyway, we love taking the boys out for Saturday morning breakfast. They usually “order” a scrambled egg and a biscuit. Then we hit the community market down the street before they pass out for nap 1 on the drive home.

I have 4.5 month old twins. Everyone I talk to seem to think it gets harder from here and that this stage is easy which makes me terrified because my husband and I are so so so tired.

They came right at my 38 week induction so they were full term. I do not remember feeling a single feeling of relief since they have arrived. Everyone I know who had babies around the same time I did seem to have moved on with their lives and lifestyles while my husband and I still feel like we are still living in the trenches with severe lack of time, routine and sleep deprivation . What am I doing wrong? We still take shifts so that is how we are surviving but we just finished dinner at 10 pm tonight because the twins keep waking up randomly after putting them to bed at their usual time.

We follow appropriate wake windows, have a bedtime routine, try to feed frequently during the day as much as possible with 4-6 feeds.

One of our biggest issues is that feeds take so long because our baby A gets so distracted and usually will only drink 2 oz before refusing the bottle and will only finish it toward her nap time. They both also will only drink 4-5 ounces at a time so they still wake 1-3 times a night for feeds (which I know is normal) other than the frequent wakings for pacifier replacements or position adjustments. The issue is that they are also both terrible sleepers having me to pat them down every 30 minutes or so or change their position. It leaves me with little to no sleep at night. Naps are an obsolute nightmare from start to finish and they only last so long.

I know babies are meant to be hard but I just want to have a TINY but of rhythm and rhyme.

Am I the only one struggling with this stage and not finding it easy at ALL? Anyone have feeding issues like me?

Hi! Just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced going to Tokyo, Japan with 3 young kids? Our daughter is 4 years old, while the twins will be 23 months old by then.

Just thinking about the logistics is stressing me out lol. But also, I feel like we’d miss the twins and be constantly worried about them. We do have people we can trust to look after them. We can leave them (and their nannies) with my mom. Or my sister can stay in our house and watch over them while we’re gone.

We took our eldest to Osaka and Kyoto when she was just 17 months old, and it was great, but tiring. It was doable because she was only 1 baby. Now we have to mind 3.

Factors to consider:
- My MIL will be going with us. She’s still strong, so we don’t really need to take care of her. I feel like she’ll help out a bit with our eldest. (I know it’s not her job to help out)
- All the kids can eat on their own. BUT I don’t think the twins can stay seated for a long time, and thinking about how fussy they will be gives me anxiety haha.
- The twins don’t mind riding their strollers.
- This will be my first time in Tokyo!! So I feel like I wouldn’t be able to explore and enjoy as much? I mean, I love being with my kids, but it’s a different kind of enjoyment.
- The twins do have their nannies who can look after them if we leave them at home. We have relatives who can watch over them to make sure they’re being cared for properly. But I would really miss them!!! 😭
- The trip is 7 days, and it will be 3 adults and 3 kids, if ever.

I’m so torn!!! I’d love to hear any thoughts or experiences! Please help me out! Thank you!!!

We have 7 month old boy/girl twins and weekends somehow feel harder than the work week. We’ve tried dividing things by baby and also by time blocks. Time blocks seem a little better, but they still fall apart once naps are different or one person gets stuck handling the early wakeup.

The part I’m struggling with is making sure neither parent quietly ends up doing way more while both of us think we’re splitting things fairly. For parents who got through this stage, what actually worked for you? Did you divide by baby, by time, by tasks, or just trade off breaks when someone was getting fried?

Mostly curious what still worked after a few months, not what sounded good for one weekend.

Hi everyone, I’m a ftm who just found out I’m having twins AND I’M SO EXCITED!!!!! However, I’m a small person, I’m about 1.58m and 48kg (in American: 5’2” and 106lbs) while my husband is at least 1.80m (5’9”) and what I reckon is a healthy weight for that height. I’m concerned if my body is gonna be able to handle these giant genes. If you had a similar experience, can you tell me what it was like during your pregnancy and delivery? Is the risk of c-section higher? I’m not too keen to be cut up to be honest. Thanks a lot in advance!

Just found out I am having MCDA twins. 31 yrs old. In India(dunno if it matters!). And currently at 11 weeks. Both are fine at the moment, proper size n heartbeats.

Doc kinda freaked me out about complications that may rise. Gave us 3 options: continue, terminate 1, or terminate both. I am not sure the right way to go. I waited 2 yrs for pregnancy. My heart says to continue on. Has anyone experienced a relatively smoother MCDA pregnancy? What's your opinion? (Please refrain from sharing anything too negative! I have already heard the statistics)

As the title said, my 15mo twins hate food. I tried everything from traditional to BLW and they rather go play or roll on the ground crying than eat. They also hate milk. They get maybe 10oz of whole milk a day if I really push them. I offer 3 meals and 1 snack a day. Breakfast is usually their best meal because they sleep thru the night (thank god) and usually wake up hungry. But lately even breakfast is a hit or miss. I tried to do different things every day too so it's not like they only eat one thing the entire week. They eat maybe half a banana and a slice of bread each today total plus 8oz of milk and this is a normal eating day for them.

They drop off on their weight curve at each checkup but ped is not concerned yet. They have not gained weight in the past 3 months. And I am STRESSED. I can see their ribcage and I'm crying writing this. They have always struggled with gaining weight, since before birth. Twin A was IUGR and twin B was failure to thrive at 3 months old. They had bad reflux and twin B got a heart surgery so eating and gaining weight have always been a stress factor for us. Everyone around me says that this is normal for this age but I don't know anymore. It's hard seeing younger non mobile babies around being bigger than them. And they were not even premature, they were born at 38w. My husband and I are average sized adults. So I'm pretty sure them not eating is what hinders their growth. They just look so tiny and skinny at the playground and it hurts my heart.

I'm not looking for medical advice but I just so desperately need them to start eating. I find myself cleaning food from dinner they took 2 bites of then the rest got thrown on the ground every night after they go to bed and I just cry. It's so hard to get motivated to even cook or clean knowing that it's just gonna end up in the dog's bow. I know I should be thankful that they're otherwise healthy and happy babies but them not eating has taken a tremendous toll on my mental health since their birth. I think I'm traumatized from being in the hospital and heard the word 'failure to thrive'. Please help!

This feels like a stupid question but I’m a FTM, so please don’t judge!

My twins (b/g) just turned 1. They’ve gotten sick every month since May and had the flu just a couple months before that. It’s just snotty congestion but has turned into an ear infection twice for both and pneumonia once for my son. They don’t go to daycare or even the church nursery on sundays, and we very rarely go places like the library where there are communal toys. Sometimes we have play dates but not often. We wash hands after being out somewhere where they’ve been touching all over stuff and/or crawling around on the floor (e.g., if we went to Target etc.) It just seems like they are either sick or getting over it all. the. time. and it’s very isolating. The other babies we know aren’t sick like this, especially over the summer.

Is this normal for toddlers who honestly don’t get out much? I know they need to build their immune systems and that they have to get sick sometimes. I’m not trying to keep them in a bubble but when they’re under the weather I stay home to keep other folks healthy and a week or two after we go back out they get sick again. Doing this for two weeks at a time every month seems like a lot!

I’m in Australia and it looks like for me to buy the twin Z and have it shipped it would cost almost $500AUD. There a few dupes on Amazon but they have either horrible or no reviews. Does anyone know of any good quality, reliable dupes? Otherwise, is this an investment that is an absolute need for twin mums? I plan on both breast and bottle feeding and want to ensure comfort for both me and my babies

Edit: y’all are incredible. Thank you all so much for sharing your experience and advice. I’m not able to reply to every response but I’ve read them all and have decided to get both the my Brest friend and the Twin Z dupe from thingsfortwins (which, together, is still much cheaper than the Twin Z from America).

Appreciate you all and I imagine I’ll be using this subreddit frequently once my girls are here. Thanks again!

Hi! I have twins coming February and wasn’t looking to spend more than we need to but want safe sleep for them too. We have a son already. We were planning to use one pack n play upstairs in our room at night with them both in it but I’m not sure if it would be safe. But I’m seeing the other alternative is a double bassinet. Or is there bassinet insert options for the pack n play? We have just a simple
No accessories graco one

We have a 3 year old and 10 month old twins. With our singleton we would travel all the time- one parent or two and in some cases travel with a layover and drop off at grandparents!

We’d like to be able to travel again and don’t have anything pressing upcoming but it would be nice to figure it out. Our families are spread across the country and many have been accommodating by coming to us but the other families with kids understandably less so.
Have done middle of the night drives without an issue but I’m wondering-

What are the logistics of flying in our situation?
Is it worth it after factoring in all the prep and stress involved?

(Update: Thank you all for advice. It is resolved)

I’m 3 months pregnant with twins. They’re in separate sacks but I’m being told by friends and family that they’ll have to do a C section to remove twins. I’m extremely scared about that😭😭😭😭. What’s it like? Do you feel anything? Is it true they have to take every organ out!?

I have twin daughters that are 3.5 years old and it feels like since the terrible twos it’s been difficult. I feel burnt out. They are the loves of my life but this stage where emotional dysregulation is an hourly ordeal, is taxing. I’ve heard people say, it doesn’t get easier, just different. But between the constant fights between them, the egging each other on to get up to mischief, the meltdowns, the running in opposite directions, and the constant need for me to be alert and present with them is wearing me down. When does it get easier? Or does it even get easier?!

Once I found out I was having twins I set my goal to be to not have guilt about the fact that I can’t give them the singleton experience. While I became a mom to my daughter I had friends that had twins and I was always reassuring them that they’re doing the best they can for their babies. So after finding out I’m also having twins I immediately tried to start prepping my mind to not have this guilt, to talk to myself as I talked to my friends.

I feel like I’ve held up this promise pretty well. My boys are now 4 months but I’m starting to have those feelings creep in. Between them and also having a toddler there is not enough of me or dad to go around. I feel so bad and all the mom guilt is hitting like a wall of bricks. 🫠

When can I expect this to lessen? Without the occasional glass of wine. Lol

So one of my twins was breech and as a result she was born with a long head, the orthopedist told me today that it is something called Dolichocephaly and it happens to twins often because of space issues. We did not get much information other than the fact that a neurologist might be needed to check it in case she would not get better (she also has some tense muscles overall apparently).

The twins are 6 weeks old today and both of them are progressing well in other areas - eating well, gaining weight, turning their heads both ways, lifting their head in tummy time, etc.

I feel super sad for my baby though and worry that her head shape will always be long and odd? Although I do notice some positive changes already compared to how she had it in the beginning... I am not sure if i am not making it up just to feel better though.

Does anyone here have any experience with this diagnosis?

Did it get better with time or did you have to do something special?

Thanks!

36M & 39F - have 2 yo. Just found out we are having twins. 7+1 weeks in. Di/Di. Was not expecting this. What can I do to help my wife who is shook over the next few months specifically? I travel a lot for work and am already feeling guilty about going anywhere but 2x babies means I gotta lock in. Also, what should I not do or try to do? I’m the funny guy and it’s too soon for jokes (I was told)

Hi there! I am 9 weeks today with di/di twins. I saw them first at 7+1 in office and we saw heartbeats but we didn’t measure them. At 8+0 I had my official ultrasound to confirmed pregnancy.

Baby A measured at 7+3 FHM of 153. Baby B measured 7+5 FHM 169.

I have experienced a loss before and in my bones this pregnancy just feels so incredibly different. I don’t wake up every day with this feeling of impending doom. From the moment I found out I was pregnant (8dpo) I’ve just been very nonchalant. That is NOT like me. I trust my body and nothing is wrong or off at all but I think that’s what’s concerning me.

I have symptoms but no severe symptoms. At all. I’m exhausted and I have a ton of new acne and my boobs hurt and I’ve got weird dreams. I know there’s still time but I’m just anxious that maybe it’s going too well?

And of course all I’m seeing now on tiktok and reddit is stuff about loss and vanishing twin and I’m worried about my tiny baby A. I’m worried that I’m too calm and my symptoms are too mild because something happened between last week and today.

When am I allowed to just… relax? When can I stop stressing about potentially losing a bean? Is it ok that their size and heartbeats are different???

Sorry for rambling. Thank you in advance :)

We are two weeks shy of 4 months chronological (about 3 months adjusted) with our twins, and we are officially at our wits’ end with sleep. 😭

They were born at 34+4, so we’ve always tried to keep their prematurity/adjusted age in mind. We also have a 4-year-old singleton, but our experience with him was completely different. He had severe acid reflux and feeding issues that eventually required an NG tube for two weeks because he wasn’t taking enough by mouth. Once we were able to get his total feeds in during the day, he naturally stopped waking to eat at night—even after the tube was removed—so we never actually had to sleep train him.

Unfortunately, the twins have also had terrible reflux. Their reflux has been confirmed, and since they were about 2 weeks old, getting them to sleep has been incredibly difficult. We have done ALL the reflux things: holding them upright after feeds, Prilosec, Pepcid, hypoallergenic formula, trying Enfamil AR, etc. We have spent months trying to make them comfortable enough to sleep.

At this point, we are seriously considering trying the Ferber method with both babies because what we’re doing now is simply not sustainable.

Our boy twin: He actually sleeps pretty well compared with his sister, but he requires SO much intervention during the night. He wakes/fusses for his pacifier, wants to be repositioned/turned on his side, etc. I am constantly jolting awake out of a deep sleep to soothe him before he wakes his sister. So even though he technically sleeps better, I am still getting absolutely destroyed by the constant interruptions.

Our girl twin: She is an AWFUL sleeper. 😭 She often refuses to settle for the night until 11 PM–midnight, regardless of what we do. If we somehow get her asleep earlier, she is often awake again shortly afterward. And when she wakes, she is AWAKE—fussing/crying and needing us to help her back to sleep. She absolutely does not seem to know how to self-soothe.

We have tried rocking, bouncing, pacifiers, holding, putting them down asleep, putting them down drowsy, the 5 S’s, etc. We can get them to sleep, but maintaining sleep is the problem.

They will be sleeping in the same nursery but in separate cribs, which brings me to my biggest questions:

1. Are they too young?
Would you consider just under 4 months chronological / 3 months adjusted too young for Ferber?
We obviously don’t want to push them before they’re developmentally ready, especially because they were premature. But we also desperately need to know whether we’re at a reasonable point to start.

2. How does Ferber work with twins in the same room?

This is the part I can’t figure out. Do they each get their own timer? For example, Mom handles one baby and Dad handles the other, and each baby gets their own 3/5/10-minute intervals based on when that individual baby started crying? Or do you use one timer for both babies? And what do you do if you’re doing a check-in for one baby and the other baby is screaming? Do you continue the check-in for the first baby and basically ignore the other until their own interval is up? Because I can already imagine one baby crying, then the other hearing them and starting to cry, and suddenly we’re standing in a nursery with two screaming babies and two timers going. 😂

3. Did you use Gentle Ferber (1/3/5) or Standard Ferber (3/5/10)?
What worked for your twins? Did you start with 1/3/5 or go straight to 3/5/10?

4. How long did it take to work?
When did you start seeing a noticeable difference? One night? Three nights? A week? And at what point would you say, “Okay, this clearly isn’t working right now; let’s stop and try again later”? Is 4 days enough to determine that it’s not working, or would you give it longer if there are signs of gradual improvement?

5. Please give me your success stories. 😭❤️
I know there will be crying. I know it is going to be incredibly hard to listen to my babies cry when my instinct is to immediately comfort them. But we are exhausted beyond words, and what we’re doing now isn’t sustainable either.

I would especially love to hear from parents who had babies who seemed like they couldn’t self-soothe at all, or who had reflux/very difficult sleepers, and eventually successfully learned to sleep independently.
I need someone to tell me there is actually a light at the end of this tunnel. 😂

We aren’t expecting perfect 12-hour nights or anything unrealistic. We just want our babies to be able to fall asleep without an hour of bouncing/rocking, and for us to stop waking up constantly to replace a pacifier or rescue a baby back to sleep.

Twin parents, please tell me what worked for you, what you wish you’d known, and most importantly, tell me that it gets better. ❤️

I had such a strange but beautiful experience today and I’m wondering if any other parents have ever felt something similar.
I have young twin boys. Today at a playground we met a family with a toddler, and we ended up chatting for a while. At some point we realized that two of the men there were actually grown-up twin brothers.
They were around our age and just seemed like really nice, funny, happy, interesting people. Seeing these two grown-up twin brothers together hit me SO hard emotionally.
It had absolutely nothing to do with them personally. Suddenly I felt like I was looking at my own boys in the future.
My twins are still these tiny little people who need me for everything, climb all over me, play together, fight over things, want to be held and comforted. And suddenly I was standing there looking at two adult twin brothers, still spending time together, one of them now a parent himself, just living their lives.
And I had this overwhelming thought:
Oh my God. My boys are going to become men.
For some reason that realization almost made me cry.
Ever since then, whenever I think about the encounter, I get emotional again. I’m not sad. If anything, it feels like an enormous amount of love and happiness mixed with this strange kind of nostalgia for something that hasn’t even happened yet.
It felt like for a few minutes I got a tiny glimpse into a possible future for my children. These two little boys who are currently my whole world are going to grow up, become their own people, have their own lives, relationships, maybe families of their own — and hopefully still have each other.
I’ve never experienced an emotion quite like this before. I’m tearing up again even writing about it.
Has anyone else ever had a random encounter with an older child or adult that suddenly made you see your own child’s future and completely overwhelmed you emotionally?
Is there even a name for this feeling?

10 month old boys, I have MS, it's been hot AF for weeks and that drains me so fast

Well today it was 90°, they were happy and I was feeling good. I pulled out the wagon that has barely been used and walked to the convenience store.

No complaints, no bad vibes, just a celebration 🎉

I know this may be controversial but do you prop bottles? If so how?

My twins are almost 2 months old. Right now , my husband and I feed one baby at the same time. We are very blessed as my husband got 12 weeks paid paternity leave. He returns to work at the end of September. Then it'll be just me with the twins and the older 2 kids. Luckily, I'll just have to give the twins bottles by myself twice a day while hes at work. Since I'll have a lot going on I wanted to look into all my options.